_"I hate school"_ *-Every INFP*

STOP SAYING GARFIELD I KEEP THINKING HE'S A CAT

As an INFJ, I enjoy being empathetic and warm to people, I just wish that others would do the same for me. Gets tiring not having my efforts be reciprocated and I feel like people take me and my kindness for granted...

Fi and Fe while watching a sad video Fi: gets emotional and focus on their feelings Fe: gets emotional and then scrolls down the comment section where their emotions are further intensified with the words of other people who have expressed their feelings as well.

haha at Garfield's self-concious head-whip of shock at how long he talked lol I relate as an INFP lol

INFPs are funny. I often find them as adorable soft in comparisons to other types. I can listen for hours because I feel good near them. /INFJ

I'm an INFJ, and it all hit home, especially the last clip where he's asking if he said too much and she immediately started reflecting back what he said and reassuring him that it was okay. It's like stepping outside of my body and seeing how I interact with others. It's pretty much identical. Freaky.

Wow as an INFJ I didn't even realize that the "soothing" and "face-saving" thing was an INFJ trait. I tend to "interpret" people's thoughts A LOT. hahah As someone who hates being misunderstood, I also would hate for others to be misunderstood. Therefore, making sure everything is said and communicated precisely as intended is very important to me.

I'm an INFP and I saw a LOT of myself in Garfield. If you give me a topic that I'm passionate about I will go off the rails on a tangent with all my thoughts and emotions right out in the open. Then I'll pause and be like "uh... so yeah thanks for listening to me ramble for five minutes, how was your day?" XD By the way I totally agree with Garfield, the arts need just as much respect as math or science. Art is just as important to our world as any other subject and it's a crime that it's so underplayed in the curriculum. A lot of creative kids just get squashed by the system and their talents are sucked dry from the daily grind of mathematical tedium. At least, that's how it was for me, I detest math. Typical INFP ;P

I'm INFJ. I love seeing someone talk passionately about something. It's like I can feel their passion. I might not like what they like but seeing that enthusiasm just makes me happy

I don't really think they're trying to portrait INFP as being cold hearted, I think the thing is that they (we) don't let the environment shape us that much and that's why sincerity plays such a big role... he's not checking for approaval or tips, he's just stating a sincere personal opinion!

Oh wow. Being an infj, and watching her reactions and the way she conducts herself...it was like looking in a mirror.

What I find ironic is that in the end it is the INFP who gets everyone’s attention because of his mix of goofiness and strong passion... And it’s attention the thing introverts seek the least! The kind of thing that happens to me very often as an INFP, I try to go low profile, but that natural and involuntary eccentricity takes the whole place.

5:36 Every INFP after giving the longest speech about something they're passionate about

This is just too good! Especially the last part because: 1. Andrew becomes conflicted with his ideals, which ultimately forces him to voice how he feels about the topic. 2. He then breaks a golden rule by incl. a personal anecdote in the midst of explaining himself. But because he was so passionate about the topic, he doesn't realise that he just revealed something about himself that he normally wouldn't have. 3. As an INFP not only doesn't he like to talk for too long, but he likes to protect his privacy & all types of stories that someone can use to get to truly know him (an INFP's insecurity is most intense, but it is also what makes them so interesting). 4. Carrie at the end reaffirms Andrew like a true master. Not only does she tell him that what he said was interesting & that he didn't speak for too long (which was true). But she tries to eradicate Andrew's paranoia & sense of personal guilt because he shared an anecdote by saying: "You didn't dislike YOUR school, but that you disliked schooling" (this was the sugar-coated white lie) :)

INFJ here, and I totally agree with tihis vid: I always tend to disregard my own feelings in a social situation for the sake of surface harmony. For example, if I feel that someone's opinion is wrong, I would never say: "You are wrong." - that's too harsh for me. Instead something like this: "Yes, that's a good idea, but have you ever thought about this:..." - and then I tell my opinion. For me, "sincerity" and the expression of emotions are different things. For example if you dislike a person, but you still try to do good to that person, you really and sincerely love that person regardless of your feelings. In this case, "love" is a question of will, not of feelings. You love that person, because you want to, and not because you feel so.

