Are we?

@@ragequit4537 yes, yes you are.

@@BlackCat-qr6gy This makes me feel so good :')

@@livelaughlovetartaglia_5221 no problemo. We love you guys.

I hope so lol

Yeah, INFJs make us feel comfortable enough to ask “What do you mean?” when we don't understand stuff. - ISFJ

I am ISFJ and my fiancee is INFJ. Arguments are the easiest things to navigate when you both see each other's point of view.

This is SOO true 💜

Agree

I'm an INFJ who studies religion and I'm married to a pharmacist ISFJ. I'm one to make decisions and stick to them. My husband takes forever to make a decision. I'm surprised that he decided to marry me so quickly. Lol

NTL WU05 I am right there with you! If I am around someone who is organized, logical, and is more “S”, I get to relax and be more big picture/thinking abstract. However, I was married to a super strong “N.” He was so big picture he couldn’t see the steps. I had to be the step by step one, or nothing would happen. I can do both and I flip on tests...

I’m confused between isfj and infp... and even isfp actually 😂

Ann Stropes me too!!! I act slighty different depending on the people i’m with, i don’t do it on purpose but it comes natural to me to kinda “balance”

Kikketta11ify me too, I‘ve gotten both in tests. It seems like on vacation or when I was jobless and searching I got INFP but once I found a job Im totally being ISFJ. I always relate to both just im not really spontaneous and never was. Always was and am more of a planner.

annichan91 yes same:/ i’m more an isfj when i’m with very vivacious and chaotic people (like my esfp friend), but more infp when i’m with my istj mom or intj friend😭

That's true. My father is an ISFJ, I'm INFJ, it's a great, calm relationship. He just knows what I need and I like listen to his thoughs. ^^ (Not like with my ESTJ-mother.. xD Uff! But with my INFP-sister it's cool too. But - no feelings, please!)

I'm an INFP, and my mom is ISFJ. We are very similar.

You are an ISFJ too

Same!

Same but I'm the ISFJ and my friend is the INFJ

Kim Beadle 😂

ANXIETY😂😂

For me introverted intuition leads to solutions to my problems. The difficult thing is listening to your intuitive insights and lending them validity in a world that prefers the concrete and the rational to things you can't see or prove. But it's really good stuff if you get in the habit of listening to it, for instance dreams are a powerful way the benevolent energies of the world lend a hand to those of us sensitive and willing to accept that guidance. I like dreammoods dot com for possible interpretations, I ask myself if the dream symbol interpretation makes sense for what's happening in my life, and sometimes it does; it can give insight and show patterns.

Another thing I've been doing lately is before I go to bed, do some kind of prayer or at least just mentally list five things at the forefront of my mind...my worries or confusions usually, with a 'please help' undertone. Oftentimes the next day, articles will pop up in my feed on the very topics I was seeking insight into, it's kind of fun and hilarious actually when it happens like that. You have to be open to it and accept it as valid though for it to work, you can't be judging it as b.s.

intuitioning into creating unrealistic problems

damn, i feel you. i am an infj dating an isfj and i experience the exact same things all the time.

your english is excellent. I grew up with an ISFJ mom.

Ingemaja have you ever considered whether you’re an INFP? The reason I ask is Si for an INFJ is normally viewed as pointless and basic, it’s the opposite of inspiring to us. Whereas an INFP uses Si as a tertiary function so strengthening with a dominant user would help feed their Ne providing that boost of renewed creativity. Food for thought..

I loved your comment. What concepts do you see in new ways?

