I've Taken a Life. Ask Me Anything.
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@PsycHeal 2 жыл бұрын
Shout out to the girl who genuinely asked him how he's doing. It's hard not to judge someone in this situation and come from a place of empathizing.
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
Loving kindness.
@apecentury228 2 жыл бұрын
Im sorry but I personally wouldn't care. most of her questions were relating questions (different than the other people), so Im guessing she's a psych major. She was saying things like "how are you, nice to meet you, what gets you out of the bed in the morning?" like seriously? Of all the things you could say?
@musselmanmedia5236 2 жыл бұрын
he said he didnt have an oppurtunity to think....ya ok🤡🤡🤡
@xomnipresent8913 2 жыл бұрын
@@apecentury228 like what? Being nosy playing the devils advocate?
@apecentury228 2 жыл бұрын
@@xomnipresent8913 it's not nosy. You're trying to learn the truth of what happened. If you don't acknowledge that, then you're living in the dark
@danilou5149 2 жыл бұрын
This dude needs to go to high schools/colleges and speak about his experience, if he doesn't already.
@tamzidrahman2673 2 жыл бұрын
Or jail (again)
@vintagesparkles4289 2 жыл бұрын
@@tamzidrahman2673 why?
@tamzidrahman2673 2 жыл бұрын
@@vintagesparkles4289 his friends lives matter
@oh-ohstinky5819 2 жыл бұрын
@@tamzidrahman2673 tf??
@wolfpuppclips2371 2 жыл бұрын
@@vintagesparkles4289 I guess they meant that in a way to motivate the prisoners/convicts there to do better and move ahead in life. Maybe to help them get better and live to be a better person after their sentence. Edit: at least I hope that's what they meant 🥲 but apparently they did not.
@holasoykenzie2903 2 жыл бұрын
tell that he’s been through a lot of self healing because he’s so calm and collective about all of the questions
@tamborineman4704 2 жыл бұрын
He didn't seem calm in a healthy way to me. He seems anxious and bottled up. i hope he ries therapy again.
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
And? He kind of has to be...he knows he should be rotting in jail so...
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
This happened at 19, he is now in his early 30's, he's had a long time to digest it. That doesn't mean he's over it, it still holds a lot of weight for him, but moving away from where it happened has helped him.
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
@@mrfreeman1763 Okay and? Him getting helped shouldn’t be the aim cause he ain’t the victim. He shouldn’t gotten a sentence that was a little longer and he knows it.
@thewendigo9263 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 it’s a traumatic experience for everyone involved
@SimonZ 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for allowing me to share my story with more people. If there's one thing I want you to remember from my experience, it's this: In this world, our actions always lead to outcomes. It's up to each of us to recognize and understand why we take unnecessary risks or make life-altering decisions without considering the consequences sometimes. Only then do we learn from our actions and avoid succumbing to a reality we cannot even recognize. From my time on this earth, I've realized that life truly can be fragile if not respected. Allow yourself to find inner peace during tough times. Most of the time, we tend to hurt ourselves even more when we need help the most. If you find yourself in that dark place, reach out to someone! It allows for a time of self-reflection in order to break free from what clouds us from seeing clearly. I promise you, it can change everything... it did for me.
@gothicgolem2947 2 жыл бұрын
what do you mean do wait till its too late to hate yourself?
@narutohyuga1845 2 жыл бұрын
❤️
@asingh1174 2 жыл бұрын
It takes courage to accept your mistakes. Have faith💖
@DualityStellar 2 жыл бұрын
Respect to you, for going what you've gone through and having the courage to speak up.
@123Mathzak 2 жыл бұрын
Wait is this you in the video? This should get pinned, then.
@xSuperdogx 2 жыл бұрын
Officers letting off obviously drunk drivers is a slap in the face to everyone who is on the road driving sober.
@aaryalouise6391 2 жыл бұрын
And to all (direct or indirect) victims of DUIs
@DA-js7xz 2 жыл бұрын
Lol to you not understanding how cops are corrupt.
@essbee1641 2 жыл бұрын
The cop’s answer had me shook! Like seriously, you let drunk people off “at your discretion“!?
@kimberlyjennings618 2 жыл бұрын
@@DA-js7xz he’s not “corrupt” in the way people generally mean it toward cops - he’s a human who sometimes feels sympathy for people and let’s them go instead of making them suffer the full consequence of their actions. Some people would loose their career (especially military or govt employees), could lose their family, and could end up homeless from a DUI. They cost around $10,000 in legal and other fees (in California) plus other ramifications. So this isn’t some deep systemic issue with police corruption, he’s just a human doing his best. He has a tough job.
@WandyPaolaGalvezSolares 2 жыл бұрын
@@kimberlyjennings618 someone losing their career and money is always better than someone losing a life to a drunk driver
@SavageNextDoor 2 жыл бұрын
I hope people give him an actual chance. He made an awful mistake at 19, and has been deservedly punished for it. 8 years in jail + being socially excommunicated from everyone you loved except your parents. Completely unfortunate situation, and I hope people see this and NEVER think about drinking and driving.
@tamzidrahman2673 2 жыл бұрын
It was his choice to drink and then drive.
@yungmunyxo 2 жыл бұрын
@@suspiciouspooh5988 THIS
@S_J_banana 2 жыл бұрын
I know many people who drink and drive basically daily so it definitely wasn't a mistake seeing as he admitted to doing it prior
@dtulip58 2 жыл бұрын
He didn’t make a mistake, he made a decision.
@wiseguy240Winston 2 жыл бұрын
Cancel culture would never forgive him unfortunately
@qlumi7899 2 жыл бұрын
the police officer that admitted he let one or two people off for being drunk behind the wheel. if he keeps doing that, there will be a day he's going to regret it. if there's anything an officer should be harsh on, surely duis is one of them.
