International Marriage... a Q&A from rural China

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International Marriage... a Q&A from rural China

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0:05 Questions for Miriam & 9:48 Questions for Yonghong
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My name is Miriam Follin. I’m a Swedish woman who has been living inbetween Sweden and China since 2015. In 2017 I married my husband Yonghong, and we have since had two baby boys. In my videos I share the experience living in-between these two cultures.
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@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

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@sigyul2283 Жыл бұрын

Kudos to Yonghong with his effort speaking in English. Yes, definitely keep up with your acupuncture and Swedish learning. Immersion in both cultures bring the best of both worlds.

@moxiebombshell Жыл бұрын

Came into the comments to say exactly this :) Go Yonghong!! 🥳

@wtb61 Жыл бұрын

Kudos.

@anam7300 Жыл бұрын

It is a blessing to hear a couple of young human beings open their hearts and express themselves in such a mature way. Your children are blessed. All the best for you and your family.

@xujunling Жыл бұрын

Miriam is talent of video making, kind of the documentary style and the quality is international level!

@juliegoodwin6850 Жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more!🥰

@bb2866 Жыл бұрын

I am English and I would give your English 10 out of 10. It's perfect. You speak it better than a lot of English people.

@jessicacole Жыл бұрын

Definitely a 10 for your English Miriam, you are very Swedish in underrating your abilities 😏

@never4ever386 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, you’ve underrated both your English and Chinese.

@acrossthepond4792 Жыл бұрын

Yonghong, I am very impressed to hear you speak English so well, and the fact that you say you will learn to speak Swedish is astounding. What a wonderful couple you are, a great family. You have so many skills and are still eager to learn and travel. My Husband and I come from different Countries and it can sometimes make life difficult, but mostly we embrace each other's culture, and then we find other Countries to visit which we both enjoy.

@rozumnaistota9489 Жыл бұрын

May I ask where are you guys from?

@hongchew7878 Жыл бұрын

I think this is so far the best episode. Two of you talked to each other frankly openly about some very basic and important subjects in a family. 🎉

@gracechan4312 Жыл бұрын

Your family is so blessed, having the best of both worlds. Culture, language, food, people... Have a great holiday

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you, and the same to you!

@user-xs4bf6sp7e Жыл бұрын

兩人相愛就是包容对方,体貼对方,米粒是個有教養、有智慧的瑞典女子,把很棒的笑容跟真誠的心对待永鴻的家人.又愛丈夫,兩個可愛的混血孩子、你們分享的影片真棒

@lesa9538 Жыл бұрын

中国应该学习如何改变是一个真正的清廉的法制国家，而不是以贪制贪的国家😂😂😂😂不过这很难

@umopapisdn123 Жыл бұрын

One of the most thoughtful, vulnerable and lovely q&a I have ever watched. It’s poetic the way you share the intimacy of your relationship with us. Thank you for sharing, it gives me hope and joy in a complicated world to see intercultural relationships as possible and a real asset.

@vashti2389 Жыл бұрын

Miriam, your definition of love was so accurate. It is exactly like ocean waves. 🌊❤️

@moxiebombshell Жыл бұрын

8:23 Okay, this right here is THE most perfect ad partnership for Rosetta Stone that I've ever seen -- seriously, though!! Listening to Yonghong (who I imagine is fluent in more than just his native dialect of Mandarin plus, if I recall correctly, is learning Swedish) reading questions out in English while you answer in English while discussing your relevant fluency in Chinese vs. your native Swedish is the best advertisement for the lifetime membership to Rosetta Stone I can imagine! I'd also like to add that I really appreciate your very considered definition of your fluency. It's like the exact opposite of those pseudo-polyglot YT channels where they're like "look at me, I'm fluent in fifty-eleven languages! Ooooooh!" -- though I will say, if you were able to write your bachelor's thesis in English, you're more fluent in the language than many *many* native speakers 😏

@AAAAAAaaaaaa889 Жыл бұрын

最后的结尾很棒，能看出来男孩子虽然出生在中国较偏僻的乡村，但是可能在母亲的大爱下生活过来，视野很开阔，感觉说话都很像母亲那种很慈祥的样子，同时让我很佩服的是小姑娘米粒，永远都是阳光灿烂的样子，这大概是男孩子大爱而质朴的母亲修来的这份厚福，实言之米粒比很多中国女孩子有眼光。🥰🤗🤫❤👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏

@steveliu5392 Жыл бұрын

永鴻哥们，我由衷的對你们夫妻之間這種對話（我也相信預先🈶️了剧本，nothing wrong ! ) 發自我內心的敬意！不忘本（你們的根）也開放的🈶️容乃大的中國人文化中的核心價值。这段夫妻对话我會很熱情的傳給我的國內外的朋友圈！你們的影響力will be expending far away than you guys anticipating. 謝謝🙏你們Love You .

