I restored my natural curls with this curly hair routine! (2C/3A curls with curly bangs)

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I have had curly hair my entire life, but once I got pregnant with. my son, my hair grew completely straight for the entire 9 months, and then a year after that while I was nursing. I have been on a journey for the last couple of years to find my curls and re-learn how to do them. It has been a really emotional but successful process (and at times, really frustrating!) I wanted to make this video to share everything that I've learned over this past year, as well as share why it's so important to me to rediscover my curls. Links to all the products and tools that I used in this video can be found below. This is not a sponsored video, these are all products that I own and have purchased with my own money and love so much!
Transform your postpartum hair with this easy-to-follow tutorial for natural curls! In this video, I'll show you how to style your natural curls with simple techniques that will leave you with bouncy, beautiful curls every time. From pre wash treatments, to washing and conditioning, to diffusing and styling, I'll guide you through each step of the process. Whether you're a seasoned curly girl or just starting out, this tutorial is perfect for anyone looking to enhance their natural curls. Get ready to fall in love with your curly hair maybe for the first time, or all over again!
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@constancem529 Жыл бұрын

I’m a hairdresser and I just want to commend you on doing such a great job of explaining your routine! This is one of the clearest hair tutorials I’ve seen. Well done Elyse!

@mamagraywolfe1952 Жыл бұрын

I have two children that have curly hair and I have not found anyone that could explain the process except they weren't supposed to wash daily or every other day, only once every three weeks or so. And lots of grease buy their hair is not the same. So now going to make 2 girls work through a routine with me because they want their curls to look amazing.

@musictherapy3976 Жыл бұрын

@@mamagraywolfe1952 A tip from my own experience: check the product ingredients as well. For me, it's not just that washing too often is an issue but also that using shampoo or conditioner (and other products now) with certain ingredients messes up my hair. There are a few that make my hair very greasy, while others dry it out. Some of each are in the products I was brought up using. While curly girl method helps with this, I put off trying it for a long time due to how overwhelming it was for me. I found the "wavy girl method" information very helpful, not because my hair is not really curly or kinky but just from the information being much more approachable and flexible. There's one website/blog for it that explains what to do (written & video), what product names mean, order of products, good considerations in being flexible, how to do this economically, and more. That made me finally start. Now, I like to get things that are CGM "approved," but I'm not severe with it. There are a few websites to check things, which I find from searching "curly gurl method product check" or similar. If it's not "approved," they list why. Sometimes it's something I care about, other times it's not important to me or actually something I'm looking to have in the product. At one point, I was annoyed that I couldn't find an approved product with a certain ingredient I wanted to try... turns out the ingredient isn't approved. It is, however, great for my hair! If you're looking to try things and want to keep costs low, I have had a lot of luck with things from that blog and others taking about affordable options. I've also had a lot of luck using cantu products, especially in terms of seeing if I even like a certain type of product (like curl activator or mousse). I feel okay learning and experimenting with it at that price point, which might help with you and your daughters (hence mentioning it). While I planned to then try other brands, for some items I've bought more of the same given how it works. Also, thank you for helping them with this and being open to learning. My own journey world have been a lot better and healthier with someone like you in my life, so I love seeing when others have that. It's about the hair but so, so much more. Good luck!

@musictherapy3976 Жыл бұрын

Please don't feel pressure to respond to this. If you don't mind, though, would you share a few tips/resources for cutting wavy, curly, and kinky hair?

@molloblin Жыл бұрын

@@musictherapy3976 would you be so kind as to share the online resource you mentioned for wavy hair approach to the curly girl method? I’d love to explore it :)

@florl.delgado4093 Жыл бұрын

TOTALLY agree 💯 👍

@serpentax Жыл бұрын

as a mixed raced dude my dad would turn the car around and make my brothers and i brush our hair straight so it wouldn't be messy for school. now my oldest bro straightens his hair, my middle bro shaves his head, im trying to learn how to respect the curls my mom gave me and it is so much information and work. thank you so much for these tutorials.

@RebeccaLynnMusic Жыл бұрын

❤

@clairegamble3918 Жыл бұрын

Such an emotionally loaded experience to just get ready in the morning.

@perlitabonita185 Жыл бұрын

Wow.. that's unfortunate .. maybe he was just old school and couldn't break his brain out of the box of what you do with Caucasian or even Latino hair that's straighter.. by combing it down.. my kids are also biracial.. I'm Latina and hubby is black.. both my kids have inherited curl.. my daughter more tight dense ringlets and my son more lose thicker hair..i would get up by 5 every school morning to work with thier curls.. on my daughter all of her hairstyles even pony tails or left loose i would finger curl while wet to get these gorgeous perfect curls and on my son just making sure his curls looked prominent and well defined not frizzy.. but thier hair was important to me and I wanted them to love it and they do.. hope you start to enjoy your curls and maybe once they take note of how nice they can look your brothers will get on board.. people don't know how serious hair can be in our self love journey and the view we have of ourselves..

@serpentax Жыл бұрын

@@perlitabonita185 yeah he was just old school. back in the 40s his teacher would send him home to comb his hair so he expected the same in the 90s. thanks for the reply and i hope your kids appreciate what you're teaching them and that they can do it themselves soon so you can sleep in a little haha.

@RutabegaNG Жыл бұрын

Your hair needs may be different from hers. Of all of my siblings, 4 of us are biracial, same father, two different mothers. My mother's hair was baby fine but also had a little bit of curl to it. It wasn't obvious because it was so fine, but when her hair was wet it did curl up a little. The younger two, their mother's hair is stick straight and not fine. It's not coarse. It's just not fine. Our father's hair is very definitely 4C, but also ridiculously soft. My sister can use heat to perk up her curls. If I use heat to curl my hair it will be straight by the end of the day. My hair is also a lot drier and curlier than hers (It's actually gotten less curly as I've gotten older, not sure why), so it doesn't do the same thing. My brothers are also very different. The one I share a mother with has hair that can hold it a really nice 'fro. The other one just basically has a bunch of curls. All that is to say that if what she's using doesn't work, you may need to take a look in the black hair care aisle. You won't necessarily need the heavy grease, but you may want to add a very light oil to your hair after you wash it. Drying it with a t-shirt and squeezing rather than rubbing, that's pretty much good for most of us.

@smittysmeee 9 ай бұрын

Me at the beginning of this video: "Maybe I should do this." Me at the middle of this video: "I don't have time to do this." Me at the end of the video: "I'm worth taking time to do this." ♥

@jacobpark2671 7 ай бұрын

if u did, did it work??

@amybright4435 7 ай бұрын

❤

@erdstme 6 ай бұрын

Same! 😂

@krista2465 5 ай бұрын

I definitely agree with this line of thinking. Especially since I’ve had my daughter 5 months ago

@An-pk8cg 4 ай бұрын

How long did it take?

@JayJay-sf2wn 10 ай бұрын

How the heck did a instructional video on hair becomes so therapeutic? Thank you. I really freaking needed it.

@crissommerfeldt3325 6 ай бұрын

I struggled with the EXACT same thing, two brothers and not feminine. Picked on. And hating my curls then. I started loving my hair in my 30's. I'm you. I'm crying. THANKS! ❤️ 😊🫂

@LaundryFaerie Жыл бұрын

As someone else who didn't want to be noticed or take up too much space, I tell you: being who you are is glorious. So proud of you.

