When he said he actually loves her more everyday... GOALS

Man*. He has far exceeded that title in all honesty.

Yuritza Ruvalcaba yep 100% respect

the fact that his wife is his first gf 🥺🥺🥺

I agree that's commendable

Exactly they're confusing platonic love with romantic love and love with lust

That's just the thing though, it's not like that for everyone. Some people can feel romantic love and be in love with more than one person. And the comparison to friendship is just a way to make others sort of understand what that would be like. Imagine if someone claimed with certainty that people can only share platonic love with one person at a time. You'd be like; No, that's not right. Because YOU have experienced feeling platonic love for more than one person at a time. It's the same with polyamorous people and romantic love.

@@sandrah5229 not the same.

@@MiguelSantos-kc6vw You're entitled to your opinion but I find it odd to claim to know what other people experience. Just because the 2 types of relationship aren't compareable to YOU doesn't mean they aren't to others.

@@sandrah5229 I don't doubt that but because your dealing with another person I don't see how you can love multiple people, share yourself with multiple people, and also be fair to all of them. In my mind It's a contradiction, the only way for me to be in love is to only give that love and affection to one person. Of course you can love friends and family too but it's expected to be a different type of love.

I left my ex because sex was one of his main priorities.

@@bkw6329 that's not, emm ok

So true. The desire to be in a relationship with someone comes from so much more.

@@bkw6329 Men and Women aren’t the same Men view sex completely differently and it definitely matters significantly does not take away their love for the partner as a person but can’t act like sex isn’t a priority and for most men it’s the reason they deal with women to begin with if we’re honest

@@TmcJordan you acting like only men want sex and women don't 💀💀

it's just an example to explain that the different types of love can be applied to multiple people.

so when it comes to romantic love, the same can be said for some. it's an orientation for some people,, so it's understandable when people don't get it... like I'll NEVER understand straight people

@@chester14rw you'll never understand straight people and you're gay or what are you? I'm straight and I understand gay, bi or transgender people but polyamory is something I can really wrap my head around... Yet

Trueee

Yeah

People in poly relationships are more worried about self satisfaction, not to say they don’t care about their partners but people in mono relationships definitely care more about their partner than themselves.

boostmymint trueee

boostmymint nice

I know right? It speaks volumes.

Exactly. They all seem self absorbed and obsessed with their own gratification. That just isnt how I can imagine a relationship.

Ikr

Same lol

Lmao

@@stephie045 I own the fries in this scenario. If you want some, I'll gladly buy an extra order for you. Just don't tell me you don't want any and end up eating most of mine.

because humans don't belong to someone

The way I see it, it’s important that you and your partner(s) understand each other and are willing and able to accommodate each other’s needs. An asexual person who wants to be in a romantic relationship obviously won’t want to have sex at all, and it’s important that their partner respects and can handle that. I doubt you’d ever want to date someone who wants to sleep with you, assuming for argument’s sake that you’d ever want to date.

You can call yourself Asexual if you have not had sex, that like saying i dont like chocolate but have you tried it? "no?"

@@korkunge well it's more like Are you hungry? No But you haven't eaten anything yet

@@korkunge I've haven't thrown myself into a cluster of cacti yet but I sure as hell know I don't want to

Sex is just one aspect of a relationship and how important it is depends on the people in the association. It's odd to consider sex as the highest quality of a relationship, certainly when if you ask these people in any other context they will list things like "shared values, sense of humor, kindness" etc. When we start talking about open relationships suddenly people get VERY concerned about sex and only then do they describe it as the highest priority. I think people should take their finger off of the scale when measuring how important sex is.

Very wisely spoken.

No balls?

somebody has been watching cinema therapy😉

I disagree you should be able to have all your needs met. Even in monogamy.

@@mimi.w667 You misunderstood what I meant by my statement. Your partner is supposed to compliment you, not complete you. It is not anyone's job to make you feel whole, but yourself. There are some needs we need to meet for ourselves like for example, doing things that make us happy. Our whole source of happiness cannot come from another person and we can't rely on someone else for everything. We are our own person. Yes, when we are with someone, there are needs that are the responsibility of our partner to meet and vise versa. But that's not what I meant.

Theres plenty of monogamous men and women out there in the world. But I think alot of people have been hurt or have been let down by their past partner. That can make people more guarded on pursuing future monogamous relationships in the future. I was engaged twice. It didnt work out twice lol. I wasnt a perfect man and I still am not. But I did my best in the relationships. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. It sucks . I hope to find a woman to love and be in love with and have her feel the same way about me and have a family and life with.

Morals and preferences allow him to be the way he is. You'd be surprised to know that there is >1%. In fact, you are surrounded by them each day. I hope you find what you look for and have a beautiful life.

