Interview with Late to Lesbian Couple, Lisa and Aime

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2 ай бұрын

In this video, I interview another late to lesbian couple, Aime and Lisa. Aime and Lisa share their journeys of realizing their true sexualities, coming out to their husbands and separating, meeting each other, experiences with coming out to others, how things have been with their kids, and more!
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@user-ri6mw8if1t 2 ай бұрын

Left my 34 yrs marriage to live my true self 9 yrs ago. 3 adult children and 6 grandchildren, all accepting. Have had 2 relationships and realize this is how I'm suppose to be living. Hoping to find my forever partner. ❤🌈🇨🇦

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

So happy for you! Your person is out there! ❤️🌈

@torresmaria842 2 ай бұрын

Been with my now wife for 38 years. We got married in 2015 when marriage was legalized in Florida. She is now 81 and I am 69. She has 4 children and great grandchildren and they all accept us, as long as mom, grandma is happy...I love them , they love me..

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Awwww love this!!!

@ShaunaMorgan 2 ай бұрын

I never married a man, but did date only men until I was about 25. I knew I had crushes on girls, even in elementary school, but figured that was normal to like a good friend that I enjoyed hanging out with. The first time I went on a date with a woman who asked me out, I knew instantly why I had never been happy, even though the men I dated were wonderful people. From that point on, I was never apologetic about who I was... As they say, "The people who mind, don't matter and the people who matter, don't mind."

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

Love that quote!! ❤️

@arthousefilms 2 ай бұрын

17:43 "Everything that you want and are scared of is right on the other side of these words" "There's no going back" - This is a power concept! It's amazing how merely uttering words can change so many things and lives. Wow! Language has a lot of power.

@veronicacaridad8489 2 ай бұрын

Hi Emily, great interview. My wife and I are both late life lesbians, I was married for 14 years, with my ex husband for 20 years. My wife also married to a man. We are both in our early 50’s and this interview felt a lot like our life. My wife and I have been married for 9 years and been together for 14. I’ve know my wife for over 30 years and never connected as young women the way we connected later in life. We both laugh about how we really did not even really saw each other as lesbians and we just didn’t know or really stop to think about who we really were as young women. I am truly grateful every day that after 20 years my wife and I reconnected and we took that step to be our true self’s. It’s difficult on everyone and difficult on us but like they said, everything falls into place sooner or later. Thank you again for this great interview.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Awww you're welcome and so glad you enjoyed it and related!! Always great to know others who have gone through this!

@khristanelson5076 2 ай бұрын

As someone who is struggling to take that next step and tell me husband the truth, this is really helpful and a confidence booster. My biggest fear is my kids. They are 5.5 and 2 years old. I’m scared to break up their home. My husband and I don’t really fight, but I am miserable inside trying to live this fake life I have built for myself while trying to do the “Christian things” and deny myself and suffer for the last 14 years. I’m officially dead inside and know that I need to make the next move. But I’m terrified of the middle phase. I just can’t seem to work up the courage to tell him and take that next step.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Hey! Have you seen the free live workshop I'm having on here tomorrow?? It's all about navigating this messy middle and addressing those fears!

@khristanelson5076 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian I’ll have to check it out! Thanks!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

You're welcome! There will be a recording too in case you don't catch it live

@Aimelee 2 ай бұрын

This comment made me cry. Sending big Hugs to you…the part you are in is so hard. I hope you find the courage one day. ♥️

@khristanelson5076 2 ай бұрын

@@Aimelee Thank you so much.

@LaShaynaMonique 24 күн бұрын

Sheesh! Here I am thinking i'ma "late bloomer" for coming out at 25, (35 Now), and much more mature women are braving it and doing the same even 10 yrs later then I. SO brave. SO courageous. SO beautiful at the end of the day... If i love anything about this time and space in life, it's that we're all collectively becoming MORE of who we're meant to be and having the courage to do so... BLESSINGS! xo

@TheLateLifeLesbian 24 күн бұрын

Love this and I agree! I do think we're finally getting to a time where more people are feeling safe and brave enough to be their true selves ❤️

@Aimelee 23 күн бұрын

I love this comment so much. ♥️

@luckygardeniasdashboardcon9214 2 ай бұрын

Loved hearing about other Latebloomers … It is teally nice to know there are others on the same path!