@Glendragon 2 жыл бұрын
a police officer should not be the judge of who should be punished or not, he should only enforce the law.
@perlaperez6663 2 жыл бұрын
Yes because if they are let off easy they will keep doing it again and again I’ve seen it with my own eyes
@WeiFinder 2 жыл бұрын
It is case by case though, it could be someone who it JUST over the alchool limit, but has his full wits about him well rested and hydrated driving the speed limit following all laws driving a low risk road with no previous infractions.. VS a very tired person just over the alchool limit with a dismissive attitude, driving kind of aggressive, etc
@punkybrewstar83 2 жыл бұрын
Regret because you caused harm to others, requires a conscience...
@punkybrewstar83 2 жыл бұрын
@@WeiFinder And it becomes very clear who you are...
@Queenb2001 2 жыл бұрын
I like that he challenge the cop with their "discretion talk". The amount of times I have heard people admit to being drunk and driving and being let go by cops is actually astonishing to me, and dismisses the seriousness of the matter.
@channy6995 2 жыл бұрын
Also that cops will harass and stop ppl for things like driving while black...
@DD-rh2sz 2 жыл бұрын
@@channy6995 yeah, your life is so much harder, we are giving you the pity you are seeking
@WeiFinder 2 жыл бұрын
@@channy6995 change where you live if that's the case
@savannahshane2231 2 жыл бұрын
@@WeiFinder Are you really so disconnected from reality that your response to systematic racism in the US police force is, "Why don't you just move?"
@WeiFinder 2 жыл бұрын
@@savannahshane2231 I am connected to reality enough to known systemic racism in the US police force is a nuanced and controversial topic, high crime areas have policy ammends which unfortunately typically affect minorities (not inherently racism), but my point remains if Channy feels that way, find a way to move somewhere with low crime rates and policies will be softer. I used to live somewhere with high crime and more heavy police presence and intervention, not anymore, literally almost no cops or crime where I live now, no higher rate of minority arrests, etc. Plus not only the US exists.
@liorahlii1714 2 жыл бұрын
That girl that asked him about him mental health was so sweet, I hope he knows that he's loved and I pray he forgives himself.
@AC-mp7cx 2 жыл бұрын
............................. i loved how we forgive some murderers but not others
@Lynn-iw2ds 2 жыл бұрын
true :( so wholesome
@flooryan8332 2 жыл бұрын
@@AC-mp7cx could you clarify?
@esotericdoll120 2 жыл бұрын
@@AC-mp7cx ….because some people are truly remorseful while others are not
@daiz.5648 2 жыл бұрын
@@AC-mp7cx well life is not really just black and white and there exists the gray line. however, with all due respect, one have the rights to choose whether they want to forgive him or not. so if you don’t, that’s completely fine.
@TyLee96 2 жыл бұрын
If you've driven drunk before and can't control your drunk self enough to not do it again, you don't drink in the first place. Sober you has to make that decision for drunk you.
@potatogaming4663 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, he knew what he was doing, dude did it 5 times
@patate5301 2 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done for someone who's an alcoholic though.
@potatogaming4663 2 жыл бұрын
@@patate5301 That's not an excuse, nice try
@caitlin5189 2 жыл бұрын
100 percent.
@mokie7421 2 жыл бұрын
@@potatogaming4663 addiction?
@Wolfepac 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who has also taken a life in self defense it’s not a feeling you can ever get rid of
@heebyjeeby420 2 жыл бұрын
@@you-vy1ik dude wtf, did you not read the rest of their post
@elisabethopp1 2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry. You are so strong.
@thatoneguy2033 2 жыл бұрын
@@heebyjeeby420 he read it he is just like "WHAT?!" in his mind. Shouldn't really be a surprise though stuff like this happens everyday and people deal with it differently emotionally.
@user-s6x17t61ff 2 жыл бұрын
Did u go to jail or did u got away with it calling it "self defense"?
@thatoneguy2033 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-s6x17t61ff now that's messed up
@dillongrady7659 2 жыл бұрын
Damn. Respect to this dude for answering all their questions
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
This was a big step for him, I'm glad they had him on.
@vivienm2037 Жыл бұрын
I would never speak to him again.
@jazzcl7 Жыл бұрын
@@vivienm2037 why
@NanoNate 2 жыл бұрын
he definitely has ptsd... so sad for both him and those affected by drunk driving. I hope he can fully recover one day and forgive himself
@AC-mp7cx 2 жыл бұрын
bro people on drunk drivers videos of being convicted literally demean, bully them, and celebrate them being locked up forever. The human habit of hypocrisy and inconsistency is wild
@mydogeatspuke 2 жыл бұрын
@Kelly M your partner experienced something so terrible that it caused PTSD and you made it about you hahahahahaha
@mydogeatspuke 2 жыл бұрын
@Kelly M you're not his "fam" though, and if you want to educate yourself then maybe you should do that instead of complaining about how hard his suffering is for you. Imagine how much harder it is for him, you know, the one who's actually suffering? 🙄
@mydogeatspuke 2 жыл бұрын
@Kelly M nah, it's not like that at all. If someone else struggling with a mental illness effects your life past feeling bad for them then you need to get some therapy to figure out why you're so self absorbed. Your perspective is ridiculous, I'm not sure how much clearer I can make this.
