"i dot want to do that" they continue its rape pretty sure its common sense and a 3rd grader would understand

Tbh, many of us aren't even taught those basic things lol

As it should be. You don't teach other people what they want.. they decide for themselves.

@@MacAndy You don't teach people what they want. You teach people to recognize when others don't want something.

we don't have a class even

"Coaches don't play"😂

I guess it can partly be because as an asexual person, you kinda get an outsiders perspective on the whole thing? Since you don't feel that attraction, only societal expectations would push you to do those acts. So I feel like that makes it easier to question those expectation that societly puts on the whole virginity and sex topics

Yeah I definitely think since her perspective was different it allowed her to have a much less biased view

@Jade Johnson same!!

@@coolbeans5911 fr!

Hope you're okay 🫶🏼

100%

I’m so sorry that happens to u :(

Canon event type beat

Same here. I really hate that saying, because you're not only saying "that was supposed to happen" but you're excusing the person who did it. It's always super religious people who love to use that line. I'm proud of how she handled that line.

Why? She said herself she learned from it

@@lovely1641 how tf do you get sexually assaulted for a reason?

@@alexandriakayla5163 it wasn’t sexual assault because she ended up giving consent and even said she did not regret it

@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw coercion is not consent

@@evieb8187 why not

She does did well, why u agaisnt sex before married rules in islam ?

@@contraryshinysnivy uhmm, did u see the video?????? She did not do good, her responses were tone deaf!!! Also no one said anything about being against Islam or Muslims, I am muslim dude

@@asalah6578 i think she did a good job while being soft listener, if its a real muslim with strict will really point out all the rules in islam that against the sex before marriage

@@contraryshinysnivy she did point out the rules in Islam but just behind a smile, like know even asked you. she is just talking just to talk. There are so many other Muslims that could have done SUCH a better job. Embarrassing!!!

@@contraryshinysnivy that's not what people are angry at they are angry about her minimising sexual abuse by saying "everything happens for a reason" to a sexual abuse victim

Insensitivity at its finest

yeah like an airhead

“Everything happens for a reason” was not the line I would have used-but still, I believe she said that in response to Vanessa’s first sexual interaction and not the sexual assault she experienced later?

Assaulted? Did you hear the story? :Ddddd

@@Woodsaras what?

Facts

Very much a lot wrong with having sex before marriage

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 Why?

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 no

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 everyone has opinions

You just dropped this 👑

Your future wife is lucky.

Everything's same except i am 24

@Tyler B #2 ok tyler

@Tyler B #2 you say this to a comment about sexual assault. man that's ironjc

@Tyler B #2 stay on topic Tyler.

@Tyler B #2 you need to chill lol

A perspective that no one asked. Everything she said feels robotic and cold. Sort of memorized, but also unaware of social, cultural, and belief differences. It honestly appears like she repeats everything that she was told growing up and isn't mindful about it. This happens when growing up in a bubble, which occurs with strict religions or strict parents that you trust. It is likely she has heard and learned that response to tragedy/trauma before as comfort. But does not realize how insensitive and tone deaf the expressions she learned might be and does not apply well in different situations, as well as timing. This is why exposure to different people is important. It helps gain perspective and experiences. Sometimes people just don't question further from what their parents teach them or their enviroment. In conclusion, It seems like she doesn't have the time, physical and head space to be able to analyze, reflect, and think for herself. Fyi: this does not justify her response, but provides a better understanding of what happened and their mental processes.

I agree. I wouldn't want to be friend of someone who is so tone deaf.

Eh, agree to disagree

nothing malicious was said

@@amirahelechi7113 how?

@@Rando240 bc I do

She is!!

she is better than everyone, she’s confident and knows what she wants also independent

ughh she is so annoying!!

She is better

She made me so angry I almost clicked off the video

Or ur just overthinking about it lol

@@icantsee0 probably lol

Yeah I agree

I mean she's not apart of sex culture so people either think she thinks she better than them or it touches on their insecurities because usually people like her aren't really thinking in that way as if they were better. They're usually minding their own business in a way people aren't used to

No Hymen no diamond

By the way she’s constantly smiling and the way she reacts to people. She definitely thinks she is

That the same thing I thought, it felt like she was judging everyone

It’s funny because thinking you’re better than others is a sin and just uncomfortable to watch honestly

Right like😒

As someone who used to be religious, the feelings of superiority are real. Its especially frustrating because those same people claim to be humble and understanding of others

@Tyler B #2 what u smoking my guy

@Tyler B #2 I don’t think you know what antithesis means.

and he's sooooo cute

@Tyler B #2 let us all have our beliefs. Plus that isn’t related to the comment. It is a respectful thing to do.