Yeah but the girl already had her shoes on the couch so the guy thought it was appropriate

I'm a little shocked reading comments from INFPs saying they felt this video portrays us in a bad light. I thought this video put into words what I couldn't about how my morals and inner feelings behave. It never says anything bad about Andrew; it shows that his feelings and morals are not focused on the external world. It shows that INFPs experience inner emotions very deeply, and that they are passionate about them, even though they are not as expressive as Fe-users. Also that INFPs can lack the natural sense of what is socially acceptable that Fe-users often have. This is true. It's not that Andrew or other INFPs are rude, he's never at all shown as or said to be rude or inferior in the video. It's not that we can't learn social expectations. We are just not as in-tune with them as Fe-doms and auxs. I find it so hard to be offended by this video when it is a perfect example of when and how INFPs focus their feelings and morals.

No matter what results you get in the Myers-Briggs type indicator test, I think the most important thing to remember (at least for me) is that personalities are not stagnant unless we let them be. We can work on improving those aspects of ourselves that are less developed, and with time, lead more fulfulling lives - both for ourselves, as well as for (or, rather, with) other people. We can all use some insight into ourselves; how we relate to ourselves and the world around us - as well as how we handle various situations. If we could view the Myers-Briggs test as an indicator of how we can improve, instead of becoming complacent with the way we "just are" (meaning: "I don't have to change, cause I am this or that personality type")..now THAT would make this type indicator test into something useful, rather than just an excuse not to change, or as a comfort that you are not alone in this world (although, feeling that you are not alone in this world is very important). That doesn't mean we shouldn't accept who we are - in fact, it means embracing and accepting all of who you are, and letting yourself explore the possibilities and abilities/qualities you carry; some of which you may not have been aware of.

I'm an infp and I tend to do things exactly as Andrew did...

I mean, I'm an INFP and saw a bit of myself in Andrew here, but I'm not putting my shoes all over people's nice white sofas XD

As an INFP i can definitely relate to the whole thing where you’re very passionate about something and you keep ranting and don’t notice how the person you’re ranting to is reacting-if you know what I mean. I don’t really know how to explain it. But that moment Andrew was having just felt very relatable.

I'm an INFJ and I don't neccesarily think that INFJS are more insincere than INFPS, I think that we are both equal but we just show sincerity in a different way. I think that in the same fashion Fi could be seen as insincere when being no so concerned about appropriateness. For me as an INFJ, I think I am sincere, it's just that I'm quite private and selective, so I will not necessarily reveal my deepest introspective thoughts or feelings immediately or to "just anyone." to use as they will/please. 100% relate to appropriateness though, almost painfully.

Fuck. I'm exactly like Garfield holy shit. I can totally relate to this guy in what he said and how he feels and I think he's a killer role model.

I wish there were more videos like this about cognitive functions!! It is so helpful to see the actual real life examples and at the same time have them broken down and evaluated through words. Thanks so much!

When I first saw this video I really related to both sides of the argument and was confused. I've since realised that my social anxiety makes me extra aware of other people and what's going on in the room. I've realised that I relate to nearly everything I see written about INFPs and now class myself as one.

I think in the first situation Andrew already noticed that sitting with your feet on the couch was accepted because Carey was doing it so comfortably. He was very aware of what was appropiate.

My sister worked many years as a therapist. I'm an INFP, my sister is an INFJ. In conversation, she re-frames what I say, and always seems to get it wrong... it's too frustrating, so I hold a lot back! Do INFP's ever meet anyone who truly understands them... I never have???

i'm exactly like the guy. It makes me feel really fucking sad that everyone is hating on him :( It makes me feel bad for the way I am.

I love how Andrew constantly moves his hands and fingers because as INFP I do it a lot when I'm nervous

