My grandma would always tell me that she would be bi if she was younger and I always said she could still be bi regardless of who she's married to. She was so sweet and flabbergasted over the thought of being bi.

7:32 This was literally my mum when I came out as asexual “I felt the exact same way at your age (18) Everyone feels this way” To the point she got a gay boyfriend (who needed a cover at the time) just to avoid it 😭 She said “it was great! I got to be close to someone and had an excuse to hold hands and be close, but didn’t want to have sex with me!” I love her 💀

Mom tries to invalidate daughter’s lesbianism-stumbles-accidentally comes out of the closet. Poor mom. You can’t invalidate my sexuality now mom!!!! Fucking classic.

Yeah, I was totally one of those GenXers who thought you could choose your sexuality because I was suppressing my attractions to women. Fast forward to age 48 when I finally figured out that I'm bisexual. Sorry heteronormativity, I saw around you (finally!)

For anyone wondering the lesbian feta means it's feta from Lesvos/Lesbos, a region in Greece...but let's be real they knew what they were doing 💅

"I see now that the circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant. It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are." - Mewtwo says trans rights

8:55 my dad (gen x) once got drunk and described himself as 'omnivorus' with his sexuality and said "your mother could be a man i wouldn't mind. shes the one person" he was at the time getting it conflated that bisexuality meant being non monogamous and id grow out of it. but i think about that all the time that he cluelessly kinda said hes pansexual

There's a really funny joke by a female comic, and she's talking about how she likes food more than sex. So she brings home a burger, and it's really good, and her roommate asks her if she had a guy over last night, because of the sound she was making. She was too embarrassed to tell the truth, but did admit that she did not have A guy over, she had five guys

My favourite colour is definitely 🌈. Also, as a borderline gen X person here, I genuinely didn't understand being bi was an option before my 20s. I specifically remember rationalizing as a confused teenager that I can't be lesbian because I had a crush on a guy, so I had to be straight. And some girls and certain female actresses just were really fascinating. That's the 90s and self-denial in a small town for ya.

"There's a picture of a beautiful woman with 6 pack abs, but I'm not going to show the picture." Me (and probably many other lesbians watching): 😢

18:00 Okay, [cis] Internet Uncle-Gay🏳‍🌈 here again to quote one of my favorite Ace icons: "Yes, I can find people attractive. Just because I find a sunset beautiful doesn't mean I wanna fvck it." 😆

"If you buy a guy flowers he will love you forever" = actual facts. I (fem) bought a guy flowers and it broke my heart how surprised and happy he was. Guys like little pretty things too!

I'm currently part of a DnD kinda campaign with a very conservative friend. And the sexual tension that gets generated between her male character and my own is the most hilarious thing ever. She can't see it. The other (conservative) players can't see it. But my husband and I are just quietly dying every session.

When I came out as non-binary, my stepdad was very confused. As a cis man, he claims "everyone" feels like a woman sometimes, a man sometimes, nothing to worry about! "Some days I feel like a woman, some days like a man, that's just life!" Me, being more of an agender non-binary, was like "Eh, I don't experience that at all. Ever heard of gender fluid?" but no, he identifies as a cis man, and is convinced this is how everyone experiences life. I'm definitely not gonna tell anyone else how to identify, if he feels like a cis man then that's his experience of being a cis man I guess, but it's a bit annoying when it's used to invalidate my identity.

the first one is just beautiful. We've done it. It's gay to be straight.

8:10 The other day, my mom said something I haven't heard her say as a teenager: "When your sexuality is developing you can be attracted to anyone." She said this in response to me trying to tell her that my lesbian and bi friends didn't choose their sexuality by saying, "Well, you're attracted to men. You can't make yourself be attracted to woman." I didn't pick up on it as a teenager (probably because I'm a 2 on the Kinsey Scale), but boy howdy does she have some suppression and mental gymnastics.