@Tyler B #2 explain what is atheism pls

I agree with you, she said my religion too many times which came across the wrong way and seemed like entitlement. in terms of what she said about the trauma, I dont think she actually knew or meant what she was saying. I took it as everything gets better at the end and this time will pass but she didnt know how to verbalise it correctly but of course what she said was still not appropriate

Am a Muslim and I disagree with you it shows lack of knowledge on your part in fact most of the things she said was true if you ACTUALLY read the quran, the only cringe thing is you embarrassing yourself in the eyes of the angels

​@@GGK1000 cry harder

@@honeybunch44 if you can have a civil and polite argument, and pull out the "cry harder" card so your mentality lol

@@GGK1000 So it says in the quran that you are supposed to be entitled and insensitive?

OMG I am deeply sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the pain you must feel knowing that your mom does not believe you. Is there anyone you can go to to talk about this such as a relative or friend?

@@shelbyk2193 I told my aunt before I told anyone else. She was the one that told me I should tell her because I was so upset. Its been like 6 years now and sometimes its still hard but I'm doing better, thank you.

@@daniellemillard760 I'm really sorry this happened to you but I am glad you are getting better hun 💖

greatest enemy of women is other women

I agree - I don’t feel she is a mean-spirited person but a lot of the things she said did not come across well

I find it funny how when you don’t agree with someone’s narrative, you’re quick to label them tone death

Jade Johnson I agree with the specific examples you used

@@GlamourCat1920 right? like how are you going to sit there and tell a sexual assault victim that it all happened for a reason? smh.

@Jade Johnson EXACTLY. You took the words right out of my mouth. Like that person above can say whatever they want, I respect that girl’s religion and opinions, but you can’t deny her response to the sexual assault victim was just... no.

Do you speak on behalf of every single Muslim to say that we don’t “claim” her?? Ridiculous. You can say you don’t agree or accept what she’s saying, but don’t say “us Muslims” don’t claim her

No one cares who u claim and don't claim

@@porto1st bruh if you’re in your right mind you obv wouldn’t wanna claim her bc saying such an insensitive comment to someone who went thru a traumatic experience is top tier disrespect

@@amirahelechi7113 should I cry😢

@@linahabouomar3970 I obviously don’t agree or respect what she said at all, but It’s not your place to speak on behalf of every single Muslim

thank you for watching!

@@FLASCH1111 asexual is not a word

@@FLASCH1111 lghahsshahhaa community is gay 😂

@@gayallah2397 it is actually 💀

@@buns4569 no its a made up word

I get the same feeling. She seems disingenuous

Exactly. Being religious doesn't make you a good person.

But she is enlightened. She understands Love is stronger than Lust. Why wouldn’t you strive for that?

@@thespiderverseiscoming5482 i dont think she is "enlightened", she seems a bit ignorant, but i agree love is better than lust. I have a feeling your comment is gonna get a lot of back lash tho

@@sirmel11 Religion gives people rules to follow so that people can feel equal, safe, connected, purposeful. All religions teach love. What would the world look like if it didn’t exist, where people were taught not to care about each other, where everyone would feel so powerful that they would abuse their power. If there was no god what would our life mean. I need god to give me a reason to live. I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim. There’s a parable called the friendly Samaritan that talks about treating people with different backgrounds as brothers and sisters and regardless of what we believe in and our differing values, we embrace each others presence with love. Now you think religion is bad. That’s only due to the people who create propaganda and false narratives of what is originally said. Albert Einstein once said "Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind." Now the science community has a large amount of people of don’t believe in religion and resort to science, they believe in facts but not faith. But Einstein, possibly the greatest scientist of all time connected both religion and science and told us we need reason for existence. That is the beauty of religion, that is the beauty of god and his creation. I choose to believe that. Otherwise I live in world based on emptiness.

Jesus her ignorance

@Tyler B #2 not everyone believes in god. let people have their free will and you can have your own as well.

@@EmmaryMarshall If they don't believe in God then they have no business in mentioning his only son, especially in a vile manner

@@GraceLeo-mc4rr they can say whatever they want. you don’t get to tell people what is and what isn’t their business.

@@EmmaryMarshall It's not their business. I'm not Muslim but I'm not gonna disrespect the religion simply because I'm not one of them and hide behind "freedom of speech". Respect others and their religion

It's just a term

Exactly

Exactly. There are so many cultures where the emphasis is put on the female child & punishment for when they 'lose' it.

It's more like gaining an experience

Female body undergoes changes.

RIGHT! 🚪 🏃

@@PizzaRolls4949 👭🚪🏃‍♂️ 👭🚶‍♂️🚪 💏💏🚪 🤱👩‍👧👨‍👦🚪

Exactly.

@@izuru6164 🚪🕺🕵

@@izuru6164 😔 The family ❤

Yesssss, I agree🙌🏻

Yes! It’s awful that there are some people that look down on a man for being a virgin. I find it great when a man that is wanting to wait for the right person.

Yesss I know right! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

Yeah im really happy they did that too :)

@@naria2224 same!!! It means that he has a lot of self respect (not that non-virgin guys dont, they do too) and values the seriousness and romanticism of intimacy. Not just doing it for the sake of doing it.

But she also said everything happens for a reason as a response to someone's uncomfortable experience.

