INFJ ESTP Duality | Are INFJs Inverse ESTPs?!

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Today we're asking the questions are INFJs inverse ESTPs? Are we going to use that knowledge to our own advantage when it comes to personal growth or should we actually get together with ESTPs in any kind of scenario in order to optimize our power? These are the things we're gonna talk about today.
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@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

What‘s your take on the INFJ/ESTP Duality?

@lxf9914 4 жыл бұрын

I have a good ESTP friend. We learn alot from each other and yes we are more similar than we realize. I went to visit him once and I said something (I still don't know what it was but his response suprised me) and he said "why are we the same"? I still have no idea what I said...but I think both of us can see that we are very different yet having the same judging and perceiving functions in the same proximity (as opposed to say ISTP or ENFJ where they are a jumbled up version of us) leads to this weird phenomena. They are a lot of energy for me though sometimes but I do learn alot from them by observation. How they behave around people, how they go about things. Why they do these things etc. And they will crack you up without trying. They do things that we consider rude but will make you laugh. Once we went for a hike and this old man was riding his bike up a slope thats on the way to the mountain trail. It looked funny because he was old and skinny and peddeling very slowly up the hill. I see that. yes, it looks funny but I say nothing. Then my friend yells, "hey! need a push!?" haha oh man, like you don't say that. lol but nope, he did. turns out the "old man" was actually super in shape and runs the mountain every day. He beat us up and down the mountain. But INFJ definitly needs to set boundaries because ESTP doesn't know we are introverts and will want to hang out all the time...I don't think both can be happy long term together though due to different energy levels. Energy wise - INFJ is more of a Jazz cat and ESTP a "rough rider". But I think that if they respect each other enough they will always be good acquaintances/friends that unite every once in awhile after running their own lives. We have the same interests though usually I find. And yes 100% agree - we have to do our own things! Just observing: INFJ: Marina---- Jorja Smith-- The Weeknd---- Aargon (fantasy character) ESTP: P!nk ------- Rihanna------- Bruno Mars----- Madmartigan (comparable fantasy character)

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

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@Ununpentium 3 жыл бұрын

I (m, ESTP) had a great relationship with an INFJ, long before I knew about MBTI. We were totally different, but could learn so much from each other. And the connection was immense! Now I get why!

@stavroulapantelaki6170 3 жыл бұрын

I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an ESTP. We seem so different, but we have also so much commons that sometimes it confuses me! This video solved a lot of questions to me! Thank you very much!

@iamkxtv 4 жыл бұрын

I (INFJ) have an (ESTP) wife. We’ve been together a total of 20 years and it’s a struggle. We’re awesome at times, other times we find ourselves at a stalemate. Neither living the life we ultimately dream of. When one of us is truly happy the other is miserable. We’re still trying to figure it out. This video is helpful in understanding the dynamics. Thank u.

@paleaspaper4161 3 жыл бұрын

I’m an INFJ In a 2 year relationship with my ESTP. It’s such a unique relationship, but works so well at the same time. We both like that we both are able to help eachother in areas we’re not so good at. We’re so different but we have always felt something in common with eachother, it’s very weird but great.

@munnip3557 3 жыл бұрын

It's hard when you're infj and your mother in-law is estp...can't see things eye to eye. She want to live together, always party, talk loud, always get in my business...why can't people be respectful of others whom you are living with...sometimes i get so tired and sick of such behavior... I mean Under my roof, You are allowed to have your opinions, thinking and way of living....just don't expect me to be same. can't pretend to enjoy whatever you do.... I would like to be left alone....Now you come along and always trying to change things...and keep saying... Oh "it's not you guys (me and her son) and and us... It's us together... We are small family... We should always be together "...🙄Im like we are together.. Under my roof🤯. It just very frustrating. make me feel as if we are together only, if I share everything with her my thoughts, My plans, and take her along then only then "we are together" no I'm not just feeling it but she'll only bring up "we should be together" crap only when I don't want to share...nothing like freaking privacy!!! Why is it so hard to understand that privacy is important! 🤯🤪 Yet, me being typical infj😔 always putting up with it and actually feel sorry for her....i hate explaining everything to her I feel like I'm wasting my energy behind someone who doesn't want to put any effort to understanding others.. It's her way or wrong way.... I wish I would have guts to confront her one day and just say what I feel.

