When it’s that severe it usually arfid I have it only have four safe foods and I’m an adult

​@@bethanatorsings7879You are an adult who only eats FOUR things? Or did I misunderstand what you've said?

@meganblack3957 Maybe she will answer, as I am quite interested to know. I have 2 family members with eating disorders. And I also have 3 girls, ages 18, 19 and 21--so one always worries about girls at that age (and I have a 22 yr old boy but he doesn't seem to have any eating disorders). Especially when they leave for college, as that can often trigger it. Eating disorders are about power, not about food. Therapy is important to find the underlying issue and treat that as it manifesting itself thru food/eating is, of course, very dangerous! And the sooner, the better!! These selective food choices seem to be a fear of something else. Bourne out of anxiety from a prior trauma. I am shocked that one would wait years to start trying to treat it! But again, I don't know as much about that as I do anorexia/bulimia.

If only the parents put that much effort into exercising and feeding their kid.

Susie Lytal yup feel bad for the poor kid his parents are basically neglecting him let him eat sweets all day and not get any exercise

😂

@@TheOldandslow I’ll be home at 🐝 this rtf was you a the

That and his eating habits kinda made me think he mightve been autistic

yes, you could see she was worried. Daft to encourage him to stop eating when he actually wanted to. I think he may have had some kind of food related incident (minor choking/vomited etc) and she over reacted then, and each time he tried something else she was super cautious. His food isn't only junk, it's all soft food. Her language isn't going to help him either. He wanted them to stop arguing (also possibly a trigger for him, perhaps dinner time was a time of arguing etc) and she told him off when he was doing so well.

@@sandcastles73 It is all sweet stuff, even if it's not what you think as "junk food" it's still not healthy food and way overly sweet (like yoghurt). He has plenty of harder sweets in his bag of candy so it's not that big of a problem and he hates plenty of soft foods.

Yes! That mom was 100% the cause. She was so anxious about him trying a new food and making a big fuss.

A Person Yes. Did they not feed him any baby food? Carrots, peas, squash?

A Person : well said and I agree....

And the way he crams entire chocolate bars into his mouth, as if there's a famine coming, or that someone will take it off him.

Oooo cool

THANK YOU!!! I just asked that!

I knew I recognised it from somewhere

Mark Williams, I think.

His names mark Williams

She’s doing absolutely amazing thank you

The spectrum is no reason why someone should not be bright.

Most children on the spectrum are very bright.

ALL kids on the spectrum are very bright! It's just whether they have an outlet to show it and develop it. And by definition, they ALL have a future!! It is just how it is handled going forward and how far their future will go. There are many professions that are perfectly suited for kids on the spectrum, such as library studies. Or other jobs where they spend their time sorting. Even bagging groceries is soothing and satisfying for many kids and adults with autism!

no need for the 'even' :)

Thats right. I mean, look at this boy. He's really sweet, not really naughty.

i was quite angry , mum was clearly unhappy when he started trying new things

He's so sweet!

Rebecca Shields I'm surprised that Bobby's school allowed him to have a lunchbox like that. At the primary school I worked at the kids' lunchboxes were inspected and any child with sweets, or even drinks like squash were frowned upon and parents advised.

Rebecca Shields absolutely ludicrous !

Right?! She said we want to make sure hes getting nutrients. How about a meal replacement shake if that's all he will eat, wtf is he gonna get from a brownie. I dont think people understand how important it truly is for children to get proper nutrients so they develop properly, not just physically but mentally as well.

Yes! I mean we all have kids and sometimes they are trying to test our limits with food, the mom said he would starve himself, well if it was my child I would not stand down he will go to bed hungry and eat a proper breakfast as he is told. I think they were just very soft with him in his younger years and that's made a bigger problem that they are now have to fix. But man alive! I would never pack that kind of kit to my child school that's crazy.

I agree with the above comment. He won't starve if you stop buying all the sweets and junk food. Every human has a strong survival instinct and when he gets hungry enough he will eat whatever is available. It may take a few days but he will not starve to death in that time and genuine hunger will set in. No soft drinks or flavored milky drinks either or he will use these to get his calories. The parents are responsible for what their children eat. You don't need to use any persuasion during this time, just serve up what the rest of the family is eating and at the end of diner time if he has not eaten, remove his plate with no comment. Don't let him see that you are in any way concerned.

