As a parent myself, I think she did the right thing by taking her. You can educate your children about beauty standards and why they can be harmful, and raise them to be confident in themselves, while also allowing them to experiment with their appearance and see what makes them feel most comfortable. You can do both.

As a pediatrician I think she did the right thing. I think it is underestimated the level of harm and trauma that bullying is to children. Adults need to take it more seriously!

I wasn’t allowed to shave my legs, and so would get bullied when I had to wear shorts for PE. So I just got my 12 year old mits on a razor and tried to shave them myself. Was an absolute blood bath. I think it’s important to explain that a child shouldn’t feel like they HAVE to remove body hair, but teach them how it can be done correctly if they want to. Emphasis on if they want to.

As a parent: When my kids talked to me about any hair they didn’t want, we spoke about the social implications and how silly it is to expect some bodies to be hairless when we almost all grow hair! Then we talked about safe removal options. Non-facial, so home hair removal cream was an option, I also offered an electric shaver or other options if they weren’t ok. We talked about the texture hair grows back with when shaved vs plucked vs cream removal etc. One of my kids had hair on a small mole on their leg carefully removed for a few years, but in recent years has decided they don’t care about it. The important message for my kids was 1) it’s natural and healthy, you don’t *need* to change anything. But also 2) if you do want to change anything, please tell me so I can help you do it safely. Because I remember stealing my sister’s razor and shaving a chunk of my shin skin off 🤢 because my parents wouldn’t talk about hair removal and decided I was too young! So I think it’s about honesty, balance and empowering the person to do what they want to, and try what they want to.

I think the mother did the right thing. As long as her child was safe and had given consent to have it done, then I think its okay. I’m not a parent but I would do the same, I do think children should be encouraged to love themselves as they are but kids can be cruel!

I don't judge others parenting either, but it's so good to hear how the Mum actually listened to her daughter and offered her a *non-permanent* and *safe* option, alongside positivity around her appearance and identity. It's very easy to brush off teen's concerns on a range of things with a so called positive message but very little empathy or thought for what that child is going through. Childhood is hard! Not the US ingredient list being basically foods....

As a person whose mom told her (at the same age as Lilly) that it was time to start waxing my eyebrows and made the appointment without asking me if I wanted to go, I appreciate that this mom listened to her daughter and was willing to take her to get waxing done. Ultimately, if it’s what Lilly wanted then I see no reason why the mom should have done anything differently.

Our children are apart of this world. we aren’t able to force them to live in a rainbow happy bubble where it’s acceptable for women to have hair. My mother taught me to shave as soon as I asked and I’m grateful she didn’t let me walk around being bullied because of some kind of moral superiority complex

Wow. Obviously the aunt doesn't understand what it's like to get bullied. I don't blame the mom at all. Bullying can cause kids to be suicidal and depressed. I'm not a parent but I did deal with bullies and also a mom like the aunt who just had the 'oh well just ignore it' mindset. Just like you said telling the bullies "I don't accept your beauty standards" isn't going to do anything, and why shouldn't the girl be able to decide if she wants to get rid of the hair? Isn't that just forcing the aunts beauty standards on to the girl?

I had an almost identical issue with my daughter, when she was 11, where she had a slight unibrow and it really bothered her. After massively overtweezing myself when I was younger, and still having sparce brows 20 years later, I took her to have them professionally waxed. The difference in her confidence was significant. Some times its not about what suits everyone but what works for the child 👋 It's their body they should have a choice in how they want to be seen ❤

I love how the most controversial thing Queen Dolly has done is sleep in her makeup 😂

I have 3 daughters, 21, 15 and 12. If one of them wanted to wax because of bullying I would have a long talk with them and let them know they never need to change for anyone, BUT if SHE would feel more comfortable getting waxed I would definitely let her.

Kids can be cruel , and unfortunately you can't disapline other children and make them have good morals, as someone who will never have kids for various reasons if I could save my kid from bullying over something trivial Like body hair I would do it. Tbh it's almost cruel to not let your kid get waxed and let the bullying continue if you are now made aware of it

This whole “loving yourself means never changing yourself” is toxic

Bravo to this mom! I have black leg and underarm hair. My mom let me start shaving at age 11. It was such a relief for me, as I started puberty early and was already self-conscious about that. Sil obviously has no idea what she’s talking about.

The mom did nothing wrong. The sil wasn't asked for her opinion either...a good lesson for all of us to give our opinion only when asked.

As a child I was constantly bullied for my prominent eyebrows and facial hair, and not just at school. People would make comments when I was out and about also. My mother told me to just ignore the comments and refused to pluck my eyebrows or take me to get my facial hair waxed and honestly I feel like her ignoring my requests for help damaged my self-esteem more. Eventually at age 12 I shaved my eyebrows and looked like a clown for a while 😭Obviously in my case adult intervention would have been helpful.

