Well I will use this pin to send a message to anyone who feels as if they have to be something more... Important people like Elon Musk or others are no more important than you yeah you heard me right and I am NOT liying I will explain why now. So yeah important people isn't as important as they seem to be, because truly what they discover just isn't something they did themselves, (in most cases and actually when it isn't this way is when it is people that is WAY less famous) but why again? Because they are just like the conductor of a orchestra they just maintain everything together and give a bit of guidance which is something very important, but that actually doesn't make them more important than any of the musicians in the orchestra. This in discoveries or science-related things is the same except for the fact that the "conductor" doesn't give guidance because they can't so literally in most cases people like Elon Musk or others just maintain all together, again in most cases sometimes theres people that also work themselves but that still doesn't make them more important than any of the others. Now this misunderstanding has probably been the main reason for the pressure society puts on all of us, the pressure that makes many of us think we have to be more, even when what we thought doing was literally impossible in the actual society, like I mean you can try to do a BIG discovery alone, but because of how hard it has become it will take you as much time as any other scientist of the past and this only if you have the luck to be in the limit of the discovery because if not you will just be someone that apported to the final result and that isn't something bad. The thing is that the society of these days has actually made it seem like it is something bad or that it is best to be the one to discover it even though it wasn't actually just you, but also everyone else before you and you don't have to go for a job of science or something related to be important because even something as making tattoos will end up helping someone in a way so they also help someone or apport something to a discovery even if it is small and at the end when you apport to a discovery you are helping someone else you just have to do what you like at the end you will always be as important and significant as anyone else. Finally I wanted to tell you all of this because I was actually feeling pretty bad yesterday (the day I made the original comment) and also today, but now that I realized that I just had to do what I orginally wanted to do and didn't need to be a literally impossible genius what I have to do feels extremely easy and I feel as if a very VERY big weight has now dissapeared from my back, now I feel extremely good. Also I hope that if you were feeling meaningless I was able to show you that you aren't meaningless or if you were feeling as you had to do more, I hope I was able to show you that you don't need to be more, just don't overstress thinking you should be more, although that obviously doesn't mean you don't have to work in the slightest or anything like that, but know that every good action you have made (because you have made many good things even if you don't believe so) have made possible a greater good I really hope this was able to make you feel as good as I am feeling right now or at least to get some of that weight out of you. Love you all, because you all are important even if you don't believe so, goodbye ❤.

I will always look at this comment to make me feel happy thanks friend ❤

How did you do it

@@Travelguru118 I'll be honest... I don't really know, it just felt when I watched this video like a moment of peace in which I could just express myself in any way, the tears then just went out, gotta say I am also much better now, so I hope you maybe get to get those bad feelings out, just stop trying to make an image at least for a moment, nobody is going to put blame on you because of it. This is all I can truly give you of advice, but maybe if you search for other similar videos like this one or maybe search for a video specifically made to help you release those, it will probably help, I wish you the best 🫂_you done everything well don't worry_ PS: I gotta clarify this, I didn't like completely go out with tears, but definitely had some that were more than enough to relieve all of this, just let them flow, get that "gut" feeling out, that feeling that maybe makes you feel like you gasp for air... damn really... just be yourself

Haven't cried for 8 years and I'm 19 years old

P R E A C H

To be honnest has this nothing To be between a man or a woman I whas really An emotional person I cried alot. But now i cant and it's sucks Becouse crying is actualy Is An beautyfull emotion. It's like it's pulling weight out of You're shoulder

shutup

@@brysonsextonthat is like being lonely and solitary being alone is not having anyone well it is but it is also being surrounded by self absorbed people who do not care about your feelings

but i am girl and ive never cried over 2 years

Look for this feeling until all the tears come out.

@@CoachDavidAdes I felt the urge again but was unable to shed a single tear have been so for the past 1 or 2 years can't remember when I cried last time I want to cry am o only 15 yr old to top it of.

​@yourbuddyboy2086 take care of it now. Im 24, cant remember the last 8 years of my life and still have this problem.

Same:)

@@TheNightOwl01858 how are you now? Because i literally have the same situation just now i was able to cry again with this video after 2 long years and i am 15 years old too the only difference is i was able to have 9 tears come down my face with the help of watching similar videos but now only if it was 9 small tears i feel like my eyes won't cry again for a very long time again

same

Me too man

It's a paradox. We need to weep to resolve this pain, but our culture and everything around us pressures us to focus on "progress" "productivity", "be rational", etc. Our body, too, does a great job of preventing us from getting it all out. It represses the pain and creates depression, it tenses up and creates anxiety. This was too much pain, and the body struggles to cope. So, we struggle as well. To heal, we would need a safe environment/relationship to explore this territory and these feelings/experiences. That is the point of speaking with a therapist as far as I'm concerned. But this is complex territory, and not every therapist knows what their goal really is. I've gone thru 4 therapists to find the one I've stuck with. My first one called himself Dr. Happy, haha! If his goal is to make people happy, that reinforces the pattern of avoiding pain. We didn't last long together. Maybe it is time to find someone to talk to.