THAT'S still 70 million people

1%? Are you high?

My husband looks away from the tv when there is just girls in bikinis. I tell him every time that it doesn’t bother me and he is free to look. His response has always been “nah I’m good, I don’t want to.” He is always telling his coworkers about his “hot wife” and will get protective if any man is trying to get with me. I am an extremely lucky lady and I have eyes for no one else. I have had many terrible relationships and I don’t regret any of them because I know now that when you find a man like this you never let them go.

Yes that was so powerful there was nothing more to say!

yep monogamy takes a serious commitment in life & clearly that orange top girl is taking the easy way out

@@nuwanct3978 "easy way out" just stop please, if someone else lives a different lifestyle that you're not familiar with, it doesn't mean they're lazy...

@Gargee Basak monogamy may be hard but that doesn't mean someone who CHOOSES a different lifestyle is choosing that lifestyle just because it's easier... everyone has their preferences.

@Gargee Basak and youre talking to me like im not in a monogamous relationship myself, im just saying don't be so condescending just because you're not familiar with it.

More like monogamy for the time.

They were talking about when people marry again after an other relationship

No, monogamy is loving one person how can you love someone else afterwards, if you're monogamous?

@@Starl1ng. monogamy is loving one person, at one time

@@Starl1ng. Whenm you move on or when you fall out of love. The mind adapts (it has to). Polyamorous people can lose interest in their partners as well. It isn't exactly exclusive.

I agree, it is precious to have your person and want to nurture and be exclusive to them. Imho poly relationships disregard everything that’s sacred about monogamy. I find that mono people tend to think about the other person and their happiness whereas with poly it’s more so how it makes the recipient of poly feel.

nerd

I agree with this as well. I feel like there is a lack of commitment with polyamorous relationships and that there is a lack of self-control/self-discpline. Personally it feels to me that polyamorous see people more as objects. They like a few things about this person so they sleep with them, they like this thing about this person so they sleep with that person. The one woman talked about having an open relationship with her partner so that they both are free to go out and find people that cater to THEIR wants and needs so they don't have to cater to each others wants and needs. But how do they progress or further their relationship if there are no expectations of any kind? For a relationship to get stronger, you have to go through difficult times. You have to talk to each other and work through things. There doesn't seem to be much that is difficult in a polyamorous relationship so I don't know how their relationship progresses.

​@@1camry I pity you

@@youtubecommentator6023 Yep. It really feels like poly people are constantly asking "What can this person do for me? How can I add them to my life so that I benefit?" With monogamous relationships, we value what we can do for each other. We value how we can help uplift and support our partner. It's not "me, me, me". Poly people just seem very self-absorbed.

😂🤣😂🤣

My thought exactly haha

riiiiight

I have one... my fiancé 😂😂

I’m my own best friend lmao

How??

Laca-blud fam😂😂😂

@@mamtamitali7201 okay, so i love my boyfriend for example. I love his sense of humor, his voice, his face, you know qualities. BUT, I have always loved those things about him, once we started to date, there was just this different connection of love, like we can't be apart. I still find his face perfect, his voice amazing and his sense of humor funny, but if all of those were replaced, id still be able to love him and him love me back, because we don't love eachother for what qualities we have, we love eachother for the bond we share together.

@@freezingcoldcum5541 got you♥️♥️

Preach.

Yes i agree with this. In the comments especially, a lot of people are projecting values. I've said this before. For example, you can't project your feelings to justify why non monogamy isn't a valid type of relationship. It may not be for you, but it certainly is a valid and legitimate type of relationship. But I see ppl completely trying to dismantle non monogamy and say it can't be real or valid.

This 💜

I agree! I feel like the poly people were honeslty way more judgey (or at least just that one girl) because they saw the monogamy people as "unenlightened" or "stuck in society's norms" when that's not true, they just have a different preference.

I agree too. Monogamy, polyamory, open relationship or even a harem can work as long as all the parties are consenting adults and you know the consequences of entering such relationship.

Discussion is the only way we progress as a society and it is completly fine, otherwise we'd be like "everything is ok, lets not question anything". I feel like for example, this discussion allows for certain unhealthy behaviours of classic monogomy to be questioned for the first time ever in a lot of people's minds. It is most definetly the norm and the norm is not always whats best. My point here is not to "convert" people to polyamory by discussing, but opening people to new ideas so they can truly make informed decisions and formulate more critical opinions. Someone could also make a similar observation about polyamory and point out what they think are unhealthy behaviours. We can (like in this video) very respectfully discuss that so that everyone can take their new learnings and apply them to their life as they see fit. We can all learn from each other, which is the beauty and necessity of discussion.