@@sravyavarali9191it was bad wording, I’m just she even came to that conclusion afterwards. It’s obvious that her intentions weren’t bad, so it’s annoying to see other trying to paint her as a bad person when you can see that she wasn’t trying to be malicious. Your comment is unnecessary.

@@bubba94290 doesn't matter. Sometimes irrespective of intentions, you can end up hurting people with words, and people should still take responsibility for it. She was also constantly trying to pretend to be superior just because of her regressive beliefs. Also, everybody can voice their opinions on this platform, and I didn't say anything that's inaccurate. So I don't think my comment was unnecessary.

@@sravyavarali9191that’s a way religious people come to terms with bad things that happen. It’s not a way to excuse something. But she definitely should’ve held her tongue. That was cringey

She will most likely have a big wake up call in life.

and 2 billion other people.

thank you! hahahah

@@FLASCH1111 omg I found you! Look, I'm going to follow you because seeing you in there, being so well-spoken and educated and just representing us Aces so well made me so happy and proud. I honestly love you for that ✨

@@kyana4508 thank you so much!! seriously 🥺

@Missy Fray super agree!!

@@FLASCH1111 OMG ILY

that was awful

Yeah, that was not it. Very inappropriate to say in that situation. Nobody should tell anybody how to feel about something traumatic.

Agreed. I was like "oh no honey, no no" when she said that.

It was still her decision, it's her fault

@Aloko Zay that wasnt HER mistake, she didnt deserve what happened to her 🤨🤨

nobody wants to talk about how no protection is 100% safe. i’m 22yo as a teen growing up hookup culture was very pushed and encouraged (much more now) i ended up getting pregnant despite being careful and friends around me and others in my age group were just nonchalantly saying “just have an abortion” i ended up getting an abortion.. i wish people will acknowledge that sex is fun and we love sex because that’s how nature encourages us to have children therefore we have to take it into consideration and not take it lightly. there’s human lives in play when you have sex, your life, your partner’s lives and the lives of the possible child. protection and birth control are never ever 100% i don’t regret the abortion, i regret making the irresponsible decision to get me there in the first place. birth control and condoms aren’t enough..

thank u 💙💙💙

Same

She was so off especially when she was like invalidatimg the girl's trauma like it happened for a reason. Superiority complex for sure.

😂😂😂

She is living in parallel universe I guess ,talking about soul's connection, I mean wake up girl it's 2021,people get raped even after marriage and marriage isn't consent

Right like.

I felt that too... but I also thought she was trying to be nice ...

People smile when there uncomfortable. It actually quite normal. I glad she when on here. Everyone was able to educate her and she was in her religion bubble before, she kinda got a reality check. And ultimately this is what this KZfaq series is for.

She could be on the spectrum

@@camd2871 why do you think that?

@@camd2871 bruh.

it's very condescending

Just because she thinks waiting til marriage is best, doesn’t mean she’s looking over everyone and judging them for doing to opposite, chill out🙄🙄

Lmao because she’s waiting for marriage? Okay you’re offended lmao what’s your body count?

@@alkoholic3216 one of the girls is literally a sexual abuse survivor and she said "everything happens for a reason" which is really rude and inconsiderate. she acted so superior compared to everybody else.

@@teehee5700 ok that’s fucked up but I don’t see how saying that puts you above everyone. You’re probably right tho

@@alkoholic3216 just the way she was talking made her seem like she thought she was above all else for not having sex until marriage. If you look at her body language and the way she speaks to the people who aren't virgins, its kinda weird.

yep that was very good

The one thing she said that actually made sense

@@ninapickles9 everything she said made sense

I agree. In my country, there was a point where a lot of people having open arguments and criticize women activists for proposing law about sexual harassment towards women and one of the article was “rape in marriage”. Almost 90% people i’ve talked with, thinking that the idea of marital rape is ridiculous, because to them, being married means that you have to ready whenever your husband want to have sex. (I live in a muslim majority country, and lgbtq+ isn’t normalized yet, so there’s only heterosexual marriage). It’s ridiculous that people think that marital rape is not something serious, and it’s our fault if we got raped by our spouse because we rejected sex. And i really do understand why people would think marital rape is ridiculous, because we were never ever taught about consent, ever. We don’t even have sex ed here. It’s a muslim majority country, where a lot of people think “marriage equal consent” and “women should serve their husbands”, it is also really taboo to talk about sex with your parents, because you’re supposed to figure it out by yourself “after marriage” where in fact, a lot of people lose it before marriage, but don’t talk about it because they got slut shamed and majority of men wouldn’t want a woman who’s not a virgin. Therefore, even someone’s got raped, and the victim talked about it, people would blame them. So a lot of people just don’t say anything. And that’s because a lot of people here, don’t know the idea of “consent”. So if you got raped, while wearing a dress, or because you were being nice to the rapist before, they said “it is your fault, even when you said no. Because you flirt with them”

same

thank you! i really appreciate it. had to be said!

