If A Man DOES THIS It’s A Huge RED FLAG

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If A Man DOES THIS It’s A Huge RED FLAG

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If A Man DOES THIS It’s A Huge RED FLAG... I want you to understand when it's a huge red flag and be able to respond appropriately to avoid getting hurt in the relationship. This dating advice will help you point out both the dating red flags and relationship red flags. Take heed to this dating advice to know how to tell when it’s a huge red flag.
It’s a huge red flag when a man consistently shows a lack of respect for your boundaries, fails to take accountability for his actions, and shifts blame onto others. It would be best to avoid getting further entangled with a man who displays the huge red flags I share. Pay attention to this dating advice to safeguard your emotional well-being and maintain healthy relationships.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and that you can enjoy dating and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship.
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@britt-marieandersson1341 5 ай бұрын

" Apology without change, is manipulation".

@KM-oy5yh 5 ай бұрын

Sooooooo #TRUE, Sister 🎉

@shaundramiller6448 5 ай бұрын

True, however that's a different topic all together. This is about owning up to what a person does without making it be about the other person or persons. Being accountable for our own actions, without deflecting trying to put/place blame outside of self.

@britt-marieandersson1341 5 ай бұрын

@@shaundramiller6448 I agree. I guess I was thinking about my own situation where there is no change, because of this someone not taking responsibilities. The two problems go hand in hand. Me thinks.

@sarahshaw1990 5 ай бұрын

OMG spot on with my husband again 😢

@janicewitzke9529 4 ай бұрын

Britt thank you.

@JackieS812 5 ай бұрын

The only true apology is changed behavior!

@britt-marieandersson1341 5 ай бұрын

Spot on!

@francineford-smith6264 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely! Because people can talk the talk, but they have to walk the walk🥇🏆

@MzLena2You 5 ай бұрын

I just recently severed ties with someone because of this very issue. I was the type of person to “match energy with energy”, especially if a person was being negative. But I changed my mindset and now I focus on maintaining my energy and peace. A person who lacks accountability and/or deflects can quickly turn into an emotional vampire- draining you. Protect your peace!

@ladylizzaboo 5 ай бұрын

So true! 💯❤️

@lindapanaro3379 5 ай бұрын

Yes, 😮 . It happens with me. 😢

@KM-oy5yh 5 ай бұрын

AMEN, Sister, Me 2🎉

@alikazan24 5 ай бұрын

Omg you are so right, I learned the hard way. Glad I survived the energy sucker!

@francineford-smith6264 5 ай бұрын

Say it louder for all the people in the back… I had to go no contact for over six months because he would always say I did that because you did so and so or I said that because you said so, and so…rarely would he say yes I did that or said that and I sincerely apologize and it won’t happen again! His accountability always came with his excuses🙄😤

@georgialouisew4152 5 ай бұрын

Deflection is ego driven. Huge red flag.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

@champachandrika3113 5 ай бұрын

Yes exactly 💯 My ex used to take wrong decisions, wrong actions, which brought bad results repeatedly, but he took no accountability for almost anything ever, and was never willing to even listen to any good advice. He was not willing to admit any mistakes, or hurtful behaviors, and take accountability and be and say sorry.. He was simply always right about everything and was in a serious victim mentality.. how everyone was so unfair to him, but what he was doing or not doing properly to create problems, that he ignored, that doesn't matter... everything was always everyone else's fault and just unfortunate circumstances...

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

@TeacherMom80 5 ай бұрын

I hear that! And I am truly sorry! That's an exhausting, counterproductive way to live & I can't understand it. Did things ever get better?

@chloethemessenger 2 ай бұрын

Wow. 🤯

@champachandrika3113 2 ай бұрын

@@TeacherMom80 Thank you dear! 💖 Things didn't really get much better. We broke up, we got back together, but we are still long distance, since years, due to circumstances, I didn't get visa to the US and he is always busy with other duties or having financial issues, so could not come to meet me still. He always prioritized other things, family and building career over resolving the distance, while he keeps saying he loves me, wants be together, get married, have kids etc. I know he wants all these, but he just keeps taking detrimental decisions again n again, n he can't see that, or just can't do better... he is trying but he keeps messing things up with bad work, financial, charity or "buying things" choices... Anyways it's a long story. I'm pretty tired of his ideas, choices, decisions, and lack of cooperation, or listening to good advice, or trying my ideas too... He got a new job now, let's see if we move forward within a few months. Otherwise I don't think I will keep waiting for him to get things right...

