ENFJ here. The supposed chameleon-like ability of ENFJs to adapt themselves to different people and situations is the most misunderstood part of who we are. Some people perceive that as manipulative or "fake." And I hear you describing it here in much the same way, though I'm sure that wasn't your intention. Nonetheless, some of the language used here sounds more like an apt description of a sociopath. Which is ironic, considering that ENFJs are pretty much as close as you're going to get to the OPPOSITE of a sociopath. If I adapt myself to a person or situation, understand two things: 1) I'm not doing it consciously. At least not entirely. The conscious part is that I am always keenly aware of how I'm coming across to people. But the adaptational behavior you see comes naturally. I don't plan it, or craft it. I never walk up to a person and think to myself, "This person seems easily agitated. Therefore I will behave in a calm and non-confrontational way." It just happens. It isn't fake, and it isn't an act. It's just a matter of what part of my personality asserts itself under given conditions. 2) I'm not doing it to get anything out of people. It's important to point that out, because when people spot this aspect of our personalities, the ability to adapt, they perceive it as some kind of manipulation tactic. That's why I don't like your choice of the phrase "goal oriented." If I change the way I behave around a particular person, my only goal is to make them feel comfortable. I want them to feel liked. It's for them, not for me. As an ENFJ, the one thing I can't tolerate is seeing someone who is clearly unhappy or uncomfortable in a situation over which I have control. If I can make them feel better in their own skin, I will go out of my way to do that. No ulterior motives.

Only problem with being an ENFJ is that because we are people focused it can be extremely draining. And we forget to take care of ourselves.

I am an ENFJ. I totally agree with the people centric/chameleon type of abilities. I would say that while I could be a con-artist my goal is to truly connect with others. I can read a person fairly quickly and adjust myself to make others feel at ease and making them feel like I "get them". The struggle is feeling that others don't get me.

Im a ENFJ and my Friends see me as nearly TOO extrovert.

As an ENFJ, and I’m so extroverted it, admittedly, can be annoying to my introverted friends, (who make up the majority of my friends) and even my extroverted ones. I think this comes from the fact that I often feel lonely, even when I’m around other people. I can also become really bored and become intensely angry or sad when I’m alone. Despite that, it’s usually my ESFP or INTP friend who are actively engaging in social interaction with new people. I find I’m extremely quiet when meeting new people, and I’m not usually the one to initiate (surprisingly). If we aren’t close, you probably won’t believe me when I tell you I’m an extrovert. I’m very observant when meeting new people, just to get the sense of who you are as a person, and if your vibe is off, I probably won’t be very interested in becoming your friend. I’m very picky. It’s honestly so hard to describe lol, literally nobody understands what I’m trying to say when I try to explain it to them. I’m like a... quiet extroverted extrovert. Hopefully this makes sense and that fellow ENFJs can relate! ;)

I think about my future a lot and plan everything. It scare me when people don’t. I know what I want, exactly what I want, always.

Here’s the thing: I am an ENFJ and I loathe hypocrisy and deceit. Anything even bordering on not being genuine makes me feel uncomfortable. I strive to be 100% genuine but that doesn’t mean I can’t adjust my delivery so as to be tactful. It’s just... it’s like a dimmer light. The lamp is still itself, it’s just adjustable to differing needs.

As an ENFJ, I realize how being people-oriented can turn bad. I see the potential in people and help them to achieve their goals or, sometimes, the goals I want them to achieve, even if they don't want to. Another dark side of me as an ENFJ would be that I can also identify the weaknesses of people and sometimes use them in my favor. I am a teacher and I try hard to be "morally good" and help genuinely any time I can :)

I have an ENFJ younger brother and an ENFJ roommate who I dated for 6 years. I can't get get away from the buggers. You were right from what I can tell. They're basically extroverted INFJs. I would suggest different advice. As an INTP who cares very little what other people think, I've noticed that nearly all of an ENFJ's problems come from how other people feel or what people think about them. I would suggest that ENFJs try to find out who THEY are and then try to find people who let them be that person.