Get as much as coochie you can. Don't waste time on one.

I agree. Envy is the bad one. It means that you want to TAKE somthing that someone else has, because you want it. Or maybe just because you don't want them to have it. But jealously is wanting the same thing, or somthing similar, someone else has.

Agreed

Agree. It's how people process jealousy that can make it good or bad.

Aisling Duff I don’t think polyamorous people want to invalidate jealousy, just call it what it is: a negative and destructive emotion. It’s okay to feel it, it not okay to let that feeling hurt those you love.

thank you for this!

Tirsit Enbackom I don't agree. Everyone is saying that she is well-spoken etc. But if you truly love someone it is easy. You love them for who they are not what you like. I think people nowadays think you pick up a partner but it doesn't work that way. I love my partner with my whole heart. Yeah, we have ups and downs. But it is perfect. Love should not be hard. Polyamory is hard but in a different meaning. I said it in a very short way. I agree with both sides because both of them are right. For everybody love is different and it should be like that. Also, I hate the fact about friendship. Because you can have a stronger friendship than many perfect relationships. It is not the same thing. But the connection is the same in a very different way.

Ema Gajdošová I sort of agree with you. I believe loving someone is easy, but keeping the relationship going is what makes it count. It’s one thing to love someone, it’s another thing to still love them that way 10, 15, 50 years from your youth, keeping a relationship together and always being there for your partner is an admirable thing to do.

Tirsit Enbackom I agree but at the same time if you truly love someone you will not want to spice things up because it seems perfect to you. But you always want to better the relationship. It is hard to describe. I am 28 and been married since 20 and in a relationship since 15 with the same person. Every morning I love him even more. And every day I think it is impossible to love him more but I still do. I always want to be better for him and give him more and more. To give him my last. But I also think there's no need to spice things up.

Ema Gajdošová Alright, there’s not much to argue about there, thanks for your wisdom:)

Im not plyamorous...but that seems to me like a forced marriage or relationship...loving someone should come from within by itself, i mean thats true love...what she says seems to me like forcing yourself to love that person no matter what and that just sounds unhealthy lol...if you love someone you love them, if you dont you just dont...you feel it, you shouldnt have to force it...and it shouldnt be hard.

I think you can be loyal to multiple people. Any sort of an serious intimate emotional relationship takes work and commitment, not just monogamous ones. It’s not that one partner is not enough, it’s that there are so many amazing humans on this earth and I want for me and my partners to be free to explore the ways in which they can connect with others. No one can meet every single one of your partner’s needs and desires. Knowing this, getting so hurt by that I think really comes from a place of codependency. The idea of an all-in lifelong monogamous relationship I think really glorifies codependency (since this one person has to be your everything forever) and makes people lose themselves. You become so enmeshed with one person that your entire ego and sense of self comes into question if they don’t dedicate all of themselves to you. I think that’s really unhealthy. I don’t think polyamory is necessarily the only way to counteract this glorification of codependency, but it’s certainly one way.

@marshclem 22 it seems like a person who would think this hasn't felt the glory of long lasting and deeply held love. No offense but it's not codependency to be loyal to one person rather than being greedy

@@marshclem2255 Is monogamy truly a ‘glorification of codependency’ or is that simply your own unique experience and personal beliefs & feelings?

@@marshclem2255 if you can be with multiple people sexually and intimately than you are not loyal. Ya'll poly people are just lazy bffr. Want all the benefits of being in a monogamous relationship without actually committing to one person is wild.

Well I've learned what I should ACTUALLY stress about & wat I SHOULDN'T!!!!. Don't put/have UNNECESSARY pressure or expectations on things u CAN'T CONTROL!!.

THIS THIS THIS THIS!!! Thank you!

Honestly, this is why I love this show, any time I debate things, my primary goal isnt to convince someone to agree, it's to help them understand perspective

THANK YOU people are acting like we gonna make them have to be poly, we just want others to understand.

Yess! I'm in a monogamous relationship, but I have so much respect for my poly friends. It takes a lot of work and communication for those relationships. The point of these videos is to recognize that poly relationships exist and are valid❤

no

If the person is happy, then what isn't working?

or you're Ross Geller which is okay!

True. My cousin is 33 and on her 3rd marriage

@Todd Jones too much details lmao

You can be on your 4th marriage and be monogamous. In my opinion, Monogamy and having just one partner in your whole life are not the same thing.

You can't? If you can't, that sounds like a skill issue on your part. I spend as much time with one partner as I do the other. I also don't treat my partner in the same context I would a friend.

i think this video mistakes poly relationships with open relationships which are both completely differents

Well said

I have feelings for multiple people. That doesn't mean all my feelings for people are equal.