Yep

Yup, why are they giving a child and option? If you take away all his candy and other stuff he eats, trust me he will eat. He isnt gonna die. Stop giving kids options, you're the adult, act like it

Yep.

Nahala Wing she’s putting the idea in his mind.

I feel like its a case of Munchausen syndrome by proxy...

Trish Traynor wow a long time to go undiagnosed I imagine your pretty high functioning low on the spectrum with mainly symptom regarding social interaction?

I didn’t realize it’s possible to be Aspbergers and an empath...can you explain? I am confused as I understand empaths to feel what others feel, and Aspys is the opposite? Curious...

I'm getting checked right now if I have autism and dyspraxia which that's a whole journey lol

I would like to climb into your head and look around a bit ! I bet it's pretty interesting in there !

Seldane 321 - it's "high" on the spectrum in this case. Not low!

Maria Aguilar I’ve heard of that then again there could be severe allergies to certain foods that has to be checked out by a doctor to rule food allergies out

Same. When I refused I would get the same plate 3x a day until it was gone.

@@ashleighray7503 omg yes me to

Happened to me, then they found out the food was making me sick... Honestly, affecting my body...not just making me feel ill because I didn't like it.

Maria Aguilar when I was the little my mom had the same rules but I would simply not eat for days and days and if she forced me I would throw up, all my blood siblings were basically the same way except for one brother, luckily as we have gotten older the problems have seemed to diminish

Tara Wright agreed. The mom wanted him to be sick and was trying to Saratoga his progress. Creepy.

agreed

I agree, that dad was great at encouraging his kid.

My thoughts too, the way she got teary eyed when told he didn't have a phobia. She clearly wanted to be told that it was something more serious than him being a picky eater, initiated by herself

Yep.

calimntgirl EXACTLY

He's very indulged. Own fridge, own food...it doesn't stop

@@emmacassidy8482 They never showed the consequences (by that I assume fit), if his sister got into "his" refrigerator. He is a very indulged little boy.

What a horrible comment . Did you actually watch to the end ? The experts agreed it wasn't a phobia, but they did agree it was a genuine fear that would develop into a phobia if he wasn't helped to eat food (help his parents could have actually given him at any time ! )... He wasn't being manipulative at all. He was horribly distressed by his own behaviour and actually frightened by his feelings about food !To his credit he was highly motivated to change and was successful !....he just needed a bit of guidance .If anything it was his mother who was the impediment to him developing healthy habits because she got so stressed if he didn't like something that she offered him candy or yoghurt. You shouldn't forget that this started when he was a toddler; a time when his parents were in charge. It isn't his fault that they substituted rubbish for good food and bought him his own fridge. Given all that, I was amazed that he was able to change and even more impressed that he wanted to . The scene where his mother actually got angry when the father was encouraging him to finish a papadum that he was actually enjoying, because she thought he shouldn't eat it (simply because he seemed a little surprised by the taste and texture) ,demonstrates the huge hurdles he had to overcome ; hurdles his parents had unwittingly created ! At no stage in this documentary did ANY of the treating specialists who spent considerable time with him (including hours not shown here) suggest for a second he was being manipulative. I thought he was brave ....and I particularly admired him when he asked his parents to stop fighting over whether he should eat a papadum or not and then just got on with eating it (even though for some weird reason his mother didn't want him to).

Youve clearly never been around someone with arfid then

Brilliant

Cheese and eggs are not a good place to start as they have a strong taste. I would suggest bland foods like potatoes or plain bread.

not everything NEEDS a diagnosis. sometimes it's just the parents lack of knowledge and coddling that creates the beast of a kid.

Listen when you’ve had a child already you notice the difference i fought for years against her diagnosis so pipe down

@@mariehirst8533 you seem rude and weird

Still waiting to know why I’m weird

@@mariehirst8533 ur gunna be waiting a while cuz I don’t have the time to explain myself to you nor do I want too LOL. pipe down 😂😘

Same! It's Me or the Dog led me here

@@whiskeykel same😂

same, kinda. :/ i was watching Crufts, first Its me or the dog then crufts know this lmao

Omg what?! Same 😂😂😂

@@whiskeykel Same!!!!

Bobby will need dentures in ten years.

Exactly! The parents are massive pushovers

Cibophobia, or fear of food, is a relatively complicated phobia that can rapidly spiral into an obsession. People with this phobia are sometimes mistakenly thought to suffer from anorexia, a dangerous eating disorder.

its absolute madness. pure stupidity I think.