@eskimberly7424 10 ай бұрын

I couldn’t say it any better @LaundryFaerie. Elyse thanks for being so candid and vulnerable with all of us. Your curls are lovely and congratulations for allowing them, and yourself, to take up space.

@ring_raitch 10 ай бұрын

It's so glorious. Seeing people who always felt like they needed to hide, finally bloom as who they feel they were meant to be... Now I'm tearing up too, it's just so nice 🥹

@RRonco 10 ай бұрын

I'm just gonna tuck my concurrence back behind here, y'all've expressed the sentiment so eloquently and sensitively, and I don't want to take up any more room than is necessary. Actually, this is awkward, mental note, come back to delete this for anxiety relief..

@kaspersrensens1717 Жыл бұрын

As a boy with curly hair who really wants to take better care of his hair, but is afraid of getting juged for it. I feel you and thank you so much.❤

@katrina3560 Жыл бұрын

It's wonderful to care for yourself! Love your hair and ignore any judgment, "What others think of us is none of our business." Good luck finding a haircare routine that works for you Sir❤

@decay6516 10 ай бұрын

Judgement comes mostly from the jealous. Be you, and the right people will find you 😀💛

@Mar032891 9 ай бұрын

As a man with curly hair, do it! The man version of you will thank you. It's your hair, kid, not theirs. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Thanks, have a nice day.

@tarynazelski6449 8 ай бұрын

Do it! Guys with curls are the best❣️

@briannalarsen3601 8 ай бұрын

Another hair stylist here just wanting to commend you! You made this SO easy to understand. I love the visuals you gave (visual learner here)! Your hair is stunning and you have such a sweet spirit. You were made to shine!

@RutabegaRebel 9 ай бұрын

I have had curly hair my whole life and tried to watch a million videos. Elise did in 15:15 what others have failed to do my whole life time. I love how simple and easy she makes this for us fellow curly haired friends!

@leabourgeteau4067 7 ай бұрын

literally I've never master the denmann brush curl, but this makes it look easy? Will definitely try along the video!

@carolturner1976 10 ай бұрын

71 y/o and still trying to learn to “rock my curls”. Hate my curls one day, then love them the next. I love that you shared your feelings, and love your curls!

@jerseybred732 6 ай бұрын

Same here. Was told to straighten my hair my entire life, but my curly mane suits my personality much better. Learning to embrace them!

@1957janine 6 ай бұрын

totally agree, carolturner1976.....thank you elyse, for your instruction and candid curl talk

@user-vt8uj7ss2b 4 ай бұрын

❤l love your curls.

@KatlynnHahn Жыл бұрын

I was 6 feet tall, curly haired, awkward girl at 14 and the part where you talked about being afraid to take up space was so relatable to me. I am emotionally right there with you.

@hey.norins Жыл бұрын

Same! I remember clearly one day in class a bully said "I can't see the blackboard behind this mess." I was mortified. I chemically straightened it for years and I hated my hair. I've been in the same journey as many other curlies have and now I love how big and pretty it is. I receive so many compliments for my curly hair now! Remember, it's a process, but if you learn how to love and care for it, it'll give you love back, and it will get beautiful and healthy 😊

@melissalorentson6764 9 ай бұрын

Yes

@BradMondo Жыл бұрын

Your curls look stunning!! So happy you like wavetech wave foam too 😊

@LisaAllenmakeupaddict Жыл бұрын

Checking online to see where to buy this

@KayoEll Жыл бұрын

@@LisaAllenmakeupaddict You can have mine! 😄 The scent gives me migraines, and the Xmondo Wavetech line was very drying on my hair.

@StrawbreePinky Жыл бұрын

@@KayoEll if she passes I’d happily take it!😊

@DelphiaStrickland Жыл бұрын

Xmondo

@LaurieBug23 Жыл бұрын

I enjoy what it does to my hair, but the smell is intense... I wish he'd make a scent free or low scent option.

@nancymcnally7849 10 ай бұрын

When you spoke of not being perceived and taking up space, I choked up. I have never been able to put into words how I have felt my whole life, but here we are. You are amazing. Im done making myself small.

@magadeloi 10 ай бұрын

My curls haven’t been the same since pregnancy. The curl training with the brush handle has been a game changer. Thank you for making this.

@mrsgoofykid10 Жыл бұрын

“I was really afraid to take up space.” That really resonated with me. What a perfect way to articulate that feeling. I feel that so much.

@obsessedmind7856 Жыл бұрын

Isn’t it so sad so many of us felt this way? Then our frizz just added to it.

@JAB1979 Жыл бұрын

This comment hit me so hard. 😢😢

@SherryMccoy-uw1tm 4 ай бұрын

Agree

@nvardgambaryan654 Жыл бұрын

No one talks about the emotional aspect of having curls as a child as a teenager🥺 i felt every single word you said♥️

@crystalf9633 Жыл бұрын

Same. I listened to a few of her podcasts and realized I relate to her a lot! Several times I was like, “is that Me talking!?”

@SarahRoddy Жыл бұрын

same ❤

@evercavender9337 Жыл бұрын

Same 🥲🥲🥲 especially in the 90s and 00s when that pin straight hair was back in style...

@user-nf9xm7is3m Жыл бұрын

I was so obsessed with straightening my hair as a teen now I am thirty realizing I want long curly red hair like Merida from Brave. My daughter has beautiful curls and I hope she always embraces them.

@RavensFlight3 Жыл бұрын

I hear ya! Same here 😊

@justembraceit1 8 ай бұрын

I can't begin to tell you how unintentionally you are hitting the raw spots I have needed to allow myself to expose. I too was a bigger kid and when you said " I was really afraid to take up space" l felt that so deeply...even still... You are so impactful, and for that I am grateful ☺

@jonathanneumann95 10 ай бұрын

Woa, your sincerity & vulnerability are incredible. This goes beyond a comprehensive how-to video and hits on something deeper and more introspective. As someone who has curly hair and is just now (30’s) truly understanding how to care and style and embrace my hair I’m feeling inspired and seen. Thank you truly 💜

@bethanya99 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that vulnerable story. My own mom, trying her best, discouraged any attention to my appearance, she was vehemently anti-vanity, wanting my worth to come from my character. But as a result I didn't learn how to take care of my body or beautify it when I wanted to. I'm 33 with a 10th grade level of make-up, hair-care, and skin-care skills and it infantilizes me in the sight of others. I've been trying to catch up, but it is HARD, and it takes time. I'm currently pregnant with a little girl and I hope I can find the balance between letting my girl express her femininity, and not being obsessed with her image.

@amanda33333 Жыл бұрын

You may find a decade or so down the road that when you have a girl and you dont stay current on makeup trends, they come in mighty handy!😂 I stopped wearing makeup daily after my 2nd daughter bc I hated the impression that she thought wearing it was necessary, as she wanted to do just like Mum, so I just stopped wearing it. 5yrs and many compliments from my girls later, I'm now re-learning to do my eye makeup from my 15yr old. Her interest in it came from me initially and Man is she GOOD!😳😍🙌🏼💗 I still swear I'll Never get the winged eyeliner down, but she won't give up on me!😂❤🤙🏼 It'll all come full circle. Your perspective and awareness of your particular raising regarding self care will make for a well rounded young person in no time! Just don't be afraid to ask questions and Always 'patch' test new products as their label recommends for allergies and sensitivities 🤙🏼You'll do just fine!❤

@Dogbiteskill Жыл бұрын

I’m 45 and never learn to walk in high heeled shoes. I have no idea how to dress up. When I wore make up, I used my fingers. I washed my face with dove soap and still do. I feel completely inept and it hasn’t helped that in the last few years washing your face turned into a nine step process.

