7:15 #1 notice it's happening "I'm having an emotional reaction" 7:36 #2 slow down, pause, take time to answer 8:13 #3 if you're about to cry, imagine dialing your belly knob down to 2 9:06 #4 for anger, use restraint of pen and tongue, dont get into text fights, and promise yourself you will express yourself just a little bit later, ask if they would give you some time and then you'll respond. If it feels urgent to you, that's a cue you need to take double time away 11:42 do some emergency writing, the daily practice, don't expect someone else to be able to re-regulate you, it's an inside job 14:00 hard exercise 14:48 wash your hands or take a shower 17:20 talk to someone outside the situation for an outside perspective, but check in with yourself- is talking to this person making you more or less disregulated? 20:00 focus on next steps, positive action and positive words 21:08 summary, concluding thoughts

Man, I feel seen. Intense emotions have derailed so many jobs and relationships for me. DBT and CBT helped me get some control, but my go-to initial reaction is still a volatile one most of the time, followed by intense shame. I’m finally beginning to see that compartmentalising isn’t always a bad thing, and I don’t have to share every single intense thought when it occurs to me. What a revelation.

The amount of knowledge and wisdom in this video is priceless. Your videos help me more than therapy.

Dear Anna, I thank God for giving me the opportunity to discover your videos. Thank you for being like a good mother to me. I am 65 years old and you are helping me so much through your gentle words and experience. God bless you always🙏🏻

My ex just got married. I’ve been so disregulated and can’t seem to keep my emotions down. Perfect timing, thank you so much.

I am very relieved to learn about dysregulation but I so hate it when it happens. I just had one an hour ago and am embarrassed, like you said. Self regulating is my biggest goal

I absolutely agree that watching the old Mr. Roger's Neighborhood was and is SO soothing! About a year or so ago I found some old episodes and watched them with my kids. I wish someone would re-air that show because so many children AND adults could really use the good example. Also, shows like Little House on the Prairie - rewatching that series with my children is such a good reminder of how we should behave in society. Unfortunately, it seems most people don't know how to be decent human beings anymore.

I feel so strongly that I cannot identify the differences and sometimes shut down so I don’t loose control.

I learned that I decide if what someone says to me should be taken in, holding my breath a moment before speaking can make a difference. Some people just want me to react so they can eat up my energy. I cannot allow others to put me off balance. Do they really matter to me or not. Do they care or not, if I was falling apart every time, they will continue. Never let them see ya sweat. Blank stares sometimes keeps awful people off your case.

"Trying to escape the feeling with a lot of noise and fire."

21:49 The Difference Between ED caused by ADHD vs ED caused by CPTSD 22:30 Complex PTSD or CHILDHOOD PTSD 22:49 ADHD and CPTSD 26:14 the physical effects of Dysregulation 28:30 dysregulation, dissociation emotional Dysregulation 33:33 Dissociation 35:10 the signs of healing 38:22 healing yourself and apologizing for your wrongdoings 38:41 cutting off bad people/setting emotional boundaries 39:43 the goal: becoming who you truly are 40:30 how cptsd people see the world 40:57 share your healing with the world 41:23 how to get out of DEEP Dysregulation 43:54 Raising your voice 44:28 SHAME 44:52 1 talk about it 45:43 2 cry 46:53 3 stop venting 47:29 Talking vs Venting 48:20 4 drink tea 49:23 5 write 51:14 6 go for a walk 52:44 7 get back to work 55:20 8 make a list 58:09 9 find something kind you can do 1:01:50 NEW CHAPTER HURRYING 1:05:05 procrastination is the cause of Dysregulation 1:05:19 the procrastinating/Dysregulation cycle 1:05:40 taking you time and question 1:06:03 our mind like to take time but PTSD is scared of it 1:09:23 getting organized helps regulate 1:10:26 Mr. Rogers 1:14:28 learning to slow down 1:14:50 slowing down techniques 47:38

When my ex stonewalled me for two weeks, one week in I had a complete meltdown, close to a breakdown. My neck was on fire, I was trembling and I lost all control of my thinking. I found an app that helped me process and I knew I could never go back to him after that traumatic experience. I know it was more traumatic than it should’ve been but I also know silent treatment is his way of expressing anger and was getting longer and longer. When you’re in the middle of retrauma, I struggle with controlling the regulation because the silence didn’t break. There was no way of contacting him. His just disappeared. I hope I can find better ways in the future to handle the silent treatment. I also now I won’t be able to have a healthy relationship with someone who give silent treatment longer than a couple hours. Thank you for sharing these techniques. I need to stop investing in the wrong relationships so I don’t get to this point.

