INFPs should really stay away fast paced cooperate jobs.. Just my personal experience lol!

It didn't work for me either. My perspective is we thrive in Self-Paced Self-directed type of work, for me that's Self-employment.

I love this. My sis keeps sending me job ads but she doesn't understand why I m choosy. I'm always searching for people who understand me. Thanks. My first time and it's great here. Infp t

That an infp/infj ability to write anything in chronological order is factually impossible that putting us on a timeline only produces shotty work because we need it to be our own time & order to deliver the message we intend because it takes time to process what we think and believe in and put it into words to reach the masses or at least the audience we want to see and hear what we have to say. I wish I had known for at least a moment of my life before recently that from the time that I could really process thought and hold memory i knew I was special to this world..it's knowing that comes from the soul that you're different and you're special.. I wish that that could have been known and I wish I could have had it reinforced. It's so hard to know you're special and then be told you're not just to find out you were right the whole time if only people had just paid attention and listened the world could have already started to become & be that better place a long time ago because every NF I know is a spiritually gifted healer, seer, & teacher. If only we could have gotten the attention and recognition that we needed instead of all that help blending in with the background from the ones who don't understand us or by the ones that dislike the reflection they see of themselves while they're around us. Awareness education sensitivity and knowledge on how to protect our energy. A lot of us transmute energy we take negativity in we turn it into light we absorb others pain hurt sorrow and we give them back love acceptance and forgiveness. We are energetic sponges absorbing what is in the darkness to return it to the light to keep this world moving growing elevating and pretty much just sane. I am a very spiritually awoken extremely sensitive astoundingly spiritually gifted infp and I can see very clearly how more than one of me incite massive change and bring so much love into this world

@@dani_spacegaga7376 you are not alone. I have also been searching for that one job that will give me fulfillment. I have options which I have never gotten around to trying. I'm not in a relationship bcos I would hate for my partner to think a just making a fuss about something that's so dear to my heart cos I really will appreciate the support. I think you should try out different options until you find the one fulfilling job. I will pray your husband finally understands this. All the best to us all sis💖

I am speechless...this is exactly my life and I couldn't have put in in words...

The drive for perfectionism makes you procrastinate even more

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Damn are u me , lady? 😂 Its harder to deal with it when u know h r capable of alot more but ur bad habits act as obstacles in the way

@@aena5995 hahaha I experience it on a daily, but being in my mid-20s and with responsibilities/deadlines continuously piling up I'm SLOWLY 'trying' to get it under control .... not easy!

So what's on the other side of you doing the work, showing up, and succeeding that you don't want to face? You seem to acknowledge that you are consciously and subconsciously avoiding that.

@@MsDoryLinda Sorry if my previous message sounded like I wasn't giving the proper merit to your video, I forgot to mention it but I loved it. The only problem I have, the only difference I find between the other INFP-T and me, is the one I mentioned. Maybe I'm not and INFP-T after all... And about your question, I honestly don't know. Even when I try to put my best effort, I end up not doing half of the work I should do in time. And most of the times I don't even face the consequences, because I do all the work at the very last second and end up getting away with it, but I know it's not healthy behavior for me and for my work ethic, and it's not right towards the people who expect something from me and believe in me. I just don't know why I keep behaving like this. I'm so used to falling in the same way, that I ended up almost accepting it, even if I always feel terrible about it.

Now that I think about it, maybe it could be the fact that I consider "putting my best effort and failing" a worse outcome than "putting almost no effort and failing because of it". Or maybe I'm just making up excuses with myself to avoid accepting and correcting my defects. Sorry if I'm bothering you with this.

I didn't perceive any negativity, so no worries at all. I was asking you the question to hopefully prompt a reflection for what might be behind the cycle.

And you are not a bother. This is a safe space where we can all reflect and gain better self awareness. What do you feel would happen if you do your best and fail?

Great point!

U literally just described the job of a public librarian.

Yes I’m working my first customer service job, it’s pretty easy for me and it highlighted for me how much of a problem solver I actually am.

So true! 🤷😊🙋🤗

Not always. I'm an INFP-T and I'm passionate about robots. I'm an engineer... Although, it's been difficult finding the right job for me right now. That's why I'm here.