@sandradibiaso7316 3 жыл бұрын

My ESTP mom sometimes taps into her INFJ aspiration and she can write beautiful feeling-centered poetry. She used to write about the sorrows of the world. Most of the time she lives in the moment, works hard plays hard, loves new experiences and does not like being touchy feely or having deep conversations. I know my mom is an ESTP. She likes being around a lot of people, she loves parties and shows her love by buying gifts like ESTPs, ENTPs, ESTJs and ENTJs do.

@Prettydee90 4 жыл бұрын

Very beautiful said !!! Me infj husband is a estp and we match together like peanut butter and jelly lol. Of course we have our strong Difference but goes well together balance trust commitment communication and understanding and listening. We are 12 years strong. He is my everything 😃😄

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome 👏 sounds like a great team 👍😊

@Coneman3 2 жыл бұрын

I find ESTPs hypnotise me with their Se hero. I feel inadequate due to Se inferior.

@DomiNares 4 жыл бұрын

Thought Ti and Se as my weaknesses but they are actually my life path.. Im enlightened.. thx so much 🙏🏼

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

😊👍 you‘re welcome

@debmanrique6466 2 жыл бұрын

My ex- Estp husband kept my infj personality growing socially. He made all the calls to get together with others. As long as I had other moments alone to re-energize. I organized and planned all the vacations. (Our compatibility was great, but he had other issues.)

@sardarkhan7178 4 жыл бұрын

I am INFJ looking for my ESTP half part

@nayel1mart 4 жыл бұрын

Such an interesting thing!!!! I had never thought about that! Makes more sense now. I have a good ESTP friend and I had noticed that we complemate each other well, and also sometimes one of our primary funtions gets in the way so strongly that we copy and align to the preferences of the other, and we look at ourselfs confused 😆😅. And even though we want so different things, we understand the other so well. Now makes more sense why that happens. Thank you so much for the enlightenment, Wen!!!

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

☺️👍 glad it resonated with you 👍😊

@notthatvashti8127 4 жыл бұрын

Whoa, I had no idea how important it is to try to strengthen our SE! You're so right about how people react to you using this function. Thanks for this super advice!!

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful 👍😊

@ghanajaa 4 жыл бұрын

Great stuff Wenzes, we have a strong sense of direction that helps our Se...

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it 👍😊

@harrykingsley7915 4 жыл бұрын

Great advice, especially about developing exponentially. Thank you.

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Glad it resonated with you Harry 👍😊

@ocho8172 Жыл бұрын

Outstanding. God Bless you!

@teamthoth 4 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this today. Thanks girl!!!!

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful 👍😊

@alexanderbialonowicz5770 Жыл бұрын

Interesting! I though I was estp for a while , but it was more wishful thinking .. You had surprisingly many videos with topics that are very relevant for me and my development. I’ve added them in “watch later “

@darthghitza8037 2 жыл бұрын

I’m an ESTP. I can act like an INFJ if I need to, but I won’t keep it up for long. Using Ni is exhausting, Fe is more natural but still exhausting. I’m at my best when I don’t have deal with feeling stuff or abstract ideas. I can do it for sure and I do do it consistently, but it exhausts me. I’m guessing it’s the same for you in reverse.

@northcomply 2 жыл бұрын

Yea I’m an INFJ and thinking of ideas and possibilities come naturally to me and is where I’m most comfortable, but developing my SE through some type of physical activity is so satisfying

@stevedavenport1202 2 жыл бұрын

Damn straight. I can't domSe for too long.

@evenwithme_1753 Жыл бұрын

yeahh exactly, i always thought that i was an INFJ but realizing that this type uses a lot of Fe i don't really think i am an one of them since sometimes using to much Fe can be really exhausting and not really authentic in myself.

@JungINFJ Ай бұрын

I was a great athlete growing up. I can definitely hang athletically. The difference is that after a game or performance (music) I HAVE to be alone and mentally review and analyze everything that just happened before I can go on to the next thing. It's like I need mental closure for the Se thing that just happened. So yeah, if I don't get to do that it can be exhausting. Like there is just too much "stuff" piling up for me to think on. I have to Ni before and after the Se event to be comfortable. Otherwise I really do enjoy my Se and generally see lots of beauty in the world.