Firstly, thank you for titling my type as "the influencer" - "the giver" makes it sound like I exist solely to love others and help them achieve their dreams.

the last part when you said: "Doing nothing might be the best thing to do" really gives me chill. That is like the last thing I have in mind as ENFJ lol

ENFJ here - damn this was accutate (the hot chocolate analogy hit home)

My boyfriend is an ENFJ and I feel like you've just described him. He's really loving and kind to me, extremely good at helping me and others to achieve their goals. The Si part was actually funny 'cause I could remember him complaining hahaha . PS: I'm an INFP.

I am very much an ENFJ and I thought this was pretty spot-on. I never rest and frequently get sick or go through emotional struggles that I could probably avoid if I ever spent any time relaxing by myself. (During whatever sickness or struggle, I continue working and taking care of myself and those around me.) Probably every single close person I’ve ever had in my life has told me to CHILL OUT and take better care of myself. I am extremely goal-oriented and always planning ahead. I always execute-if I decide that I want something to happen, I immediately create a plan and start working towards it. I am brutally honest with people and am a firm believer in tough love... I feel like I would be doing a loved one a disservice by not pushing them towards personal growth and guiding them towards realizing and achieving their goals. I am almost too good at getting what I want and honestly my interpersonal skills are unnerving even to me at times. I am always worrying about the possibility that I could be horribly manipulative or that I don’t know myself that well at all. I’m confident and am always told that I could talk to anyone. I always pick up on the energy of those around me, and this makes it easy for me to get to know and gain the liking and respect of people I meet.

Dear ENFJs, PLEASE NOTICE ME, I AM TRYING TO LOVE YOU. By a fellow INFP Ps : Please stop unintentionally breaking my heart, because it breaks my heart more to know that you are not doing it on purpose, but it is still being done and therefore is more painful.

Know two very well. One is a politician, the other a teacher. Both can read the mood of a crowd. That's the source of their influence powers. I think one of the reasons they both have known me for decades is that I am more book smart than either one. They enjoy asking me complicated questions which they use my analysis. They believe me personally and that's all they need.

Once I love you, it’s stronger than anything

I'm an ENFJ and a doctor. Extremely goal orientated, once I have a vision I do anything in my power to achieve it, even if it means neglecting myself. Everyone comes to me for advice but get lost in people's problems thinking that I am having the same issue. Really good at reading people. I know what people want and can imitate that - as a result was really good in school was Head Girl. Don't really have a specific identity though, as always around people and hate being alone. I have a massive problem when my ideals don't fit reality, this shatters me. I have an idea of how reality is, but is probably too ideal and when reality hits it can break me or I don't register it at all. As I have grown older I have realised the plans and goals for others and yourself, don't always work out... but I always keep trying anyway as trying is better than not trying at all! We are emotional characters that are very invested with people. I hope this was insightful!!! I hope other ENFJs feel the same!

I worked with an ENFJ she was a social type, loved by everyone, enjoyed to meet new people and get everyone involved in conversations. She seemed to be more interested in the people/customers at work then anything else, wanted to know all about you, your thoughts, your life, your views, she didn't seem to have a huge opinion for herself on her preferences, but would sit with you for hours intrigued at your take on the world. She couldn't handle being alone, would leave her post to do another which involved people, to spend time with, she was like a people magnet, drawn towards any person she could socialise, and would draw others who loved to talk to her. As an ESTJ I found her interesting, her interactions with the world/people was very different then myself.

(ENFJ-A male) I love being able to snap my fingers & change my personality. When I would party at my local university, I would be insanely nervous right before, but then I would take a deep breathe and become a totally different person. Confident, not afraid to talk to women or more witty than normal. Thing that sucks is I am constantly analyzing people while there and watching the room, I end up getting annoyed bec of all the fake personalities I see. Mine is genuine, it’s not an act. I just pull my energy into highlighting characteristics that benefit me in a given situation. I was bullied in school until I hit puberty, now I’m a “Chad” in the looks dep. So I maintained my geeky nature. I can fit in anywhere and make you believe I’m a different person if I want. My alter ego is a fun character I used to use. I never went to the Uni. I partied at but I had people swear they had seen me in their classes😂 But I keep my manipulative side under lock and key bec. that can become toxic very very fast. I tend to only use it during debates, arguments and when I’m really mad. I love my personality but I am just recently starting to understand everything about it. The good and the bad. Love the info you’re putting out there, keep it up!

