1 femenist. 2 violent. 3 tatto & piercings. 4 big notch count. 5 single moms.

Tatoos, piercings in places other than their ears, colorful hair, Still single in their 30s, Single moms, divorced, and a feminist. All red flags.

I haven't met a woman that doesn't have a red flag.

as soon as I saw how crazy she got after a couple drinks I knew it wasn't gonna work. Literally any dude could smash after two drinks.

Ive noticed that people mostly get into relationships because they have a fear of being lonely verses whether or not someone is a good partner.

99% of the girls out there dont even pass the basic standards for me. Tattoos, booz, cigarettes, partying too much ( clubs etc), bad language , too slutty clothes, not private social media, uploading to tik tok , bikini photos etc, are no no from the beginning. i dont even bother talk to them.

I'm a 48 year old male, divorced, 2 young daughters, broke, under 6ft, 65kg and going bald. I tick all the red flags myself. It's the best female repellent.

Tattoos & single moms are no go zones

I would have named daddy issues as the primary red flag. It critically impacts a women's ability to have a healthy attachment and leads to all the other red flags in the book.

6. smelly pets (that take precedence over YOU)/house 7. Messy house

I just recently decided I will just stay single and not date anymore. The type of woman I want doesn't exist anymore, thanks to social media.

The tattoo thing was confirmed with my last 2 exes. They would get tattoos when they lost control of their life as a self harm technique and to regain control of some aspects of their existence. One or two may be ok but multiple or large amounts of work is a red flag for women big time. Also crazy colored hair is the same thing. I call the tattoos, crazy hair and piercings "poison dart frogs". They warn you of their toxicity clear as day

1. FEMINISTS for sure, it's a different mind set and you are the ENEMY 2. Violent Women, women who can NOT control themselves, she will call the cops even though she initiated it 3. Tattoos and Piercings, every woman that seems to have issues has tattoos and or piercings and it only gets worse from there 4. BIG Notch Counts, those that have shared themselves with anybody and everybody, can't be successful when you are a used tire 5. Single Moms, you are going to have responsibility with another man's child(ren) but have no disciplinary recourse or authority

At 22 years old I threw my goals away for the validation of a relationship with a woman who had all 5 of these red flags very strongly and lived in another country. I'm now in my mid 30s rebuilding my life. I grew up without a real father and learned about what it means to be a man by wounded feminist women and ultimately paid the price for listening to them. Was a huge lesson that took a lot of pain to learn but ultimately I am grateful for all of it and for voices like Rich today that help ground the mindset of man amidst the overfeminized landscape of the modern day.

I have on several occasions over the years talked to women who have give me an entire timeline of debauchery, crashed cars, people ending up in jail, credit cards maxxed, holidays destroyed, and everything else you could imagine. And I stupidly asked "Well, why did you do it?" And ALL of them had the same look on their face when they said "Well, I'm diagnosed bipolar and..." (At this point I'm not listening any more). It started back in the 90s, this feature whereby a bipolar diagnosis became a license to destroy the lives of everybody around them and not feel one iota of responsibility or regret for it.

If the woman’s family has several divorces that’s a major red flag that’s often overlooked

It took me a couple decades to catch on to tats aren’t sexy, they’re red flags thing. And believe me, the more stupid her tats, the bigger issues she has between the ears. I wish I had known starting out.

My top 5 are as follows 1. Keeps men from her past around 2. Daddy Issues 3. High body count 4. Single Mother 5. Violent woman

Just now ending a relationship of 4.5 years because she doesn't want to fit into my frame for the relationship. We've talked about our future with raising children, finances, moving, etc. At first, she agreed with me on everything and it was smooth sailing. Now she's unhappy and had changed her mind on all of these topics, refusing to compromise and inisiting that it's her way or the highway. Mission aborted, completely destroyed any chance I'll propose to her. Relationship ended immediately.

Both my half sisters got tattoos and trust me neither one you would ever want anything to do with.

Not having anything good to say about their exes should be in the top 5 list. If a woman constantly talks shit about all her exes then soon enough she'll be talking the same about you.

my red flag wife would hide the car keys before she started the fight. I later learned her Mom would start fights, get in his face and fall down, acting struck. Domestic (in)sanity crosses generations. Look @ the relationship of her parents.

Relationships arent worth it. No matter how good it begins, it will always turn to SH!T and you lose half your sh!t!!! I like being single!

If a girl has a piercing in her nose then just stay away.

In my martial arts class, we have quite a few single moms bringing in their kids to learn some form of discipline. All too many of these single moms have tattoos, piercings, and odd colored hair. As a "Leadership student" We are expected to help the instructors on the lower level classes. It is amazing how these single moms are so grateful for our help! I simply respond "Glad to help! See you next class!" And end the conversation. I don't want to know what they are driving to class in, or anything else. Once they are out the door of the Dojo, I don't know them

Agreed about tattoos and piercings. Especially tattoos. Smoking also a 100%, non-negotiable deal breaker.

