As a girl, this was a really good message and it challenged me as well!

3 questions to ask 1.) Who currently has her heart? (It should be Jesus) * what does she love? * Who does she love? * Does culture have her heart? * Does any guy that will give her attention have her heart? * Does her ex have her heart? * Jesus shouldn’t be a part of her life but the point of her life Matthew 7:20 Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them. Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law Don’t just find someone who calls themselves a Christian. Find someone who lives like Christ 2.) What dictates her value? She was made in the image of God & that’s where her value should come from (not some LV bags or outer appearance) Shouldn’t be obsessed with her own image but be an image-bearer (God’s image) 1 Peter 3:3 - Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Proverbs 31 - Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised Value doesn’t come from looks. Is she holy or hot? What is she communicating by what she posts online? 3.) Can she follow you? If she hasn’t found value in Jesus, she won’t follow you - she will NEED you You shouldn’t be responsible for starting her fire for Christ. You should be there to fan the flames/make it grow Does she understand that marriage is an everlasting covenant? That divorce is not an option? Marriage shouldn’t be the end goal. It should be to raise disciples and provide hospitality You’d rather be 40 and single than 40 and miserable in a marriage with someone who didn’t put in the work to become this kind of person

WOW! As a single woman I have to say this was the best message I have ever heard about value, truth, God's word and the role both women and men should consider in the dating world. I feel so empowered and strengthened by this message

It's always the random videos that YT recommends that surprise me. He is Preaching! And it got so quiet at 13:39 lol I honestly felt the conviction through the screen. There are so many things he said that I know I fall short in

At the age of 37 this has been a huge transformation for me. I can’t wait to give my boyfriend these 16 pages of these two sermons. Lol! Best sermon ever hands down. 👍 Thank you Lord!

THANK YOU for this sermon!!!! We children of God NEED to literally ask ourselves these questions!! its never been about Marriage, ITS ALWAYS AND ALWAYS WILL BE ABOUT JESUS!!!!

This is soooo good. Just found this church and I love it so much already

Whoa Jennah's response about her mission from God 🙌 amazing!

This video was so good, it made me understand what I need to look for in a women and what kind of Man I need to be for my wife. Great Message Powerful Man Of God.

Thank you Holy Spirit for speaking such amazing wisdom through JD! Time to start asking questions and not settling or compromising!

This was absolutely FIRE

1st of all, this is pure gold. I normally only listen to Ben Stuart but thought, "let me check this out" and I'm blown away. This is timely. I REALLY needed this. Secondly, I I'm that woman, 34 years old, who's wondering, "where are these men who love God?" And I'm hoping they're somewhere out there wondering "where are these women?" But yes, I will be patient and continue to wait on God. It's absolutely worth it. God bless you, sir. I'm about to go straight to the next video about men.

Great message! Thanks so much!

👏🏼 This sermon has blessed me in my season of singleness. Thank you 🥲❤️ I’m seeking God & His kingdom FIRST! 🕊🙏🏼✝️

Love this message!

Love that you guys aren't compromising on Godly submission and leadership!

As I'm courting a guy right now, this is exactly what I need. This message is edifying!

This is 🔥, great reminders!

This series COULD NOT have come at a better time!

Thanks JD awesome messages!! Would love to hear a series on Godly friendships (new or old friends), having the right people in your life especially when God is changing you but your close "christian friends" stay the same. (people that you love). Thanks.

so good! great message!

Very helpful.. really resonated with me, especially the part about putting out bait and the sharks will bite! Taking a break from FB and the “fix” of the “likes”.. it truly doesn’t fill the void and focusing more on my soul .. thank you for such a great message ❤️

Great message. Many of my thaughts on the matter are similar

When you told us you're a match for your friend's kidney, that was a cherry on top. And you summed up this message perfectly from how you started it. Wow!!! God bless you and your loved ones.

Im questioning myself from the video started till then..this moment is changing how i think..

Thank you for talking about things that people say are “our rights” some girls say “guys should look away” and they do that. A lot of them do that. But I don’t want them to have to. I stand by your message! It’s true! I used to want to post things that I knew would get attention but werent holy and beautiful or humble, Jesus doesn’t need that from me to get from him every need met. I want to be like him not the world. Thank you for talking about the truth!!

im not kidding but listening to this talk was like looking in the mirror, makes me think i would legit be the best kingdom spouse

May God bless you all ❤️❤️

Shhhheeeeeeesh this is a good word

The shark 🦈 thing... 👌🏾 that hit.

I think girls like this do exist guys don’t lose hope, this sermon as many others that I have seen related to dating have been challenging and I look forward to be someone dateable every day. I too feel Christian guys don’t exist lol but they do! Is not in our timing but in God’s it’s hard but it may be the life we have planned for ourselves is not what God’s wants for us. We have to surrender to His will. Just as Rodgers said a relationship does not dictate our value we need to put our eyes in Jesus and wait He knows what is better for us, take this time to grow in Him He is enough.❤️

Lol the poses!!!! 😂😂

This is gonna get heat. I love this channel so much lol. I agree but I don’t think it’s wrong to not want to date someone your not physically attracted to. Just like you can to someone who you aren’t. But not being attracted to someone is kinda a sign you might want to hold on or think more about it.

Thx

*_So what's the difference between courting and dating?_*

So imma just put it out there. I had this with a girl who was super sweet and kind and absolutely everything that this video was talking about… and I just wasn’t into her. She checked every single box given. It wasn’t even an issue of “she’s giving too much time to God!” She was very devoted to me, we were BEST friends, we spent a lot of time together, the whole nine yards. And we both serve in a local church and a campus ministry, go on mission trips, retreats, you name it. But, I just wasn’t into her. I prayed and I prayed to develop a kind of emotional connection with her, to love her as she deserved to be loved, and weeks and weeks and weeks went by, and, nothing. She loved me fully, and she was exactly what this pastor was talking about. And it didn’t work out. It just wasn’t there, and now our whole friend group and church group knows and there’s a divide. So I’m a bit skeptical of this sermon now honestly. Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents.

amen and amen.