Being ENFJ is hell. I'm single, which means I'm listless and always feeling anxious about that fact. I have conversations at the grocery store with random people... for no reason. If someone looks out-of-sorts I'll stop what I'm doing, no matter how important, and ask what's going on. I build teams and try to work with many different levels of my organization. Outside of work, I serve no purpose except to greet people on the hiking trails and ponder what to do if/when I ever meet anyone who can handle all of my emotions. Conversations with guys I'm interested in end up with the guy telling me "Here's my trauma and all my baggage!" I've even been dumped for "having my shit together and being intimidating" because of it. At work... I'm the "go to" guy that everyone wants on their team. I have to take time off to keep from burning out. I can handle an abnormal workload without complaint and organize the hell out of chaos when required. When I walk into a room people say "Oh Good! AJ is here! We don't have to worry. You are going to make this go away, right?" And I'm single AF.

I personally know 4 ENFJs, they can be rather talkative. One of my friends was helping us move but wasn't really doing any lifting just talking. He is also a comedian by trade. Another ENFJ I know is very into political social movements. A modern day hippie but very sharp. The third one I know is super sharp and very into physics. He is always talking hypothetical mathematical concepts. And finally the 4th one use to be a MMA fighter. His dad was an ESTP and he had a rough childhood so he got kindof barbaric. But he now doesn't cut his hair or beard and smokes alot of weed. Always had the most tender heart and warm smile. As a kid he was known as "dancing boy" because he loved to dance at parties. ENFJs, like ENTJs, engage in Se child most obviously on the dance-floor I believe. Very care free with no concern of impressing or performing. Nfjs in general love to dance. They are also very generous people, if you are in need, they will try to bail you out. They definitely know the meaning of the phrase, 'my brothers keeper'.

I am More driven than smart.I can do whatever I want, cause I’ll go after it ruthlessly.

My mum is an ENFJ, she’s very insightful into people, easily makes them feel comfortable & included in groups. She’s great at vision casting & carrying out plans in detail. She’s also super fun & spontaneous :) She feels lonely when not doing activities with others. Sometimes she’s overly sensitive emotionally. She’s so organized she sometimes gets stuck on small details & can’t focus on the larger picture. She can get frustrated & a bit passive aggressive when people don’t want to follow her vision. She can be a bit judgemental. But she cares so much about people she can usually reign those instincts in.

My ENFJ friend is very goal oriented, yet is able to take a step back and assess! It is quite interesting how she does that! She knows how to get time off as well! This description is fully fitted for her! For a casual approach, this is actually accurate!

Thank you I am ENFJ I have just spent 3 days recharging as I am finding January difficult. I feel guilt, but needed to wind down. I have a lot of people to reach out to and help this year. If alone I am anxious and over think, but team me up with others I automatically lead, and try to bring everyone's perspective into play.

My entire family and I mean like 90% of my very large family are ENFJ and this video is fairly accurate. They are very excepting and wonderful people. I will say that they are some of the smartest people I know. Being an ENTJ I am often the politician in the room but my family never treats me differently for my sometimes superficial disposition.

I meet ENFJs at social events around town. I am really close with an ENFJ. She's an attorney turned yoga instructor/business owner. She will have you supporting her cause in no time:) Her Si blindness can be a deterrent but she's such a great person. I know another one that owns a successful not for profit business. She loves the arts and travels a lot. Thank you for this video~entp.

I Can read people well, and move fast in relationships because I start with the potential then move back

Thank you. An INTJ sent me this video. I don't feel so strange with myself anymore. In general, I had the impression sometimes that I was deceiving myself with extraversion, but finally I understand. :) Btw, I think for the ENFJ, living with an INTJ (living together) is very beneficial. The ENFJ then allows themself more rest and a more introverted attitude.

the thing is as an ENFJ I can't hurt anybody willingly, due to my caring nature I don't make enemies and I don't hurt others, because I'm caring. sure I can think about it all I want but once I see their face it's over I can't hurt others without bursting into tears that's why breaking up for me is so hard.

I always test as an ENFJ. The adaptability and helpfulness are definitely true for me. The chameleon thing too, which can be scary. Grounded is true, and not focusing on logic. Knowing how to navigate different social situations and helping others improve themselves. I'm a big picture person and not into details, but I do really like tradition if it's meaningful to me. "Doing nothing is the best thing to do" has been the best thing I've done for myself during the pandemic. I used to be a constantly on-the-go person with lots of social outlets, but I find now I enjoy being home and reading more, or just getting together with one or two people. Sorry this is a stream of consciousness response--I have been writing it as I listen. Thanks for sharing these videos!

