On my way!

YAS RIGHT THERE CHIEF

ABSOLUTELY

I'd buy that alright.

i wish i could like your comment a million times...

Same

same but i stay at home for months if there is no school

same

I just like to stay at home only if there is enough food..even a months shud b fine as long as i cn eat many delicious foods

It's too little for me, I don't even get out because I don't have friends I trust enough or I'm comfortable with 😂😂

yess i know right when someone told me become more confident and tell me i am pretty i just fell like they do this because they pity me

she is totally me because i have no self esteem

I hate when people tell me that, it's not as easy as getting confidence as people say. It's more mentally confusing than that.

@@lafee3760 yesss..im crying

ikr😔😔

Same I covered my eyes watching it I was scared for her

same but I saw that she got more and more confident so honestly, I wished they made her dance longer because I want her to think "I just did that... I JUST DID THAT!" and be reminded of her days back when she performed in front of many people while she belly danced.

Sm I felt that

I skipped it y'll

Same

Thank youuu 👏👏

Why should we stop saying smth that might be true ? He might actually like her, yes, some people are being 'toxic' against their crush because they don't know what to do ... So yes MAYBE he liked her, it has nothing to do with 'romanticising' toxic behaviour'.

@@khletus8511 It's not something that should be socially acceptable, being mean to people because you "like them." Boys who express their love like that should end up alone.

@@ellie7646 I never said it was good or bad. it's just that he/she is implying that we shouldn't romanticise toxic behaviour, but nobody is doing that. Why would he/she say that they're 'romanticising toxic behaviour' while they're just stating a possibility ? It's a fact that some boys/teens are being harsh to the one they love. It's not something that people imagined, it hasn't been invented, people aren't romanticising anything. So, it's not just an 'idea' that we can stop. Btw I'm sure there are a lot more people than you think that are like this, just not on that level. I believe it's a natural behaviour, some people are just crossing the line .

nobody's romanticizing anything, some young boys are CRUEL and don't know how to show affection, it could literally be a possibility

I feel like she might have social anxiety.

i .candy no it actually sounds like an actual problem and like she’s hiding something that happened to her. This isn’t just introversion or typical social anxiety you can tell by her body language and how she speaks. She’s actually scared and nervous of others responses and reactions as if someone drilled into her she was ugly or less than. It’s actually very sad.

@@SONEawesomeness Yes but dealing with that having good friends and loving people surrounding you I think is better than going to a therapist. And I'm saying this as someone who went to therapy and who has a couple of loving best friends.

Majo "suicide, and even eating disorders"

I can relate to her, i agree that she should seek professional help, but in my case, I'm afraid to since mayne I'm only overreacting?? Ksksksk plus I'm only in high school and i don't have much money

For real 😭😭

im so related to her ...

Bruh same😂 this is one of the main resons im so skinny if i had the confidence id be ordering all day.

Same

Don't worry, you aren't. Me and my sister were always scared of that, but we eventually learned with each other's help.

I feel the same way. When I see people saying "ugh I look so ugly today. naw, who am i kidding, I look ugly everyday" I feel guilty for looking uglier than them yet not complaining. It's super hard to take in compliments too, because I just focus on the things wrong with my looks and think "if only this wasn't this way, if only my ___ looks like their ___". I don't have depression or other mental health issues but I'm not too fond of degrading myself while telling others to love themselves. When I say those things, I feel that everyone in this world (except me) should love themselves and that I should think of myself as hideous. Maybe I think that way, because I know about the disgusting parts of my inner self/ the flawed parts of my mind. In any case, I don't think I could ever truly get over it. I'm glad that I'm not alone in thinking this way, but I hope that along with me, you will also slowly stop thinking so low of yourself. Best of luck