Regarding the first story, if her daughter is happy and not being bullied then she most definitely did the right thing.

“Healthy aging” is such a nice change from anti aging advertisement honestly good on gwyneth for that one

Regularly practicing age appropriate bodily autonomy is critical for childhood & preteen development. As someone who was bullied for having thick italian body hair from a young age, I think she was absolutely right to care enough about her daughter's comfort, safety & happiness to allow her to make the decision to wax. If her daughter wants it, she deserves to feel empowered & supported in her decision for emotional validation. Kids can be so nasty & my having my own mom's unconditional compassion & support was the reason I was able to better emotionally regulate as I grew up. She knows it's wrong to be bullied for something you can't & shouldn't have to "control" of all people, but the emotional & physical safety of children is the priority.

didn't know about the glitter ban but like.. biodegradable glitters are already a thing so people who need sparkle in their life will be fine lol

When I started puberty, around age 11, i had facial hair. They called me "mustache" in middle school. I started tweezing. Kudos to her mom for getting her daughter a wax. You're already going through "changes" so managing bullies at that age is hard.

For the SIL, I hope she doesn't wear makeup or get rid of her body hair regularly. It would be considered hypocritical if she did...

I was bullied for severe acne from 9 yrs old on. I begged my mom for help and she eventually took me to a derm and got me on the right track. If she had left it at "you're beautiful how you are! you don't need to change at all!" (which she was also saying), I'd have been furious and doubt I would've been as trusting of her to later ask for help with my horrible mental health at 16.

I was 12 when I started using cold wax strips. I think it's good that her mom took her to a salon to do it properly. A girl from my school got a microwave wax set from a drugstore and nearly burned her face off.

Dolly could break the actual law and I’d still support her she can break whatever beauty rules she wants

I wish the EU would do something with the major cause of microplastics; SYNTHETIC CLOTHING. But I guess that would cut way too much into the profits of H&M and Zara 🤭

At 12 years old her daughter is old enoygh to choose for herself. I have an 11 year old and i ask his opinion on what he wants to do all the time. Why wouldnt i? It pisses me off when parents dont let their kids have a say in their own life! How else are these kids supposed to go up with a damn back bone!

I was blessed with my mom’s Italian hair. Love it so much - it’s dark, thick and luscious. But I remember the day my eyebrows began getting too rowdy and she was like we gotta fix this - and she took me to get waxed. I couldn’t have been happier. But then in middle school, a bunch of the *popular* guys and girls would make nasty comments about my arm hair. It was thick and very dark. I asked my mom if I could shave my arms and she said no because I shouldn’t be ashamed and be proud to have it. The bullying continued and it caused me to wear long sleeve shirts year round - through the hottest summers in New England. I was sweaty and embarrassed. So, I took the razor into my own hands and shaved my arms. It felt amazing, and then I only wore long sleeves around my mom! She caught on and was pissed. But eventually accepted it. The bullying stopped. So, I think the mom made the right choice. Kids are mean and there will always be a bully. But I think it really depends on HOW you address it with your kids. Not make them feel ashamed but more like we’re doing this for YOU. For YOU to feel confident. I know that arm hair isn’t a big deal, but 12 year old me felt like it was the end of the world.

I would have ignored the sister-in-law and shut her down. The mother was confiding in her and this person just tore her down and guilt tripped her. The mother did what she could to stop the bullying. This girl is young and the teen yrs are already difficult and challenging. Her Mom can still influence her towards self-acceptance over time. Once she gets older and can better withstand peer pressure she will probably start making different personal choices anyhow. I have greatly become more self-acceptaning with age.

I wonder where do kids learn from to be so cruel and judgemental. And the worst problem is that they don't become better as they grow. They grow into cruel adults

Literally clicked because of Dolly and nearly had a heartattack that something horrible happened :D

As a child who went through the exact same thing: kudos to the mom for listening to your child and doing what makes her happy ❤

The bullying that happened to me because of my facial and body hair ruined my self esteem and I've never gotten it back. I want to get all the hair lasered off wheneber I can finally afford it. To this day I just remember the bullying when I see my facial and body hair. I wish my parents had helped me shave or get waxed.

As a parent, it would crush me if my child was bullied at school for their appearance. Of course, I would chat with them and find out if they were good with themselse. As a parent and this was something safe, then I would. If my child had acne, we would go to a dermatologist. If my child had an issued with their teeth, they would go to a Orthodontist. Should I be ashamed for that? For all of you who say yes, you're a bunch of hypocrites! Waxing is no different! James as always I thank you for amazing content 💜😘💜

I remember being in middle school and I didn't wear a trainer bra, wasn't allowed to shave and wasn't allowed makeup. I didn't get bullied but my self-esteem was lower than the ground. Now that I'm old I don't care about shaving so much, I don't care how my bra fits and don't wear much makeup even though I love it. My family who prevented me from having these changes when I felt I needed it are the same people who have continually complain about why I don't do it now. 😂

Thank you for that Barbara Sturm crack!😂 Yeah, it's all in her initials, isn't it? *BS* Love these short reports!❤

I was once bullied for my eyebrows, but when I told them the look of them the shock was priceless and completely took the wind out of their sails. However it only worked because I actually liked them I don’t know how it would have gone if I didn’t. But kids can be cruel and if the daughter is happy and healthy I think that is all that matters.

