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Which is part of the reason mainstream society needs to stop pressuring people to have children and accept if some don't want or need to have them.

@@chiaraippoliti I have a toxic and manipulative mother. It's at least 7 years now that I know that I don't feel like having a child because I fear I might not be a good parent, despite I'm a very sweet person and good with children. I don't want to have a responsibility that I feel I could not be able to handle properly.

Yeah we've all heard that like dozens of times

@@unrossettoinmenoeunlibroin6905 I respect that more than anything

@@FlameSlayer1901 srsly

Thanx, I'm still living with the toxic mom. I'm suffocating but working on getting a job. Soon I turn 18 in aug

@@shakurwonders5216 good luck!

Mine are kicking me out with no car or nun, great parents.

@@shakurwonders5216 my dad is abusive and lying !

Bro I hate them all they give me is homework they don’t buy me games or anything there greedy I have to use my old phone

Yeah... I agree 🙂💔

Mine loved pointing out that they have more life experience than I did as a way to invalidate my perspective or knowledge. They're experts at gaslighting.

That is how I felt at home with my parent too. Thanks for sharing.

@@katherinenicholson9752 same 😔

As if you aren’t human.

Ya lol

Thanks

Forgiveness is for you.....doesnt mean you have to let em in your life anymore (or again).

@@singingwindrider9881 Yass

Thank you for this list!

Man sometimes i feel like I'm such a bad child and that's the reason parents would sometimes do that to me :(

@@itsnottoolatetostart you are absolutely not ;-;

You are very strong! Keep at it

Same here I was crying too while watching this.

Same :(

No body is perfect but we have take steps...like a kid grows our parenthood also grows,improves and more than sure your childs will be the luckiest...

Today my mom told me that I was just born to make her feel ashamed 😢 , my heart broke into pieces at that moment 🥺

@@chanakya6735 I Hope you find the strength to create and declare your boundaries. It took me until I was in my fifties. My heart goes out to you. Please take good care of YOU x

Good for you! 👍🏾

@@chanakya6735 I’m sorry for what your mother said to you. No child deserves to hear unloving words. You beautiful and special and God has amazing plans for your life.

Sorry about this..

same here

True

Omg, tell me about it, both my parents are awful and incompetent when it comes to parenting, and neither of them are nice people, they’re both Karens for Christ sake!

​@@rainbow4516Same

I can completely relate 💔

True. Living with them 💔

Especially when you are an HSP

Literally, it's hell

I was already crying before watching this lol, Um So imagine your parents have said to your face or hinted to u directly or indirectly to U, that your pets animals are better than U a HUMAN with feelings & thoughts, to them and then said "IF U GET SICK, WE ARE LEAVING YOU AT THE HOSPITAL!?~" And then reminded of it again all at the SAME TIME lol, Yeah IK I CAN, Bcus that's what happened to me just now RN lol!?~😒😔😄😅💀☠

Same! I hate Mother's Day. It feels so fake and gross to me to participate in it....but I do it anyway. I look at it like a means to keep her pacified, however temporary that is. Positive vibes to you! We can get thru it! 💪 💜

@@marissapilant7505 i feel good cause we both have the same problem and can understand each other so well!! I hope u get thru it too bcoz i know how hard it can be❤️

Heh definetly dont have toxic mom (Flashbacks of her calling me useless for small things)

@@marissapilant7505 same here, stay strong y'all. We got this 🤍

Me too. 💯

Same

@Lyrical Voltaic “Give a man a mask, and he’ll tell you the truth”