@lisakukla459 Жыл бұрын

@@Dogbiteskill I'm a licensed esthetician. Don't get taken in with all that nonsense. Cleanser, toner, and moisturizer if you want. That's it. All that other stuff is extra and optional. You don't have to spend a fortune on any of it. Check out The Ordinary; I've been blown away at the quality of their products, given the wildly affordable price point. If I was still actively working in the field, I'd ab-so-lutely have that in my treatment room.

@JenIsHungry Жыл бұрын

Im sad your mom failed. Make up isn't self care, it's self voyeurism. Femininity is the act of being female. Not being pretty. Our society is fucking hopeless and you are going to raise another woman who prises her appearance over anything.

@emilypresleysee Жыл бұрын

If you'd ever like some advice, I'd be happy to offer it 😊 my Mom was sort of the opposite of yours when it came to appearance; your character matters the most but looking well-put-together can go a long way with first impressions. Combine that with my ADHD and cosmetic retail sales background, I have a wealth of knowledge that I'm eager to share but hardly have anyone to share it with. Mom of two boys 🥴

@sierraroses5679 Жыл бұрын

It wasnt until I was 30+ years old that I realized I had curly hair because my mom refused to deal with my hair. She always told me my hair was messy when it was just curly. Now I'm trying to figure out how to take care of my curls. This was honestly the nicest and easily broken down tutorial that I've seen.

@1380beagle Жыл бұрын

My mom just didn’t know. My twin and I were told until I was 16 or so that we had “thick”, “frizzy”, “coarse” hair. Low and behold we had been brushing out our curly hair 😮

@revelationrollcall4852 Жыл бұрын

I was 50ish when I learned I had curly hair. I had always blown my hair out into a bob or some other style & when I was tired of doing it, I cut it super short so I didn’t have to do it & just wanted to wash & go. I waited to schedule a haircut & as it was growing, I realized then that my hair was curly & so I’ve been embracing the curls since. 🙂

@lynetteayala531 Жыл бұрын

It's crazy how many of us go through this! I was in my 40's when I stopped straightening my hair. My mother always brushed my hair out and told me how difficult it was to "fix". I have beautiful curls that I embrace everyday. I'm so glad we're all getting to this spot in our lives where we see and embrace ourselves. Love your hair Elyse!!

@SnowLeopardForever Жыл бұрын

Me too! I didn’t realize I had natural curly hair until I was in my early 30’s. I always relaxed it but wanted curly hair. I was so happy when I found it. I love my hair.

@misschriss6874 Жыл бұрын

Saaame. My mom has very straight hair. She would just brush my hair, it would be huge and frizzy, and she would put that V05 hairdresser ointment on it. I’m 38, and have been doing the CGM for almost a year. I’m a 2C 3A.

@LuTheCrazyMadam 9 ай бұрын

I was 27 years unhappy with my super frizzy hair and always asked for help at the different hairdressers throughout the years. I had no idea what to do and like a few weeks ago I started to learn through KZfaq videos how to take proper care of my hair. This is by far the best explained video I could find!

@amberwilliams4210 8 ай бұрын

Hey, I'm a chick in her 30s who has only JUST started to embrace her curls and try and do a more indepth routine for accentuating and loving my curls as they are. Like others I really appreciate the straightforwardness and detailed routine you've shared. Always something new to learn- thank you so much!

@barbanderson4745 Жыл бұрын

Don't apologize for getting emotional. It's honest. And relatable. Thank you for your candor. You're a wonderful role model. I think a lot of young girls feel like they don't want to take up space and many of us grew up feeling like that. So take up as much space as you need Elyse Myers, you're forging a path for so many others to follow. 🥰

@anmnou Жыл бұрын

It also should have been processed by now. It is quite manipulative emotionally as she is an influencer.

@acesjester487 10 ай бұрын

@@anmnouyeah no, influencers are people to and in no way is she manipulating anybody in any way other than her explaining her journey and the reason behind it.

@Laura-kl7vi 8 ай бұрын

Wow, wow, You are being so judgmental here. It can take decades of adulthood for many people to uncover and work through some things from their childhoods. She's supposed to be finished already at 30-something? s You can't know what someone's ife was like until you've walked in their shoes. l@@anmnou

@jennifergraceh 7 ай бұрын

@@anmnoumanipulative? Oh, stop it. Imagine, a human being having real emotions. Craziness.

@AandM8 4 ай бұрын

@@anmnou”should have been processed by now”? Wtf does that even mean? Are adults not supposed to need therapy, to cry, or have emotions? Whoever made you believe that, I’m sorry. And you may need therapy yourself.

@MarlenaMarley87 Жыл бұрын

This might sound strange to say (as a stranger on the internet), but you have only become more and more beautiful the longer I’ve known you. Thank you for letting yourself be known, Elyse. I can only speak for my own ’corner of the world’, but the world is a better place for having known you ❤

@stephanieharper7349 Жыл бұрын

Yes 100%!

@kingtut1987 Жыл бұрын

What’s even crazier is I’m a guy with very short hair and I sat and watched the whole darn video. I’m like whaaat? She always hits home with some kind of message or information that is easily applicable to my life at that time.

@MarlenaMarley87 Жыл бұрын

@@kingtut1987 YES!! I feel that somehow, Elyse is all of our inner child AND our inner parent simultaneously and effortlessly. She’s a national treasure, and must be protected at all costs 🥲

@morganfarnsworth9624 10 ай бұрын

AGREED - a million times over.

@void3147 10 ай бұрын

I spent so much of my childhood exactly where you were for exactly those reasons . You didn't expect to get emotional explaining your routine, I certainly didn't expect to get emotional watching it. I don't have the word to express how not alone you made me feel. You rock! Hugs to you!!❤

@paulanorris5000 9 ай бұрын

Same here....❤

@anouk6644 4 ай бұрын

I wanted to say the same thing! Same history, same feelings. So glad we are not alone in this.

@lunamendez258 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. I've watched so many hours spread out over years trying to find a way to understand how to style my hair properly. this is the only video I have ever found that is so incredibly digestible and understandable. Like the way you edit and make things really clear what you're using, what you're doing and breaking it down why you do that is so helpful. Thank you so much.

@laurieschroeder2071 Жыл бұрын

This is the best curly hair tutorial I’ve watched. You condensed like 30 videos I’ve watched into a clear and concise video. Thank you for talking about how “not taking up space” translates into downplaying our curls. That really hit home.

@janewaysmom Жыл бұрын

Yeah. This is my first full length video I've watched by Elise, but it's also the simplest, clearest explanation of the curly routine that I've seen. I think I might try it.

@thefinalrevivalwithbrendag9078 Жыл бұрын

My hair became straight when I was pregnant. I had 4 children and it got straighter with every pregnancy. I’m 72 now and it is very curly again. I really understand where you are coming from. Proud of you.

@michelesifuentes2804 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your response! I’m glad to know we’re not alone! My hair turned curly when my hit puberty. Then, with my first pregnancy, it decreased a level. Fourteen years later I was pregnant for my second time. Again my curls decreased, but this time it was significantly. I just barely had some waves left. Then just about a year later I was pregnant with my third and final son. And I lost what little wave I had left! I was miserable with my hair because I didn’t know how to manage straight hair! I wore a lot of braids. My hair did increase its speed of growth! In two years it grew from shoulder length to just below my waist! That’s the longest it’s ever been! About six years ago I had a complete hysterectomy. Not long after, my hair started growing in with waves. So my conclusion is that it has to do with hormones! Anyone else have a related experience/opinion?