It's not. It's better so say that we love people differently. There's no levels of love, only nuance.

Exactly like you automatically love your children, like its not even a choice. You however CHOOSE to love your spouse

Tyra Saffy a better example might be how we can love multiple friends. Of course one can say everyone has a best friend, a primary love. But that goes for a lot of poly people too. For the record though, I have a mate who said clean out he doesn’t have one best friend, he kind of has a lot.

Antonne Turner Well than they aint good people

It's not the same kind of love obviously, but you can split your love between different people.

@@benjeesilv1596 It's a discussion. Why does it bother you so much how other people live their lives?

Facts

Anna J lol I thought the same thing .. I’m like wtf ? Lol

Maybe not for you. More power to you. I don't see polyamorous people telling you that your perception of love is faulty.

Yes!!!

Your comment is beautiful. Thank you - I agree.

I agree! She actually had a good opinion and stayed completely calm.

I'm not poly-- but I really liked and agreed with some of her views.

Heatherly B she was on the monogamy side

fr lmk if you find her @

🌹❤️🔥

Emma Sabanovic no, it’s boring and annoying.

@@MasshG stfu

Emma you are SO right about that ! I wish Govt today, (in the U.S.A), could be that way!

Magic of editing

Well they are technically arguing but in a healthy, peaceful and respectful way. I agree though :)

this was exactly how I felt

True, there is no shame in either as long as the people involved are in an agreement and respect it

For me, witnessing a variety of the different types of beautiful women helps me place my partner in my mind as a unique individual. It contextualizes my view of her and keeps my attraction to her fresh. I was with someone who could not get this concept at all, and she'd throw jealous fits if there was someone else attractive in the room - I had to avoid looking in that direction and even had to look at the ground if a pretty woman was walking towards us on the sidewalk. It was ridiculous. That said, it's healthy for a guy to break his habit of mentally "shopping" once he's with someone.

@@evenmorenonsense that is so true specially nowadays. Romantic consumerism is taking its toll on people's faithfulness, sanity and happiness.

if that person is willing to date you for 6 YEARS they're beyond a keeper

@@camomiletea7357 what do u mean? i don't get it.

@@rizzamaeong he said he had known his wife for 8 years and they were married 2 years ago

Raymond Morehouse brilliant point!

That's so true, unfortunately. Good point tho

... how??

@@TheBoeboe because people don't value friendships like they do with romantic relationships. People believe friendships are lower than romance simply because they think friendships aren't as intimate

i personally like friendship more than relationships. friendships have the opportunity to truly last forever.

I'll be real with you, being a family with kids drastically changes you priorities. Once kids go to college and you're financially "free" you'll feel like newly weds again.

I think people confuse sex with intimacy. Sounds like you have intimacy and that can last a lifetime.

​@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 i agree, i relate!

yeah, it should be discussed before engaging with other people.

Are you asexual?

Yes!

There aren't really any poly older people cuz cheating didn't really happen back then

Yesss

Did both. Love is abundant, but being is limited. It's about balance and everyone is different

@@doubleminte8369 woman were also severely punished if they were the once caught cheating

No relationship ever is easy, let's be honest 😂

I wonder why if they are only attracted to one person and are happy

I would of liked it better if she said love isn’t easy because monogamy itself is every easy I mean what do you think getting hitched is

Because you're not really in love or you're not ready for commitment

this subject is so complicated. but the simplest way for a successful civilization is majority monogamy . because it creates an inherit network of caring and protection. however, these days. things seem to be changing dramatically (technology). and what lies ahead can not really be known. but there are some decent projections

Wow , I didn’t even notice that 🤔. That’s put a lot into perspective

It shows a lot, imo

Why should I love you if you don't love you? You know yourself better than anyone. But I do agree with your statement.

There is no suggestion that people in the mono group don't love themselves, I mean that's what Snapchats for. A more interesting reflection would be reviewing the levels at which people love themselves.

Interesting perspective .. I didn’t catch that

Lol this

That’s ok 👌

I don't have any friends

lmao yes when that guy said '20 friends' I was like huhh how??

Rahera lol this 💯 lol

wtf is demisexual?

@@justynjonn some made up notion that someone made, its basically that your not se xually (spaced because of youtube filters) attracted to someone unless you know them personally. im not sure why it needs a title though just say your not interested unless i know the person

@@featheroml Saying this is way too long

@@mittag983 ok, how about i dont like you sexually till i know you.

