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The darkest personality of INFP is we understand people so well. So if we feel that we are disrespected or mocked or we are not allowed to walk on our way of life, we can use that knowledge for something really really bad. We can attack people mentally, so deep that someone will not be able to heal from it.

I guess my dark side is my I don’t care side. Whenever I feel like I’m not being treated right I just stop caring about anything Edit: okay you guys I haven’t seen this comment in forever and the amount of likes this have I just could never. Thank you! I appreciate it and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one.

Sometimes i feel deep pain when nobody understands me. I start isolating myself and feel so lonely -------------------------- Guys, I'm shocked that so many people can relate to my comment I just want all of you to be happy and live your best life~ I believe that you'll find loving and supportive people that make you feel comfortable Love you all♡

Everyone: Come on your an INFP you are always gentl- Me: I have rage

I am so out real world it is not a joke anymore. I tend to daydream from morning till evening, but accomplish 10% of what I should. Thus, i am now studying a degree I hate, living with parents, have no friends and not following my dreams. I am trying to move forward, but books, videos do nothing, journaling make it even worse, and I hate my life.

"It's all or nothing, in which case, is often nothing," I said as someone asked me why I'm unhappy being an INFP.

i'm an INFP, and i have anger issues and i tend to bottle up my emotions. i'd like to be a good, kind and sweet person, you know? the problem is i'm too aggressive

As and INFP my mind can get pretty dark and I’m aware of it, ppl say infps would make bad villains but if our anger, pain and dark side is unleashed... good luck it takes a long time to push us past that point I’ve never been past it but I get scared of the thought of myself getting to that point

As an Infp I'm a polite, kind and supporting person, always resolving conflicts whenever they start and try to avoid tensions. However if anyone is stupid enough to get himself between me and my way of life, or me and my friends/family (rare) i can be a real asshole, using all my understanding of people to exploit their weaknesses and make them feel terrible about themselves. I'm also not really concerned by public opinion or laws, which is why I would also beat up someone, and go medieval on their asses in extreme situations. But yeah sure I love flowers and poems like all infps do.

Another dark INFP quote, "I would murder the entire world if only you would love me"...

Infps almost always feel like it's unfair to pick only one side without all the facts. It's almost impossible to settle on only one thing. Making choices and decisions is a nightmare, especially when you've been out of touch with reality. But flowers, poems and vintage stuff are the best

I feel attacked yet understood so well

my dark side is my lack of confidence and my past and all those mistakes..my depression and overthinking and negativity.

“Not all who wander are lost.” A poem by Bilbo Baggins, ENFP, about Aragorn, ISTP. All existing in the mind of Tolkien, INFP.

My dark side is my depression, I stop caring about everything and the world seems dark and cold, especially when I'm alone with my thoughts. It's a lonely and dark place and emotionally (ironically) exhausting.

Why INFP’s and INTP’s make the perfect villains: I: Introverts are more likely to have had been bullied, and they are quiet and reserved, which makes them hard to predict. N: Intuitive types daydream a lot. They have wild imaginations, and always think of new ways and ideas. This makes them revolutionary villains, possibly the worst type of villain. Thanos is a revolutionary villain. F/T: Feeling types could go of the hinge and go bat crazy, while thinking types are methodical and cautious. Either way, incredibly dangerous. P: A villain with a flexible schedule is dangerous. This means they have plenty of space to move around, and they let boredom guide them. The judging trait would be used for your more classical tortured soul villain.

All that glitters is not gold All who wander are not lost The old that is strong does not wither Deep roots are not touched by the frost Tolkien was an infp I think

That “all or nothing” is so clean to see in relationships. I don’t know if it’s just me, but as INFP i’m always searching for my twin soul.. like 100% of how i want it! Not 50%, not 80%, not 99%, ONLY 100%. This is the reason why in the end i always reject every boy i date for a period.. because i realize that they doesn’t match with my “draw” of them in my mind. We know well that everyone has defects, us INFPs as well, but we want the perfect partner. I thinks it’s so... destructive. (Sorry in advance for my bad English haha)

My friends were talking about things they don't like about each other. For me, INFP, they said "since you're usually so nice, it's really scary when you get upset" Another friend said it's scary that I can pick up when they're lying... I just remember things they've said and notice the inconsistencies. Being a good listener and over-concerned is usually a positive thing, but can accidentally make it easy to manipulate people haha 😅

Is anyone ever annoyed with THEMSELVES at how emotional they are? Like Yes, obviously I logically understand I can't have a break down every time I see a lonely looking dog in the city (They EXIST) and yes, I understand LOGICALLY I can't bring another one home with me, and yes yes yes logically I understand 4 dogs is possibly too many. Unfortunately, the doggo is already in the back, I've named him Roscoe and he's part of my family now. GODDAMNIT emotions have pranked me yet again, who needs money to buy food anyway.