@eimear8589 2 жыл бұрын
@@mydogeatspuke you're very wrong here. There's something called secondary/ vicarious traumatisation in which close friends, family, emergency workers and therapists can suffer from when being in close emotional contact with someone suffering from ptsd. It's been found in the families of veterans, fire fighters as well as those who are close to someone with trauma. I literally just learnt about this a few weeks ago doing my psych degree. Please look it up and educate yourself and don't dismiss those who suffer from it
@oIiviarodrigo 2 жыл бұрын
the cop letting people off is terrifying. there’s no way to justify their actions and people should know better. knowing that there are cops who let people off the hook just because they “feel bad” makes me feel so unsafe
@gregstunts347 2 жыл бұрын
While there isn’t a way to justify a crime, there are cases where charges aren’t necessary to prevent it from happening again. An unfortunate part of the law is that criminal records can bar you from doing things your whole life for something you may do in your twenties. The people that are let off are never murderers, or people who perpetrated the crime on purpose, so your fear of living among “criminals” is irrational.
@boy.erased 2 жыл бұрын
@@gregstunts347 definitely not irrational
@gregstunts347 2 жыл бұрын
@@boy.erased I meant that what he was worrying over was an irrational fear; a fear over something ultimately harmless (like being scared of zombies, which are fictional). Being scared of having a few people being let off, as if they are going to do something horrible directly to you, is an irrational fear. I didn't mean his argument was irrational, I probably should've worded my sentence better.
@Haylla2008 2 жыл бұрын
@@gregstunts347 It's not irrational for someone to fear that there are cops letting people off for drunk driving. There are how many cops that could be potentially letting drunk drivers go? Every police officer has discretionary power so every police officer has the power to let a drunk driver go free and every person they let go free might feel emboldened to drive with higher levels of alcohol. There are about 650,000 police officers in the U.S. If all of them let off one drunk driver a week, that's 1 drunk driver free for every 6 sq. miles of area. Take into account that people don't drive over quite a bit of area in the U.S. and that number becomes even more concentrated. About 1/3 of vehicle deaths in the U.S. involve drunk driving.
@Rafulefou 2 жыл бұрын
@@gregstunts347 You lost me at zombie's fear is irrational. ^^°
@ky4864 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been the family member of someone on the “victim” side of a DUI when my ex-step dad drove my sister (his daughter) into a ditch while drunk and flipped the car. It was terrible and tragic. But what I personally have learned is that anger doesn’t change the situation and that nobody should be reduced to the worst thing they’ve ever done. This guy made a mistake at 19. And he’s thought about it everyday since then. Idk. I know everyone is entitled to their own feelings about something like this, but for me, I feel like him living with the guilt is the worst punishment imaginable. I don’t see any reason why he also needs the world’s condemnation. I think he deserves to be more than this.
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
Forgiveness is the key to healing. You’re a wise person.
@annahclaire1765 2 жыл бұрын
perfectly said Ky
@monikamalinowski 2 жыл бұрын
He reflected on his horrible mistake and changed. People who don't, don't deserve forgiveness
@mumbimutoko3006 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes the hardest person to forgive, is yourself
@makusuwerusan7390 2 жыл бұрын
Your words are kind and true. I hope he sees this.
@TheLovelyAliP Жыл бұрын
The girl who is a recovering alcoholic who's had DUIs seemed to genuinely care about his wellbeing, which is a perfect example of how you tend to care more about someone and empathize with them when you relate to their experiences.
@sageashley 2 жыл бұрын
My best friend was in a terrible wreck. No alcohol involved but in a car full of 5 teens, 2 died and 2 came very close. The driver turned his head to watch a video someone in the backseat was trying to show him and veered off into a ditch and hit a tree. I think about it a lot and wonder what that guilt must be like. He was completely uninjured, meanwhile everyone else either died, lost an eye, lost a kidney, collapsed lungs etc. I remember seeing my friend once she got out of the icu and I'll never forget her reaction to being told that she was the only one to survive in the backseat, and that her BFF died next to her when a toolbox from the back of the car flew up and hit her in the head, also breaking her neck. Life is cruel.
@kaitlinelisha7826 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that sounds absolutely terrifying for your friend and I’m wishing a quick recovery for your friend and anyone else affected (both mentally and physically).
@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 2 жыл бұрын
I feel so bad for the driver. He made the tiniest mistake and it had horrible, enormous effects... And I'm sorry for your friend's loss.
@saravananjeeva5258 2 жыл бұрын
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 feeling bad for the driver means u pity him , unlesshe reflects and is suffering from guilt from the accident he caused , I wouldnt give him my pity
@IndianaJonas96 2 жыл бұрын
@@saravananjeeva5258 ok and literally every single human being would do that except those who have diagnosable emotional issues or other conditions. Things they cannot help. So
@connaeris8230 2 жыл бұрын
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 "the tiniest mistake"? Lol, I don't even answer phone calls while I'm driving. Feeling empathy towards people shouldn't entail underplaying the severity of their actions.
@cl4za 2 жыл бұрын
the police officer shouldn’t let them off. dui’s are so serious. the fact people can THINK about getting in the car drunk is beyond me. he shouldn’t care about the case. call a spade a spade. it’s a dui. do not let any slide no matter who it is.
@lisaaaarg01 2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree, honestly surprised he even admitted it because its a very controversial thing to say you're an active police officer and have let drunk drivers off the hook 😬
@jasminecota4296 2 жыл бұрын
@@Lehpurdzzz "obey traffic laws more than usual" is simply untrue if you are intoxicated... what a poor justification
@saravananjeeva5258 2 жыл бұрын
@@jasminecota4296 I havent drank before but I am assuming like everything theres levels to drinking , so drinking a tiny a bit and waiting for a am hour would be fine enough to make u sensible enough to drive
@surfinbanana6419 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah but most times they're too intoxicated to even "think"
@jasminecota4296 2 жыл бұрын
@@saravananjeeva5258 yes, hence why there is a measure of intoxication that is legal when driving. I am simply debunking their statement that any amount of alcohol can actually help one focus better, which is simply untrue
@ameliakhan5881 2 жыл бұрын
big shoutout to the guy cos just him being on here shows how much self development he has done and how willing he is to educate others on the situation also the girl who asked him how he was doing is a gem
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
It doesn’t matter. Two people are not here because of him
@Ceerads 2 жыл бұрын
And the woman who is an alcoholic in recovery. She was excellent.