I'm ENFJ! I never thought that my fear of living a comfortable life, and need to always be busy could be attributed to my personality in this way :) interesting!

ENFJ here. did the test a few days ago and just going through and having my own mind blown. I have been an award-winning salesperson (chameleon reference & goal-oriented). I am a project manager and entrepreneur. Exert influence on point hahaha social smoothness loooollll bro my life

It's hard for me to sit back and do nothing on my time off from work, but that is exactly what I have been doing on a weeklong holiday! I have no choice because it has been 100 degrees F every day of my staycation so far. The recharge has been a blessing. I work twelve-hour shifts at night and when I am off, I do not know when to chill. I have to do this and that, improve upon that which I have already done etc. etc. wearing myself out and ignoring the fact that I am overweight and need strength training yesterday. I have been quite the boat rocker at work, using my eloquence and influence to rally others to demand answers about the stability of our business because if I don't, they will roll over and let something bad happen to their career they have worked so hard at for many years. I can't let the ship go down without a fight. You are absolutely right about us, and it is surprising to hear that you don't personally have an ENFJ in your circle. Wishing you all the best from the U.S., Feather.

As a ENFJ I can confirm that we change ourself story fit the room we are in. In the classroom I become a INTJ. At lunch I turn back into a ENFJ.

I’m an ENFJ and understanding people’s feelings makes me feel like I’m invading their privacy, soI just try to help to make it up

Actually as an ENFJ the company of my very dear INTP friends has been very helpful for me to develop my Ti. I remember hating the very debating nature of ENTPs since it always put me at a state of having to explain things with exessive logical detail, they ruined the harmony of the room, and it felt like a personal attack from their part which they were having fun executing. The company of my INTP friends has brought to life my detached rational side and now I very much love debating with ENTPs because I REALLY love the intellectual simulation they're capable of making, they're expert idea generators and it gives me the opportunity to polish my own ideas into improvement and I think I really owe it to my Ti development. If ENFJs in general work on their Ti-Ni loop they'll be able to get along with so many types better and become richer from within ^^

My personal mantra for many years now: Just because I *can,* doesn’t mean I should. Yes, you totally nailed us ENFJ’s!

My previous corporate trainer was an ENFJ. Very bubbly, charming, extremely knowledgeable, she built the program from the ground up, and is on the national board of directors for the industry association. To stereotype she reminds me of the girl next door and class president/valedictorian. Loved her!

I get depressed when I'm not around people. I thrive with people. However if they are too negative. I have a hard time battling with them to see a brighter side. I'm sensitive physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It can be difficult. I remember people their stories their lives in general. I'm built to tune into people regardless if I'm interested.

Eight years of friendship with an ENFJ so I think I pretty much can describe. I am an ENFP so when we first met I find we were very much alike. To me, ENFJ is just like ENFP but the organized-with-a-goal version. No…i mean “super-duper organized version!” We both like to inspire people and help them grow. However, I do that more through creative means but he was like “let set this cause and establish a company.” And everything he does, he wont do it without asking the team of opinions. Even when he wanted to establish a company for a good cause he asked for consensus! The the cycle repeats throughout the running of the organization: asking for consensus before making a decision. Whenever he has an idea he was quick to share it on social media. And he expressed it with so much conviction that is so contagious. He doesnt have to do anything but just click on Live and he can just speak and express his idealistic way. His business is very systematic with clear goals and clearly assigned roles in the team. Whereas I as an ENFP dont think I can match that capability. Another difference is the ENFJ’s audacity to plan way ahead-like are you available next weekend, which is really a difficult question to ENFPs who often struggle to commit and like to keep options open

Another thing: as extroverts ENFJs think things through verbally. So, as I talk to you my stance may seem to change, but it’s not that I’m being hypocritical, I’m just figuring out how I really feel about the sitch as I talk it out.

you did really good on this .. it's extremely honest and clear cut. it's simple, truthful and kind of hits everything -enfj

I love your videos! Hope you continue doing more!

Hey! Thanks for that - nice to have this quick and intense shot about oneself!

I am an ENFJ and this is spot on.