This video really seems to suggest that Andrew Garfield (and INFPs implicitly) is entirely oblivious to other people's feelings except in the abstract, which I don't feel is fair. He notices the exact same social norms and cues that Carey Mulligan does but he simply notices that more slowly and acknowledges them differently. She begins the interview acknowledging the social norm of feet off the couch and asks for permission in order to align herself. So this does show a high degree of social awareness and consideration, but he makes the same observations (the video suggests he doesn't), he just doesn't begin that way, nor does he look at her while he readjusts himself but it is implicit that he had to have looked at her in order to be aware of the situation. He sees her, probably awkwardly avoids her gaze because of the face's distracting power (he's trying to compose his thoughts and he can't deal with faces and protocol while he's doing that) and he then makes the connection that if he adjusts his seated position he will align with her and thus feel better himself. He even uses the word align. So the only difference is the order in which they accomplished the same exact thing. If anything, we could even say that he was the more polite one because he conformed to her position rather than her conforming to his. She begins by acknowledging that she is breaking global social conformity by sitting that way but does it anyway with the permission of the director. Andrew doesn't have to get permission because it is implicit that if Carrey is allowed to sit that way, so is he. So I completely refute the idea that the INFP is by nature selfish and oblivious to other people's feelings, as well as the idea that an INFJ is somehow automatically morally superior. If anything, the social appropriateness of either type is going to be more strongly affected by degree of development and maturity of the individual.

I'm sliced right down the middle with these two. In any given situation, Fi or Fe may show up. They both have equal opportunity. Sometimes they even collide and I'll use both simultaneously. I seem to be some kind of infp/infj hybrid :\

infps unite yall

Infp, and that's why I thought Andrew made a good Spider-man.

I love videos like these where you show live examples and then go into details to show what exactly happened.

Andrew Garfield and I have same MBTI personality! And this vid actually shows him while being super informative and professional, so cool! Of course all the heated yet sensible debates here about INFP are noteworthy as well, I also agree that INFPs are not non-empathic assholes, (maybe self-centered in some way) but focused on "internal values", in other words, more sincere and/or stubborn to his/her own beliefs and ideas. They can feel sorry and realize what others are feeling as well.

@ 1:59: This is because introverted functions are personal functions. An Fi type doesn't need to acknowledge anyone or anything to materialize his personal/individual/private feelings about something. This also ties into the poor stereotype about any feeling type like ENFJ or INFP, that unlike thinking types, feeling types must be people-oriented, using their gifts to help society and be personable sociable contributors in their daily life. However that can't be further from the truth. Fe and Fi are both about feeling, not about people. People are only an available source for cognitive manifestation, in thinking functions as well, not the primary sole source of feeling. In the case of Fe, one will demonstrate, acknowledge and be quite perceptive of feelings, however this doesn't mean one is in any way going to be personable, social or adhere to the values of a society. MBTI will lead you to believe the lie that they will, but Fe isn't a social value-system function, it is not a people-oriented function, it is an outer-world feeling function. Feeling. It deals with any feeling as it relates to the world outside oneself and appropriates itself to the world of feelings that it is used to.

I think very strongly I'm an INFP (or ENFP because that's what I got as a test result, and a lot of the things were very true to me but some things were not; I then went on to read the INFP description and I think it describes me even better.) So if I was in that situation, I would likely have acted a lot like Andrew did. But let me explain something the video didn't: I don't think Andrew was less concerned with appropriateness than Carey. In fact, I'd be so polite and appropriate (or insecure) that I probably would never even ask whether I can put my shoes on the couch, I would just keep them on the ground. And even if I did want to put them on the couch (if I was there alone or doing it first), I would most definitely ask if it's okay first. But when Andrew did it without asking if it's okay, I probably wouldn't have asked either, not because I'm not polite, but because I would have been TOO polite and worried that it might have hurt Carey's feelings seeing as she already had her feet on the couch! (And because it was obvious that it was okay to do it because she had already got the permission.) Also, the reason for also putting my shoes on the couch would probably be to be as cool and relaxed as Carey. I would admire her confidence for doing it despite it not being the "appropriate" thing to do in a "serious" interview. I would like to be able to be as confident as her and not appear too serious because in reality, I can be really fun-loving and make jokes/laugh about everything (Although of course we can be so deep and passionate like Andrew demonstrated with his rambling about the school system.) Finally, after putting my feet on the couch (while I was talking) I wouldn't have looked Carey in the eyes either because that would probably have distracted me too much and make me lose my complicated train of thought (for INFPs, it's important to convey the exact meaning/feeling they have in their head). But had I been silent while doing that, then I would've looked at her and smiled. :) By this I definitely don't mean that Carey or INFJs are less polite or appropriate, like I said I admire what she did, just wanted to explain these things because INFP behaviour can often be misunderstood.