@@featheroml they just need more of an emotional connection is all. some people can't just have sex with a stranger, they don't feel sexually attracted to people they've just met or recently met. takes some time. nothing wrong with using the term if it makes someone happy

I think that the dedication and the responsibility I would have many people that have turn to polygamy don't actually have anymore. It's something that they did not have in their monogamous relationship. Like the lady in Orange and the guy in the black shirt the white man, like they had both been in monogamous relationships. But maybe they chose the wrong person to be in a relationship with, and that made them answer the question the way that they did. About going to the other side and becoming monogamous again.

Idk he seems like your typical christian guy. Dont know if I'd want a guy like that.

Ikr

Basic Penguin yeah I couldn’t be with a Christian. But i don’t think people like that have to be Christian. I’m like that and I’m more Buddhist than anything. I didn’t know that guys like him even existed

hey ;^)

I want to like your comment but i don't want to change the like's number...

Why? The poly people are all equally unabashedly in love with their partners. Why single that guy out? Being monogamous isn’t any more virtuous or dedicated than being polyamorous

@@ethanbarker9811 it is

she like Apple jacks I like Apple sauce Dumbass

Ethan Barker From all the comments, all of the poly people seem to be very argumentative and aggressive for no reason. This person was just making a kind comment about something she admired in the video.

I enjoyed their discussion but I think if they are trying to win people over to ‘their side’ then it’s pointless. Especially the polyamorous people challenging the monogamous people about being jealous or not just having one friend. It’s like trying to convince fish that land is great. There’s little room for change here but a lot of room for understanding

+revaholic they really aren't trying to pull them to the other side they're defending their own beliefs because the monogamous side is trying to imply that there's something psychologically wrong with the other side not feeling jealous

BR May 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 somebody who gets it

Yes agreed!!

Double chin girl has left the chat

They are all very eloquent in how they express their thoughts and feelings and I learned a lot from this discussion because of how they all speak

If it isn’t easy and we must put in effort doesn’t that indicate it’s not how things are supposed to be? Since the dawn of time, even in the animal kingdom STILL “polygamy” rules. It’s just the way it is and will always be we can’t change human instinct. All we’re doing is suppressing it. But for what? Simply to not hurt feelings that’s why. But that doesn’t subside the fact that polygamy is how biology intended things to be.

I was like Yass girl!! hahah. It was just so well said. I do see the point that the other girl had, but the redhead's response just really hit home for a reason

Onzah if we were all “suppressing” our want to be in a polygamous relationship don’t you think there would be high suicide rates and depression among everybody because we are repressing a part of ourselves and don’t you think there would be riots and discussions regarding this? Oh yeah and to poke holes in ur argument, there are many animals such as penguins who have mates for life, which means being in a monogamous relationship for the rest of their lives so no it’s not normal in every animal kingdom. I don’t care if you believe polygamy is the next thing since sliced bread, but don’t go around telling people who don’t want to be polyamorous that we are “suppressing” a part of ourselves and we are naturally meant to have many partners. You aren’t helping your case.

Rubaba Rehman it is wired into mans brain. You can’t “unwire” that. That’s why people cheat. You can’t suppress animalístic urges. They will always remain

LMFAO parent issues have entered the chat

omg i thought you said attracted at first I’m happy I read that wrong

@@nihilisticnirvana yeah it's not like that could have anything to do with the way you view romantic relationships throughout your life colud it. :)

@@christiaan4music it could! i believe in the oedipal/electra complex, and freud's theory of psychosexual development

Hi, I was raised in a happy household with loving and caring parents that I love and respect a lot, and I'm poly. I can't represent all of us of course, but if you have questions feel free to ask me

love isn't for everyone either, so go be alone and happy....well still have friends.

There is no such thing as “YOUR TRUTH” that’s a made up term. Which makes truth subjective, truth isn’t subjective if it was there would be no real truth.

That still does not give someone a right to give your partner a heartbreak

And polyamary is one of the main reason people do divorce in India because people are too scared to come out to thier partner or society rejects them

@@kimetsunoacademia3528 I mean open relationships are not cheating as the other person know/may also be polygamous.

Yesss we stan respectful comments

You had us in the first half, not gonna lie

@@terrinarobinson7781 how

@@myacole1272 I thought Raya Ann was going to say something negative about open/polymerous relationship but she didn't

Hi, where are you from?

smartest comment on here tbh

Duuuuude, me too. 😭

That guy is doing it right.

He's a real man. Ladies I hope all of you get that one day, it's hard to come by. Anyone else a hopeless romantic that thinks about love more than sex?

He was raised the right way 😢💯

Yeah, good for him taht he had one gf that became his wife. I bet their relationship will last even into old age. Honestly that's what I truly want. But it's so hard to find a virtuous Christian girl that's at least cute. I'm sorry but physical attraction needs to be there to some degree.

