Is this true about people who choose “toxic” relationships over healthy ones? 👀

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6 ай бұрын

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@bjnaves1192 5 ай бұрын

Her and Tripp are probably the most reasonable hosts on this platform in my opinion. They just seem to get to the root of these questions without all the BS

@henrynobleiii3237 5 ай бұрын

You said something then!!!

@vaclinciapounds8859 5 ай бұрын

Exactly!!

@jbogle531 5 ай бұрын

Word. Those 2 got it.

@kristalliiite6408 5 ай бұрын

Yeah they are the only ones, the other two I think are just their for entertainment

@arthurphillips1455 5 ай бұрын

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 U HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD 👌🏿💥✊🏿‼️

@Mrnmayse 5 ай бұрын

I wanna say it again and let's say it always. I love this woman. She brings common sense to the whole problem.

@dasugo Ай бұрын

i see her face. I click and listen. she is good.

@clytchan 5 ай бұрын

Some of us are raised in dysfunctional households, and consider that normal. That’s why toxicity is so attractive to some people, they’re addicted to drama. If they ever get with someone who’s decent and well adjusted, more often than not, it won’t last. Because the dysfunctional person will feel something’s missing; chaos. It’s sad, but true.

@codyp2808 5 ай бұрын

It’s not a permanent personality trait. They can work to accept and find love how it is actually shown. Fighting isn’t love. It’s just an emotional drug

@SL1133DZ 5 ай бұрын

Per facts! Exactly what happened to me. It was too peaceful and not enough drama going on, so they✌🏾🤭.

@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp 5 ай бұрын

YEP SO TRUE! THIS is exactly why I broke up with someone last year. He was so used to people talking down to him his whole life, had a toxic ex wife who put others before him, he was used to having to lead with his money, etc. I told him it’s like you hate me for actually being the one to care. He couldn’t BELIEVE how calm and peaceful I was (even though he said that’s what attracted him to me in the first place 🤦🏽‍♀️) because he was so used to chaos. The first time/day I argued with him is the same day I broke up with him. If I can’t be my feminine, peaceful, encouraging, happy, extremely loving self with you then I can NOT be with you! Those types of people don’t understand that you have to become a totally different type of person in order to be with them and it’s NOT worth your peace!!! ❤️

@clytchan 5 ай бұрын

@@SL1133DZSame here. 😣

@bsp5689 15 күн бұрын

@@codyp2808but that’s the thing you have to do the WORK!!!!!If you were raised on fast food and not exercising but hope to get a 6 pack later in life you can’t just sit on your butt and hope you get one one day…you have to put in the HARDWORK….ppl don’t do that these days especially black ppl….we’re the group least likely to go to therapy smh

@Peacealways247 5 ай бұрын

Many times toxic people are seeking peaceful people because they feel that the person will provide the peace they need but if they don't have it within themselves, they will destroy that peaceful person by being jealous and envious. We must have discernment.

@tousainthart-yc1tr 5 ай бұрын

Somebody other than Tripp speaking the Gospel on stage, she always brings her A Game, also the toxicity addiction goes both ways

@JackieS812 5 ай бұрын

Ms. Kittie, always bring it and guess what, she don’t have to use profanity to make her point! Love you Ms. Kittie!

@joeblackston3884 3 ай бұрын

😒😒😒😒

@onebree4u 5 ай бұрын

Breaking them generational cursed and behavioral issues will attract the right people to you.

@aubriellemorgan 4 ай бұрын

Amen

@victoriasegall3404 4 ай бұрын

😊👌

@Aaron.M88 4 ай бұрын

That's it right there. Guarantee you, there's a sermon in there somewhere.

@davidMRherobetts 5 ай бұрын

There needs to be a dual panel with just Kitty and Trip. All the others just say what they want to get the most hype and crowd cheers. But these two speak with for real wisdom.

@joeblackston3884 3 ай бұрын

Faxxxxxxology👊🏾

@FaithandPurpose828 22 күн бұрын

Was Kitty the woman who spoke? If so, I agree.

@coachkeith643 5 ай бұрын

Once again the only woman on this panel who makes sense and she's the only one who's married. What a shocker.

@gelliewelly4894 5 ай бұрын

Kita is married as well.

@coachkeith643 5 ай бұрын

@@gelliewelly4894 which one is she? Is she on this video?

@gelliewelly4894 5 ай бұрын

@@coachkeith643 yes, she’s sitting right next to this young lady.