@unastanojevic3434 3 жыл бұрын

Really loved this video

@baaf777 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Wenzes, I had to watch this video! 🙂 If I want to become good in something, I look for someone who masters that skill. As a second-year race rower I teamed up with experienced race-rowers and my learning curve went to the moon. And to improve my Fe-Ni, I prefer to team up with INFJs, the intuitive feeling masters.

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

😊👍

@ms.tokyoo 3 жыл бұрын

Its funny how I figured out these coping skill myself through my own suffering and deep contemplating in my mind space. I come to watch the videos to help organize my thoughts to make sense, im doing the actions and I know its good for me but I think its weird, causes anxiety but im working through it and valuing myself, I lost a job once cuz my girlfriend only had Thursdays off from work and college so I skipped work on Thursdays so I could make her happy cuz I just wanted the best for her but I neglected myself

@unknownneverr Жыл бұрын

estp here and i think i really used good balance of all my functions, that makes me easier to connect with infjs :) i love them

@FluffyEmmy1116 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, looking back, I kinda always had an attraction the ESTP-ish, high (Se) girls. One of my best friends in high school was totally high (Se) and probably ESTP, but honestly, he got me way out of my comfort zone MANY times, and that was just one the things that kept us friends so long, even years after HS. It was definitely an "opposites attract" friendship.

@darkghostonline 3 жыл бұрын

My elder sister is INFJ. She is very good friendly with me🙏

@Salehieh 3 жыл бұрын

I truly liked this video. The idea that Se-Ti is the instrument for implementing Ni-Fe visions is SO TRUE. The truth in it is so strong that it seems unmistakably self-evident when articulated. That's how true it is.

@kiwanisxmas3654 3 жыл бұрын

I've had trouble with this all my life ill try and listen it does feel like were on our own frequency that has been incredibly 🤔 difficult

@user-qu2hg1mb5z Жыл бұрын

I'm an INFJ and my Mom is ESTP we balance each other out so well because of it

@truthseeker7492 2 жыл бұрын

This reminds me of princess Zelda and Sheik from the Zelda video games.

@light5634 4 жыл бұрын

Hey, Wenzes :) I find it kind of odd you were attracted to ESTPs. I dislike the sensory types for the most part. I guess my ISFJ mom has a lot to do with that because she's told me all my life I'm lazy. My dad is an ESFJ and he's always been more understanding of my lack of energy. For years I didn't want to do the cooking and the cleaning. Then I started cooking for myself, but I still 0rocrastinate the cleaning a lot sometimes. I've surrounded myself with ENFPs, INFJs, INTJs, an ENFJ and I have a bunch of friends whose types I'm not quite sure of. Still I'm appreciative when others do some of the physical tasks for me, it's quite a relief, but I hate it when I when someone starts pushing me. Thanks for the video! Just yesterday I watched C. S. Joseph's video on the cognitive transitions of INFJs. It's kind of funny you came out with similar topic 😁

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

😉👍 yeah, sometimes these synchronicities happen

@manojkumar-ow9np 4 жыл бұрын

infj nd estp are polar opposites....this relationship can make each other experience their life as whole...like making a complete circle... Can u make a video on personality types and places where they may be found... especially estp's

@oceanbluek 4 жыл бұрын

Do like reading books wenzes? I would love to know your book suggestions 😊

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

I mostly like non fiction books, so everything about personal development. Gay Hendricks...the big leap for example is one of my latest favorites

@parkkooklietjeonjimeo6214 3 жыл бұрын

You would look amazing with a dark hair color and split in half

@sawk9939 4 жыл бұрын

My brother is an ESTP,I have to live with him,would it be possible to make a video on how to stand up to them,as an INFJ?

@alext.9033 2 жыл бұрын

You have to get good at setting your boundaries explicitly, and get comfortable if they don't like it.

@austinstephen563 4 жыл бұрын

I call them out on bs all the time and they the extroverts that ive known get scared because I see thru them, they dont know how to approach me they say, truth and honestly, I also was the only infj in my home town growing up, Most my relationships were with extroverts. including friends , played American football as i was rold I jad super powers because i could judge what there moves would be , raised by outlaw bikers and used writing as my outlets, my only problem with relationships are lack of communication and people being faithful (drugs and alcohol def played apart on the past but off and on not all . also have a background most dont , so I dont fear things . other tuan random messages from people i dont know but can tell they know me 😂

@REV1517 2 жыл бұрын

ESTP are good people but most of the people I have come across also suffer from being a malignant narcissist and I can not stand those people. Being an INFJ and A Sigma personality is not good to run into an ESTP that is also an Alpha. 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️ Clash of the titans is best way to describe it.

