Han may not be a trained instructor, but she knows YOU so well Meg. This was great and Han did an awesome job "coaching" you.

TRUST is the key! 🔑💛

Listening to Han helping you out on that 3rd round really brought a tear to my eye - she's such a super supportive friend 🥹 she's repeating all the crucial bits of your training with Piggy and Lucinda at you at exactly the time you needed it xx

I absolutely love Han! Everyone needs a supportive bestie like her!! So happy your confidence is coming back, you’ll get there!! ❤️

As someone who studies for the mental aspect of sports, I want to give you some friendly advice. Do with it what you want :) I've noticed the girl on the ground and you yourself talking to you in: "don't panic" "don't fiddle" "don't stop her". What is your mind gonna be focused on? Right, panicking and fiddling.. So what signals will your brain most likely give? .. Mayby try talking to yourself in: "Relax" "you can trust" "let her go". When you're focusing on that, your brain will know which signals to give to create what you want. Focusing on what NOT to do, will put your brain in a state of doing absolutely nothing or sending the signals you dont want it to send. When you're focusing on what you want to create, your brain will know what to do! The instructor of your last video did that very nicely, focusing on what you want to do! But also worth mentioning, you're doing incredible! It's a tough journey you're in and you're so strong going through it! 💕

MEG! That was bloody amazing! And what a gem Han is! The support and confidence she was giving you was immense and you could tell she was saying all the right things at the right times. You can Jam looked mega! You should be so proud of yourself for going out and doing it on your own without an instructor!❤❤

Hey meg. I would recommend you to have two reins in the Pelham bit so you don’t have a constant pressure on the strong end - you can’t really have a soft contact without. And your horse will only get stronger on a stronger bit in the end. Be careful pulling. You both can do it Trust your horse, and trust yourself. Only a little advice. ❤

Cameron gave Emily the best simple advice that stuck with me “get a good canter; then the last 3 strides are all hers” (no last minute checking). Love you & Jammy 🤩🤩

I actually love Hans support she knows exactly what Meg needs and the way she supports Meg is so lovely it shows how much confidence she has in Meg and know what she's capable of ♥

i love meg since you are so realistic, you don’t only show the goods you show everything! it makes me feel better as we ride the exact same so seeing someone else that also struggles with confidence but you are doing great meg well done ❤

Excellent! Personally, I noticed the less you interfere with Jam, the more she lands on the correct lead. She used to always be on the incorrect lead after every jump, and you were trotting way more often between jumps. During this video, she even tried numerous times to do lead changes. She got it in front but the back was off. Glad to see you making some great advancements.

I think we learned a lot! Han is great at offering coaching without taking away your chance to stretch beyond having an instructor, Jammy has brushed up on her sliding stop so she can say "Not today sister 🚫" when a fence isn't right and safe, and best of all I think is Meg having those moments of panic but then recovering so well into a positive, thoughtful mindset. That's the goal right, we all have panicky moments and we shouldn't really aspire to *never* feel those feelings: to recover well is the point. Fingers crossed the weather is kinder this weekend, but either way looking forward to seeing the great team of Meg and Jammy out there! 🎉

Everyone needs a best friend like Han! Such amazing team work she’s there to support you but also pushes you in the best way!

Everyone needs a friend like Han ❤❤

You did so well.Meg!! Han was right, keeping you on the straight and narrow as she did. Well done Han!! Now you KNOW, Meg, that Jam knows when to ADD a stride or not, and related distances are not an issue for her. She has a HORSE STRIDE!! So utilize it, compress when you need to, but always, always remember, RIDE FORWARD and don't Fidget so much!! Trust Jam, she knows her job, and she knows it well. As she showed you when she came to that stop in that related distance. I believe you can do anything, and do it very well. You just proved to yourself you can do it without having a meltdown. You recognized your error and corrected it immediately. That's true horsemanship Meg. So chuffed to watch you grow from this fall that you took at Bicton. You have learned so much about yourself. It is a joy to watch you grow into a wonderful horsewoman in her own right. Just as Piggy March and Lucinda had to. Best Regards from your friend the Retired Paramedic, a S&R Dog and Handler Team Trainer,Horse Trainer and FEI Level 2 Coach and Judge, from Ontario, Canada, Jenn.💖💖🇨🇦🇬🇧

Meg, I think you need to realize that the jumps were you got ‘close’ isn’t a miss it’s just not the exact perfect spot. Jam is fine jumping there and has plenty of scope. As my trainer said - you don’t have to look pretty you just need to get round safe and clear!

