Am I the only one watching this in full concentration and interest but still thinking "gosh the resemblance with Liam Neeson"?

3:19 “that if I just worried hard enough, I could insulate myself from what I feared most.” Been there. Doing this.

I wish he addressed those of us severely abused or tortured by parents. I faced severe physical and psychological abuse on a daily basis for 17 yrs. No cases like that in his book:-( i am old now, suffering from a chronic stress disease as a result of childhood abuse. "Go home and make peace with parents" was never an option for me. I would rather eat rusty nails than connect with my parents. It just wouldnt be appropriate because they made me fight for my right to be alive. Mark, if you read this, i'm awaiting your next book about healing severe childhood abuse...thank you!

What a great story, but if your parents are narcissists there is zero confirmation or reconciliation unless you conform to their view of you and the world. Subject yourself to subtle (family) institutional abuse. The dynamic is intergenerational and breaking it means breaking the bond with them in order to live the fullest life outside the trauma bond.

Problem is that if your parents are narcs then they are unlikely to tell you anything or disclose any shortcomings with them or their traumas.

While his book is probably powerful, my integrative chiropractor suggested a book called "recovering the inner child" where we write with the right and left hand with questions and responses with our "wounded selves". We dug up issues at the age if 5, 12, 16, and 25. I'm excited to set these trauma bonds free to let my future unfold. Healing is a journey and it opens new doors. Darnet though, have to wait a week to get the book!

Made a breakthrough watching this video. Thanks Mark! I found that a nightmare from my early childhood contained the missing link.

I have his book and am reading it for the 2nd time. What stood out for me is this:"it's important to find a place inside ourselves where we can soften when we think of our parents, not bristle." HOW CAN I NOT BRISTLE WHEN MY PARENTS PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY TORTURED ME THE FIRST 16 YRS OF MY LIFE??? I followed your advice and displayed poster sized pics of my dead parents...it did nothing for me, not a thing. I am old now and suffer a stress related disease as I'm reading your book again. I had two sons who hate my guts and won't communicate a meaningful sentence. Their lives are a mess, too...without getting into detail. ALL MY PARENTS' DOING. I think what's missing in your book, Mark, are examples of parents who not only should, but MUST be written off...bc sometimes the trauma or parental abuses are so evil and unacceptable that it is impossible to acknowledge or deal with. My parents weren't evil, but they surely ruined my life.

This definitely just changed my insight on how I see life currently and makes so much sense on my past life traumas ect. I brought his book and I’m only 2 chapters in and I’m flabbergasted. Wow. This needs to be taught in a bigger way.

Wow this is so eye-opening! I have been struggling with perfectionism for a long time and made a breakthrough discovery several years ago about how my obsession with perfectionism or the fear of rejection and disappointing other people is linked to my fear of abandonment. I didn’t know where this fear had come from but now I see it might be connected to the fact that both my grandparents were orphaned during the war. for my grandma, her brother took everything away from her and forced her to leave home at age eleven. She ended up moving to a different city and for five years lived in the back kitchen with other servants at her supposedly rich uncle’s house. My grandpa was orphaned at seven and ended up living with an American pastor for several years and learned English. But the pastor had to leave to return to his country and couldn’t bring my grandpa with him, so my grandpa experienced almost another abandonment. He lived on the street for some time and eventually found an apprenticeship at a mechanic shop. The owner later took my grandfather in as a son and my grandpa changed his family name to honor the owner’s kindness, and he adopted a new name. No one in the family knows what his name used to be. My grandparents are both wonderful people and they have led a very fulfilling life :) and they love their grandkids a lot!

I have been reading your book " It didnt start with you", and it is amazing book. All in all, I agree with Mark Wolynn because thanks to him my asthma went away. I spoke with my mother who I never knew, and told her that I love her very much. I feel much better now. I thing everything and everyone is connected

Your work has changed my life. Thank you

Thank you, this is powerful.

This man, this knowledge, are AMAZING. I would love to meet him one day! Fascinating! ⚡️⚡️⚡️ Thank you for sharing your love and light!