I find that my dark side is that I care WAY too much. It sounds like a good thing, but if I like something I get utterly obsessed with it. In some ways it helps me. The obsession with my art and my writing has driven me to be better but I’ll get obsessed with things that I really shouldn’t. I get really caught up with shows, books, movies and just technology in general. I stay up way too late all the time because I can’t put my phone or book down and I don’t want to start the next day because it will be filled with boring things that I can’t get any “feeling” out of, such as school, work, etc. It’s a problem that I need to fix but I can never seem to get my mind to cooperate with me. Procrastination is my biggest enemy.

INFP + HSP(Highly sensitive person) is 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭

I'm INFP, and this is my dark side: Forgiveness is the path to peace, but when it comes to cruelty... no second chances.

I feel that "being uncompromising about your values" is a trait that gets wrongly associated with FPs. They absolutely have values that they care about, but they know these values are subjective. FPs are pretty flexible and adaptable, they can also easily see other perspectives, and seeing how those perspectives and methods serve our values. Personally as an INFP, I've never had problems negotiating or compromising if it gets me results, and I find people who are uncompromising about their ideals to be frustrating and foolish. This is more about being type 1 enneagram, which very few INFPs are -- being type 1 is more of a J thing. FJs buy into "objective morality" more easily, while Ps are not married to rules. Nonetheless I find the "wanderer" part of your video to be spot on. INFPs are always seeking something deeper, purer, and never quite get there because it's an ideal.

5:21 "very out of touch with reality" my psychiatrist literally told me those exact words once.

As an INFP, loneliness, depression and despair are my dark side.

I'm an INFP who is pretty open-minded and not strongly aligned with any political party (they all have good and bad to me!) but 99% of the time I can see the other person's pov in an argument. On things I have made my own decision about (through discussion, research, and searching my own feelings) I can be quite *unyielding* and often don't follow the crowd. So I see what you mean in the video, but I'm actually pretty good at compromise! Anyways, thanks for the thoughts and I *loved* the Tolkien reference 😉

“Deep roots are not reached by frost” is another line from that poem which oddly suits the infp.

I find an interesting paradox in the fact that the INFP is an idealistic type deeply attached to its values, but at the same a wanderer always in quest of something deeper.

i thought i was weird or had a brain problem.... naw im just an infp... good to know forreal

I’m INFP, my ideals are truth and kindness. I find myself watching tv shows and getting SO frustrated when characters keep secrets or lie. I get anxious from waiting for truth to come out and combatting that I have this need to be comfortable all the time. I just cringe so deeply when I hear about things like cheating or even surprise parties. But I suppose I’d like surprise parties if they’re for me.

i'm definitely a wanderer infp. i've never really set any big goals for my life and most of my decicions are based on wanting to experience something. i don't really care about the finishing line cause i usually get distracted and wander off somewhere else before reaching it anyway haha. i just want to experience and try as many different things as i can while i'm here which can unfortunately also lead to indecisiveness bc there are so many things i'd like to do but they all require a certain level of commitment which i'm not ready to give so i just go around in circles lol