@user-wq4oy2ft2b Жыл бұрын

I had an ESTP malignant narcissist bf. Almost lost myself completely. When I figured out what the whole narcissism thing was about and decided to part ways, it was messy. Been stalked and hoovered for months. Then I figured out about mbti and INFJ door slam, and it started to make even more sense. Exactly what has happened. I cannot unsee what he is now.

@aquariusstar7248 4 жыл бұрын

Im still trying to recall and understand what all of these functions are. Im slowly getting there. Lol! That SE. I was thinking today how when i think of my visions, when i FEEL into them, the gap btween my imagination and reality seem so huge, i actually scare myself! Deciding to take that first step is real! Ive been doing it for 7 years now in my side biz; and when it is time to take those steps i still feel scared, doubtful, and overwhelmed. It takes a lot of mental/emotional energy out of me, yet when obstacles are overcome--thatboost!🚀🚀And when i get to the end. Omg!🍻 Let's celebrate!! The process is an emotional roller coaster😆 when you do MBTI comparisons, can you give us examples of the other? A celebrity or politician or scientist? Or describe their personality? I dont know what an ESTP is like?

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

I‘ll try to give more examples in the future. P!nk for example is an ESTP

@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied 9 ай бұрын

Well, they can blurt out their assumptions in the worst possible context, making me pull my hair out…. But, when their assumptions are accurate, it can be very effective, not to mention, useful. Also, they can be misunderstood. -INFJ

@queenesther5358 3 жыл бұрын

Is estp twinflame of infj

@lawrencenicolaides2361 2 ай бұрын

Infj dad to estp son. I thought I would make another infj, I did, Just a reverse infj.

@Anya21084 2 жыл бұрын

Is it possible to be INFJ in the childhood and then become more of ENFJ? In the test I'm 60% extroverted and 40% introverted and I have a feeling that I changed a lot

@dj_yaki 2 жыл бұрын

I think so, I have a friend who was infj but some things happened and he changed into an enfj.

@evenwithme_1753 Жыл бұрын

Well i don't think so, probably you just got more mature and grew up and learn certain things about you, but i saw i video that saids that your personality type doesn't change since is like an structure you're born with, you just learn to be a better person

@angelinathedrifter 2 жыл бұрын

Hmmm🤔being 80/ ESTP tat's interesting..

@stevedavenport1202 4 жыл бұрын

ESTPs are all anout dat action.

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

😊👍

@aliisakalma8245 3 жыл бұрын

I like them but the whole murdering and being criminals thing is a bit too much lol I like brattaming but estp can be a difficulty level of impossible.

@darkghostonline 3 жыл бұрын

I am not ESTP.😂

@egoecho0 Жыл бұрын

@user-tr6sy5lm8l 4 жыл бұрын

(EDIT) in this world there's a 1000 ways to do 1 thing n 1 way to do a 1000 things...n that 1 way to do a 1000 things is to try, learn 1 trick after another...learn all the tools of the trade n all the trades of the tool...bottom line...the idiot knows it all n the intelligent will learn...meaning that the idiot knows all he know but the intelligent will know how to learn to do it better...just don't learn from urself only(idiot's way)...learn from everybody n anybody also(intelligent's way)...because there's always someone better than u n someone worst than u...in one last conclusion...stay open but stay also closed(in the middle)because u can't learn everything in one day...cheers!!! i wish u a wonderful day too lil one.

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Have a great day too...but I am not little 😉

@user-tr6sy5lm8l 4 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes I'm 6feet, 6inches(201.168cm).... everyone are lil to me...lol...cheers!!!(I edited my comment).

@aham9570 4 жыл бұрын

infjs and estp are duality, you are enfj

@Wenzes 4 жыл бұрын

Didn‘t watch the video I guess

@aham9570 4 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes I've watched plenty of your videos, and then I realized how motivational your fe dom was and then I came here to share my insight :)

@valdemar83 3 жыл бұрын

Not even enfj,in my opinion. Isfj/tj. There's a lot of istjs who perceive themselves as infjs. It doesn't matter really, as it is a product placement, using behavioral infj types as a tool.

@ma6542 Жыл бұрын

She is a mature infj .... I see a lot of Ti and controlled Fe , with developed Se.... happens as INFJs get older