My daughter came to me at the age of 8, saying that she was being bullied for her hair on her legs. She's biracial with light skin and dark hair, making her hair more pronounced. I asked her what she wanted to do about it, and she wanted it removed, so we went to buy Nair. At times, I would shave her legs for her until she was old enough to do it herself. She wasn't bullied anymore, and she was a happy kid. She's now 22, and she's a beautiful, unique, and free-spirited person. We have been close ever since. She's my favorite daughter (theonlydaughter), and my son is my favorite son(only son)!

I was bullied for having hair on my legs and was grateful when my mum took me to get waxed at 12 years old.She held my hand and everything. There wasn’t anything else she could do with my situation.

My mother let me know I was allowed to shave at any point when I wanted to. I only took her up on her offer when the leg hair actually began to hurt. The hair is super fine and when I feel it against my skin, it's like tiny knives. Now that I'm older with nerve pain, the pain is amplified. So shaving is done frequently. I'm happy my mother taught me. Even better, my classmates were all in the same boat as me. No one ever made fun of me and some would ask me what I used. For a time, Nair since I had unsteady hands and they came with little razor-less wands! And then when deemed competent enough, I "graduated" to my safety razor. I had my mother's support the entire way. That's what made the difference for me. I have no body image problems because of that. If my mother did not work so hard to give me a good body image, I don't know where I'd be. She even gave her blessing for dyeing my hair bright colors and tattoos, which I respectfully abstained from. That's... a lot of money I didn't have at the time, though I did think about it a lot. She gave me the power to be comfortable. I'm taking that lesson. I'm actually the "next generation" of the family people go to for acne, shaving, and other advice and that's all because of her teaching me. I owe her.

Listening to the description, it sounded like GOOP, a higher end brand (allegedly in my opinion) is trying to duplicate the ELF skin care line with their pure, hydration and super skin care lines. Even if not, still won’t be buying GOOP

So as a parent and as a person who was a child with a unibrow that eventually shaved it off myself because my mom said no i would def allow my 12 year old a wax for any body hair … its not that serious and its healthier. I rather make my child comfortable and happy and eliminate the cause of the bullying than try to use my child to fight beauty standards… grooming is grooming i would let them know its natural and they are beautiful either way bug if the want to they can do this

I related so much with the first story. I have PCOS where one of the symptoms is more facial and body hair, which kind of shows itself the most when you're going through puberty. Just like "Lily" I had gone all my life not bothered by it - until it was whispered about. I hated my body for a year until I asked my mom for help. I waxed my upperlip, chin and sides of my face (sideburns?) from age 13-20 until I started IPL ☺️ I'm 30 now so this video actually gave me a good reason or a reminder to thank my mom for helping 😌❤️ I know we're doing great climbs in removing beauty standards but like you said it's going to take a long time until everyones onboard.

When I was 10 my dad took me to a pool party and told me I needed to start shaving my legs because I looked gross. I’m just glad the mom wasn’t the one TELLING her daughter she needed to wax.

Your knitwear is very sensible!

I was personally bullied for the same reasons and I understand how difficult that is so handle especially at a young age. So if my daughter came to me and asked for help in this way, you best believe I would do what I can to help her feel more confident!

I hope the mom is able to find all these supportive comments 🖤 she absolutely took care of her baby and helped her problem solving skills

I was bullied for having a mustache as a kid. My mom refused to do anything about it so I resorted to using packing tape to rip it out. I think it's a much better approach to listen to your kids.

Setting aside the fact that indeed you cannot just "erase" decades of beauty "standards" you also cannot change the sad fact of *Kids will always be.. kids!* .. ALWAYS! Unfortunately there will forever be those kids that are bullies & just mean for what seems to be no apparent reason other than to just simply hurt another's feelings & poke fun of things that they deem "different." E.g>One's appearance (including any/everything), family's financial status, reading & other educational abilities or lack thereof; Through the yrs as kids get older the insults & the way they are delivered may change but sadly, those types of ppl will always exist!