You are not alone. I'm glad this feels like home. Together we'll keep supporting each other forward ✨ ❤ You can find the support you need here bit.ly/TheBaobabExperience

I am literally in tears right now. I share the EXACT same sentiments, word for word. I’ve spent my entire life feeling alone like no one understands me, no one gets it...I’m in complete awe right now

You're all my people ❤ thank you to you guys and Ms Dory Linda for making me feel like a real person and not a freak of nature. This resonates so much.

what is FINNA

@@ayeshak6822 finna = gonna = going to.

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Me too 🤣

Right on! I consider myself a world-class procrastinator. I relate to what the community is saying. Any peeps with ADHD as well? (Blessings to us all every single one! :) Virtual hugs. The self-criticism I/we heap upon ourselves is so harsh. We/I wouldn't think of treating someone else that way. It helps when I remind myself to be present and be the observer or witness of my experience. And breathe into the physical response I'm having to the upset, which can create space from the ego and space for my/our higher self to come in.

lol totally relatable

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omg this is so me

This is so me

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@@MsDoryLinda May I ask, Did you have the procrastination problem and how should we do in order to solve the problem? I'm INFP and I have this problem at lot.

It's certainly a journey of discovery 🤗

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I am in the exact same situation. Im 33 but I'm a mom and I've just been comfortable in that position for so long. I've only worked 2 jobs since I've have my kids and one lasted 6 months because I couldn't afford childcare while working and the other that I'm working right now is just temporary. I just can't figure out what I'm good at and what I want to do. I'm always afraid to choose what to study and do something that could make me unavailable to my kids. I use it as an excuse a lot. Its valid... however they are millions of working mothers that make it work. So why can't I??

@D M you just have to weigh what values will cause you to show up at your best. Each person's journey will look different. You can make a success of any path, but is that the path you'd pursue and find the most contentment in?

I kno it sucks. But I just want to say it's okay and it's fine.

It can definitely feel like that can't it.

That’s exactly how I’ve been explaining to others how it feels to be me. We’ve got a strong sense of empathy thus, consoling others feels natural and rewarding. However, taking in that negative energy is exhausting and sometimes it gets to you. So yeah it’s a double edged sword. Hopefully we’ll master it.

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Great observation. No wonder so many of us creative end up working for ourselves!

Never have I ever come across anything more relatable than this.

yes this is why I hate all part time jobs....they micromanage you and order you around, make you adhere to pointless rules. While I didn't resent the work itself, I came to resent all those jobs because of the management.

I agree so much! I just finished my student teaching, and now I'm rethinking my whole career path. I loved teaching/interacting with my kids, and coming up with lesson plans. However, it often whittled down my personal time to maybe an hour at most a day for multiple, consecutive weeks, and I felt so micromanaged by all the bureaucracy that I'm now terrified to actually start applying anywhere.

Yeah, I'd say that hit the nail straight on the head for me. I'm also not a fan of bureaucracy in the workplace. I understand why it's there, I just don't like it. I'm not going to let you speak to me in a certain way just because you're my manager.

Congratulations for pivoting and venturing into new territory 😊 What were you doing previously/currently?

I'm 26, turning 27 this month and I've been a NICU nurse for 5 years and I've been feeling stagnant for the longest time. NOT THAT THE JOB IS BORING, it's a handful of a job. But I'm just not feeling like it's the job for me.

That's why I'm a big believer that the problem for us isn't the type of job but rather the working conditions that determine our satisfaction.

I'm an INFP, soon to be 30, and going back to University this month to become a language teacher.😅 Scary stuff, but I know that I will grow so much from it. We can do it!!

I notice I'm like this with watching shows. I'll start something and get bored and start watching something else. But then I know I'll have like 30 unfinished series waiting for me so I go back to the series I was watching for a while but then I get bored and don't want to continue the series I started earlier so I start ANOTHER series and the cycle goes on 💀

Good for you Kirsten.

YAS!!! This is what I’m doing too and I’ve also had tons of jobs :) God bless and good luck

Wish you the best! :)

Good Luck! Greetings from Germany! May i ask: what Business?

Keep being great!

Yes, we are never behing. Great advice 😊

hi, im a 20 y/o INFP-T here and i am thankful that i found your comment. this is extremely relatable and this is exactly what i need to remember. thankyou so much! i hope your life is doing great! ❤️

@@radhiyavangobel6191 thank you! Things will get better, I promise. 🌺

hi i’m a 15 year old infp-t and i’ve been struggling in my ap class and beating myself up for it so i’m really happy i found this comment

Im in tears, thank u so much, youre all my people❤️ thank GOD i found y'all

Goodness, your number 1 advice is THE biggest hinderance for most of us and we don't even know it. Knowing we can heal, develop and grow is the hope we should hold onto at any stage of our lives, regardless of how deeply imbedded those old narratives are. I'm glad you are so aware of these wonderful insights now.