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

On the one with the girlfriend coming out as trans and becoming the boyfriend, it gets very weird when trying to tell a story about someone who later transitioned, even when you try to gender them correctly. I actually have a personal anecdote about this topic that I would like to share. For context, I am a gay cisgender man. Recently, a friend (NB) was asking for advice on what to do in a situation where they found themself developing feelings for a friend they weren't sure would reciprocate. I related to them a story of my experience being in a similar situation with an old college friend who at the time presented as male and as far as I knew was a straight man, but later came out as a bisexual trans woman. When telling my current friend the story, I made sure not to misgender the old friend and used her chosen name and she/her pronouns. Even though it was accurate to call her a woman, it felt very weird to me to refer to myself being attracted to *her*. I have never been attracted to women, so telling this story was just odd. I won't presume, but like to imagine that this was a taste of what it feels like for someone to have gender dysphoria.

As a 53 year old woman... I did not know bi sexual was a thing until about 5 years ago. I thought you were gay or you were straight. It was just the way I was raised. My parents were not homophobic at all. My mom had a gay couple friend who came over a lot. I'm not sure my parents knew that bi existed either. The internet has really opened my eyes. It explains so much about my husband and myself. We have both been attracted to the same gender (Mila was my crush too!) but we are still happily married for 30 years. I just thought we both appreciated the beauty of human bodies.. but maybe we are bi. I don't know. My oldest son doesn't label himself (he does identify as male) but he dates males and females. I'm glad his world is more open than ours was. I enjoy watching your channel. Yes. Gen X is sandwiched between boomers and millennials. I"m gen x

16:10 - There is a deleted scene from “Back to the Future” where Marty McFly is worried that kissing his 17 year-old mother (in 1955) would “make him gay”, to which Doc Brown replies: “Why shouldn't you be happy?”, totally not getting the 1985 meaning Marty implied. - I think this is the same thing that happened here: This #16 issue of “Betty and Me” is from 1968, when the sexual connotation hadn't yet developed, or at least wasn't as widespread. That's language change, everybody.

8:40 this was my case for the longest time, I had a very negative view on trans and nb ppl because I found that they were just being dramatic, causing a fuss, that they were all balled up over nothing. That was until, a friend of mine came out as a Demi-girl. Seeing as they were my friend I listened to their story, at the time wanting to help them out of their madness, and I told them “everyone feels that way” they looked at me long and heard, it turns out that everyone does in fact not feel that way, my gender is very much not cis, and I haven’t been happier since realising that I’m nonbinary

“In & Out” is such a cute movie! Please watch it! You can’t pass up seeing Tom Seleck snogging another guy… it is a thing of beauty ❤ totally worth watching. Yes mostly a “straight” cast with queerness being the main focus of the plot, but it’s so funny and tasteful done with the typical ‘90s stereotype of discovering identity late in life… I don’t know how to explain it just watch it! 😂

So my mom is gen x and always said the "oh everyone finds everyone attractive a bit" she recently came out as bisexual at 50 after finally realizing it. I was like "that's awesome! But yeah obviously lol" She wasn't homophobic she just honestly thought everyone was like her. Except for a few ppl who were fully straight or gay.

7:32 My mum recently came out to me and it meant the world ❤️ She shared a story about her and her first girlfriend getting beat up outside a bar for being together which broke my heart. I love her so much and I’m touched she shared it with me

TARDIS blue Also I was raving about how attractive Trevor Noah is and my straight cis manly man brother looks at me with big round eyes "OMG I KNOW RIGHT?" His wife was right there. Gotta love a secure dude.

💜 (for years I always said it was blue, cause I think I thought it was considered more masculine. I do really like blue still, I just really love purple)

As someone with a parent who said the “all girls have been attracted to a women once, but they turn out straight” and it was used to put me in the straight box because I “liked” guys before so that means I’m only straight (I’m not 100% yet but I say aro or queer) gotta love parents and also she doesn’t believe it’s possible to be bi (pan doesn’t exist for her) it’s either your straight or gay 😔

