As a therapist, I urge my clients to avoid comparison to others. We only see a portion of anyone else's life. We don't know what is going on in other's lives and to wish to have what other people have focuses our attention on what we don't have and takes it away from what we do have. I love watching luxury KZfaq, but I recognize my privilege in doing so. For some of my clients, luxury would be eating at a McDonald's. It is always about your own personal perspective. I own one luxury brand bag and I didn't acquire until the age of 53. I do not watch any of these luxury videos, however, and feel bad about not having a collection because I recognize that I'm lucky to have one. I was lucky when I didn't have any. Gratitude is a great coping skill and I encourage everyone who sometimes struggles with feeling bad about yourself to practice naming three things a day that they are grateful for--it helps to ground us in what we have instead of what we don't have.

The bubble is real. The school bubble ends and we find a work bubble, a social bubble, a content bubble….all of these bubbles act as hot houses for our self reflection and influence. Weight loss influence, lifestyle influence, influence is all around us. How much sticks is up to us…..but man it’s hard!

Hi Dayle! This was an excellent topic. I could honestly listen to you all day long. Here’s my two cents. Generally speaking, I think that envy and jealousy associated with social media is caused by comparing our actual lives to the “constructed” lives of some of the content creators we follow on-line. In other words, it’s easy to lose sight of the amazing things in our own lives when we are bombarded with such glitzy glamorous photos and/or videos of those we have unwittingly placed on pedestals. That’s one of the reasons I have thinned out considerably the list of people I subscribe to and watch. My time is valuable and I am making a conscious effort to connect with only those who inspire me and bring me joy when I watch their content. Your vlog is a gentle reminder that we are humans and as such, we may have to look within at times to reevaluate where we are in our lives. Taking a “break” from social media from time to time is probably something everyone would benefit from, including content creators. A quote I’ve always remembered and loved was written by Eleanor Roosevelt. She once said this, “comparison is the thief of joy”. Never a truer statement was written. I adore you Dayle. You are good for the soul and bring much joy to my life as I’m sure you do to this entire community. I would follow you to the moon. ♥️

Hi Dayle, I almost missed this video, and I'm so glad I didn't. Last year, I went through an extremely anxious period with insomnia, anxiety medication, and regular therapy. I used to be lively and cheerful, but I felt like a completely different person. It was one of the hardest times of my life. I often compared my life with my friends'. Their successes made me happy, but soon I'd fall into deep anxiety, feeling inadequate. This unhealthy mindset led me to distance myself from them. My husband helped me refocus inward and stop comparing myself to others. He said, "Life is lived for yourself. Comfort and happiness are what matter most. Don't worry about others' opinions or compare yourself to them." This advice changed my perspective. Now, I maintain good relationships with my friends but no longer obsess over their lives. I focus on my own small joys and challenges. I've resumed exercising, rediscovered my hobbies, and started a small business making handcrafted bags. My days are now busy and fulfilling. Thank you for sharing this meaningful topic. In today's information age, it's crucial to slow down and reconnect with our inner selves, accepting our imperfections and finding peace within. There's a saying I love: "Life has three stages of growth: when you realize you are not the center of the world, when you try your best but still feel powerless, and when you accept your ordinariness." Sometimes, making peace with ourselves and enjoying the ordinary is a form of success.

Well Dayle! I thought content creators were thinning their collections for 2 reasons....one ...to declutter so more handbags could come in and the money from selling was used for this...and 2 ...some things were had for years and years and they were sick of them and they used the money to buy contemporary items!!!!! Ha HA ...not for altruistic reasons! As for you...I love you. You are intelligent and I admire you. I love your content and the variety of it. You can tell I do for I comment all the time and you always answer me. I am 66 years old and actively mind my grandkids, I have 2 40 year old children and have done 8 years of University with a teaching career. But I admire you for not having children and your career. I look up to you. I hope this all helps you. BTW I collect handbags from all luxury houses...even Coach! Ha HA !!! Much love xxxxx