Part of the trouble when she refused began way before you realized and I didn't hear anyone speak about it yet...if you feel her stall out and you think you need to click to her for encouragement...you are probably using too much rein pressure unawares. So mentally rehearse feeling the stall in energy, sit a tad heavier with your upper body a tad farther back. Add LEG and put the hands a bit more forward WITHOUT clicking to her. She CAN jump higher than you realize WITHOUT charging toward the jumps. The key is to trust the rhythm. Do this with shorter jumps so you are less tense about making a change like this. When you click to her, you are running OVER your bit pressure. This could be a holdover from when you were small and depended on strong rein pressure to pull you over the jump and made you feel more secure. Then she starts getting stronger and stronger and you get worried and tense and pull more. This is VERY common in the United States. I see this in almost every single jumper at some point. So the answer is to just circle big, get the rhythm again, depend on that rhythm, concentrate on the swing of your seat and allow her to move forward. She is powerful and you know it and it is a tad scary, so dropping the jumps a tad while recalibrating her to a lighter bit pressure, sitting back to allow her to move forward, hands more forward when she stalls, and hum/sing in rhythm to get your mind less busy. Your body can do this and does excellently when your mind lets you relax and allows that talent to come forward. Put down some random Canter poles to discourage charging as well. Bigger bits are just a temporary fix. You will get this! ❤ 🎉

You and the pony are a team but frankly, at the moment, when you get in the ring or on course you are simply only in conversation with yourself Meg. That pony can sail round that course all you have to do is remember the route and go with her ! You are so utterly capable in the saddle on what is a fantastically capable horse but you must learn that you can ride a fence on what ever stride you hit it. Perfection doesn’t exist and you’ll mess it up trying to find it. Trust as you say and then enjoy your round. Watch a few others those that are riding team chase or following drag hunts. Where you just have to go with the flow from any conceivable angle or stride. And one day soon it’ll simply click and you’ll own your ability and you’ll trust it and your horse. This is your ah ha moment coming up.

So much great progress, Meg. You have clearly worked hard on taming the fear beast. Han is brilliant; you are such good friends for each other :) You are pulling much less and I'm sure this trend will continue. Jam knows her job and knows how to make strides. You might even look at your Bicton fall, as a cloud with silver-lining: you've always pulled a bit with Jam, been little afraid of her boldness. I think it has been an ongoing problem for you. Your fall has forced you to face those fears head-on. You are a beautiful, sensitive rider. I love hearing you doing your Lucinda-counting under your breath. Looking forward to seeing you soar more this season :)

Trust yourself and your bold and clever little horse and have Han’s encouragement ringing in your ears.

Heaps of praise to Han. She spoke to you so calmly and supportively. We all need a Han in our lives! ❤

Han might be the loveliest human. What an amazing friend

nice job when ever i got panicky on a horse i was told to sing jelly on a plate in time to your pace and it really does help as you start laughing

Ahhh well done! I love when you were figure out the answer wasn't "don't check her" but rather "don't check her without a reason"! I went through a very similar stage of riding but sadly, the coaching I received at the time made me feel like adjusting, shortening or checking my horse was the wrong answer no matter what. I was encouraged to ride distances that I knew were bad so early and just not improve it or touch my horse. It made everything so much worse and shook my confidence/set me back so far. Thankfully, I'm out the other end of it but I'm glad on your journey you have such great help and you are coming out of it so quickly! It is so wonderful for us all to watch.

I'm so impressed with how your confidence is growing. Keep it up. Well done.

We all need a friend like Han. Well done for continuing and talking yourself through it after the refusal.

What you are doing with your confidence is so so admirable Meg. It must take such guts to just keep going. I'm so impressed. Jam looks amazing and as always you ride her beautifully. I had tears in my eyes listening to Han - what a treasure of a friend. Everything she said was spot on and she obviously cares enormously for you, it was so touching to watch and listen to.

It takes a great horseperson to understand and know when we make mistakes AND apologize to the horse for making those mistakes; especially whilst riding them. I've only been following for about a year, but I can see your confidence in yourself and in Jammie grow and build. Trust her, for sure. Conne's are the truest ponies for confidence builders. (I had a Connemara gelding named Rascal Mike when I was 9-13. He was my heart horse and taught me so very much. We evented, too. ❤) Keep on!

Can I please hire Han to come with me every time I ride? She’s honestly so supportive and I love it! Meg - you were great! Well done for fighting your fears and for trusting Jam. You guys have got this!

The Dream Team on the go!! 💗💗💗💗👣👣👣🐴 Flying smoothly and softly over the fences, you always ride so gently and beautifully Megan💕. An inspiration. That is what you are. Be proud!! Lots of love to you, Jam, sweetheart Han and the kindest soul Pete. Pete ROCKS!! 😘

Really happy to see you jumping Jam again. She is so capable, and so are you. Go for it.