From past 6 relationships, i have come to single major conclusion: whether her father has any control over her life or not..

as someone who was raised by alcoholics (I'm talking about heavy drinkers, not your everyday functioning alcoholics), having a substance abuse problem is not a red flag, it's an instant dealbreaker, no matter if she's perfect in every other aspect, no matter if she's in therapy / rehab / whatever, there's no way I'm getting involved in that when it took me so many years to escape that environment

Most modern women are a huge threat to your peace of mind and finances….just be aware when you are dealing with them 🙄

I will NEVER be the “entertainment committee” for any woman EVER again.

There are surveys out there that consistently show tattoos on a woman lower their attractiveness, not raise it, and indicate they're more likely to have sex with a guy on the first date, too; in the eyes of men. As a side note.

And a smaller red flag: always late and makes you wait means you don't matter.

My top 5 Red Flags are: 1. Children/Single moms 2. Body tattoos/ piercings 3. Out of shape 4. Drinking/smoking 5. Active on IG.

Certainly! Here are the top 20 red flags mentioned by Rich Cooper: 1. **Feminists:** Women with a victim mindset and a tendency to see men as oppressors. 2. **Violent tendencies:** Women who exhibit aggression, inability to control emotions, or physical violence. 3. **Tattoos and piercings:** Correlation between body markings and creating drama in their lives. 4. **High notch counts:** Women with a significant number of past sexual partners, as it correlates with relationship instability. 5. **Dating single moms:** Caution against getting involved in a relationship with women who have children from previous relationships due to potential baby daddy drama. 6. **Not willing to enter your frame:** A woman who refuses to follow your lead and enter your perspective. 7. **Unfounded jealousy:** Displaying jealousy without reasonable cause. 8. **Need for constant attention:** Women who constantly crave attention and validation. 9. **Alcohol or drug addiction:** Substance abuse issues that may lead to relationship problems. 10. **Bad relationships with exes:** Difficulty in maintaining amicable relationships with previous partners. 11. **Entitlement mentality:** Women who believe they deserve special treatment without earning it. 12. **Controlling behavior:** Attempts to control your actions, decisions, or friendships. 13. **Financial irresponsibility:** Poor financial habits and lack of responsibility. 14. **Lack of empathy:** Difficulty understanding or caring about others' feelings. 15. **Manipulative tendencies:** Using manipulative tactics to control or influence situations. 16. **Unrealistic expectations:** Having unrealistic expectations in a relationship or partner. 17. **Inability to apologize:** Refusing to admit mistakes or apologize when necessary. 18. **Ignoring boundaries:** Disregarding personal boundaries and crossing limits. 19. **Constant drama:** Attracting and creating unnecessary drama in their lives. 20. **Inability to be alone:** Fear or discomfort with being alone, leading to dependency on others. These red flags serve as a guide for men to make informed decisions when considering long-term relationships.

“Multiple children from multiple men” -HELL NO.

Thank you. This motivated me to leave this wreck of a woman that's been sucking my life and happiness and resources for too long now.

A long time ago I went out with a gorgeous girl . She was sweet and polite . Randomly she started talking about the fact she was arrested for stealing her stepdad's handgun . At the time I smiled and laughed . Never contacted her again . I now have an amazing girlfriend.

Mental health issues or a history of trauma would be number 1 on my list. Also a lack of or a poor relationship with her father.

Single moms will always choose the kids side even when they are way out of line. Seen it happen firsthand.

Let's say she's a unicorn and has no 'red flags', and you become highly successful in your career and make lots of money, and after 20 years of marriage she becomes 'BORED' of the relationship, and then her friends tell her all of the financial advantages she can get simply by divorcing you. The STATE is going to royally screw you in every possible way. Don't get married unless you are a citizen of a second country where you can run to, one where the state cannot come after you.

Tattoos and piercings are cutting that is not recognized as cutting and is viewed as "expressing individuality". Some small, tasteful tattoos, sure, fine, BUT if she's addicted to inking and piercing, it's cutting, the same psychological underlying trauma.

Dating a woman with red flags will lead to challenges and a lot of potential issues in a relationship. Red flags, such as dishonesty, manipulation, or unstable behavior, can signal issues that will impact the relationship negatively. It's crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek relationships built on trust and mutual respect

Women lead with emotion. Everything fails from there.

Daddy issues is #1 to many I know.