@@FLASCH1111 No, thank YOU!!! 🤩

True I poked my friend’s elbow recently and he didn’t say anything. I shouldn’t have done that, it was unnecessary

@Tyler B #2 what’s the correlation

@Tyler B #2 yeah...but no thank you 😑

Y’all just make up names at this point

@@martink.dongmo648 asexuality is very real. get over it :)

@@partiallyunknown9412 you either have a bad personality or too high standards or maybe both but it’s definitely not that made up word

​@@martink.dongmo648Do you understand how words work? Asexual is simply a term used to describe someone without a sex drive.

​@@partiallyunknown9412priests always existed, they never felt the need to call themselves asexuals

nothing wrong with that. She's not hurting anyone

theres nothing wrong with thinking that tho. forcing and judging people who didn't think that are wrong tho. same case with you who judge her views

@@lovely1641 her believes are quite misogynistic

@@yourscorpiosun They're more old fashioned compared to current mainstream thinking but not really misogynistic

@@lovely1641 nah, they really are. purity culture is forced on women, not men. there is a huge difference

@@user-op8fg3ny3j understandable, doesn’t change the fact that a survivor had to hear such an awful response

Duuude imagine the a rapist saying that!? "Everything happens for a reason'' Or them saying that before the act or saying that to justify it or " See light into the situation "

No its actually better. Cuz it keeps the value of evolution and growth instead of victim mindsets and devolution

Even negative things are learning experiences. If you didnt learn anything then you are more likely to go through the same thing. Stop being a snowflake. Grow up.

@Tyler B #2 so are tylers all around the world... go fight a war or something this topic aint for you baby

At least you recognize she didnt have the horrible intentions everyone in this comment section makes her out to be.

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously I am 60 years old but still virgen. I am waiting for a special person.

@@juanpedro4083 seriously, mad respect. At age 60, still a virgin, by choice I suggest. I can't imagine that. I'm 30 and I lost my virginity at my 18th birthday, but I have been going almost twelve years without any form of intimacy and its driving me nuts to be honest. I really hope you find that special person though.

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously It’s the way she said it like “ aww too bad but it was going to happen” something about feels like she didn’t care. Stuff like that ISNT supposed to happen. It’s not.

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously you can still harm someone even if you don't have bad intentions. Ignorance doesn't absolve you from everything. And this was incredibly ignorant

maybe they were both high and only one remembered, if not then yeah it's rape

@@imadedisaccount2commentido693maybe, but just the fact this is considered a normal sentence is crazy

That's what came to mind when I heard that

@@user-gk9pl6vl5v exactly like wtf

She was unaware herself and uncomfortable. Wouldn't be assault on her end at all. If the dude was as confused and doubtful and the girl was high but convincing enough to seem into it fully, it's still not assault to me. Does it suck? Yes. Is it okay? No, but assault is done with intend. Not on accident.

That’s what I thought

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@@cthesavage it was a vine

Wait my names Jared bruuh

😂😂😂

I wonder if that is the natural hair color.

I’m pretty sure that it’s a wig🤔

@@isoldes.5775 it’s still blue and it’s still hair

She seems awesome!

Agreed. As a fellow asexual, I wish I had Bri really explain it to me about a decade ago. I didn't realize I was asexual until after two intimate relationships. I thought it was way more enjoyable for the experience of having it rather than the pleasure.

I'm Christian too!!! I am so happy for you! Wish you all the best - I will wait after marriage as well

And how people see sex as different things! SO aware and I loved their answers!

Ur just a simp huh

frost HD OR they’re just appreciating someone’s opinions weirdo..

Yeah, I'm grateful she pointed out the big double standard in how people view female sexual aggression vs male sexual aggression.

@@youssefhachicha49 why would he be simping all he said is that she made a good point

It’s not “bad”, but if you’re still a virgin at a certain age, it’s embarrassing. EDIT: I'm speaking from personal experience, I am a virgin and am embarrassed by it. I do not claim to speak for other people.

I hate this comment. The word « normal » here is like SO personal. Normal for who? It’s so incredibly subjective. And not only that, you’re wrong. At least in the western world, after 20 it’s weird if you’re a virgin. Just look at the average age for when people loos their virginity.

@@SanskarWagley what age is that?

@@sirsytham1588 literally proving their point

I think it depends on the gender honestly. It’s always been that men are pressured to lose their virginities or else it’s a bad thing and girls to stay “pure” or else their a slut

@Pastafarian Pretty sure you either didn’t watch the video or didn’t understand my comment.

ooooohhh damn.. I never noticed that!!!

? Wdym

When?

@@Rafa-ct5yh When she said there is no gray area as I said in my original comment

I really resonate with this. I respect myself too much to let my virginity go so easily and casually. Plus STIs and pregnancies are not worth the risk if you treat sexuality like exercise. I know the wait will be worth it.

Wtf?! 12yo should be playing with legos

Do not look down upon your self because of this degenerate rats. You've done a great job saving yourself for your partner. We're living in times where rats would tell pures how to live.

​@@sttonep242facts! I say that to some of my younger friends

Yeah! That shocked me as well. It's bloody dangerous for them not to have had that taught to them.

