Any INFPs feel like we live in a world that just isn't very friendly to the way we function? I do and I suspect that my depression is connected.

Any other INFPs feel like they are literally unable to cry even while you’re alone?

As an INFP, I wish i cried more than i do. I really want to but its not easy😂😂

INFPs can bear a lot upon themselves before they break, but they will react very quickly if someone else (particularly an innocent person or animal) is in any way insulted in front of them. To hurt the feelings of another person is the worst sin in our book because we understand how intense and important feelings are for a person since we feel things intensely. An INFP who has crossed over to the ‘dark side’ knows exactly how to manipulate and hurt a person through their feelings.

INFP here. And I'm an older one (60) so perhaps in all this time, I've come to terms with myself and know I have to be myself. 1. I dont love everyone. I've tried. I used to have a very kumbaya outlook as a young person but in fact I have a fervid dislike for many people. You went on to discuss noises and Extraneous noises grate on my nerves, sometimes I think I'm on the spectrum. 2. I have to be super upset to cry in front of anyone. I will cry when I'm really frustrated with myself or situation but wont cry in front of anyone unless they are trusted. 3. I can be very organized, mainly with physical objects like my living space, more than paper work. God I hate paperwork. 4. I'm depressed but not suicidal, but kinda cant wait to take that dirt nap too. Its not normal to be happy 24/7 though, humans arent built like that. 5. I've had many friends say they wish they were as strong as me in whatever situation. I've been through a lot, am going through a lot, will go through a lot. Its called life, you deal or die. 6. I am quiet, but yeah, I gotta know you. I can get a little wild as well. I'm not a Chatty Cathy unless we're discussing something along these lines and other interesting or important topics. I can strike up a pleasant conversation with a complete stranger and 98% of the time it is a positive experience. This is something I have worked on for a long time because I dont do small talk that well. Awkward silences ya know. Then I panic and I'm out. *I am a dreamer still, but as you age, reality takes over more.

The crying thing is SO TRUE, my friends couldn't believe I was an INFP because I'm often "cold" looking , i hide my emotions really well, even from myself lol. I hardly ever cry, i usually cry only when im invested in an emotional movie and I'm all alone in the room, but that's about it.

INFPs have more of a backbone than INTPs. I don’t understand why INTPs are not considered more of a pansy type than INFPs. With Fe, INTPs are always looking to maintain harmony, whereas INFPs will actually stand up for themselves if pushed far enough, even if it results in group disharmony. It’s one of the most frustrating traits I have (I’m an INTP). I admire INFPs for having the guts do be themselves, no matter what.

An INFP meme can be made on the nature of how much they value worth of loved one,how deeply they care for their loved ones INFP getting bullied: ignores and maybe later cries when alone INFP loved one getting bullied: turns into a ruthless person,will bring havoc to the person who dared to hurt his loved ones.

INFPs stare and voice are very peculiar. And fascinating. Maybe that's the reason why they are often actors.

INTJ (+HSP) here. It's awful that people make fun of INFPs"crying all the time". Firstly, it's nonsense, as we learned from this video. And secondly, even if it were true, there is nothing wrong with crying. Whenever I happen to cry, I find it very .. freeing. And it really helps (on a psychological and physical level). It's a terrible thing to make fun of others. Especially in the MBT community. The MBTI is a great tool to better understand yourself, but others as well. It's a shame that some ignorant people rather use it for evil. (And that's comming from an INTJ ;P) I think INFPs are some of the most beautiful creatures on this planet and I'm fascinated, if not mesmerised, by you guys. Oh, and I absolutely relate to the hating ignorant people part. As a highly sensitive person, EVERYTHING annoys me. The are students in uni I wanted to kick in face just for loudly leafing through their notebooks...

OMG I love INFP’s! You are exactly the type of people the world needs. Your qualities is what is lacking in the world. You people are very beautiful! The qualities that you have to offer need space to come out the way it needs to do. I just know you could be amazing friends too. I wish I had INFP’s in my life to share my deep inner world and knowledge with, because I feel only INFJ and INFP get me in this. The rest of the mbti types mostly run for the hills away from this ENFP. I can relate with a lot that INFP’s say about the need to process their deep thoughts and being, even though I am an ENFP type. Most people perceive me as too deep and too much so I say no more...

finally we get represented accurately - seems we have to do it ourselves if it’s to be done properly. thank you!