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I don't feel like I can cry around my wife & kids - like, I get it rising to the surface as David says, might shed a tear or get a wobble in my voice, but I feel like I'm at risk of losing them if I express my sadness or worse, my grief or my depression. I lost my parents 2 years ago - separate things, dad had dementia & spent his last year in a home while we were all on lockdown, so in a way it feels like one day he was fairly hale & hearty, then the next we're in the hospital watching this yellowish skeleton of a man breathe his last. 9 months later Mum got COVID and died within a week. I haven't had a proper cry "get it all out" about either. I'm afraid if I do I won't be able to stop, like I'll just fall back into depression fully.

Thank you for your comment Stellah. Maybe you just need to connect with someone on this feeling, and it will come out. Feel free to schedule a free 15-30 minute chat with me at www.calendly.com/coachdavidades/introduction. You should connect with someone on this, whether it is myself or someone else. More power to you.

Good luck dude, I hope things get better for you. I would look into this further (I’m doing this too probably :)

The fear that prevents you from communicating openly with someone (who cares) about your sadness, is a reflection of the exact same reason your sadness will not communicate openly with you. If you want the sadness to be heard, so you can be free from it, you have to break the chain of fear with conscious intention, find someone worth talking to, and open up to them. The question is, do you want to be free from it? It is not an easy answer. What scares you more: being consumed by sadness, or leaving it behind? What will happen to you if you let it sit inside? Or, who will you be without it? I offer a free 15-30 minute meeting at calendly.com/coachdavidades/introduction.

A good professional would never say you're over exaggerating, a good professional will listen to what you have to say and ask you why it makes you feel that way. As someone who wasted years on a psychiatrist that was neglectful of my feelings I'm telling you, if the professional you're talking with makes you feel worse - find another one. Don't doubt yourself.

I thought I responded to this far earlier. You are stuck neglecting yourself. I hope there has been some development in the last month. You can schedule a free 30-minutes with me at www.calendly.com/coachdavidades/introduction, and it will not be a waste of time regardless of how it goes. Do yourself a favor. If not me, then someone else.

Your an adult now . Suck it up and move on

I’m so happy to hear this :) have a great life ❤️

​@@chasebell1414 thankies :3 you do too uwu Also as you may have suspected already, I am a femboy now owo feels great x3

@@Karuyine good for you! Seems like you’re happy with yourself, that’s what matters :)

Thank you for sharing. The phrase "drastic times call for drastic measures" comes to mind. You say you gathered your courage--I think you're right. Much love.

Hey, hope you fine. I also dealing with it for 10 years. Im really tired of it. It disturbs my sleep, my mood, everything is being affected. What do you feel exactly in your head,..some kinda pressure and sadness?

@@dinfluence30 in 2015 I lost my son, there's a constant pressure in my abdomen, emptiness in my chest, and scatter in my head . A feeling of a never ending anxiety due to the feeling of loneliness even when I am not alone. just like you it has disturbed my sleep, mood and everything. at its worst I feel the swelling in my temples but nothing comes out.

@@Riddle_wright Thanks for telling me your story.. I can image how hard it can be.. I wish you all the best and hope you find a solution to temper this. Do you visit a therapist?

Sorry man that’s horrible, you really do need a good cry. It will come.

@@dinfluence30 I have a few times with different therapists. Some days are worse than others. But I do get by

Omg I’m ok. Cuz I worried about myself. I have not in years either

I'll trade you problems - I used to not be able to cry and now I can't stop crying even at work

Being open with one's own feelings comes from being connected with oneself. Feeling connected with oneself comes mostly from feeling connected with others. There is an element of connecting with oneself as well, but there isn't much of a self without real connections to relationships and environments.

@@scientificallyilliterate120 the grass is always greener, no? Why are you crying?

i didn't cried for 10 years 🙂

Quite the opposite, judging how this video has been performing. So much unfelt pain in the world.

Hey man there is nothing wrong with crying, even if you are in front of your entire family. It is not shameful. It is not weak, or something to hide. Let it flow the same way you let your smile radiate when you’re excited!!! Have a good cry man.

Good luck, I would try to discover yourself more and keep working at it. Don’t give up!

Do You have someone you can hug and talk about it?