"So cute but so dark" .....i try sometimes....i really do

To Burden Reality - An Essay Part I: The Problem. We INFP's often seem to get lost within our heads. We are lead down idealistic hallways, tugged along by a leash we're unable to cast off. The scenes and worlds we paint may be pretty to the eye, but they are tainted with long odds and maybes. With a mind such as that there's no wonder why we choke on our disappointments. Many of us stay there, drowning within the blackness of our own thoughts, not accepting to shoulder the worlds pragmatic bureaucracy. Part II: Revelation Though it may seem an unwelcome omen, you, my dear reader, mustn't give in. There is a way out of the maze, and the way is the pragmatism we're so unsuited to. Not long ago, I was the traveller you hear so much about. I knew the possibilities each path led to, but I saw the fault in each. You often find a worm burrowing in even the most inviting of apples. The odds of my own dream to come true (becoming a full time writer) became longer and longer as I researched what it took. I hated the world for its demands and sulked within my own pool of blackness. But the problem wasn't the world, it was me - a glass half empty sort of thing. The unlikelyness of my dream to come true wasn't as much a limitation as an open door to new opportunities. I could get a job in a different field and experience the novelty my mind seems to yearn for, while simultaneously working on my dream. It would take a lot of work and was nothing for an idle character. As INFP's we procrastinate, which tremendously lessens the chance of our dreams to materialize in the world. I needed a system which could force me into consciousness. Part III: The Solution The apollo mission which made the impossible come true couldn't have been achieved without a most basic tool. The humble list stands as a corner stone of what made it happen without the computing power we have today. People aren't so much a definite whole as we believe, but a jumble of systems working together to keep you alive. A large part of it wants to take the path of least resistance. The part which harbour your dreams is slave to this inherent idleness. That's why you can wake up early for a job you don't like five days a week, but cant do the same for your passion outside work. It's not critical to your survival, so, it rests lower on the rung of priorities.We're also forgetful. Our idleness seems to cooperate with our forgetfulness, creating some kind of selective memory. The way I have learned to prioritize non critical things is simply to write them down in my bullet journal. I can't wilfully forget because I've promised myself to finish it. Even if I don't, I'll at least feel responsible to do better the next day. Part IV: Summary And so, the circle is complete. The pragmatic nature of the world serves my ideals instead of fighting them. And in fulfilling my aspirations, the monotony and inherent dullness of day to day living is buffered. We all have our own cross to bear. It's painful and less than ideal, but that's life. Though you may not see it, your ideal wouldn't fulfill you. It's in the fight for good to win against evil where we thrive. And if after reading this, despite my reasoning, you still only see the worm at the core, then tell me this: If the world bent to all your ideals, what would you dream of?

My dark side is my feelings of emptiness I guess. When I feel really empty, I don't even feel sympathy for the most important people in my life. I quite frankly stop caring. Listening to people's sorrows also leaves me cold then. I would never treat them badly of course, I still listen and try to help, but I always think things like "and now what, you think crying about it will make it better? Get up and change it or your mindset if you don't like it". That is my darkest side as an infp. It doesn't happen often that this side comes out tho.

Regarding the ideational wanderlust, I'm also reminded of the Cheshire cat who said to Alice, "If you don't know where you're going, then any road will take you there." 😺 INFPs do oft remind me of Alice in Wonderland... that sweet, idealistic innocence, or semblance of it, and curious exploration of worlds real and (especially) imagined. "little alice fell d o w n the hOle, *bumped* her head and _bruised_ her soul." So apt. Speaking of _"bruised_ souls," that tortured artist vibe (which I think is part and parcel to symbolic artistic expression doing more justice to the depth of Fi than words ever could hope to, in addition to Ne creativity), is sometimes better expressed by descriptions of enneagram type 4, which unsurprisingly correlates with Fi. "Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences." Fours' motivations: "Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a "rescuer." "One of the biggest challenges Fours face is learning to let go of feelings from the past; they tend to nurse wounds and hold onto negative feelings about those who have hurt them. Indeed, Fours can become so attached to longing and disappointment that they are unable to recognize the many treasures in their lives." Some of you might recognize this as an "Fi-Si loop." To quote The Smashing Pumpkins, from the appropriately titled album _Melancholy and the Infinite Sadness,_ the lyrics, "I'm in love with my saddness," will resonate with many INFPs and type 4s, but especially type 4 INFPs, on a deep level, if they are honest with themselves. True to the enneagram, I think one of the darkest aspects of INFPs is their tendency not only to become conflict-avoidant, and self-sacrificing martyrs in their own minds, but their tendency to idealize and romanticize their own suffering, to the extent that they subconsciously seek out situations where they can be the victim yet again, and find themselves engaging in tacit competitions over who is the biggest victim, who is the most marginalized, who has suffered the most, and who has the most bruises on their soul. This does provide a compelling contrast to the INFP's often quirky, playful energy and childlike sense of wonder. They seem to be equal parts light and dark, innocent and damaged, brimming with glee and burdened by a heavy heart. It's no wonder why they are so alluring to many. The girls especially have this major Lolita thing going on. You know what I mean. "The little girl just could not sleep because her thoughts were way too deep her mind had gone out for a stroll and fallen down the rabbit hole" "You," he said, "are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain." I get that to most people, the INFP is lost in fantasy and lacking pragmatism, but remember that to Se-PoLR types it is the "real world" that is quite fake. But surely if we take "real" to mean authentically pure and idealistic, then yes, they are often too too much for their own good. And the loss of innocence that results from that conflict, I think, is what causes the dark side to emerge. Then you get those hypocritically strict INFPs stuck in a Te-grip, telling you, "That's not how it works in the real world." That very statement probably once shattered their dreams when they were children.