@ShyTee21 4 ай бұрын

She is very intelligent and mature, level headed

@claymorekwaramba6937 5 ай бұрын

She's not over him yet . It's an addiction to dysfunction

@mr.israel6564 5 ай бұрын

Right, I'm like is this question about a dude who's not there..instead of her

@PhilomenaAletheia 5 ай бұрын

PREACH💯💯💯& say it LOUD FOR THE GALS IN THE BACK 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️ I’ve had this concept on my mind for over a year… but couldn’t put the phenomenon into words. So, Thank you for explaining this- TO TRUE PERFECTION.

@bbounce803 5 ай бұрын

They be speaking to our soul on this joint lol

@rochellethundercloud346 5 ай бұрын

Valid. If you only know dysfunction,chaos,abuse, toxicity, that becomes normal for you. Anything that deviates from that is anxiety inducing. You don't know how to handle a healthy relationship,so you,more often than not, will destroy it.

@MT-hk9cp 5 ай бұрын

Had an ex destroy our realationship and he realized it years later that he doesn't identify with normalcy. Married a woman who was a nut and now going through a divorce. We are friends now and I'm so glad he broke up with me😂

@vaclinciapounds8859 5 ай бұрын

I love Ms Kiitie!! She always brings a lot of insight into the panel with every conversation!! Keep dropping those gems!! 💎 ✨️ 🙏🏽

@calvinmack7124 5 ай бұрын

I honestly don't understand people who want to come home to toxicity and chaos in their own home. I deal with that all day outside my home... Peace is what my woman provides and what I enjoy coming home to.

@victoriasegall3404 4 ай бұрын

Bravo! I am of the same mindset. I absolutely CAN'T STAND chaos! I stay well back from those who live In, and continually attract, toxicity, and I no longer let it come to my place! Wishing you and your girlfriend much happiness! 😊👌

@calvinmack7124 4 ай бұрын

@@victoriasegall3404 I don't have time for the nonsense... especially the older I get....Appreciate it! Be safe out here.

@ICEMAN-fm4dx 5 ай бұрын

Her and Tripp are ALWAYS on Point

@michaelhawkins5410 5 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯 it goes both ways. We don’t like toxicity either

@Wyndamn 5 ай бұрын

Nobody likes Toxicity, male or female.

@user-de1wg5sn3o 3 ай бұрын

Ms. Kitty needs her own podcast ❤️ God please make it happen for this Queen❤️

@ltaylor5539 3 ай бұрын

I explained this to my ex husband almost three years ago. I've watched him date and cultivate relationships during and after we ended, he consistently brings confusion into each relationship he is in. I explained to him you like confusion because you create it in every relationship you're in.

@darnelldaniels4109 5 ай бұрын

My God .....she spoke that very well 💯

@LOVEJONES33 5 ай бұрын

Whewwww a word !!! It’s a mental thing

@isaiahallen244 5 ай бұрын

If he is attracted to toxic women, and you're with him!? And vice-versa. My wife says, when you point your finger, three fingers are pointing back at you.

@bryangosling2238 5 ай бұрын

Your wife had some bars words! Respect. I Like that comment: "When you point your finger somewhere, 3 fingers are pointed back!" lol I never really looked at it like that till I realize, wait, my thumb is down my index finger is pointed forward, but then my middle, pinky, ring finger are actually pointed back to me! I'm going to keep that line...lol thanks

@Mrs.DanielsIRL 4 ай бұрын

Yes she is right. I dodged a lot of bullets when I was single by honoring myself and not becoming something Im not.

@alexatkins9515 4 ай бұрын

I agree with everything she said except for the attracting part because you can attract any & everything I would have instead said entertain. What part about you wants to entertain this toxicity not attract. That’s the part that needs to be acknowledged & resolved. I believe it’s the part of her that is emotionally unavailable.

@leovypanes7962 2 ай бұрын

Those attracted to chaos find a person with inner peace boring and emotionless.

@shymybabes 5 ай бұрын

I always wondered why my sister deliberately went after men who were toxic and would pass up men who tried to love her.... this explanation makes so much sense. We didn't have the best upbrining. It's almost like she's recreating our childhood environment.

@Lisa_Lisa312 5 ай бұрын

I'm proud you can make the connection. The foundation laid down in our childhood will repeat, unless we INTENTIONALLY break and pour new foundation.