Aside from generally being unsightly, tattoos are a clear sign that people who get them DO NOT think long-term. They have an impulse to do something and they do it knowing that it cannot be reversed (at least, not nearly as easily as it was applied). Why would anyone have a picture permanently engraved on their skin that they wouldn't hang in their living room? I had a buddy in high school who chided me because I would NOT get an earring (he was the biggest hound around, so it was not a gay thing whatsoever), saying that I was afraid to get on. I responded back to him that he was actually afraid of NOT having one because it wouldn't look 'cool'. I never got one, and he wore his for a couple of years before he grew up and took it out for good.

Never date a women who has addiction problems, even if she’s aware and working on it. When things get hard she’ll fall back on the vice ask me how I know

100% agreed with the single mother thing. Whilst I’ve never had to deal with the sibling problem that whole “you’re not my dad” bullshit has got to hurt the most. Followed closely by the mother telling you they aren’t your children. What can I say “it’s a fail”. 🤷🏻‍♂️. Don’t bother Don’t try. It’s only a liability that will come back to hurt you over and over again.

All western women exhibit at least 2 of these 5, especially the part about "entering your frame and following your lead." Men don't want to join a woman's life, enter her frame and follow her lead, and women for certain don't want this and actively dislike men who do this. If she's got addiction or unhealthy habits, and that's the only issue, that's one thing, but leave her to figure herself out and don't get involved.

I’ve learned my lesson the hard way with the tattoos and piercings one. 100 percent the truth. When I first met her she was the coolest sweetest gal, but behind the facade was actually this mean spirited psycho. She had tons of tattoos and always wore a septum piercing. Be sure to look out for those too, every woman with them are unhinged.

Thanks Rich. Really appreciate your knowledge. Agree with a lot of things you say.

This one is the best summary I've heard about this subject so far. Thank you!

Just remember there's NO PROMISES in relationships

high body count is the biggest red flag

Where are all the traditional women who want to be a home maker and look after you and your children.

Purple hair is a red flag for sure

The ONLY RED FLAG that will decimate the relationship inevitably: does not have genuine burning desire for you (you find yourself wanting sex more than she does, she limits the acts, or straight up refuses). 100 percent of times it leads to loss of her beauty, disrespect, and cheating ideation.

Thank you Rich for doing this content on KZfaq. More men need to search out for this info.

The harsh reality is that, large percentage of women out there are no longer marriage / long term relationship material. Therefore the next big question is where to find quality women for marriage / LTR. Two parent households with strong presence of the father is one strong filter. Second is her inner social circle. If her inner socia circle has lot of bottom of the barrel women, then there is very high chance of she also sharing the same values & behaviors. The influence of a woman's sisterhood on her decisions & choices are pretty strong. Bad women are very good at gradually converting good women to be like them.

Good info... Thanks Richard!

I'm 67, married 38 years and together 40. We beat the odds as good friends we watched each other go thru first marriages. She had a four year old son and no tattoos when we got married. Your right about raising a stepchild. Discipline is a damned if you do, damned if you don't thing. Now she's got plenty of tattoos but that's ok. We have a great marriage but it hasn't always been easy. It has been more than worth it.

Also you forgot male best friends

Good content Rich...I thank you for the education of this stuff

Was a lifelong bachelor through my 20’s 30’s and early 40’s. Had an amazing time seeing the world, served my country, and had more than enough women to last a few lifetimes. Met an amazing woman five years ago and we’ve become a strong confident couple and my best advice would be…. Make sure to sew your wild oats before settling down and when you do make sure you are best friends. And oh yes good points here to avoid red flags.

Finding a woman in her 30s that doesn't have kids and is single is a pot of gold on its own

Red flag videos are always good. A healthy revision

Step children will never be loyal because they're not blood related to you & this is why you shouldn't get involved because protecting & providing for another man's kids is an act of loyalty.

Great video! Encountered all five often. Keep spinning plates. Righteous!

Watch out for women who are "dismissive avoidant". That alone has them placed in a masculine frame.

Thinking she is entitled to your money, thinking she doesn’t have to put in work for a relationship, “what can you do for me” thinking, she is a con woman in real life, aggressive, manipulative to name a few things

Great info !!

I would offer this....a relationship is like a process. And a process is like a chain with links. One weak or broken link, and the chain doesn't work any more, nor the process, nor the relationship. Just ONE red flag is enough reason to stop the wagon train and say no, I am not doing this.

Think it’s fair to say to never go looking for love? Let her find you? If you try and find someone, then she maybe won’t ever respect you. If she finds you, then she wants you, and that’s very important.

100% agree on feminists and violent women, I dated a very beautiful and attractive middle eastern woman in Canada for 3 years. Everything was amazing, except she was violent towards me when she does not get her way. I came to know of this problem in my first few months of dating but I still ignored it since she was very hot and I thought of marrying her and have kids with her. Well long story short, exactly what Rick mentioned her; I found myself hand-cuff because we live in a country where defending and pushing a violent woman away is a crime. Thankfully nothing bad happened to me but I learned my lessons moved out of that relationship and stayed away from anyone who is a feminist, violent or just someone who does not listen to anyone else's opinion but her own. The other thing I would say is stay away from is big/extensive Tattoos girls, any girl who thinks it is ok to go through the pain to get these large tattoos are no good for any man who is serious with them.