As an INFP the crybaby stereotype really grinds my gears. I've had NT types online try to baby/patronise me. Like, I just want you to be real with me! Don't try to appeal to something you don't properly understand, just be yourself!

I am so self conscious, that people rarely no how I’m feeling. Funny thing is; I always think my emotions are obvious

I agree with most of your points. And as a male INFP, I: -Have been depressed a few times in life, but never once have I been suicidal. -Have not really been a "crybaby" like the memes. I am actually working on it more, to let my emotions out so that I can face them instead of bottling it and being avoidant. I think this could actually be an issue with INFP males, since we do feel things strongly, but in reaction to society I think we often bottle things in (and other types too). -Have not really been picked on. I'm of normal size, and most people who tried to talk to me were simply confused or baffled and didn't know what to do if I was in a quiet mood. -Have been pretty quiet in the past. I used to keep to myself and not know how to engage with people in general. But I broke through that and have gotten a lot better. I still have issues with interacting with people at times, but in general I've made a lot of progress. I guess you could say I'm heavily introverted, but I do have moments where I can talk a lot. I can also be in crowds without much issue most of the time, and once I, for example, get up on stage or in front of a crowd, I can get in a zone and stop feeling anxiety when speaking. (Perhaps I'm just embracing my blindspot, eh? :) ) -Can be judgmental. there's an inner judgment of things and people at times and I am often at odds with it, since I want to treat everyone well. But I think I am afraid of judgment as a result, and I avoid conflict quite often. Thanks for sharing your view and trying to clear misconceptions.

LOVED the scientifically-informed argument on the benefits of crying! Great stuff.

(INFP) Endearing quality: Will tell you off all while making sure to not hurt your feelings... This had to have been the most gentle and considerate tongue lashing dished out I have ever witnessed. Speaks to our ability for self control.

Vulnerability is our strength. I played strong safety in the Big Ten--- no one was tougher than me. People have given me the label of "caring too much" : but that is my strength, not a weakness. I was known as a highly intelligent player--- with a lot of heart. 💗

I'm sure I'm an INFP but there are some facts about me that might not fit the stereotype: 1. The older I get the less I express my emotions to people who are not very close to me. I only cry when I'm alone or with people I really trust. People who don't really know me think I'm cold and emotionless. 2. I'm not naive. I don't trust people whose actions don't match their words. 3. I can only open myself up so far to people I trust and I feel comfortable with. The problem is that I don't easily trust people (See point number 2). P.S. I'm a highly sensitive person. I can't control my feelings, but I set healthy boundaries in all areas of my life.

i was depressed all through college (4 years) and no one knew about it, not even my best friends. i was so scared my family would send me to a psychiatrist or make me take medication that i never said a thing. i know i'm the best person to solve my problems because no one knows me as well as me. i prefer to work it out by reflecting in the silence of sollitude.

Great video! My sister and I get along really well (she's an INFP and I'm an INFJ), and she is definitely a whole different person in front of people that she trusts and likes.

Overall, this appears to be an accurate list of inaccurate stereotypes. Delivered by a typical INFP.

You are beautiful and have such a pleasant energy and personality. I resonate a lot with what you are saying. I’m glad you are clearing out many of the misconceptions and prejudices about our archetype. I’m infp. When dealing with an emotional painful situation I might die and cry inside feeling a really sharp pain that is unbearable but I never show this when I interact with others. Because I don’t want to transfer my concerns to others I put on my happy “everything is okay” mask and once I’m undisturbed and private I let go and cry like a hurt wounded animal and I do it silently so that no one can hear me. Sometimes I have the feeling that people decrease the value of the infp love because they believe in the misconception that infp loves everyone hence there is nothing special in their love. Infp can love truly deeply faithfully and maturely and very few people have this luck to be loved by infp.

I saw this "crying" thing today in a "fictional INFP characters" video, and they put a scene where Bubbles appears to be on the verge of a reage attack and then she bursts into tears and runs away into the woods... I found it so weird. I really don't usually cry in front of anyone... like... ever...

I think it is because you are a young infp. I promise that when you are older it becomes pretty easy. As you mature, you learn to know who you are and has accepted who you are. You don’t get flustered about other people’s opinion because we don’t care to conform. We just live our lives according to our held values.