@@labranehit7687 I think the assumption was that they wouldn't have sex

I didn't know, but I make sure my kids do

It’s so scary

Is it something needed to be taught? One who is sensible enough knows that an activity between two person is proper only when both are involved in it willingly. Is it that difficult to understand? 🤔 Be it sexual or any other activity on this planet.

When she said 'everything happens for a reason' 🤮 wtf

She is secretly there judging the non-virgings and even the virgins that are not going to lose it until marriage she still judging them because of their decision and choices.

Yup, makes me think of someone I know who's just really hypocritical and falsely nice

Well I think it's probably because she was only raised to see marriage as when her relationships happen. I'm guessing she probably went to a school tailored to that, and she just seemed like a person who has been sheltered from the world with only one view. Her answer to the consent question gives great insight to that.

@@HouseMDaddict oh no, not just her beliefs.her general attitude seems like someone who hasn’t been exposed to the society.

Yeah she raped him, and you’re the only person I’ve seen who’s mentioned it at all.

I was wondering this lol.

I love how you cherry pick details to fit your agenda. She found out after the fact that he was high during their intercourse. Not her fault at all

@@jazzylee6844 I don’t know if you’ve ever been so intoxicated that you don’t remember what happened the night before, but everyone around you is well aware. She may not have known just how high he was, but she knew he was lit.

@@jazzylee6844 he was so high he couldn’t remember what happened last night. How can you not know a person is very high just by looking at him/her

She likes to hear herself talk.

@@busboy3232 One on hand we have someone saying she is an overactive listener On the other hand we have someone saying she just likes hearing herself talk W a t

@@wlt3585 Choose your squad trooper.

@@busboy3232 i agree

@@wlt3585 I read overactive listener as someone who talks while others are taking to show that they’re listening. Like saying affirmative phrases (right, ok, yes)

tbh... it's not a toxic positivity. Believing that everything happens for a reason gives you a peace of mind at the end and helps you to get over your trauma. We can't control everything in our life but we can give those situations a certain meaning. Living by that is much easier.

@@WrongXNumber but that’s not everyone’s belief and we shouldn’t expect it to be. For some, the traumatic events in their life will never make sense. That does not mean that they haven’t or will not overcome them. It’s important to be at peace with your traumas sure, but it’s also important to face them and let yourself feel all the bad emotions that may come with them. In the end of the day, everyone copes differently, but being told that “everything happens for a reason” can come across as insensitive and kind of diminishing.

​@@marsyo2760 For me "everything happens for a reason" is more of a personal way of finding light amidst the pain, a process I'd usually go through further along in the healing process (after I've felt/processed/expression many emotions). The way of finding a strength, however small, lets me take back my power if someone harmed me, or let go of resentment, if it was a circumstantial injustice. But now I'm seeing how differently the phrase is used and interpreted by different people. I see it can come off as cold and invalidating, ESPECIALLY after someone shares their trauma/emotions or they are in the initial stage of healing. I will be mindful and keep my mindset of finding light in dark times to myself and not push it on others. There's no one right way to heal or process things. Thanks for making me think about this.

Thank you for this and I'm going to use the phrase "thank you for your toxic positivity" the next time some jerk says that to me. I've had "Everything happens for a reason" thrown at me as a response to my various traumas FAR too many times and now I know the perfect response.

@@marsyo2760 yes, thank you. It feels completely invalidating.

As a Muslim it is true, it's either she didn't know or mean to say that or she means it and she is mean, in Islam you have to wait until marriage but u shouldn't make poeple think they are wrong if they don't share same beliefs as u do

Because it wasn't coercion, it's not sexual assualt she could've walked away. If the guy legit pushed her, touched her and basically raped her that is coercion.

in. Way its like saying well there you go, classic example of why you do not sex before marriage. Dont get taken advantage of.

Idk why tf y’all are going after Rahan when she said nothing wrong in response to the details Vanessa gave for the 1ST PROMPT. From timestamp 2:00-6:55 Vanessa does NOT say she was sexually assaulted. She said it was [somewhat consensual] but she regrets it because her ass of a boyfriend ended up dumping her in the end. Her boyfriend was a jackass for toying with her feelings, but the dude is not a rapist. Vanessa literally admitted that she gave her consent during THAT SITUATION.

Yh, whats wrong with her saying that? The whole point of this show on Jubilee is for people who have opposing ideas and views to share their thoughts and beliefs on the topic their views conflict on and try to find a middle ground through doing so. With that being said, those are her beliefs, that waiting till marriage is the right way. Explain the issue? How is it out of pocket for her to say that? 💀

So you are agreeing that "it happened for a reason" while criticising her for saying such?

@@user-ri4jx2lp7x no, im saying it happened, but not for a reason

@@mariam-xq3py yes definitely for a reason, she knows how to make the right decision next time, logically not emotionally, you have both a brain and a heart for a reason. If you choose to use only your heart and get hurt because of it you gotta have something happen to teach you otherwise.