Thanks for this video, Dayle. This is why I love your channel. I’m a single person who loves luxury, is outspokenly feminist, and doesn’t want kids. Sometimes this makes me feel insecure when I’m around so many couples and especially friends who have kids and the kids become their whole focus. It’s a hard adjustment as a single person. I sometimes feel like I’ve stood still when others have been moving forward. I sometimes wonder what’s wrong with me that I haven’t been able to follow a similar path. But if I truly analyze my situation there are a few key factors that in my opinion have made that “traditional” path harder for me to obtain. Some of the factors being that I’m an introvert in a world made for extroverts. I’ve always made more money than the guys I’ve dated which has unfortunately been a cause of strife. My ideals and values of what it means to be me are starkly different than what “society” says is normal and sometimes this causes me to feel like an outsider. Anyways, I appreciate you Dayle and this video. Thanks for sharing and allowing us to share, too. ❤

What triggers us are things we'd like to have but can't, like to do but didn't, like to achieve but failed. For some it's the grass appearing greener on the other side (it rarely is, everybody's paying for what they have, one way or the other - no one has it all) for others it's the realization that they failed in some parts of their lives or that they probably won't have enough life / time, options, possibilities left in this life to have what they see others have. The only way not to get bitter, sad, depressed about seeing others experience what one hasn't... is booze. Kidding. So what's the only way? To understand that everybody has their life, their story, their chapters. And some might be good and some might suck but in the end, we are all different. And so are our paths. Technically, one could get offended about absolutely anything. Because in everybody's life there's always something missing. Those things are just different from person to person. A rational approach can help soften the harsh self-harming, self-sabotaging effects of primal instincts like jealousy, fear, bitterness and greed. But it sure takes a lot of work on oneself to get to that level. And there will always be triggers. For EVERYONE. Because no one has it all.

Hi Dayle! Yes! I definitely do get feelings of inadequacy or feeling a certain way watching other people’s channels both on the Luxury world and others! I think your feelings are valid and I totally get it! Thank you for the shout out! ❤❤❤❤❤

I think the difference between you, Amelia Rose, Sophie Shohet, and Meredith, for example, and the KZfaqrs that are disavowing luxury is that the four of you own successful businesses and luxury is something in addition to that. The KZfaqrs disavowing luxury finally found contentment elsewhere (motherhood, a long-term boyfriend), having not had it previously

It’s something that’s always been there “keeping up with the Jones’s” “grass is always greener” etc etc. and this will never change Use it for aspiration and maybe a challenge for yourself but you can’t compete with the unrealistic standards of what you see on socials, especially given that most of it is not even real. People who have “everything in life” are too busy living it to be on here anyways. We need to be kinder to ourselves above anything.

I think as women these feelings of “not being enough” come at us from every angle. Even as you get older and wiser and have finely tuned your confidence, they can sneak up and hit you. Nice to have supportive people, even on KZfaq, address this and remind us we are “ENOUGH” ! Thanks for the great topic ❤

What a thoughtful video. Such good points, and appreciate the acknowledgement of insecurities. It's unreasonable, I think, to expect emotions to only go one way. If someone watches a video and basically replies with something to the effect of "this validated my decisions" or "this made me feel good", no one says, "that's strange, why should a video about them make you feel good? it's their life, not yours." It's normal for people to feel both good and bad depending on what someone says, even if indirectly, choices they are making. Hopefully we can, as you say, reflect and truly ask "are these behaviors still serving me?" One point, though, is how remarks are framed. It is one thing to say, "I now have different foci in my life"", or "I've decided to go on a path that is going to be better for me going forward", and another thing to say "I used to live the life you are living, and then I woke up and did better." It's easier to not take the former personally.