One of the biggest misconceptions to me is that we (the INFP) are book worms. Not true. I am a visual thinker and visual learner. I am a very hands-on person. I do better and learn better with hands-on work. Being made to read the literary classics didn't help either. Being special ed I had a difficult time getting through it. I didn't get anything from it or gain a thing from reading Little Women and Little Men. There was nothing I could relate to in either book. When I was in high school I went to an online school. It was hands-on and we did this thing where we would go in a class environment and senior year had the choice of doing music and poetry or science and machinery. I choose the science one first semester because of my love of cars and aviation. Then when it came the second semester I did the music one and didn't exactly like it. They saw me looking at old Soviet airplanes so they let me and a lot of others rejoin the science one.

I would say I’ve have cried in public at times but whenever I do, I don’t like the attention I get. I just get mad at myself for it. Maybe it’s because I’ve never really shown much of my emotions or something like that. And I guess I get reminded of the times where I was or wasn’t cared for. When I needed someone to be there for me. I mean I don’t know anymore, now it’s really just me keeping in my emotions and if I do say something about my feelings. I just regret it and I’d always feel like what I said was wrong, nonsense, or fake.

When somone asks me are you rilly fine almost always gets me

I have 3 close INFPs. They NEVER cry in public and will tuck those emotions inside... until they're alone with a very trusted person and even then, I have to give them permission to lose it... With the exception of one INFP I know. She's very toxic and cry for attention constantly🙄🙄

As soft as we appear, at least we don't give in easily. Soldier on comrades ✊

We definitely don’t love everyone, we can be really harsh with bullies, superficial people and animal abusers too.

Just a thought, but as a depressed INFP (and highly disorganized, sorry for upholding the stereotypes lol) I think the suicidal thing can be linked to PoLR Se. Being suicidal is usually a reaction to feeling like you have no power, and when in a bad life situation INFPs and INTPs are more likely to turn their anger inward in an extreme way. I think the PoLR Se is also why people see us as "weak"...because of our Fi, we're unwilling to just believe in fake happy stories about ourselves, but we also don't like to push back against people directly. This is going to come off as weakness to someone who would do those things. But that same quality gives us our "bouncing back" superpower where we can confront really messed up parts of life, because we're honest about it and process it emotionally. This is why we can be more unbiased about moral issues imo. I 100% agree about the crying in public and talkative parts though.

The idea of stuffing an INFP into a neatly defined "personality box" is pretty amusing in itself...

The ppl I know that cry the most are actually SFP types lol ... or SFJs

i am INFP and i am 22. i am currently in the final year of clg. i've been depressed since second year of clg. now after 4 years, my condition is worst. i got 1 year drop becoz i failed in 1 subject and i feel like my whole career decision is a big mistake and now i ruined my future. though i passed finaly but now all my old friends are settled and doing good jobs and i feel lonely. i cannot talk about this to my family. they spent alot money already and they are expecting me to settle..and i dont have any that one "best" friend with i think i can share all those things... so i became emotional person and i cry many times but not in public or in front of anyone. honestly, i dont know what to do. i am getting suicidal thoughts, but from last week, i am doing exercise and walking,dieting, trying to loose my weight...just for forgeting all those things and for good health and to regain my confidence..its working. but i still have inferiority complex and social anxiety.

I cry a lot. From a lot of different feelings. But... only when I'm alone.

I feel that the topic of people making fun of INFPs and depression/suicide should be addressed more. Not only is it harmful to INFPs and people who are actually depressed/suicidal, it’s also giving an idea to everyone else to continue this stereotype which is highly toxic

I HATE crying in front of people but I really struggle to keep it in im so emotive and my emotions are so overwhelming at times ngl im definitely a cryer

Every attack on infp is born of insecurity.

1. Crying feels great. I make up occasions in my mind that make me cry but crying infront of anyone... nah. 2. Yep, especially cutlery falling on the floor gives me this slight heartpiercing sting. Though I don't agree with that "yough's screeming at night"- argument: I see it as a sign of them enjoying the moment, it even has the potential to lighten up my mood sometimes since it reminds me that life isn't always this cruel and bland. 3. Organizing is a fun thing to do. But I get my mind stuck in thoughts and random tasks that I easily forget it for days. 4. Well we are prone to depression but dealing with it can be an insightful challenge to deal with. (hope that doesn't offend anyone) 5. Being strong is a subjective term anyways. Only because we don't live up to social standards or show our progress or whatever it doesn't automatically have to mean we are weak. 6. Yep social selection and mood are big factors in this perspective.