@@indeedConfirmed wow that sounds very "victim blame" mentality , what do u mean by , when it happens next time she will know what to do ,it wasnt her fault and there should be no kind of teaching moment for her cause she was unprepared for something like that , having an assault happened to her is only traumatizing . We have both a brain and a heart but its not like they dont work together. When your met with a situation like this, your fight or flight is triggered, and one of the responses is to freeze . U can have it happen to u again and u still wouldn't know how to deal with it.

@@indeedConfirmed are u seriously blaming the victim???

I definitely think we should normalize that not everyone “waiting” is doing it for religious reasons.

period

Ready for what ? It’s not a big deal

@@Mustlehard STD's, unwanted pregnancy. You cannot expect everyone to be honest about what diseases they have or their intentions prior to having sex with you -that is what makes it a big deal.

@@CL_G thats why you use condoms. the chances of getting an STD or a pregnancy are extremely small. If you follow this thought for any other area in your life then you wouldnt get inside a car or cross a street, because you literally have more chances of being in a car crash than contracting an STD or pregnancy IF YOU WEAR A CONDOM. The girl can even take pills or watch her fertile period to make sure a pregnancy wont happen

Don’t exaggerate now

Doing too much lmao its not her whole personality. She was really sweet except that one comment but its true, everything happens for a reason

Calm down. Let her believe what she wants. I guess she's very optimistic and that's okay

She was being super chill wtf you talking about 🤣🤣🤣

@@liquorcofficial5561 yeah exactly. super chill as in completely ignorant 😂

My mom always told me to wait until marriage. She added that if I didn’t to just make sure the other person respected me. I waited to lose my virginity until 23 and thankfully I chose someone that did respect me. He always put me first, not himself, when it came to sex.

I don’t think that’s a very strong argument for waiting for marriage…. There are plenty of other ways to ensure your partner isn’t just “in it for sex”… getting to know the person and their friend group and family and interests is one of the more obvious ways… you can also just wait a few weeks or months before you consider sex, etc. Marriage is such an arbitrary cutoff point in this argument. Also, even if that were one possible reason someone might want to wait, there’s going to be plenty of reasons not to wait as well: 1) gaining experience and learning what you like, 2) seeing if you and your partner are sexually compatible before making the giant commitment that is marriage, because not all people are sexually compatible and it’s not always something that gets better with time. There’s plenty of other reasons as well.

@@pidayrocks2235 you cant really get to know a person fully by just a few months relationship, some people have been in a relationship for yearsss and are still finding out new things abt their partner. But marriage is a commitment that takes a lottt of courage, and money, no person(generally) will get married just for sex cause so many responsabilities come with it. Thats why for me its the only way to ensure your partner isnt with u for superficial reasons. Regarding the finding out what u like through experiences before mariage, u can find out on youre own for the most part,

@@hibatazi9011 I don’t think that’s reality… virtually nobody who is really just in it for sex would subject themselves to months or years of a sexless relationship… so if you’re someone who is really that paranoid about reading intentions and cannot trust the dialogues you have with your partner or don’t feel great about your capability to see clues for something as simple as that over the course of getting to know them, then don’t have sex for X long (weeks, months or years) until you’re confident in your answer. This seems like a pretty fictional scenario to be honest as I don’t see this happening anywhere except in stories as a scare tactic by religious people. Anybody who really just wants sex can find it pretty easily and won’t go through the trouble of weeks on end getting emotionally attached with no sex, let alone a few months. As for getting to know what you like with a partner, it can be VERY different than what you like on your own (obviously, because dynamics change with s partner… hence why not everyone is sexually compatible like I mentioned).

@@hibatazi9011 I also feel like this applies to such a small portion of people outside of those influenced by religions, because sex is not some sacred thing to most non-religious people and so there’s less of a need to “protect against giving up sex”… because from our (and I use that loosely of course because not all non-religious people have the same views - that goes without saying) perspective, the emotional investment you put into a ruined/ended relationship feels like more of a loss (because of the time and energy) than the sex does.

@Tyler B #2 Please do not be disrespectful

​@Tyler B #2 all religions are social constructs! there is literally more proof for evolution than gravity!

@Tyler B #2 Respect all religions even if you don’t agree with them. I’m an atheist but I respect all as long as they respect me.

@Tyler B #2 Not you commenting for someone to not say the lords name in vain and then commenting this crap. no one is going to respect you if you don’t respect them.

@Tyler B #2 if you don’t want people to be rude to you about your religion, don’t be rude to others religion smh. so ignorant 🙄

Someone said (sarcastically?) say that to someone who has been raped, and I kept thinking that phrase would confuse people, the person is saying it sarcastically but I was confused.

@Tyler B #2 read the room. The comment was about a person who got raped you thought now would be the time to try and be funny?

im glad they had only one religious person there. cuz in america id assume most younger people are virgins because they havent met the right person or are just too young and havent placed importance on it yet

Wouldn't say raped. The boyfriend simply said he would end the relationship without intercourse, mental manipulation, rather. In no way does that diminish her trauma, but most people would simply end it right there, but everything is easier said than done

@@sannin4569 it’s rape. manipulating, convincing, or pressuring someone into sex is rape.