@autumndawn711 8 ай бұрын

I also had mine get curly with puberty. Two of my sisters also. With my first my curls got much curlier and then with my second pregnancy a year later it got more straight. It felt like it went limp. Hormones have a huge role in curly hair. I think your health and nutrients do also.

@megmagruder7124 8 ай бұрын

I turned 30 and suddenly I had spiral curls. Will try because I’m interested to see what happens. You are lovely and the end was amazing. 14:49

@jenniferb.awesome 7 ай бұрын

I have curly hair, but it became so much thicker and way more curly with all 3 of my pregnancies. Now it's thin and brittle and not as curly. I hope it gets better as I get older.

@jennifergraceh 7 ай бұрын

Mine was the opposite!!! Stick straight until pregnancy! Now I have super thick, wavy and curly hair and I’m clueless about what to do with it

@kargo8 8 ай бұрын

What a gift you are to all of us. I am so grateful that you share these things. (I struggle to take up space by ‘sharing’ anything.) Thank you for your humor, vulnerability, honesty and just plain kindness. You are beautiful & so is your hair.❤

@heatheradlington3465 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Elyse! My hair went from straight to curly during pregnancy and 2 years later I'm still learning how to care for (and love) my new curls. It's certainly been an emotional process, and still ongoing! I have watched and read countless tutorials and this is the best by far, feels kind of ground-breaking for me in fact! Thank you so much❤

@blondiecates1 Жыл бұрын

"I was afraid to take up space." That really hit me because even as an adult I tell myself "don't be a bother, don't be annoying." I think many of us feel your statement although in different ways. As someone with straight hair I always wished mine was curly! I had a friend when I was in Middle School who had hair with beautiful chunky curls and I was always so jealous!

@Michelle-vv9lk Жыл бұрын

Same here. I can relate to all of it apart from not having curly hair

@malloryc6318 Жыл бұрын

This video is edited and produced SO WELL. I am shook. The text, images, wow. I don’t even have curly hair and I watched it all. Kudos.

@Dallashygienist Жыл бұрын

Same!!

@patchouleigh_ Жыл бұрын

I agree.. this is the first time I've understood this method.

@Sarah-uk5tr Жыл бұрын

+++

@CalamityCJ Жыл бұрын

Same

@LostEveryMarble 10 ай бұрын

😂 same! I have straight hair ...but it's such a good video

@helenemulvihill2997 9 ай бұрын

so many people spend their lives trying to be someone they are not and here you are showing us just how glorious it is to be the best YOU! You're inspiring so many people by showing them to embrace their own natural selves, thank you for that!

@sl1151 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this in-depth tutorial and for your on-screen vulnerability!!! It’s so lovely and powerful to hear your healing journey. I hope you’re proud of yourself!! AFAB people and women deserve to take up space 💖💖💖

@ElleKay4Life Жыл бұрын

As a fellow curly girl who was afraid to take up space I feel this! Now I rock giant curls and so does my daughter who got them from me :)

@katherinepriore1876 10 ай бұрын

Same! My son has curly hair and everyone asks where he got it from. Now I show them it’s me!

@jacquelinecarpenter7759 Жыл бұрын

I have seen countless curly girl videos and have always left feeling completely overwhelmed and have yet to try to embrace my natural curls. Yours is the first video I’ve watched that makes the process not only make sense but feel approachable. For the first time since I was a teenager; you’ve made me decide to go for it and get my curls back. Thank you for taking the time to put this together. It was brilliantly done. ❤️❤️❤️

@erinmctague7188 Жыл бұрын

Check out Manes by Mell if you never have she is also excellent

@lindenpeters2601 Жыл бұрын

Do it!! You can even switch back and forth between Curly Girl Method and conventional, just make sure to do a sulfate wash in between to remove silicones and other products. I learned the hard way that oily Curly Girl products and heat styling don't mix. My hair literally got cooked and horribly damaged and frizzy.

@christywylie6528 8 ай бұрын

I just wanted to thank you for your courage in putting yourself & your story out there for all to see. The WHY of your story really hit home with my own upbringing. Please know that you are touching people and making a positive impact on their lives

@alexaevans8087 10 ай бұрын

Aww you're beautiful! I appreciate how open and honest you are! Your videos don't shy away from the thing that's often missing/ or just hidden on an online platform. Humanity.

@janinemcneilly8941 Жыл бұрын

“I was afraid to take up space.” Wow, I related to this! I wore my hair in a ponytail every single day, even in my own home, from the age of 11-18. I was terrified of people seeing my hair and commenting on it because I was so insecure. This was also the early/mid 2000s when pin straight hair was super trendy and I felt like a frizzy mess compared to all the other girls at my school. I’m 28 now and I love my hair more than ever! Thank you for this tutorial and the little therapy session at the end! 💕

@meganw2564 Жыл бұрын

Omg I could have written this comment. I wore my hair up for YEARS, I was so insecure of my hair!

@kristinsato Жыл бұрын

Wow, I’m 28 too and for me it was a perfectly curated low “messy” bun. No one in my high school knew I had absolutely ringlets. I feared that frizz would make people think I was the opposite of put together

@valeriegonzalez413 Жыл бұрын

Oh man I completely relate to this. I’m very shy and I stuck out like a sore thumb in school so naturally I began to straighten my hair to blend in. It also didn’t help that I’m the only person in my family with curly hair! I’ve gone through curly journeys a few times but I’m still struggling with fully accepting it. My roots are extremely curly so I hope to one day do a big chop and start fresh with my curls

@melissakessler77 Жыл бұрын

I think so many women are ‘taught’ by society to be small. 😢

@ClaireDeLune2848 Жыл бұрын

Wow, we have the exact same hair timeline. I'm 28 as well, and I wore a ponytail exclusively from 11 until college when I felt like I could wear my hair down because no one knew another version of me. It's so freeing now!

@sandycornell1459 Жыл бұрын

“I was really afraid to take up space, in every way.” Oh man, that line alone brought me to tears. It felt so raw and true, and it really hit home for me. A lifetime of being told my wavy, frizzy hair was too big. That I was too thin, and then “nice and chubby” after having children. That I laughed too loud, and smiled too big. The list goes on, and it makes me sad to even read now! The “how dare you?” and “you’re a liar” are things I’ve thought countless times, but you always think you’re alone. So thank you for being so vulnerable 💕 PS. My hair became MUCH straighter during my pregnancies… plus I lost a TON post-partum. Now I find myself missing my “poofy” hair!

@lporter5408 Жыл бұрын

so much imposter syndrome ❤️ when will it go away and let us be????

@seetraceysew9946 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much. Never wanted to take up space. Always wanting to make myself smaller.

@jennyhernandez2693 7 ай бұрын

OMG! It's so amazing to listen to you about the internal way we all feel about ourselves and dialogue we have. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable about it. The authenticity of your feelings is inspiring. Thank you.