This was me 2 years ago, i know How YOU feel 😭😭😭

I feel u. I sometimes have thoughts abt how much i want to disappear from somewhere bcuz i feel like my ugliness is affecting the scene. Idk how to explain it but it's like i feel that i'm too ugly to even exsist. I like wearing masks on public. I always just wear simple clothes bcuz i feel that i'm too ugly to wear pretty clothes. I never do my hair bcuz i feel like everyone will be secretly mocking me for even trying to look good. Not only my face, i hate my body and my ugly posture too. I know that other ppl dun care abt my appearance that much, but i can't help having these thoughts. It's like having an inner voice screaming at me how ugly i'm everyday.

i still feel the same way :( i have autism, depression and anxiety. since elementary school, i was bullied because of my physical appearance and my autism. they did it every single day to the point where i tried to starve myself and abuse myself physically, verbally and mentally. they did it until before my first year of high school. i was never bullied in grade 9. i moved to a different high school in grade 10 and i was bullied constantly for physical appearance and my autism again. they called me a spider kid because i barely wear makeup and wear pretty clothes. if i wear pretty clothes, i get ridiculed, so i stay in comfortable clothes. i’m in grade 11 and almost everyone at my school hates me. they ignore me and i want to move back to my old school but the school system won’t let me. sooo imma be stuck until i graduate :( i look ugly in so many ways. i had a boyfriend from grade 9-10 and he compared me to his other girlfriends, saying that they’re more beautiful than i am and i feel like i’ve been impaled by betrayal. today, i wear comfortable clothes; sweats, hoodies, leggings, etc. i keep my hood up because i hate my hair, my body, my face and everything about it. i have friends who support me. i don’t really talk to anyone in school. i have some friends outside of school.

Prasanna Rijal I feel the same way:(

😭😭😭

Exactly

When I was 14, my friend pointed out gaps in my teeth, which I had never noticed/cared about before, and that made me extremely self-conscious. I stopped smiling/ laughing out loud when I was around people. I'm 22 now and I've since had my teeth fixed, but I'm still incredibly self-conscious about smiling/ laughing around others :/

I can relate so much because I have a lower mandible problem, I've never paid too much attention to it because it never hurt, or anything and it's not that serious but my aunts keep pointing out that I should get braces then the corrective surgery and all. The 10 years-old me couldn't give two crap about it tbh, but then I was forced to wear a dental appliance, then the talk about surgery etc, and I started to be extremely conscious about it. I really started losing confidence, and asking people if it was really obvious, if it was really ugly? All it took was 2-3 people giving their unasked opinions. It took me 10 years to get some confidence back.. u_u Honestly, sometimes people should just keep their comments/opinions to themselves...

More like, fragile. Like delicate vases that crack from the inside, and appear fine on the outside

mochimoomoo 101 love this comment

mochimoomoo 101 SAME

even though I look like a POTATO, I still think of myself as a french fries.

@@christinagonzales1635 I love potatoes 💞💜

@@bloomingflower7341 I also love potatoes coz i love myself

Omg yes acne n acne scars 😔

what a cutie it’s so hard for me. I feel disappointed just looking in the mirror

I have a lot of acne and acne scars. In Korea it's less common due to genetic, and it could be a lot more problematic a case like mine in Korea. I just, it's okay to be like that unless you take dangerous pills.

And dont forget when you have psoraisis on your face and body 😩

Yeah, I suffered with acne, I used to have the same thoughts she has. I still do now, but it was heavier

Some are just too confident.

Yes, some think they are ugly and still are confident. I don't think it was the case of that girl

Me all the time

some only "thinks" they're ugly, but some really got those "ur ugly" words right in front of their face

@@niken1707 since I was young I was teased bc of my face and my crush told me I was ugly and an animal since than I feel worthless and unable to love myself, it hurts but I feel her so much sorry for the Ted talk