Agreed! Btw I love your profile pic :)

Good point! I couldn't help but notice your pfp. Do you have a favorite song from the album?

Fact

Love your pfp 💜

yes!!! thank you I was searching for this comment!

What is natural? Or do you think there is no natural inclination? Genuine question.

true except humans are naturally polygamous but only for breeding purposes so if they want to use that argument then they also have to admit it is only sexual

Scientists agree that people are POLYAMOROUS

@@mossgossamer4093 then humans are naturally straight, and we are all meant to be straight and polygamous

Actually, society did, and does. You just have to know a bit of history

There is such an important difference tho... i can be attracted to one guy so much that adrenaline starts to over take me when he gets near but his personality stinks and i just can't

Exactly

Love is so much work and effort to build a long unique and lasting relationship! Definitely not love if you’re willing to multitask

@@yungmun4155 I beg to differ. Why limit your capacity to love?

Judith Furmston we all have different desires and needs, if the “lust” of polyamory or polygamy is what you feel comfortable with, then that’s great. As long as it fulfills you. It’s just not love. Not trying to value one over the other, they’re just two different things

Polygamy is slightly different to Polyamory. Polygamy is the act of marrying several people, so one has more than one spouse. Polyamory is the ability to form deep, meaningful connections with more than one individual; these dynamics can manifest in many ways. As they stated here, you can have a Primary to whom you are married, but you might also have an asexual relationship with someone else, or an emotional & physical relationship with someone else, or maybe you form a triad. There's a million different possible dynamics, but the underlying fact is that you share a meaningful connection.

@@89DaddyslilGirl98 Probably should also point out that Polygamy is illegal in the United States. Polyamorous relationships, on the other hand, are not.

Polyamoury is in nature selfish. You are diminishing the other person in some way. You can't have as much love for the person if ur dishing out some to the side...

It isnt selfish if everyone is in the same. If we are a throuplr we are on the same situation, we are dividing our love in two, but we are also receiving two divide loves. Everyone is giving two halves and receiving two halves. An equivalente exchange like in monogamy

@@lukekneubuehl3109 I b eleive that if you are not giving 100% to the person you love even if there is another.... giving 50% is not all of you're love to a person... doesn't someone have a right to 100 percent of someone's love?

looll

I'll be your friend french toast

So me ....

I only have one :/

@XxLaponzoxX don't brag 😂

LOL accurate!

exactly

😂😂😂😂😂😂

he seems sleazy and empty on the inside

The difference with polyamory though is that there’s no reason to cheat. It’s already out in the open and okay, no reason to lie

Yesss

Poly is a disrespect to real love itself

@@leleyang3088 that's kinda unfair to say that don't you think? I mean I'm poly and I love every single person in my relationship, it isn't for selfish or sexual reasons at all. It just works better for me, it also makes me feel saver knowing if someone in the relationship has a child we'll all be able to care for it, It might be due to my trauma that I feel a child would be saver in a big family. We love and care for each other more then anyone else. The people in the video weren't the best at showing how we really are.

@@leleyang3088 it works for them?

@@leleyang3088 i found you in so many comments section, why hating on polyamorous?

I think he's secretly gay... 😅

Sounds horrible actually

@@mstamper77 ?? That's a strange opinion to have, but it is certainly yours to have. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Simply A. It couldn’t be straight cuz she’s gay/bi..... Okay i’ll see myself out😅

Darkrai Gamer2907 so unnecessary.

Simply A. It’s just a joke

Simply A. omg it’s a joke..also being called gay/bi is not an insult girl

Emma • never said it was an insult and never said it wasn’t a joke. i said it was an unnecessary comment.

There's a difference but that doesn't mean your view on it is the only valid one

Amen I agree with you even tho I don't have a boyfriend I believe in love even tho I consider myself bisexual I love whoever makes me happy with myself ❤️ and doesn't want me for sex .

@@tawanakombora_19 I didn't say my view was the only valid one. All I meant was they're totally different types of relationships, It's like comparing apples and oranges.

Theresa Moore Yes but its still love, its still a relationship, so why you can love many friends and can't love many boyfriends ??? The same way your love for your best friend is different than your love for your mom, your love for your primarly boyfriend can be different from your love for your others boyfriends. Personaly i cheated on everygirl i had a relationship with, i caused pain in people i loved and i hate myself for that, because i really feel guilty . And i sincerly love my last ex, still today after 5years, and she know that, but im just different i think, i need others women in my life. She left me and i understand, and its still hard to this day when i think of it, so don't tell me i can't love many girls.

@@Anthonydu01630 I was only speaking for myself, not you.