As a young boy 50+ years ago, I could not work out how anybody, man or woman, could find men attractive, I just never believed it, women were beautiful, men weren't. I'm 65 now and I realised a few years back that I'm gynosexual and agender or gender fluid. From my teens to my mid thirties I was very androgynous, my work allowed me to dress as I please and I presented feminine and masculine on a whim, my partners were cis women although I could have potentially had consenting relationships with anybody who was feminine. I don't mind how femininity is packaged, cis, trans, feme-man, (I'm a bit old for a femeboy!) As long as I'm attracted. With 2 of my relationships at that androgynous point in my life, I already had quite an established wardrobe and was always adding more as my work involved many trips to the West End London, (in fact I lived in North London for one of the relationships in the 80s,) they both used to raid my wardrobe if we were going out to an event or party; I never minded sharing clothes with partners and some friends that were women. Now I'm retired in the countryside, I do more practical stuff in my garden and workshop, I just dress in a hoodie, tee-shirt, sweat pants, and trainers, sort of unisexual and I spend a fraction of what I used to on hand made one off designer items. My identity is no longer so married to my appearance, well a little perhaps, I still have shoulder length hair and I do use Alice bands! I'm so glad the internet provides the young now with so much more information, I was often harassed by gay men when I was in my teens and early 20s, yet I knew I wasn't gay, but at least I also was able to attract some great girlfriends. My feminine clothes never put women off me (I was never the frilly transvestite type, I looked more like a present day yoga girl but with a stretchy minidress or skirt over my leotard and leggings and a wonderful large hand painted sweatshirt on top), it may have even helped overall. However without an internet I was not able to find a community of people who were like me or my label, but I did end up with some very supportive friends who accepted me as I came. Society in 80s Britain was possibly more accepting of different people than today, there was more institutionalised bigotry and racism, but people generally were more accepting of LGBTQ+ people. I got some comments on the streets of London when presenting feme but not many, gays were having a hard time still, trans people did not cause any animosity and just got on with their lives, a lot of laws hadn't changed and the police and the church were always a problem but the church was slowly changing. I think it is sad that in 2024 that young trans people feel that England is not a good place to be trans, not as bad as some places obviously, but the momentum for change has been lost. Some of that is because of 14yrs of conservative rule, the country is in quite a state. Brexit was an enormous mistake, and yes I told you so. I think we are the slowest recovering (financial), member of the G7 nations after the pandemic. We have had some terrible prime ministers since the conservatives got in. However whilst Labour were offering Jeremy Corbyn as an alternative it was never going to change. However now we are seeing new levels of anti-trans thinking from the conservatives as we have a transphobic prime minister, also some of the gay and lesbian communities are not being supportive, some even rewriting the history of the Stonewall riots to justify their stance on being TERFs. Hopefully things will improve but yesterday a court ruled in favour of a Gender Critical Feminist in case of "wrongful" dismissal involving the Open University, it doesn't look good. It's almost like now gays have been more or less accepted, they need some other minority to oppress and trans people who have been quietly living their lifes for years have become the target of hate, now instead of improving their situation, institutions, government etc is trying to make their lives more difficult. It saddens me to see some, not all, but some feminists, gays and lesbians turn on trans people, it saddens me that as I reach my final years that a lot of the progress I saw made in my life time is now going backwards. Stay safe and stay fabulous folks! 💐🤫♥️🧀🥖☕🇪🇺😼🐈‍⬛🐕🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌈🇺🇦💐

12:01 this one is absolutely sending me for NO REASON “I see the gay undertones, but I also see death” iconic

I agree, I think a lot of people who think being gay is a choice might actually be bi and not know it. I wish I was bi, but I'm sadly just an ally.