you are strong just believe in yourself

Same here

Sameeee

Same

They don't really want forgiven, though. That's what they try to call it... BUT it isn't that. Especially the religious types want their DRAMA... and then the FORGETFUL little robot to "go back to the way things were"... That's brain damage. My aunt let me know when my father was in the hospital... My mother had thrown him out of the house (verbal abuse turned on my little brother when I joined the Navy)... and he was dying of cancer. I could've sent forms through Personal Screw-over Division and the Red Cross would've brought me home... but I refused. My aunt ("devout Catholic") accused me of withholding forgiveness... To whit, I responded, "The son of a bitch is still breathin', ain't he? That's about as forgiving as it's going to get. Don't you Christians ever count your blessings? OR is that more sacrilegious lip-service to give the kiddies shit to do?" ...and I hung up the phone. Forgiveness... such as it is, is simply letting go. It's refusing to let THEIR CRAP continue to drag you down and pollute your mind. That's ALL it is... Everything else is forgetting and stupid rituals to satisfy some idiotic societal norm's... Now, I'm not one to tell you how your culture sucks if you're the one OWED an apology and you still end up somehow groveling and crying... BUT I'm not going to pretend to be a fan, either... You probably guessed by now, my father wasn't the only (nor technically the worst) such influence in my life, and that I joined the Navy to ship out before I killed the bastard and really DID end up in prison like most people were betting I'd go... It did me good... SO between Uncle Sam and me, it was a "fair trade". In any case... I hope this somewhat wry and even abrasive way of looking at the world helps you out. It just seems like the kind of thing you might need to read "my words and my way" for a minute... There's nothing to guilt you about if you HAVE actually forgiven your personal "rotten abusive piece of work"... Just because you forgive, doesn't mean you forgot... Oldest wisdom in the English language is "Once bitten, twice shy." after all. You can't exactly guilt or blame the shark or a rabid dog for what's in its nature... so forgive... fine. Doesn't mean I'm in any hurry to offer the other friggin' hand. I'm NOT stupid... Trust... if it's even available... MUST be earned. It's expensive, takes a LONG time to cultivate.. and an instant to destroy. ;o)

My "religious" father cheated on my mother 5 times and he would pray on her to die loudly whenever he fails at anything not even related to her. My mother isn't ugly or anything, she's the prettiest woman in the world. My father just sees her as lesser than him cause her own parents died and that asshole of a husband thinks she only has him left and always justified treating her like shit. "Religious" people aren't angels. If I wasn't smart enough to realize the world is diverse, I'd have said they're all demons just due to the trauma that my father caused us.

my dad:

My mom said it's part of our culture to forgive your parents for anything, even murder, because if they didn't give birth to up me I wouldn't have existed. But I didn't ask to be born, it was their choice to have a child and I shouldn't have to be expected to repay them because of this. All my friends, family and teachers still believe that I am the one that owes an apology and I am just being ungrateful. As soon as I am financially stable enough, I will move out and finally leave my religion.

@@yeminheinephein8551it’s almost like we have the same life ! Literally all you said is what i live and intend to do

Thank you You, too

Good luck y’all. I’ll pray for you all for a better life.💖

Thank you

But i feel like i am the problem

Can feel your pain bruh!

Stop overreacting god damn… this new generation is so soft. All of you are depressed and edgy taking medications like wtf

I wish you the best; as that’s what you deserve!

@@nikam2298 Thank you ❤

i truly hope your journey goes well, good luck and stay safe :))

My mother is always talking about her sad life backstory .I feel sad for her sometimes but she is doing this everytime she's drunk.And my dad JUST SOLD OUR HOUSE TO HIS MOTHER(mamas boy

Yeah! Once, I participated in a speech competition and I prepared everything myself. My parents said that I'll lose the competition if I don't listen to them as it was my first time but I knew that it was best to put my own hardwork in it instead of jus listening to all their criticism and so called advises blindly. Guess what? I got 2nd place in the competition becoz I didn't hear those toxic comments from my parents.

my parents are like that, and I can't do anything about it.

Parents need to be educated as well!

Damn right.

This. It's very confusing and makes you feel like you're the one who's broken. I'm so sorry you had to go/go through that but I feel like at least there's someone who understands

No you're not! Family can do the most severe things to each other

Gaslighting ...it purposeful made to destroy you

can totally understand you :(( hope you'll be fine soon~:)

understand u fr

I know 😥

All you can do is hope they see what you see once they get older

That's probably what my sister feels too. She has plans of getting me out and I don't blame her but I rant to her sometimes about parents and I think that makes her feel guilty too. I'm not doing this on purpose I swear I love her so much but I've no one to share it with

Same...

I know 😢😢 that was heartbreaking

This is something I can relate to, tbh. So I'm not alone, though I've felt like that for a while...