I had to cut off a good friend because we just aren’t very aligned anymore. It’s quite sad actually, but I don’t think you be friends with someone who envies you. I think admiring is another thing. I really felt a lot of jealously from her because of things she wanted that I had, a long term bf, a smaller nose and just being thinner than her. We shared a lot of insecurities and struggles but it felt like she ignored that towards the end of our friendship. We’re all just people trying to do our best.

Excellent video, Dayle. You are beautiful inside and out. Those videos on our feeds can be so annoying sometimes. Don’t let them get to you (and I’m telling myself that as I’m saying it because, truthfully, they get to me). Other people can go and be awakened, have a new perspective in life, etc. That’s on them. We’re all at different stages of our lives with different backgrounds, state of health, financial ability, responsibilities, etc. For me, I just want people to let me be, to spend my own money however I want, to enjoy the things I couldn’t before, in the remaining time of what’s left of my life. I mean, life is short, really. I was just doing the Math recently: I’m turning 60 in a few months, both of my parents died in their 70s, so… yup 😁 Love you, Dayle! ☺️😘

Looking all cosy D Life is a roller coaster, and in the blink of an eye things can be taken or given, so somebody’s circumstances today could be totally different in 6 weeks/6mths/6yrs for better or worse. You never know what is around the corner. Talking about other people’s children “no thanks”, and I say that as a parent 😂

I think this is my fave video from you Dayle. Projection, self confidence, yearning, pacing in life, etc are all evolving within us. I’m very confident in some areas of my life and extremely insecure in other areas. Our interpretation on things are based on where we are in that evolution. If we all had a little more self awareness when we comment, there would be so much less negativity on the internet!😂❤🤷🏻‍♀️

Birkin- you've been so upfront on this topic but i'm not surprised you got those comments, i think it does reflect the frustration people have in their own attempts to get a birkin. Another reason i bought one through a re seller, i could feel the obsessive in me obsessing, and i didn't want to go down that route. Weightloss- i am going to try and be careful here how i word this, as i've been losing weight over a long while, something i battled with myself for a long time and continue to battle with. This is because i was personally unhappy with me, but i am not watching these videos. I've struggled with this issue myself for so long, and i will plateau, put weight back on etc, struggle to maintain, and i don't want to mix up in my mind with what anyone else is doing or saying, i struggle enough at times with what i can say to myself, that i know i would take anything in those videos onbaord- and nothing at all about the person making them- all about my own insecurities.

Me gustan canales de compras de luxo, sobre todo , los bolsos. Si los canales que yo veo, ya no van presentar ese tema, pues ya no me interesa verlos. Ya dejé unos cuantos canales por eso mismo, para que voy a verlos si ya no me resulta provechoso? Ya estoy cansada ver youtubers, que están arrepentidas de sus compras, se la pasan vendiendo todo, lloran y relatan de como volvieron a " camino correcto" de su vida y han logrado encontrar su balance con el Universo. Bueno, bien por ellos. Entonces ya no van existir canales con bolsos de luxo?? Que horror.

I hear ya. I'm single without kids. I don't have any single friends and only 1 doesn't have kids. It's a bit difficult to relate sometimes.

Totally agree Dayle. Things hit a nerve because we feel a certain way. Re the weight loss content - I think a year or two ago I would have felt very triggered and would have been very insecure about how I look and what I assume people are thinking about me. However after doing a lot of soul searching over the last couple of years I’m in a place where I might feel triggered but I recognise it and can navigate it better. The same with working mums vs non working mums. I felt very judged over the years for working too much but when I reflect back a lot of my feelings were probably hitting a nerve because I felt guilt. Loved this conversation and thanks for sharing love x

Dayle, most of us have different situations & priorities in life. Watching YT lux channels or whatever is of interest to me. Do any of them make me feel “less than”, no. Not a single bag/piece of clothing, shoes, car, house, make an iota of difference to me. I appreciate what content creators choose to share on their channels, I can see how wonderful said “item” is & pleased for the person they are happy & watch how the item is styled. As long as I have a roof over my head, food in the fridge/pantry, my bills (life admin LOL) is sorted, cars are good what is there to worry abt? Health issues are a major concern in my life. If I could sell everything & live with my hubby & furkid in a caravan to fix them I would. Therefore “suck it up Princess” is used in my daily life, you can take the soldier out of the army but not the army out of the soldier. Life’s too short if we all do our best then that’s good enough for me. Enjoy yr weekend with Mr. A. 😘💐