My mum says Svetoslava when someone is telling you that something is impossible because of the “given reality” you will excavate the ground to show them million ways that it is possible. I can be really stubborn especially when I have vision about the possibility of something that other can’t see because they are blindfolded by the “reality”. Thanks to my “dark side” the best things in life have happened to me. Yes I love art and drawing when I’m upset it helps me heal the pain.

When I was 16 I had an insight moment when I read Plato's Republic and I read "justice is the health of the soul". Always be just, because while harm can come to the body, it's the soul that matters. This has been a north star to me, but I have had to revise how I look at it through the years because you can't hold tightly to an idea and expect it to always work. You have to meet life and flow with it. I probably took this idea too seriously at many points, thinking it was some magic key that I had found...

As an INFP, my main problem is being slothful. But when I'm attached to something or someone, I can be uncompromising.

As an infp,i think when we get passionate in something,we'd do anything to get what we want no matter what.

As an infp being out of touch with reality is a strange concept as I feel that I'm the one aware of the game being played while most everyone else are NPCs.

I've experienced a few dark phases...the socially awkward, self-hating, casually suicidal teenage phase; the chemically and spiritually depressed, existential dark night (actually, several years) of the soul phase; and the guilt-stricken because I acted outside my code/paranoid, fearful phase. The last was the worst.

Sorry, but I guess you are about to fully experience my dark side... I am an INFP who definitely has a core moral and ethical value system that I refuse to compromise, due to self-worth, self-esteem, and the drive for the society I see past the sludge it has become. I am honest with myself and know what I am willing to compromise on, and what I am not willing to, should it mean going against what I honestly hold dear. I value things such as honesty, integrity, loyalty, commitment, and humane treatment for all... there is that whole harmony thing and affinity to avoid conflict. Not so much as to go against what is good and fair though. Not all INFPs are healthy... thanks for choosing to only display those who are not, but not compromising a core belief or value is not exactly an INFP dark trait. Our "dark side" is much more complex than that. I will not compromise being lied to, cheated on, devalued, or allowing people to treat others poorly because of narrow-minded stereotypes or harsh judgements based on some status quo. I recently have been told that I am 1. Not intuitive because I do give people the benefit of the doubt. Wow... great insight from an unhealthy ENTP can really put the INFP into a tailspin of self-deprivication. He also claims I 2. have no perception, that I don't live in reality. As he preaches the God theory to me and sleeps with every girl he can while married... hmmmm.... I think you have some real valid points, but still may have missed something really important. INFP, ENFP, INFJ, and ENFJ... we are the ones who want to help, and we are the ones who are most willing to compromise ourselves for the betterment of humanity. We can see much further into people, and we are the ones who are willing to take a beating spiritually and emotionally for the sake of others. We get no credit for it, and are pretty much okay with it, especially the I's out there. Our dark side... well... it's when we can take no more. It is when we finally snap. No matter how valid our hurt or upset, and no matter how rightfull we are to feel this way, we are ostracized. While those around us step on us at will because we are pushovers who desire reciprocity for our kindness and compassion and forgive when reciprocity is denied... we are only looked upon as mean when we stand up for ourselves. It's like saying "Jesus! How dare you allow yourself to be crucified for our sins and leave us!" Then if we say "okay, I'm sorry... I will stay..." and then being yelled at "what!? How shall we be absolved!? You want US to suffer for our sins? We thought you were to die for us and now you refuse? How horrible and selfish of you!' So we say, "sorry, I guess I misunderstood. So, here I go, back to the crucifix"... "what!? But you said you wouldn't leave us!" There has to be a breaking point! Our dark side is eventually we stop giving a shit about a world that only pretends they do. We see hypocrisy everywhere and we are stifled whenever we find a voice. Even other INFPs will shush another INFP should they want to ruffle feathers. I'm 42. I am no longer afraid to ruffle a few feathers to try to help humanity remember it had potential. To be all those things I feel are valuable. The connection between people was lost when they started being able to insult and abuse people only to "block" them to prevent retaliation and own up to their individual consequences. I stay accountable for my wrongs. It is something I value. So here is the true dark side of an INFP... when we turn our backs on humanity... and ourselves. It happens much more often than you'd think, because no one sees it. We become bitter, angry, and give up on trying to be good and become part of the decline of man. If you have someone in your life that was always there for you, never speak to you again... you are dealing with an unappreciated INFP. If that one person you know suddenly, after never doing anything mean to anyone, does something horrendous and out of character, that's likely an INFP who stopped giving a crap, because so many never gave a crap about how we felt. The darkness is destroying ourselves and taking everyone who did us wrong with us. Aside from an INFJ... you won't feel or see a darker side of any personality. We are rare, and it is only when we become dark does the rest of the world take notice of us. J.R.R. Tolkien was absolutely correct. We are never lost although we often wander. We know more about who we are and who others are than we are credited for. Often we are told we are too stubborn for holding on to our values because we stand for something. Isn't it better to stand for what you value? Why wouldn't you? At least you stand for something. Instead of allowing yourself to become what you find deplorable? Why hate yourself? That is not healthy... no hate is healthy. All have a right to their opinion and way of thinking. I don't push my values and beliefs on others, nor do I expect them to change their own values or beliefs. I just ask that they not infringe on mine, or try and change who I have always been because they have a different view. I see that view, and respect their right to it, I just don't agree and don't have to. Ugh... now I'm just rambling and ranting. Sorry... you have a good video and good points, but I feel as an INFP that you missed something vital to that dark side. Our dark side is rare... and yet can very much be a dangerous thing. If an INFP is trapped in that darkness too long... it isn't good. We love people, and we love with all we have. Often we are lonely, because once we are not needed... that is how we are left... alone.