That was a lovely jumping session with Jam after she was ready to work she did a great job and. Hannah was a great coach for you, she really knows how to help you. I cannot wait to see how well everything goes as you bring the three horses into fitness and start showing. Jane. ❤️🧑🏻‍🦰❤️🐴

I love how raw you’re being! You guys are looking great!

Just want to say Meg u r helping me so much sharing this I am having trouble with my ponies at the moment but seeing u push through the hard time with your horses is making me do it to Thank u

That's the nicest I've seen you jump in so long xx Keep that "we are jumping this no matter what " you can absolutely do this BELIEVE IN JAMMY x

EXCELLENT JOB HAN! You are a natural coach.

I love how you show the not perfect parts of you loseing your confidence a bit because It really makes me feel less alone love you Meg

This video helped me so much! I struggle with the same things, since I had a bad fall and sliced my arm open. You going through the same thing and showing me that you can have great moments and that you can persevere, it helps me try to do the same. I love you so much and never stop. ❤

Good job Meg - I noticed when you let her go moved your hands a little forward before the jump instead of really holding her you had a better distance and better jump - those were the times when you were trusting her - relaxing your hands works really well

I just want to say you are not alone . I also struggle with trusting the horses I ride after a big accident I had . I love your videos so much ❤

I’m so glad you are taking these steps to h lo yourself Meg you are an inspiration to all riders ❤😊

This is so relatable! Everything really looks to be heading in a positive direction. Don’t forget to have fun up there❤

Meg your an absolute inspiration, I love your content and you have boosted so much of my confidence ❤

That was absolutely fantastic !! Big well done, you done amazing, and what an amazing friend Han is ❤️ everyone needs a bestie like Han

I cannot wait to watch this video. Meg, you are such an inspiration, and seeing all the moments, good and bad, is what makes you an amazing equestrian!

So impressed with how your confidence is improving, well done Meg xx

It’s so lovely to see you shining again Meg! You are doing absolutely incredible and have come a long way, you should be so proud of yourself! Absolutely loving seeing you gain more confidence on every video so far, keep shining beautiful ❤

Great video Meg. You can do it! Forward. Great job Han! Great video.

You’re looking so much better Meg! She’s lengthening her stride before the jumps so much more now! Keep up the good work!

Hey meg - you look fab! confidence is slowly coming back... one thing I would say is, you are in one of the strongest bits really, be careful with pulling. you could get away with it a bit more before but it will hurt when you do pull and then that's what ends in a stop as showed. I also noticed you send to pull to get a lead change, again, realistically shouldn't be your aid, especially in a Pelham, pulling should be the last option. just a bit of advice :)

Han is this video is absolutely priceless! Such a support for you. The way you two cooperate is so amazing to watch

Jam's looking goooood, Meg! Oh wow! What a lovely little horse she's become

Well done Meg!! You rode awesome, just keep on practicing for the event and you'll do fine! Hopefully onwards and upwards from here ❤❤

i loved this video was so great to watch! and han was so supportive we all need someone like her ! and your confidence will get better the more you do it, well done meg

Good job Meg your confidence his getting better proud of you xx

Well done Meg !!!! This was really good you can see you pushing yourself and improving. And Han was brill !!!

I really wish I had such knowledgeable, supportive friends as you. Love listening to your conversations.

You're doing so well even if it feels like you aren't doing well. Its so difficult to trust your horses, but you can do it :)

So much love to Han. What an amazing friend and actually quite a good coach! 💜 You and Jam looked great! You've got this!

You ride her so incredibly well it’s honestly mesmerising to watch! Hope you had a positive session despite that little blip. X

Been to Lincomb twice now and going there again next week for a fun ride. Absolutely love this place and if your local I would definitely recommend going! The jumps are lovely and (at least for me) they are really welcoming and gave me a bunch of confidence. Brilliant riding today Meg btw!! It’s so good to see you regaining your confidence ❤❤

You’re getting so much more confident. I’m so proud of you. It still seems you’re pulling a lot of the time. Try to keep your soft contact but utilize half halts instead of the constant pulling pressure. Before every jump, you are pulling so hard, you’re killing her power at the same time and you can literally see her jumping so hard to get over it with the reduced power. Try to use half halts to steady her pace but preserve her power and momentum to actually get over the jump. Practice giving your hands to her alittle more, sit back, sit up, shoulders back and feel the motion of the jump with her. You seem to stiffen up before you jump. Relax and trust her. You guys are an amazing team and she’s going to take care of you. Can’t wait to keep watching you learn and grow. So so proud of Meg!!