I realize that INFP don’t like to be label 🏷 or associated with something that doesn’t match themselves. The suicidal example is perfect. We can see that she is clashing with the idea of being dead. And, we can see the distaste when she talk about the lousy people, because she see herself as quiet and calm. She also said “ this is not me “ so projecting the best image that represent herself is important. Being criticized is a no no, because, for her, it is bad to judge someone for who they are.

Yeah, I had some pretty dark fantasies about what I would do if anyone tried anything with my cats. They weren't pretty. It was around that time when I genuinely wondered if I might actually be a sociopath.

my observations and comments: INFP: 1# Cry me a river of chemicals 2# I'm trying to love myself, keep quiet, like your in my library 3# I'm organised, but not necessarily for organization 4# I'm not Suicidal or Depressed, i have an existential crisis 5# If your my passion, it will be a down pour cause Noah gonna sail this ark INTP in contrast: 1# I'm a machine, i have circuitry to process my emotions, like the equalizer on 80's boom box 2# GET OFF MY LAWN 3# I organize to have space to find things 4# I can't figure this out, give me some space and time. if i'm feeling troubled i'll self medicate at GNC. 5# You have my humility and loyalty, if you can get shit done like muthafuckin Pro.

As an ENTP I just reflect on the overpushing of the dark humor. Its mostly not because I personally laugnhing on it, but I enjoy the consternation of the other people. For me the reactions is the funny part not the joke itself. Its trolly yeah, I know. I dont use it like everywhere, I'm not a blunt idiot, just if I'm in a company where I feel comfortable.

I am an INFP... And yes, I cry a lot, sorry that I fit the stereotype haha

I'm an INFP and in my early teens I tryed to see how long I could go without crying to act tough'er and fit in, with the competetive nature of my classmates. I did not cry for over 3 years. This was especially toward a rival I had who was subcontiously wieved as the alfamale in my class. I mean he was the son of the shcool inspector and could get away with everything (even though I know that was not true, but he acted like it, and everyone feared that) (He obviosly got punished bad at home which reflected his behavior in the class). He was also violent at times, burstingly wild and was very strict and yet striving in shcool. He often got the best grade especially in math. Bit of a dictator and punisher that was wild when playfull. Dangerous to be around if not careful. Seems like a rare combination to have a calculating bully who was physically buff, wild and smart at the same time. He made many cry by hitting them or simply being too physically forcefull to his surrounding and I refused to let him internally hurt me or control me. Which is a classic need to an INFP who always hates being controlled by others without their permission. I mean to the core. I used Terminator 2 as an inspiration to make my self tough. Made it my trance to feel like a Terminator at all times or at least in the dangerzones. Cold calculating and scanning surroundings, dont show pain exspressions etc.... Yes you guessed it... Terminators cant cry. All I got to do is to stay in character when needed, which was often back then. There is alot more to this story, but hours writing it here. All INFP's is like a hermit and has the ability to outwheather any storm if they really want to and this little story is a good example of that. It's also a personal record... (I think). Because I stopped menitoring myself and play Terminator after I stopped being around him. My sourroundings where changing so I needed to change and it has been tough to stop being that Terminator and change back to human in social situations after that but I made it (dont worry ;D). This was simply a survival idea I tryed for my situation and to test my self and my potential in it. I reframed bad experiences into challenges I needed to take to grow stronger. For example when people call you a name like crybaby, idiot or stupid are you just going to accept that as truth and believe it? Well I did for many years even long before this experimental exploration I did. I was tired of naively believe what people told me and wanted to find and prove the truth to my self so I could be right for ones. Little did I know that I was almost always right, but had a bad habit of neclecting my gut feeling Fi + Ne. So other people decided what I was or what I weren't so I which was never the real truth so I decided around age 11 or 12 to always test others and my own theories at least twice or reset them and explore that. To see if I could find a newer and more accurate conclution now or in the potential future. Have done that ever since. I learned to take physically pain very well however.... I did tear up a little one time I sprained my angle (it made 2 snap/crack sounds when tripping + twisting it and I fell on my forward down a few stairs in a tag game situation out of a door). I forcefully held everything in and hid my expressions as I had for over a year now and only turned my face towards him when I I thought I was sure I could hold it in (Maybe 10 - 15 seconds later). I almost broke there. "I cant hold this in the pain is too great" I thought. Also this is too serious to play around with so let it go... and to my suprice it whent from unbareble to easy to hold it in and I faced him. My rival who was a proud physically bully & stereo macho type of a guy who really challenged me. Perhaps he was a ESTP or ISTP (Not sure) he asked shocked and puzzled after my fall, "Dont you ever cry?". I said "no, not really" (something like that) and I realized how silly this was. But I couldn't let that stop my roll of not crying. Esspecially not in front of him. As so many others he finally realized he have been underestimating me and I was not what he thought I was when it comes to being tough. Or at least his idea of being tough. He respected me more from that point and perhaps he saw me as a rival now. I outdid him in many ways bc I kept catcing up to him and pull away where he could not follow. I didn't think that was possible for a time, but by following my potential I could do it. I am quite thankful for that today. I learned so much and it tested my limits and found what was beyond those limits and beyond those limits etc. I really needed that push I gave my self back then and the next step was to undo it all again. That's another chapter however now... I can and DO cry a lot more :D. Took me many more years to get rit of that Terminator survival trigger.