@victoriasegall3404 4 ай бұрын

@@Lisa_Lisa312 Wise words, indeed!😊👌

@tinyking11 5 ай бұрын

😮‍💨🔥💯 Ms. Kittie not lying, my ex bf told me upfront he preferred toxic women bc the sex was better. Also he would always try to find a problem so we could argue and he would get mad when I wouldn’t argue back with him bc I’m not toxic nor argumentative. That relationship was so draining. I’m glad I got out. I need a non-toxic man as well. It seem like most men out here love chaos and drama. I don’t. I grew up with parents that argued 24/7, dysfunction and domestic violence. I want the total opposite of that.

@joeblackston3884 3 ай бұрын

Most men love chaos and drama😲😲😲

@altheahoyt3795 5 ай бұрын

I JUST LOOOVVVVEEE to hear her speak the truth and the facts of the matter of the problem at hand. No BS just straight to IT ‼️‼️‼️

@trenastewart2599 4 ай бұрын

Love you, Kiddie. You are a great speaker

@ruthcook8599 5 ай бұрын

#KITTY TELL THAT TRUTH GIRL 🖤🎯🔥💯

@stephenfoster1257 Ай бұрын

Don’t be grateful for what someone else has,be grateful for the chaos that you missed.

@grayw.hemphilliii2002 4 ай бұрын

FACTS, straight from the top rope on to a suplex!

@christielove2877 5 ай бұрын

No truer words spoken

@hennessytheblackrose6519 5 ай бұрын

FACTS BIG FACTS Unfortunately some people are born into toxicity and don’t even realize it it is their normal self love is so important thank you

@cspring3221 5 ай бұрын

She gives the best advice!! Love her

@angelaholloway5321 29 күн бұрын

Right on point!

@jenniferrowland3078 5 ай бұрын

I hope all the people in the back heard her lol. Straight up TRUTH!!!!

@JulindaLeDee 5 ай бұрын

I found this to be true in my last relationship. He couldn't handle peace.

@tinaj9621 4 ай бұрын

Love this. Its unfortunate that the odds are against us. I feel many of us unfortunately may have a bit of damage 💔 but some of of won't crush the souls of other with abuse or betrayal, cheating, etc. Like we know that's horrible and wrong. We at least know to avoid that. But others, hell they will continue in this, never truly grow in the core. So it just seems the odds are kinda high that you'll meet someone like. This but they'll quickly show you the real deal. So when u notice, don't fight for the relationship. Get the hell on.

@nataliesmith8657 3 ай бұрын

I appreciate this side of Kitty❤

@craigarandolph 5 ай бұрын

Love her mentality on relationships 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️

@jeto.9787 5 ай бұрын

Kitty never fucking misses man. Trip and Kitty stay getting it.

@01MJ10 4 ай бұрын

Ayee this is the truth here! It's not that you're not good enough he likes what he's been attuned to like. He doesn't see it an issue

@naebae9468 5 ай бұрын

My mama always told me that people are a reflection of their household and their up bringing. You cant chanhr someone whos been brought up in a toxic environment no matter what age really because they can only do what theyve been taught and what's instilled in them from birth.

@bellawilde2169 5 ай бұрын

I love this lady

@w_s-23 5 ай бұрын

Her Tripp get it off like no other, but they are all good, but i do agree these two seem to know how to put the words in place

@br0wnsug453 5 ай бұрын

She's so pretty

@belevhersboutique4727 4 ай бұрын

She always has a great perspective

@sandragilchrist3602 5 ай бұрын

This got me wanting to play Darts 😂😂😂

@Rua007 2 ай бұрын

It always comes back to self... These women will never understand that.

@YelloLibra83 5 ай бұрын

Every person you meet will always be a lesson. Watch those Red and Green flags.

@HeadUpWingsOut 5 ай бұрын

I agreed until the final statement..it's unfounded that there is something inside of a person that attracts toxic people. Toxic people are manipulative.

@victoriasegall3404 4 ай бұрын

Exactly! My father was a toxic person, and was manipulative with my mother. My first boyfriend was likewise. What Mother (1930-2013) and I had in us was genuine goodness. These toxic people see it, no doubt, but don't know what to do with it.

@glynnisharper7216 4 ай бұрын

@@victoriasegall3404oh, they know what to do with it, alright. And that is to abuse ur kindness and control u for their gain. One of my exes wasn't physically abusive, but boy did he play on my heartstrings.

@SyndicateTheLonelyGun 4 ай бұрын

She really do got bars.

@mjunior1413 2 ай бұрын

Facts💯

@Yall2funee8 5 ай бұрын

AMEN PERIOD. BORING IS THE NEW SEXY AND HEALTHY🎉😊

@nicoleblake2700 5 ай бұрын

I love this

@renee7113 5 ай бұрын

I love her examples. She is very emotionally intelligent.