Thank you ❤

Why do I need to go to therapy just cause I'm an INFP-T?

@@Aliyaaaa no one said you have to. But a lot of people with this type of personality are like this because of childhood trauma or mental health problems. It doesn't apply to everyone :) Or some people just don't want to admit they need help.

Thank you...the first one..definitely!

Oh goodness yes 💯!! I didn't know enough about myself to trust and stick to what I felt vs what I was told.

Worst for me was getting FIRED for being “incompetent” after I had literally worked my butt off (I had two jobs; my old part time, and new full time job. I was staying up until 1am and getting up at 4am to go to my full-time job) for an entire week. It truly insulted me like nothing else. Like hey just say what you mean and that you need someone else who has a more flexible schedule than I now have. That’d be fine, I don’t want to repeat that week. Don’t say I wasn’t working hard enough or good enough!!!

I relate to this so much! I'm currently 21 and quit a university organization last year that offered a monthly salary. I quit because I messed up quite a lot and while everyone else there told me it was fine, I couldn't bear letting everyone down. I felt like I was just ruining everything and causing trouble. I got so stressed and anxious about it so I quit.

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I love it!!! Congratulations!!!

Congratulations!!!

☺️.. Thank you

congratulations ❤🙌

All that you're describing is a common experience for us here in this community. It only becomes troubling, I think, when we think we shouldn't be this way or when we don't know how to make the most of that disposition without becoming something different.

Same sis same

@@jasoncasale3708 Yes, explorers! My garage and attic are full of activities, past and present. My office is. And my career is full of things too. INFP-T to the tee. Just full of stuff. Some I got very good at then just quit. Didn't even feel bad about leaving some behind. Some of those I left, I feel terribly guilty because I lost interest too soon or held on too long. I've even quit a business I created for myself recently. That one has me churned up. Give yourself space and time in your natural clock so you can find the inspiration and execution as Ms Dory Linda points out. She put it in an excellent and succinct way.

Yes, it's definitely a journey. I have a free mini workshop coming up soon that might benefit you. You can register for it here if you think it aligns with where you currently are us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/2316032088576/WN_3oqQO0LWScCrOwLfUlj-JA

I don't have a career myself but I do know what I want to do with my life. I never had to concern myself with getting a job or an education or etc. It must be hell to have to deal with that stuff, especially for 1D Te folks (IxFx types). I wish everyone could just spend several months (or more) alone, away from the world. Just being in solitude. Not having to worry about getting a career or an education or what have you. That way you'll figure out what you're naturally drawn to. It's the best way, in my opinion. Unfortunately, most people don't get that opportunity.

I don’t have a career (yet) but I’m learning computer programming. It has the same logic as languages and it can also utilise your problem solving and creativity too. Try it out, there’s tons of free/ inexpensive ways to learn it online.

I have been working many jobs, always in direct contact with a lot of clients, teaching, tourism, sales, food and beverage, and the stress and anxiety of being in contact with people nonstop has caused me to have to stop for a long time. All this time for 10 years I was living abroad in a few countries taking life in, but I never found my calling as I had hope. I'm 31 now, and I'm taking this pandemic situation to really seriously search for a career that would suit me. But I honestly can't seem to find anything that really makes me excited, and since it's getting me down I've decided to take a break again and take entirely care of my inner self first. It's a long journey to find a job that suits us! I'm so happy to find that my mbti type can get me in contact with people who feel things so similarly ♡

I'm an IT Engineer by day and Music Producer by night lol Now currently studying BA Criminology and Law

As INFPs we're definitely explorers and being in one place for too long can for sure make us feel stuck. One way I'd look at it is you're already experiencing success, having found something that you can apply yourself in for a decade. The joy, I believe, is in completing those phases and moving along when it's time. Which is where you are at right now. Have you come across Lauren Sapala? You can look her up here on KZfaq. I took her mini course in intuitive writing and loved her approach. She works specifically with INFJs and INFPs aspiring writers and I believe she just recently launched another course to teach the business side of things and how to make writing a viable career. I'd recommend her work if that's the route you want to venture into next. Do let me know how this progresses for you, if you can 😊

For the monetisation part : - if you want to write fiction, try putting it into an ebook (Kindle for example) and selling it on Amazon - if you think you would prefer writing non fiction, use Amazon affiliation program: you can write about your passions and put the corresponding links to buy stuff inside or at the end of the article. Learning SEO can help you rank your articles into Google's SERPs. Brian Dean is a good SEO teacher ; his tips work pretty well, from my experience.