I use to not cry easily but then depression happened and now I cry at cue.

If they trust you, they will keep complaining to you though in a crying tone, (it's okay I like listening to them) but they don't literally cry. I am an Intp and you're right, I do make fun of infps being crybabies although I know in fact they're not. Intelligent people actually

I feel like countries should feed their starving ppl not prison inmates. So yeah I don't love everyone. I'm an INFP 4w5.

Thank you for debunking all of these!!! I often felt confused like, I don’t cry unless I’ve been seriously wronged or I’m watching or reading something extremely sad. I actually feel really bad when someone close to someone I know had passed away (or I may even may have known them distantly) and I cannot cry unless I’m concentrating on the person who is crying and feeling how they feel in that moment (then I shed a tear and tell myself to man up and stay strong for that person!). With regards to the whole “not being organised” thing, you’re absolutely right. At home I’m an utter mess and although it drives me nuts, I find it difficult to maintain a clutter free environment although I will try to consciously sort this out once in a while. However, at school or at work my organisational skills are impeccable and yes, I get very annoyed at others for not being as organised if it’s affecting their ability to complete a task in a timely manner as I hate inefficiency in the workplace 😂😂😂 now I know how my partner (an INTJ) feels at home. The last point- sheesh, this one’s a bit of a tricky one as I have an incredibly dark sense of humour (sometimes even more so than my INTJ s/o) but I keep them to myself if I know I’m going to offend others and definitely would not like to trigger other people or make them feel bad about having a mental health problem because (like many INFPs) I can totally relate to it. But you’re spot on - being an introvert itself is a huge factor in determining whether you are more susceptible to depression and anxiety and then add being an intuitive and a feeler and boy, you’ve got yourself a special cookie right there haha! It is ironic how thinking types can make fun of feelers for being feelers (because as you said they see it as a weakness) but even thinkers (especially if they are introverted and intuitive) are prone to depression (they just don’t like to draw attention to / accept it!). I was worried this video would receive negative reactions as INFPs can come across as giving a lecture when discussion things close to their values / beliefs, especially because we can sound rather monotonous when speaking but honestly I was laughing the whole way through at how it was delivered in such an INFP way 😂

If I do talk about my emotions I will say it with a smile and pretend it doesn’t bother me

Really enjoyed your post, very honest and, while I can’t speak for others, I found it personally reassuring and quite humorous. I absolutely agree that we can handle dark humor but we always have a line in the sand. We definitely don’t get enough credit for that. Side Note: Love that one of your biggest problems was the lack of creativity. Had to pause I was laughing so hard. Those words come come out of my mouth often. I mean if you’re going to try and ‘get’ me, put some effort in. Now I’m almost more insulted by that, than stupid meme itself.

INFPs are probably the most resilient type.

This is very relatable. A rare find. I've always felt lonely because there are hardly any enough relatable content anywhere.

I hate crying infront of other and it has only happened a handfull of times. I do have easy to cry if i watch some emotional show or movie, but when I do I kinda fight against it and have a mental debate if its logical or silly to cry.

Sweet collaboration!