@hottieschicken 2 жыл бұрын
@@Ceerads i believe she was also the woman who asked him how he was doing :) she’s just all-around great!
@Ceerads 2 жыл бұрын
@@hottieschicken Yes, she is!
@dandantsm6560 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 mmm... yeah the two people who probably got in also knowing he was drunk... anyway he got punished for what he did and learned his lesson(i hope so, seems like he did) and he also made part of a video to share his experience and maybe help people so they don't do the same thing he did He has probably even helped save some lives telling the cop it's not OK to let anyone off in that kind of situation, maybe that cop will stop letting people just go after drunk driving because of what this guy told him.
@drewkennedy2870 2 жыл бұрын
I wish someone would have asked him more about his experiences in the justice system, such as if there were any rehabilitative programs while he was incarcerated or if there were any programs after he got out to provide support. Although he did mention that he basically stared at a wall for 8 years, so probably not…
@mercygirl317 2 жыл бұрын
i wanted to know more about the friends that died, like did their families ever forgive him at all since their kids were all drinking together or did they stay angry at him cuz he sadly was the driver..its an unfortunate tragedy. i wouldve asked though.
@meghnakanwat7075 2 жыл бұрын
There are at some jails & at some no such thing exists.
@sunshine3914 2 жыл бұрын
A lot of criminals will tell you there’s better access to drugs & alcohol while than outside prison. If prisons were actually designed for rehabilitation & not for profit, there wouldn’t be an revolving door.
@meghnakanwat7075 2 жыл бұрын
@@sunshine3914 Actually drugs & alcohol in prison are quite expensive compared to outside as it is only given to those paying the most for it. So, yes it’s available in prison but not that easily as you may think.
@punkybrewstar83 2 жыл бұрын
He answered the question and so did you. Prison isn't about rehabilitation.
@stephanielee1261 2 жыл бұрын
My best friend lost his life because of a drink driving accident. He was a passenger and one of my other friends was the driver. It was upsetting to see just how many people turned against my friend who was driving the car, almost as if they acted as though he meant for it to happen. Of course he didn't. I can't imagine the guilt he has to live with every day. I lost my best friend, but I also know that my other friend didn't intend for any of it to happen. Nobody wins in a situation like that.
@Jessica-ql5ji 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss
@josilyn5419 2 жыл бұрын
i’m so sorry for your loss stephanie. this comment is so important and i appreciate you for giving us comment viewers another perspective. u are loved and important. hope ur doing okay:)
@DA-js7xz 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed OP
@wombat4583 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes people react that way not because they thought someone meant for it to happen but because their own mind won't let them forget their involvement. Even if someone generally understands or wants to forgive you brain can supply small microaggressions as to why they shouldn't forget or let go. Sympathy should go all around and be extended to those people too.
@gerkinmckay1649 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss, all my best wishes
@gracie3827 2 жыл бұрын
I'd be interested to see this but with someone who has taken a life on purpose; someone who's murdered someone
@monb3305 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah... ideally someone who did it in self defense though lol
@Vins663 2 жыл бұрын
There is plenty of interviews with serial killers on KZfaq.
@lijntje266 2 жыл бұрын
i was thinking the same thing
@deagle7602 2 жыл бұрын
He chose to drink and drive, so he did it on purpose
@carrotcake6002 2 жыл бұрын
@@deagle7602 I agree, the guy even seemingly used it as an excuse to dissociate himself from the need to express any remorse to the victim's parents or friends. He kinda brushes over the sentiment with 'i understand why they wouldn't want to speak to me' as opposed to 'i understand I have potentially ruined a dozen people's lifes'.
@Josh-fj9hi 2 жыл бұрын
The dynamic between the cop and the guy who was convicted is honestly really interesting. Because you can see how the cops reasoning is based on him not wanting to ruin someone's life when this could be a result of terrible circumstances. But with the convicted guy you can see that he's like no even though you don't want to ruin their lives with a DUI you have to. Because if you don't give them that wake up call they could go on to ruin someone else's life, and so it's required because a DUI is by far better than letting them off and having a situation like himself
@gray_gogy 2 жыл бұрын
You can see the guy is almost angry at the cop. He doesn't really show it but it's there. A certain intensity
@lulutunes7496 2 жыл бұрын
I was in a car with someone who swore they were sober, he almost rolled the car and then got pulled over, but they let him go. it was terrifying. I wish they hadn't.
@user-ec9yu1ep2j 2 жыл бұрын
You can see in this guy's face that he's been at war with himself over what happened for a long time. I know that expression; people mistake it for anger, but really it's disappointment and frustration.
@nicotinedietcoke 2 жыл бұрын
It was really powerful when the one guy said “no, of course not” when he asked if he considered him a killer after hearing what he had to say.
@MN-jd4xs 2 жыл бұрын
yeah, i thought the same
@infinixhot4pro672 2 жыл бұрын
@@MN-jd4xs same
@deathbloom27 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@PrincessLioness 2 жыл бұрын
Why did no one ask about how the parents/family of the his friends feel about him. I think it’s different when it’s someone you know vs a stranger.