Sometimes a nerve is struck when a message comes across because it’s exposing a truth that needs to be dealt with. Receive the message, process the feelings with it, decide if it’s valid, and if so- do something about it. Otherwise, toss it to the side and keep it moving in your lane! Comparison can be a destructive behavior. Use it wisely ❤

Excellent video! Definitely relatable as I am in my early 30s and many friends are having babies and I’m not sure I want to go down that road.

New subscriber here. I found your channel through Conner’s and on a recommended feed on KZfaq. I love your cute personality when you talk about luxury…. But this is gold. The topic, your voice, and the tempo is very therapeutic and you touched on very real concerns/issues that many people don’t or if they do, not in the calming and comforting way you did here. Kudos. ❤❤❤

So many good points! I agree with you, it says more about the people who are cranky with you than you changing your mind about buying a bag. I do feel a lot of the negativity projected is from ones own insecurities and we all have them. I always think I don't look thin enough or young enough or my hair isn't thick enough. I have a lot of friends with no kids and I love hearing about their animals so please share with your friends, I bet they'd love to see pics I know I do! I was a SAHM and yes the comparison between women over that choice needs to stop, we should support not judge. Great video Dayle!

Such a thoughtful video Dayle - as usual! We all have different lives and most of us choose to live them according to what’s important to each of us. I think people need to remember that. And you are so right that we are all in a different place in our lives and that changes for each person as the years pass. And we each have different experiences and life situations. That’s just how people are. But it is wonderful that sometimes there is something in particular (in this case our passion for bags and other luxury items) that can bring together people who otherwise would’ve never met and even create friendships! You look so pretty in that cozy sweater!

Wow, this really resonated with me Dayle. Thank you. You voiced a lot of what I've been feeling and thinking x

Hi Dayle! Thank you for the great conversations on your channel. I feel like I more triggered by images (Instagram) rather than videos. It might be because I feel like I know a bit more about KZfaqrs’ personality and choose to follow people I enjoy listening to. Whereas, I feel more triggered by images and posts, especially about perfect parenting, travels and consumerism. Sometimes I catch myself adding more things to my wishlist, things I didn’t even know existed five minutes prior… 😅 When it makes me feel bad, feeling like I am lacking too much, I try to disconnect from social media and focus on my life and loved ones…

You are rapidly becoming one of my favourite luxury KZfaqrs because you are unapologetically you and have great personal insight. Totally with you as a fellow woman without kids in her 40s (almost 50s). It’s weird when you are the only one in a social or work situation. However, I don’t think all of my insecurities around it are just my own limiting beliefs as there is a societal stereotype around the childless woman.

Hi Dayle, I am in my 40s and have no kids, with fur babies... I feel the same, and I know you are not alone. Thanks for being so honest and open about things.

Our circumstances are very different yours and mine, but you’re one of the most intelligent, interesting and wickedly funny people on the Tubes. I’m not a big commenter but I watch all the Dale videos because …no gimmicks no promos no icks. Just fun, beautiful, interesting content that does not contribute to brain rot! 😂

Yes, the lens! Where you are (we/anyone) is where we are meant to be for that moment. Trajectories are different for everyone and we have to ability to go or make whatever we want from that moment for the better. Comparing is hard not to do but it all has to be taken with a grain of salt. One never knows what another really has on their mind or what their worries are. Even when they look put together, we just never know. It is important to be kind to others but also oneself and that last part I think is something we often forget to practice. We should remember and tell ourselves“you are enough”. ❤❤ Great topic!