Big agree on retroactively misgendering being uncomfortable. My mum is like “well you were a girl back then!” And I cringe every time (she’s trying tho)

9:55 it’s not staging a love story! It’s about bumping into someone on the street and having an entire full blown romantic sequence with them flash through your mind out of absolutely nowhere… honestly relatable

fun animal facts: gulls can detect food from 5 km (3 miles) away and are mire likely to eat it if it has been touched

In reference to the Lesbian Feta: there is a real Greek island called Lesbos, and I believe the feta was either made there, or made in that style, which I assume was the original intention of the sign XD

15:35 as a trans woman myself, i think that it's okay if they agree to it because it's a wholesome joke, and not a transphobic one

In & Out is a really good movie it came out (lol) in the late 80s or 90s and it’s about a gay teacher realizing he’s gay and the backlash (and eventual acceptance I think?) he gets from the community. It’s definitely kid appropriate

Jamie not being entirely sure that the picture was of Henry cavil is so ironic given his role as superman

My favourite colour is blue. Especially dark blue

12:06 i see the gay undertones... but i also see death iconic

When I first came out as bisexual [now identifying as pansexual & nonbinary], my Mom told my Grandpa. Apparently, his response was 'everyone is bisexual'. Edit: I've been going through your videos & saw the one where you came across 'The Bisexual Manifesto', which I also hadn't heard of, and from that I realize both bisexual & pansexual fit for me. Younger me had learned that bisexual meant binary attraction.

My favourite colour is blue, like the dark deep blue you see in winter when the night is already falling around 6pm

Purple, the darker the better. As a child, my plum crayons would always be nubs because I used them so much.

7:31 I do suspect there are loads of bisexuals in the older generations that think "everyone" feels that way, but it's important to remember that aesthetic attraction doesn't necessarily imply sexual attraction. They absolutely can go together, and I think this person's mom means it that way! But, you know, let people tell their homies that they look good without assuming they're gay.

13:14 I’ve seen In and Out! It’s about a teacher that’s assumed to be gay by one of his former students and ends up realizing that he *is* actually gay. There’s some really funny bits but it also plays into gay stereotypes pretty heavily.

My favourite colour is red! 🛑 Also, fellas, is it gay for a man to like women? 🧐

Gotta be nice minty greens. Thats my fave. Worst would be red for me personally.

my mom isn’t homophobic but i totally think she fell into the wrong age group trap. shes an old ass millennial like the kind that refuses to believe she is one and she told me one time “maybe if i grew up in another time i would be bisexual” and i just had to sit there like mom no thats not how it works

My mom legit told me when I came out "It is a choice. I can find women attractive and know that they have the same parts and would know what to do, but I made a choice to love and marry your father". Flash forward about a decade and I have to remind her that she "chose to love and marry my father" and they both refuse to file for divorce.

💙-- navy, ultraviolet, indigo, teal, turquoise, French, sky, royal, periwinkle--- I love every shade--💙

Purple, specifically lavender, is my favorite color 💜

As a boomer many homosexuals and bisexuals married and had children to keep jobs, not be arrested and lived on the down low all their lives because of things like the Stonewall uprisings and the laws. Much better today but still a long way to go.many laws were still in effect in the seventies that were used on Alan Turing.

I definitely agree with the thing about older generations! My mom id's as straight and is homophobic, but the way I've heard her talk about some women.. Like one time at a bar she was enamored with this tall beautiful lady, was raving to her about how beautiful she was (she doesn't go up and compliment people, that was very rare) and kept bringing her up for the rest of the night. At one point later I mentioned to her one of my friends being bi and she said "oh so she's confused". I'm pan but have only told her that I'm 'not straight' bc I don't want to deal with cookware jokes. She doesn't say anything about me not being straight, besides implying she doesn't agree with it. That's her problem ✨

I flip-flopped between orange and yellow, but i’ve concluded that my favorite color is, indeed, yellow. 💛 Miles “Tails” Prower from the Sonic The Hedgehog franchise was definitely a massive contributor to that, as i’ve seen him as a sort of role model, or at least a character i would cheer for. Also, yellow is bright and cheery the way i tend to see it. I considered orange for the same aforementioned reasons.

12:31 it took me *way* too long to realise that this comment was meant to be about praying 😭

13:25 In and Out is a cute film about a teacher who gets outted by his former student's oscar acceptance speech. He's not out, even to himself. So of course he goes around denying that he's gay but...