You can try out writing on Medium.com, they pay you for views, etc. :)

Same here... the realities of being a writer (or any other 'fun' career) make it unfun in a hurry.

What all jobs have u done till now

😅 I hear you. I just turned 40 and I just pivoted and started a new way of using my skills and gifts. I think it's definitely a lifetime journey 😉

I totally relate. We are life-wanderers!

Indeed we are 💯

@@MsDoryLinda Thank you very much, Ms Dory! Your content is so valuable! Please keep going 🙏

Thank you so much for the encouragement @@edgar.espinoza. It means a lot 🙏🏾

I take the position that we aren't meant to "fix" but embrace what is so we can learn how to best utilize what we've got. What usually tends to happen is, whatever we resist, persists!! That's why you'll hear me in most of my videos advocating for developing skills to "be" with what is, the duality of our being!

Im 19 as well, personally, I have experienced that being to idealistic isn't the problem, it is more how you use and live it, inside your bubble where everything is perfect or having awarness of the real world and based on that, start idealising the best and possible way.

Spot on 👌🏾💫

Love this🙌🏼🙌🏼

Infp is a "judging" type. Fi is a judging function.

Yes being willing to start somewhere and do so imperfectly is a god place to start. For most free spirited people external motivations don't usually drive or influence internal motivation to keep going. For them the scrip has to flip and they have to draw from accepting what is, and allow that to drive everything else. So it's the internal acceptance stance that then encourages the external satisfaction that then starts a positive loop to keep going.

Your English looked great to me! :) I agree fully. It's a helpful practice. Thank you for posting.

I wish I could tattoo this comment on my mind so I start just DOING instead of thinking and feeling shame about ALL the things I gotta do but I'm not doing because... procrastination :(

😅 so wonderful to feel seen and space held for us to be ourselves, isn't it Julia? I love how we come together and just support each other 🤗

Hahaha YES! It’s the one place on the internet that I feel safe to express myself❤️

Maryna I'm sorry you're having a rough time. 2020 is rough all around. Can you provide a little more content, when you say "finding my way in life" what are you aiming towards and doing at the moment?

Going through the same thing and I’m 25, the pressure is real and it’s been a struggle to not lose hope. But I do hope opportunities open up for you. All your efforts will be paid off for sure. Fingers crossed!

Im a 22 y/o Infp too and same!

I'm sorry. Yeah it's not good to do what people pressure you to. That's why it's so important to have alone time. To get away from the world, spend several months alone.. And you'll figure out what you're naturally drawn to.

I did a similar thing, but after pursuing a business degree (for similar reasons) for 4 years I quit. Then I had a tough time working random jobs for a few years, but found a different career path that I was actually good at around 25 and did online classes in that area to get a degree and internship. Been doing really well fortunately, but I'm already thinking about switching again 😅 Just wanted to share to give you some hope, times are tough now but you still have plenty of time to find something that works for you. If anything I wish I quit the business degree earlier, but deciding to abandon that idea (and not fall for the sunk cost fallacy that I learned about ha) was one of the best decisions of my life

Welcome to the community. I know you'll continue to feel right at home here. Feel free to ask any questions and I know people here will be more than happy to chime in.

We probably judge ourselves more harshly than anyone we've ever met, which is saying a lot since people usually think we're weird and judge us lol

@@jasoncasale3708 sounds like it came straight from Gods mouth 🤩

Ah that would be so great, to sit and have a heart to heart with fellow INFPs

Yes.. heck yas! Thank goodness for the net & youtube & Ms Dory, and everyone who comments, and all the research...and etcs. Its all very eye opening.

Welcome home 🏡 No room for or hating ourselves here. Just loving ourselves as we are and discovering ways to utilize what the world sees as our weaknesses which are actually our strengths.

I'm reading a lot of judgment here. I think it would really help to start understanding these aspects of yourself from a different perspective 🤗

@@MsDoryLinda Thank you for your advice😊

Me too. You're not alone.