Magdalena thanks gurl 😭❤️

Thank you so much for your sweet comment. I appreciate it💕

Seungyeon, the sister of the one who sent this concern is very very similar to me 'cause everything that they said about her was almost like mine. Like her, wanting to be a flight attendant but my second dream job was to be a flight attendant. But when she was six she did belly dancing and me on my sixth birthday I wanted to get modeling classes so I got it and Being a model was my first ever dream job since I was 4 and when I hit puberty my personality changed like hers. I was really really self-conscious on what I look. I also thought of me being so ugly since I was 8 and until now I thought that why was I born this way and why do I look like this but some of my friends in school says that I look pretty Which I always disagree on. I also hid my talents which are singing and acting which I've been doing since I was 5 but I NEVER had the plan to show it until in school my teacher told me to sing and I have a really small voice so when I was done singing my classmates kept saying 'i couldn't hear your voice' so I cried on the corner of our classroom and my teachers tried to cheer me up but I didn't until the next day I kept cried for the 3 nights and for the 3 days they said ' did you Lip sync?' so I pretended to laugh and take it as a joke then I asked our teacher if I could go to the comfort room so when I got there I kept crying 'cause they were saying that from the last 3 days. After that I told myself to never perform again. But last month my classmate dared my to fake cry like for acting which I'm quite good at and I did it then she said 'You're so good at acting' and again I disagreed. I told myself once that the next school year I will not have friends 'cause all my friends are going to leave my school espy my BFF since the last school year she she will to London and study there forever. I am Right now 9 years old and turning 10 on August 26 this year. And I am the person in my Profile. I am half Chinese btw

Sooyeon Kam Hey Sooyeon, thank you for being brave and sharing your story with all of us. Yes, it is brave. I don’t want want to discredit you by saying „you’re only 10“, but it is like that. You seem very mature and i was similar to you at that age. But still your personality and your confidence will mature more and more when you get older. I always was uncomfortable with my looks too so i started using a full face make up at approx 12 - every day. When I was 14 i couldn’t leave the house without make up on because i thought i was too ugly. Fast forward: i am 26 now, i only use a little bit of make up to enhance my beauty instead of concealing and hiding my real face, the real me. It took a while to realize that. Maybe you should start singing in front of people close to you and then a smaller group of people. But you also don’t have to do it if you are really uncomfortable with it. But isn’t singing about passion, about having fun and feelings? Trust me, I’m a horrible singer, yet i enjoy singing with my friend (she’s a terrible singer too, but its the most fun with her, because she focuses on having fun instead of aiming for perfection). ☺️ btw you look very cute and pretty and your English is perfect, sure you’re only 10? 😄 i hope that helps you a little bit and you aren’t sad anymore, because they said these things (i guess it wasn’t their intention to hurt you, sometimes we don’t realize how much such simple words can hurt others. maybe you can go to one of them, someone who is nice, and tell them how you feel, maybe this will help you too and probably s/he will apologize). Have a wonderful week dear 💕🌸

Thank you so much

I'm sure that you're very beautiful. You'll experience it,when you start telling your negative thoughts otherwise. I hope you get better sweetie. I know it's not easy. But remember that you're unique❤

Same

Same here

When I started to have sympathy towards myself, and understood I or anyone didn't deserve bad treatment, I started to look at myself differently. I didn't look for my faults in my appearance, but at the person that was looking at me from the mirror. I also got a haircut and changed schools during the time. All my new friends were men or non-binary. The pressure was so much less. I had recently fought with my friends from highschool and it was my fault, so I wanted to be kinder to everyone around me. I think it affected how I treated myself too. And my friends were so good to me. I never doubted being beautiful enough. I also thought that just because I'm a woman, doesn't mean I have to look good all the time when I'm just going home in the buss or buying groceries, because everyone should be equal and no one should be harrassed. I think it's a combination of learning to have more mercy on people including yourself, and being accepted by good people.

You will become confident when you realize you dont owe anybody beauty.

Me too.but we don't have to change a thing. the Society needs to stop judging people on these ridiculous beauty standards

yes, me too

You're not ugly sweetie, i hope you can regain your confidence back,because I'm pretty sure you are beautiful!

Why

atleast u have friends lmao

sis, beauty is not about your physical appearance, its about our heart and i'm sure that u r a way more beautiful in that aspect. So, don't be insecure about your looks :)

Yea same

@ZoKi if you're 5

true but I think their intention wasn't to validate his actions, but to fictionalize something about his rotten personality to let her think more positively about the situation.