@yvonnebirch6026 Жыл бұрын

I love how Yonghong answered the question about love ! Quite the philosopher !

@ahamprema1 Жыл бұрын

I always get so excited when your new video appears, Miri, it's like I got a gift. You are such a bright and joyful soul, thank you for existing in this world😃💖💖💖 Edit: I finished watching the video now and I can see why Yonghong and you found each other. You have very similar ideas about life and share the same values. You talk about the same things, just in different languages. It's amazing.🌟

@GenaF Жыл бұрын

Such a lovely couple. So happy you've uploaded again and are doing well with your language skills.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@moxiebombshell Жыл бұрын

Right?? I've been so looking forward to this video!! Wonderful to hear from you two again :)

@sevcents Жыл бұрын

I love that you're tentatively planning on both a Chinese and Swedish education for your kids. They are so lucky, they will reap the advantage of both!

@anneskic Жыл бұрын

I love to listen to the Chinese dialect you're speaking. What an interesting couple you are and it is very evident how much you love your kids, each other, and willingness to embrace each other's cultures. I left Norway for Canada 40 many years ago. It is very healthy to embrace a new culture and language, but oh so challenging at times. Yours are vastly different and I can just imagine the challenges. I love watching your videos, and I learn something new each time. I would love to see more nature, and the mountains Yonghong love to hike in. You both have lovely families that have embraced your spouses,, and your kids seem well loved and adapted. Your Q & A was well done!

@valerieayla4687 Жыл бұрын

God bless the sweetest couple ever. I love the purity, sincerity, and beautiful intentions you both have toward life, each other, and being parents. So grounded and inspiring at the same time. Thank you. Wish I could know you in person!

@golfinspectorgeneral Жыл бұрын

Children that learn more languages are so blessed, I know from my own experience. Love is allowing yourself and your family to flourish anywhere and everywhere.

@ahmedhadi9176 Жыл бұрын

You know what, everytime I see your videos, it is through them that I am able to see China which is something I so dearly wish to do - to know actual China. Thank you.

@emisday Жыл бұрын

Do not be sorry for the shaking at 14:18. I like it that it moves as you come closer to him and because it goes slow, it feels more genuin somehow.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Aw, that's a nice way to see it! ❤

@user-wu5km1yn7g Жыл бұрын

Tack för din fina video 💕 Jag är korean och flyttade till Sverige för 3 år sedan. 🇸🇪 När jag lärde mig svenska tittade jag ofta på Alfons Åberg haha 🤣

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Haha, åh så fint! Alfons är så mysig! Och du verkar ha lärt dig snabbt, på bara tre år! Det är stor skillnad på Svenska och Koreanska!

@teokueiyang9454 Жыл бұрын

Sweden with a population of only 10 million, just 2 times the size of Singapore, build its' own fighter jets, its' own submarines and the first AIP submarine in the world, has its' own luxury car brands Volvo & Saab, Ericcson, high end camera Hasselblad, Electrolux, Ikea....Outstanding.

@yvonnebirch6026 Жыл бұрын

Oh sweet strong Miriam you are so brave and honest ! I love this video !! Yonghong is speaking English. Wonderful ! Is he learning ?so nice to get an update from your life !!

@mayhuang3928 Жыл бұрын

看到視頻你們都是很棒的夫妻祝全家人都平平安安

@momclean Жыл бұрын

A wonderful insight into your lives . You have both weathered many storms since your marriage, and still there for each other with more storms to come, but they will be lesser because together you are strong. I wish for you and the boys a loving , happy holiday over this period, lots of fun with the children and of course the extended family. I hope you will be able to share some of these memories with your on - line family also. Love and best wishes from myself in Spain..❤️🌻

@friederikeriechmann4025 Жыл бұрын

Don't worry about the shaky camera, you are doing great both a camera operator and an interviewer! Two years ago I took part in a documentary workshop and got introduced to a lot of indie documentaries that opened a whole new world to me. I learned there is more than just TV style documentaries with a voice over that explains everything to you, so you dont have to think for yourself. Your videos here (especially the ones that are more "essay"-style) remind me of those indie documentaries. To sum it up: You are doing great work and you have a found your own style of videography!

@ruthsikorski5495 Жыл бұрын

Yonghong, your English is very clear. You speak so good now.

