Best one yet. We often look at the non-Muslim society we live in and judge marriage based off that. We need to remember that the benefits of marriage are largely in the unseen. The barakah of following the sunnah and getting married may never be known to us in this world but I’m sure the pious among us who have been married for long periods of time can attest to them. This video & conversation is a great service to the ummah 👏🏻

Much needed video. Getting married is extremely difficult. May Allah help us all

My roommate got married 2 years ago and is bunking with me after his divorce…he is going through it. True eye opener on marrying as a Muslim in the west.

there's religious reasons to marry, sure. but divorce is mainly handled in a non-islamic way. from divorce theft of half the husbands assets, etc. Islam has at-fault and no-fault divorce. the laws that're applied to us are only for no-fault. Unfortunately, I know many brothers whose wives divorced for his wealth or immigration, may Allah protect us

May Allah Accept your works, and make it a means of acceptance and Guidance for the Ummah!

More than once I come across stories like the dowry issue. Men have to give their future wife a dowry. I am not going into the legality and morality of it. A rule is a rule. But what I am hearing is that family of prospective wife demands a house (in her name) or something like $100K in her name or some other absurd demand. The young man bails out because he simply does not have it or even if he does, he finds the demand simply too much. So they stay single. By the time the single woman turns 30, her "demands" start to slow down as she is getting less proposals. Absurd expectations (he must make at least 6 figures, he must have a paid off house, he must have a fat bank balance, he must be a DACTAR🤣, he must have etc) results in more people remaining single or getting married at a very late age. I wouldn't feel compelled a bit to sign a contract like that. And I am not the only one seems like.

There's a fundamental concept we tend to conveniently leave out of these conversations and that is, Marriage isn't for EVERYBODY

1. Consistant intamacy is the pro u say is part of marriage: women control the initiation (yes i know that it is furd upon the man and the women of the mairrage to satisfy the other sexaully, but honestly would u want to be with someone who is only doing the deed with you just becuase they know they cant say know as it is there obligation). like for example, we are told to give to our wives financial support, and I garuntee most men do want to do that, they want to give to there wives, but imagine if the wife found that the husband hates giving her gifts, or hates giving her clothes. would she feel that same satisfaction when she receives said gifts. answer is no. consistant intimicy, u can argue then that the reason she is not into it is becuase you are not giving her the proper love. I garuntee, there are alot of women who are not sexually attracted to the men they marry, my sister did that. my mother did that yet she never admits to it. yes the love grows from the marriage, but the man is usually attracted to the women, yet its not always the case the other way around. , so why would I want to get in a relationship like that, where intamacy is hit or miss 2. Its sunnah Half these people dont even pray sunnah salahs, let alone there furd prayers on time, expecting them to put such high regard for such an extremely taxing sunnah is just a recipe for disaster. 3. marriage ads consistancy and routine. ie, marriage ads stability in your life. if you did not have that before marriage, than what were u doing before marraige. i dont get this argument for marriage, you are supposed to have routine thoughout your life, smh, being dependant on someone for such a crucial aspect in life is dumb. 4. It helps Maintain society. Cant maintain society when antimarraige movement is now so normal (in the west). expecially when u are a minority now (if you are happily married). whats one drop of clean water (good marrige) gonna do in a pile of shi (wests new push of intimacy), you wont even notice the differnce. 5. Wife allows you to be vulnerable. so anyone who hasnt been married yet is some emotional mess. I dont get this view, yes a wife brings you that same stuff and even better that a thrapist can. but you dont need them, unless you are tramatized (and in that case, you probably shouldnt even be looking for a wife) A normal person doesnt need a therapist, the same reason you dont need someone to be vulnerable with. 6. give you greater purpose. With that same logic, i should just get a pet, I serve them, I just wont have to deal with all the compleixties and major responsiblities of having a wife. What i got from that is, marriage gives you responsibility, ie burdens, ie someone that now depends on u. 7. Giving your children stable house holds. what if you dont want kids? whats the point of a wife then. I am adment on the idea that, if you have a disease that may be even slightly genetical, you should not have kids, sadly i do have that. I have decided, no matter what, I dont want kids of my own genes, as I will only burden them, like my father did, as well as his father before him. I still dont see any good pros, no wonder alot of men are postponing there marriages

I love videos like this, so so important to discuss. Thank you both.

Excellent analysis 👏

Very interesting topic. Inshallah your channel will continue to grow and educate the Muslim public through such important conversations. Mashallah.🇲🇦🕋🕌

Basically the more a woman works or the higher level her career is, the worse her marriage prospects. Except the cases where women contribute to the household bills.

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Obaid has surprising insights. I think a little topic of men being MEN, but not using their power as a way of oppression so that there would be no need of the divorce system giving advantage to women.

How do you get married when you dont make alot of money and womens expectations are too high

Had haram relationships many times cause of western marriage laws. I have an investment property and $200k in assets and I ain’t risking getting married whether a prenup is involved or not.

Muslim or not, men are men and women are women. Men in general are not getting married these days for the same reasons.

An Eastern Philosophy vs a Western’ Philosophy so if you made you transfer to a Western society theirs your answer these American Muslim weather they were born here or not want to educate them self and date because of the failure of relationships they have better control they’re not going backwards

Is it worth it for muslim women? Muslim women work because we dont get anything in divorce after the iddat period.Its a safety net for polygamy and divorce to run lol That being said im not saying women must not also take care of things in thr home.Islam does not say earning is haraam.Bitter pill to swollow for muslim men.If you not going to give yout wife a salary if shes not working to save feminism will never go away

Honestly most women end up needing therapy because of men