@Ambi1021 2 жыл бұрын
That's what I was wondering.
@mokie7421 2 жыл бұрын
It's the most important things they like to cut out.
@degstoll 2 жыл бұрын
They could've asked but it was cut out, that's why there are no repeated questions
@becca-et7fu 2 жыл бұрын
at the beginning he was asked how it affected his relationship with his parents and after the relationships he had in that environment. he said his dad forgave him and is very supportive, his mom passed away before the accident. and the friends he had at college etc all cut him off.
@PrincessLioness 2 жыл бұрын
@@becca-et7fu Yeah, but it was pretty generalized and didn’t address how the parents felt.
@delaneykeller1389 2 жыл бұрын
One heavy question I would have asked is what his relationship like with the parents of those friends or if they ever exchanged words after the event.
@0fficer_friendly 2 жыл бұрын
@@jorrdiiii can you delete this please.
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
He has a YT channel discussing his experiences, there is a link in the description. Some of the parents fought to have Simon's time reduced because they all knew each other and knew it was a mistake. They lost 2 lives to the accident and didn't want to see Simon lose his too. These weren't strangers, they were long time friends and knew each other's families. Anyone with a clear head knew this was bad enough as it was and didn't see Simon as a bad guy, they all were intoxicated and all chose to get in the car, I believe the passengers had actually pushed Simon to come because he had a ride and it was one of their birthdays. Simon takes full responsibility for his actions. I've know him for 2 years and can attest that he's paid more than enough for it. Learn from his mistakes and be humble. It's easy for a lot of people in this comment section to assume the deceased had no responsibility and try to be self-righteous for them, but hind sight is 20/20 and kicking someone when they are down is easy.
@MBBB15 2 жыл бұрын
"Mr Freeman" is the drunk driver from the video. Notice how he has intimate knowledge of what happened and speaks in third person.
@delaneykeller1389 2 жыл бұрын
@@MBBB15 ?
@MBBB15 2 жыл бұрын
@@delaneykeller1389 I'm referring to the KZfaq commenter "Mr Freeman" above me. He is the drunk driver in the video
@dipfuk 2 жыл бұрын
The officer seriously admitted to letting drunk drivers go. Smh.
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
We are all human and make mistakes. We all have our own perspectives and make decisions based on them. Hopefully he learned to see that a dui charge wake up call is better than a manslaughter charge.
@claralobato8479 2 жыл бұрын
not trying to justify his actions but i think he’d let drunk drivers as like people that can actually have a couple of drinks and be ok, ofc i do not condone in anyway, but having a DUI and actually being a felony will turn ur life around, and its understandable but tbh if it was a first time I’d hope someone like that police office would give a second chance to whomever was stoped and that he had the judgment to call that action and let them go, if anything its on the cop that let him go too.
@SamSphinx Жыл бұрын
@@mrfreeman1763 Cops can't afford to make mistakes.
@re9697 2 жыл бұрын
I almost died in a dui crash after being drugged . I’m so grateful I survived and have the chance to learn from it and it gives me confidence seeing people in similar positions grow and learn from tragedy
@JoseGomez-jr8hn 2 жыл бұрын
But being drugged isn't your fault.
@albertovaldez4320 2 жыл бұрын
My uncle was a alcoholic and one time he was drunk driving and a police officer stopped him, they talked for a while and then he let my uncle go on his way... idk what the police officer told my uncle but since that day my uncle has not touch any alcohol, he felt grateful idk how to describe it but now my uncle has 2 years sober
@Lee-xw7gf 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who has been around AA my whole life through family including my dad, it was no shock that the woman who is the recovering alcoholic was the one asking “how are YOU”
@CCCookieCia 2 жыл бұрын
The sadness in every single words he said is real. I hope he can find real people who can accept his reality
@lounirs 2 жыл бұрын
This guy is really brave to show his face and share his story, knowing he's going to be judged
@alexg2140 10 ай бұрын
it’s not common to know someone who’s taken a life.
@urmom3289 2 жыл бұрын
That’s actually really crazy. Can’t imagine what he saw.
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
He has a YT channel, link is in the description. It covers various aspects of the situation.
@faysmit4799 2 жыл бұрын
He is so brave for doing this. I have so much respect for that he has the courage to answer the questions
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
How are people like you complimenting him? He is no where near a victim and two individuals are gone because of him
@faysmit4799 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 some people have sympathy you should try it sometime
@faysmit4799 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 and people like you.... you dont even know me.
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
@@faysmit4799 some people have more common sense and knowledge. You should try it sometime. It’s so easy for you to say all this garbage when you’re not the person that was close to the two individuals
@faysmit4799 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 it takes courage to answer this questions. I didnt say anything about if he is a victim or not. Talking about a crime isnt easy
@joanabarros7458 2 жыл бұрын
This really made me feel for him, but truth be told had the two passengers been someone I knew and loved I would feel differently.
@Liam-iv7wk 2 жыл бұрын
The hardest thing to do in the world ever is to forgive.
@crystalcovington1733 2 жыл бұрын
I want to commend Simon for being vulnerable & honest. I takes a strong person to participate in a video like this. I wish you nothing but the best.
@mimiapples5994 2 жыл бұрын
You can tell the kid in white's going through something,hope he gets through it
@jessikarabbid4720 2 жыл бұрын
As a teen I used to get into vehicles with people under the influence all the time. I knew it was wrong, I knew that there was a chance I wouldn't make it home. I understand that not everyone is that "self-aware", but I definitely was responsible for myself being there.. My point is unless you forced your friends into the car, they made that choice too. It ended so tragically and I'm sorry for everyone involved including the driver.. 🖤
@jamesgillam6478 2 жыл бұрын
I've never driven drunk, but like most of you reading this, I've texted while driving. Nearly any of us could have ended up in this guys position.