@bichonhavanese6896 2 ай бұрын

Dear Emily! I am writing to you from Europe because I have to say that this was an excellent, perfect, deeply empathetic and extremely intelligent conversation. Lisa and Aime are wonderful women, and so are you. It was an uplifting feeling, to take part in this, it would help a lot in the hysterical non-acceptance, if many people knew how this is not a disgusting and terrible thing, and were able to notice that love is love. We are still far from normal thinking, but this conversation would help a lot for those who still cannot accept and help, only shout and make it difficult.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching and for the wonderful feedback! I agree that the world needs more awareness of this and is a huge reason I do all of this. Hopefully one day we can all be accepted as we are and the world can see the love is love ❤️

@janetmorgan876 2 ай бұрын

Any woman can

@pridetherapy 2 ай бұрын

Great Interview! I came out when I was in my mid-20s so this isn't my experience, but I really appreciate the work you are doing with women coming out later in life. Keep up the amazing work.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Aw thank you so much!! ❤️🌈

@torresmaria842 2 ай бұрын

Just cane across your video and i watched the whole chat. Share it to my nephew and my niece that are young and coming out both in different states . I am sure they will feel better after watching your interview..Thank you for sharing ladies..

@christianajones3312 2 ай бұрын

Wow! this is SO refreshing! This is one of the few sites that I can relate to. I fell in love with a woman when I was 56, at the end of my 40-year marriage with a man. I felt like I had been let out of a cage. My relationship felt like the most natural thing in the world. I had always been in deeply intimate platonic relationships with women. This just went a step further. We broke up.I feel like I just opened this door and I have no wish to close it. But, I am not a dating app type of person. Happy I opened the door tho!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

So happy you figured this out for yourself too!!

@meeraragbir6690 2 ай бұрын

Dating apps are crazy tbh it's tough to meet real ppl especially in wlw community

@celinel9750 2 ай бұрын

A 58y gold stars here, so not seeking for advise, but I LOVE your content. I know it's helping many late coming out lesbian and realy hope your chanel will grow. I sub 😀

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Aww well thank you so much! I appreciate you commenting and if other late lifers read this, it will help them too! Many are worried about being accepted by life long lesbians so this will definitely help show there is acceptance 🤗

@celinel9750 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian I could talk for hours about that, I will just say that all the lesbian will be supportive of any age and stage coming-out woman. That is the sister-houde lesbian bound, it's real and it's their. To be invested in a relationship is an other thing and will depend on each one. Mostely ''long-lesbian'' will be afraid of just being the rebound, so doesn't want to get emotionaly invested. And their is also all the ''coming-out stages'' that we don't want to get back in it, if I can say, so depend on the ''new-lesbian'' level of confort of being ''out'' in public places or that type of thing. Again, it will difere from one to the other, but for sure you can always seek for support with ''long-lesbian'' that may be around you 😀

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

@@celinel9750 I completely understand this! After I came out and was very publicly out, there was no going back for me and I wasn't willing to hide who I was because someone else wasn't ready to be fully out and hadn't fully embraced who they are. My work primarily focuses on women in the messy middle transition phase from being with a man to coming out, but I also really encourage women who want to start dating that they need to really be able to own who they are and be comfortable being out in order to find happy fulfilling relationships because being your true self is what creates healthy relationships.

@celinel9750 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian I've already watch few of your video and like them, one thing that I haven't heard yet is the ''internal homophobia'' wich is a big deal for many, been with man or not, those stereotyped idear are deep and once you realize that ''we are homophobic'' facing ourself, it help to unlock those knots. Love your content 🙂

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

@@celinel9750 definitely very true too. I've had conversations with women about that but haven't talked about it on here really yet

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 2 ай бұрын

I’ve been out since I was around 5 with my first crush on a 13 year old girl so I can’t relate too much to this process; however I wouldn’t have it any other way even through the pain of homophobia. 💜💕💜💕

@billbrennan8405 Ай бұрын

As a father of two daughters I love them so much that I feel that I would be supportive of their happy happiness if they came with any change in their lives. My daughters were a gift from God for us to care for and they must live their own lives that makes them full and Happy . Three beautiful ladies sharing their stories with us all , Thank You , ❤

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

Awww thank you so much for sharing this 🤗❤️

@alexmartinez5199 2 ай бұрын

Great interview with other couples in the social media world, thanks for sharing.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!! 😊

@dulcespinelli 2 ай бұрын

Hello from Brazil! So glad to have found your channel! I was strictly hetero until the age of 42 (by which time I had already been married and gotten divorced), and then I fell in love with a woman, and we were together on and off for almost four years. Unfortunately, even though I have had a few relationships after that first one - and almost 20 years have passed -, I still haven't been able to build the sort of relationship you guys have, and that makes me sad. I am so glad for Aime and Lisa, though, and for you and your wife as well! And kudos for doing such important work 🥰

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Awww thank you! And I'm so sorry to hear that you haven't been able to find that type of relationship. I know it can take some people a very long time but it is worth it!