@aesal123 6 ай бұрын

Elyse, I watched this video last night, but am just now commenting because I was so moved by your courage and vulnerability, that I needed time to reflect. Your story about your relationship with your hair from a child to now deeply resonated with me. I am also in the process of trying to learn to love my curls despite insecurities. Your words have inspired me, and I also appreciated your tips and the infographics along with them. 💕

@BeoofCrypticCreations Жыл бұрын

I grew up being taught to treat my hair as straight hair and that my curls were tangles that need a brush ripped through them. I destroyed my curl pattern because of this. You are the first person I’ve found with short and curly hair like mine to share their process. I’ve spent the past two years trying to get my natural curls back to being healthy and learn to love them again and this tutorial makes so much sense, so clear and such an easy process 😭 thank you so much

@natalyaporter5730 Жыл бұрын

Same! I got in trouble growing up for my hair being frizzy or "messy" as they would put it, and would be told to comb my hair (which would only encourage more frizz)

@theendtimes1705 Жыл бұрын

Sameeee! So unfortunate! Big question, what do you do to retrain your curls? A lot of my hair fell out and changed after I had my baby. It's pretty much all grown back but I don't have the same curls as before and could use some tips!

@stephanieharper7349 Жыл бұрын

Same because my mom had straight hair and did not know what to do with mine and of course she made me her Mini-Me it had to be cut and style the exact same as hers 80s bangs and side puffs and all

@BeoofCrypticCreations Жыл бұрын

@@theendtimes1705 Me? I've tried honestly just about every method out there from the curly girl method to just experimenting with products. I spent a bit learning the difference between straight and curly hair care and tried out different brands of shampoo and conditioner. After my hair started to show its curls again from a little less then a year of proper washing and care not too much different then shown in the video, I started "training" them with foam curlers. Since my curl pattern was damaged my hair didn't curl in a uniformed way because it didn't remember how. I'd have patches of waves, patches of ringlets and patches of curls all at once. Foam curlers doent use heat or anything to make your hair curl they just hold the shape. So I'd plop my hair as in the video but then instead of blow drying it I would section it off after and pin it up in the curlers. I started out letting my hair dry in the curlers the first few times and then slowly lessened the time. I only wear the curlers for 15 or so minutes after a shower now just to give my damaged hair that little extra support. It's been two years now and my curls still arent perfect but they're holding up and forming on their own for the most part again. I'm planning to retire the curlers and move on to a diffuser once I am able to buy one. I may have made faster progress if I'd gone to a professional at any point but I've just done everything myself with what I could at home but I'm proud of the progress I've made

@rebeccalange7524 Жыл бұрын

Sammmeeeeeee. I finally started to embrace my curls and went to Florida to visit my grandma. My hair had been on the natural journey for a few years at that time and the Florida humidity made my hair curl up BEAUTIFULLY. I was actually feeling pretty good about myself. And, before going out to eat (in public, obviously), my grandma said I looked like an “aging hippie” with my hair the way it was. It was almost as if she was embarrassed to be seen with me. Which is actually probably true bc that’s how she is as a person. Anyway, that cut deep bc hair, at that time, was one of the only physical characteristics I liked about myself.

@jessicataylor13 Жыл бұрын

*Raises hand* My hair went straight when I was pregnant. When I tell people that, they tell me I must have imagined it. Great video.

@wolfinthewheatfields3224 Жыл бұрын

2 things probs happened -- the hormones can change the oils in your scalp, either make it more dry or more oily - which can make your hair lose body. Stress can do this as well, not just pregnancy :) it can take time to re-adjust, or it just needs a bit of love. OR you now have new hair! :D I know this because im from a half-black half-white family, and some of us kids had dead straight/wavy hair until puberty and then BAM! INSANE AFRO!! xD hormones can definitely play a part on your hair type and it can definitely change! :)

@nicolemh Жыл бұрын

The same thing happened to my mom! She has a tiny bit of wave now but not the curl she used to have.

@mackenzieking3289 Жыл бұрын

My mom’s hair went from bone straight to 2c when pregnant and it hasn’t changed back

@thefarmista Жыл бұрын

My hair has more waves since having my second baby!

@rrijecanka Жыл бұрын

@@mackenzieking3289 please, what means 2c? Just curious. I love curly hair and I’m curling in it all the time

@davidhoy4023 11 ай бұрын

You know you take up space in my life. I watch your videos, a lot. You make me laugh and sometimes cry too. You really lift me sometimes when I feel down and depressed. Love hearing about your life and experiences and feeling your disregard for the negative. You look at your life with such a great energy. Thanks for putting yourself out there and taking that space. ❤

@KaylaArcher-caricatures 3 ай бұрын

You and your curls are gorgeous! And also, I’ve been observing curly hair method for a long time, and your video has the CLEAREST explanation and pro tips I ever ever seen, so thank you for being so informative too ❤

@brendarothchild2104 Жыл бұрын

Your hair is FABULOUS! I’m 67 and just now, for the first time,realized I have curly hair. I’ve struggled with “frizzy, puffy hair” my whole life. But, that’s because I didn’t realize it’s curly and needs special handling. Your tutorial is exceptional and I will use your techniques this week. Thank you!

@sarahsavagebassett7134 Жыл бұрын

How did it go???

@brendarothchild2104 Жыл бұрын

@@sarahsavagebassett7134 I’m still learning! I’m going today to get a “curly cut”. I’m hoping this will help with my hair shape.

@brendarothchild2104 Жыл бұрын

OMG! My curly cut experience was AMAZING! The stylist not only cut my hair, but spent 2 hours with me teaching me everything I needed to know to create gorgeous, soft curls. My curls are set free!

@spacebunsarah Жыл бұрын

@@brendarothchild2104 im so happy for you!!

@sillymamacita3854 Жыл бұрын

@@brendarothchild2104 this makes me so happy!!! 🎉❤

@caglasow Жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh. Who knew that a curly hair tutorial would be one of the most heartfelt and deep videos you’ve posted?! Girl, you and your curls are so beautiful and you fill space in the best possible way. ❤❤❤ You are amazing, strong, beautiful, and the perfect version of you. Thank you for being vulnerable- and thanks so much for the curly girl tips!!

@dorothysay8327 10 ай бұрын

Your naturally curly hair is soooooo beautiful. Truly- I wish I had your hair. It’s glorious. It’s awesome you’re embracing your beautiful, terrific natural hair texture. You’re very blessed. ❤

@fluffyfontaine1441 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for always being so real and vulnerable with us. Heaps of love and the curls look FANTASTIC!

@kaileyfarrell7074 Жыл бұрын

This is not only the best hair tutorial I’ve ever seen but the best KZfaq tutorial period. I don’t have curly hair but I do make instructional content for a living and this video is impeccable. Everything from the progress guide, to the why’s for each step, I’m truly inspired. Not only does Elyse seem like the kindest person but she’s amazing at what she does, I’m never not impressed.

@sophiarosep9 Жыл бұрын

I’ve never run across your content before, but I got emotional right along with you because your story is so similar to my own. It’s true what they say: “If you ask a curly girl about her hair, she’ll tell you about her life.” It is so true that the process of accepting and loving your curls can actually be a process of accepting and loving yourself. I enjoyed this video so much and your curls are gorgeous. You found a new subscriber in me 😊

@davidgibbs8756 5 ай бұрын

What you said at the end really resonated with me. All of it. Thanks so much for this video and being real through the process. You have a way of saying out loud what so many people are feeling inside. That’s such a beautiful gift. Keep being you and keep doing what you do.