@@jemimajust827 yeah

Yeah that is insanity.

blondecat666 it’s disgusting! They think that pandering to him is going to help? He’s manipulating the parents and because they’re so weak...they let him manipulate them! It’s astonishing.

blondecat666 I think it's just complete madness and they can't do much about it to be honest

Except nowadays, those intelligent medical professionals would be called bigoted and haters.

@@theyliveyousleep8965 nope, because nowadays people are agreeing with these individuals because we are becoming aware that the research in to autism is all based on a model of a young boy and is incredibly gender biased. stop looking for something to be grumpy about.

@@theyliveyousleep8965 no? This is a very common problem that lots of autistic people, especially women, are still trying to draw attention to.

what are you on about@@theyliveyousleep8965 ?? I am one of the "lucky" ones that got a dx at 27. most of us are way way older. this is a subject we are trying to explain to people. the only reason why I curse the "professionals" is because of 7 years in therapy and they diagnosed me with: BPD Antisocialpersonality disorder, GAD, Social Anxiety, Bipolar, dysthymia,. surely I am forgetting a few -.- so yes. these were profs that weren't that prof. the thing I dislike is that imaginative play is something that a lot of autistics do. (especially afab's) you don't have to assume, we can talk with you and explain how it is.

Honestly I can't help but wounder if he is one of these people who has extra sensative taste buds to certain flavours. I know people with that tend to find certain veg far more bitter than most people. But are also able to detect sweet tastes easier too.

Copper Bunnies it wasnt how it tasted that stopped him from eating it, its how he couldnt physically bring himself to do it and personally i beleive having all this food, which for one, other children his age would be saying they have much better food than him etc, and secondly, it would create a lot of anxiety about having the idea of being expected to eat these foods by everyone around them

I eat all my veg and potatoes way before my meat and especially if it's red meat not crazy about meat but I eat it.

Same here. I never was a fan of veg by itself, But I am fine with it as part of soups, stews, anything really. Except zucchini and Eggplant. I hate them.

Jessy,,, parents, like me; wonder how or what to do if we think our adult child has never stopped acting out since they were a teen,,, im a single mother,,, and im at the end of all patience,,, the child lives with me and is verbally abusive for years,,,

I appreciate your comment so so much that’s exactly it! People think I cried because I hated what I heard, I was scared relieved all at the same time

Bet the poor child has sooooo many teeth extractions to look forward to!

I feel bad for big sister . It's not fair .

Thank you so much ❤️

Why feel bad for her sister? That’s why we got help.

@@mariehirst8533 is this actually Marie, Jessi-Jai’s mum?

I am indeed x

She’s my diamond thank you

@@mariehirst8533 Is she your child? How is she doing currently?

Manu, yes she’s my daughter she’s 10 now doing amazing. Thank you

@@mariehirst8533 I’m so glad she’s doing well. You seem like an incredible person and mum. ❤️

Thank you so so much. I get so much grief. It’s so nice to hear people being nice thank you

Jude Lewis RIGHT!!!!

Found the vegan

@@q13oc6 I said that because internet vegans are the most closed minded rude people you will ever meet

H .L that’s a real bone head thing to say.... truly it was... I’m a vegan and veganisim has NOTHING to do with that statement... judgy much? What Jude said is true, he was given too many sweets and that’s now what he prefers, because that’s what he is given... he’s running off of sugar and nothing else.. true some vegans are preachy, not denying that... but so are some Omni’s.... some of you can be down right fecking nasty... that kid has a sugar addiction... you can see that a mile away.. yes there are food aversions going on BUT that’s coz his parents helped caused it...

@@Toothcollector111 Vegans are closed minded? Some people in general weather you eat meat or not can be closed minded and some in general vegan or not can be opened minded it's depends on the person not the diet.

I did a double take on that. My first thought when I heard, "You got rid of the dummy!!" was *don't call that poor kid a dummy!* I didn't know they called pacifiers dummies in the UK. In the US we call them pacifiers or binkies. Guess I learned something new today.

@@joleenphillips2415 I wouldn't have known either, but I've been watching super nanny here and there since I was in high school... I've always called it a nuk like the brand name

@@joleenphillips2415 in Ireland, we say dummy, dodie or less common, but my preference, soother.