ZoKi few years ago, a couple of guys were mean to me but I later found out that they liked me =/

This boy that treated me like shit ended up liking me so it’s possible

He had to say something because she noticed he was staring, and he couldn't say she was beautiful. So he blurted out that she was ugly.

K Poop yes

I think so too because I have it too

Yes, I'm all too familiar with it sucks

Why can i relate :(

You'll find a job sweetheart, i'm pretty sure you're beautiful,dont convince me otherwise!

WooWoo Lynn woozi?

@ZoKi yeah, seeing counselor is one of the option too beside push urseld. I've been there too. It's hard for me till the point of i need help from professionals and i gain myself confidence. It depends on people. Some can think for themselves but some need some help to push themselves(help)

SK? Mental health and councelers? In this economy? Fat no

J K but ur not a psychietrist u shouldnt diagnose

Yes, still being on the show has its own advantages on helping the problem. It's extremely important talking about that. Counseling could always help and it doesn't work that well if you don't speak with a lot of people like in the show. Moreover, counseling in Korea is a taboo, it's hard to accept that everyone would need that. The people on counseling are seen as they had serious mental issues, and we know reality is not like that

Then you must be pretty too...

So are u

Same im a rotten potato

Spoorthi I lol ikr

Agree. Sometimes people think that we're only being very overreacting but we won't feel such if we haven't repeatedly experienced being mocked.

I'm so proud of you that you got better!!

Strongly agreed! (:

Silver Finnie I took a picture of this and I will be reading it to myself every day

MizyX Ziggy I feel u

Thanks for this ❤

Rosie C I don’t understand how they think that 135lbs is fat. That’s a totally normal weight for someone who’s 5’4 or taller.

That's not fat AT ALL!! Koreans beauty standards are trash tbh

@@ellies521 The average height of a 7th grader in Korea is 5'1 and 110lbs. 135 would be considered overweight if she was average height or less just going by BMI.

jmi Oh, that makes sense.

jmi I guess that’s just harder for Westerners to grasp because we tend to have bigger breasts and butts compared to Koreans. When I was in 7th grade I already had a C cup and decent sized butt naturally and I stayed around 120(5’1), but now I’m a D and work out regularly to keep my flat stomach but I guess according to BMI I’m overweight for a 5’2 girl being 130...

If you don't mind me asking how do you get treated for bd? My family says I have a distorted view of how I look, but I've just grown used to living my life this way =(

Yuji Kim I see a therapist. So far we’ve explored different techniques. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Reality therapy, and Dialetical Behavioral therapy. I’m also with a group of other individuals who suffer from anorexia, Borderline personality disorder and BD. It’s a long process but the goal is to refocus my thought pattern, and change my distorted pictures. There’s also reality therapy which basically shows me all the things I’m doing right, and with this my family get to tell me how they feel about me. Not how I think they feel. I’m also on some meds as they help regulate my mood, because it’s soul sucking. It consumes my waking thoughts, and creates suicidal ideation. If this describes you, please see someone. It’s 2019, and having a mental health issue is not something to be ashamed of. Anyways, have a good day. You got this!

Sarah Park thank you 💘

Same here, I hope you'll feel better soon❤❤❤❤

I know!! it's really hard 😢 But believe me everything has a solution... pick one thing at a time and start working on it... don't stress out or feel hopeless, it just takes time and consistency and you will be the person you wanna be FIGHTING!!!💪💪💖💖

It's the same for me too.... Let's hope things will get better for us in the future!:)

Be confidence sister, i know that this word is kinda too general and everyone must have said the word before, it just the right word for everyone in this situation i think, and one more i would like to tell that, being shy is totally different with being introvert, as introvert myself i'm ok with having to talk with many person, its just i'm choosing not to speak in front of everyone everytime, and prefer being alone to regain energy, as for the true definition of introvert itself, that is the way someone regain their energy with just being alone meanwhile extrovert person choose to regain their energy by socializing with person, so introvert totally is not shy :) ... everyone be CONFIDENCE !!!! :)

thank you

Same as me happened in my teens .. I was so shy because I thought I was so ugly and because of that I hated myself and I still I cant even look 5 seconds in someone eyes without getting nervous and flustered and I have still problems facing someone ( I couldn't even tell the boy that I liked like one simple hi without feeling miserable and pathetic I can't even I hate myself for bringing me in this state ..