@dulcespinelli 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian I am sure it is, and I won't give it up while I'm alive, lol!

@tonitalas1757 2 ай бұрын

Awesome discussion 👏

@dianaking8828 2 ай бұрын

Power to all of you have freed yourselves to live your sexuality. As an older lesbian who let the the bloom blossom in her 20’s I know that you wouldntve found it any easier, may not have met and have the great family life you now have.

@lynnw7618 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. I knew who I was, and left my Ex. I did not tell him, I just didn’t love him, for years and didn’t have any intimacy for several years. I felt nothing of him. I am older now, it’s been ten years, since I left him, and I still don’t have the courage to go out ask out or date. I am sooooo looking forward to when I can. At 62, how am I going to meet a lesbian? I don’t even know anyone like me!!!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

There's more out there than you think! I've heard from a lot of women in their 50s and 60s that feel the same way but you just have to put yourself out there 🤗

@celinel9750 2 ай бұрын

The hardest ''coming out'' you'll have to do in your all life is to yourself, once that one is done you'll feel free... Look out for LGBTQ+ allience in your area, you'll be surprise how many of us are out their, you are beautyfull so let that smile shine and the rest will come.

@luannlouch9524 2 ай бұрын

I didn't come out until my 30s. My wife of 16 yrs passed 10 years ago. I've met real creeps on dating apps. I'm 62 now. It's hard to find people now.

@sdavis6456 Ай бұрын

@@luannlouch9524 Hang in there Luann. I lost my partner of 25 years 5 years ago. It is tough trying to start over. I don’t know how to either. You are not alone.

@FM-tx5es 2 ай бұрын

Delightful interview! When’s part 2???

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Hahaha not sure about that!

@artbykarma Ай бұрын

This was So good to listen to. Very relatable and fuels my bravery 🚀❤

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

Are you going through this??

@artbykarma Ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Yes! Moving slowly

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

@artbykarma it's your own journey so it's ok to move as quick or as slow as you need to. If you'd ever like to talk more, I offer free consultations. This is the link if you'd like to do that 😊 thelatelifelesbian.com/freeconsultation

@artbykarma 14 күн бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thank you - I will sign up in June if possible - work is busy now and it's tough with the time difference. I live in Thailand

@hfortenberry 2 ай бұрын

Emily keeps interrupting Aime. Aime got cut off several times before getting to answer the question. For example, she never got to tell how long it took her family to accept them. Emily just started talking and then changed the subject after Lisa answered. This happened a few times. A good interviewer makes space for people to share at their pace rather than bulldozing over them.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your feedback. There are just so many facets of this whole journey that sometimes one comment sparks another idea and only so much we can cover in a short amount of time.

@hfortenberry Ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Yeah, also, I later watched a video of you with your spouse and now I see why you jump in a lot. Your partner is a very quiet person. It all makes sense now! 😂

@khristanelson5076 2 ай бұрын

Well… I just finally did it. I just blew up my life. My husband knows. He’s so hurt and angry. And this is so scary and painful. But there is no going back now. Trying to be there for him and our kids while I’m also suffering so bad.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Awww I'm happy for you but know how hard this stage is. There is a lot of grief experienced by everyone. If you can, find yourself some support because trying to bear everyone's pain including your own can sometimes feel impossible and it's so helpful to have an outlet for yourself. I know you want to be there for everyone but you also have to take care of yourself to get through this. I'm proud of you for taking this huge step and I promise it does get better if you keep going. 🤗❤️

@khristanelson5076 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thank you for all that you do and putting yourself out there to help others. I’m so grateful I found your channel. I’ve already come out to a couple friends. And they have been so accepting and supportive. That is what helped give me the courage to follow through with my husband. One day at a time… Lots to work through, but I do feel a bit more free already and cannot wait to find the woman of my dreams to love!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

@khristanelson5076 so happy to hear that for you! And you're welcome 🤗

@mkd1266 2 ай бұрын

It is hard. It will take time and kindness-for your husband, kids and YOURSELF. Will send prayers, positive energy your way.

@dulcespinelli 2 ай бұрын

Congratulations on your courage! I really hope everything gets a lot better in the very near future!