@americatochile 2 жыл бұрын
well, he was drinking and his friends were probably drinking aswell and decided to get in the car with him. unfortunate circumstance for all. r.i.p. to the friends.
@lexm17 2 жыл бұрын
Yet he decided to drive. Just cos they were all in the car doesn’t mean one of them had to drive, he took the decision and cost 2 lives. They’re no point in saying the others were probably drunk too when we don’t know the full story
@samtae6217 2 жыл бұрын
That’s not only “unfortunate” though, it was his fault. Of course, he has been punished enough and is a different person now that deserves a second chance, but he CHOSE to drive while being drunk. Don’t pretend noone’s at fault here.
@americatochile 2 жыл бұрын
@@samtae6217 I never said that it wasn't his fault, but I guess I didn't explain my viewpoint- I don't think he should feel like a killer. It isn't like he premeditated what was going to happen. It just happened from bad choices.
@lijntje266 2 жыл бұрын
@@americatochile i agree with you. we all have our own accountability. just as "he decided to drive" the others decided to get into the car with him. they could have not done that or fixed something else. they could have make a different choice. we dont even know if he was pushed to drive. like others tought he was fine.. so just drive kinda vibe. it is just sad for everyone.
@americatochile 2 жыл бұрын
@@lijntje266 i agree ! 😔
@tahiya450 2 жыл бұрын
You can tell how emotional he was whilst answering these questions but I'm glad he did. He seems as if he's trying his best to become better especially when he answered back to the officer. He understands how sacred human life is, hope he find inner peace.
@eosjdjsjsjfjchxjx1888 2 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to feel sorry for him for me because I almost lost my dad and brother to a drunk driver when I was 8. There are real families behind these accidents who unfortunately were not as lucky as my family was. Don’t “wish you could go back and change things.” Just don’t put yourself in a situation to where this could happen. Always have your rides home pre-arranged. It’s honestly not hard.
@josephagan7278 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. People who have sympathy for this POS obviously haven't dealt with the horror of drunk drivers or the aftermath. The fact that he selfishly ended 2 young lives that night and only got 8 years is nauseating. Dude should still be rotting in a cage.
@lijntje266 2 жыл бұрын
they were hit i am guessing from your story? not in a car with someone who was drunk?
@shaaylaaaa 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly I agree...there is absolutely no reason to drive drunk or high. Especially now with all the ride share companies in most cities.
@londynmurphy8818 2 жыл бұрын
ok.
@alarmedllama5910 2 жыл бұрын
Can’t change the past. All he can do is wish he could go back, feel bad and do better
@ReddCinema 2 жыл бұрын
JUBILEE NEVER DISAPPOINTS
@Rain87166 2 жыл бұрын
they literally dissapointed last time by getting sssniper woof on the video 😅.
@foxyratman 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rain87166 yupp
@jai5053 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rain87166 They didn’t do just her though they bring in a lot of big KZfaqrs that react to their channels as a thank you to them.
@user-ji7ik7ef3s 2 жыл бұрын
i agree, the cut never disappoints- oh wait
@tranc3ify 2 жыл бұрын
You can feel how much this person is intelligente, aware, conscious and honest about everything he said.
@Ivy-ep1di 2 жыл бұрын
I would've asked a couple questions about his late friends and their families... If he has apologized to them or something... he probably did, but just curious on how it went down with their families, how he handled it and if they got their closure
@kelseyjay3733 2 жыл бұрын
Yes I was waiting for this
@user-xy2fn7dk9t 2 жыл бұрын
What is the point of being a Police officer that lets drunk people go. Speed tickets I get, but not this.
@ezra7088 2 жыл бұрын
They need to get medications and treatments and there should be a way the police officer and legally mandate that that happens. The problem is the police officer only has the option of throwing them in jail or letting them go, and either option is bad. It also leads to black people getting taken in more often
@Liam-iv7wk 2 жыл бұрын
Hmmm..... Legally a cop could write them up but then fail to show up to the trial thus leading to the charges being thrown out, but most people don't think that way.
@bklynkat23 2 жыл бұрын
They always find such unique people for these ask me anything videos. I love it
@Therealinkedmommy 2 жыл бұрын
AMAZING and wish this kind of segment/video would be done more often!
@6667cxcvckima Жыл бұрын
Tears of a tiger, amazing book and I remember feeling so much empathy for Andy. Amazing read for any parents of young adults in need of reminders of the dangers of drinking and driving
@tediaxmonetize Жыл бұрын
You can tell he's collected but will forever see the world tinted grey. This was very informative. Happy recovery in society
@elaine378 2 жыл бұрын
Loved this video. NEVER get in a car with someone who has drank- even if they say drink doesn’t impact them because they’ve a high tolerance or that they always drive after drinking or if you’re dirt broke. DO NOT GET IN. It’s better safe than sorry. Order that Uber, or walk more to get that public transport or swallow your pride and call for a lift! I know a lot of my friends think they’re living in a movie and that they’re ‘wild’ for going along with it: but it’s not cool. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, value your safety and others’ safety over the simple short term gain.
@skyspruill 2 жыл бұрын
I love the conversation he had with the cop.
@stonkmaster9122 2 жыл бұрын
Wow these People are just so calm.
@sunshine3914 2 жыл бұрын
Just the other day I heard a youngish KZfaqr say, “I finally learned that alcohol has many drawbacks, but most of all, I realize that it steals precious time that I’ll never get back, & I’m not letting it take another minute.”.