Maknae Klass It’s okay, you’ll overcome it even if it takes a while😊 I’m also slowly trying to gain confidence. It might be hard and takes some time but you’ll definitely gain strength 💗 fighting!!

I CAN RELATE TO THIS

They are usually behind the scenes.

@@sabrinamourah1647 Most of the korean show I watched really emphasise on professional opinion. If there are really professional help, they going to show it to the audiences. Plus this show make no mention at all about the real expert except when they show the clips of doctor when the person had to go to hospital for treatment. I'm not hating this show but there should be a professional counselor on the spot to give real counseling since this show pretty much based on that.

@@teddyyo8146 they have to meet the person other times too, they cant determine a patient after one meet. Also, most questions made from the host are what a psycologist needs. Also, they did have professionals sometimes, but they cant always come.

@@teddyyo8146 but i also agree with you about having more professionals, but again they cant do much with one meeting.

It is not one of those show. Just to identify if it is a concern and not to solve it. That is why it is called "Hello Counselor." Just the first step ...

What is lost can never be regained but that is why you must look to the future to see what you CAN GAIN. Do not trap yourself further, you deserve to experience life like how what you want to!

I'm currently in that situation, it sucks.

@@LonesomeKingdom the more time it gone the harder it will become so plz try hard so that u don't waste ur years like me 🙌🍀

@@janerm3940 I know that what I lost I'll be regretting it for the rest of my life probably💔 but I feel too old and everything is useless now🙌

@@os5989 I think it's too late for that but thank you 🖤

Martin K same.. 5-6 it’s nothing

Literally same,I hate myself for it

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. People really don't think before talking :( I'm glad you're gaining your confidence back!! I believe in you!

Fighting! Thank you for working hard :)

Les français banalisent le racisme contre les asiatiques c’est chaud

@@aaby9286 C'est dommage :(

omegasage j’appartiens à une ethnie persécutée aussi donc j’essaie de lutter contre tout autre forme de racisme Parce que je sais que ça fait espérant qu’on changera au mieux un jour

YESSSS!!!! ✨

RandomIsMyLif3 hey dont worry it’ll be okay someday u will be okay just try ur best to live and not think bout these things so stay stromg and know that u can do it and it doesn’t matter wht the scale says wht matters is ur happiness plz be happy and healthy

Hope you get better! Don't let others judge you.

@@kbsworldtv KBS REPLIED I-

KBS World TV WTF KBS??????

@@kbsworldtv thanks kbs,it's one thing to be self conscious of your looks--but when people have latent mental health problems that can be triggered from how society expects you to look and pressure... your sense of reality and self image can become warped and ruminating worries and thoughts shouldn't be critisized as having a bad world view and just needing to be more positive. she might have a more complicated issue.

I became homeschooled throughout high school because of the same reasons as you. I’m now in college and I am forced to go to class in person for some classes, so I am facing my fears. I know that in order to achieve the goals I want to in life and become the person I wish to be, I have to overcome these hurdles. I really hope we both can overcome this, I know we can :)

I can be your friend!!