Absolutely mindblowing!! and those exercises were super insightful, this explains a lot

Your work is remarkable. Your book saved my life!

So thankful for Mark Wolynn for writing this book and sharing his experience

Thank you so so so much! I'm reading your book and my eyes are opening more and more... It's a diffucilt process but extremely crucial. Your book changes my life forever. I'm grateful for your work.

Amazing!!!! ❤you are going to heal and change many peoples lives! Thank you so much for sharing!! ❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻

Watched it again massive insights and realizations at this stage of my intergenerational healing Journey and making the connections of these feelings inherited from mother and father and seeing the same patterns repeating themselves in my life.

Thanks so much for hosting this, everyone viewing please leave a comment so that algorhytmically helps reach more beings :)

This is so good! It was very insightful and informational. It makes me want to dig deep and figure out the root of my reaction to certain events. My trauma language.

fascinating talk, received so much from the information shared here.

I’ve been staggered by the evolutionary teachings birthed by mark in this astonishing book : looking into all over the years, including potential karmic imprints, past live entanglements and all else, this is of giant significance when dealing with our ‘ghosts’ - most of which appear to be just that when we’ve held on to notions that it all actually did start with me. Enlightening and a true visionary x

Interesting!!! My insight is that we inherit from our ancestors the unresolved historic trauma... it is known of but not spoken of... and therefore not healed... arohanui 😍💚💯💚😍

My therapist told me to look up this guy's book so I'm watching this talk, and I'm starting to worry that they completely misunderstood (or perhaps assumed incorrectly?) where my traumatic responses stem from. I didn't inherit being sensitive to sudden noises and people sneaking up behind me genetically. I learned it as a trauma adaptation from experiences like being woken up with a broomstick, having my privacy violated repeatedly, and being snuck up on by my parents because they wanted to catch me doing something wrong and physical violence was sure to follow. I don't have an intense dread of being homeless because some ancestor of mine was once homeless. I fear it because my mother made sure I feared it, telling me about SA, drug addiction, theft, sex trafficking, etc. and would then threaten to call the cops and have me dragged out onto the street "to see how I'd do / just see what those people do to you," without her benevolent protection. When I was as young as eight or nine years old. For *any* infraction or sign of disobedience. I also fear it because it's a rational fear to have. Due to being what I am, I would be a prime target in the area where I live. I know this because people like me are often killed or SA'd for simply being who and what they are with increasing frequency where I live, and there are a lot of homeless people I've personally known and heard their stories and struggles. I've seen them suffer, and I've felt the awful powerlessness that comes with being unable to help when the shelters, charities, and food banks turn them away. Powerlessness, being afraid of being hurt or killed, fearing being forgotten, etc. are also all natural human fears to have. These are normal. Suicidal ideation and action can come about from *so* many different sources. A person being young doesn't invalidate their plummeting self-worth, their depression, their disabilities, their misery, their loneliness, etc. all of which can drive a person to think such things and consider those actions. What I did inherit is OCD. That we already know has a genetic component to it. Genetic predispositions to certain disabilities or mental illnesses doesn't mean those illnesses themselves are inherited. Having the increased *likelihood* of developing PTSD or depression does not mean you genetically inherited those disorders. The study also seems a little sus, at least the way he describes it. Offspring develop depression after having time with their mother repeatedly limited? We already know this. It's more likely due to being unable to form that parental bond because scientists keep taking the babies away from their first source of food, warmth, and protection. The woman who was scared she would hurt her baby confirmed that she'd known already about her grandmother's loss, which seems like, if it was something that was spoken about in such a limited, ominous way as is described... no wonder she was scared. Kids think all kinds of things when told stories they're not able to process and discuss in a healthy way. They kinda fill in the blanks. Case in point: My oldest sister was in a car accident that broke her femur and patella, and we helped her during her painful recovery. My next-oldest sister, having witnessed my sister's pain and trauma as a kid, was terrified of driving for years as a result, to the point of shaking and crying on the day she was supposed to take her first driving test from the terror that she, too, would get badly injured. That wasn't an inherited trait, that was environmentally-transmitted trauma from one person to another. We know that some trauma can have a genetic or long-term physiological effect on the sufferer, yes. For example, several former contestants of the Biggest Loser TV show, which is well-known for how aggressive and unhealthy that show was to its contestants, discovered after leaving the show that their bodies simply couldn't lose weight anymore and packed the weight back on very quickly, due to a long-term metabolic shift their body had made to adapt to the sudden weight loss and food scarcity. There's just too many assumptions being made here. It all seems very subjective and circumstantial, and while it's a lovely idea, I'm going to have to go with Occam's Razor here and say, "Yeah, I don't think trauma is that simple, and I don't quite yet buy that you can genetically inherit the fear of heights because your ancestor fell off a ladder, broke their whole ass, and never walked again."