@pemman 2 ай бұрын

Nice one to you both. So pleased you found your soul mate. 😊😊

@lindatroop761 2 ай бұрын

Hello, Emily, I really enjoyed this interview, even though I am not a "late life lesbian." However, I realized as I listened to these women tell their stories, that I was emotionally identifying with them. You might ask why. I was in a 13-year relationship with a woman when I met another woman who was to become the love of my life., and realizing that I could not ignore my feelings, I began the slow process of ending that partnership. What I had begun to realize is that I had been so lonely in that relationship and had delayed facing the truth of our incompatibility. I went through all the things that these women describe including the guilt and heavy burden of shame for ending this long-term partnership in order to move on to a relationship with another woman. And my partner at the time was emotionally and physically abusive. I have now been with this woman for 34 years, so it is a happily ever after story, but the emotional pain of that time still stays with me. I wonder if you have ever given serious thought to interviewing lesbian couples who had to face that they weren't happy or thriving in a relationship that they thought was a forever thing, but then had to face the pain and guilt of leaving one lesbian relationship for a new one. Thank you, Emily, for the good work that you do. I just discovered your channel, so I will be listening to your other interviews and discussions.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching and thank you so much for sharing this! I actually think this could be a great idea to demonstrate that these feelings and emotions are present no matter what the sexual orientation! I have a straight friend who went through a divorce around the same time I did and I know how much she struggled too and has thought about trying to interview her at some point too. I'd actually love to discuss interviewing you if you'd be open to it! If so, send me an email at thelatelifelesbian@gmail.com and we can chat 😊

@lizgreen5993 2 ай бұрын

Hi all...please know that this site is life saving. I have been in love with a woman since high school unfortunately she passed and I have an ache in me that is so profound. If there is someone who understands a woman's tender and longing heart could you please help me find a connection to sincere friendship and understanding love and kindness. 70ish and not afraid to love again. Thanks for reading this.

@meeraragbir6690 2 ай бұрын

Hi hru, there's a lady in this comment section who's 62 maybe you can say hi to her 😊

@kathrynhall1136 2 ай бұрын

Good morning my friend, i do apologize for your loss of your great love of your life. My hope for you, and your future endeavors. That you find happiness, joy, and love in your life once again.

@kathrynhall1136 2 ай бұрын

I am honored to have read your post, have a wonderful day ahead and stay warm and safe. P.S. Thank you for sharing your story of loss, but of strength and bravery.

@kinglear7 2 ай бұрын

Great interview I just wish we got more info on how Aime and Lisa met. How long into their marriages did they meet? Where did they meet? Online, work, event? When did feelings of friendship turn into romantic feelings for them and how did they approach that conversation with each other. etc

@hfortenberry 2 ай бұрын

I agree. I felt like Emily dominated the conversation and I really wanted to hear more from Aime but she didn’t have much chance to get a word in edgewise.

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

There's just so much to discuss in a short period of time and the primary purpose of these interviews is to discuss the coming out journey and realization of sexuality while married to men for other women who are going through that.

@GradEdPsych 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I’m just recently been coming out. I really need to hear I’m not the only one.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Definitely not! Are or were you with a man in this process too?

@pridan94 2 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@lovesstory550 2 ай бұрын

❤

@VikingDiariesTV Ай бұрын

In fairness, I can't think of anyone in the world who would not be mesmerized and/or totally distracted if Angelina Jolie walked into the room they were in. 😉

@IsabellaLopez-yy6lt 2 ай бұрын

Exactly i feel the same I've checked all the boxes but im still stuck here, coz i have two kids 10 and 7 n i cant just leave them n walk away they deserve better life n that make me struggle everyday, in addition to the fact im Muslim so i have mental n physical struggle inside my head n body

@Aimelee 2 ай бұрын

Big hugs to you. It’s so hard. I hope one day you find peace. ♥️

@jammu157 2 ай бұрын

When my daughter came out it was kind of sweet moment; she have had a friend to sleepovers and she asked if we can go to IKEA to buy a wider bed for them so her friend dont have to sleep on the floor anymore. Ofcourse we did and while we chouse the bed i asked if there is a reason to sleep under the same matrise and her nod told me everything. After that i asked if she want to me to buy a wider blanket amd pillow allso. Her smile told me everything. They were 14 at the time.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Awww

@hfortenberry 2 ай бұрын

That is precious. You’re a good parent. ❤

@Gsd112 2 ай бұрын

Such a beautiful couple

@MdAlihossenblogevideo 2 ай бұрын

wow

@ginagina73774 2 ай бұрын

Family should be unconditional love. Ego maniacs if not. Yr good people end of. ❤

@carmelinhawaii 2 ай бұрын

You are lucky to find your partner in the process. I don’t know how to find someone to even date and see. Anyone have any ideas on how to get out ther

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

Unfortunately online dating and social media are the main places people seem to connect these days. Instagram and TikTok have a pretty decent lesbian population and is a place I even connected with women before meeting my wife. And then ended up meeting my wife on Bumble