@kerrylaw100 Жыл бұрын

That would be the best Q & A I’ve ever watched well done both of you 👏excellent, interesting and fun 🙏🌸🥰

@MarySmith-gu5nb Жыл бұрын

Yonghong's English has gotten SOOO good! Is speaking English a marketable skill in China?

@angelicavillartineo3591 Жыл бұрын

Thank You for this vídeo. Miriam Greetings from Perú.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@pinangsungai2116 Жыл бұрын

LOVE is big and wide totally agreed.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

🥰

@lexij2398 Жыл бұрын

I am an INFP as well! Explains why I relate and treasure your videos so much!

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

I did a poll on Instagram, and I think it was over 90% of my followers who were introverts! Maybe I should ask about their personality type too! ❤

@steveliu5392 Жыл бұрын

永鴻哥们你們這期的視頻做的exceptional 🈚️以倫比！我最最欣賞的是你們提到信仰也是最高度敏感的個人人生問題，你的夫人很坦誠的説到她成長在一個基督教文化的家庭（大部分歐洲人要不是新教即基督教或是羅馬天主教或是東歐或俄羅斯的東正教（現在俄烏还在打仗，宗教信仰相同呢）。永鴻你的回答令我激賞！你回答了絕大部分中國知識份子们的回答即文化上我們是受到儒、釋、道的思想潛移默化的！（这算是信仰嗎？我倒認為是個認知或哲學思想。）你們這期內💕深度地剖析太精彩了！Highly admired and respect you guys . 永鴻你提到包容，因為咱們中國人的集体思想vs. 西方個人主義思想！你是個🈶️智慧的汉孑！加油！

@ildiko1vt Жыл бұрын

SWEET! Always enjoy your perspective Miriam~ and Yonghong's too :) I too, am Taurus and have always liked Aries men.

@kswr2778 Жыл бұрын

14:58愛是一切 what is love ? love is everything

@tinekejoldersma Жыл бұрын

A lovely interview, very wise and loving. Coming from a blended family myself, different countries and religions, it is not always easy to understand each other. It's the willingness to learn from each other, and support each other that makes the waves of love stable and repetitive. Our kids will be citizens of the world.

@rolandolau2420 Жыл бұрын

An awesome exchange of human character and challenges. Learn so much from a simple interaction. 👍

@aeldanielmei Жыл бұрын

I wish you and your family - merry Christmas, a happy new year & spring festival (Chinese new year)!🥰🥰🥰

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you, the same to you!🥰

@aeldanielmei Жыл бұрын

I have been paying attention to the lives of your husband and wife and children, and sincerely wish you a bright future and a happy life.

@adanphu4325 Жыл бұрын

I think love is a connection and liking each other

@amac0190 Жыл бұрын

You both are always so thoughtful in your questions and responses to one another. And I don't know if it is because one of you is behind the camera or if it was edited out but you each give each other the space to answer without it becoming a conversation or a debate. Thank you for the video!

@jayteec Жыл бұрын

Your calmness and positivity really transfers over in your videos. I was feeling quite high strung and stressed before this but after watching, I've managed to naturally relax.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Aw, thank you! This makes me so happy! ❤️🙌

@user-ei9cm6fh3i Жыл бұрын

挺喜欢永鸿米粒儿这对年轻夫妻还有两个可爱的宝宝，真实的生活记录，很认真拍摄视频，非常好！米粒永鸿的视频能在油管KZfaq上多播一些吗？有好多粉丝在等待关注米粒永鸿俩夫妻的视频。

@liepsan Жыл бұрын

You guys have such an impressive relationship and are so positive and optimistic! With all that is going on on social media (and the world) your videos are such a joy to watch.

@reneet0163 Жыл бұрын

This was really insightful. You're both so wise. It was really nice to see this side of your husband too - he was very eloquent with his answers, and you both have such a great view on how to raise your kids. Great video, so insightful 😊

@yvonnebirch6026 2 ай бұрын

This was a good interview with much respect for both sides of the coin ! I liked the ending best when the sun broke out on your handsome husband’s face !! The light came on that was there already !! Thank you for sharing Miriam. Respect and much love to you and your wonderful families on both sides !🙏❤️❤️🙏

@iinnrrr Жыл бұрын

When the question about what swedish people can learn from chinese people, I suddenly remembered that in Sweden people don't really feed their guests meanwhile in China, they feed the guests.

@cyrilXilier Жыл бұрын

Many thanks for this video. A " 4 out of 10 " for your mandarin language, you are so modest ! Take care !

