Kidney transplant is so much harder on the DONOR too. That's definitely not a decision to take lightly. My aunt donated a kidney to her best friend and friend bounced back and my aunt had a loooooong recovery but she was fully consenting and willing to accept those risks

For the story about leaving the person behind in a foreign country. It’s important to stay close to your group but she literally told her she will leave her if she didn’t come back to the hotel in time. She tried getting her to the hotel with her but she is a grown ass adult. She can handle herself and her choices.

This podcast makes me realize I need to stop accepting peoples disrespectful behavior and set boundaries. Bending backwards for others was not humble kindness I thought it was, I was taken advantage of and harming myself in the process. I thought I already was ok at setting boundaries, but I clearly have a long way to go. I need to get over feeling selfish because I’m not, I’m choosing me.

It feels a little selfish to have even asked a single mom especially if she wasn’t footing all the bills and helping with the kids.

For the second one. I had this happen to me. It was me and 2 other friends. We were in Arizona for 4 days and after going out the girls I was with would stay with guys that they would meet. I would always Uber back to the hotel alone. The last night there I told the girls we all needed to be at the hotel at 2am the latest as our flight was at 5am. We were packed and ready to go. One of the girls decided to stay at the guys house again. We called several times and no answer. Told the front desk that our friend would be back for her luggage and gave them our key. Friend missed that flight but ended up being able to meet us at the airport at the next layover. She was mad that we left her. I was mad that we all agreed on something and she fell through with the plan and then expected us to miss our flight because she was being irresponsible.

From what I heard, Selena’s friend was mad because Selena was drinking and partying on her new donated kidney. She felt like she donated her kidney for nothing

I love podcasts while I'm working and it really helps my ADHD brain focus. You also have very nice voice tones and I am excited to listen more

I was so impressed when she spoke about Jewish death practices. It's very rare I find people outside the Jewish community who know even a sliver of our customs and speaks about them with respect (especially outside of comparing or valueing our cultural customs off there worth to Christianity). It was really nice to see and was a little moment that felt very inclusive and respectful :)

With the rich friends dinner story, I feel like not only are they shitty friends but they also seemingly ran up the bill purposefully bc they assumed she’d pay for everything, especially with the context that their parents have been paying for everything their whole lives so it’s just general entitlement to others money bc at this point they seem like they’re cheap until it’s someone else’s money to spend or something they personally want

I asked my friend to marry me and my husband more than a year prior to our wedding he accepted. He and his gf found out they were expecting and the due date was a week before the wedding. The due date came and went, the venue was out of town. We had him marry us in our living room the day before we left and had another friend stand in, im his place. Their son was born on our wedding day and is like an adopted nephew now. We feel forever linked to our little wedding crasher. Love should not be selfish, it is the best story and turned into one of the best things that could've happened ^_^

For the ring: I think it’s okay for her to keep it until she dies, but not continuing to pass it down is messed up. She should leave it to her son so the ring has continuous use and follows tradition, even if the son can’t propose with it, he’d still get it and be able to pass it down.

Story 1: 2:00 (kidney) Story 2: 12:05 (left someone in a foreign country) Story 3: 19:52 (pregnant maid of honor) Story 4: 25:00 (inherited ring) Story 5: 33:39 (pay for dinner) Story 6: 40:35 (bridesmaid gift)

im poly, and i would never date some who cheated in a monogamous relationship. though it seems like they would suit an open relationship, they still suck and are uncommunicative 😭😭😭

The dinner one is crazy. I have NEVER said to someone that we should go out to celebrate something that happened in their life and expect them to pay - I pay for them because we're celebrating them. That's ridiculous. I agree - they aren't her friends.

My bridesmaids never paid for their dresses, their hair or make up for the day. I got them a small gift and they kept their lovely dresses. I made sure it was minimal as possible, even my hen do (bachelorette party) was in a pub. I don’t think you getting married should put people out of pocket, if they want to gift that’s lovely but we didn’t have a wedding list either. My girls spoiled me and I was grateful but I would never expect anything from them, I got married, not them 😄

As a kidney donor this struck a cord with me. The choice is always yours. It is a gift you are giving. Most transplant centers will cover and take the blame if you decide privately that you cannot donate. They will says something medically came up. The story that you tell I am 100% sure that the center would not have let her donate because they look at your lifestyle and the psychology. You also need a primary caregiver. To determine if I could donate, I have to go through interviews with nephrology, surgeon, psychologist, social workers, primary care, and your advocate. They want to make sure your life is not impacted long term. The pre-tests are A LOT! Recovery is 6-8 weeks plus a commitment for testing every 6 months for the rest of your life.