Teen pregnancy in my rural town is so prevalent they have teen health center. When my daughter was 14 I went there to fill out papers saying if she wanted condoms she could have them. At 16 they don’t need parental permission. At 13 she had two classmates become pregnant. Is wanted to make sure she had full access if she needed it. Didn’t start dating until 16 but that doesn’t mean anything. They could get the pill without permission at any age.

I'm on "the spectrum," so I can be pretty persnickety about color and especially color combinations. I generally don't care for colors left of green on the spectrum, and favor the colors to the right of yellow. Violet is my favorite and has become my signature color over the years.

12:41 sounds like someone is telling on themselves for having a skill issue.

I’m a trans-woman, but also someone that writes fiction with trans characters (nothing published, just personal projects) and I think the gendering of trans people’s past is complex. While the default should always to be use their chosen gender, there are some expectations. When talking about pre-transition for a character I’ll often lean towards using “…who people perceived as …” as a way to address the “accepted” gender at the time, while also not invalidating the gender they are.

We did high school musical for our school play last year and I haven’t watch the movie so I didn’t expect this but at the end, it’s revealed one of the side characters had a crush on Sharpay and it implied they got together in the end but the side character was played by a girl I knew and I will forever be extremely happy about that suddenly gay moment :))))

7:17 i've seen videos like this before lol the idea is someone secretly gives one of the couple flowers so that they can give it to their partner, kinda helping them be romantic but this version is "nah i'm just giving them to you lmao lets kiss"

My favourite colour is emerald green...the bluey dark green shade(s) really hits a different spot in my brain

Im almost sure my mom would have been bi if shed been born later. When I was coming out as bi she did a lot of the “well no cuz when I was your age I loved my best friend and wanted to get married and hold hands and live together but EVERYONE DOES THAT” (Shes come a LONG way since then 💜💜💜)

16:01 it's called lesbian feta, because it's from the island Lesbos. The reason that gay women are called lesbian is because Sappho was from Lesbos.

Thank you Jamie, for making me laugh every day! When I see you, I see what I could be someday. You helped me realising I was trans and because of you I won‘t give up! I love all your videos, you are great!🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

7:23 Idk how big of a trend it is, but I’ve seen a few videos of people going up behind guys who have their arm around a girl and putting a bouquet in their hand, so that the girl will be surprised with flowers from her boyfriend (even though they’re not actually from him), so this is a subversion of that

the generational bi-erasure, particularly for women, was one of those things where it wasn't so much a personal denial; ALL the material available told us it was "normal" for women to fantasize about other women. Some books/magazines/educational films leaned hard into the difference between fantasy and actual desire (ex: not really wanting rape fantasty, BDSM, other kinks, etc.); later stuff claimed that since all the available porn/media, etc. was geared towards men, we associated sexuality with women b/c it was all that was shown. took me decades to reject all that, but even when we actively looked for the info, we were told it didn't mean what we thought it meant

Daily reminder: You don’t need to justify what you identify as to a stranger, especially online. Keep up the great work Jamie! 🏳️‍⚧️

13:20 "In & Out" is a movie about a guy coming out. So it's the latter, Jamie.

When I came out as bi my mom went into the whole "everyone is a little bit bi" thing and said dismissively that she'd even found some women attractive and I'm just sitting there like ..........

For 30 years my favourite colour was always blue... Last year I wore a olive green button up with binder the first time in office and my colleagues one day one by one complimented how much olive green suited me and how confident I looked. I know it was because I dared to be myself. But ever since I really love olive green!

10:35 that euphoria of hearing they/ them included

I got a flower from my first gf (I'm amab), I think it's one of my core memories.

Thank you, Jamie, for remembering Gen X (7:58). No one else does.

15:06 I kinda feel the same. Like it made me feel a bit uncomfortable, but I also recognise that it wouldn't have worked otherwise.