Jim Carrey is obviously going through something right now

Even my counseling professors misunderstand me. It’s hard being so in tune emotionally and sensitive and also externally quite stoic people just do not understand

My room is super messy. SUPER MESSY. But it gets to my nerves at the gym when people dont put the plates and the dumbbells in the right places. There are Labels showing the right places to put the right weights and people simply seem to absolutely ignore it. I get infuriated. I also hated, as a kid, to lend my pencil crayons to anyone because they'd often get so disorganized. I'd spend a lot of my time just organizing the colors in the correct order they came in the pencil case. My Mangas are also organized by title and number as well

Thank you for explaining us so well, I agree with everything you said. 😊 - Internally I can get emotional very quickly but I can't remember the last time I cried in front of someone, it almost never happens. Actually most people wonder why I'm so calm and collected all the time. - Oh yes I can be evil if I want to, I give people the benefit of the doubt first but with some people I have no mercy, I think in an extreme case I would even take the law into my own hand (I'm also a leo). But I guess we INFP are more likely to be passive aggressive because we hate confrontation. - Yes there were times where I was depressed too and I couldn't motivate myself to do anything but I was never really suicidal. As you said the older we get the stronger we become because we learn that life is like a wave, sometimes it goes down but it will eventually go up again. For example when my last boyfriend broke up with me I of course was sad for a while but soon I realised he's not right for me, so I moved on and never looked back. - Oh hell yeah I can talk like a waterfall if I feel comfortable with someone or in a small group, they should make a meme about that. ;) Some people think I'm an extrovert because of that. Btw I'm an INFP who likes black humor and sarcasm to a certain extent but I rarely see or hear a good such joke that makes me laugh, again like you said, most jokes are just utterly old and boring to me.

I do have the capacity to cry easily, but I dislike hearing about it over and over because it's no longer new knowledge to me. I want to hear/learn new things. Or I would want to learn more about the why's. It's probably also because I inherently don't like being put in a box ...and also because I hate crying. :)

I'm pretty emotional INFP, but: 1) it is "automatically controlled" when I'm in (any kind of) work process. Habit is the thing. 2) crying in front of people would be my personal disaster. I don't like too much attention (and it don't help in problem solving while I have to do something), and usually don't want to bother others with my problems. If there's something I need to talk about, then I'll do it with my friends. Like other types could do. 3) my face somehow is emotionally neutral most of the time. My eyes sometimes take all this work on them, but it's something that I more or less can control. And just in case someone who reads is curious about it. I can experience positive emotions. They also can be very strong. And hidden if in public.

Just because I have to love my fellow neighbor doesn't mean I have to like them

Yes, we will rise up. I have been through a ton and have never given up. As far as crying, I do cry easily but I do it alone, not out in public. I agree that it is more unhealthy to not be able to cry and I often contribute my ability to do so as one one of the reasons I have not totally lost it during certain times in my life. That and my faith first. I am not messy and was a commercial cleaner for years before a bad back forced me out if it. I have a keen eye for detail too. Where I am off a bit is my sense of time. I do struggle to be on time for things, but can certaintly do it if I try. Hate being boxed into a 9-5 type deal and fair much better sailing my own ship, but I am also chronically ill so this may be why this works for me moreso than personality type. The problem with our society I think is that it is a walking paradox. On one hand, there really is no line anymore and if one dares to take offense to anything, oh my God they are so sensitive, yet more than ever we are hyper aware of sexual harrassment, the environment and as you pointed out, animal issues. There IS a line and pointing out that it should not be crossed does not make one a sensitive, whiny cry baby, it means they have ethics and standards and do not believe everything is game. Society is a walking contradiction this way and because we are very in touch with our ethics and feelings, we can see this and point it out. I agree that infps tend to get disproportionately picked on in comedy sketches. And yes, we do not like everyone and tend to have strong opinions. I personally am very humanitarian though and am very easily moved by the plights of people, but I also get pissed at how blind I feel a lot of people can be toward certain things. To me it is "right there", yet they just flock to it anyway. Its disquieting, really. So who is going to change their channel name to Precious Cinnamon roll first? You or me?