"useful without routine" why does this resonate with me so much

Sameee.. I am an auditor but is currently working as an admin staff under our audit dept head. I am getting bored and loney, although my boss is always praising me.. I felt like I should be doing more than just that.. However, I can't really do anything cause that's where I was assigned.. I'm kind of doubting myself whether or not I can also do what my co auditors do and if I am competent enough.. Some says that I should just enjoy it while it lasts.. And i'm trying to do just that.. But i'm still not feeling at ease.. Most especially because we got the same salaries and they are all busy while i am not.. 😅

I feel exactly what you're going through. Im 19 and being in uni gives me major anxiety. I'm shy and it's hard to speak infront of my peers without my voice sounding nervous/getting really low or my heart racing! Its especially hard when you're in a field the requires u to speak up & work with others🥲I like what I'm doing but at the same time I worry and get super stressed, nervous which makes we wanna quit school most times. Plus my procrastination makes it worse.🤦🏽‍♀️ I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I hope you are doing well 💓

I am 20 and I too quit my Dental college 6 months ago bcz of all the anxieties,stress, overthinking,uncomfort,hostel sickness that I majorly suffered with.

It is probably not the same situation, still I hope you feel better and can move forward fully. 💖 I suffer from social anxiety and the fact of being in a completely new high school made me feel lost, the people where I live usually have a strong character and I am not like that, it was very difficult for me hard to fit in and ended up dropping out of high school by August this year, now I'm focusing on myself too, I felt like I wasn't ready, I left many things when the pandemic started and I am very prone to nostalgia and melancholy, so I am overcoming the process to start on this new path

Yes! Amen to that. Find what's normal for you!

How did you become a meditation teacher?

Interesting insight 🤔 do you have any hobbies or interests that you pursue outside of work?

I’m afraid of it as well… If someone tells me to do something with a deadline, I’ll do it. I like to be helpful, so I always do everything as best as I can to please others. But if I needed to do something for myself only, I wouldn’t spend my energy to do it. I don’t think I would be able to be self employed, because I need some structure to rely on, have some ground to stand on, and if I could change this structure as I pleased (by being self employed, for example) I would just procrastinate forever.

That's so interesting... so do you think it's the responsibility to others or the structure in and of itself that drives you? If you structure your self employment in a way that you have to show up because you provide a service or product to people, is that the same thing in your eyes?

@@MsDoryLinda The structure keeps me on the right track, and the responsability to others makes me move forward. I think that if I was self employed and really believed that my work was important to someone... Maybe I could do it. But I would frequently have self doubts, like "is it really important?", "Am I really doing the right thing?"... And that would be really exhausting.

"...if I believed my work was important to someone...maybe I could do it..." You know reading your reaponse reminded me of a video I was watching the other day by Sunny Lernaduzzi where she was talking about a value of a $50 bill. She had one on her hand, tore it up, asked if it was still worth $50? Threw it to the ground, stepped on it and asked if it was still worth $50? The answer is, it did, no matter what rough treatment it went through. It didn't lose its value. If I was to translate that into the scenario in our conversation, would $50 cease to be $50 if it was shown to people who didn't know it was a $50 bill? Meaning is the value of who you are and an expression of that determined by others? What if they don't recognize what you've got? Is it enough if YOU recognize what you've got? An even more important question is, do you? Just something to think about 😉 Sometimes we have to be willing to peak behind the curtain and ask what's really hiding behind our thoughts, you know!

No we can't turn back. We only go forward. So we take what we know today and start implementing what we want for tomorrow.

I feel you so badly. Hope you're doing better ❤

Me too. I have isolated myself from all people for 5 years except to go grocery shopping.

Sending you hugs, dear one 🤗

I'm so glad you found this helpful Rachna, and it has provided you clarity. I'm of the point of position that "ideal career" for INFP is a fallacy. I might have to actually make a video about that and explain further. But in short, INFPs are explorers and have the need to discover new territories so the best way to find satisfaction is in knowing the best work conditions and not type of job/ career. I cover a little bit of that in this short highlight "Best Careers for INFP Must-Haves! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mMBpjK2hrs3OeWg.html Does that answer your query?