Hey amber, I'm not gonna say that forgive your parents or start to love them. It's just so shallow to say. I've been through your situation except that I am a boy. My father is a narcisstic egoistic person, but he tells me that he loves me. I have been through trauma for years ( iam now 17) , like from my childhood. I was overweight from my childhood, and my father would fat shame me literally everyday. LITERALLY 💔. when I was in my high school, for almost 2 years he would literally control the amount of food that I eat, also since I was hitting puberty at that age as a boy, i was hungry all the time, but he made me at little. If I eat little extra, he would yell at me and i would start to cry. Then , he will say that I saying for your good, but he caused me trauma. I've been suffering through depression for past 3 years and i have serious low self esteem issues, that i literally feel like this comment of mine would feel cringe and childish to others. I literally cried for over 1 year everytime when I ate extra, almost 2 times a day. Also iam an Indian. Only thing I wish is i could have a sister like you who could empathize other people's emotions. Amber, will you be my sister or friend🥺🥺💔

@@priyasenthilkumar8508 Don't worry bro, you'll be okay. Take it from another Indian, I promise things will work out for you, and me too. Happiness may be hard for us, but it'll be worth it, once we really find it, right?

@@priyasenthilkumar8508 I understand your pain my father is diagnosed with NPD and BPD... I’m 23 and I’ve come to terms with his behavior and the fact that he will never change. I’m just at a point in my life now where I can say I don’t need you or want you in my life and ultimately when I do move out I don’t plan on contacting my father nor do I care to have a relationship with him.

It was as if I'm reading my own story. I can relate to everything you said. Like it's so accurate. I know and understand what you're feeling because I'm feeling that too. My father is EXACTLY like that and everything you said has happened to me several times. It hurts a lot but i hope everything will become fine. Let's try our best! 🤍😊

I live in a toxic, abusive house. My life is a living hell. I can’t wait to be financially stable and move out

@@GamerGoals100 Unlike me, if you're 100% sure your toxic parents gonna pay your college, I suggest learning your favourite or new skills and learn HOW to make money out of them as soon as possible. Don't wait till you graduate highschool or university; this is a mistake! Begin on a big project now. And by big, I mean it can be finished very quickly, not take a long time. Don't start anything can take more than 7 months to launch (startup) or 3 months to master (skill). Just do not wait for opportunities to happen; not everyone's that lucky. And judging by our luck with our parents, we're not of the lucky people. You've to make space for the opportunities, sometimes even create that space yourself.

@@nullbeyondo You’re right. Thanks

​@@nullbeyondoA friend of my mom is a toxic person if not worse than my mom

@@GamerGoals100same

You're not the only one. Hope we willl be able to find our happiness one day

Humiliated in public is the worst that could ever happened, its insane how parents are so easy dovey on doing such despicable shiets in public,

My grandmother is so abusive. She always humiliated everyone in the family. She told me I'm characterless. My aunt and uncle were so toxic , they always talks about me 24×7, that I'm looser. Infact my father...he always scolds me, I'm 26 and still he always talks to me rudely and when I reply back harshly or i get irritated. He just scolds me more . He abuses my mother also. Still my mother takes his side . She tells me he is possessive and he cares for me. But what care? From waking up to going to bed, from eating habits to daily routine. I hear everything that don't do this, don't do that. Do this way that way.. i know few things are genuine but there is a way to deliver everything. He can also speak politely and make me understand the changes he wants in me. Always raising voice and giving looks is compulsory? He scolds me and we don't speak for 10 days and that's absolutely normal. Then again he do same . From the age of 17-18 I'm getting panic attacks.. do you think it's my fault? I'm in very much mental trauma. Doctor has told me to relax and don't take stress. But this is not possible in my family.

Whenever I argue with my family. They always starts counting the favours they have done or are doing for me, from the house rent to college fees everything

​@@Thestudyhub_ u r situation same as me same thing happening with me daily always they pull my physical appearance to make me sad . they (both parents) say look at u r face who will marry u 😔 💔 the shock nd thunder heart pain in my chest 💔 😢 I m brokened totally then all the time they will say look at u r face ,abusing me by bad words , and shaming me in public i m just used to it 💔😭 .. i m 20y/o they treating me like a dumb like I don't know anything they want to know whatever things I do they want get into my life then why I am....one day I am tolded to them don't speak to me like this but its only lasts for 3 days then they back to their actual behavior 🤧 😔 acting infront of their relatives like they r loving me caring me but the house 4 walls know what is reality ...i wanna ran away from them for far away