The info is to cute but sometimes he or she is dark for being so cute

my dark side is being lowkey an emotional masochist. when my heart aches, it feels good---i'm really familiar with it. i've been hurt a lot of times emotionally that heartache is really familiar and makes me feel alive. i'm not familiar with love so i get scared from my own feelings that i imagine hurtful scenarios to hurt myself....but now i have someone who makes me feel alive with his love, i'm slowly healing ^^

I absolutely love how you dissect personality types, you exude this empathy and embrace for each type and people in general. Youre so easy to listen to, love your videos man, keep em coming.-INFP

Omg I never thought there are people like me out there. I see this comment section and I'm sh00k. I wish I could write what I feel but it's too damn difficult. I know my dark side tho.. I'm a very polite and supportive person with an open mind but if someone get in my way or my families way I don't care how mean I can be or what I'm gonna say to them or if I'm gonna hurt them but they are freaking done. This video is really good!

Inferior Te can be scarier than an ESTJ's inferior Fi. From personal experience, it's something I always regret when I blow my steam off at others who have little to deserve it to begin with. It's embarrassing and mostly repressed anger that I try not to express in public, usually.

sometimes, when my thoughts are a bit abstract, I need to read a lot of books so I can reference them to better describe to other people how I feel.

I guess my dark side is the wandering, I always have a feeling I need to go somewhere whether it's emotionally or physically never quite seem to get there and while I don't feel it I can see why others think I might be wandering aimlessly. I also never feel satisfied and feel like I'm good enough if I'm not the best at something especially if it's something I'm good at or want to be good at. And even when I'm the best in the certain group I always know outside who is better than me and instead of having it as a fuel it actually brings me down.

The way you express " INFPs so cute" head shaking "Yet, sometimes so dark" YES, I am scared of myself.

INFP's feel deeply so when they get broken, it hurts like hell cuz the knife cuts deeper than other people. So... if we get really broken, I believe we can become dangerous. As an INFP myself I know my anger is toxic and hurtfull. I can broke people hearts without even thinking, I just open my mouth and words come out so sharp. For example I never forgot about things that people said to me and broke my heart. I can make it slip at that moment, or cry it out but after years if I had fight with that person, I can remind the things that person said to me and how cruel they were so they had no rights to call me cruel. I can make a list of stupid shit they said. Like Im a person with weak memory but I never forgot the moments and people who broke me. Even tho I say I forgive them, deep down I still carry it all and one day when they piss me off, I just throw it all on em. This is my biggest weapon and I dont think its a bad thing tbh. You should remind people the stuff they said and take your apologizes... like I did. My villiain side is... if I dont like you, doesnt matter how much you care, love, try and support me, indeed I dont give a fuck. If you make one mistake against me, I put a line under your name in my head and play carefully.I trust people easily but if they break my trust, I yeet them out in a second. I made too many random friends and end those friendships without them realising. I guess rather than villains, we are more like 'its payback time bitch' We dont intend to take revenge but we take it anyway.