@@MsDoryLinda Yes, I saw that video and I got my answers. Thank you so much ⭐😘

@@MsDoryLinda and You're doing a great job. ❤️ Many people will benefit from this. 🙏

@@rachnayadav4878 glad to hear it. And thank you for the encouragement, it means a lot 🧡

@@MsDoryLinda it's so good to hear someone more knowledgeable confirm what I realized only this year about finding a path: more than a specific job that would be ideal, what I and many need is a job that permits us to live a specific kind of life. It took so long to figure out since the whole world tells us we have to do a job we're deeply passionated by, and so we go through life feeling guilty, inadequate and defective for not being able to find that perfect passion for a job. We do not all work the same. Now that I know, I have the basis of a career strategy that will permit me to continue living the freedom I've lived through my 20s in Asia, and the lifestyle I want to continue forever (for now haha). I'm a bit stuck on what to do exactly even as I had hoped I'd have found my next career by now, but I think I've already made great progress. I mean, I'm actually thinking about going into long studies. That's an insane thought for me already! So I'll cut myself some slack and let myself float around a bit with these new ideas in mind ♡

I appreciate that Misty 🙏 💯

That's really sweet of you. =) (INFJ cross watcher looking to understand INFP's more)

@@tedransome2388 aww thanks!! Also hello, fellow NF! INFJs and INFPs are really similar actually, even though our cognitive functions are completely different. But I know one INFJ irl and I'd say we're pretty similar. A few differences are that he tends to absorb others' emotions while I try to understand them and I do that best by trying to relate, or find a similar experience I had and try to understand how the person is feeling that way. Hes also a lot more organized than me, he makes plans for everything and I think he actually feels a bit anxious when he doesn't. I don't mind his plans but I usually prefer to just see what happens. Also he can literally predict the future. How cool is that!!!! Can all infjs do that?? Another major thing is that while we both worry about whether the other person feels like were annoying/a burden/if they hate us, my infj is a bit extreme in that, if i don't text him one day he'll think I am mad at him. And he constantly needs reassurance that i still want him to be my friend lmbo. And also I need to be extremely careful about what I say, if I say smt he doesnt like he will go cold and unresponsive... with me, if you say something I don't like and that goes against my morals, I will still secretly judge you, but I will mask that and try to still be nice and joyful. Another thing is that he shows emotions a lot more easily than I do. I don't know if this is how all INFPs work but I'm just gonna say how I work: so basically when I'm alone I will cry easily and show my emotions, but when I'm with others I will definitely bottle things up. For example, even tho Im good at drama, I literally cannot cry. But if I try at home i can do it in less than two seconds. But in the rare case that I do cry w others, I usually tend to let it all out and cry for hours. For example, one time my Chemistry teacher told me that I had to stick in some sheets... I am not joking when I say I cried for 8 hours straight. And the thing is I think what triggered it wasn't even what she said, it was the way she said it. Lmao, I feel so dumb "ooh i cried cuz my teacher said I have to stick some sheets in my book" djjdbd. But yh so these are the most evident differences I could think of😊 Some videos i feel capture the infp type really well are: - about being an introvert with a colorful mind INFP TPC - AURORA- through the eyes of a child live (shes an infp singer songwriter. Literally all of her music is peak infp lol) -fictional INFP characters volume 2 -INFP-"The Healer" -famous INFPs volume 1 and 2 If I can think of anymore I'll edit this comment😊😊 I hope this helped!! (Also, sorry for any grammatical inconsistencies, I'm not English)

@@vii6429 Hello =D I also think we're similar. Though, I feel like I get more attached to my INFP friends than they do me. You're correct about them with emotions. INFJ's with Ni and Se pick up on what the other person is feeling but might not completely understand it. While INFP with Ne and Si pick up on what the other person might be feeling and can relate because they have experienced it themselves. The planning thing is very very true haha. A couple of weeks ago I went camping with two of my INFP friends and their "planning" was doing absolutely no planning haha. I think I had 3 or 4 anxiety attacks. I think in a way we do have a weird ability to predict the future. That same camping trip we found out we couldn't burn wood for a fire. So, we drove back to town for warm blankets. One of my friends saw a 80$ portably heater and wanted to buy it. I had a bad feeling about it and told him not to. He didn't listen and when we got back to the campsite the heater didn't work! Even the instructions said that sometimes they just don't work. I have no idea how I knew. I also am great at picking out people that we shouldn't keep around. I have a very extroverted friend that loves to meet new people. Over the 6 years we have been friends, every time I've told her that I don't think we should have someone hangout with us that person in some way ends up doing something bad. Some have stolen from us, others have started drama and rumors. Haha you may be right about INFJ's worrying about it more. Even I just said that I think I like my INFP friends more than they like me haha. I also really don't like when someone doesn't respond to my texts but I can wait about a week before my feelings are hurt. That's interesting about how he reacts to hearing something he doesn't like. I react kind of like you, but it's because I'm either trying to figure out why they other person said it or trying to figure out how I actually feel about it. That's also really interesting, it's kind of the opposite for me and my INFP friends. They are always really open with me about their feelings. Where as I don't try to bottle my feelings but I spend so much time focusing on them that my feelings just don't come up. My thoughts usually are like this: "They are already going through so much, they don't need to hear about my problems. I'll talk to them about it when things get better" I don't think INFP's are more likely to cry with no one around though. I'll check them out, thanks! =D Also, your English seems perfect to me!