@tamarf4596 Жыл бұрын

I love both your candid answers about love. Thinking about love as waves, coming and going, but being committed to staying on the shore, waiting for the next wave. There was added nuance in your husband's answer, which was about endurance and time to change and grow together.

@lilianbaker1367 Жыл бұрын

I like the way you interpreted about 'love', so agreeable!

@yvonnebirch6026 Жыл бұрын

This was such a great video. I love that you were both so insightful and open. You are a lovely family. I hope to see the boys next time ? Thank you ! 🙏💕🌷

@DrakeLimOfficial Жыл бұрын

I see so much love from the both of you. Simple life full of love and warmth is good enough for me, and you both showed me how it is possible to do so.

@marjamerryflower Жыл бұрын

This was such a gift. Thank you both so much. Communication is probably the most challenging and important issue in every relationship. So Miriam studying Chinese in family matters is fantastic. I do hope Yonghong can go on a hike or do some calligraphy. Because if he feels weak and if communication is challenging it is so important to be in touch with oneself. It is vital. And my husband and me have been married for some decades now....i must say that i am really impressed with the way in which you both communicate about all of these important issues in life. Thank you both so much for sharing this interview

@longtailedbroadbill Жыл бұрын

I've watched you guys for a long time! So grateful to you all for sharing your experiences and perspectives. I also have a small mandarin vocabulary but used it efficiently. After two years back in the US it's definitely dwindled. The thing I miss about being in China is being at the level that I could eavesdrop, understand the pinyin, and plug it in to build my vocabulary. My coworkers usually didn't realize how much I understood.

@blakeychau1424 Жыл бұрын

Thanks 🙏 for sending your video and you are lovely couple, especially Miri, you are sweet and talented lady, since you are went back to China and has been watching your journey to understand how great of you adapt the country side and living with your in-laws , you are amazing and accommodat intercultural relationships and you are my role model 👍🙏

@americannumber2 Жыл бұрын

The love interpretation is perfect

@juliegoodwin6850 Жыл бұрын

So very interesting! Thank-you both for sharing your amazing life🥰 Miriam, you underestimate your english skills, give yourself a 10!

@lallanuit2984 Жыл бұрын

This is the most adorable video from your family. Thank you for this beautiful Q&A. I love how you film this, too!

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! ❤

@Danny-bt5wg Жыл бұрын

All the best to your family❤

@lv9657 Жыл бұрын

Wishing you and family - Merry Christmas, Happy New Year & Happy Spring Festival (Chinese New Year) !. Exposing your kids with both cultures, languages etc are vey important. Glad both of you have the same thoughts.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Happy holidays to you too! 🥰

@user-tr6ih1kb5y Жыл бұрын

What a beautiful metaphore for love and commitment. Wish you all the best.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you, the same to you! ❤️

@jocelynnelake41 Жыл бұрын

You are such a darling couple who appear to share the same core values despite your different cultures with the children's welfare being at the centre of it all.

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

❤

@_FMK Жыл бұрын

Beautiful! 🌿💗🌿

@dandan8333 Жыл бұрын

A great match up between the two of you... as I've seen since being in Guangxi since 2004. The realistic thoughts are greater than many western marriages I see stateside. I hope to return home next year to travel China again. Enjoyed the video and have a great day!

@suginami123 Жыл бұрын

Very thoughtful and interesting. I am in a long European Japanese relationship and communication can be hard; Fascitinating though. The differences in the cutuure often seem too far apart. When I listen to your and your husband talk so well on these issues it makes me happy. The love ia all about the trying and like you say stay on the shore for the waves to return. They do. Best wishes and hugs from us. One last thought is that you are both educators.

@bjmcia Жыл бұрын

Superb interviews and such insightful responses from both of you. The English subtitles are greatly appreciated. Continued love among your families. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! God bless!

@sconymills Жыл бұрын

So great both of your answers to what is a good thing about being in an inter cultural relationship is the same. As love your comparison to romantics love being like a wave, it’s very poetic and true.

@ML-lp8jw Жыл бұрын

I want to be honest, I can’t imagine myself living in a rural place in China with my husband’s family. If I marry someone , I marry this person, not the family or even country. Of course you can also love the family and country too. If there were things that I don’t agree with, I wouldn’t make compromises by telling myself those just culture differences. You are so smart and I believe you can always make the best decision for yourself and your family.

@VincciWincci Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video! I loved hearing the similarities and differences in your answers. It's obvious why you and Yonghong are married - you are both such wise and thoughtful souls, and you clearly have a lot of love for each other and those around you.