Sarah Dennis It’s an interesting thought, that I have entertained a few times. It would make sense, but at the same time not. I can’t quite explain it, but it doesn’t really fit. INFP would explain some things, but INFJ explains more. Could this be a sign of imbalance? Gathering and organising new things in order to feed my imagination have, for instance, helped me write some not-so-depressing poems. It seems (to me, who may or may not be wrong about myself) as though everything is set to serve my world of thoughts, but that doesn’t necessarily point towards one specific type. That’s more like... hi, I’m an I. The interesting question would be what kind of thoughts, right? Do I know my feelings, do I know what I value? Truth is: I’ve tossed around a lot of thoughts during the past six years, and my views regarding a lot of different things have changed. My self-worth is different, I’ve reconsidered some rather harmful views I had (I’ve also gone from 16 to 22 years old, so I’m quite young, and I have to keep in mind that I don’t know everything). If your thought is right, and I’m an INFP... then what would this change mean for the lead Fi? It seems like everybody can have tendencies that points towards functions that they don’t really like to use (that’s at least what I gather, from watching people trying to type others and so forth). My younger self lived 24/7 inside of this bubble of fantasies, and weren’t really willing to do anything else. The real world used to be boring, but my boyfriend showed me how it could sometimes be fun: like when you share a meal with someone you love, or when you go for a walk somewhere nice. I suppose the part about being in a bubble 24/7 also points towards an imbalance, but that’s where I feel the most at home: in a world that I’ve built for myself, where knowledge, ideas and loved ones take up most of the space. An INFJ have Se as their fourth function, whereas an INFP have Si as their third. You’re absolutely right in pointing that out, seeing as I’ve grown to like the world around me (although it’s draining to spend time outside of the bubble). F also deals with choices, and I’m terrible at making decisions (it can literally take days for me to find out whether I want to see a movie or not, and that should have been an easy decision). There’s also the question of the thought-process that goes into various choices. I do ask myself if something is good, but I also ask myself if the choices makes sense from a more logical point of view. I struggle a little to see how inferior Te would be able to be so present in this process, unless I’m some weirdo who’ve somehow managed to develop my inferior function more than my third (sorry, I’m not quite comfortable with saying tertiary and auxiliary) function. INFJ or INFP shouldn’t both be right, but I can seem like both. Living 24/7 inside of a bubble is in no way healthy, and I’ve had to practice being in the real world for the past years: having an ISFJ there have helped me a lot, but that also does suggest that I might be wrong. No, I’m not sure. INFJ fits the most, but I can definitely see the possibility of being wrong. Thank you for the suggestion, it definitely is some food for thought. I think I should go look more into it, and try to view these things without the glasses that reads “I’m this, not that. I’m like this and that, and that means I can’t be like that” (😅). Edit: fixed some typos

INFJ is about synthesizing things to form an ideal vision to help people because of a deep empathy. ISFJ is about reapplying past experiences to help people because of a deep empathy. The stats and facts thing he was saying was actually for ISTJs. Si is about remembering, whether it´s what other people think (Te) or what other people feel (Fe) depends on F or T.

😂😂

Same bro.

this is why i’m here it’s like one day i get isfj and then next is infj but i feel more connected to isfj

my bestfriend is like that too

I’m the exact same I have always gotten infj but I took the test recently and got isfj but I really do relate to both of the personality types and I can’t really figure out which one I am so I’m just gonna call myself an infj/isfj

@@LeeknowsminsAtdegreesinairfrye exact same with me, I’ve been getting more isfj recently but now I’m going back and forth between them 😂

@@saki-lx3jc same

I like how he gives a head's up. :)

I am an ISFJ too and I am going to the nursing field

Omg you are amazing! Hope you continue bringing people's lives happiness 🌞

I’m ISFJ but I’m dental assistant

Wow, that is so good to read! I had an amazing ISFJ friend, and my son is an ISFJ. Now I am dating an ISFJ, and so far it has been wonderful. They are great at being supportive (as you said) both emotionally and in a practical way (well, if you want to do this, here is what needs to happen). We INFJ's see the big picture and get the ideas, they see the details and the steps that need to be taken to get there. But the mutual empathy is amazing! And the wanting to care for the other mutually creates such an amazing bond!

Inferior functions (for you Ne) aren´t things that aren´t valued, their actually the direction of growth. INTPs (my type) want to take care of people but feel completely inadequate at it by nature. But as they grow, they get better and better at it. Approaching empathy is approaching self-actualization. For ISFJs, they value possibilities and new ideas, but they initially feel completely inadequate in the area. As they grow and get better and better at seeing the world through a more open lens, they approach self-actualization.

I'm ISFJ, and so are both of my best friends and my sister!

From my experience, you are describing exactly what an ISFJ would say. They aren't really afraid of new concepts, they just aren't typically the type to think them up on their own. My ISFJ friends always, say "I never would have thought of that", but aren't afraid of the ideas themselves.

i think that is not we're "afraid of" but we just don't see the need to change

Me too! -INFJ

Hey, same relationship over here and I laughed because a lot of things you said are the same with us 😂 man the Ying and Yang thing is great about the combination of the types. He (ISFJ) helps me to come back into my "base". Really would love to meet another infj/isfj couple in rl 😄

I'm ISFJ but related hard to half of the INFJ qualities on your list.