ENFJ here. My best friend is also an ENFJ. Chameleons is not what you'd call us. I think having a strong personality and principles is why people trust you. Being objective as much as possible, being capable of understanding where your faults lay is how you can see why people would reject your help/advice. Being able to understand differences and standing a ground is how we find the admirable traits in those around you. Charming and seducing is not a the endgoal. People pleasing is not the endgame. If anything, being able to morph yourself would be selfindulging and honestly feels like waste of resource. It is doing things (tasks, social situations etc) better and a deep rooted understanding it takes involving everyone to do so. I think what people sometimes don't realise is ENFJs dont try to change people, they see people capable to make change happen and they see qualities superior to their own that can solve issues for others. Recruiting people or giving them a push feels like a need, because sometimes it feels like failing to take on the responsibility to so is what prevents small steps to be taken for a common good. All this said, there are a lot of things i resent in myself, that are manifestation of just this. I do seek personal space and time to achieve things that are relevant to just me but you can't turn off concern for others - especially when they see you as a trustworthy figure. It's a lifelong struggle of not finding the right balance, "taking one for the team", throwing yourself secret pity parties and honestly - rarely enjoying the results of the hard mental work you put in- because it feels like trying to keep everything and everyone together when no one cares about everything falling apart.

Great video! From my own experience and what I’ve noticed in other ENFJs, we’re often drawn to self improvement and self help books etc (in hopes of becoming an even better influence to those around us and the world at large). I’ve read descriptions of ENFJs that are filled with truisms, the type of characteristics that all the types have in some capacity. This, however, was a really accurate description with specific insights! Nicely done.

I'm an ENFJ. That first point about seeing potential in people and then manipulating them into realizing it hit my core. O_o My friends used to ask me to put together their university class schedules. I help with their resumes and cover letters, tell them which jobs to apply for, and rehearse with them for interviews... I have done the research on what college a friend should go to and prepared an educational presentation on the pros and cons of each. I just... it's all coming from a good place, you know? I want my friends to be happy and succeed. And I'm REALLY good at organizing them for success. I enjoy the work and research. But sometimes I overstep, and I'm struggling to learn where that line is.

ENFJ here. Very well done. I'm currently dating an INTJ so it's interesting to learn how different our personalities are.

Your vids are excellent & hilarious too. Liked & Subscribed. Thanks a lot

4:54 well I'm an INFP yet I related to that on a spiritual level 😳

ENFJ to the core here. Personally, being drained emotionally, mentally, physically is common to us and I believe of pure motives. Although secretly wanting affirmation from those we've helped or from other people. It gives us the charge we need and sometimes that's all it takes. Although these praises may not come to us, the ENFJ doesn't ask for it or merely does things for applause. it's just very very much attractive for us to be part of causing another person's greatness. And that, for me, is one of the ENFJ's selfish motives. Which can be quite ironic really 😂

THANK YOU SO MUCH, GREAT VIDEO!

The ENFJ I know is like a very kind ENTJ. Like the ENTJ, he 'extroverts' his ambitions. Friends tease him for how big his ambitions are. In contrast, Ni doms' visions show in their actions and decisions. He gets teased a lot and his reaction is almost always to smile. If he does assert himself, it's very clumsy.

Wow. I'm impressed. I was ready to critique, but most of what you said was spot on. Very accurate. More so than most short videos on the topic, even those by other ENFJ:s, in my opinion.

I’ll always choose my heart over my head. Even when I know better

I am an ENFJ! I love how accurately you put my personality into words. Giving it a thumbs up 👍

This was so accurate! Thank you for making this.

I am an ENFJ. The casual look is on point. Most of photos of me have been in that pose. Yes adaptable to identifies. Yes to everything you’ve shared. I started my career as a designer of websites, graphic designer, and storytelling to only to now designing businesses and people. My adaptability to identifies has also brought my career from design to brand identities. Fusing interpersonal skills of a brand for their audiences. I use phrases like, “I hope you understand where I’m coming by now,”. Resetting is a must when you absorb many energies. Thanks bud.