Increíble !.. que importante es hablar sobre nuestros traumas familiares.. pero sobre todo, contarnos nuestra historia familiar. Si no sabemos el pasado de nuestra familia, este vendrá a cazarnos.

Very insightful. This information is also extremely relevant for those who integrate "shadow work" into their spiritual routine (becoming conscious of the powerful unconscious forces at work in our psyche).

Here after watching "Another self"...definately going to get the book

Thank you for the work you are doing, Mark Wolynn. This information is desperately needed on this planet right now. Reading his book - it’s excellent.

Thank You ! 🙏🏻❤🌷

Absolutely brilliant!

The guy is 'right'......Good presentation.....! Excellent talk...

This is insightful, in deed. It's an invaluable approach and isn't going to be for everyone, obviously. I mean, I hope that's obvious! The spiritual by-passing comments are unfortunate and lack understanding which points to fear. Fearfully working with the relative self is part of the path whether one can see that or not. If this is something that is in affect for you, allow it to inform and free you. All paths are leading us home.

Just excellent thank you

Amazing. I can’t put his book down!

Thank You!! 🙏♥

Wow. The story about Sarah gave me chills. Brilliant insights.

This is why I enjoy A Course in Miracles! It states that a miracle is merely a change of mind! It teaches that ALL HEALING IS MENTAL AT THE CORE! "Seek NOT to change the "world" (effect), instead seek to change your mind (cause) ABOUT the "world""!

20:00 what he's talking about here can reveal itself in dreams you had as a child. Perhaps a nightmare you had when you were young reflects a deep genetic tramuma.

This gave me goosebumps. I have been doing the same work with my clients for years now and had no idea others have discovered this. The techniques I have been teaching are more comprehensive than the ones outlined here although he has explained the work that needs to be done beautifully. Thank you for this!

I healed me and now as i honour myself it conflicts with my parents now because they are acting from a place of trauma and i no longer fit into their model of the world though i do take what i feel is good but i no longer fit into their world anymore and it can be sad cuase that world was all i new those bonds created in trauma was all i knew it hasnt been easy to leave that world but ive done it

I followed the method and it’s just wonderful, it changes the way I will see my future partners now,because when you finish a relationship you keep asking yourself why him? Why you choose him? Maybe this is the answer.

I use astrology, hypnotherapy with my clients; this therapy expands my thinking. Although in hypnotherapy/astrology we already know about past lives/ancestors influence on our lives today! So this is another way of saying something that is known by many. therapists. Role playing is a great therapy, too. He may have been helped by astrology/hypnotherapy.

The thing about this is, that a lot of these fears are not totally irrational. Fear of dying, fear of causing harm to someone else, fear of wasting our lives, etc. these are all valid fears. Should we walk about all day thinking about them 24/7? No. Of course not. But to dismiss them by saying, this fear isn't your fear because it came from someone else is also not the answer. Because at the end of the day these things can also happen to the recipient of the passed on dna trauma.

This is incredible 👏.

Wow this is fascinating - will take some additional thought

Beautiful and Touching.. Love from India, Ganga

I just want to say to everyone here: I'm so sorry you had to go through what you went through.