Hi Dayle. The weight loss videos do get to me occasionally. Especially if I see someone smaller than I am and they are trying to loose weight. I choose not to watch them if I notice I start to compare myself. Thank you for being vulnerable in todays video ❤

I'm single and on an average Australian income and came to realise if I were to constantly compare myself to friends in couples who are both high income earners, I would go crazy, I had to sit back an say, I have a home, I am safe, I am still able to go out and do things I like to do and within my budget and on my terms such as solo travel, there is no use trying to be like the others and I'm ok with that.

Hi Dayle! Love the thoughts shared in your video today. Wisdom and discernment are two very important character traits, which can only grow over time as we each experience our own individual life journeys. Taking the time for self reflection is also important, as we learn to appreciate and love our own individual uniquenesses and respect the differences in others. I appreciate your honesty and transparency . . . lots of food for thought. Thank you!🩷

Totally agree with what you’ve said Dayle. I too had no children so my rescue dog was my daughter and I took her everywhere I went. People just said I was her mom and I agreed wholeheartedly. She just passed away and I miss her terribly. So lately I’ve been seeing things on my feed that don’t really move me to want to watch them. I’m not trying to lose weight although I could, I’d rather not discuss my finances as I feel it’s nobody’s business. And a few others. I just try to scroll passed through these things. And look for what holds my interest. Thanks for sharing. Take care….

This was a great video. I think it's nature to compare ourselves to someone else. I had a friend who years ago gave another friend her Facebook login and told her to change the password, so my friend couldn't log into her Facebook. She was going through a really rough time and had a hard time seeing everyone be so happy when she was not. I told her everyone is only sharing the best parts of their lives. No one really posts their struggles on social media. It's the same on KZfaq. It's hard not to be jealous of others when you see them having things you want, but we are all fighting our own battles and I always have that at the top of my mind. It helps me avoid giving rude people a telling off. We don't know what battles one is fighting, and we are all fighting battles in our lives.

i work in an industry which is highly competitive and there is a lot of pressure for women in management to have it all - the Barbie speech sums it all accurately - you have to be perfect, your team and your team's delivery have to be perfect and your family should be IG level perfect too. but there is a reasonable response to this pressure which is what you articulated Dayle - that our priorities are different, and social media is such that we get only a glimpse into a narrow sliver of someone else's seemingly perfect high achieving life but it's easy to forget that for the most part, if you have a solid roof over your head, enough food on the table, someone to share your life with, and a freezer with a pint (or more) of ice cream in it - it is a good life.

🦄🌈😊 I’m not triggered by anything. Dayle has worked bloody hard for her bags, so good for you. Some heartbreak has been shared, so we know life isn’t perfect. ⛈️ Nevermind. I was not happy your Birkin wasn’t purple or lilac. Neon green, what? I’m over it now and I get so excited seeing it on your outfit of the day.

@12:40 Society pressures us to have children. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and actually say that is partially a subconscious survival of the species instinct. Survival of the fittest. That said for those of us who just aren't able to for any number of reasons, or a choice (our right no question) this is particularly hard. Thanks for sharing ☺️

Great topic ⭐️ The weight loss insecurity is something that I can understand I’m in a journey to loss weight and is hard 🙁

You are Enough!!!! I hate that others feel entitled to make remarks that are judgmental or opinionated…. I am older than you, and have no children. My husband traveled extensively in our younger years and we made the decision not to have children because I would feel as though I was raising them by myself. Instead, we have had fur babies that have filled our hearts and home with loads of love and joy. As for infuencers, I don’t really feel like I follow them….i found individuals on KZfaq, yourself included, that struck a cord with me…personality, style, humor, interests, etc. I understand that some started with love of a product or idea and simply wanted to share, while others got into filming videos strictly for the income… I find I follow my heart, and it has lead me to quality individuals who resonate or click with my interests and values…maybe not all, but that’s ok too! The world is smaller than we think, and life is shorter than we realize…take time to enjoy what you do… I certainly enjoy you!🥰

How do you eat then? Do you guys eat out a lot or does your husband do the cooking if you only cook when you’re inspired???