@johnmoore4714 2 ай бұрын

Kitty 😺 preach sista

@TheRazorTongue 5 ай бұрын

Telling the truth.

@cherylnisbett5959 5 ай бұрын

So darn true

@notyobestie4220 5 ай бұрын

PREACHHHH!!!!!!!!

@KeisiaLashawn23 5 ай бұрын

Where’s the full episode?

@denisereese7614 5 ай бұрын

Amen.

@larissamartin9732 5 ай бұрын

Owww weee 🔥💯🥰

@robertrath3984 4 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I went through with my ex-girlfriend😢

@joeblackston3884 3 ай бұрын

Did you say ex-girlfriend, b/c some women in the comments. Only think men are toxic🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

@obinnaochiagha1097 5 ай бұрын

The adage - 'a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush', can be a stupid notion sometimes especially when it comes to relationships.

@thisloverofgod658 5 ай бұрын

I disagree with that last part on the flip side toxic people are also attracted to great people. It’s a power trip to be able to dominate that. Demons are attracted to light. They know they’ll ever be light 💡 so they feed off it.

@lindaojeda493 5 ай бұрын

Yes ma'am

@lovenskydemorcy4933 5 ай бұрын

Nothing but facts

@vmrogers72 5 ай бұрын

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

@EricWheeler-rz5cy 5 ай бұрын

Naaw naawww nawww , that good person in your heart nonsense needs to manifest itself at some point! And allow your significant other determine if that's love or not according to their understanding!

@Yvng_Zy 5 ай бұрын

Facts

@cjohnson_ 5 ай бұрын

This is like 90% of most people. Men and Women 😢

@ataye1 Ай бұрын

I didn't even know that I liked toxic women. That's all I was use to.

@Jai-Barnes 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ka9202 5 ай бұрын

Sometimes having a "type" ain't a good thing.

@franciestyles7181 5 ай бұрын

This is deep

@sandragilchrist3602 5 ай бұрын

🎯

@teer7044 4 ай бұрын

Exactly...move on. I didn't know those kind of men actually exist...sooo glad...I don't do toxic or drama

@JM-ey6fe Ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

@Foeforever3 22 күн бұрын

😮😮😮😮😮 so true

@lydiachagga6946 3 ай бұрын

Oooh yes 😅😅

@crazycriz5000 5 ай бұрын

She has a point, but men aren’t really like that. If a man grew up in that he will most likely go away from it in his adult years. Trauma shapes and sculpts men more often than not. It also may depend on if he’s a really young man or if he’s approaching his 30s.

@akstylez_ak5037 5 ай бұрын

I’d really like to ask what is toxic behavior and when is a person considered as toxic 🤷🏽‍♀️. I think people use that word just the wrong way

@JoeManeTv 5 ай бұрын

True

@gabriellehanks6850 4 ай бұрын

She was wrong about one thing. The whole "you attract who you are" shtick is an overused and untrue cliché statement that just sounds good. You will attract all types of people if you're attractive or have certain attractive qualities. You don't have any control over who finds you attractive. That said, you have total control over who and what you TOLERATE..💯

@nellam. 5 ай бұрын

Who's this woman because wow 👌

@melgood8 5 ай бұрын

Please stop saying if you keep attracting toxic people look into yourself ….. the only thing I can think of is a person wanting to be needed. Or try to fix everything ( enabler)

@carlettethomas5252 5 ай бұрын

❤❤

@wenipreye2164 3 ай бұрын

Who's this woman??? ❤❤❤

@professorhawk777 4 ай бұрын

Man, if you really pay attention...she equated a toxic man to have to similar logic and reasoning to that of an emotionally damaged woman. A man who thinks like that is dangerous to himself and others. A man shouldn't be ruled by his emotions...and a woman who is attracted to an emotional man isn't healthy either...

@TheGoldenYears51 2 ай бұрын

@deborahbrown8570 4 ай бұрын

He will be a nuisance..🏃‍♂️

@w_s-23 5 ай бұрын

Simple Common sense

@TruMizzou314 5 ай бұрын

That's not 100% true i come from a broken house drug dealing &using abuse all of kinds of chaos. I dislike anything that unsettling i find comfort in peace and women with goals that's working towards them and more... My dad was never around & my mom was never a mother I learned by watching & listening.. at how not to treat someone..its a mindset your environment molds you but it never dictate who you are or what u can become 🤷