Byron Katie's work is also very good at breaking down family trauma and false thinking! She has helped me a lot to process thought that we take on but are not true! But we must be willing to let go of the story we built! That is the key!

Amen!

I love this, thank you. I am curious to know how we can deal with inherited traumas or even know what is inherited or not, if we do not know our family history and have no way of finding out. If anyone can answer this Id be so grateful.

excellent

very interesting

I just got the book ♥️♥️♥️♥️

"they inherited the trauma response, but did not inherit the trauma directly" whoa. "Take the mice from their mothers and they can trace the effects for three generations" damn. Take the mice away for three hours for two weeks and the get depressed or worse later in life and if suppressed then passed to female offspring! holy shit we got some work to do on ourselves peeps....

This insightful man is onto something.

this is great also Gabor mate

Hola! Bueno... su libro llegó a mis manos por casualidad. Deseo.con toda mi alma poder resolver mis traumas( físicos y psicológicos). Espero encontrarlo de la mano con usted. Si lo logro se lo haré saber. Saludos, un gusto conocerlo. Desde Argentina❤

as I choose a husband, her father that hurted absolutely our lifes

Mediums can also figure out for you if you need ancestral healing. They can tell you if you are repeating history don't lock it or ignore it because it can haunt you for years.

This was extremely interesting

I'm reading this book and the concept isn't new! Honestly the bible speaks of trauma that will impact generations! In the introduction of his book as he was describing his relationship with his mother. He spoke of his birth, forceps used on him during his birth, and how the forceps caused scarring to his head. He spoke of how his mother was afraid or scared to hold him! I wholeheartedly believe she probably was afraid to hold him closely due to the damage caused by the use of the forceps NOT because she didn't love him! I just thought she was traumatized!! Also he mentioned the Holocaust survivors and their children and I also believe that, one because the Bible speaks on trauma impacting their children and their children's children!! I was listening for how the trauma os slavery, the gym crow system AS well as systemic racism impacted my ancestors as well as my grandfather (who played baseball in the Negro Leagues) but also how that impacted his children (one being my mother) and her siblings! I feel a lot of us are suffering due to this inherited trauma that we are still fighting!

As a child, I cried into my mom's clothes too.