I am an INFP and one of my sisters is an INFJ. We act exactly like Andrew and Carey in this video. I'm often on my "soap box" being passionate about something I feel is unfair and she has that beautiful way of really understanding me and everyone else.

Aww, as an INFP, i was resonating soo hard with what he was saying about school snd getting equally as fired up xD

(INFP here) Interesting video. Like other people who have commented here, I feel like this video portrays him in a bad light, first of all because his behaviour seems socially unacceptable, like you are suposed to try to please others even in trivial matters like your sitting positions( and his initial one was very appropriate too). Then, because he opens emotionally and that's ''unacceptable'' Also, the things he said, I agree with them. The world would suck without people willing to open themselves like that without caring much if they're not comforming ; ( I kind of understand that this video is not meant to compare between these types to see who's the ''better'' one, but as an INFP who is pretty self conscious about her P preference and general chaotic/rebellious behaviour, I felt a little bad. And from what I noticed, INFJs dislike us most of the time.

I came here assuming i mightve been an INFP afterall instead of INFJ, but honestly this helped me understand that what INFP's choose to focus on is similar to INFJ's only more intense and in flow with themselves. For me being an INFJ, i really understood where he was coming from but id rather he just stop talking about it because there are reasons for things being the way they are. For the most part, I dont want to criticize reality just because it doesnt fit with what I believe it should be and i hate to focus on things with so much passion, as it makes me easily forget the other person's opinions or feelings and might make them uncomfortable in an overwhelmed or depressed manner. XD This was awesome though. I really appreciate it!

I think the first demonstration is invalid though. Someone else was already sitting like that so it'd make sense for him to feel like maybe he could too. Not like he'd stop the interview just to ask if he can sit a certain way.

I think I'm a lot like Carrie in this video, but in my head I'm a bit like Andrew. Meaning that I often have moments of intense personal feeling but I'm too cagey to actually let it all spill out. So I suppose I am more of an INFJ.

im infp and i was able to see a lot of myself within andrew during this interview especially while he was talking about school as i went though my whole life with undiagnosed autism and intense adhd (im 22 and was just finally diagnosed this year)

Wow. This is amazing. I'm an INFP and I can totally relate to Garfield. We are passionate, to the point of obsession, about things we find interesting and worthwhile. Yet for those things we do not find worthy (typically, practical things) we are incapable to empathize. It's like those things happen in a different wavelength and we can't even register them. I think we are much less aware and caring about our surroundings than INFJs, which is a very good thing. We are certainly more resilient and stronger emotionally, in my opinion.

PLEASE, PLEASE, MORE OF THIS! This is in the top 5 most helpful videos I have ever watched in understanding the contrast between these two functions. All the other videos on the internet are vague and just say one type has more of this, while the other type has less of that. Those kind of descriptions are totally unhelpful because we've all only lived in our own brains, so how are we supposed to know when we are more or less or how we are different in our thinking than someone else? This video was incredible. I have watched it at least 20 times in the last few weeks and think of it often. Please, please make more of these videos where we can see the functions in play by real human interaction.

This was one of the most useful videos I’ve ever seen on mbti. Thanks for making it!

That was very interesting! I like how the information was presented. Thank you! I'm an INTJ and particularly love INFPs and INFJs so this was especially interesting for me.

As an INFJ this was incredibly illuminating for a few reasons: 1. It's amazing to see the extroverted feeling manifest as soothing, reassuring, and face saving to name a few... it really distresses me not to do these things and thus you can imagine my weariness when it comes to family meetings 2. Realizing why I have a hard time understanding introverted feeling people... their emotions are all inside their head and it's hard to read them sometimes... also for some of them the lack of "appropriateness" really puts me off sometimes 3. I really admire the introverted feeling people for having strong beliefs and aligning with them resolutely because me, an INFJ, noticed my values to waver depending on who is around me and it kind of started to cause cognitive friction because I started to think of myself as essentially a pushover with my values but I'm realizing it's just my gift of reassuring others and Prioritizing others feelings above my own

On point! Well demonstrated and synthesized! As an INFJ myself, I really appreciate and resonate with how clearly and thoroughly, though still concisely, this was presented.