@TeacherMom80 2 ай бұрын

@@champachandrika3113 I'm sorry to hear about all of the struggles. It must certainly be difficult to form & maintain a reliable, nurturing relationship under such circumstances. Sounds like he may have ADHD perhaps. Untreated Trauma issues can cause similar behaviors. Maybe he never had a good mentor or parents to model the skills needed to lead a healthy life/marriage as an adult. Or maybe he's just giving you the run around. IDK. It's nobody's business but yours. Do your best to state your needs within the relationship & to let him know that you're willing to work through whatever challenges each of you may face together, but he has to be willing to take responsibility for his behavior, too. And to commit to creating a future together, come what may. You're eggs are only good for so long. Women can't wait forever, nor should you have to. If he truly loved you, he'd never want to let you go or e apart, in my opinion, I less he comes from a culture where he was taught to develop a successful career before marriage so he could comfortably support a family. Have a heart to heart with him. You need & deserve to be loved! You both do. Every human needs love & reliable companionship. Be true to yourself. God bless you. Wishing you both the best!

@kimberly329 5 ай бұрын

This reminds me of unwillingness to accountability without spreading the blame to you. For example, “Yeah I was wrong but you did some stuff you need to apologize for too.”

@royalgoddess3284 5 ай бұрын

Child like behavior...but they are supposed to be adults 🙄 if they deflect they will lie 😕

@NarvaezSupreme 5 ай бұрын

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

@sarahshaw1990 5 ай бұрын

That's an awesome share! I have only caught my husband in one lie but he deflects constantly and I've been strongly desiring to know if he has lied to me more than once and if so how many times has he really lied to me and what has he lied about. Because, one of the biggest reasons why I haven't given up in my marriage is because I believe I can trust him.

@Badmomsclub 5 ай бұрын

He struggles a lot with this… he automatically shuts me down and invalidates my feelings…. I’m learning a lot about him tho…. He actually thrives on recognition and appreciation!!❤❤❤. I’ve seen a huge change in his demeanor since I’ve changed the way I approach him..❤❤❤

@ladylizzaboo 5 ай бұрын

This is one hundred percent true!

@DivineIntuitiveMedium 5 ай бұрын

It's what broke my relationship. A partner who stated always bring up issues so we can always work through and step forward, together. The moment I did, I got destroyed, yelled at, put down, and I brought it up very respectfully. It's for the best, for sure, it's over. I hate people who lie.

@Fancypolkadots 5 ай бұрын

Omg that sounds so familiar. I was told to run to him, not from him. He was such a drama king who always kicked it off. He wanted to "talk" with too much aggression, and wouldn't let it go. It wasn't just me. Everyone else was always the problem...His parents, his child, the child's mother, his friends, and even his customers. He was the common denominator, but had no accountability whatsoever.

@aliciaaustin4030 5 ай бұрын

Stephan thank you for letting this message become knowledgeable of discernment of individuals that do not revolve around daily life responsibilities. This is apart of allowing deflection to enter if they are not doing their part (which are general responsibilities) of survival to maintain general life responsibilities for living. If you can not take care of yourself, how will you take care of a FAMILY? 🏠💯😞

@Adel-O.4324 5 ай бұрын

Accountability for himself only without deflecting to others.

@wealthesther7991 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Stephan ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

My pleasure ❤️

@maryrice5873 5 ай бұрын

This is one of the first things you've ever said that I feel was real

@vivianamieres 5 ай бұрын

Be aware of this red flag... can be a big time and rnergy waster. Thanks for the reminder😊

@francineford-smith6264 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely agree! I had to go no contact because that dude would rarely take accountability and when ever he did, it would be total deflection! I cannot say from a professional standpoint that he is a narcissist however, I can truly say he does possess narcissistic traits… he lacks empathy for others, he thrives on attention and admiration, he hast to be right all the time, he is either the hero or the victim in any given situation and he does not take accountability for his wrongdoing and he is emotionally immature usually throwing a temper tantrum🙄🤬

@sarahshaw1990 5 ай бұрын

This is spot on with my husband too. I am not sure if he is 100% a narcissist but I can say that he totally possesses traits of a narcissist

@JTrys 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your videos! You are such a huge help ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Glad I could help 🙏

@cristysmith3797 5 ай бұрын

Exactly true 💯

@amyj.4992 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video, soulmate 💞🙏🏾

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

My pleasure ❤️

@josephinecampolieto8977 5 ай бұрын

Yes

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Most definitely!

@rebeccabivins4346 Ай бұрын

Right! Accountability is a must with change!

@gaytaylor9686 5 ай бұрын

Yes. It’s a red flag.

@dolorescaracci2109 5 ай бұрын

Thank you❤

@tamaraford6634 4 ай бұрын

Facts no lies told, I had to realize this in my past connection after a while! 💯💯👏🏾

@gail235 5 ай бұрын

Excellent

@sarahshaw1990 5 ай бұрын

OMG this is spot on with my husband. He used to be very accountable but nowadays he doesn't at all and it's been a big part of how our marriage has been failing. He constantly deflects and points fingers at me and it's so bad it's abusive.

@TeacherMom80 2 ай бұрын

Listen to the book called Should I Stay or Should I Go? By Lundy Bancroft & Jack Patrissi on Audible. 😊

@sherithanorth3960 5 ай бұрын

HUGE!!

@breakingthemasks 5 ай бұрын

Same for a woman

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Most definitely!