They're treating her like she's much a younger than she is

@@emmacassidy8482 if she is autistic it could be because she has meltdowns if they try to take away a familiar object that she likes. Processing that she is "too old" for it is harder.

I bet if Bobby's mom took a trip for one week, she would come back and there would be faster results. His dad is more encouraging than she is.

Have you watched the episode now? ;)

@@Roxirin yea. Jus didn't edit my comment. I see what is wrong with the boy now. His mother gives him anxiety when it comes to food

My son, eats very well but doesn’t like pizza. He wishes he did like “normal people” but he just doesn’t. Nothing wrong with that.

I don’t like pizza what’s wrong with that?

He has arfid which is an actual food avoidance disorder. It looks like his parents were playing into it but it also sounded like none of their normal doctors were taking it seriously. This disorder has the potential for it to become an actual phobia. Part of Bobby's treatment did seem to be some actual parenting though. He was very sad about his disorder and cried because he wanted to be able to like pizza. His mom seemed to be the most discouraging one though. He was eating a flat bread thinking called pop something (I didn't catch the name) and his mom was was making it a huge deal and was saying "no, no not too much" 😦

fyi juvenile diabetes is a type of diabetes you're born with, and the other type of diabetes you're referring to is Type 2 diabetes.

@@gregorkrause no they are not born with type 1 diabetes, they develop it most commonly after a viral infection. It is an autoimmune disorder.

You are all wrong. Some types of type 1 diabetes are possibly triggered by a viral infection, but essentially, we do not yet know what the root cause of the autoimmune reaction is. One way you will never get juvenile or type 1 diabetes, however, is by eating too many sweet foods. Thank for coming to my TED talk.

Thank you this is the comment I was expecting to see here.

Perhaps because people know that enabling the parents is not a good idea. The child lacks discipline and intelligent parenting.

Idiotic replies who know nothing

I hear that but my threats take me far and when I need to show action I do just that. My child KNOWS better all kids are different. Everything don’t work for all kids. If I only told my child to stop and did time out honey I would be bald asf

I agree. The parents steered him in the direction but didn't force him into it. They didn't push him but at the same time he didn't push himself. It comes down to the balance.

I agree but some kids suffer with a phobia aka Cibophobia, or fear of food, is a relatively complicated phobia that can rapidly spiral into an obsession. People with this phobia are sometimes mistakenly thought to suffer from anorexia, a dangerous eating disorder.

Honestly, the word 'discipline' needs to disappear from conversations about the many psychological difficulties children face.

She's not their first child. They have qn older daughter

That’s how you know because my eldest daughter was talking to me at Jessis age then you motive differences

She’s not a dog, she’s a child who didn’t understand the dangers of the roads. Her father was useless but thanks for your reply

And also, you can’t keep that forever, she can’t have a safety harness for her whole life and she may get very upset and unsettled by immediately taking away the dummy, so even though they did eventually, you can’t cut it out when she’s a baby, because that’s a baby’s comfort item.

This is one of the most brainless comments I've seen here. The 'disciplinary', 'cold turkey' logic is the cause of a lot of individual and societal problems.

Damn, I too hate being misunderstood

Yes my son was exactly the same he was four and suddenly had a great vocabulary.

Jessi is 11 and still has poor vocabulary

Oh! U r a doctor?

@@karenlindsey5988 you don't need to be a doctor to see the child is manipulating his parents to get his way. No child is born not liking veg,fruit,etc it's a learned trait.

Don’t judge people until you’re in other people’s situations. Everyone is on a learning journey and you have no right to judge.

@@luciemcadams9016 agreed

@@born_confused In fact, when children refuse food it can also be that they feel (possibly after eating and then feeling sick) an allergy or intolerance - so it should be checked with a doctor. I agree though: the majority of cases will simply be kids testing out their boundaries... because they're kids. ;)

Pretty much. I think it's an ego thing. They're worried what people will think of them if they give him nothing till he is famished enough to eat whatever they put in front of him and the kid picks up on it because he can manipulate their self concern. It's clearly not concern for him. You don't have to be a nutritionist to know candy and yogurt that's practically candy isn't healthy.

@@ThePimmy11 precisly :)

not always

It? Wow 🤦‍♂️

Yes. I have never heard that a child has starves to death because he didn't want to eat their food. But I have heard many children to get a diabetes after their parents have given them sweet options for the real food.