My Mum basically came out as Demisexual/Ace-Spec on accident via the "Everyone feels that way!" but to my FRIENDS discussing it. Then got really mad when I explained what it was later, said I'm that, and that it's possible she could be too if she feels the same. Yikes. She supports me, but can't see herself as queer at all in any way, gets mad at even the idea. She also gets mad at any of the making fun of Token or Toxic straight people jokes. Kinda sad. She always says she is progressive and supportive, but like...she's got internalized shit to work through that she needs to not project too. She is kinda tone deaf how she affects others via invalidation at times. In family therapy so things are better tho. :)

08:09 Both my parents. They thought being cishet was the only okay thing to be. Both were like “no yeah, not identifying with your gender is normal af. So’s being attracted to multiple genders. Just don’t.” And they fell in love with each other so hard that over a decade after my mom passed away, my dad said “dating after loving her would be like forcing a lion to live on grass.”

15:25 I agree, but in a specific context like this, when it’s a fictional or theoretical character and necessary for it to make sense, then I dont think its too much of a problem. Ofc that changes if its not a fictional or theoretical character or its not necessary.

My (male) friend messaged me saying "It sounds so gay but I care about you". People, is it gay to care about your friends?

15:55 i think it means feta from the Lesbos island

Hi, I just helped my sister buy her first padded bras after giving her mine (not padded) a few days before. She likes them and I'm happy to help a fellow trans person.

12:12 it definitely looks like a ghost 👻👻

I love looking at and trying to use, Red, blue and purple in my life. I find my self always being drawn to green though. Painting green, and wearing green. I think my favorite color is green.

Hours on the internet, minutes on your knees "Take me to Church" by Hozier starts playing

9:24 honestly that guy looks like he cpuld be Megan Fox's brother 😂

I came out to my mom as bi when I was 15. Her response was "everyone thinks they're bi at some point in their life". Sus! Based on what my dad's said about their past as well, I feel like my parents were polyam before they actually got married and had me and my sisters. But wouldn’t be surprised why I turned out pan and polyam.

11:55 - An in-and-out-and-in-and-out-of-body experience.

I think the video at 7:00 is a reference to a TikTok where a guy goes around secretly giving people roses for their partners. The idea of the original was to show how excited the partner would get when they received the rose

🎶 Spider-man, spider-man, Eating out Uncle Sam 🎶 😂

Yellow is my favorite color too, the exact shade you described

Favorite color(s): turquoise & teal (basically all combos of blue and green that sea water can look like, depending on location, time of day & weather)

7:31 I experienced this. I'm a member of Gen-X. I lived through the AIDS terror and seeing vigilantly murders of gay individuals on the news. I'm bi-sexual. I married a man and had children and after several years I went through my 'self-discovery'. I never cheated, my husband was very supportive. But yes, I thought being attracted to women was normal, at least I had tried to convince myself of that.

9:00 huh... that's actually a good point that would make a lot of sense

In and Out is an adorable Disney short about coming out to your parents as an adult. It's fully family friendly. It is less than 15 minutes long.

Love that Jamie brought up the "well being gay is a choice/having attraction to a gender doesn't mean you're not straight because _I_ chose to be straight" internalised homophobia thing he and Click discussed a while back

In & Out is the best movie ever! It has Kevin Klein and Tom Selleck! It's a teacher who is seemingly outed by one of his former students the week before his own wedding during his acceptance speech at the Oscars. It was thought up in part because of Tom Hank's acceptance speech for the movie Philadelphia in which he named two men as the finest gay Americans he knew. They thought, what if the person wasn't out? Or even realized they were gay? It's a hilarious movie and you will be dancing along by the end. It's also a happy ending which is always awesome to find.

Favourite colours are purple and pink mixing into magenta which i realize is basically the bi flag but it's also the colours that often get associated with cosmic horror from stuff like lovecrafts stories (see movies like the color out of space or from beyond). They just look really cool together.

I have a theory that everyone has 2 favorite colors, one they like wearing/on them, and one they like to look at or aesthetically For me, it's green and purple

Oooh! My favorite colors are red, purple and pink. ESPECIALLY when they're matched with black! ^^

The way Jamie puts his hands on his face _under his glasses_ in reaction to memes is so funny and relatable 😂