"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost. From the ashes, a fire shall be woken, A light from the shadows shall spring; Renewed shall be blade that was broken, The crownless again shall be king." - J.R.R Tolkien, The Song of Aragorn

I'm like that candidate you mentioned but more right leaning and traditional. I can accept when people disagree with me in a respectful way, but when you insult me for my values, it only gets worse for you. Imo, this is both a blessing yet a curse, because on one hand, I can stand up for my values, but on the other hand, sometimes I can't differentiate between respectful debate and personal attack.

The whole point of ideals is to remain non-specific. ‘Love thy neighbour’ as an ideal only has value if it doesn’t become specified. If ‘Love thy neighbour’ became ‘knock on your neighbour s door and say hi every week or so’ then that would absolve you of having to apply that ideal to any other given situation of which there could be millions of deferring applications. Just do that task and you’re done. You’ve succeeded. Tick the box and you’re a good person (technically speaking) . So this is why INFPs carry that heavy burden. We’re always looking for how to apply those ideals in every situation (or at least we try). The frustration is seeing others do the knocking on the neighbour s door thing and feel ok about not feeling responsible for applying that principle anywhere else. They go about their day having ticked all the superficial boxes.. while we carry the weight of not living up to our high ideals and get told to just do the knocking on the door thing and move on. Stop over complicating everything. But what if your neighbour needs you every day???!? Nope. Once a week. Done.

“Not all who wander are lost.” A part of me acknowledge this well as a matter of fact but why do I still can't help feel being lost and that makes me lonely.

The dark side of INFP *PAIN FROM NARUTO*

As an INFP my dark side manifests itself, not only as depression, but also as imagining very macabre hypotheticals and letting the mind wander. Most people would probably think about the practical implications of twisted scenarios, whereas I often also think about how it would FEEL, both for me and others. This kind of imagination and curiosity expresses itself in art rather than reality, as an INFP wouldn't want those things to actually occur, usually. Also, depending on how introverted they are, I think there is a strong potential for INFP's to emotionally manipulate, especially when they feel betrayed after having invested in someone so much themselves.

You have the most soothing voice.

As an INFP myself, I can deeply relate to the wanderer's concept. Seeing all my friends getting stable jobs are good and promising, but maybe that is not satisfying for an INFP. But that does not mean we do not long for destination/goal, it just simply means we don't like rigidity in life. And through all these years of soul-searching, I find that INFP can be a happier person by being a teacher, artist, writer or journalist.

This world is far from ideal let alone healthy in some cases for this type and from the male experience in most parts it is rather brutal emotionally due to societal expectations.

Am I the only one scared of the thoughts I have sometimes? The scenarios I create in my head...

Here's what I think/what I've seen: INFPs are very picky about who they spend time with, so when someone who they let in betrays them, when they're hurt by someone who they really love, they'll not only hate that person, but hate everyone else too, because they assume that no one else would've treated them any better than that person did. It's like an INFP's rage/pain is too deep to only be aimed towards one person...I think the sheer depth of an INFP's emotions is the scariest thing about them.

I will suggest that massive anger outbursts as a result of constantly bottling up and repressing stress and bs is our dark side

i feel so lost all of the time because there arent any infps in my family, or people who understand me. i isolate constantly and i only feel happy with my friends:(

I am an INFP (an older one - almost 50) and when I was younger I was sooooooooo nice... an example of this is once I worked at a place where my co-worker was about to need a kidney as her kidneys were starting to fail. So I volunteered to get tested to see if I was a match for her. Luckily her sister ended up being a better match. The interesting thing about all of this is at the time I completely despised this co-worker. She was one of the nastiest humans I had ever met but at the time I felt compelled to go the extra mile for her due to my religious beliefs. Because of that type of extreme compassion I believe it eventually took it's toll on me and now I am dealing with seeing 95 percent of humanity as horrible. In other words I am now a very unhealthy INFP who is pretty reclusive and people avoidant. Hoping to eventually get back to feeling more positive about people. It is amazing how dark I have gone when I started off so nice lol...

"they are very out of touch with reality" ...felt that

Love Who: "lmao infp's are idealistic" Me, an INFP-T: "... pragmatism and adaptability are the key to survival."

I love the wanderer side of an INFP. I remember loving a videogame called Shadow Of The Colossus, and in that game, the places where you could go we almost endless and diverse, but you had little to nothing ways to interact. Is was like a beautiful 3d picture with no people in it, but that's why I loved to explore that game. Sometimes I got bored but I'm still fond to those memories where you simply wandered un dome beautiful ruined castle, or in a dark green forest with a lake. Is just so beautiful to simply exist there. And escapism and daydreaming is a very common thing for us as INFP's. And my personal dark side as INFP... is that I let myself be driven too much by my emotions and overthinking. I exagerate things because I just feel stuff greater and more personal than other people do. So I can become quite bitchy, and deffensive and passive agressive. And continuing with the dark side of idealiID is that, either I'm neutral/lack of conviction or... I can develop a deep hidden desire for chaos. Like, is my dark belief that the only way we can open our eyes is by suffering.