Every culture sees the dinner celebration thing differently. As an American, I grew up with the notion that if someone says, “Let’s go out, we should celebrate you!” That means they’re paying. Albanians think the opposite. If you got a new job or something, you pay because now you’re the more fortunate one. But you also usually suggest the celebration yourself when that’s the case. So it depends a bit on cultural context. But inviting someone else to dinner assuming they’ll pay for more than their share is rude af

the one about the woman who doesn’t want to give her ring bothers me not just because she’s being insanely selfish but her son lost his FATHER and she thinks it is above all more important for her to keep the ring rather than pass it onto him?? i hope he got to propose to his boyfriend with it, he should have it.

For the ring one, I agree that the woman is being selfish. It isn’t her family heirloom so she shouldn’t be the one to to decide to end the tradition. If her husbands mother agreed that she should be buried with it then that’s another story.

The story with the women and the book deal: it was a celebration for her! If I was in that situation I’d be paying for her as a gift and because I was proud. Not expecting her to pay for me. Ridiculous!

My own sister was due the week of my original wedding date (pre-covid) and I was totally understanding of her not being able to come to the wedding. The health of that baby and the mom are most important, especially given the fertility situation.

The fact the woman said "he's been dating a man for six years" instead of saying his boyfriend of six years is kind of revealing.

here from tiktok, love you guys will be tuning in more💕

I have kidney damage and may need a transplant at some point in my life, and I would never demand nor expect my family or friends to donate one of theirs, never even crossed my mind to ask, I planned to wait my turn on the donor list.

I've never felt more identified with someone as I did with Morgan while Lauren was talking about astrology.

For the kidney story, she is also would have had her immune system greatly compromised. The last thing she would want in a pandemic is a compromised immune system. Or even just having young kids prone bringing germs home from school

with heirloom jewelry i hate how people act like its a family owned piece. that woman was GIVEN that ring by her husband. by logic, it is hers then. I understand tradition matters, but also she owns the ring not the grandmother or her son. its not selfish and entitled to do what you want with an item you own.

Omg so refreshing to hear someone else be like weirded out by cemeteries in the sense of it’s such a waste of land/open space when you could literally give back to the environment by becoming a tree or like Morgan said a coral reef/jewelry

Never really been a fan of podcasts or long videos. I felt like people go on and on. Talking so much about one subject I got bored, but this podcast actually has me entertained and intrigued for more. Definitely a podcast I'll be looking into. So happy I found you two on tik tok. Keep up the good work 😁

My mom was cremated and I had her ashes put into the necklace and whenever I got a compliment, I would pull the "Oh thank you! It's my mom!"

To the girl who’s friends expected to pay for their meals I’m proud of you and recognize this amazing accomplishment you’ve had don’t let them bring you down everything they said to you they could describe themselves as

Selena Gomez and friend who donated her kidney Francia Raisa did an interview discussing what happened. Long story short Francia lived with Selena Gomez for some time and realized Selena was struggling with easy every day tasks and finally confessed to her about her health issues and Francia without a doubt decided she would get tested to see if she was a match and indeed she was. They are still friends and just because people don’t hang out as much doesn’t mean they still do not care. Intentions were always good.

"i dont wanna gemini" me: sad gemini noises

With the heirloom ring I can completely understand why she would want to keep it until she died. Its her connection to her dead husband and means alot. But to be buried with it? That's selfish. The ring isn't going to do anything for when your dead. And if you believe in heaven then you'll be with your 1st husband again anyway. Have it be passed down to your son after you die. If he's already married with kids at that point he can give it to his kids when they marry. She's the arsehole.

I can't believe anyone would burry a valuable family heirloom. What a waste.

With the heirloom story- it wasn’t even her heirloom to keep. She needs to pass it down- if it was her family’s heirloom I would say she has every right to keep it for whatever reason. But it was HIS family’s heirloom, which mean the choice isn’t hers to make, in my opinion.

in that one part where they're talking about being buried w things, it made me think about my grandmas funeral. basically she was a big fan of an artist and had bought a t shirt with them on it. when she died of cancer the plan was to bury her in that shirt with her favorite jeans that way shed be "happy in her favorite clothes even in death" they were also going to bury her in some of her favorite jewelry. the issue being that someone(not sure if it was a family friend or one of their neighbors) went through her things and stole those clothes and some of her jewelry. they chose a different outfit and buried her in what was left of her jewelry, but later on the same person that stole her stuff, was seen wearing it around the neighborhood, and put up a fight when confronted about it. this happened before i was even born, my grandma died when my mom was 15, and shes 40 now, but that section of the video brought back the memory of my family telling me the story.