WOW ENFJ here...YOU NAILED IT!!!! Another thing that is difficult if you could is Lack of SI and TI has us struggle to communicate what we are trying to say in a direct and tangible manner. Keep up the great work

Present. A belated thank you for adding to the rare list of ENFJ videos. Analyzed quite well and constructively. -Ambivert-NFJ

As an Assertive ENFJ, I have retired from TO THE TEA being a social chameleon (I still naturally do it, but I’m now a little bit more myself around any and everyone-take it or leave it.). I’ve also stopped OVERLY caring about social harmony, I’ve also learned to slow down taking other people’s problems home with me and becoming frustrated with the person for not taking my advice. Eventually you, as an ENFJ, have to look at things very objectively and let them be what they are. Practice thinking more logically and factually vs emotionally. If the facts clearly state that this person doesn’t want to change and are stuck in their own turbulence despite your best efforts (or whatever the facts state about what’s bothering you) LET 👏🏽 IT 👏🏽 GO 👏🏽. And be truly content with what you’ve done. If an opportunity comes around again that requires your energy and attention, use your emotional intelligence! That’s our strong suit. (Only give your energy to a situation if it’s healthy and safe to do so. For example, please don’t give an abuser or a narcissistic ex another chance.) Continue to care, continue to use your Ni to read people and situations and help where help is needed. But even still, at some point learn to emotionally detach a little from the situation and move on with YOUR life and emotional well-being. Try not to spend all of your alone and free time obsessing over a situation or a person. But while you’re alone that’s a good time to use your extraverted sensing, do things you like, and take care of yourself. It’s all about balance. Bottom line, the biggest thing I would encourage my fellow ENFJ’s to do is to develop your Ti. That’s the only way any of what I’m encouraging can be done successfully. True, we can’t deny that we’re a big feeling type. Fe is our DOMINANT function. Trust me I know! I’ll never claim to be a “tough cookie” like the ENTJ’s. But at the end of the day, it’s important to look at the FACTS (good or bad) in a situation, accept it, eventually swallow your emotions, and move on. You’ll be happier, I promise. 😉💕

Appreciate your video, it helped me to understand myself better as I am very much an ENFJ and always have been. I'm relieved you said that you didn't know any ENFJ's, since I have thought exactly the same thing. Even my INFP husband of 35 years says exactly the same thing. It would be really nice to know other ENFJ's, but I haven't ever had that opportunity, even with knowing very large amounts of people in many scenarios around the country for my whole life.. I wouldn't say that I'm ever being disingenuous, I think I'm very true to myself. But, that being said, I definitely do limit myself at times. For instance, I try hard to feel out exactly how much involvement someone does, or doesn't, want from me and then act accordingly. It's hard for me to hold back from being as engaged/involved/loving/caring as I want to be, but I completely value everyone's free will and will not force myself on anyone disinterested in my involvement with them. On another forum, a guy said that the thing he noted in ENFJ's is that they "bail". I agree with that, given that I will feel out the situation and if someone seems uninterested in me engaging with them (or even hostile towards it), I will get a sense of that very quickly and move on right away. I want to ensure that I am focusing on people and situations that will allow me to give what I have and be who I am. In terms of pushing themselves to the point of neglecting physical comfort, it's just such an incredibly low priority for me, I just couldn't care less about it. With my "goal mode" negating time for TLC, the way I would explain it is that my goals/work "are" the TLC for me. The work is the really fun part for me, my work IS my recreation. I don't seek a break from it at all because it is so incredibly enjoyable for me, to the point where doing downtime type activities can be stressful for me because they are keeping me from what I really enjoy and want to be doing. Thank you again, love your videos!

I find that ENFJs have a good memory for specific types of things. I havnt really figured out exactly what they are but it’s probability Fe+Ni impactful type memories. One ENFJ I know remembered a friend of ours telling us that she thought her vitamin c serum and eyebrow pencil was stolen from her hotel room. Several days later he remembered exactly what was taken and asked her about it, even though I’m pretty sure he’s never used an eyebrow pencil or vitamin c on his face (but you never know, lol). For me the point was a few of her things were possibly stolen and I would have remember it as “her stuff,” and not specific items other than makeup/skincare related that maybe you wouldn’t notice were gone right away or could have rolled off the counter and be lost. That’s just one example, I know ENFJs who claim to have impaired memory who still have a knack for remembering something trivial someone said months ago. They can even use it to be sweet and do nice things for people, or be manipulative as you mentioned (not that those two are mutually exclusive).