The INFP struggle is real.

I think, me, as an infp, I get super dark thinking about "what if I don't get to my dreams?". I wanna be a songwriter and singer, travel and see all the world. And I usually have my hopes up while i daydream about it but, when I think that I don't have enough time to do it or that I maybe never get there, i start thinking that nothing has sense if I don't do what I dream and BE WHERE I BELONG. I been fighting with it a LOT lately

Wandering with no direction lol ouch 😂 kind of true at times though...

Hi,Infp here.. I think our imagination and understanding are a blessing and a curse. The way we see life it can seem really beautiful and maybe even fascinating,but also on the other hand way more darker and deep. A few years ago i wandered from therapist to therapist thinking that i was a really depressed person or sth,because i couldn‘t figure out myself. Arguing of the meaning of the existence of life.Being overwhelmed by all the bad things on this planet and thinking of death as some kind of escape,because i wouldn‘t be able to help everyone when i couldn‘t even help myself.I also felt (like most infp) alien like,because i wouldn‘t do things the way everyone else does.Because i wouldn‘t dress the way everyone else did.The negative reactions came in conflict with my believes,authenticity and morals.I didn‘t care,because i liked being me,but at the same time the self doubt,loss of motivation to live and existential crisis became more and more.Overthinking with negative thoughts can end bad sometimes.

Ok so I'm two weeks late but I'm feeling like writing something about my experience with my dark side as an INFP, because putting my thoughts into written word helps making sense of them, and maybe someone will find them useful. Being an idealist, when I look at something - that could be anything, an object, a system, whatever - I automatically see its potential to be better, greater, more efficient, more beautiful, to help more people, etcetera. So when I look at the world I can't help but comparing it to this ideal, potential, better version of it. Oftentimes, this ideal version is not only possible, but could be easily implemented if people could just stop for a moment and see that everything is preventing us from making things better is just an ensemble of social constructs that are not in any way eternal, natural or immutable. This constant comparing can become unhealthy as the aux Ne is only used to find ways the world fails to meet the Fi ideal, to corroborate this "everything sucks" kind of attitude towards the external world, instead of using it to find ways to act in the world (with Te) and actually make it closer to the ideal. I've spent a fair amount of time in this state, where I felt powerless to change anything, so I just wallowed in contempt and made myself (and the people who had to put up with my nonsense) miserable. It lead to a downward spiral to the point I couldn't see anything as worthy of my effort or attention anymore, except for music and drugs. Needless to say I isolated myself almost completely. I think Fi can make it so that negative feelings become desirable and pleasurable in some twisted way, when positive feelings become unavailable because you don't let yourself experience them, because "everything sucks". To snap out of it, I just had to see I was using my Ne in the wrong way, if I was using it at all. Studying the type theory really helped, as well as my family actually telling me to get my shit together, lol (I'm so lucky to have a supportive family. If only I knew back then). Now I'm not immune to this kind of cognitive loops, but at least I can recognize them when they surface and avoid the downward spiraling. So to sum it up I think a dark side of the INFP is they can become cynical, miserable jerks, wasting their life and pushing people away with their emotional martyrdom and holier-than-thou attitude.

It's scary how I can care too much of other people but when I decided I don't care that set of peaple I can't care less if they hurt mentally and emotionally by me either.

Tbh, i try to compromising. But I’m better at compromising with friends than someone i want to spend the rest of my life with. My partner is end goal, so i want to share my values with them, for example I’m vegan, and i will not compromise this in a relationship. So yes, i will say I’m a bit uncompromising, i will compromise small things but not big things. As for the election guy, i understand when it comes to laws and control over a place, we can’t enforce our beliefs and values on others no matter how much we want things to be one way. What’s the point in being fluid when it comes to right or wrong, it means our values are fickle. However if our values can be bettered for humanity, i feel i would adapt to better ideas.

Ne : We need to move out..You've been on the same place for a long time Si: But Why? I like it here Ne: because I said so

I appreciate this so much and it’s because someone with a different mindset than us even took the time to make a video explaining us very well... sometimes we just need someone to hold the mirror straight thank you! 😊

Excellent! Your depth of knowledge is amazing.