Thank you for doing this video and being so vulnerable. I think one would have to be the most confident person in the world to not be affected in some way by social media. Fantastic video!

In the short few years of watching KZfaq I have learnt to unsubscribe to channels that make me feel bad about things and I now know that it’s ok ❤

This is such a wonderful, thoughtful video, Dayle - thank you for sharing it! As I prepare to turn 40 next month, I feel like I've been at a somewhat natural point of reflecting just on life in general. And one thing I've noticed is that it hasn't helped to be on social media much during that process because the comparison game is difficult to avoid. But some of your reflections are spot on and something to keep in my back of my mind.

Great video! Personally, I wish I could walk in and buy an exotic or something in a similar range one day. It doesn’t make me feel bad but gives me motivation to strive harder. But, I feel like I can’t talk about my aspirations like that because many people find it’s shallow and materialistic. That definitely triggers me. Thanks for sharing! 💙

I love you! You have brought up every topic that hits me the same way, Dayle. Excellent if not your best video. You’re making a difference here! ❤

I feel the same way about the weightless videos which is why I haven't watched any. It feels inescapable. I don't know if its the algorithm or just my own internal thoughts but its been messing with my happiness for the last month or so.

Such is life. Prior to social media it was our neighbours, friends and work colleagues we tried to keep up with and ways to compare have always been there. It pays to remember that many people will have much more than us but many others will have much less and nobody has everything. We all have to let go of something in order to achieve something else. If we can be grateful for what we do have within our own family, half the battle is won.

Dale I agree with you!🥰Everybody has there own addictions luxury is not the worst one🙂. I still so jealous you got offer a Birkin bag with Meredith🤣😂🤣

The green birkin is in a colour that could be hard to resell due to its not too popular. I accepted a Birkin in a not so popular colour because i am lazy and did not want to wait or chase when one kind of dropped in my lap. The colour i got was Mauve Sylvestre in Swift delicate leather so....

As you mentioned it is a lot about how we receive it, it needs a lot of strength to take it as a motivation rather than disappointment in ourselves and also know and cherish our own journey. How lucky we are that we were given a chance to create our own journey. ❤

Great video.. I think we all feel a way when we see others doing something we like and cannot partake on it.. certainly have to constantly reinforce myself to not go overboard..

It's an interesting topic when you think about. I just wish if you have chosen to watch someone then your happy for that person if you don't like what you see you can turn off and you can choose not to comment. when it comes to what people's personal experiences and choices are it is all different and that's the beauty of our world. We are all different in our own way and people shouldn't dislike or send online negative comments over someone else's journey. If there is something I don't resonate with when watching a particular person I either skip forward or move to the next video but I would never leave hateful or unhelpful comment regarding that topic.

You got your green Birkin they way you should be able to get anything you want to buy - by going into a store and buying it. That's normal but not normal for Hermes. People should be glad you got it that way.

We only see the outside of others life and we don’t know what they might be going trough in secret. On the other hand there is a silver lining to almost every situation and it’s helpful to identify and appreciate our own. Even if we can’t see any good sides to our situation right now, it might lead to personal development and a bright future.

Great video Dayle - loving the candid approach, I think now that you’ve said it out loud - you’ll be more conscious of getting sucked into the mental BS 🙊

Bottom line is people get angry and can behave badly when they don’t get their own way or get what they wanr

It’s always been said that if you can get a job in something you’re passionate about then it’s not work at all. I think that’s true up to a certain point. Many people who start KZfaq channels do it as a creative outlet and to engage with people with likeminded passions. In our world it’s luxury. It’s enjoyable to make videos of our new bags, things we love and want to share with others. As with many KZfaqrs I have very few people in my life that have the same passion of luxury handbags and I have made many people, friends through this wonderful network. I think when you start to make money and are able to make a living from it then it becomes a job in the real sense. When you are forced to sit down and make videos on a consistent basis it can take away from the joy you once had for it. That being said, there are far worse ways of making a full time income.