@aliciamclean3348 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for being so vulnerable with all of us about your childhood and your struggles, that's not an easy thing to do and it's clear that it is something you are getting used to. Hence why I think you got so emotional about it. I'm glad to see that you are learning to love and embrace your beautiful and natural self. You're imperfectly perfect in all the best ways, keep taking up space 😊💖

@britnicox3929 Жыл бұрын

The struggles of what you went through as a kid both in struggling to accept and embrace your femininity as well as being afraid as a bigger person to take up more space, to draw attention to yourself and to stand out because of them I feel on a spiritual level with you and I am so happy to see you loving that part of yourself openly. Thank you for sharing this with us

@karenlynnlockwood6205 Жыл бұрын

Not gonna lie, for me this was one of the best curly hair tutorials I’ve watched. You explained the reason for each step. Your entire life journey has been a blessing to watch ❤️

@eastmeetswesttraining3142 2 ай бұрын

Omg I just love you so much! I’ve most watched your shorts for some time now and you always make laugh. I love how authentic and vulnerable you are. Thank you for sharing your experience about not loving your curls when you were younger and not wanting to be different. It’s really sweet to see your share your growth with us ❤

@sssarah.v 8 ай бұрын

i finished doing this and….my 3b curls are back…my curls are back….THANK YOU so so much for this tutorial it’ll now be my go to wash day routine from now on. thank you so much elyse. youve practically helped me save and replenish my hair

@katherinex9846 Жыл бұрын

I’m 41, grew up without a mom, just men. I feel seen and understood by your explanation of the fear of perception/taking up space. Got super emotional with you while watching. Thanks for helping me with the courage to try this out and accept my curls. ❤

@AidanBagnall Жыл бұрын

As a mama of a 7 year old daughter with your same hair type, it broke my heart to hear how you felt as a child. And reminded me of why I (with only 2a waves myself) immediately started reading and studying up on curls when she was turning 2, so I could help her love them always. I’m so glad you’re having this experience now. I’m crying right along with you. ❤

@NightwingAquaman Жыл бұрын

I would love to see a kid friendly version of this tutorial. Like, what is realistic for a young child to sit through for styling and manage? Should the products/ styling change with curly haired kids as they grow?

@AidanBagnall Жыл бұрын

@@NightwingAquaman definitely my daughter’s routine is much more simple, and it always has been. You can find kids curly hair routines if you search! But at a certain point they can just use small amounts of regular adult products and have a simplified pared down routine. You definitely have to accept and embrace the frizz with kids, in my personal experience. But I don’t speak for any other textures of hair than mine and my daughter’s.

@AidanBagnall Жыл бұрын

@@NightwingAquaman we only air dry, and my styling routine for her takes under a minute. I just get her to sit and read, or sit and play with some stationary thing for at least an hour to get a start on drying. Then after that, kids are going to be kids, and I don’t stress about the hair being perfect. Biggest styling ‘rule’ I had to teach her was to never touch her hair when it’s drying. So she just keeps her hands off, doesn’t put on hats etc when it’s wet.

@lwest6217 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your process of caring for your curls! You and your curls are wonderful ☺️ We appreciate you taking up space 😊

@emiliacirulis7815 9 ай бұрын

You are such a different person in a good way, I started watching because of hair questions I had but I kept watching because I really liked your approach and your awareness like mind and your personality is so cozy to be around. Your friends and ppl around are lucky to have you :)

@summerberkemeier2196 11 ай бұрын

"Why not change something about myself so that I can be loved by others." That is so honest and real. Thank you for sharing this!

@nadinegraber4960 Жыл бұрын

I’m 58 years old and have had curly hair in my entire life and always struggled with it. Especially after college when I started working I was told by numerous people that my curly hair was unprofessional. For the last eight years I’ve been getting keratin treatments so it is straight but watching your video has me thinking of embracing my curls again. Thank you for this!

@magdalenahammer4600 Жыл бұрын

To anyone who tells you that ever again in life, respond with: "So is a bad attitude!" I can't believe the audacity of some people. Sorry that happened to you and you were pushed into altering a part of yourself, you did not necessarily want to alter. ❤‍🩹

@ralphandleosmom9075 Жыл бұрын

Same. 58 and was told my hair was unprofessional when I first started working because it was long and very thick with a natural wave/curl pattern. It would take me over an hour every day to dry and straighten it and I started keeping it shorter as time went by. Then I found Brazilian keratin treatment which worked until my scalp rebelled. Now I just air dry and let it be most days. I heat style it on occasion. I’ve tried the curly hair method but it left my hair dry.

@magdalenahammer4600 Жыл бұрын

@@ralphandleosmom9075 then you might have been using the wrong products or combination of products - it's a whole science... I haven't really figured it out yet, but my hair is also just slightly wavy at most and hangs straight if I don't put an effort in...

@AnnetQuintanaKnowsBest Жыл бұрын

Gosh, people are so ridiculous sometimes. How can anyone say that your natural hair is "unprofessional" ? Especially considering your hair was barely curly to begin with, which sounds alot like how my hair is. The so many different ways we use our unfounded and unwanted advice to put others down just astounds me. You should have told them that blonde hair or eyeglasses were unprofessional. Though I suppose that would just be sinking down to their level. Your curls are, I'm sure, gorgeous, and I really hope you can embrace them and not change yourself over anothers opinion. Your thoughts on your hair are the only ones thoughts that count. Good luck rocking those curls !!!

@carly1628 Жыл бұрын

I am 26 and started getting keratin treatments a couple years ago for the fact that I thought it was unprofessional to have natural curls!!

@timaritucker3652 11 ай бұрын

Thank you! I needed to see this… and I’m loving this routine, I’m adopting it into mine! And thank you for being vulnerable I needed to hear “I never wanted to take up space” you are an amazing inspiration! 🥰🥰🥰

@kathymarek4984 Ай бұрын

You are a beautiful person, inside and out! Tears of joy for your inner journey that gives you so much strength and peace❣️

@_.mal._ Жыл бұрын

you’re glowing elyse. you’re not only allowed, but encouraged to take up space. thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this, im grateful for your story and tutorial in every way. this was such a helpful and amazing video. i can speak for all of us when i say that you’re so beautiful and worthy to feel that within your curls.

@billyalarie929 10 ай бұрын

I swear to god if i ever got a chance to meet her and like I was at some table with a handicapped spot (I’m in a wheelchair) I would offer to make room for her to sit because I would just love to talk to her.

@anneringrose2858 Жыл бұрын

My hair turned curly at about 12-13. I'm 39 now and still struggling with how to manage it. Thank you for this video. It's so clear, concise, and easy to maintain. I'd love a video on non-wash day hair. That is the one I just cannot get a handle on. ❤️

@alsolark3029 Жыл бұрын

I realized my hair stupid frizzy hair was actually just curly when I was 14. I saw a commercial for frizz-ease. My mother couldn’t be bothered so I convinced my dad to buy it for me. He was great. He bought me the entire line. It only took a few days for my curls to show up.

@marybarton7324 Жыл бұрын

Mine did that too before the age of about 11 or 12 I had straight "Marcia Brady" hair and then it turned curly and it was horrible because no one knew what to do with it and it was frizzy nightmare.

@sweatersleeve Жыл бұрын

For 2nd and third day hair just mist your hair with a mister like she shows in the video! It reactivates the product and the curls and helps tone down any frizz that shows up over night. Then you can scrunch in more product and re-diffuse/air dry.

@vanessasullivan8065 9 ай бұрын

You’re so fantastic, so real, so relatable and I love that you’re loving and nurturing your natural curls!

@briddle3543 3 ай бұрын

You are completely awesome. I've mostly just found you, but so far, I love the crochet videos, the random shorts, and now this video. I know you're not here for validation, but PLEASE...keep taking up space. If anyone is good for it, you are.