Concise and insightful, as always

I assume this is about Jeremy Corbyn and I don't know enough about him specifically to comment on whether he would change his positions given evidence of economic problems from his policies, but I will say that the evidence that the way capitalism operates now is creating huge problems like climate change and growing income inequality is right there in everyone's face right now. People who are supposedly sane and moderate *aren't* changing, so that seems like a hypocritical charge. Whatever you think of someone who identifies as a socialist (and I don't myself, but I am very left-wing) at least they're acknowledging real issues in the current system. It strikes me as more idealistic to act like everything is fine because it's easier to do nothing. That being said, the real dark side of the INFP is that we can identify these problems so easily but rarely do anything directly to address them. So I can't argue with the second part of the video.

"the wandering is the point". That really resonated with me.

yes, yes, yes. this is exactly how I feel. I know I am going somewhere. My path is not crystal clear, but I heavily rely on my internal values and beliefs to guide me at key points, and I am constantly intaking an abundant variety of external information to inform my trajectory. Also, I liked what you pointed out about, other types not feeling things as deeply, neglecting things, or devaluing it, it hurts but I have to remind myself not to take it personally when someone I care about doesn't feel as deeply about the same things, or even our relationship, as I do.

If I'm tested or told off I feel like a shadow falls over my face and I can be just the most horrible person.

awesome video man! this infp approves, everything you said was very relatable to me

I would have to agree with this assessment to INFPs dark side. I am an INFP and I have very strong political and religious values. I felt you were describing me. I can be very uncompromising and unmoving on my beliefs. So yep that is me.

When I was a kid, I cry a lot. It was troublesome, to be honest. And I agree with the phrase, "All or Nothing." To me, everything must be either 100% or 0%. If I ain't feeling it, I ain't doing it. And I realise my mind works differently from other people. It is such a hassle as I want to get closer to people, but at the same time I wanna push them away. Like bruh The thing I hated the most is when I don't care. At that point, everything means nothing to me. Sometimes it can get me into _serious_ trouble, while the other time it saves me, but rare. Ah, and moral compasses. I have strong moral compass since I was a kid, so I never get swayed easily. But it would be a lie if I say there wasn't a time where my "dont care" mode switch on, and everything else switch off, even my morals. Hence, resulting me in a very difficult situation once. Like when you realise a few moments, or hours, or days afterwards, "Ah, I made a mistake **inaudible screaming** " Lol, just ranting cause I never felt more home than in this comment section. It feels like I wasn't meant to be here, but I am.

Not all who wonder are lost!!!! I love it! Thank you so much

Dear you kind, genius soul- Aw hell yea you made me sound *so damn badass* -an INFP-T

You are very intelligent, great with words, thanks for taking the time to make this video. I feel less alone x

Very intelligent take, thank you sir!

You captured the hot mess that I am perfectly

I always like your last line which concludes your videos!

This is so friggen well said. You have such a way with words, I consistently seek out INFP insight and this hit the nail with more resonation than any. Thank you!

That Tolkien quote is my FAV! Every video has me feeling like you're looking into my soul 🙀. Absolutely LOVE your videos, they make me so happy 😆❤️!!! Quality content and you're incredibly intelligent and insightful! - INFP

👏👏👏 I feel like this is a good thing to be aware of for everyone.

My dark side is that i care too much or I don't at all. I have been battling with feeling nothing and empty. The hard part is that I know that something is wrong with me but I don't do anything to solve it. I drown in this void and it has become an addiction. However, whenever I feel, I feel it with so much intensity that I explode and have a breakdown. Anger that I have built up will suddenly burst like a ballon and I would feel exhausted. I don't know if it's just me but life is tough for us INFPs.

Simply an incredible video and very well done too!

The end of this video gave me the chills because you made me realise that quote in a completely different way. On one hand, the way I first saw it, it was J.R.R. Tolkien saying that people who do bad things can make redemption. Another way that I also saw it was that people who are suffering from mental illnesses are not lost and can make it out the other side themselves again. But the way you phrased it, made me realise the most beautiful side and the way I relate to the most. We are not lost just because we seem like we are hopelessly wandering. The whole point is to wander... and wonder. This just makes me love the quote more because if it was intentional, Tolkien is known for playing on words to make multiple meanings so that's just wonderful. Another quote I like is: "When people say that something I hope for is 'a fantasy,' I tell them, 'that only makes my dream for it to happen so much greater! And that's not so bad at all.'"