Thank you 😊

It is not always easy to find out what is wrong. But I think those parents are great. They found a way to get answers and help. 👏

poor parenting

@@shanelka8304 uneducated

@@katbagley3214 brilliantly educated, enough to see you through.

Thank you so much 😊

@@mariehirst8533 Most welcome, just the truth. 😀

I understand your thinking so. But sometimes when one is so in the middle of a situation it can become difficult to have the "right" reaction. I guess own fears come into play...

I'm gunna go ahead and say no way. He can only eat chocolate mousse, candy, and baked beans? Come on. He doesn't have a texture issue with any of the CANDY BUFFET they pack for him.

@@Makanshi it's called safe foods lots of children with autism have them. Lots of things with autism aren't always logical.

Was just an observation and our experience.

@@dawnmarieslover4387 I wasnt replying to you. Was to the person making black and white statements. Just educating the stupid.

@@rennyh8627 It is logical to us. We know what they taste like, feel like, smell like, everything.

A child with sensory issues or autism literally will starve themselves to the point of malnutrition if the food is not the texture they can handle. I have Sensory Processing Disorder, and I had to go to special therapy in order to get used to the textures of various foods.

Physical and mental illness are a thing Karen

Thank you

@@l.2341 my kids lined up all of their toys on the regular - none of them have autism. They said that most kids aren't diagnosed until they are around 5 years old because toddlers show the same symptoms. This 2 year old was done a disservice to be diagnosed with autism as a toddler that had barely spoke probably because she had a binky in her mouth 24/7. Give this child some time to speak and express herself before condemning her to a life of disability.

@@katharinerobert8378You do realise that autism is NOT a bad thing. It's not something that is hung around people's necks. It is a way to receive support. It's in no way a bad thing. You idiot, it's like saying your kid is never gonna walk ever again and then saying 'oh no. wait until she is 10 and she will be up and running with children of her age'. Sometimes they can walk but most can't walk for the rest of their lives. Same with ASD. Sometimes it can be wrong but most of the times it isn't. It's not just something that takes a day to diagnose. It took me a year to get diagnosed and I was placed on a list to get diagnosed as an emergency by my therapists. Most people actually get diagnosed at around 18 months. But others (with level 1 or 2 ASD) may be able to mask their ASD and get diagnosed later in life (for me it was when I was 14/15)

I noticed she was talking a lot more once the parents took the pacifier out of her mouth.

Alyssa with a star114466 it isn’t so much that he was a brat as that his parents, particularly his mom, were overly nervous and neurotic. He did fine and didn’t throw tantrums when learning to eat new foods as long as his parents went along.

Hello, I do not think it is too late. My daughter was diagnosed age 14 also. You might want to correspond with her. She finished her obligatory school at home and had struggles, but she found her path. I think you autistes are wonderful people! Super deluxe indeed!

Your mum just failed to teach you basic skills and then found excuses.

@@silvialevi5311 Have a close look at your parenting style, as failure is apparent.

MrSteveGrey I think in these situations they meant it as they want a diagnosis so their child can get the support they need but yes in some cases I agree with you.

But it gets to the point where you can tell there is something else going on

I fought against her diagnosis for 2 years after this actually

Do you “grow out of” diabetes?

@@canadianperspective3731 Type II, yes .. Type I should not be indulging in an unhealthy diet anyway either. 🌹

Right on, Iva. How can a child talk with a binky in her mouth?

Do not judge a kid with a dody. You don't judge the parents you judge the kid for not being prepared to give it up.

You idiot.

Iva Lee sorry I am English what is a binky?

@@amandashare1281 a dummy or pacifier

You’re very wrong!

I fought for years after against it so don’t judge what you don’t know simple

Thank you for your lovely comment, it was difficult it still is but worth it ❤️

the not liking pizza could be gerd from the tomato sauce, lactose intolerance=cheese and the crust=gluten allergy or sensitivity.

Gregor Krause Not necessarily. A friend of my son’s growing up would eat only chicken nuggets and NOTHING else. I mean nothing! His mother took him for help and he had some sort of food disorder, which was straightened out. The last thing a parent should do is give in to their child. The child does not run the household, the parents do. Get help so everyone can get on with their lives.

My son used to only eat ketchup sandwiches like for a month he has been diagnosed with aspergers he did move on right now its hot stuff anything hot

achanwahn what didn’t you eat?

The little girl has development issues; but as she was diagnosed very early, things will get better for her.

Diane I think you need to educate yourself a bit more before commenting!!