This one definitely deserves a place in my "watch on a regular basis" playlist.

Yes...Before I found your channel Fairy, I would just say, "I feel things deeply"....I was super sensitive, easily hurt. So can relate to your example of the partner forgetting about dinner and guests and how I would react. Yes, this has happened to me, and we do end up making ourselves look and feel terrible. To me, it is like they did it because they had lack of regard for me...I was less than and didn't matter, therefore, I wasn't important enough for you to remember, or think of me or our plans.

I suggest to those who wanted to log into this one hour plus video is to start with 20:43 and then according to your interest, demand, time and experience you choose either to finish or restart watching. This young lady is overhauling your emotions and telling you what you have of systems inside. WOW

I feel emotional outburst if I am not taken seriously but then after i vent i feel good and later i feel so bad. Yeah i am also an empath and sensitive person. It's hard not to taking everything personally when people trying to get under my nerves cause they know how to play out my feeling. Yeah even though sometimes they're just projecting their own feeling

Yes and I was stuck in a cycle of eating sugar and carbs. Horrible brain fog added to frustration and deregulation. I also didn't know how the insulin spikes were affecting my moods and health. In 2019 I started eating lots of meats and healthy fats, low carbs and no sugar. What an amazing difference with moods, energy and mental clarity! Now I wake up feeling energetic and in a good mood! Now that I've found you I'm learning about disregulation and the whys and hows. Thank you so much for everything and being real! You say it how it is and I appreciate that.

Ah man. Perfect timing!! I'm getting ready to back to work after 5 days of some of the most extreme dysregulation I've had in a long while. I stayed in bed for several days and just binge watched movies to distract myself from all the intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I was physically ill from all the stress chemicals. (And my sweet, empathetic little cats stayed right by my side the whole time. Lol They always know when something's wrong.) I generally dislike just laying around watching TV, but I realized that this was one of those times where I really needed to just totally shut down and recharge. I feel perfectly ready to go back to work this morning. For me personally, dysregulation is one of the worst aspects of C-PTSD. I much prefer the trance like state of dissociation or the weighed down feeling of depression. Dysregulation just makes me feel totally freaking crazy and not in control of my thought process. ..which isn't great because I'm already autistic and spend A LOT of time in my own head. Lol It's crazy that they're trying to lump C-PTSD in with BPD or PTSD. It's a _very_ different form of PTSD and in some aspects, is actually worse.

Totally agree with doing something tactile/sensual to get in touch with body and environment. Also visualization- like lifting my hands to the sky and imagining the negative energy releasing into the cosmos, or taking off my shoes in the grass and channeling it into the earth.

Thank you! ⚘ I have been having terrible anxiety/temper attacks. Especially at 5am in the morning , BOLTING me out of sleep! SO...I would calm down and pray my rosary, drinking some warm almond milk. Really helped. And chancing upon your video on Emotional Disregulation made the puzzle pieces come together. REALLY !!!!🌷💐🌷

To me, it feels like I am in a box, sort of. The box being made up of whatever feelings and thoughts are gripping me at the moment. I have very limited sight out of the box. When I use these tactics you have described, it helps me quite a lot.

Controlling, getting in touch with, and working through emotions are valid and very different processes.