This was incredibly helpful for me. I loved having the focus on a very specific comparison of Fe versus Fi , along with detailed examples for each literally displayed by people. I hope that I will find many more videos like this one so I can continue to truly deepen my understanding.

there were hardly any INFJ points here

great to see some personality types in action and being able to distinguish those qualities

This video is much more helpful than reading about the types. Thank you.

I find this video extremely insightful with its direct and patiently explained comparisons using a real conversation. It would be cool if you guys did more like these for other types! It really helps understanding how to notice Cognitive Functions as they occur (which is difficult imo).

This was beautifully done. Explained very well and easy to understand. Subscribed for more.

Wow, never thought of Andrew Garfield as an INFP I think what gives it away is his headbanging nod lmao

this really enlightened me about the differences between infps and infjs, i was struggling to understand and couldn't decide which one i was, now i know. thanks a lot

This is the BEST description of the difference between INFJ and INFP I have ever seen! Thank you!

idk, I took the INFP or INFJ test, and ended up with "INFJ" as a result (even though I got INFP in the 16p test), and honestly, even though I can sometimes relate to INFJ, but most of the times, I feel more like INFP . whenever I read descriptions about INFP, I can fully and easily recognize my own self

Supposedly I'm INFJ but I relate so much to INFPs as as well, almost equally. The way Andrew reacted to the conformity at school question is how I react to so many things, as well as feeling things my own way regardless of how others would feel about them, then I realize I went off and I freak out. And in the same way, I react like Carey did when people turn to me for support, and people quite often turn to me for support. I've always been unsure which category I fit into. Not sure if it's possible to be both? I wonder. Oh, forgot to add: great video, thanks for highlighting the differences, I'm still new to this. No white lie.

This is really insightful and you've analysed it all so thoroughly :)

out of all the videos and websites i've watched to try and figure out which type fit me best, this was the so so helpful. all the others told me about the cognitive functions but you actually explained them with examples, so thank you!

brilliant,i wish you can make more videos like this,coz its easier for me to understand mbti ,im an infj but im egyptian,there's alot of difficult words in the academic learning which i cant easily understand,also you sure must know,i think in pictures ,so a video for me is a brilliant idea,now all the things you've just explained in this video,will be stuck in my brain forever,just because i have explaining pictures along with it

2:00 false. The fi bonds internally with others, as such, he doesn't need to check up on her feelings to "see if" he "has" bonded with her, the bonding is internal, inside of him- he knows whether he is bonded by looking inside himself, not AT her. 1:35 False. The impropriaty would consist of interrupting their conversation by asking the cameraman if it was okay to put his shoes on the sofa- the interruption would be rude bc it would break the conversation they were both having. 2:11 false again. You can't judge wether the fi has bonded by looking at his extraverted facial expression- recall that his feeling is NOT external on his face, it's internal. The man might be in love and he wouldn't show it bc that's internal feeling.

Labeling the techniques of what the interviewees do with each function during the breakdown parts of the video: championing, soothing, face-saving, etc. is SO helpful to remember them and think of them as individual moves you can practice instead of approaching it like, "oh I'm gonna work on my Fe today." A very intriguing approach! Thanks!

in that last clip she not only reassured him that it was okay, but also told him everything that she understood so he could know that she was paying attention and he was being heard. omg i’m an INFJ and i do that ALL the time. it’s so weird to watch other people with your similar traits being analyzed and watching them interact.

I like how all signs are pointing to me being an INFJ, and yes that is what I consider myself to be, but I constantly look for others opinions. It’s as if I don’t trust myself; thus, showing I favor Fe. I know it’s not that easy but Fe is definitely something I have a preference towards.

I aligned more with Carey. I have to be truly passionate about something, that inappropriateness or others' feelings are a direct after thought.

That was really good. I hope more of these turn out down the line, maybe enough to lead to compilations of this division within the dichotomy.

amazing analysis! please make more of these

I don't like this. It makes it look like the INFP is a bad thing. The way the things are said about Andrew make it sound like he's in the wrong, like it's not right. I'm an INFP, and I just hate the way this portraying INFP's. Sorry.

I disagree with the idea that INFJ's tell "little white lies". We tend to be very objective, even to the point of overriding our personal, immediate opinion, and I think that is what she was doing here.