On the other hand,my parents will reject to watch this video for sure, even if i request them..Not only that i also tried many time to talk with them about that but they Won't understand even they torture me..

omfg i hate this

@@tatamic7612 I would just say that leave it...they will NEVER understand....as a child I have tried soooooooooo many times to talk to them but instead every single time hurt my feeling and made myself feel shitty.........now I as teenager I have realised that there is no point to waste our precious energy on something that is not worth it......let us all instead try to become financially independant and just run from this toxic enviroment

Can agree

You are very strong! Keep at it

Ohh thts so true you spoke my heart out

breaks my heart when you grow up and she told u the only reason she didn’t get a divorce was because of how lengthy of a process it is

@@syakhairi1225 exactly the same thing I have faced.

I had a mother like this. I couldn't have said it better. Blessings and healing to you and I 💚

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Mine was very verbally abusive. And I learnt early these 'tricks' help.

You are very strong! Keep at it

@@Psych2go Thanks🤗🤗

What do u like to do , like any hobbies ? I think we're the same age , tbh. You can talk to ur parents about a hobby that you really like to do(convince them.) and do what u love to do and enjoy the most , I told my mom I like sports , I go to sports club where I play badminton, squash , swim. , Gym and when I come home I have 2 tutions , so I feel very refreshed and I study even better I got 80 , my parents were very happy and baught me stuffs and took me out to have dinner . My point is convince them to do let you do something you love the most Only you can do that , I know you can ♥️ all the best

@@Vishplus I'm really interested in wild side of our planet and space. For instance :- forests, mountains, grasslands, oceans, deserts, stars, galaxies, universe, prehistoric creatures... In short, I love nature. I once told her that I'd like to be mountaineer but her behavior was way bad then I had expected. She abused me both physically and verbally. If she wanted to explain that there's no scope in such jobs, then she could have done it more peacefully. Not all parents are their child's best friends. Most are just abusive and want unquestioned obedience. But I'm glad that I'm slowly recovering from this.

wow I love nature too well you can take your parents for hiking , to the hills or a short mountain , Everyone likes nature Me and my parents go hiking too , it's a near temple which has around 890 stairs .. You can go with your father if your mom denies

More power to you ❤🙌🏻

Wow, this inspired me. I had a similar dad, but not to that extreme. Hope you're doing better now🤗

Thank you. I know too well what if feels like and the same goes to you. You and your family deserved so so much better. I'm proud that you're working on that, you've got this! And I wish you learn how to trust again. Take care!

Omg same situation here, but its only me and my mother 😞 I feel so lonely because my mother kind of discount all the violence that come from my father on me

Sorry about this

Same here stay strong 💪

why does every point relate to me..

@@goldenhourss Hey, have I seen you on MAL before?

@@nazhiraghassani7783 what is mal? SORRY ADHJSNDJA

@@goldenhourss MyAnimeList. Sorry if I made a mistake >< Anyways, nice to meet you!

I feel this with my mommy too😢

The way I see it, you owe your parents NOTHING. everything they do to raise you should be done with no expectation to get anything in return. They should do it because they want to to succeed, not because they want something from you.

Thank you for your good wishes. The world needs to hear this.

Sorry to hear that

@@singingwindrider9881 noo not really. Making someone who abused you think about their actions towards you when they continuously feel entitled. Holding someone accountable is way healthier then festering hate and spewing out negativity. Sounds like you don’t know what ACCOUNTABILITY is yourself.

@@singingwindrider9881 sweetie you must not understand healing and forgiving someone when they didn’t offer and apology. Everyone sets boundaries different. You have no full synopsis or understanding of my life simply a sentence. So how can YOU tell ME about myself when we not know each other. Maybe speak positivity instead of trying to make YOUR “methods” and OPINIONS fit other peoples life and telling them their way of setting boundaries and dealing with an abusive parent is wrong? If I am DECIDING to be the adult and FORGIVE my parent for they way they treated me. How do u expect soMeone to grow without SELF reflection? Yourself included. Maybe focus that energy on your journey to self healing instead of telling other people they are wrong. May the sun melt the coldness of ur heart. Blessed be ❤️😘

@@QwueenCJTheSupreme I know right, it's hard to convince pple that your own parents are the problem. But I believe in you, keep reparenting, you're not alone. We got this 🖤👊🏽👑

Yes!!!