I remember the last time I was triggered, it was by my friend who was going to employ me to work in a girl's home. She started acting weird to me ever since she hired me and on the final day of our interaction, she was completely ignoring me and triangulating me with other people. Something within me completely snapped and I said something like so you just going to ignore me? And then I ran upstairs. After that she simply fired me and never talk to me again. Proof to me that she was a harmful person in my life. But the reason I was so triggered was because it brought me back to my childhood and how my parents would triangulate me with my sibling, one of us would be the scapegoat and one of us would be the Golden child alternatively. It was horribly unstable. Anyway, I completely relate to what you said about going into a trance like state because that's what happened to me that day. I actually didn't remember much of my childhood before that happened and it brought up so many memories of what had gone on in my childhood. It's like it opened Pandora's box

38:38 YOU ARE NEEDED -- to make the world amazing. Life to the fullest, blessing the world with our presence & our gifts.

... also something I found that simulates EMDR, is the flickering of sunlight on water. I have often thought of how,for thousands of years, people spent a lot of time near water. So it is sort of a natural reset. They would sit by the water, thinking about their problems, and there was this natural soothing thing that was happening. (Just a thought)

How do you understand your childhood needs and then meet them? It feels upsetting sometimes to meet some of the needs cuz its something that should've come from others long ago & you're not the best substitute for it. And other times how do you figure out what you haven't had to figure out if you need it?

I have been hurt so bad today that I am all over the place. I feel sick and it literally led me down a path of reliving every trauma I thought I was over. I needed this. I just wish I could be healed. :(

I use a double breath technique or box breathing to her calm to settle my nervous system too! Great stuff Ana!!

God I just experienced this at work today. Started to cry, tears started to well up, walked away from others to be alone. Not looking forward to tomorrow.

Blowing out my breath like a candle helps keep me regulated. Sometimes I find myself doing this the whole day. Thank you, Childhood Fairy, for nailing emotional dysregulation as the MAIN symptom. It has been KEY in my healing.

Sooooo relatable. I love how you took your pain and helped yourself, now helping others. It felt so good to have someone understand! Only part of me is now a bit jealous because “i should have learned this myself”. Why can’t I just be glad and leave it at that? Acceptance. The good and the shadow. Leaves on the wipers. Mostly feel good! Glad and grateful to have found you, CCF! 😊. God bless

MORE NOTES AFTER THE PINNED NOTES: If you can change your DYSREGULATION, you can change your whole life: health, focus, etc. 28:30 - difference of emotional dysregulation, neurological dysregulation: brain-waves not in harmony effects endocrine and how we metabolize food; and leptin no longer tells when "full" (Susan Pierce Thompson - Bright Line Eating.. re: sugar/flour) disassociation, and what it feels like... detachment, de-realization, etc. dysregulated: can't focus / can see as clearly, feel strange, difficult to get things done, bump into things, drop things, loose stuff... get lost, everything takes longer 35:00 - signs of healing confident about calming self recognize it's happening can separate from too triggering situation for a bit ... smart, wise, actions stop lashing out, restraint pause pen & tongue know how you feel, express it when it serves you less fear and resentment understand my part of responsibility and own it, apologize for it, let it go courage to cut off people where it is good less self-hate, more self-care we become more of who we are... technicolor not loose our shit when something happens see humans commonality... good & bad 41:20 - going from irritability, anger, raising voice, etc. back to a good place watch not making a mountain over a mole-hill recounting situation blow-by-blow can make it worse DO: Talk about it for 5 min. w/ a trusted listener who attends to your emotional state (vent) Notice the shame, hurt, etc. feeling... allow self to cry CALM: then get quiet, pause, calm... just be with it mindfully drink some hot tea, healthy food (protein in every meal is grounding) WRITE Fears & Resentments (Daily Practice) so they can be released (doesn't re-traumatize) so it gives your mind a little vacation MOVE - go outside for a quiet, mindful little walk, notice the details of what you see, hear, feel, smell Get back to work (no-brainer stuff until ready for "thought-work") in 25 min. increments POMODOROS 54:00 - The Pomodoro Technique is a time management method based on 25-minute stretches of focused work broken by five-minute breaks. Longer breaks, typically 15 to 30 minutes, are taken after four consecutive work intervals. todoist.com/productivity-methods/pomodoro-technique 55:20 - List "next steps" After Blow Ups: can trigger past hurts. Catch yourself and choose not to go there. Re-vist happy memory. 58:15 - KINDNESS: Do something kind for someone anonymously. (And give authentic complements.) 100:00 - HURRYING is a massive trigger for dysregulation (core symptom of traumatized) = overwhelm the reason is procrastination (not getting up, not leaving early enough... loose keys, spill coffee, etc.) Procrastinate - Hurry - Dysregulation - Overwhelm - More Dysregulation Cure: Notice! Then SLOW DOWN TO 1/2 SPEED... be mindful of the steps/process you are doing. Mindfulness! Next day, work on building a routine, pre-plan, and build in supports to stay ahead of tasks. ???? MR RODGERS!