I’m so sorry dude, I know how that feels. Just remember that your cousin probably belittles you because they are a little… dumb. They don’t realize the effect of their meanness, or maybe they want to feel better about themself. Good luck, I believe in you ❤

@@chasebell1414 thanks man appreciate it

Your only option is to start building trust with someone, so that your heart can open up over time. Built trust with yourself, too, by taking measured risks in any direction, and surviving on the other side. That's how you learn to trust yourself. I offer a free 30-minutes at www.calendly.com/coachdavidades/introduction.

So true. I'm happy you are now crying more often. I still struggle, as a child my parents were angry with me when I cried so I think I stopped crying because of this. I had a very traumatic childhood so not crying just made things worse. Now after some years in therapy I do cry a little easier bit still doesn't come naturally. I really have to force myself. The bad thing is that crying is just so far from me that I only think maybe crying would help when I'm already since weeks or sometimes months anxious. The anxiety and the restlessness just become stronger and stronger until I realize that it does feel like I'm blocking emotions. 😢

how did u learn crying?

Well spoken 🙏

@user-su7hk3si2f this is how it works. Conflict pushes you until you have to find a way out. You might be used to tolerating a high amount of anxiety. Slowly you realize how much you have been holding in your chest.

Wow you’ve gone through a sh1t ton. Good luck! I wish i knew how to help, but I’ll just lyk that I’m here with you.

You might need the right opportunity. A relationship with trust, and the courage to open up. I offer a free 30-minutes at www.calendly.com/coachdavidades. It would be great to offer my support to you.

It's a symptom of some degree of self-alienation. You are separated from your feelings, and your experience of yourself. Inevitably this results in being/feeling separated from others. This type of alienation likely is a result of trauma, and that doesn't mean big obvious tragedies. Small things over time build up to the same effect. If we worked together, we would explore your history. I offer a free 45-minute session and there is no pressure to hire me after that.

You shouldn't feel bad for having feelings of abandonment and neglect. While the adult version of you can rationalize things, and say "my parents did everything they could", that simply doesn't apply to the injured "inner child" inside of you. When a child is in deep pain, it doesn't matter if you tell them "it's okay because so and so is trying their best". You have to be more compassionate than that. You have to be more empathetic than that. You need to hold more space than that. You're silencing your inner child every time you feel bad for whatever feelings you experience. There is no contradiction here. You can do BOTH: don't blame your parents anymore, but still don't feel bad for what feelings you have.

Im going through the same struggle. Its making me tired. Its hard to fall a sleep..its 24 hours a day on the edge, and its a bitter,sad feeling,,,the need to cry it out is so deep in me. But t won,'t come, and that causes stress en sadness,depression

Youre not alone.

yes. you've got the right idea

How are you dealing with it day by day?

Hey, I missed this comment. Thank you saltywizard.

Why ?

how about today. Are you feeling okay today? :)

Thank you sharing, Teri.

Good example. You can't force feeling. Maybe you don't actually care at this point of your development.

In 10 years I've only cried twice. I'm in pain.. also thats messed dude you should of shown some kinda of emotion for your friend..

It is as if the "Inner critic" will not allow you to express your pain. Because the inner critic hates you for being what you are - a living being with feelings. It wants you to be an empty facsimile of yourself. It wants to stomp you out of existence, and your feelings are primary symbols of your existence, so it cannot allow you to connect with them.

I don’t wanna make you feel worse or anything but maybe it’s how you dress or how you look? A lot of people jump to conclusions based off how somebody looks but not everyone does that. Besides that- I think you will be able to make a lot of friends :) some people are just rude I don’t think you’re the problem

@wh3n-w1ll-1t-3nd. I've definitely considered that. I've been told that I always look 'fashionable' and have my own sense of style but not the kind of person who gets over the top dressy. I wear a lot of girly kind of clothes and have been told that I could be a model. I'd say I'm pretty, but that's definitely not what I focus on entirely when it comes to myself. So I'm completely at a loss. Thankyou for the reply ❤️ And that last bit which gave me some more hope :) I haven't given up, but it's hard not to feel wrong when that's what the evidence points to

@@poppovy you could try making friends online first? It’s kinda easier to search for people with the same interests are you online :)

@wh3n-w1ll-1t-3nd. yeah I always feel so disconnected though when it's online. I really need body language and facial expressions and stuff otherwise it feels like it could just be anyone. I have tried going on a dating app but the friends version and haven't had any luck.. I think the kind of person I hope to be friends with won't be online but I'm still going to keep trying

@@poppovy I hope you make friends that you can bond with them :D

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I'm sorry Kelly. Make as much room for the pain as you can--as much as it needs.

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That is called abreaction. When there is a feeling beneath the surface, but instead of letting out what is really there, we let emotions out about something else. You're a budding psychologist. And you've got some quality crying to do. I prescribe you one good old cry.