@cristysmith3797 5 ай бұрын

So only true apology would come with change in behavior can’t be sorry for and still letting it happen

@g.carleaward5528 5 ай бұрын

Facts!

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

💯 yes!

@user-ze2zb6ly5v 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

@Iamyl4 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the message Sis! God bless you in Jesus mighty name amen

@machellmcintosh3775 5 ай бұрын

Geese I wish I had read this three years ago😢

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

🙏 ❤️

@cynthiahopper2025 5 ай бұрын

Many try to rationalize their own actions & bad behavior based upon what others have done 🤯 Crazy thing is, the people who do this, they wouldn’t want to be treated this way. Why do they believe that it’s ok for them to do it? 🤔 TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED… with GODLY LOVE❤️ The Bible says for us to love one another… Love your neighbor as yourself… etc. The Bible is our template of how we ought to live 💯❤️🙏🏼

@KatrinaJ-lf6zd 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely, these are the things I look for. Some will choose deflection, rather than reflection which helps you to better see your error and correct it, which shows a willingness to correct but also deep enough thought to change for the better on the matter. (Real remorse)

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@KatrinaJ-lf6zd 5 ай бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Not a problem. Anytime

@sharieubanks8949 5 ай бұрын

I have benefited from your teaching. Thank You! I’m sure you are confident in those things you teach, and the way you look, You are a very wise and attractive man. The only thing I don’t like is the beard. Less is more.

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your feedback 🙏

@Ike-IbehEsther-jg1uk 5 ай бұрын

Who the hell asked u for ur likes and dislikes ... Ppl have different styles

@abioduncliff4892 5 ай бұрын

@sharieubanks8949, pick the lessons and focus on your life ,not on Stephen's look.🥺

@yknowwhatcrys4791 Ай бұрын

Facts! 🎯

@Ms.Tee65 5 ай бұрын

Wow he’s a walking red flag.

@janicewitzke9529 4 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@janicewitzke9529 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I finally realized. I thought he was changing. But he's not. He twists everything Wich he has done. I gave him mercy after mercy. I definitely. Will not be manipulated by him anymore. He wants his woman and me to no way. I'm a Christian that don't do with me. I don't operate with me. I guess I had to see how bad he really is until finally I don't want no more of it. I pray for him. I forgive him. But I won't be manipulated by his ways anymore.he can't see well or hear well. I thought maybe that had something to do with it. Thank you. Stephan. God bless I'm not bitter I hold no grudge against the man. 😊

@sarahjeans2930 5 ай бұрын

Stephan I don't care about no man let him Go to who he love and want to be with pls and thank u

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@KM-oy5yh 5 ай бұрын

AMEN AMEN, Sister 🎉

@sarahjeans2930 5 ай бұрын

Let them him them whoever goes to who they want okay am unbothered

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

@sonyadouglas8565 2 ай бұрын

God holds all of us accountable! What do you think I'm going to do? Accountability can be a beautiful thing!

@blessed7203 5 ай бұрын

150%

@Marie-or8uj 5 ай бұрын

This goes for both men & women

@Lailaelmo 5 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@Princessobsessed90 5 ай бұрын

Sounds just like me ex

@KM-oy5yh 5 ай бұрын

AMEN AMEN, SISTER, Mine 2🎉

@sarahdiv2731 5 ай бұрын

Teach lt sir

@brandi7986 5 ай бұрын

How do you respond to it when he uses deflection?

@bookofeli-ij9yj 5 ай бұрын

Yep

@MeetStephanSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

@RacilleAshley-sf7yv 5 ай бұрын

Please explain more..

@nyashachitiyo2915 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Stephen you are amazing. I wish l could know you more. I really really like you so so much. Pray and hear what God is saying about me. Yes it sounds funny but hey😊

@cyncancook 5 ай бұрын

Amen!!!😂😂😂

@Icannotlose 5 ай бұрын

My mom does this. She’ll say sorry but she has to say how you made her do what she did or say what she said. I’m sick of it. That’s deflecting.

@karenlynch8348 5 ай бұрын

THATS A NARCISSIST 😮RUN LADIES PLEASE

@francineford-smith6264 5 ай бұрын

Girl, I think you hit the nail on the head! Because this dude lacks empathy for others, thrives on admiration, usually he is the hero or the victim in a given situation and does not take accountability for his wrong doing! I definitely believe he is a narcissist, and if not at the very least, he possesses narcissistic traits!!!🤬🙄

@user-zq5sz4km8n 12 күн бұрын

THAT'S SO CHILDISH AND IMMATURE...JUST OWN UP TO WHAT YOU DO OR SAY! JUST BE A MAN ABOUT IT!

@toontales2479 5 ай бұрын

If anyone does this it’s a red flag

@menkasharma392 5 ай бұрын

❤❤

@RitaDSouza-lw5gp Ай бұрын

You don't worry I know about me and know my God I don't have to be attending the people's after knowing that what type of people's are and too is good to be good with the foolish person and wait to see the worldly people's action