I really appreciate all the hard work you put into your videos. 💛🌞💛

Going mute is easy, but not taking anger out physically is hard. Any tips on that... anybody?

You're so incredibly wise, a great speaker, and go into so much depth. I just need to point out, after hearing your story several times, that your disregulation is very clearly from a TBI. It absolutely WAS NOT 100% PTSD/CPTSD. It's VERY clear from your description of the events and the symptoms of the aftermath there was a TBI. It's textbook. But it was the '90's and especially then doctors, especially ER doctors, were clueless on the subject. So you were blown off and sent on your way to figure out what was going, and how to heal, on on your own. I think it's wonderful the parts of you that remained intact after the injury. Even more wonderful how you healed and found a way to manage the symptoms and go very deep into your healing. It's phenomenal that you came to understand there was a neurological injury without the stigma or trauma of the more precise physical diagnosis. I don't mean to do that here. I think your techniques and teachings are wonderfully helpful. You are brilliant and incredibly wise. But I do wish you were aware of this and could integrate this reality into your understanding and teachings. I'm sure that many (if not most or all) of your listeners also have TBI and would be more successful and less frustrated if they could understand that and address their problems from BOTH angles.

The best advice I can give to put a stop to disregulation is to stop thinking about the things that cause you the resentment and concentrate on more present day issues that you can actually do something about. Harping or rehashing the old behaviors only gives them the power to limit your ability to overcome. I find turning to the music I love to be very helpful or maybe a touch of comedy to take my mind off the issues of the past. Whatever works to take your mind off the things that bother you is best.

My guitar is sometimes better than writing in moments of highly-energized insides. The sensation of the instrument helps me. Sometimes!

Dear Fairy Anna, you deserve a billion subscribers - the world would be a better place!!! ❤

Thank you so much for talking about this and bringing it to light. I had no idea why I occasionally became so angry during emotional hurtful episodes where somebody had done me wrong. My alcoholic mother would rage and it was scary. It seemed so strange to me why I was enraged at the hurtful things that were being done to me. Don't get me wrong, the things that people were doing (betraying, invalidating, forgetting), were hurtful in themselves, but my reaction was pure rage and I never understood why. I now have a daughter who was born with an emotional intensity I've not seen in a baby, and I know she gets dysregulated and as she's gotten older, she has become so dysregulated at times, she triggers my PTSD. I have to get a handle on this, so that I can show her the right way despite her ADHD.

Someone with no mental health issues can be pushed over the limit

So like a toddler who is having a tantrum! I get it! I mean, that's how we train the little ones when we give them a time out. We're giving ourselves a time out.

Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. The techniques to practice managing volcanic emotional reactions are so helpful. I work in a corporate role with non-stop pressure. At 43, I have started to understand the impact chronic childhood beatings and emotional abuse have on people's emotional makeup. Your focus on stabilising excessive emotional reactions feels like the only way to succeed rather than blaming external factors. Thank you - you are really helping people.

Feeling too much because you are not able to recognise them and the meaning behind. Feeling is showing a way on what's happening. They help as warning signs. Disregulation can mean that you don't recognise warning signs. When you feel f.ex.anger, hurt it can show that someone have crossed your boundaries. Yes, there's a need to pause and re-regulate to answer/react in appropriate way. So feelings actually help to come back and be present and prevent going into dangerous, risky, toxic relationships. One of reasons for unhealthy reaction is when person have been suppresing emotions and feelings for a long time. F.ex.when you were not allowed to express emotions in childhood in a healthy way. That is one of reasons for depression. Name says already what has been happening there. It's from therapist Dr. Gabor Maté When you have suppressed emotions/feelings those warning signs can be very subtle and it takes time and lot of healing to be able to recognise and learn to act accordingly.