I am an ENFJ my INTP now ENTP friend has taught me about the Meyers Briggs. I saw his potential and have tried to help him to give him his best chance in a world where it’s harder for us minorities. He says I have helped him make the tough career decisions pulling the trigger on jobs he wasn’t appreciated at but before knowing me would have just conformed himself to them he is now more extroverted and more in tune with his feelings having an Extroverted feelings friends and another introverted feelings friend

I would agree with most of this. I work in science as an ENFJ and I’ve had to develop a much stronger ability to logically argue (as science is data driven) than comes naturally to me. But, on the other hand, I get along very well with most people and don’t feel intimidated by those higher on the rungs than I. This networking/charm/friend-making skillset has made the typical aggravations of the workplace MUCH easier. It’s like a cheat code almost. No one likes to admit how much being liked impacts your life but it does. Even though I have my deficits, I wouldn’t want to be any other way.

I’m an ENFJ, and I felt really well-loved by this. Very accurate!

I’ve become good friends with an ENFJ and I find it absolutely fascinating how he is able to befriend almost anyone. I’ve never seen such talent with interpersonal skills. On any given day he’s texting or hanging out with like 10-20 people.

Hi, ENFJ here. Thanks for this summary. Pretty spot on. I find that I also rethink what I say to people because I often fear I’ve been too caring or too something and have offended someone by being “extra”.

I feel this in my bones. Right on point 👍

ENFJ here. Spot on my friend

Good video. My last academic mentor was an ENFJ which fits.

ENFJ here. - I am in love with improving people. Also work very hard on improving myself. As years pass I have learned to be a bit more reserved and not go all out in attempts to change people and myself. Stopping myself from improving myself is hard but it works (lately) - You are completely right that ENFJs tend to ignore their health (and not set boundaries for others that need their attention) (sad, very sad face) - Some other creator I watched described ENFJs as "Tribe - first, self - second". For me it seems that other people and productivity are indeed VERY IMPORTANT. I have trouble stopping being active. I know several other ENFJs and although they are different people they also are very active in improving themselves and others around them (and often suffer from those ambitions as well) I am lucky to have my wife who is an INFP ans has Si so she's into the "Create the maximum bliss" for both of us and also does not judge me when I rarely search for my moments of comfort. I would love to listen to more of what you have to say so I subbed +bell. Good luck with your channel :)

I'm an intp with a enfj mom. the emotional-ness is quite hard to bear sometimes

I am ENFJ and so is my best friend. We are very easy to get to know. We look for ways to connect with who we are around but at the same time if we don't connect well or don't like what we see in you we can turn cold as ice and appear very standoffish. If you are around us long enough the warm charm you saw when you first meet us turns to a comfortable coldness as we don't feel we need to mask with you anymore and you see just how serious we actually are. I am always doing something for a reason, or toward a goal. Everything is future driven and that includes the goal to always remain in a comfortable sustainable path. We will sacrifice present comforts for the greater good of working toward the utopia which each ENFJ believes exists. Downside - I will sacrifice everything for the people close to me and it is very painful to pull that energy away from them and focus on ourselves as it is very draining to look after our own health when it takes from others comforts.

ENFJ here! This was SO on point! Subscribed!

ENFJ here as well. Starting at 4:30 Unaccepting of traditionalism...Very true WITH the distinction that an ENFJ can strongly appreciate the *value* of certain traditions and the justification for developing traditions in general, BUT if a given tradition simply does not make sense (ex. today's antiquated school practices; long-standing but toxic family gatherings; etc.) an ENFJ can view these as a existentially wasteful. Unaware of own physical needs... spot on, hate that, because as a parent ENFJ leading by example is married to encouraging your child's fulfillment of their potential. Bad memory for specific examples... spot on - an ENFJ can absorb the underlying truth of a situation and "file it away" with their developing understanding of how life works, so the principle will stick, but the case details have a much lower likelihood of being retained. GREAT video!!

Hi I am Enfj, and I agree with your description!

Hi. I’m an Enfj this is spot on. I love all of the videos on the channel. More for enfj’s?

I'm ENFJ!!! I always joke and say that I an extrovert but I seem more like an introvert because people drain me so much. And I love people. And I love different cultures that aren't my own. I'm also a person who feels immense guilt when I can't provide what my circle of loved ones. There's a lot of pressure to be the 'go to' person. I hate to disappoint.

enfj here and you were spot on fe we see such potential in people a lot we genuinely care for humanity and we want the world to better place ❤

I'm an Enfj-A I love your content, keep going.