Spot on 💯. Well said, I’m 45 and absolutely agree with the red flags and the things that you’ve communicated. I think there are a lot of men who are in alignment with this and who see these things for what they are. Also, please consider putting the link to the full length version of your interview and conversation link in the description, if you’re not interested in utilizing the feature to connect it to the end of this video. It works better with the KZfaq algorithm and will start to pair your short videos with the originals. Cheers. 🍻

Useful information! Great video! I will stick to it blindly

As a married man I will say find the right woman who supports your goals and aspirations, let love find you not you find it because sometimes we end up seeking love in the arms of the wrong person which creates a setback. I'm not gonna lie and say i don't have my issue or my wife but we together identify what those issues might look like and we address them, as well as individual issues we have. Every relationship has it peaks and valley but most importantly center yourself around god be judge by the fruit you bare, marriage or amy relationship takes work but you must recognize if a woman is non motivated in her life if she has no goals and aspirations for herself that to me equals out to a woman who won't put any effort into anything including a relationship run away i hope this helps anyone reading

My girlfriend and I were talking the other day, and she mentioned that she'd forgive me if I had an affair. Isn't she just projecting that SHE has those tendencies and is banking on our love to forgive HER one day?

Great information. Learned a lot, and it makes sense from what I've learned in psychology

Dodging landmines over here! Thanks Rich

Rent the cow...don't try and own it.

Totally agree. Great video.

Sound advice. Cheers!

Man this dude is very wise ! Good stuff here . Tattoos are usually a red flag especially !

I went thru so many women .. looking for a unicorn .. just one that wasn’t into drama Or try to create jealousy which I felt once with 1 girl, never keep those around .. ever .. or keeping some orbiters for backup .. never found it ..

I’m beginning to believe that it’s better to be alone, the need for being with someone is getting less and less important the longer I’m single. I love my peace, women tend to love drama… I really wish you all good luck. Maybe you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Ty brother great video

Just got divorced few months ago, got a few kids who I love. Happy to be alone now… Anyways, if and when I go back to dating and getting in to a relationship I just feel that single moms would be more responsible than women who’ve never had any children. Everybody tells me the golden rule to never get in a relationship with a single mother so just feel torn between the two mind sets. For now I’m happily alone ;)

Excellent points all. That leaves maybe 1 in 100 women worth even being around.

More important that any of these is her relationship with her father. No relationship with her father or a bad relationship with her father is the biggest red flag of all.

like Leo Tolstoy said, if you can keep from writing -- do not write if you can live without a woman -- do yourself a favor and live without a woman!

As much as women deny it and fight against it, body count does matter. In fact, it is irrelevant what women say about that topic. I decide what is important for me and what matters, wether they like it or not.

Somewhat recent widows can potentially be a better case for connecting with a single mom. Better chance of a well adjusted, low body count, stable life prior to you being in the picture. The problem is these are fairly rare with still fertile, younger women. However, if she is having ongoing issues dealing with the traumas of her loss, that could be a red flag itself and tread very carefully. You don't want to be perceived as taking advantage of a loss stricken, vulnerable woman.

GREAT ADVICE

Very happy with my girlfriend for years now. She has been with one other guy when she was a teen, im her nr 2, it really do make a difference from other woman I have had, seems those girls never really bond. With this woman I have now, its magic. She is such a sweetheart, and havent changed over the years, we still in love and cant get enough of each other. I really hope other men get to experience this too, this is what life is all about

Agree with the top five, although I don't recall if BPD or Dark Triad are in your top 20, I would put Dark Triad in the top five, maybe instead of single mother.

Tattoos are an exception for me personally, as long as she doesnt make her tatts the core of her personality and she isn't littered in them it's fine with me. I have 2 tatts personally, they are there for family.

Rich, where were you 35 years ago, you could have saved me a lot of trouble and money. I had no answer guy back then and I had to learn the hard way. Keep up the good advice.

One of the best videos I've ever watched. Seriously.

Great advice Rich! Too bad you can't develop and sell a standardized test for men to use for testing a prospective wife much like an SAT. I would title this test a MCT or Marriage Compatibility Test. 😂

A couple of weeks after things started popping off in the Middle East I was helping a young lady out at the airport I work at. I could tell she was into me and I was digging her vibe until I asked her where she was coming from. She said she took off a few days of work and bought a plane ticket to Washington DC to protest the Israel/Palestine conflict. The moment after she said that I was completely turned off. I can care less about something that has been going on before I was born it was the fact she cared that much over something we have no control over. Also that plane ticket wasn’t cheap.