When I get into a fight with anyone, when I get triggered, it’s like they shapeshift into this demon human hybrid and all I can interpret is that they’re bad and they’re maliciously, intentionally trying to mistreat me, so I shapeshift into a lady of darkness come down to fight injustice. Intense and theatrical because that’s how it truly feels. I panic and become so defensive and cruel, harsh, unreasonable, and full of rage. I wish I could stop it because it causes me so much mental and physical stress/pain being dysregulated so intensely. But I’ve been mentally abused and manipulated in so many relationships that I never know when I’m the problem or the other person is. I don’t want to let things go and be taken advantage of but I know sometimes I have to be the problem too, I just don’t know when that is.

I have had a huge test the past couple of days dealing with a male neighbor who is preoccupied with spying on me voyeurism through cameras he has on his house pointed at my yard and is constantly texting me observing what my activities are from grilling a hamburger, to hanging laundry, yard work its the most intrusive behavior. I tried not to answer texts. He did damage to my property spraying weed killer killing half my lawn killed 4 mature bushes and half killed 4 more that Are waning holding on to life. I addressed what he did months ago but NOT as I should. I just erected a privacy screen to my fence blocking (I HOPE) his viewing of my every move. I have a prepared reply text to send him ( ripping him a new one) if he comments on the screen. He's laying low lol NOT commenting and I'M JUST trying to focus on regulating my anger as I dig bushes out and access the damage to my yard. Soo I'm in thus limbo HE KNOWS there's a problem but does NOT KNOW ALL the boundaries he's crossed! Sooo any advise here shirt if the next step which would be going to the authorities about it.

Wow Anna! This video came at the perfect time for me. I am so grateful for your teachings- they are helping me to respond rather than react in unsettling situations. Thank you ❤

This video was so soothing to my soul ❤😢

thank you Anna! I have had ADHA since before it was an acronym. I was taught auditory skills to self sooth out of my fear tantrums. I've been un a year and a half one night stand with what I'm beginning to realize is a narssastic abuse relationship. Wait before you think I'm driving the bus over him, I see I have been narssastic in my own way. Friah and Anna you have saved my life. Dramatic I get it. Truly their Braverman in sharing their lives and your insights Anna, wow. Yall charged the battery that shown the light on the key I'm holding to my own prision. I keep listening as it gives .e hope I don't to keep doing the same thing and denying the results. ODAT

I love the way you explain things

I feel empowered that I took an action with a privacy screen but its still an unresolved restrained situation. Big deep breath. I HATE THIS!

Thank you CCF, these are great

Love this, thank you. So timely.

I would respond too soon. My ex was good at waiting but he would wait so long that other things would happen and we ended up with a list of things to address and got to be too much for us both. My ex would take days or almost two weeks to calm his anger down. It was too much and exhausted me and left me feeling alone.

you really are a fairy for the wounded in trauma.. I feel so seen and understood and it feels comfortingI I thoroughly appreciate the tips you provide with great gratitude.

Thank you so much. I have been talking about this is therapy for a while and never heard it explained as you have in this video. It was made even worse by a hormonal imbalance to the point I felt I was losing my grip. Am a bit more recovered now and I love your channel. ❤

So much good information. I appreciate you sharing your expertise!

By the end, nobody is left

Everything about Mr. Rogers soothes me. Me and my son watch a show or two together when we need to slow down.

your videos are gold ♥️🍒 and on point

Thank you so much CCF ❤️❗

Communication is key - responding instead of reacting. Ty for the help..

thank you so much for these videos!!!!! YOU ARE A GODSEND TO HUMANITY

Deep breathing is great for emotional regulation, in my practice it's a core strategy.