I love when you re doing videos like this and how you make them bc we really see, through an exemple, some characteristcs of types, and plus, they re being put in opposision which is interesting

This is really interesting. I like seeing the different aspects in practice. I would love to see more of these!

I'm seeing the Peter Parker in Andrew

I feel like I MADLY flip flop between Infp and Infj and this just cements that for me, it's weird. Seriously I've done the test four times and have had the two twice each (I had to do it twice for two different uni courses, and then I just did it again because I like doing personality tests) but yeah, I am REALLY like Andrew sometimes, but others I'm so much more like Carrie and it's confusing!

Could you do more of these videos?? It’s so interesting to see behaviours explained!!

I love the way Andrew Garfield expresses himself through out this entire video. His mind is wonderful and how he keeps ramblimg on, others may find it annoying, I could listen to that for hours, honestly. He's so adorable here. 5:36 I love speaking that way with people. I've come to realize how I'm so attracted to INFP's. I've come to realize this last year due to talking to a few of them on Personality Cafe which is a Forum. That place has truly helped me find out who I am as a person. But yet now I'm frequently visiting the INFP section because I love the way they think. I'm in completely awe of them. They are truly wonderful people. /INFJ

By the way guys, you can't be both an INFJ and INFP, research cognitive functions before you research behaviors

andrew is always so relatable

This is really good. Can't wait for more of these..

whoa!! omg, this is amazing. Great work.

I love Garfield's perspective on school. I wish others would acknowledge it too.

Yeah INFJ boyfriend does that thing Mulligan did at the end a lot where they clarify your passion-fueled rant about the state of the world into something that makes more sense. :)

Oh my gosh, I felt totally connected to her! Expecting her to react like an INFJ led me to know exactly what she was about to say. Love the video!

That was amazing, very great explanation of these cognitive functions Fe, vs Fi. You are awesome!

garfield was able to sit in that position without asking because he noticed that his spouse was doing the same without complaint. not a very good example. perhaps if she weren't sitting like that he wouldn't have tuned in?

Yeah I also have a beef with the way creative pursuits are completely shit on in most school systems, and outside of creative classes like art and writing school was just a series of chores and drudgery, like breaking rocks in a prison.

cool play by play and analysis, I liked it

Love the real life examples of how types interact in reality. It really helps concretize how the cognitive functions manifest in actual people. I read so many purely theoretical explanations of the functions, which can be helpful, but make it difficult to understand their real world implications

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This is markedly biased against INFPs... and the analysis is immensely flawed. For example, it contrasts Garfield's behaviour with Mulligan in the beginning - noting that he does seek the same "appropriateness" as she - but the analysis completely misses a major point - she has already established the parameters... it would be more than redundant for him to do the exact same thing. For it to be an equal and objective observation, Garfield would have to be assessed from the beginning of the interview. That's just one obvious discrepancy - and it reveals the agenda of this video's author. Additionally, Mulligan's behaviour could be interpreted in another way - ie insecurity (seeking reassurance) rather than "appropriateness". In conclusion: Absolute BS!

I really enjoyed the analysis, and in general enjoy observing my fellow men as a way to understand myself and how to treat others in a kind way.

wow this was a brilliant analysis: exactly these practical showcases do we need for a better understanding, additionally to the theory of the mbti

Interesting because I'm also an INFP in school right now and I just feel lost and math isn't my thing and I'm unhappy with the fact that I have to through with this to conform to so many different standards.

I am INFP/ ENFP and I have ADHD/ ADD.I think itś much after what you look for...I tend to naturally observe behaviour of ADD since I have it myself...let me explain what I saw when I watched this video: One could also see many of his INFP symptoms as: Unattentiveness or beeing Shy/ having Social Anxiety (many people with ADHD have tis, or even avoidance because of our condition) at (1:59), Fiddeling (2:58) and Hyperfocusing (5:11, realisation of it at 5:37), Spacing Out/ Forgetting/ getting Distracted during a conversation and therefore "buying more time" by compensating (5:16) Emotional impulsivity/ Sensitivity (4:08, 5:37) A lot of kids with ADHD have strong Creativity and doesn´t thrive at school and are feel the system doesn´t fit their needs and some speak up against it (4:28) Looking people in the eyes can cause an ADHDér to get Distracted (5:47)

Thanks for making this kind of video that guide through lots. I love it

Great illustrations!