@RaDazzle1 Жыл бұрын

You are not only worthy of taking up space, you enhance the space and those around you! Your honesty is refreshing and you not only taught me things about taking care of my hair, you touched my heart in so many ways. Keep on learning how to love yourself - you are wonderful! 🥰❤

@jennifertung5381 Жыл бұрын

At 57 I started letting my hair curl in 2020, of course when no one was around. My hair is long and curly and now I am considering letting my grey come through. I am glad you learned to love your hair at a younger age. I think my inhibition began in high school when all of my sisters had extreme straight hair and called my curls messy if not combed out. Funny they all got perms for decades. Love your content!.

@heathermarch9516 11 ай бұрын

I embraced my grey during covid and I love it! I do have a long mohawk with pink tips,but I'm so glad I embraced my silver side

@hailbones6666 10 ай бұрын

I’m 41 and doing the long hair. The grays are coming through and I’m loving it!

@SoCalDoll 5 ай бұрын

I'm 38 & let my Gray grow out bc it's expensive to get hair colored. I have wavy hair but am trying to train the waves bc some are really curly. I get compliments from older women that still color their hair. They all say they wish their Gray would look good "like mine" but I think we all have such beautiful patterns, if we let it grow out. My Gray now looks like balayage to me & I don't mind it at all. I trip out that the Gray stands grow long now bc I used to have so much breakage. I actually like seeing a full length Gray strand. It makes me smile. I feel like it's my Glitter & that makes me happy. 😊

@Meg-vu7cr 10 ай бұрын

This video is like my favorite thing I’ve seen in a while. Motivated me to start taking care of my hair again. Your videos are so comforting!

@lilybartholomew7494 4 ай бұрын

This started as the best curly tutorial I've ever seen, and ended with heart healing and genuine expression. So lovely and needed Elyse

@saraloveskids Жыл бұрын

I have very straight hair, but I decided to watch this anyway to see what you have learned. I am so glad I did! What an amazing journey you have been on! Congratulations on finding that love for who you are.

@katewarren5980 Жыл бұрын

I just had the same experience. It's so lovely to see some one grow and really come to love themselves. Elyse is the best!

@sapphireroses980 Жыл бұрын

Same here, as well. 🤍

@SassyGreenEyes24 Жыл бұрын

SAMEEEEEE!!! Had to come watch the evolution & self acceptance. Just lovely.

@kelseywebb7578 Жыл бұрын

The emotional toll of being a bigger girl with curly hair is so hard to recognize! Then when I finally started to accept and heal my body image, I got pregnant and lost my curls too! My first pregnancy is what inspired me to look into CGM and now that I’m pregnant again I miss my curls so much! I have to keep reminding myself they’ll come back.

@jeaninecousin8916 Жыл бұрын

When I watch youTube I heard some else comment about "losing" their natural curls while pregnant. I was shocked !! I don't have children but (until the person on the video made that comment) I had never heard of such a thing. Is it related to the huge shift in certain hormones ?? Why does this happen to some woman ♀️ and not others? That is very interesting to me. When your curls finally come back are they the same size and pattern ?

@mollysmith6055 Жыл бұрын

I hope yours will do what mine did...fall out (well, I don't wish you the falling out part!) after each pregnancy and then regrow curlier with a vengeance. I even lost hair after surgeries with general anesthesia and had the regrow be curlier. Wishing you the best luck!

@unknownsources7893 Жыл бұрын

I completely understand this. I was just feeling comfortable wearing (and feeling cute in) crop tops and "tighter-ish" clothes while also healing my curls...then I got pregnant and everything just went away. But I can't wait to meet my little boy and get back to where I was and this video will definitely help me out with the hair portion

@paulinez.7386 Жыл бұрын

Did they come back after the first pregnancy and how long did that take? I miss mine too.. :/

@kelseywebb7578 Жыл бұрын

@@jeaninecousin8916, but hormones for sure! And post-partum hair loss got weird too!

@rosypearson5167 9 ай бұрын

You're a wonderful human! I can relate to much of what you share of your past experiences and you neuro spicy existence 😊 Thank you for being here and being you ❤

@anniecrawford5911 2 ай бұрын

Holy Moly! How you ever figured this out - is amazing. I love curly hair! I wanted curly hair my whole life (I’m 70 now). Your beautiful curls are stunning! Thank you so much for sharing. You are truly beautiful inside & out. 🐣

@Tarynbreann Жыл бұрын

Dear Elyse, You are an inspiration!! Truly. You have been such an inspiration to me. As a woman with ADHD. As a socially awkward person. As someone with anxiety. As a mom. As an indecisive person. As someone who struggles with insecurities. As someone who battles people pleasing. As someone who struggles with depression and has been suicidal. As someone who has fought her curly hair for over two decades. Thank you for sharing your experiences, opinions, and life with the world, as well as this tutorial!! I enjoy all your videos and podcast and love how sincere you are. Keep being your authentic self and don’t let anyone make you feel less than the exceptional person you are!! 💕

@jonasmyers494 Жыл бұрын

Wow, this is so powerful!

@annbraden6628 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I am so grateful for Elyse and her voice in this world - having the courage to be vulnerable and share challenges, struggles and victories. This video is about the hair but it’s also not about the hair it’s about - many things, including noticing ways we seek to please and might lose ourselves in the process, learning to listen to our own voice and growing the courage to be ourselves in a world that wants conformity. 💜

@Tarynbreann Жыл бұрын

@@rachelforshee6014I can understand if this is your first and only video you’ve seen of Elyse, my comment may seem silly for this particular video. However, I’ve been following her content on Instagram, TikTok, and KZfaq. What she shares is funny, honest, open, uplifting, embracing, and many things she said or gone through are things I’ve also experienced, yet felt so alone in those experiences. It’s very relieving to know there are others out there with similar experiences, most of which are rarely mentioned in our society. I’ve lived in Alaska and Idaho. Im a few years older than Elyse and am very thankful for her content. ☺️

@eclaire4u Жыл бұрын

Your emotions around your curly hair & around taking up space resonate with me on an incredibly deep level. My mom had pin-straight dark hair. She and my sister both got perms at times to make their hair curly (I’m an 80’s/90’s kid). I had this thick frizzy red mop of hair that no one seemed to know what to do with except constantly try brush out and de-tangle. When I was just out of college, I got a professional haircut & let my hair dry without messing with it & it curled! It still didn’t saw on my that I actually had naturally curly hair, though, and I just thought it was some kind of years-long fluke. I got my hair permed straight at one point because I didn’t know what to do with it & whenever I tried brushing it out, it just poufed up into a frizzball. When COVID hit, I randomly didn’t try to “fix” my hair & it dried curly. After nearly two years, it finally dawned on me that I have curly hair & I started this journey of embracing my natural curls. It’s been emotional, healing, and empowering, to say the least! Sending you so much love and light as you continue you’re journey as well! 💖✨

@megan2176 Жыл бұрын

It's amazing how much something as "silly" as hair can impact our whole life. It's not just about vanity, it's self acceptance, and realizing that we've been fighting against something that's a natural part of us, and how that connects to so many other parts of our lives. It's also funny/heartbreaking that others try so hard to have attributes that come naturally to us, yet we're trying to get what others have too! Sucks that it takes us til our 30s/40s to realize this stuff! 😢😅

@mraodlelliinnse 10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ your curls!! The way you explained and the visuals are so helpful. This is so inspiring. This is a game changer. And I love the vulnerability about how your mindset. You can really tell how thoughtful and caring you are from this video and I just LOVE IT!!