I don’t know if anyone else can identify, but sometimes I feel the more I practice these techniques with a person who is triggering me the more they push and the more I spiral… I even tell myself I’m spiraling and it’s almost like I can’t help myself… I go to far and BOOM 💥 🤦🏽‍♀️ it’s all gone too far and I feel like a complete idiot

This happened yesterday, quite similar, different topic, and I was able to take some time, identify, ground and work through my emotions. Afterward we had a healthy conversation. Lessons from this channel (books, etc) have truly helped me. I've been listening for about two years. Thank you my Fairy.

So grateful that you do these videos for us 🙏🏼

The partner forgetting the dinner is NOT an acceptable situation. It's not previous trauma that is making you angry in that situation, it's your current sense of judgement. Yeah, learning how to regulate the emotions would be useful here, but it's also important to realise that feeling angry here is 'normal' and if anything is a trauma reaction - it would be the idea that this is NOT a normal situation to be angry at. Because the traumatised person feels like they aren't 'entitled' to more.

You have a lot of wisdom, love to listen. I am going to try the daily practice. Maybe I can be wiser, too 😊

Such helpful information for me, at 67!

I understand the importance of commercials, but why so many? This video is important and this is really unsettles me. Despite of this, thank you so much for this video Anna!

Hi. I Thank God for your videos. Im 61 and single. I really can’t stand talking about myself regarding my emotional dysregulation. My mother always wanted me to talk it out with her but she was emotionally disregulated too. I suffered in my head with just what you talk about here. I was always so miserable and unable to carry through my performance in the beginning of a school semester to the end. I would excel and then fail. I could not restrain myself in adulthood because I felt threatened or someone was doing something unfair that would cause me to lose my job or not be able to function to keep it. Methylphenidate has helped me more than adderall and I started taking the generic adderall in my 40’s. And because of the adderall shortage had to switch and lost control over my mouth at the pharmacy. I am now trying to understand if I should take Concerta or immediate release methylphenidate and how I can afford it on Ssdi.

I have suffered from anxiety for quite some time. I also have self esteem and body shaming issues. Do you have advice on these as well? I want to say you have helped so much, I listen to as many of the KZfaq topics as I can. Disregulation was a bug one for me because I was unaware there was a term for how I felt and how I react to uncomfortable or upsetting situations. So Thank You!!

Thank you. Just made myself a cup of tea and I made a turkey and cheese sandwich. I am listening. Began writing in my journal just about that. It wasn't the method but it helped me appreciate the meal and the tea. Thank you.

So true. I recognize every single example. I believe this is why therapy never completely worked for me. Thank you for offering tools too. I found climbing works the best for my emotional dysregulation. I wish every work place had a climbing wall. Funny enough, in my native language we literary say about someone who is emotionally dysregulated: s/he is about to climb a wall.

Thank you

42:40 that's the "Sunk-Cost Fallacy"! "The phenomenon whereby a person is reluctant to abandon a strategy or course of action because they have invested heavily in it, even when it is clear that abandonment would be more beneficial."

Great!

Thank you for sharing your story. I also feel like mine hit all at once around 29. Strange. I have many physical and mental issues. Doctors can’t seem to figure any of my issues out.

Thank you so much for this! I always thought that when I got this way, it was just from stress and overwhelm, but part of me always felt that it was more than that. My dad refers to these instances as me "getting wiggy." As a single parent of a small child, I'd be interested in getting your advice on how to prevent or dial back emotional dystegulation in instances where you are unable to have a few minutes to yourself to re-regulate

It's not even the dysregulation. I hide it. I don't let people see it. It's after. The intense emotions make me burnt out on people and relationships. How do I fix that?

So pretty

I so need help with the emotional dysfunctional issues I have but can't afford to pay someone for the help I just lost my job due to this problem. This video has helped me realize afew things I didn't know for example the rushing thing I've never liked rushing and it bothered me but never realized that that was connected to this

Practicing this.