@weedshapedcookies507 Жыл бұрын
It's so true. A lot of people are not even present in their own life. Sometimes unfortunately it does take a tradgedy to realize things for what they are and be greatful for every moment. Thanks for sharing.
@greatlakes4753 Жыл бұрын
Not sure if we've passed the point already or not but distracted driving (specifically talking, texting) was rapidly catching up with drunk driving as a factor in crashes and fatalities in my state yet the penalties weren't anywhere near comparable. How does everyone feel about this issue? It seems to me like most people at some point in the last 20 years anyway, have driven while distracted.
@Rat_Speed Жыл бұрын
as a teen this really put some thought inside of my head thank you simon
@EfiLovesBooks Жыл бұрын
Incredible series. This story, in particular, is incredibly moving. The discussion over how long a person should be held accountable for a mistake is always challenging, in particular when the poor choice was made at such a young age.
@yukinoshita9001 2 жыл бұрын
More power to you. It's almost surprising to think that how different yet how similar our lives can be. Only if we can try to actually understand a person's perspective towards something, and question it, 'why does he think so?' instead of discarding it away; we can learn so so much from people from the most traumatic to most normal backgrounds. PS: It doesn't take a tragic accident to make you realize the simplest lessons. A minute of thinking and admittance does.
@sparkynutters690 Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry but I feel like these people didn’t ask the questions they would have asked if there wasn’t a camera around. How come no one asked if he ever had contact with the victims family? They held back. But props to this dude for having the courage to sit through this to spread awareness about drunk driving
@aasthaaaaa09 Жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking..
@KissMyLocs 2 жыл бұрын
That kid that asked the killer question got nervous. I think independently he would have thought he was a killer.
@dyinginsidelol 2 жыл бұрын
nah he was just empathetic and cared for his feelings.
@tamzidrahman2673 2 жыл бұрын
@@dyinginsidelol nah he deserves to rot in jail. His friends lives matter
@Noa...... 2 жыл бұрын
Well, he did choose to drink while driving, which led to deaths. Normally, one would have designated driver, call a cab, or not drink alone in public. But then again, he was barely an adult.
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
@@tamzidrahman2673 you’re def incredibly hard on yourself
@cameronhines4726 2 жыл бұрын
@@tamzidrahman2673 his friends were probably drunk too
@gabrielakaez7330 2 жыл бұрын
I personally don’t think he’s an awful person and I don’t think he’s a killer he deserves to be forgiven for something that he didn’t mean to do. Everyone learns for their own mistakes and we should be able to forgive people.
@realrx2306 2 жыл бұрын
its really hard to feel bad for him since he literally stated that he did it 6 times before this incident happened. he was fully aware of his actions and didnt feel bad about anything until something actually occurred
@DA-js7xz 2 жыл бұрын
@@realrx2306 you sound naive af.
@mydogeatspuke 2 жыл бұрын
@@DA-js7xz staying in reality where facts exist instead of all this feelings nonsense is naive? He told us all in the video who he is. He was getting drunk and driving frequently before this happened. He was forced to stop because this terrible thing happened. It would never have happened if not for him making the choice to drink and drive. Repeatedly. Some people don't deserve to be forgiven, or sympathy, or empathy. It doesn't make someone naive to see things for what they really are. He clearly still has a bad attitude, it oozes out of him and his words. This isn't someone who's remorseful and asking for forgiveness, it's someone who's annoyed that part of their life was stolen as a consequence of their own actions.
@osiris4883 2 жыл бұрын
@@mydogeatspuke That was who he was. He's clearly not the same person anymore so why reduce someone to their worst mistakes after they've learned through consequences? He wasn't there to ask for forgiveness. He was there to answer their questions.
@osiris4883 2 жыл бұрын
@@realrx2306 Yeah and that's who he was in the past
@syndicateci526 2 жыл бұрын
He sounds like he’s on the verge of tears the whole time
@elin_ 2 жыл бұрын
Tbh.. I feel sorry for him. I hope he finds new friends and some kind of support. I haven't had a problem with alcohol, but I know how complete loneliness feels like because of my depression.. and I carry some guilt as well. It f*cking eats you from the inside.
@hughmungas2883 Жыл бұрын
love jubilee's content. this is essential background noise while wfh
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
Jubilee is a channel that centers true compassion.
@NickzAndMikz 2 жыл бұрын
It's interesting that you can see his method of coping, which seems to be detaching himself from his past and avoiding it. He comes across as stoic and it's really interesting to watch
@picorrow 2 жыл бұрын
I hate it. It's like he hasn't taken responsibility for what he did. He just blames everything else at the time for his actions when he was 19 rather than his own stupidity and recklessness.
@stephenking9114 2 жыл бұрын
@@picorrow did you see his answer at the end? The dude clearly blames himself. I would be surprised if he wasn't suffering from some form of depression
@DrKatyCook Жыл бұрын
What you’re describing is exactly what happens when we experience trauma, because the events that happened are literally too painful for our brain to compute/wrap its mind around. (I’m a clinical psychologist, and have also been in a situation similar to Simon’s, and whenever I have to tell anyone about the accident, I always think how odd it is to hear myself describe something so horrific in such a detached way.)
@officebatman9411 2 жыл бұрын
I feel for him so much and I am so glad all the people here were vey nice and understanding
@livluvsu. 2 жыл бұрын
this is such a valuable video and message to have on the internet. I hope this videos saves at least one life
@treywong5821 Жыл бұрын
When she asked about his mental health it really struck home
@_f.u.a.n1725 2 жыл бұрын
:( I want to hug him so badly. he didn't want to do it intentionally at all. my goodness.
@merrold4233 2 жыл бұрын
These are extremely interesting, for someone that is going through anything, they can relate and emphasize with struggle in general. Let's people find there way, so keep making them!