@Rosie Hutchinson ok..I see what u did

She didn't mean anything bad when she said that, she just wanted us all to learn a lesson from something bad, because after all the bad we need to be stronger and open our eyes, not to be hampered in life and not to blame ourselves for something someone else did to us, not to let it bring us down. I see the goodness in her eyes and she was the only one who hugged her when it was hard for her to talk about it 25:35. If you took it wrong then thats your problem, your perscective, your view of the world. dont blame her!

@@statebrigaba5160 she told a rape victim "everything happens for a reason" even if she didnt have the wrong intentions,that's so insensitive given the situation

@@urbutholstinks2304 I agree with sta, I doubt she said it with bad intentions but her choice of words was awful

@@urbutholstinks2304 tbh in Islam, everything does happen for a reason, it is called 'takdir' Allah has created plans for everyone and it is in the work that we put in to make it count, however some circumstances where situations like this is inevitable, then we can't avoid it but to learn from it and move on from it

SNAPS

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion of other people

Yeah

Yes.

Everyone is born for a reason u should look at life from an othere side cause its gonna end one day

definitely. they think the whole world revolves around them.

yup. i know that attitude and energy anywhere. it's infuriating and hilarious at the same time how condescending these kind of people can be... do they not hear themselves or something...?

@@kekwa5409 clearly they dont. its hilarious, your right. but at first. after a while they are so self centered they cant even grab the concept of their ignorance

I would never use my religion to justify anything I do or say to anyone I hate people like this smh

The thing is, I hate when people just say “I’m not allowed to” or “I’m not supposed to”. Like I believe in abstinence, after thinking about it and deciding it is what I want to do. That’s a very personal choice that shouldn’t be made by your parents or some other person outside of yourself for you

Why is Donald Trump pretty and I am not? But why does he only have a wife but I have TWO HOT GIRLFRIENDS who I show off in my masterpiece YT videos? Do you know the answer, dear pya

@@AxxLAfriku ?

Does anyone notice how jubiliee tries to make their last question be one they thing everyone will agree on? It's like they want everyone to leave on a good note and say "look, we all have this in common, lets all be in the middle and come together now".

@@AxxLAfriku In my opinion Donald Trump is not pretty, but you do you 😂

@@AxxLAfriku i stopped reading your comment after i read that Donald Trump is pretty, i mean the only antonym for pretty that i know is Donald Trump

Add black Caribbean’s to that mix

@@gbekeee858 DT won't end well,especially if virgins start judging non virgins,somebody go get cursed out on their whole family or get lixed the fuck down

@Tyler B #2 Amen dont stop spreading the gospel

White American culture is calling black people from other countries African Americans.

Oofff this one!

I loved Bri. She was just so aware throughout this entire video, and on top of that she was pretty funny as well. Taking his situation and turning it around like "If this happened to a girl..." made everyone else realize how terrifying the situation would actually be.

Yea, I immediately noticed when the girls were telling their stories, everyone was listening intently with sympathy. When the dude was talking they were all smiling and giggling which was a bit weird to say the least. Glad Bri snapped them out of it.

ugh she was so annoying. it was so invalidating when rahan was sharing a common feeling with skylar about how they view virginity. it was so dismissive. it felt like she just wanted to be the contrarian to anything that was said for the perspective of virgins.

I was so happy Bri was there and I honestly loved her way of presenting herself and her views. As an asexual person myself it often feels hard to talk to people about this topic because a lot of people absolutely don't get the concept of Asexuality. Hearing her gave me some great points I will definitely use in the future.

I think this is true for school systems in a lot of countries, i would hope it is changing nowadays but when I was young, it was definitely not teached to me and I'm from Germany.

exactly the prompt came up and i zoned out bc i immediately realized that it was in fact never taught to me in school or by parents or anything, i had to in a way teach myself what it is and what it isn't - zoned back in to all of them still standing there and just felt a wave of sad shock pass through me, goosebumps and all, because we really are taught so much about sex itself but almost never touch on the topic of what consent really looks like, beyond just "no means no", if that

Minute?

You literally can’t teach that..concentis different for everyone

I don't think schools should or have any need to teach their students what consent looks like or the meaning, that's up to their parents to teach them.

Yeah her body language seemed kinda disingenuous

I don`t think the hug was insincere, I would have the same instinct if I was there. HOWEVER, after what she said about "everything happens for a reason", it just looks kinda weird.

You guys are always trying to find something out of nothing

Yeah right 🙄

I agree with mkg21, sometimes it's nice to just choose empathy and give people the benefit of the doubt. As if you haven't ever given an awkward hug or come across differently to how you intended.

I mean, if you wanna wait for marriage, do it 100%. But saying "everything happens for a reason" to a SA survivor is just.. kinda disturbing.

@@xmeiyume Idk why tf y’all are going after Rahan when she said nothing wrong in response to the details Vanessa gave for the 1ST PROMPT. From timestamp 2:00-6:55 Vanessa does NOT say she was sexually assaulted. She said it was [somewhat consensual] but she regrets it because her ass of a boyfriend ended up dumping her in the end. Her boyfriend was a jackass for toying with her feelings, but the dude is not a rapist. Vanessa literally admitted that she gave her consent during THAT SITUATION.