Well done! You did really well today. Jam is very talented so trust her and enjoy the ride 😊

Love Han, she is so funny, and supportive of you. You did really well, and you are right you need to trust your ponies, they are intelligent, they can work things out, and will always try to get you over the jumps safely.

Very proud of you meg, considering how you feel you have done awesome!! Xx

well done meg even if badminton doesn't go the way you plan just remember that you had a bad fall and you have still gone and tried at one off the biggest comps in the world and have gave it your all x

Soft hands. Your seat looked amazing 🤩 and that canter at the end when you let go for some strides and then collected up!!! Yes!

Well done Meg!! Han must really listens to all your lessons and she really helps you too. But you did amazing, good luck at your event! Lots of trust and you’ll smash it 😁 xx

Well done Meg and Jam. Han did an amazing job, keeping you right. Definitely a mini Lucinda xx

Meg you’re such an inspiration for me💗I lost a lot of confidence recently and it’s slowly coming back and watching your vids helps me sm x

So interesting and nice to hear that the stopping is a better result than a dangerous jump! love how you patted her for making a good decision! looks like you'll have your flying changes soon..

Meg you are such a good rider believe in yourself !!! Love yr channel ❤️

Loving Han being the best support 💜 jan is looking fab ❤

Hans the best mate, telling you your fine, encouraging you, giving you brilliant advice, we all need a mate like her ❤ and well done meg for trusting jam bam ❤

You pull very much

this was amazing you rode so so well!! I have really missed these kinda videos!❤

your doing so well meg, there are challenges along the way but your getting there!!

Meg Im saying this with peace and love (Im always in the comments saying how much i love you BECAUSE I DOOOO) but iv noticed that the lack of lead changes in the ponies seems to cause some balancing mishaps. Iv noticed as a North American that here we expect almost all levels of horses to have a change, however I noticed in the UK (only knowledge is from youtube lol) That changes are not as prominent. Anyways, all to say I feel like getting them to have auto changes would be a huge boost to help the whole picture feel a bit more stable.

How encouraging is Han ❤ we all need a Han in the horsey world 😊 well done Meg amazing as always ❤

So so so proud of you!!!!!! ❤ you both And go Han! She was so supportive xxxxx

It's good to see you get back your confidence as I've had a massive confidence knock and I'm scared to even canter my loan horse so this video gave me that little bit of hope that I'll be able to jump him without being terrified ❤

Han did an amazing job as coach. You have a good eye!

Well done Meg, currently been living off your videos exited for badminton ❤

Well done Meg. 👏 Han was fab supporting you and she makes me smile 😊 with her humour 💜 great team work

You are doing well! Jam is jumping great! She’ll look after you, trust her. ❤

Well done Megs you are amazing to continue working through your Demons. And Han....you are Fab. You did a brilliant job of encouraging and being ground support. And not letting Meg chicken out. Well done girls 🎉

Hi meg! Han is amazing, the confidence she was giving both you and jam are incredible, we all need a han :) mums motto is " theres no such word as can't!" Although you some days you feel like you can't keep remembering that motto I works! You are an inspiration all of you and it's amazing watching you make come back, live, laugh and love you Meggie 💕

Absolutely love Hans support and commentary

Awwww bless Han, love you both and absolutely ADORE Jam!! ❤️❤️❤️

love you Meg you’re such an inspiration and I hope to be able to ride as well as you when I’m older! 💗💗

Re-watching you struggles with confidence is helping me so much Right now. I'm moving into Eventing finally after 2 years of hunters (wasn't for me) and a year off just dinking around in my pony. I'm struggling with confidence in my horse even though I know he can do it.

I know I keep saying this but I feel like I’m watching my own demons when I watch you Meg 😂 all I do is check check check and look for that perfect ‘stride’ I need to trust mine too. You are riding SO well! Just love watching you jumping Jam ❤️ good luck at the weekend. Youve got this xxx

All you need sometimes is a friend on the ground reminding you to breath and relax 😅 (speaking from personal experience) Well done 👍🏼

Love your videos!! ❤ you're doing great😊

I recall that in the first boot camp you did with Lucinda she told you Jam was "a pony that rides like a horse". I could hear her voice saying " Sit up!" as well. She also said not to worry if your horse is on the wrong lead because they can't jump unless they right themselves, which they do. All in all that was a good confident session and really good for you and Han, as always, is the super star of friends.

Well done Meg, you’re very lucky to have a friend like Han - what a legend!

You’re both doing so well! ❤

Well done Han. Meg keep going your getting there x

this help so many riders conifidence you've help me with my conifidence so much/i wish i had a friend like han she was telling you all the tips piggy said you guys are so amazing

❤🐴🐴🐴🐴 amazing work megs very confident