I dropped out of high school too because of social anxiety, it’s hard to deal with

ill tell you one thing: you care more about these things and you fear that others will criticize you but in reality no one gives a fck so dont worry about these things and do things wuthout getting concerned about the reactions. everyone goes to study anyways

Sessy 3D It’s okay dear,you beautiful just the way you are ❤️.But please when you have problem please let anyone else know so they can help you ❤️.I hope one day you will regain your confident and will be able to keep your head up,don’t think much about what other people think about you ❤️

I have the same problem as you, but I've realized that living this way, I have missed out on a lot of things, so by taking a day at a time, I'm trying to challenge myself. Also, don't worry about what people think of you. You don't need people validation to see your worth and if they don't like you, then smile and move on because in reality you can't please everyone and not everyone is gonna like you. So speak your mind, whether it clashes with other people's thoughts. Also, with your friends, I was in the same postion. When I told them about my ed and how I was on the verge of death, they didn't care. It did hurt, but then I realized that they aren't really my friends if they can't be their when I'm at my worst, so I stopped talking to them. It wasn't till 6 years later ( im now 21) that I end up making 1 amazing friend that checks up on me and she is the only one I hangout with. In the end, learn to love yourself more than anyone can and learn to enjoy being on your own. I know you can do it. Just take a day at a time... Lastly, sorry for this "essay," but these are things I wish someone told me.

Jenny Lopez Thank you. 🙏🏻I‘ll take that into consideration and hope with the time everything gets better

You just described me. Hang on in there x

I gope God give you someone who will keep on telling to you..that you are beautiful, and you are precious I hope you have someone that love you unconditionally

Sehun's Forehead same, i've had an ed for almost 2 years now

Can I ask what an ed is?

It's okay, getting a boyfriend is definitely not the indicator for being pretty or not babe. You should just feel pretty for you and yourself only. Hang in there, sweetie 🖤

@@lmnaurora1231 thanks a lot sweetie. I'm proud to say I'm doing well now, obviously not completely, but still I'm a lot better. Thank you seriously this made my day ♡

Nochu come thru Same, a guy called me ugly right in my face and I’ve changed just from that statement. But remember to value your opinion over other peoples. What other people think about you is none of your business, your gorgeous and you know that. Other people’s opinions won’t define who you are :)

@@nochucomethru467 I'm pretty sure you're extremely gorgeous!! I'm currently in high school and i struggle with the exact same thing. I have always felt jealous of the pretty girls who got all admiration from boys... Ever since i was younger, i always compared myself to others. I always feel terrible and anxious :( But,I'm very happy that you're getting better. You can make it. You have a beautiful heart and you're loved❤ Remember, there will always be someone who will love you for who you are,not for the way you look!

@@namjoo8592 I'm glad you think this way. Back then I don't even know that myself is a thing, I don't even know about my own existence that's why I kept torturing myself because of others opinion towards me, because I thought they define me. But now that's not true at all, now that I've realized that I exist. Keep thinking that way, no one deserves to be called ugly cause nobody is actually ugly, it's just that we don't meet the qualifications of the "society beauty standards", which is a total bullshit now that I've realized. They don't set the standards for us, we do that ourselves.

I'm the exact same, I haven't left in months :(

Elisa Campos At least your skin isn’t exposed to the sun. You’ll probably get nice clear skin.

@@NanaNEET Lol, actually yes (^^)

Same , i only go outside if im going to school or meet my friends for school related project. This sem was my worst because there were times i didnt go to school because the thought kept on attacking me. I almost thought of quitting because i cant focus. Good thing i didnt do it andnow im finally graduating college

@@NanaNEET A positive spin on this? I like that.

Try caring about someone else with REAL problems instead of only yourself. Try making OTHERS comfortable instead of waiting for them to make YOU comfortable. Geez.

@@BlueMeaney49 You act as if depression and mental health isn't a real problem? How about you put yourself in my shoes and in those who experience mental breakdowns constantly because us people keep allowing ourselves to be put down by others. Don't say anything if you're only ignorant and selfish.

You are right that was too much

Oml yes literally for every concern they were brought up.

Babe, i think you're very beautiful too. I can also relate to her and i have terrible anxiety,but you must know that your appearance doesn't define who you are. I hope you're getting better!!

@@bangtaeandsprite6337 OMG thank you so much. I hope you will deal with your anxiety too. You're such a beautiful and amazing person.

I see jimin ._.