Any other INTPs our there who love ENFJs the most? I find their friendships so useful

I have some enfj friends and just ---- yes yes yes to this. You are fricken brilliant. How brillianter still and intriguing would it be to hear your amalgamated analysis of mbti with enneagram types.. 🤔

I'm an ENFP and transitory ENFJ, because there are times when I will try to manipulate words and situations to my benefit. It doesn't work well on ISTJs or other ENFJs. However I would say that we tend to "stock up" information. We enjoy "arming" ourselves with new things, especially knowledge, to fire on any "enemies." "Enemies" being anyone, even friends, that we want to influence. You're correct about adjusting for "maximum bliss." I don't think any ENFJ can go on forever, which is why most of us are a bit transitory. :) Thanks for the great video!

Pretty dang accurate. The only thing i didnt quite vibe with was flaunting materialistic items. As an enfj i have found one of my best attributes in management was that i was never phased by the money or material things but im open minded enough to consider the alternative concept.

Your clarifications as ENFJs writing here were super teaching... so i am glad something pushed you yo write here and claim intentions properly... BUT... ! I actually didn't hear him saying anything bad. I don't know why you see it as psychopathic like description. Not at all! I know a few enfj and his description matched a lot with how they show up. But non of it was bad. including goal oriented... That is VERY amazing in enfjs. They are on the go go go. He didn't necessarily meant (or at least how i have understood him) to have a goal with people and thus manipulating them(although i have seen less healthy people enfj do that skillfully too.. and admitting it to me). But I guess if you heard it like that than it might sound this way to some others as well. So the clarification is spot on good to have any way. So i am here just to say i think he was giving good description and i think you may have taken it in one other interpretation possible.

ENFJ- Soo Accurate. May I say that I love the casualness and the way you've described the type. BRAVO!! Now sometimes the fact that I in order to do something I just need to get the more capable people and not use my own brain much thing doesn't work. I'm 17 and as you can guess that in group works people are assigned. What I've learnt is, I don't need to get the most capable people. I can help them to bring out the best in them, in typically the time period for the work to be done ( 2 or 3 days) People have IMMENSE potential and I'm not even exaggerating when I say they can rock the world. So I'm not too worried if I didn't get the most intelligent team. I know that no matter who I have, they are amazing and can get me the winner trophy.

Hey I took the Myers’s Briggs personality test and got this ENFJa. I want to learn more about my self and what I’m capable of. A lot of what you’ve said makes sense to me.

Thank you Nathan

I'm an ENFJ. People find me fun to be around, and often talk to me and give me their life stories. I find that a blessing and a curse about being an ENFJ. People also ask me for help.

As an enfj I have rewatched every single enfj video on this channel even though I hope there would be more I still think your videos about enfjs are the most accurate ones thank u ☺️

The first minute I’m like YUP! ENFP partner of an ENFJ and he’s so freaking good with people and always helping me moderate my weaknesses and bolster my strengths.

Can't wait to see your enneagram 3 video after your understanding of FeNi.

Spot on. Hope you've finally got to experience a friendship with one of us. I maybe bias, but we're pretty awesome. - Another ENFJ

Enfj here....often times I like Se over indulge binge on dopamine - Food, Netflix, etc.... except I tend to self shame and be depressed about that way more than other types who allow and enjoy and are intentional about it. Mine is always at burn out and then I shame cycle for not “getting anything done.” So, I do often get lazy and over indulge/rest, but I don’t have a healthy cycle/relationship with work and rest. I think something you missed is our self critical behavior. Wanting to desperately hold up tribe validation plus that lower Ti, makes us almost feel unaware of how great we actually are doing. Just super high standards for ourselves. Zero expectations on others lol. You mentioned that the Se in the third slot can make us interested in showing off nice things. I think our function stack also makes us perfectly in tune with sensing who is the most influential and important person in the room, and caring deeply about connecting with them. This plays into that status need, but mostly just serves Fe. If I can work with someone like that, I can help more people and have more influence. Thanks for sharing!

ENFJ and this is 100% spot on. Great analysis!

I'm an ENFJ, we tend to find each other.