@jdyck 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video!! I can’t begin to express how ALL of it, especially the end, meant so much to me. I was just excited to watch this video since I’m trying to figure out my curls, too, and didn’t expect you to cut so deep at the end. THANK YOU!!! I feel you ❤ thanks for being you and sharing so much of you. You’re the best.

@loves3dogs Жыл бұрын

This is huge for me!!!! I am 65 years old and just started to embrace my curly hair. I grew up thinking it was the worst part of me! Can’t wait to try it out. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! Love you❤

@karlamaxine Жыл бұрын

I’m also 65 and was the only person in my family with curls. I grew up with my mom calling it frizz though. I was taught to brush it and try to make it straight. I was born in Seattle and grew up not for from the Olympic Rain forest. Frizz, frizz, & more frizz. So anyway I grew up thinking that I only had curl in the very back of my head at the nape of my neck. I straight ironed and even ironed my hair on the ironing board with an iron. Not once has a hairdresser ever mentioned me giving into the curl. I never knew my whole head had curl. My hair now is naturally salt and light pepper. It’s very long with long layers. I’m still learning products but it has quite a bit of wave and curl to it. I’m going to cut it this weekend and for the first time grow curly hair. I hope anyway.

@mikaelahalaja2557 Жыл бұрын

I've had curly hair my entire 37 year life and have NEVER seen a better, simpler, more helpful tutorial. I’ve been straightening for the last couple years and I’m inspired to embrace my authentic curls!! ❤️❤️❤️

@peanutz23 2 ай бұрын

There is a warmth about you that is so wonderful.

@sarahschall4017 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this! You're the first person I've found who has curls similar to mine, especially length. I have some new things to try! Curly hair is a lifelong journey lol... I fought mine for 20 years until I gave up and now after a long time of trial and error I love them. They make me who I am. Your beautiful curls make you who you are. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

@avis4030 Жыл бұрын

Elyse as someone who grew up with big frizzy curly hair I identify with all of what you said and actually cried when the Disney movie Brave came out because I finally saw a Disney princess with hair like mine. I just love you for sharing this with us so vulnerably. I just used your method and my hair looks great!❤

@kaiyaramsey Жыл бұрын

I’m a mom of a 14 year old girl who struggles with her curls. I loooove her curls and I so want her to feel happy and proud of her own natural self. I’m excited to share this with her. Thank you!

@cierra9781 8 ай бұрын

Wow, I just wanted a curly hair routine but this was all that and incredibly touching. New follower, really enjoying your presence and the space you occupy

@candicenelson1942 11 ай бұрын

Mine grew straight with each pregnancy! Also I NEEDED this. The end of this video touched my heart so much, I have had so much of the same monologue in my head for years. I’m unlearning as well and I commend you!

@littlemisscakedoc Жыл бұрын

"I am allowed to take up space" 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 so much power in this! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, Elyse! Your insight helps me learn to love myself too

@zaidagozalez2925 Жыл бұрын

SAME! 💓

@morayoadedapo2457 Жыл бұрын

As a natural hair girl its somewhat comforting to know everyone cries over their curls. I love seeing people rediscover their hair and learning to be comfortable in their own skin 💕

@bethanybrooks941 10 ай бұрын

This is a fantastic walk through, one of the clearest I've seen! It's shown me I need a lot more product on my hair and I need to fix my diffusing technique! Thank you so much!

@amyt6254 8 ай бұрын

I love your message of accepting our big curly hair! Your curls are beautiful!

@samwaycaster3675 Жыл бұрын

This is the first time I actually understood a video explaining what to do with curls. I have been trying for years to love my natural hair but I had no one in my life to help me find a place to start! 😭 Thank you!

@CaliHinojosaVids Жыл бұрын

Thank you for discussing this. As a teen in the early 2000s who was also an emo kid, straight hair was it. I HATED my hair. I hated that it felt like EVERYONE had an opinion on it too. I was never taught how to take care of my hair. It always looked like a frizzy mess until I got a hair straightener at 14 and fried it every day. Now I’m in my 30s trying to figure it out and frustrated for the little girl in me who deserved better.

@musictherapy3976 Жыл бұрын

I relate so much. I was always told that it was my fault for not caring for my hair, but... I tried. The actually problem was that I was only ever told how to care for thin, straight hair. Even getting haircuts, I'd get yelled at when my hair wasn't even (cut wet) afterwards. My family members would get irritated by frizz or dryness (where I couldn't even see) and insist I brush it. I now realize that's why it got worse, not me. I've been leaning into my hair, and it's so much better. It's still a struggle and a process to accept it (especially with certain family still commenting their ignorance).

@hey.bridge Жыл бұрын

Literally exact same boat. You got this! ☺️

@jennywithaglock3916 Жыл бұрын

it can be so healing to your inner child to embrace and master the thing that caused you hurt and feel beautiful in the process

@jimlarson777ify 9 ай бұрын

Your curls are beautiful, such a good tutorial! Glad the algorithm finally started showing me your videos again! Nice seeing you realize how beautiful you are!

@Slipping_thru_the_Seams 10 ай бұрын

i love how straight to the point you are with this. the editing is stellar too

@jvn Жыл бұрын

Love it so much!! ❤❤❤ Your hair is looking so stunning!

@rcliddiard Жыл бұрын

I am 32 years old and have spent my entire life wishing my hair smaller. I accepted it was naturally frizzy and awful and embarrassing until a stylist recently told me it was actually extremely curly. I haven’t gotten to the place where I can rock my curls - don’t totally know how to do it on my own and I’m still battling my feelings about how it looks- but I am motivated to try after your tutorial and your super honest words at the end. Thank you very very much. ❤

@philerbuni Жыл бұрын

I hope you come to a place where you're able to love your hair. ❤️ I started my natural hair journey one year ago. It's really hard at first! I was so self conscious. The curly tutorials and curly influencer videos were also really intimidating at first. I wish I would have seen a video like this when I started my journey. If you decide to go natural just stick with it! It's going to be hard at first, but you will eventually start feeling more confident. I'm finally able to love my hair as it is! It's a good feeling.

@jillstevenson413 Жыл бұрын

I totally understand where you are coming from. My life is very similar!!! I am now 65 and love my curls to distraction 😊. You go girl!!!

@indiecowan33 Жыл бұрын

curls are awesome and know that you'll turn heads because people are jealous of your awesome locks!

@freaknutt33 Жыл бұрын

@@indiecowan33 I agree! I have straight hair, but I would love to have naturally curly hair. The grass is always greener as they say lol! Whenever I see someone with beautiful curly hair, I always try to complement them on their curls because I've seen how much work goes into maintaining them.

@BT2XX Жыл бұрын

Rebecca, you’re gonna look great ❤ try it out here and there and then gradually get into it (that’s what I did) I haven’t had straight hair in years now and feel like I would look so weird lol

@JoyForTheCaregivingJourney 4 ай бұрын

Sweet Elyse! Seeing this video after a year… learned so much but more than that your video resonated with me on soooo many levels! I felt everything you said! I was born in the 60’s… grew into the 70’s in a time when everyone had bone straight hair down to their touchy, I had curly…aka frizzy red hair, buck teeth and all the freckles in the world. Of course in my almost 60’s I still struggle with image and self worth, but so grateful you made this video a year ago… and grateful that I found it! Look at us taking up glorious space meant just for us! Tears and all the hugs to you beautiful lady!