It’s so easy to be caught up in the hype. I watch different KZfaqrs and yes sometimes I am envious of their collections or their lifestyle or how they look, but I find I must remind myself why am I watching in the first place? If I am not happy within myself then I should take care of that not because of envy but because I truly want to improve myself. Mostly I find my channels filled with entertainment. I enjoy watching unboxings or what the latest fashions are, but as soon as it is not entertaining any longer I switch off.

I think this is such a well thought out and timely video. I think most people watching feel like they can relate in more than one area you touch on. It is a good reminder to me to be more sensitive to people's perspectives and situations. ❤

Imagine if all those people upset about not getting items on their wishlists instead stopped buying useless items at Hermes? Now that might have a real impact on these companies behavior 😅

Yes we talked about this at the time we made the decisions, i just couldn't keep up with the other channel, it became too much like work, it felt like i got no break and i ultimately didn't enjoy it. So true, was to much like work.

Hello beautiful Dayle, I agree 100% in your comments. I love watching you with your fashion and handbags. I never feel jealous , it makes me happy to see the trips the bags and you enjoying them. You have very similar taste to me 😊. I have recently unsubscribed to a lot of utubers because their content has changed and no longer brings me joy. I don't want to watch things that make me question what I should look like or spend my money on. We are all different, and thank goodness to that ❤

Great video. The weight loss topic is the one I connect with the most but I the weight loss videos like Winnie's don't make me feel differently. I think that's because it's something I've struggled with my whole life and I finally accepted (years ago) that I'll never look the way I wish I looked or if I did it would mean I was very unhealthy and unhappy because I know what it would take for me to get there (having done it before) and stay there.

I watch KZfaq for relaxing and entertainment. Connor puts on quite a show. I don't compare my life with anyone I watch because even with it's ups and downs, it is still a pretty good one. There have been a few channels I don't watch anymore because there was too much greed. It didn't make me jealous or feel inadequate, it just made me nauseous.

Not on topic but just had to say you look gorgeous in that shade of gray! it really suits you.

Hi Dayle 🤚 on all counts you’ve hit the nail on the head my friend I always have very similar feelings and or reactions that you expressed I don’t think anyone wouldn’t have those emotions it’s just a natural reaction to have reflection when someone you’ve watched for years and talk to on a weekly basis feels a certain way. I’m going to say I honestly think this may be one of the best and or most important videos I’ve watched in a very long time so thank you 💚💚💚💚

This is a great video! Even with all the inner work I have done, I can still fall into the comparison trap. It’s a natural part of our coexistence I think since we are a pack animal and doing something that the rest aren’t can be isolating. We want to belong. But, we often can’t see just how many people are out there on similar journeys to ours. As a childfree by choice person turning 50, some things are right up my street and others I’m just cheering folks on from the sidelines. And if all else fails, unsubscribe and curate your socials to feel more uplifted.

As a woman in her 40’s with no kids I absolutely have to check myself when watching content with mothers and young children. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and letting me know I’m not alone. I’m not less than just because I don’t have children. I have a lot of other things to offer the world.

I've always love bags since I was a little girl and have never stopped, valid points and I try not to be negative about it with others 😊💜💜

Dayle I have kids and a dog and I consider her my baby don’t ever think that way our dogs are our children

Wonderful video. I have lived through so many of your trials and tribulations that you have talked about in this video. I have so many opinions and so many suggestions. But I am the invisible woman at 65.