@carmelinhawaii 2 ай бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Yeah….slim pickins. I can tell some of my good friends are curious too, but I can’t imagine being with them personality wise

@mollynicole4614 Ай бұрын

I had a few crushes on boys when I was a teenager. But I think I just grew up automatically thinking that I would be with a boy because that's the idea you are raised with. But I remember I didn't get excited about like talking about boys like the other girls would. They would talk about boys being cute and I would be thinking, "really?? that guy?" I felt out of the loop whenever girls were oogling over guys. As a young adult I never found men attractive really and for a while I told myself that maybe someday I will meet a guy and I will magically be attracted to him. But after some years I told myself maybe I should be open to being with a woman since I am not attracted to men. Later I joined a non profit and I had this sudden attraction to a woman in the group. I said, "But she is a girl." Later in another non profit group I fell in love with a woman who was in that group. I was happy I was able to fall in love with a woman. I have no idea if she felt the same way or not. I'm 40 and have never been in a relationship but I consider myself a lesbian. I have been using dating websites for the past 22 years but people don't respond to my ads. Except like twice in the past year but they stopped talking to me and we never met.

@TheLateLifeLesbian Ай бұрын

Dating is hard. You just have to keep putting yourself out there and be willing to speak up when you like someone to find out if the feelings are mutual 🤗

@nonylcadelina 2 ай бұрын

🌈🏳️‍🌈🤟🏻😊

@walteragentplummer7031 2 ай бұрын

How you handle the biblical statement/ same sex, is considered a sinful relationship if your having sexual relations?

@fresh-eggs 22 күн бұрын

The bible is an unethical book.

@romancox5386 Ай бұрын

Aime is a beautiful woman.

@janhorton5197 2 ай бұрын

What with the sing-song voice for Pete's sake

@virginiahamel8973 9 күн бұрын

Emily ,you cut the other women off constantly You go on and on and on Really turned me to off to a show I could really might like

@TheLateLifeLesbian 9 күн бұрын

Thanks for the feedback. I'll review and keep this in mind

@jmo4521 2 ай бұрын

I guess I struggle with the thought that you had it all and still do. Living with a man is incredibly challenging because of our innate differences. The beauty of heterosexual marriage is that it reflects God. He knows marriage is difficult. It requires all the qualities of character that he teaches. To me, being with a same sex partner is, of course easier. It is not marriage as defined by God. It is just a relationship that is so much easier than being with a man because you are same sex. It is something new and different after weathering traditional marriage and quitting. Quitting and giving up on your vows and quitting being a nuclear family for your children. I am sure you are happy, but it is a selfish happy, a second chance at having it all. Happiness came at costs to others, after you reached goals that were once so important to you. I find this late in life change of attitude self serving,.

@lgn215 2 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that you struggle with such a natural expression of love. It's understable, in a way, for someone in your position to think we "had it all" from your vantage point. I think you're free to have your opinion; however, I think your opinion is the reason so many people struggle with coming to terms with living an authentic life. Your personal beliefs about God are your own. My personal belief is that God loves us unconditionally. God does not choose to love people because they fit in a box marked "heterosexual." In fact, I believe God wants all human beings that come into the world to love authentically. Period. Full stop. You can have a lot of things in life; however, if you do not have the ability to authentically and naturally love another human being, no matter your sexual orientation, then you can never claim to "have it all." Marriage is difficult because we are all imperfect human begins trying to co-exist. Heterosexual marriage is no more complex or difficult than same sex marriage. In theory, you have two human beings that want to love, respect and support the other in good times and in bad. Your comments would seem to indicate that we woke up one day and said, "Wow, men suck...this is hard. I want a best friend to go shopping with so I am going to blow up my whole life to go shopping." That is incredibly unfair to us and to anyone grappling with the same issue of realizing that they were brought into this world, naturally meant to love someone of the same sex and yet they have committed in body, mind and soul to someone that does not fit that description. We did not quit on our families because of this truth and it was not self-serving. In fact, it was the opposite. If we chose to deny our authentic nature to love someone of the same sex to better fit into that beautiful (your word) box of heterosexual marriage, then that self-inflicted misery and agony would have been unfairly projected and felt by all of those around us, including the men we were with and the children that we brought into this world. That type of self persecution and denial of authentic love would would have been the unnaturual and inauthentic way of living and not the way that God intended. At the end of the day, I guess I struggle with the thought that your God is such a cold-hearted, myopic and judgemental being. But maybe I should not blame your God and just give you the credit of owning such a cruel perspective on life and marriage.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 ай бұрын

This was beautifully said. Thank you for this response ❤️