Fr like I want a guy like that🥺

Gay

Cringy

Ikr xD

@Redrustyhill what's codependency when you're in love with someone?? So men cheat by design?? A man isn't secure in himself if he doesn't have multiple partners?? What the fuck??

FinTheHuman I kind of get the feeling that the two males were followers.. they hesitated a lot on a lot of things.. they didn't know what they actually felt.. they just didn't want to look like the odd ones out.. they were never the first ones to move.. always the last.. The woman in orange seems like she thinks she is there to mediate.. she is well spoken, she sounds intelligent.. but she wants to be in charge and always has something to say.. though I do have to say that she earned my respect by knowing exactly who she is and what she is about.. however, she missed the mark with the animal comparison.. some animals mate for life and if their partner dies, they stay solo until they also die.. Both sides have good points though.. but as they say, you have to work hard for the best things in your life.. the whole open relationship thing seems like an excuse not to commit.. and that is what it is.. a commitment.. to one person.. to love them above everyone else.. yea, you can love multiple people.. and be attracted to multiple people too.. but it says something about how strong your love for that 1 person is when you allow them to be your whole world.. it's all about commitment.. some can commit.. some cant.. their choice.. but I feel that those who can't are missing out on knowing how deep the well of love runs when you focus it all on one partner..

The curly haired lady has a youtube channel (Shan Boody) she talks about her open relationship along with her partner..you should check them out I found them interesting..

shan boody!

zinov3 You are saying those who "can't" as opposed to those who choose not to. If someone can't commit then they don't have a choice. Some people are willing to commit and some aren't. Two of the polyamorous participants in this video showed and expressed a willingness to consider monogamy in response to the "go to the other side" question. To me, it's inane for someone outside of a relationship to judge the depth of love felt and given within that relationship, and even more so to then compare it to that of other relationships. If two people are in a monogamous relationship for 6 years (married or not) and one of them dies, is the depth of their love greater or lesser than that of a polyamorous or open relationship that lasts 18 years? Is it even worth it to try and measure? I would say...not really Life is certainly about making choices and with every choice we miss out on something. Polyamorous people are missing out on knowing how deep that well runs but that simply means they will not know for sure. The well of love in their polyamorous relationship might run just as deep. It's all quite subjective and so it's impossible to tell However, I think the hope would be that the members of the relationship, whatever its structure might be, are not worried the least bit about what they're missing out on. That's usually a good sign

Meh…she’s mostly thoughtful and well-spoken, but she also made some unfair assumptions about monogamous people, such as suggesting they engage in monogamy primarily because they were taught to do so. Do some partners in monogamous relationships operate the way they do solely because of societal expectations? Sure, obviously. But to imply that monogamy is only a social construct is somewhat dismissive. As an ace myself, I think polyamory and monogamy can better be thought of as orientation instead of mere practices.

Very well said! It's certainly harder but more fulfilling in the long run IMO!

@LowLinK big facts

monogamy isn’t selfless, you literally don’t want to share your partner because it’ll affect your self-esteem; make you feel jealous, insecure, less Loved, etc. Not shitting on monogamy or anything, just wanted to clarify bc that’s definitely not accurate. Polyamory is selfless in nature, it’s the main reason it exists, to be unconditionally Loving and selfless towards your partner; allowing your partner to express and navigate their needs and desires without shame, without control, without guilt, so that you can see THEM be happy and healthy, whether it’s with or without you 24/7.

@@FaerieElethia But you kind of are.

@@FaerieElethia I don't think every monogamous person feels that way. I for one just feel polygamy is wrong, for me at least. If you are polygamous and find that fulfilling, then good for you. I just personally don't like polygamy because of how much more effort it takes and how I have to focus on all these different people, on top of that I don't want to share my partner or be shared by different people. It just feels wrong for me, feels dehumanizing, I dunno, I get that it isn't just sexual and that's it's also emotional and personal, but the idea of 'sharing' a person doesn't sit right with me. Again, if you're polygamous and enjoy that way of life, good for you, I've got nothing against you personally. I'm also a very introverted person. I have a few close friends and that's it, and having a polygamous relationship just feels like way too much given how much effort you already have to put into one person when in a monogamous relationship. It also conflicts with my religious beliefs, so there's that reason. My God doesn't necessarily like me being in more than one committed relationship.

@talooshh why are you not the top comment???

Envy and jealousy isn't the same thing. Jealousy is the fear of loosing something or someone. You can't be "jealous of a random person in the street"

Cat's Eyes jealousy has the meaning of not having something that another person has for example: I’m jealous of my friends shoes or new t-shirt. I have learned in my psychology class that jealousy can be good and bad, being jealous of someone when he does something better than you but using that jealousy as a fire to start doing better it’s the good side, but when someone does somethinf better than you and you just try to do things to make him look bad that’s the bad side and this works in relationships as well, jealousy that leads to more conversation and understanding is the good side but jealousy that leads to insecurity, no understanding and just blaming your partner it’s the bad side.