For me,as an INFP, I rarely cry. Only cried in public once in my life. Didn’t like it at all. Whenever I have its mostly in public. If I realize that I need to cry, I have. I suppose I keep myself distracted so I keep that depression at bay and keeping myself from feeling. That tends to be unhealthy and I realize that, then I go back to finding my purpose and finding my why, then I fine myself free to feel again. If I feel I am fulfilling my purpose creatively , spiritually, being apart something bigger than myself, I tend to not feel depressed or not cry. I am organized at work, but not at home, so that’s correct. Many observations you have are correct as I relate to them as an Infp, but as you say overcoming neuroticisms is one thing we tend to do even if we forget and fall back into that.

Awesome video! Someone setting the record straight!

I love these videos I feel more understood and less alone knowing there’s other people like me 🥰

straight to my soul.

i'm an INFP and i cry a fuck ton, both in front of people and alone lol

I'm sensitive to noise too! XD

You have great intense intelligence , i like it , thankyou for sharing x

What's worse than depression is when you're bipolar scizoaffective. Medication helps, but it's not a cure.

I have cried in public but it was when I was really struggling with depression so I normally never cry in front of people because I do hate crying in front of people.

ENFP's indeed seem one of the types most often depressed, like indeed comedians. I wonder if ENTP's are more often depressed than average too? Then it would be infp's, enfp's, intp's and entp's being types farily often depressed. They all share the low Si function, which I I sometimes suspect to be related to feeling depressed. With infp's and intp's I've wondered if PORL Se is related too, since types with high Se seems full of life energy (like Love Lu for example)

I'm an infp and I would describe my heart as a diamond filled with liquid love. Super hard and super soft at the same time. I'm a super happy infp. Tip: fi needs to be really informed. Otherwise our philosophy is less profound. Make fi more competent. But if you are an infp you are probably already doing this haha

Its ok for INFP to be incredibly sensitive, just do it over there for a while as well please ugh I swear Ill call you back when Ive recharged. Places tiny pillows in a room for your comfort*

I am SO glad I found this video. I always get INFP on the tests and when digging deeper it became clear that FI and Ne are my dominant functions. HOWEVER I was and still am turned off by the stereotypes they get as cry baby airheads. I feel that INFP DO feel a lot but we tend to keep it hidden behind a tough exterior. I hate looking emotional Infront of others and get often get called stoic or cheerful (on high energy days). We are empathetic and I think that helps us get along and understand others, but often keep others at a distance when it comes to our own thoughts and feelings. And we definitely don't love everyone or fantasize about marrying everyone, we honestly have a pretty big dark side, and (can only speak for myself) tend to really like dark humor and learning the darker sides of things....but while still being able to see good and beauty in it.

Bullseye on all points. She is indeed an INFP and well versed in said mindfulness. I have not been aware of being depressed since I was quite young, being bullied non stop at school (junior high, you Yanks call it middle school I believe) and home caused me to vacillate between depression and lashing out at those who initiated the attacks (at first verbally and then only in self defense). I created a verbal warning system, to make those who dared to continue this behaviour, aware that I would no longer tolerate it ad infinitum. When confronted with a verbal and demeaning attack from one of my many detractors, I would say `Shut the F... up or I am going to hit you`, they were given three warnings at which point WHAM! P.S. I used the entire word and not just the letter :-p Now I do not condone my behaviour but sometimes drastic measures appear to be the only solution (to my way of thinking, having tried all other avenues, and an Ne can think of many such tributaries of possibilities), this was my final and inexorable conclusion to show the depth of the impact these continued daily assaults were having on my already damaged psyche (Ti demon made his appearance). Consider this, no teacher or other adult came to my defense. This did inevitably result in, ironically, me being labelled (by the teachers) as a bully. But it also, after about a year or so, ended the litany of insults I was bombarded with on a continual basis. Once a group of my old adversaries (now high school), having enlisted a toady, tried a resurgence of these old habits. During lunch in a rather large cafeteria, they threw orange peels and insults at me in quick succession, having a slurpee (slushy) in hand I responded in kind.They escalated their verbal tirade, I jumped the table with one hand and grabbed the lead malefactor (their new toady), I told him `name a place and we will settle this after school`, having realized the entire cafeteria went silent (it included teachers) and I was heading for a possible 3 day suspension. He declined to show, and I had the respect of every tough in my school, they nodded to me in the halls after that. Sorry for my lengthy diatribe on my youthful experience, and inevitable solution, to my early depression. That was not the end of my troubles of course, but the next story is even longer so I will have to forego it at this juncture. Oh the lengthy revisionary life of the INFP, you do not want to know how many times I edited, deleted, and added to this post. And I carefully tried to limit my usual and extemporaneous predilection to go off on tangents. Not kidding even. One thing I really love about the INFJ, they will politely let me do so, and as soon as the opportunity presents itself, bring me right back on point. See, tangential tendencies.