@@xmeiyume but everything does happen for a reason

Okay boohoo she is insane

Ikr! everybody gonna be in his DMs after this one

So is nico😂

Comfortable but not overcocky or uncomfortable

quality man

@@noneofurbusiness7501 🧀🧀🧀

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I hate when everyone comments the same exact thing.

For sure there's a reason but it's not always going to be a positive development...In this case maybe a hard lesson learned?

@@coreygavin9134 are you serious? Are hard lesson learned? Sexual assault IS NOT a “lesson”. Her partner at the time had NO excuse to ignore how uncomfortable she was and to threaten her with breaking up with her. No one should ever experience sexual assault and take it as a lesson. What are you learning exactly? That it’s ur fault for being in a relationship and not wanting to have sex yet? That’s completely valid and no one should have sex when they don’t feel that they are ready or want to and no one should be pressured or feel threatened into having it.

😂

Can I get a time stamp

@@fhiyos_2611 5:25 - 6:55

@@valleriepache7586 thank you

to you. for people who are religious or even spiritual they believe positive and contrasting experiences make for a fuller experience of life and help you grow into the person you want to be.

@@tylerknight9830 those people can keep it to themselves.

Yep. Doesn't add up

So true, it does not make sense

Doesn't make sense at all.

which is exactly why virginity is a social construct and means nothing, it’s not real

@Zac Atkinson it literally is, it’s not a tangible thing.

Yessss same here! Wish they would've chosen 1 non-virgin with a positive 1st experience & view on it. Of course someone open minded & understanding enough.

Maybe it's just a fluke, but in their defense I'm just thinking of all my friends' stories on their first times & I struggle to recall any of them being positive. So I personally have never met someone who ever said it was, even my most sex positive friends hated their first times.

Exactlyyyy

I feel like they selectively choose certain people who fit a certain narrative

No offense to anyone but I think sex definitely needs to be taken more serious. It's something very emotional

Well being a muslim my self kind of understand her, because in our religion the term “Every thing happens for a reason”; means it’s your destiny and Allah’s (god) will. So it’s used to help the person feel better and carry on with their life. But it was not ideal for this situation since people’s perspective is different and your mannerisms and word choice can say a lot about your personality and how you react with people from different religions. I don’t agree it was the right time to say such thing but just wanted to share this little information.🙃

She learned her lesson. She chose to have sex with him, so everything does happen for a reason. Now she knows not to sleep with guys to keep a relationship since obviously that tactic didn’t work out with her first relationship.

@@Alibern7 did you not watch the video or?? she literally said she was pressured into having sex-wtf is wrong with you??

@@tasha9007 She still chose to do it. It’s called peer pressure.

@@tasha9007 You shouldn’t go around calling people rapist when she allowed him to have sex with her.

Yeah some of those things she said can be offensive to people I feel.

being hypocrite too , on one hand she says she's virgin cause it's forbidden in religion and on the other THERE A LOT OF STUFF SHE's doing against her religion Also she mentioned that it's okay for women to refuse sex after marriage but her religion doesn't recommend that

Oh please. It’s part of her religion and it’s a video based on virginity/non virginity. The title does kind of give a suggestion on what the video will be talking about you know.

@@zuboy4272 True, she tries to act as a good muslim and is bragging she is a virgin yet she does not even look modest, she has her hair out and shows her neck which many muslim men who want a wife would not agree with that

No it is not

@zureikat family count us south Asians in too

Please we don't want nor need anyone to present us we shouldn't care what non muslims think about us, this girl doesn't represent all muslim and no one does.

@@Anonymous-yg3ri yes we know she doesn't represent all Muslims, however she is speaking as if all her words came from Islam, which is the problem. The way she is talking is not correct, almost disregarding the women's experience by what she said and constantly bringing up Islam. This puts Islam in a bad and incorrect light, and obviously as a Muslim I have to try and make misconceptions become clear. People from what she had said will have a worse view on Islam, eventhough they know nothing about it and hate crimes and ignorance towards Muslims will only increase. So if you are going to openly identify as Muslim and constantly talk about Islam, it is best for you to conduct yourself in a way that represents Islam the best. Arab and south Asian culture doesn't equal Islam, there's a massive difference. Hope that makes sense

@zureikat family ^^

@@naheed3340 it very much makes sense and I whole heartedly agree with every single word you wrote 🤝🏻🤍 I just meant that this girl doesn't represent muslims nor Islam to be completely honest but the thought of us muslims repeatedly having to explain and break down every aspect of our beliefs for non Muslim people for them to just discredit it and talk down on it I'm kinda getting sick of it, i think anyone who's interested or curious about any religion should research it and study it by themselves and not take the people of the religion as the set example of how it should be because no Muslim is perfect and no human is. that's why I said we don't have to care about what non muslims think of us and our religion,

And spiritually. I was surprised it wasn’t mentioned