Good for you for going after what you want!!

I am an engineer , I dropped out in 2nd year to persue sociology but I went back and graduated with engineering degree but I love sociology and economics

I'm glad it found you at the best time 😊

Oh. My. God. I literally feel the same way

How are you now?

Yes you're 🙌🏾❤

Having the ability to do things excellently with seemingly little efforts can definitely run some people the wrong way. So long as you celebrate yourself then that's all that matters 🙂

but be careful with jealous people, they can start a smear campaign against you, mobbing at the workplace etc to push you to resign and unfortunately, when it gets to that point, resigning is the best choice for your mental health and finding a workplace where you don’t get attacked because of your potential

@@FruityHachi Exactly, and THIS is why my original comment was career advice that I would've given my younger self. (Per the Title of the video) In the past I've encountered backlash, opposition and smear campaigns but in my younger days & due to my naivete...I didn't know WHY at the time. All I knew was that I was doing a good job. I didn't realize that my work was outperforming my coworkers...and sometimes my own supervisor. So the goal of my original comment was to provide insight to younger INFP's who may find themselves in similar situations and not understand WHY this was happening to them. But if you feel that you have additional career advice as to HOW to address these types of situations on the job for younger INFP's, then feel free to share that advice.

I'm so glad you feel validated and seen. You are certainly not alone.

I'm glad the perspective I've shared shined a new light that might hopefully help you look at your situation a little differently going forward ☺

Me too

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Spot on. This is one of the things I actually talk about in the free resource that I offer. Great insight.

That's a great observation. Trusting yourself and your gut is really important, I'm glad you've come to that place. When you say you feel competent until you don't, what's making you feel incompetent?

@@MsDoryLinda The fact that they're always new and different fields, so I compare myself with people who've been in the game for way longer and also studied for it.

@@TheLoungingShaman what are you aiming for, new and different fields or deeper mastery in a specific field?

@@MsDoryLinda Work that has a positive impact on the world. So I decided to apply for work at an NGO that does reforestation because the rate of deforestation where I live, Kenya, has never sat right with me.

Oh hi neighbor 👋 I'm originally from Tanzania 🇹🇿 🙂 So are you developing new skills here or mastering what you already know just applying them in a different area of work?

I'd start with reframing the experience you're having. You've had an opportunity to explore and eliminate what's not working. The next step will be to dig a little deeper and see what about those opportunities did not work for you. That will provide you a framework of what to avoid going forward. So start there. I've heard someone say it's not going around in circles but it's going upwards in spirals. Each next step in building off the ones before it.

Thanks for summarizing.

There's time for everything. I'm glad clarity has come forth for you now 🙌🏾 Looking forward to see how it unfolds for you Sylvia 😀

That's so good that you've found a rhythm that keeps you motivated and engaged in your work 😊

Yes, I'm so glad you sought help and are doing better because of it. I commend you for that.

I’m currently studying to get into the IT field. While I’m 2 semesters away from graduating, I’m starting to feel exactly what you feel with self-criticism, feelings of unworthiness and laziness. Now I’m rethinking whether I’m even in the right field.

@@EulaChua Are you me?

Yes, most of the time the misalignment is with the work environment and not the type of job. I'm glad you found something you're passionate about and you can now work towards doing working the craft in a way that aligns with you best.

Hii! which engineering did you graduated from?

😅😅 I'm convinced the odd one or two dislikes are from the same person...and sometimes they invite a friend to do the same. I get the one dislike in any video I mention freedom from employed work. That must be the trigger for them 😄

Yes exactly, we are just different, that's all. So it's good to have this community here that understands and can support one another 🤗

So amazing how relatable experiences are!!

I relate to you on a whole new level...

Our way of being is certainly different. I celebrate you for keeping on searching and inquiring.