I am getting involved in a DBT group even though I have CPTSD, they say that also helps with emotional dysregulation

Hi Anna I love your videos! but I’m not sure about the term “regular old ptsd” I’m sure you wouldn’t have meant to but it kind of sounds a bit like it’s less traumatic than Cptsd, I had 25yrs in a violent marriage and there is nothing regular about it I’m afraid🥴, but I do truly appreciate the work that you put into your videos, thank you😊

Love your color of your clothes.❤🙏🤗

Yes, diverting to sensory and thinking mode and developing that so that feelings don't rule me. Stopping and asking God to guide my thoughts as the feelings are staring to overwhelm - writing about it if possible too. Then looking at the situation with me included in it from a third person perspective helps me see. Another thing that helps me is 'call a friend' and get a new look at it all. Mostly my strong emotional reactions come from giving other people more power than they have in my mind and/or believing that I should be able to change the situation or other people. I love the knob idea. Hey, your longer hair looks great!

I find as I try to read about healing and trauma to help myself learn how to get better I am literally unable to read. No mater how I concentrate my eyes wander and avoid the words and they go fuzzy. Is this normal for early stages or healing? It almost feels automatic like a sneeze, not just uncomfortable but literal. I lose the ability to read.

I feel like my inner world will explode every moment when Im on my work. I work on stroke department think how thought it can be to hold back my inner explosion. USHHH. LAST 25 year I did nothing but trying to regulate my inner war like vulkany. This is exosted when I resist inside me. Ushhhh but I fixed it ladt 25 year but I have no life when I comming home from my work. Completely finish. It feels like I take flight to another country and travel 13 houre to this country and travel back 13 houre back home. So 23 houre is to much every they exosting ptsd. I cant controll toughts or feelings but Im aware that is Impossible to do that. For every tought comming 300.000 other tought so for me is enough just to be conscious of Impossibility to controll something which is constant inner biological sensor. I cant stopp the mind but I can observe it when Im aware of it.

I was too real and authentic with my intense emotions and looked crazy! I am learning now that people either don't care or extremely good at pausing and filtering their emotions. I know of people who actually do fake cry and no tears come down! They are the true narcissists. Complete shells with a flat effect, mainly due to a cognitive disability. Who knew??🎉 You want to get to them, and see them get angry, mess with their money. They will go ballistic.

I'm going to start attending an anger management group next week .. I hope I find it helpful..

My emotional dysregulation is a tsunami! And this tsunami has done a lot of collateral damage. It's not only an emotional regulation it is in with my honesty integrity etc. it's an entire belief system off emotions. However my tsunami goes off like a rocket. Either with tears or anger I have always wondered what has happened in my past as a young child that makes me cry.

I think its completely valid to get angry if my partner forgets dinner plans. Its my right to get angry isn't it? He would be angry at me too. I don't think i am at the fault here.

23:32 strange. Thought it's what they refer to when it comes to veterans

This video is really triggering me. If i don't show my real emotion, i am just betraying myself like everyone else has. Maybe also betraying that person. Why should i put my feelings on the back. You tell me how do I make it clear to my partner without anger that he needs to be gentle and respect me or i respect myself and leave. I don't want to leave him but i don't like this feeling of bitterness

Hey Anna, at about 12:30 you say that when you are hurt and and and tell the other one full of anger that they hurt you, they usually will not be sorry and help you feel better. My questions are: Do you talk about random people or people you are in a relationship with. And wouldn't it be normal, especially in a close relationship to hear what the other one has to say, even in anger? Isn't it normal to help your partner not being hurt so much? How is this behaviour not out of a helathy place? Could you please explain this? Thank you!

So if we are dealing with a narcissistic person, are you saying that we should also see the good in them too?

I can never calm down in just 15 minutes, i need hours or even days sometimes. Whats wrong with me?

Truth, too emotional. I'm in withdrawal from Effexor. Add CPSD, and you have suicidal ! Next day fine! WTF! I feel totally screwed. Try getting a psychiatrist who normally deals with dementia. In the UK, we get referred to the team for the elderly once past aged 65. I sincerely doubt she knows anything about CPTSD, I only heard about this four months ago. Now I need to control these out of control emotions. T

You mentioned going to a 12 step meeting. Was this an AA meeting? I ask because I live in a small town and there aren't a lot of support groups here. Would going there, or going to a Co-dependents support group help?