Having a child doesn't make you a parent

Yo how you doing now cause I'm living with them and I'm losing my mind man

Man I relate to this so much...It really hurts. I want to say that you should just be yourself and not change yourself to meet others expectations, but that would be impossible since I know how scary people can be... I'm an atheist and trans-male, none of my family members figured this out yet. But it's so tiring having to pretend I'm "normal" (by normal I meant the classic female stereotype)

My mother didnt show affection even when i scored well in exams

​@@AtiquezahinSo what'd you do?

First off, are you ok? Second off, I know this post is old, but I hope you keep in mind that you are not required to forgive the ones who forced you on the world nor are you required to love them, either.

@@LaMara-vv2wq I appreciate your words!! Things aren’t much better, probably worse, but I’m trying my best. I’ve just gone with the idea that I just have to do this a little while longer and then I’ll move out, go to a good college, and be myself. My parents are really confusing to me, so I’m unsure how I feel about them. Once I understand better, then I think I’ll be able to figure out if we can actually have a nice relationship or if I’ll be able to forgive them. Thank you for your thoughtfulness, I’ll be sure to keep your words in mind.

Sounds like she just wanted a scapegoat when she got old n disabled lol.

Oh I just read the bottom, yea kick her out lmao, or put her ahhh in a retirement home n tell her to pay for it.

i wouldn't recommend doing that.. talk to her.. about what happened in the past and that she has a lot of problems in her that she needs to fix.. if she doesn't listen just ignore her or maybe find a home or building where old people live

You are very strong! Keep at it

Exactly I don’t get this..like I get that you should care for family if they are struggling in life but I have my own life and I don’t want my parents at 60 years old having to take care of them in my own home as if I owe it to them for taking care of me..like as if..taking care of me is your job as a parent so I don’t owe you anything..and plus you’d be a grown damn adult I don’t want them in my home especially if they are toxic. Like let me live my life and go get a job or something. It sounds really rude but it pisses me off.

Glad it could be of value! Let us know how we could make it better.

Sorry to hear about your pain. I wish I was there to rescue you! It’s not your fault remember that. No one deserves to be beaten and abused. Theirs no need to use physical pain. It’s never productive. I wish you well my friend 🥺❤️🤗

Yes, we can decide our own happiness

Haha, I was that person. But after that, even my mother apologized, they are still the same. They will bully you one day if you still trust them. My plan is leaving them as soon as possible. In short term, you should curse them for what they did to you. They know they are bullying and they're afraid if I start to curse them. Finally, search for help from other trustable. They can help you to limit their behaviour and protect you.

Glad the videos could be of help!

@@Psych2go thank you guys

May God bless you and show you all the way out . Much healing 🩷

@@kridha3168 thank you so much I’m better now

Sorry to hear that, I think you can leave them

You are very strong! Keep at it

im the same way im the point i really desire to have children it doesn't excite me because of trauma

:( hope everything will be fine soon! ~

When you see a story of the EXACT same situation as yours, it makes me think that whatever you think you are going through that nobody can understand. There is never really a situation to which no human being has ever exeperienced, but there are some people that understand. Makes me so happy and I hope we both get through thiings!

Yeah that's same what happens with me too

We all go through this. It's why we cut toxic families out of our lives. And you should, too.

Its a hard pill to swallow

nope 🥲

Nope :')

Same bro

Ikr, I'm being affected by their shit but ima break this cycle

@@shakurwonders5216 someone has to break the cycle trauma embeds in the dna and is passed down we even have passed trauma from our ancestors but once its healed thats the cycle breaking you can do it believe in yourself🍀

@@theunknown460 I ain’t tell at this point. Even money’s a problem idk I’m starting to dislike her more and more

@@theunknown460 I’m sorry your have to go through that and I can tell that’s your a kind hearted person who try as hard as possible. Your doing amazing. It can be hard but people like us will get through this. Even if it’s small we try and that’s something no one can take from us. You’ve got this!! Nah it’s okay I understand it. ❤️

I feel like I can relate. I have clear examples that are super bad. But the thing is 98% of the time they aren't like that... I feel guilty for saying and thinking all of those bad things about them and like I'm going crazy