INFJ with the ISFJ beat (figuratively speaking, in most cases) into me by my mother and grandma. So I get burnt out super quickly and am constantly at war with myself. It only made my INFJ perfectionism spill out into the tangible world. So now you have an INFJ who can’t be at peace in either space (abstract or concrete) basically. Who can’t handle mess and disorganization but will burn herself out to the point of letting it all crash and burn for a few days until she gets her next burst of energy. Sometimes I am great with details to the point of remembering someone’s name that was randomly thrown in a conversation a few months back. Other times, it takes me years to take into account the presence of something that’s been standing in the same place for years. The only reason I’ve been able to finally settle on being an INFJ is because I can handle tangible details very well. But it stresses me out immensely. The whole time I’m moody and freaking out. But things do get done.

Wow

I share some of both for example 3. I tend to stick with the same meal every time I go restaurants for example at Chilis I always get the fajitas. But I also like to go out of the norm and explore various meals from various cultures, I have a very refined pallet. 5. I do not like to cry, I avoid movies and music that makes me cry. and yet every time I see/here one I ball like a baby. I do both of 6. I will help others both physically and emotionally even past my own breaking point with no regard to my own personal health. I am typically an outgoing person, even still I have very strong feelings about keeping my privacy and enjoy being alone with myself. I need that time absorb and reflect. The rest I am 100% on point with INFJ's

i'm flattered

Pewds doesn't feel like an INFJ. I mean I love him, but he sticks to his attitude, his personality and ideas too much to see the virtue of trying to control how he expresses himself his anger, his thoughts and thus causing his rebellion against media. I think a relatively healthy INFJ would have seen all the wreck his war with Wall Street Journal would do to him and his channel long term.

@@DrLiaraTSoni im not saying pewds is an infj. I'm saying FJ is like the infj version of pewdiepie or pewdiepie, but an infj xD

👏TYPE 👏 REVIEW

Was actually thinking of the same thing 😂😂😂

Tiffanee Reyes introverts dream ;)

I am an INFJ pathologist and it's like the best job in the world I could have imagined ! Yay background work

Taking up a pre-Med course and I knew I could relate here to the idea of helping people indirectly. It’s just boring to interact with people especially the unworthy ones so 👍

I am infj in science and i love post job party time at a brewery🤷🏻‍♀️

lol we are the same! i finally made my husband do this mbti test after 2 years of marriage. it turns out he is an isfj (while I'm an infj). i feel like we are much alike.. as if he was my male version.. but the other times we are so different. after the test i finally figured out why.. i told him about this but he just had poker face.. not really into this type of topic

I'm a bit late, first letter is direction of the first function, second and third letters are the preferred perceiving and judging functions in the top 2, and last letter determines which of the preferred perceiving and judging functions are extroverted: For INFJs, I says their dominant is introverted, NF says they have Nx and Fx in their top two, J says that F is extroverted, so it's Fe, which makes their N into Ni, and since their dominant is introverted, Ni goes first. The third and fourth functions mirror the natures of the top two, so if top two is Ni then Fe (perceiving then judging) then bottom two is Ti then Se (judging then perceiving, oh and don't forget about the functions alternating directions (Xi Xe Xi Xe or Xe Xi Xe Xi) Last one: ESFP, E says the dominant is extroverted and makes the alternation Xe Xi Xe Xi, SF says S and F are top two, P says S is Se and F is Fi, fill in the alternation and boom u get Se Fi Te Ni

Frank’s too famous now for such nonsense.

Check out the youtube channel :Objective personality

@@june23 THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS EXPLANATION! It helps a lot! 🙌

I like that you have noticed that there are many variations of us depending on our experiences. I always feel maybe that's why I am so different from the ISFJs I see online.

Me too(:

Same! 😊

Exactly. I got 51% sensing

Danielle Marie that’s me but with ISFJ & INTJ

Try keys2cognition cognitive test and you’ll see what you really are.

Try being an ESTP with ISFJ dad. It almost destroyed my life.

Seems like a win win to me !

wait, you are an infj-(A) like actually assertive, damn. Im Infj-T and want to become assertive and less shy, insecure, self doubting etc. Got any tips??

Excessive drinking gets me, if I drink more than 2 days a week I’ll live inside my head to the point I lash out. I over analyze to the point of worrying about what my damn beta fish thinks of me. Life is tough in this head, I need to be sober lol.

omg why even point that out. as an isfj i feel offended because thats mean

@@Snickers9991 lol fr why would she say that

Hmmm he didn't want to date you so you had to go there? How rude.

lmao why the hell would you even mention that? tf is your point. lady, you have issues

sensors are more common than intuitives, so that makes sense. in fact, a great deal of intuitives are mistyped sensors

Me too and I’m confused of myself is like living in heaven and hell, for me INFJ is my heaven and ISFJ is kind of a hell for me, But I don’t know any of you feel what I’m feeling, base on my research, so I want to know,

@@cherrykitten7413 If INFJ is heaven for you, you're not an INFJ.