@glomnsfw Жыл бұрын
i got drunk last weekend and before getting intoxicated i figured i could drive the car with my friend and brother. thankfully people were around to knock sense into my head and i called my mom to pick us up when the party ended. im so glad i didn’t get behind the wheel, because i literally could’ve been this guy.
@aussiedays7344 2 жыл бұрын
He sounds calm but seems so sad. I feel so bad for him.
@michaelp9061 2 жыл бұрын
Hard hitting topic. Thanks for this interview
@user-yb7kk8pj7p 2 жыл бұрын
this happened recently near my town i feel so bad for both kids involved
@amberxamber 2 жыл бұрын
This makes u so thankful for all that the body can do for u. His body holds in so much trauma from the mistake (bad decision) he made at 19. He cannot change the past, but can shape the future of his life and try to heal his trauma. I think forgiveness will be a great goal for him. His intention was not to allow his friends to pass. His choices that night were influenced by alcohol and immaturity. He to does deserve peace.
@im_just_vidu 2 жыл бұрын
I can't imagine how traumatising it is. Knowing that you were the reason that someone isn't alive anymore and having to live with it. Getting judged by society everyday and waking up everyday with those vivid memories and thoughts.
@JVanProduction 2 жыл бұрын
I think it’s brave and vulnerable that he allowed people to ask him questions about a tragic event that happened. But I do find it interesting how he tried to separate himself somewhat from the questions. He wouldn’t say “I” in a lot of the answers. Instead he would say “you”. From my perspective, he was emotionally distancing himself which could be a coping mechanism.
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
Compassion is a wisdom, and it’s a practice of holding empathy for everyone, even those who do terrible things you would never do.
@itsnatemate7697 2 жыл бұрын
Easier to say when you’re not the one close to the two people that lost their lives because of him
@jakehoon69 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 exactly
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 not really. Like I just said, it’s a practice. The more you practice the easier it gets. I look at suffering as a whole.
@sneakytacos773 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 also, if you’re the person who lost someone, and you DONT choose forgiveness and compassion, you’ll be broken for the rest of your life. You closed your heart & you’ll never be able to open it. Compassion is always the way.
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 The families forgave him and fought to reduce his time, you seem to like popping off at the top about stuff you don't know anything about. Let's hope when the day comes where you get humbled, you get off much easier than most. Self-righteous d-bag that you are.
@slickman5969 2 жыл бұрын
LOL the cop just kept digging himself deeper in the hole
@beautifulrecovery2337 Жыл бұрын
I love how most of them genuinely cared for him and wanted to care for him.
@Jasminelovesyouxo 2 жыл бұрын
At my high school, they do the “every 15 minutes” presentation. He would be an amazing addition to that!
@elenapic6859 2 жыл бұрын
I've been sober for ten years, also recovering alcoholic. I drunk drove a lot. I have recurring dreams of being in a car that I cannot stop and I feel that's also related to trauma and remembering those situations.
@anoukfleur2513 Жыл бұрын
This video was really meaningful to me. I think it's about trauma as much as it's about being the being the reason someone dies specifically, and with the trauma I relate a lot. I get peeved whenever people want to look at the positive side of trauma but I understand you'll always have people that take comfort in that.
@3cheeseup 2 жыл бұрын
In my eyes this guy deserves his second chance. Hope he will see this as such and makes the most out it.
@paigemarie3646 2 жыл бұрын
You can see the pain in his eyes
@Poorpixie 2 жыл бұрын
What a powerful video. Thank you for sharing.
@selihom. 11 ай бұрын
i love how he was so open to questions and didnt get mad when people asked "sensitive" questions. seems like such a chill guy in general.
@keziarhodes4950 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Simon, if you're reading the comments, thank you for sharing your story. I hope you know you are worthy of love, compassion and forgiveness. I hope the world extends this to you and I hope you are able to feel it yourself.
@owennielsen9792 Жыл бұрын
Wow, I feel terrible for him. You can see the sadness on his face like he’s on the verge of tears. Hopefully he finds peace
@itsnatemate7697 Жыл бұрын
He doesn’t deserve ir
@thephoenix7090 Жыл бұрын
@@itsnatemate7697 wdym he doesn't deserve it, he regrets it, if he is actually remorseful, you deserve forgiveness
@itsnatemate7697 Жыл бұрын
@@thephoenix7090 So if I unalive two people I knew by doing a certain thing ACTIVELY while knowing of the possible life risks, I deserve forgiveness
@Eduardo-xy8jj Жыл бұрын
I see a beautiful soul. Wish could give a hug.
@courtney9213 2 жыл бұрын
Bless this guy for being open and honest. I know it has to be hard to talk about
@Marieq 2 жыл бұрын
I wish someone asked him about the victim's parents, and if he's talked to them.
@mrfreeman1763 2 жыл бұрын
He has a YT channel, link in the description if you are looking for more details. Some of the parents fought to reduce his sentence. One mother wrote him regularly when he was locked up, unfortunately she passed away before he got out.
@Marieq 2 жыл бұрын
@@mrfreeman1763 OK great, thank you for the reply. I will check it out, have a great day
@isaiah4tone 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly, the only question I would have asked him would be "could I give you a hug?". He looks like he needs someone (likely a stranger---not to leave his father out) to tell him that he's loved and that what he did is forgiven, that what he did is in the past.
@Ravensclawx07 2 жыл бұрын
That last line actually made me cry
@bj_ohnson Жыл бұрын
I got a DUI when I was 22 and it was a total eye opener. It changed everything. I never drink and drive now and I hardly drink period.
@mutsawashe 2 жыл бұрын
We need more videos like this....
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