I don’t know if anyone else has commented this but re: feeling like your heart is beating really fast at the dentist or for oral surgery - you likely were likely given a numbing agent containing epinephrine, otherwise known as adrenaline. Some people are sensitive to it and it can make you feel shaky with a racing heart. I thought I was really anxious and maybe having a panic attack when I noticed it first. Just tell your dentist/oral surgeon you are sensitive and they will give you an alternative! I can’t imagine having that and also laughing gas, that doesn’t sound like a good time 🤢

absolutely enjoyed this episode! been falling down the rabbit hole of podcasts, and by far yours has made me feel more encouraged to keep recording with my bff! the dynamic between the cohost is very relatable and the opinions are spot on what my reaction would be. cant wait to hear more

If I was the bride in the MOH pregnancy story, I would set up a stream service so she can still attend my big day if she has given birth on her due date (which, if you look at the stats, is highly unlikely). I would be more excited about my best friend bringing a baby into this world than my MOH needing to step down. I would understand. The MOH is NTA. At all.

The friend that gave Selena her kidney was also upset because apparently Selena promised to quit drinking and she didn't. I understand that alcoholism is a serious problem and I really feel for Selena but I'd be pissed off too if I was her friend

Omfg. I literally wanted to be turned into a ring and used the same phrase when explaining it to friends. I love that

There’s a video on KZfaq where Francia is being interviewed after her organ donation. Selena found out she was a match before she did. She was pressured. And then Selena goes back to rehab after a new kidney.

I found y'all's about a month and a half ago and have been slowly binge watching all of y'all's episodes. I'm really enjoying them and that last little tidbit at the end is what finally gave me the strength to over come my anxiety and say something. So thank you 💛💛💛🧡

I tried so many podcast but your podcast is the only one I truly love and relate to! You’re so funny and lovable! I binged watched all your episode in the last days! Can’t wait for the next one!

In the 5th story I bet those "friends" expected her to pay for those trips too.

I absolutely love this podcast! I have recommended it to friends! The story about the bride asking for the gifts back hit home with me! It reminds me of a wedding I was in with a former toxic friend. The stories about this relationship before and after the wedding we’re wild but that’s besides the point lol. This totally seems like something she would do! Loved it!

The Author should not apologize for her success & it should never be expected for anyone to pay your way.

I listened to this while shredding papers for work bc I was bored. This made time fly. Awesome vid

Selena wouldn’t of been able to find out if her friend was a match as doctors have to protect patients confidentially with HIPPA so if the doctor did say something they could be sued and they can lose there licence to practice medicine

I love these full length episodes!❤

I've been bingeing these podcasts all weekend! So glad they came up suggested, it feels like having the best chats with wine (1 glass 👀) with your friends! I've been working all summer and miss my friends ♥

Fun fact - my grandad was planning on being turned into a ring after he died, but when my mom looked into it apparently it was super expensive :( (we threw him in the ocean instead) (post-cremation, in case that wasn't clear)

Saw your videos on tiktok and came here for full episodes. Been obsessed with the podcasts for two days, have seen a lot of them already.😅 Best wishes! Really enjoy your content (obviously) 🤣

Getting buried with something serves no purpose.

The one with the friends dinner who got the book deal- if we are going out to celebrate a friend’s accomplishment, I would never expect them to pay! It’s a party for them-especially if I suggested going out in the first place!

Found y’all on tiktok and now I’m obsessed 🤠

It's so interesting to know that I'm not the only one who gets Taken stories from parents every time I travel abroad

're the ring; if the son is the son of the father that passed on give him the ring but if he is the son of the current husband then give him the ring that the current husband gave her.

I needed a kindey transplant at age 16. People got tested but no one was a match or were in poor health conditions. When people like my teachers offered to give me theirs I told them not to go get tested because I felt way too guilty taking anyone's kindey. UNOS called and I got a kindey from a deceased person at age 18. I don't think she is the asshole, but if my husband needed a kindey it would be so gut wrenching and I'd be trying harder to get him that kindey. Dialysis 3 times a week for 4 hours and lots of surgeries and knowing you might die soon and feeling terrible all the time. I wouldn't be handle seeing someone I love go through that I went through it's so hard. And especially knowing the average adult has to wait on the transplant list for over 5 years. 5 years of hell, I was lucky I was a minor so I only had to wait 3 years. So she isn't the asshole but I do feel for her friend and understand where she is coming from. But if it was me I still don't think I would cut her off she needs ro understand where other people are coming from.