Great talk. Eventually, nobody is destined to feel unlovable or unworthy because of trauma, if we let awareness be in what's arising and we welcome it. It can be such an intense work, after decades of confusion. Knowing there's no one to blame is a big something. Knowing it didn't start in oneself, another big one. Thank you 🙏🏻🍀 Quite a long comment below, not focused on our traumas. Yet, kind of an off-topic, or a spin-off, if you will. Please, ignore if you find it uninteresting. I'd like to add that those studies are done on mice, not because they just breed faster, but mainly because we think of them as our commodities. We are conditioned to perceive animals as resources we can exploit for our own benefit. We would never tolerate such status (chattel property, commodity) for an individual labelled as human. Indeed, a Hollywood fear is that aliens will come here and act upon us in the same way we act upon those with whom we share this planet. We humans are animals who are conditioned to perceive and legally consider the individuals from other species mainly as expendable objects to serve our purposes. But we know they are no objects, but subjects. Each one of them is also a somebody, not a something. We obviously know they can feel their own spectrum of emotions. That's what makes a sentient being relevant. However, we dismiss it because we are biased towards seeing them as "less than", unworthy of having their most fundamental interests into consideration (to be alive, to keep body integrity, not to be coerced). We assign value to things depending on how useful they are to our interests, including conscious individuals. That's why even human slavery had been socially and legally accepted for so long. Currently, and by default, the mainstream theory in regards the use of animals is known as Animal Welfare. It's just a theory, to which even most "animal rights" defenders subscribe to. Because of it, we assume there's nothing wrong in exploiting them, and discuss the way we should treat them, the conditions we should change and implement (economically driven), maybe giving them bigger cages (less illness, better production), or some other affordable treats and eco labels to calm down our consciousnesses. Slaves can't have rights, but conditions of exploitation. Animal Rights theory is totally opposed, based on the following statement: sentient beings (those who experience existence subjectively, thanks to a nervous system, which includes us), have an intrinsic value, because each individual has an inherent interest in his own life. Animal Rights proposes only one right for any sentient being, the right to not be considered property, to not be a slave. What would this right mean for any of them? Legal liberation from human oppression. And for us? What about us!! First, respecting them. Why do we still unconsciously believe that animals belong to us? Because we are conditioned to perceive them as such. We are indoctrinated into speciesim, into the idea that animals exist for our use and enjoyment, rather than for our own reasons. And so, we behave as if the species (or sex, or skin color, or any other label apart from sentient) was somehow relevant for a fundamental ethical consideration. And it didn't start with us. The civilization we can see is based on that belief, and it is quite explicit. Have a look around: we breed and kill animals in order to transform them into sandwiches and purses. We hunt and confine them in zoos and aquariums. We buy and sell them: we commodify them. We force them to compete, or to be gatekeepers, or to pull weights. We use them daily for our enjoyment and benefit in thousands of ways, all of them coming from the same belief, a biased perception. Some of us even dare to say we love them while eating or wearing them! All of us do, because we are indoctrinated into perceiving them as things. Should we stop exploiting conscious beings at all? Indeed, we don't need to use them at all to be healthy and thrive. The least we can do for animals is to be vegan, to stop seeing them as things, and to start seeing them as individuals who deserve, at least, to not be enslaved. It's just a change of paradigm. Not that hard. Nothing that any of us haven't done before. In case you resonate with this topic, may I suggest you to watch a short documentary about Animal Rights? - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/h7ZopaaW2p-lkoE.html - (24 min, non-graphic) Thank you 🙏🏻🍀

Great talk!, what does a person do if they can not get the information from previous generations? How to heal and not go on with the cycle of suffering?

What about non-dramatic events? Does it work the opposite way too? Enormous moments of well-being, success, personal triumph also have epigenetic markers that pass onto further generations?

your work is very interesting....what can I do for me and my daughter about violence and fear ?

I have never been raped or forced to have sexual intercourse, but people have assumed this about me who didn’t even know me. I used to be deathly afraid when my parents would go out of town cause my teenage siblings would invite boys and alcohol into our home. I would lock myself in my parents bedroom for fear that someone would get drunk and rape me. Made no sense to me. My mom says she has cousins who got in with some young men who took them out of town and raped them. My first sexual experience was with a guy who shamed me for my virginity years prior (I literally went home and balled my eyes out like he had done the deed after the shaming). He basically told me he’d soon take care of that. It felt very defiling and shameful that he would have the nerve to speak to me like that. Years later he found me depressed and drunk at a party and I didn’t care about what happened to me. I had a very traumatic school year and was out drinking when I should’ve been home resting. I was conscious enough of my decision and regretted the experience and wanted it to be over from the beginning. I wasn’t sure if I could call this rape, I know it was less than optimal. Incidentally, my mom had given me new undergarments that were quite sexy and I wore them that night not knowing what I was going to experience that night. As an adult I told my mom about this and she had no compassion for my pain and shame about this, but rather shamed me more about how stupid I was for my decision and reminded me how perfect she was and how she had waited for her wedding night, etc. Recently, this experience was triggered when my current spouse was messing around (in his frustration for things he wasn’t getting in the time he desired them) and he pinned my upper body to the bed in a very aggressive forceful way and described his actions as what he called “passion”. Apparently, he didn’t want to engage with me in a romantic/loving way as we had in the past. He had never treated me like this and I was quite frightened. I almost hurt him, my response was so strong. Even now thinking about it makes me nervous and tears are coming as I write. I have always had this strange thing with my ego where I have this sense of naughtiness and shame, especially, when I am trying to do the right things. It’s really weird!!

In malaysia, we call this trauma saka baka. It even forms how we look...

Amazing..... I live in Ireland and completed my first Family Constellation weekend. Do you come to Europe?