@cristinaespinoza4818 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I always enjoy your vlogs. I hope to see a lot more. Happy Holidays to you and your family!

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you! And the same to you!

@jennyhuang7495 Жыл бұрын

米粒太有才了。希望你今后中瑞的生活更加丰富多彩。更希望永鸿在语言上更加努力💪。共同过着美好的生活。祝你们圣诞快乐🤶🎅🧑‍🎄🎄🎁💕👍👏

@morrigansmaiden Жыл бұрын

I am impressed with the candor and honesty you both have in this interview, and wish you and your family many blessings going forward !

@JamConcerned Жыл бұрын

I love the blue truck. So cute wish we had something similar where I live.

@Cecilia-fc3sg Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this Q&A. I learned so much. You guys have some wisdom that we all could learn from. Thank you so much for taking the time to make it.

@fhchoong6880 Жыл бұрын

Lovely video. Can't wait to watch your next video

@SOKA.28 Жыл бұрын

Wow.. Yonghong surprises us with his smooth English. And we look forward to more home videos of the children, the cooking and generally everything!!

@Marilinaa Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing so much. So honest. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family.

@yyysboy1 Жыл бұрын

beautiful video, its like indie type of movies which i love - esp. those which are reality based & not mainstream types, heaps good ones from Europe, this one reminds me of those. beautiful colours and focuses, and the backdrop is beautiful ❤️

@alyciawang2892 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊😊😊😊

@alvinnnliu Жыл бұрын

Very candid. A loving episode!

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@lucypang9206 Жыл бұрын

such meaningful relationship

@charleschang1319 Жыл бұрын

加油! 祝平安健康心想事成。

@mcytiamo4192 Жыл бұрын

Hey I'm from Xining Qinghai who's working at eastern China but I really love my hometown,thanks for your video,hope one day I can make friends with your families

@audreydale4052 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this wonderful and very personal video with us!!

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

❤

@dizzysoybean Жыл бұрын

I'm heading back to china to visit family next week after finally sorting out visas - it's been 3 years since I've been there because of covid, and as a canadian living in the us who moved immigrated away from china when I was young, your videos of rural qinghai are immensely comforting. Especially the motorcycle feels so familiar!! My partner is also trying to learn some chinese and he's sTRUggling haha, love your beautiful cross cultural family and your genuine love and respect for each other!

@crankiemanx8423 Жыл бұрын

This is my favourite vid so far.you are a beautiful couple & family.and I wish you all the best & may all your dreams & wishes come true.💗🙏💗🌻🍀

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, the same to you! ❤❤❤

@crankiemanx8423 Жыл бұрын

@@MiriamFollin thank you 🙏💖🎄🎀 Merry Christmas

@m.anttonen2874 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this video! It was so nice to hear your opinions from both sides, you and Yonghon. Merry Christmas and happy new year to you and your family! God Jul!

@ML-lp8jw Жыл бұрын

记得你说过中外夫妻沟通和相处的挑战之一是有时候很难判断两人行为或者认知上的差异更多来自于性格还是文化背景（大概是这个意思）也许有时候只有用爱去克服。

@sf3919 Жыл бұрын

Love your videos. Have been waiting for a long time.

@kaisaa4318 Жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful video again ❤ You are so gifted in film making! 😮

@abbyw4387 Жыл бұрын

永鴻的幸運在於娶了一個優秀又善良的人米粒。相對而言永鴻需要進步的空間很大，米粒是值得學習和珍愛的老婆。

@johnw6725 Жыл бұрын

說的真誠！！

@dongwu518 Жыл бұрын

Smile is the most powerful weapon！I wish you health and peace! 扎西德勒！

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

The sam to you! ❤

@londonstannow1103 Жыл бұрын

You guys are so sweet.

@mollylysowski6656 Жыл бұрын

U two are truly inspiring family and loved the answers on love so true being married comes and goes like the tide and u grow through hardships and love also think so amazing your kids get to exp two diff places how amazing that is

@davidcheong7421 Жыл бұрын

Thanks

@MiriamFollin Жыл бұрын

thank you so much 🥰

@laurakelly631 Жыл бұрын

Great interviews! Excellent questions and thoughtful replies. It is a pleasure to peak in to your life as you life it with such grace. Your plans are good. I feel I learn a lot by keeping in touch with your videos.

@karenavey2183 Жыл бұрын

Miriam, your description of the ebb and flow of love resulted in me walking around in a daze for a bit! I was married to a Nanjing man for 11 years and regret so much. What if I had conceived of love as I experience the ocean? Maybe I would have been more able to accept the ebb and relish the inevitability of the flow.