1. NTA. Even if it's a small chance risking leaving your kids that's still a very real , very scary proposition. 2. NTA. She's a grown woman and the poster tried to get her to leave with her. 3. NTA. However I do think based on context clues that the friend isn't that upset. 4. YTA. That ring is a family heirloom and he has rights to it. If his mother had kept the ring she wouldn't even have it now anyway. 5. NTA. It would be one thing if they were like broke college students and you insisted on an expensive restaurant. They can pay their way. 6. NTA. The audacity of this woman after cheating on her partner to even message her much less ask for the gift back.

I LOVED this episode. I totally agree with you guys and you’re soooo entertaining

I just found your podcast and I am now missing the days when i could listen to things at work. Definitely going to watch every single episode in time.

Loved this episode. I enjoy your commentary and conversation. Keep up the great work!

For the rich friends dinner story, I also felt she shouldn't have had to pay for dinner at ALL because it was a celebration for her brought up by her friends. Unless it's going to a bar, you don't just say you gonna celebrate a person and then expect them to pay for themselves let alone for everyone

The liver also is the only organ that regenerates, so you donate a portion of the liver and eventually you and the recipient have a full liver.

I love listening to you girls! Your conversations help me focus on my work. 🥰

I love this so much. I listen to all of these all day long. Please continue these!!!

Hey I know you might now be checking this, but as you're discussing the kidney stuff, I want you to know that's not how the transplant process works. I have followed the Selena story closely since I have a deep connection to it and have admired Selena for years. I had to leave my college class because I cried when the original story broke. I've had 2 kidney transplants and I'm a little younger than Selena, the doctor would not tell the person getting the donation anything before the doner knew (I had a lot of family and friends get tested.), it goes against the patient/doctor confidentiality agreement and HIPPA. The issue between the two was Selena was drinking post-transplant, which you're allowed to just not to an excessive amount- I personally drink wine at least 2/3 times a week and am 5 years post-transplant. Also, I know you did not mean any harm by your jokes about The Weeknd/Selena transplant but as someone who's had 2 transplants and has been bullied for it, I find it a bit distasteful. I joke about my own healthy pretty frequently, but as someone who's been bullied and lived my entire life with this situation please be careful when joking about it. I'm enjoying your video but I wanted to educate you a little since I am someone who's been on the receiving side of a transplant and has spent all 24 years of my life chronically ill from having a transplant/ the changes it makes to your everyday life. Hope you're doing good, Grace

First time commenting, I just needed to say you ladies have such a peaceful voice and relatable perspective! Long time supporter of your channel, and love every video!! Thank you for your bravery in putting yourself out there. I am too shy and hearing you are as well is empowering! Always looking forward to the next video. One of my top favorite podcasts. You all are amazing! Thank you for creating and sharing

Regarding the organ donation issue, I think helping someone you know & care about in that way is super selfless and admirable. It's important to acknowledge that gratitude is one of the most difficult emotions to sustain. Relationships often don't survive the feelings of obligation etc that come with such a massive gift, it changes things for everyone x

The "at the end of the day" shots for this episode would have me hospitalized 😂 absolutely love this podcast

Love your podcast! It’s been awhile since I listened, but I just started back up again. These make doing everyday chores not as tedious. 😘

Love your guys’ ideas on burials/cremation! There’s so many better ways than just getting buried in the ground & I think it’s so true that those are a waste of resources! I also haven’t ever heard of the coral reef one but that is an AMAZING idea I’ll be looking into. Imagine if everyone who passed turned into a tree or some sort of biodegradable source, or a coral reef, it would help the ecosystem so much.

I totally had the same reaction on laughing gas! My heart was racing I was scared I was going to have a panic attack, i was worried i was going to choke cause it felt like something was pooling at the back of my mouth, it was just a recipe for disaster but I was able to talk myself out of freaking out thankfully

This is exactly what happened when I got my wisdom.teeth out. They gave me laughing gas to calm me before sedation but it made my body feel calm but my brain and heart were freaking out 😂

I love Reddit lmao def gonna keep watching you ladies!!