Queria tanto ter esse conteúdo em minha lingua portugues do Brasil

Is there any explanation about Autism by Mark Wolynn? And who should work with it? Child or mother?

I think things are muddled in this video, I am open to these ideas but children can be traumatised unconsciously by hearing the stories eg grandmothers fire which killed baby becomes anxious young mother, also young woman’s grandfather dies in car crash, she hears about it as a child, may well repress it becomes self harmer etc. No dispute there, the new thing is that the genes change in utero I think that there are a few too many confounding variables here. I am open to new ideas but the science needs firming up a notch.

This man is much much better than Brandon Bays. Brandon never wrote her own scripts and really doesn't know how trauma affects the body. Mark Wolynn is the real McCoy. I recommend his book to anyone.

It seems confusing - to know which "patterns" are passed via epigenetic versus learning from watching our family behavior. Language certainly is something learned socially. The story at @26:00 obviously wasn't epigenetic because the grandmother caused the death of the grandfather after her children were born. Unless there's a wild claim of epigenetic transfer after birth.

What about children who were abused or neglected by their families severely and maybe if it's not safe to be in contact with their parents?

Is this kinda implying hyper accelerated evolution? so if this is how it works it would be theoretically feasible to influence certain types of skills or behaviors ? as you said faster reflexs and reaction times....

Some pretty wild claims are being made for epigenetics which is still at a very experimental stage. The mouse study (which is pretty horrifific) has been challenged by some bioscientists as making unwarranted claims. There is no known mechanism whereby specific memories like a car crash can be encoded into genomes. It's an area where we have to move very cautiously.

I like this idea but how could the Grandmother pass on her "I don't deserve to live" feelings to her granddaughter who cut herself - Bless her- biologically if the grandfather died in the accident? Sarah's Mother/father wasn't born yet or if they were born were conceived without trauma. I can understand it continuing through environmental exposure.

You need to try to have at least 2 baby mices one right before the experiment and the other right after the trauma experiment and comparing those 2 traumatic reactions.. i strongly believe it is not genetic but socially about action repetetition and because all social familia babies learn from parent by looking how they react.

Yes, how do we know the stories from ancestors and family members, if we don't know the traumas they went through. What is the way of digging

What if we don't know anything about the life of our ancestors?

How do you fix your life if your dealing with life long consequences of a parent's abuse

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If I understand the theory correctly, that trauma can be embedded in our genes. May I then assume that the theory works in the opposite direction, where positive activity and occurrences will also be embedded in our genes?

What if we can't trace the source?

What if parents were abusive, I have cancer but it terrifies me though of calling my parents..

No change is necessary my friend.

I’m curious how this works with like slavery and racism? Even if one doesn’t believe it exists now, history has shown it has existed! So I am super curious of the trauma inherited and the impact of somatic disorders that we see in folks!

I always wondered about the children ,grandchildren of the holocaust,,,,and the twin towers babies, I am a student of family constellations,we have a lot more info in spain argentina mexico,but is rare to find info in utube in with people that speak english, I am very glad to see this, psichologists,absolutly have to incorporate in their studies transgenarational trauma and check the family trees, cause its true,we do our best, and there is this chip incorporated,of traumatic info that doesnt belong to us,and on top, family keeps all under the rug,and does not want to talk about painfull stories.I have been researching,biodecoding,and doing familly contellations,but Wolyn just, gave me the,,,the lines, that I maneuver.

This is pretty much what ACIM teaches... A Course in Miracles has changed my whole perception about the world 🌎

... and because mice don't get to choose, when they are traumatized in a lab for the benefits of research. Then again, do humans?

Once we find the source, what then?

Some parents may not want to go there with us. Does his book offer a strategy on this?

Is the legacy of goodness also transmitted?

My son's father was adopted. Does he carry the trauma of his adopted parents or biological?

Breakup changes DNA😮

Does anyone know his religion ?

Whats solution? How can I change my daughters life? I dont want her life would be like mine.