So difficult to find some these days who will stay and not go behind you’re back.My fear on dating and being single for the last 10years is no one is trust worthy and how can you find someone who’s actually Christian but just cause they say it you will fall for it only to regret it.Some how even through I’ve been single this long being single gle feels most of the time comfortable because I don’t have to worry about it.But then there are days when they seem extremely lonely and then I loose my mind idk 🤷‍♂️ really at this point what to do but I know the reality of people just hooking up and never committed to a relationship or marriage.At this point I say god help us or I could be like Paul and just stay single forever lol 😂

Amen!!!!

They're not lookin at the sun, they're lookin at the moon, dead hahaha

34:05 Wow first-hand experience

If you apply these questions to a girl (or the guy version for the guys) it really eliminates like 95% of people. Yes the 5% exist but then you add online dating, work, the fact that outside of college you don’t run into people your own age and socialize the same anymore. On top of that..guys can be slightly passive. It’s disheartening..yes you focus on God and let him take care of it…but it’s still disheartening

C’MON!!!!

These things are things that I have been seeing wrong with our society and even other Christian’s dating habits I never knew how to articulate it.

Ohh I guess I know why I'm not in a relationship yet... ("0.0)

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Is she dateable or is she debatable? Is she loveable or is she unlovable? Is she a winner or is she a loser? The answer depends on the first question.

Habakkuk 1:3 Why dost thou shew me iniquity, and cause me to behold grievance? for spoiling and violence are before me: and there are that raise up strife and contention. Habakkuk 2:4 Behold, his soul which is lifted up is not upright in him: but the just shall live by his faith. Luke 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. Acts 26:18 To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. Ephesians 1:18 The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, Revelation 3:10 Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I also will keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.

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yoh.

Jesus loves you

If anyone is looking for good marriage and dating advise, you should look up Voddie Baucham . He talks about godly women hood, godly manhood and marriage topics.

13:16

Wow wowowwwwww

1, 2, 3 which one is fake ?

Man i cant stand a preacher using language like DM’s but ill stay through to see if i can gather something from this.

Yall take his advice. I got hurt 2 days ago trying to get with someone who doesn't know Christ, ignoring my conscience .

This is a great message for Christians but there's a lot missing people can get out of prison or be new in recovery and be on fire for Jesus but haven't done any work or had any time to process and do some self work and change who they used to be. Just because we are sold out for Jesus doesn't mean we're not dealing with things like codependency or mental health issues or Integrity issues. Someone can be radically on fire for Jesus and be a sex addict and not delivered of that yet. You can marry someone that is new to recovery and they are on fire for Jesus and then you get married and wake up and they have relapsed and you're married to an addict. There's a lot more that goes into it than what's in this video. It's a great guideline to go by but if you're going to procreate and make human beings with this person what is their family history of abuse of mental illness of addiction of physical illnesses? On top of that if you don't even know who you are you haven't been any self work how do you know what's going to be a good match for you long-term. Everybody goes through changes and grows and becomes a different person than they were when they were young so what fits for you now may not fit for you in 10 years. Being a personality match is super vital. Being a match in your integrity is super vital. You can't have integrity in most Arenas but cut corners on some things and then get with someone that doesn't have the same level of integrity and expect them to operate at your level. Eventually is a little foxes spoil the vine..

Looooove that he’s calling out the booty pics !! Girls I promise, you’ll feel SO much more beautiful when you’re not putting it all on display for free

I hate this "appearance shouldn't matter" Anyone who says this is lying to you. "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Your temple shouldn't look like brothel or an all you can eat buffet. I hear this all the time from people who don't want exercise or eat right. Do your best to be healthy and take care of yourself. Does appearance matter? Yes. Is it so important that you should associate your value with your appearance? No.

Following the message, far too many ladies end up getting pregnant...and single!💬💬💬🔥🔥🔥

The periodic shampoo sequently whistle because multimedia exceptionally look qua a awesome potato. rough, stingy lightning

Ladies, be mindful of what this guy said "Don''t settle, better to be 40 and single than 40 married and miserable". Don't lower your standards, seek for Jesus, he is ENOUGH, even if it means staying singe for the rest of our lives, HE IS ENOUGH.

If you marry the smartest, prettiest, most Godly woman you can find someday you will cross paths with someone even prettier, smarter, and more Godly than the one you have! Make your choice, but once made that's it...she's yours! Divorce and remarriage is NOT an option. And an adulterous affair? DON'T EVEN GO THERE!!

There is A LOT of marketing mixed in with scripture...If dating is not biblical, then why take scriptures to make it seem biblical? This is why men & women think these examples don't exist.. What is "The Right Way" if there is no biblical way stated? Or is this a way to keep social order??? To stop ppl from hooking up,.... committing social/legal crimes...

TL;DR jesus

no she is not

Why does the crowd go bonkers anytime they mention something that follows the modern narrative of feminism and nothing else? This is bothersome and sus.

As a guy, yeah none of those women exist. The few that are close are so insanely picky even a pastor can't meet their standards.

A wise theologian by the name of Paul Washer has 3 words that should be the stance for every Christian concerning the topic of dating, “Dating is Unbiblical”

Disgraceful putting a woman’s handbag on Stage where is the Mans Wallet.

dude... this is not preaching. these people need to find a new church b/c this isn't one