Cat's Eyes But envy is a form of jealousy

Loyal

damn dude thats so sad i have none

There is a difference between wanting to pipe it up with multiple mf's and wanting play legos with the homies/homie

@@sana5426 it isn't tho. I've got 3 only 3 friends and every single one is my best friend. I have 6 wives, married them in the most beautiful ways possible and I'll probably be having more. Life has been an adventure with them. And I'm just 25 ffs. I dunno what I'd be without them, they're just so perfect in every way. My life would be a terrible boring mess without them. And no I'm not arab or muslim, I'm hindu. Stop stereotyping people smh

@@meghanachauhan9380 Dude I was not stereotyping you. I just said the love you have for your friends is different between the love you have for you so. You do you. If you want to have 6 wives go ahead. I do not understand why you brought in religion tho. No where in my comment I mentioned anything about religion.

true af

%100 agree

So true in my opinion it could messy but I respect it just be careful it's something I'm not into but whatever makes people happy...

Cool but this is a public discussion meant to create dialogue so everyone is going to comment their thoughts

@@mela3889 exactly I just said mine and whatever makes THEM HAPPY as an individual i just discussed my view and I c nothing wrong with it.

@45 Year Old Virgin I believe vastly majority do share; however, they don't want to be part of a poly relationship.

I just commented bc this comment is not showing

Which redhead the chubby one?

Wifey

@@imiguifurr uhhhggggg no lesbians are just like everyone else they arent superior or perfect or anything. im sure a lot of lesbians dont want to be called perfect or superior to everyone else

You love her because shes pale?

Basic Penguin nooo lol fair as in her arguments are fair and the way she respects others’ opinions is fair Not fair skin 😂

I feel like she was a bit off the mark with the sex life question, but that may be just my personal stance on the matter. I like how well she prestented her arguments though. She was not offenicve but did well at defending her point.

Micaela Wearne or maybe cause y’all look alike

@@arianaalmeida7425 😂

There are objective ways of living, that's why we have laws against cannibalism for instance. Polyamory is absolutely horse shit idea that's been tried, tested and failed repeatedly.Only an infantile adult that's trying to skirt responsibility and commitment would try to resurrect the idea.

Yes there are certain actions that are objectively wrong to do, like murder. But I don't regard polyamory as objectively wrong because it has worked for humans when we were hunter-gatherers, which is 95% of our history. Once civilization became a thing it stopped working, many civilizations have fallen with the help of hyper polyamory. However to say that anyone who has the urge to become polyamorous is objectively wrong is to deny part of our natural human tendencies or urges.

bravebeing I wasn't necessarily implying moral objectivity, that's a little more complicated. I was implying rational objectivity. Early hunter gatherers lived under crude and archaic laws that lead to high rates of disease, wars and death, the global population barely grew until the earlier times of philosophers like Socrates that started promoting more critical thinking. "However to say that anyone who has the urge to become polyamorous is objectively wrong is to deny part of our natural human tendencies or urges." The possession of a proclivity does not justify its expression especially if that proclivity is destructive. Just because you have an urge to have sex with kids doesn't mean you can express it.

I see. "Early hunter gatherers lived under crude and archaic laws that lead to high rates of disease, wars and death" that's simply a false statement, yet a popular one. I invite you to read a bit more prehistory. Yeh I understand your point here, but pedophilia is far less rampant than promiscuousness and pedophilia is far more destructive, it's almost inherently destructive and promiscuousness actually has no negative effects on a personal level, studies show. Having said that, I'm also against polyamory on a societal level because history shows it doesn't work. Which is your main point as well right.

The Rambler lots of adults skirt commitment, it isn’t necessarily a bad thing. i think for the people who know monogamy won’t work for them, not getting into a monogamous relationship is a responsible choice.

I’ve seen several comments and from like months ago

But I agree haha

Gay

@melly nelly Ikr? If I don't get a man like that, I'm not dating lol

So true

ur a fuck up

@@exioz99 Boy if you don't shut your fash ass up

@@exioz99 why?

i'm poly and couldn't have said it better myself. people in the comments keep making arguments about how the polyamorous people talked about themselves whereas the monogamous people talked about their partners. it's because with poly relationships, it's so important to be in tune with your own needs before you treat anyone else's.

That’s really how it should be too.. everyone should be able to say “if it’s just me from here on out, I’m okay with that”. That’s when you know your complete and then finding a partner and being with them is just gonna make your happiness that much better, but it’s not completing your happiness. Very well put!