When my best friend died, her parents sent (not very legal, but it was too far to drive them) some of the ashes to a glass artist that does glass sculptures, to which you can add color in the centre and some ashes. They had one made for the mom, dad and brother. It was beautiful to see how they had turned the top of a high commode into a memorial with pictures, the sculptures, her religious necklace (sorry, English isn't my first language and I can't find the right word) and more. I edited her in a picture of me at the lake (a place she loved and wanted to one day see in person but her living in Canada and me in Switzerland, we never got to do it). I took a picture from her if where she was smiling so hard and looked extremely happy. I'm glad I got to out the picture on the memorial, means a lot. I would love to have that done with a bit of my ashes and have the rest turned into a tree! She and I even talked about it when I visited her, leaving her 10 days before she passed. In my opinion, the mother is selfish to keep an heirloom ring that comes from her husband's family. If it was hers, I could understand (not necessarily agree, but understand). If her husband had not died, she would have probably given him the ring. Trust me I get the whole "it's so meaningful" part but she has to remember that her son lost his dad, too. When my dad passed, my mom gave me her wedding band (they were divorced but it was very sentimental to her) and we had them turned into a necklace, the small one in the big one, connected at the top and with a dangling heart in the middle. I'd give the mom 1.5/5 buttholes bc it's meant to be passed down from gen to gen, but I don't think it's also the end of the world. Let's make it 2/5 bc of the risk it gets stolen or the son has to make the decision to take it when she passes, and he would most likely feel awful about doing that.

i just got surgery on my mouth but i was put under… and y’all’s podcast is the only thing i will watch and puts me in a calm state💛

from minnesota :) love love ur guys’s podcast i always have them on when im doing my makeup or cooking!

Came here from tiktok.. and havent stopped watching these 💜💜

I didn't know you guys were from MN! that's so cool

I am a new fan of your podcasts. I came across this video and the story where the former friend said she needed to give back a gift, actually reminds me of a story that I did post on Reddit but I took it down because of how the way I explained it...and it only gave me limited words to type....

People seems to assume that you can donate a kidney and go on with their lives as normal, it deeply affects your life forever. Not to mention she could a have a permanent complications that render her from work or even dying, then who will take care and support her children. Plus what happens if one of her kids needs a transplant one day and she can't even get tested because she donated to her friend's husband already.

I came from tiktok and loved your podcast! I’m watch all of them!

They just numbed me horribly. No putting out, no gas, just sitting there focusing on the sounds and my dentist’s arms shaking from the strength/force used to rip them out. It was great!

I love this podcast so much.

regarding the ring, the son might want the ring to carry on the tradition like his father, I feel bad for the woman who lost her husband but she is not the only person in that situation who lost a loved one.

you talking about getting turned into rings reminded me of a friend who got her cats ashes turned into a necklace. when compliment on it she went "thanks its my cat rascal"😭😂

If your friends are celebrating your success they should be paying for you.

The first thing that cane to mind when you mention she had kids was, what if one of her kids needs one and shes a match? I will never give my kidney to someone outside my family.

I wish I could be a part of this podcast! You guys are amazing in my opinion :) you definitely help me escape reality and even feel like I have a friend when my boyfriend games haha

I'm from Ecuador, always stick together and don't pull out your phones for any reason in the world. I'm from Guayaquil though, so be extra careful and don't go to any area that's not for tutorism if you're not from there. You speak English like an American, be aware of people who don't have the best intentions. But this girl who went by herself to a party, she choose that. She should've stayed with you and knowing her flight was the next morning. Glad they both made it safely back but this is not a country you separate from your group. Always have someone who knows Spanish with you, my country is beautiful and everyone should go but with caution and in a group.

I’ve never heard of leaving the casket before it’s lowered. Funerals I’ve been to watched the casket get lowered so I couldn’t imagine leaving it above ground when watching it go into the ground may provide more closure mentally

My grandmother's ashes are in my ring, it's my most treasured piece of jewelry and it goes everywhere with me. I think one for each person is a great idea!

Found you on TikTok and I've been addicted since!!

I've been binge watching episodes, and yesterday I was wondering if Morgan was a pisces and damn was I right 🤣

I sobbed uncontrollably when I got laughing gas😂

I have been binge watching you!

The ring one, yes she’s being selfish, it’s a pass down. In my family we don’t have this tradition but I would love to start mine with my ring as soon as one of my kids would wanna get married, I would give them my ring in a heart beat.