Yup so much of this is in all of our lives. Recovering from 11 spinal fractures really emphasises again what is really important. Hermes’? Good on you. ITS A BAG. I must say I had a giggle but a friendly giggle after having watched you over the years hahaha. We all change as we go through life and circumstances. Love your content and honesty. Go girl. You look gorgeous as you are. Much love ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

You are just so beautiful the way you are lovely Dayle. On the outside and the inside. You don't need to change a thing and I would think Mr. A would agree with me. Never feel less of a woman because you don't have kids. Never ever should you. You are a fur baby mummy and that is important. Edwina and Lulu need their mummy. I hope I am making sense. I am a bit out of it. I went to the Drs on Thursday because I thought I had a reaction to some new medication to help with pain and they said I have shingles but to go straight to emergency as I had shingles actually on my eye. Has to be on the same side as my brain surgery. Anyway I am not feeling real flash but I loved this video. Much love. Jenni. XX💜💜

Thank you for this video Dayle it was so thoughtfully done and such an important topic ! Definitely had lots of moments of feeling inadequacy or uncertainty over my choices, some moments very recent others not so much ! But always got to keep yourself on your path, it will work out how it’s intended to ! Thank you for always being so open with us as an audience !

I love your talking videos. You're so wise and I love that!

the feed used to make me feel bad in my 20s/early 30s. seeing all these women and young girls unboxing left and right. making me question why I cant and why not me. i started to unsub. now in my mid 30s i ignore the feed. i go straight to my subscriptions to watch the people that I like and make me feel good. on a rare occasion, I will watch someone new but it's because someone I subscribe to shared them with me. and depending on how they make me feel, I'll sub or move on.

Thanks so much for your vulnerability Dayle! I resonate with so much of this. I am in a double income marriage and still can’t afford to do the things I want to do. Also, for what it’s worth- I love my kids but would much rather talk about friends or coworkers’ dogs than their kids 😅

🙋🏼‍♀️ me!! Do I need to do something too? Everyone else is!

KZfaq no but my Instagram is ridiculous

I think we are all on our own journey and we need to love and honour that. My journey is not for everyone and it’s not my business what they think of it. Easily said, but I have to always remind myself that their thoughts are not my business and I need to stay in my lane. 😂

Dayle 👏👏. Such a wonderful vlog. People are just plain mean sometimes. I love your vlogs and I stand behind you 💜

It is important to remember that you have a choice of what content you consume. For me, I stay away from creators who are jet setting every 2nd week. I'm a mom of 3, and that lifestyle is not for me. If my favorite creator suddenly shift to travel content, I unsuscribe because they are nolonger catering to me. But I send no unnecessary hate.

You’re perfect just the way you are! ❤

I absolutely loved this video. Thank you for taking the time to reflect on these topics and spark the reflection in your viewers

Amazing video! Very thoughtful & inspiring ❤

You are such a no nonsense person; i like yoyr perspectives; believe they are healthy, and really enjoy hearing your opinions and perspectives on different things; i think the Birkin situation was hilarious! Who woyld have thought! LOL!

I talk about it all, i have totally said thats on a payment plan, weightloss things, i just pick and choose conent and I don't watch every video, i love the creators but honestly i don't like eveey topic or brand. I don't watch it all.

I totally agree

Well said!

Kudos to you 💕🤗

I enjoy watching luury channels, I own a louis vuitton card case that is it. i think we all can grow and change what we like and enjoy it's fine . But, what triggers me is the luxury you tubers who love walmart and the lab grown diamonds. Im sorry but your wearing 20,000 in Tiffany and telling me you love lab created diamonds. I'm not buying that at all.

I think the luxury utubers pulling out have made enough money from the videos and still get views on those videos so still get paid from them are just making excuses about luxury not all but most bigger Chanel’s

All I can contribute to this is -if those KZfaqrs who say negative things hopefully don’t speak like that to their children if they have children, they certainly have big chips on their shoulders and I suggest they should just not watch - simples 😂

Sorry didn't proof! 😮 oh well! LOL!

Raising my hand 🙋‍♀️

I think people get extremely upset when people say one thing constantly and then completely change their mind when the opportunity presents itself (regarding your B30)