@@prof.reuniclus21 is between right and wrong haha and I’m against towards INFJ and ISFJ, and heaven means in a peace

No apologising needed. I deal with it on the daily too. It's not easy. Eventually, you'll figure it out. Just keep going :)

A little update.. our relationship didn't go forward.. and I've met a couple more people these past few months.. but still single 😅

Wanting to have a greater purpose is not a fault , nor is imaginary, it’s what we seriously need as human. Think and live outside the box. Btw y did u decided to end the relationship??? From curious ENTP

@@poonelizabethyan we were constantly having arguments and she would get annoyed by some simple stuff.. I don't blame her. I think we both needed to go in different paths. The getting to know each other's part was something.. kinda like the honeymoon phase.. everything is great.. but once we came back to reality we realized that we were looking for different things, different objectives, goals... you know.. we weren't that compatible

@Pedro understandable, sometimes it does take a long time to really get to know a person and felt like all would go to waste at the end if it doesn’t end well.. It’s may difficult for The intuitive types to find someone who understands and supports our worldview / goals. But I believe there is a right person, the best is yet to come.

@Susan Wojcicki is a sad, lonely hag Great question! I offer my INFJ friend calm, grounded, nonjudgmental energy and emotional support, plus a distraction from her worries. I offer my husband daydreams about our future and add spontaneity to his planning nature. We’ve since found out he’s a closer fit with ISTJ.

i'm in a similar type of situation. except that i'm isfj, while my boyfriend is infj. there are some things about him that i can't stand, but i like that we can work things out through a good conversation

Lmao, isfjs are very calm and kind people.

I think sensor/intuitive differences are hardest to overcome, I'm INFP married to ESTP and I think he would much rather be married to another sensor (ESTP often gets matched with ISFJ and INFP with xNFJ and other intuitives)

@@katielarsen2630 lmao, personality type doesn't matters much in marraige. It's more about mutual understanding. But there will be some discomfort with mbti types that are very different from each other. Well, mbti type is just 30-40% of a person's overall personality. Carl jung himself said that every person is an exception to these rules.

What do you hate?

Emily Boelle i would do both of these 😅 im very much an aesthetics person but measurements and symmetricalness are apart of this. though the measurement part isn’t my favorite cause i’m not a math person, it’s a part of it and i’m the type of person with the mentality of “if you want it done right you’ll have to do it yourself” (low key don’t like that about me tho)

I relate to it so much

Same here. As an ISFJ I feel like I would've been really good. I genuinely care for others and I have an analytical side that would help me learn all that complicated medical stuff. But the reality is that I get squeamish with blood, almost passed out many times over topics in health class, and I have a condition where my hands shake.

That’s what annoys me about some of these MBTI stereotypes. NTs being seen as the “intellectual” types, in my field (physics) I know plenty of sensors and feelers. It’s actually funny because I know a lot more feelers in astronomy

Hey same with me. I am an ISFJ and I am pretty good with anything related to science. When people ask if I wanted to be a doctor or anything that related to medical field since I am majoring in Chemistry. I was like ew no. I can't stand things like blood or sickness. I thought I just only me.

So bad ISFJ occupations are pretty bloody like nurses, doctors, soldiers etc.

Ya psych, child development, social work, Bible, missions here too!

He does not look handsome. He is handsome.

Wow, that's incredible. :)

Yeah you’re dad must be pretty confident lol

Same here!!! I stumbled upon some of his videos a few days ago and now I'm hooked! I love MBTI!

Me too. I get isfj first but after that i always get infj. i think I'm infj but sometimes i doubt myself

Same.

same..

Ever considered the fact that tests are unreliable, and you have to look into the functions yourself in order to actually know what you're talking about?

Get to understand the cognitive functions of both types and it will become more clear.

Hi Holly, I would say that yes, your interpretation of the functions is a little off. My go-to is DaveSuperPowers for learning about typology!

Because they both feel like that because I and F. :p S people, are more in touch of reality and could be more focused on small details and N, can be general and start getting abstract

I love that part! 😂😍

Same here. I kept getting different results on different tests - I just took one on truity.com, and because my N and S were so close, they said I have a blended style, and I switch between sensing and intuition depending on the demands of my environment. On the free version, they don't say "this is you," they give you your best matches, and then a good match - best for me being INFJ or ISFJ - so I am very curious about this.

well it's good to see you again!

well thanks

That's the most accurate representation of the INFJ paradox I've ever seen: Wanna connect with people but don't really wanna leave my house.