very insightful video!! i don't mind crying in front of people, i don't really care, but i'm definitely not doing it to win others' sympathy. also i wonder what kind of memes we'd be making about ourselves. like what'd be seen as odd to others. 🤔

I think it’s less loving everyone and having a tolerance because I genuinely want to know their story and understand their experience. I gravitate towards older people for this reason. And my thing is I like people on the individual level. But as soon as we enter the “group”, I turn into a misanthrope

Crying in public is a NIGHTMARE. I will run and lock myself in the bathroom if I need to cry at work. When I started crying in public I knew I was in a very dark place.

It's weird because sometimes I cry over really dumb things but sometimes I don't cry even when something generally upsetting happens. I guess it depends on how much emotional investment I have made on the thing idk it can be frustrating

A misconception is something different than a stereotype. Sure, INFP's crying is a stereotype, but I'm not sure if it's really a misconception too. They obviously do not cry all the time, but it seems they do seem to cry more often than other types. As a result it makes sense that they have a stereotype that involves crying. Or one should argue that any sort of stereotype is a misconception. However, in a way typology is a system that is build around "types" which could be seen as stereotypes or archetypes. Each type type description involves a lot of stereotyping. I am not sure if typology could exist without any stereotyping, as stereotyping is a about a simplied or fixed version of a particular type of people...which seems close to typology types.

this might be random but you have a really pretty smile :)

I usually get closer to crying from the fear of crying in public, and not the actual situation I’m in

INFP here, never cry. It sucks because you just have to let it out sometimes, but I just can't. Whenever I actually do manage to cry, It's immediatly followed by tears of joy once the pain is over.

People who don't let out their pain, end up inflicting it on others.

I agree, I hate to cry in front of others and am very stoic when I'm not with others. People say I look intimidating. So, I just don't understand that misconception. Regarding organization, I have been told that I could get paid big money simply because of my organizational skills. I relax more when I come home from work, but I still like to have organization at home because it keeps my mind clearer. Regarding having a strong will, I definitely have one. I generally temperate it because I don't want to offend others, I think that is where the problem is - we are being kind so that we don't offend anyone. But many people take that positive trait as a weakness, when, we are trying to be kind to others. Thank you for posting that video - a very true message from an INFP.

I loved how you explained it... I do fall in to the stereotype... But i agree totally with your points !

The line for comedy is where the people talking decide it is. When something is genuinely harmful or bullying I know when to speak up though so maybe what you said was right 😂

I disagree with the regular crying thing. Thinkers don’t cry much because we have different ways to deal with life’s issues. We don’t necessarily feel sad with difficult problems.

I do cry...I don't like it, and it embarrasses me but I do break down. A LOT! So, maybe I'm not an INFP. But everytime I take a test I get INFP

I just found out about these personality types...I think I am INFP. A lot of these things she says ring true for me.

It always feels so invalidating and alienating to me, as someone "with depression", when people talk about it as if it is some sort of individual 'chemical imbalance' rather than a legitimate response to mostly environmental factors. And I do think certain "disorders" tend to cluster around certain types because those types are not as well-adapted to how our current society is structured (INFPs in particular)

so positive conductive insights are good. but the wing time is an exploration that gets tuff knowing that amount of trust given and received

Literally everything you say, even the noises! I have been sensitive since birth. Infp for all my life haha 🧚🏼💫🤍

Spot on

Even though we lead with a judging function. We are generally not judgmental. I don't think there is anyone I hate, dislike maybe, and I've met some nasty people. I have also seen somewhere that a person with borderline personality disorder, the percentages are much higher for the person being an INFP. NF's tend to be the ones I notice with addiction problems and depression. But that last bit is more my own anecdotal observation, mixed with some literature. Plus my ex's middle child has BPD and a touch of Bipolar, she tested as INFP-T. I knew she was INFP before she did the test. I'm an INFP-A 9w8, and never had any thoughts of suicide or depression. Good video.

I cry when I'm overwelmed. Wether I failed a driving test or get yelled at and I'm literally shaking. Movies yes! any time someone dies.

Nice !