I'm sorry it feels rough. One thing you can take from this is knowing where the tipping point is with work so you don't cause yourself health issues. Day dreaming in and of itself doesn't seem to be what's holding you back. I'd encourage you to look into what's holding you back from just showing up? What don't you want on the other side of success?

@@MsDoryLinda do you mean to say a form of fear of success?

@@Rohan-jx5dz I don't know, I was asking so you can see what comes up for you when you answer that question.

I feel you, dear INFP.

Oh my god. I am an architecture freshman as well. I am literally going through what you are going and I feel so empty and numb and overwhelmed. I daydream so much as well. I just gonna cry cuz I can't believe I found people like you who are in the same situation as I am.😊😭😊😭

Oh god! Why we Infp-t are always super level procrastinators ...

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Yes! Recovery is so important.

I'm so glad you have found that!! That's a good place to be.

Good that you've found a path that resonates with you.

I’m 18 and a high school senior and I also plan on majoring in anthropology in college! I’m hoping to gets a masters and work for an ENJO doing field work and ethnography and eventually work my way up to a phd and teach at uni. Best of luck to you!

You're never alone. I'm glad you're here 💛

Oh I'm so glad you feel seen 🤗 Knowing what move to make when and making plans towards that is really key to having that fulfillment that your career is heading in a direction you want it to. I'm glad my content is providing you that confirmation 😊 KZfaq can be really funny like that. You might want to unsubscribe, then subscribe back, then turn on all notifications. I've found that works for me when I don't get notifications.

Awesome, that's the spirit 👏 Welcome, I'm glad you are here too.

I'm glad you've received the confirmation that jas resonated with you internally. Perhaps now you can capitalize on your gifts with more ease and openness.

Glad you are able to have the space to reflect and choose a path that works best for you.

Congratulations on choosing and committing to a career path that you sound excited about ☺ My favorite person in marketing right now is Tad Hargrave from Marketing for Hippies. Have you come across his work yet? You might want to check him out. I think his work aligns well with our approach to life as INFP-Ts. In regards to aligning better at your current work position; what aspect of being yourself are you overthinking or anxious about?

Hello! Iam an INFP-T type, now also in marketing/graphic design. Not sure, if I'm going to pursue it in the future. Do you think it's a good direction? What do you like about it? What do you dislike in this field? Iam also very anxious around strangers, it's hard to me make friends.

@@DaenerysTheQueen is the pay good? Can you follow your creativity?

Sounds like marketin is really interesting do u need to specialise in the degree to pursue it , was considering law cuz i like writing or maybe animation cuz its a skill marketting seems the best of both

@@aena5995 I believe, you don't HAVE to have a degree in marketing, I studied languages and politics. but it's an advantage, for sure.

Yes, my mission is to see more of us use that uniqueness as strength 💪🏾

Sounds like you've had an adventurous ride, with hills and valleys 😉 I'm happy to explore options with you. Provide me some info on this form and we'll take it from there forms.gle/rJyRSdP5UeXgzCeY9

Working for myself on my own business has been the most satisfying for me too 💞

Welcome 🤗 so many of us here

Can you find small ways of incorporating these aspects in small ways in your life rights now?

Yes! Mine would follow me even when I go to the bathroom and wait outside the door 🤣 It definitely takes a while to kick in that mommy needs a breather.

You definitely have not overshared, this is a safe place and we'll hold a safe place for you to unburden and find some relief. When you say you lost your mom, has she passed away or just no longer involved in your life?

HUGS! 💛

@@MsDoryLinda she passed away when I was 16, and because of that I have to take responsibility of the family. As I am the eldest child here in our home, because my two elder sister are far from us for their studies too. Thank you for replying😍

@@ricspez thank youuu❤

I'm so sorry for your loss 😔

I'm glad you enjoyed it.

It's hard being in the minority when the majority believe their way is THE best way to be and exist in this world.

I'm so glad you're finally able to connect the dots Stephanie 😊. Clarity is such a valuable asset for us, isn't it?

I completely school last year and I'm thinking of studying HR.i don't really know if it's the right choice, would you give me some insight on HR. Like why you aren't feeling fulfilled in this industry?

We really shouldn't. I used to feel the same until I started tracking my day and logging in all that I did to then realize I put in a lot of hours. I provided myself proof I wasn't lazy 😆

Sounds like a creative mind!!

Yes acknowledging achievements and progress is so important or otherwise we lose focus of how much progress we are making.

Sounds like you've found a great balance and rhythm in your career. So happy for you. This is great 👍 👏