I’m surprised to not see any active anti aging ingredients in the U.S at all. Focus on moisture on both the skin and hair and oil pulling are popular but retinoids and those acids are also very popular

3:36 As a mom of 3 amazing girls (ages 10-16), I see both sides! TALKING is what makes or breaks these kinds of decisions. As your kids get older, one of the most important things to teach them is how to make informed decision for themselves, while still including you! So talking through both sides, and the in between, all of the options, the rights and wrongs, so they can make a choice they can be confident in and defend is what I would do in a situation like this where the outcome was relatively low impact either way. And definitely praising her for coming to you with this instead of suffering in silence or just taking action into her own hands, yes and amen! (You’d be surprised how quickly these talks can go, too, it’s not like every decision you’re trying to help get them to make is hours and hours of talking.)

i side with the mom. when i was in school i got bullied for armpit hair and my mom got me a razor. now i’m 18 and don’t shave. she’ll develop her own opinions. in the meantime giving her the tools to be happy is the most important thing

Perfection does exist... in animals 😍💜 Happy Sunday, James.

Look forward to my WelshTwin Sunday Funday 💜🖤 all week long!!!!!!!

The mother absolutely did the right thing! Hearing that her mother was concerned about whether she did the right thing or not shows how great of a mother she is. Much Love

I don't have kids, but I was bullied, and I would not let my kids be bullied just to prove a point. I think you can help them out and also raise their confidence at the same time. Like someone said, they can experiment until they figure it out. Becoming confident is a long road, it takes a long time to build confidence and a lot of trial and error until you find who you are and stop listening to others. Kids live in a little bubble and what their peers say has a HUGE impact on their life.

My teenage son has a massive unibrow. We’ve never talked about it as I don’t want to create any insecurities, but the other day he asked me for advice on how to get rid of it. It’s his body, removing it is not harmful or permanent. Of course I’m helping! Just as he can decide what style of hair or clothes he likes, he can decide what he wants to do with body hair. Jeez.

I think the mom absolutely did the right thing. It would’ve been more damaging if her daughter asked if she could get her hair waxed and her mother wouldn’t let her or help educate her on the options for hair removal. I’m not a parent, but my mom went to school to get an aesthetician license when I was 12, and she would take me into her school sometimes to practice giving facials, she would bring home products she was experimenting with and help me build a skincare routine, and she really took the time to educate me and make me aware of the options available to me for skincare, hair removal, makeup, hair care, etc. and the pros and cons, taught me how to shave, use an epilator, hair removal cream, use heat styling tools, what ingredients were best for my skin type, and took me to waxing salons and stuff like that starting when I was in middle school. I think k could’ve benefited from more nuanced conversations around how I should only do these things if I want to and talking about beauty standards and not internalizing them etc, but I am honestly very grateful how much knowledge and information I have about the options for taking care of my appearance and skin and hair health and I am glad my mother never said I wasn’t allowed to get waxed or whatever when I approached her asking how to remove hair or saying I wanted to get something done. At the end of the day, waxing is not physically harmful, and 12 is around the age where people start to become aware of the world of beauty and might want to start shaving and waxing. I don’t think 12 is too young, my mom got her period when she was 9, and if she could have conversations about that when she was 9, she could have conversations about shaving and waxing at age 12. I think letting your child know what their options are and not shutting them down when they come to you with questions or concerns about their body is the best thing you can do for your adolescent.

I think the first woman 100% did the right thing!! Being 12 is hard!!! Having to go through bullying as well only makes life harder for the girl. If she gets older and decides she wants to fight the beauty standards, amazing. If she wants to focus on school and her friends and have 1 less thing (massive less thing) to worry about, amazing

I started developing a unibrow around 4th and 5th grade and my mom, a trained cosmetologist, decided to start waxing between my eyebrows. I was bullied anyway and she really didn't want the bullies to have yet another thing to bully me over. Once I got into middle school, she started waxing under my brows so I had nice looking eyebrows and it made me really happy. She would color and cut my hair however I wanted, so I knew it wasn't her trying to tell me how I should look. She just had the same eyebrows as me and she wanted me to feel good about myself. To this day, she still does my hair and eyebrows because she knows what to do without asking. She just does.

I am thankful for my mom taking me in at 13 to get my eyebrows and beard area waxed due to being bullied as well. It was my ask, my want and my choice but I thank my mom everyday for listening and showing me how and what to do instead of me "figuring it out" on my own. Love you momma 33 yrs later

The mom completely in the right. I started to gray at 12, think bride of Frankenstein strips. My mom had me us temp dyes in my natural color until 14 when she let me have fun with the colors. I was so self conscious of my gray she had to do something for me. No matter how we want to change kids it’s not going to happen over night so parents need to make choices best for their child.

Bullies will always exist. I believe her mom did exactly the right thing! She stopped the bullying, but I would preface that with also explaining why she agreed…Not because she wasn’t beautiful, but you don’t need to be bullied by people who are simply beneath you and are they themselves are the ones with a problem, not your daughter.

Most girls start shaving their legs in middle school, which is 11-13 years old. Taking her to a pro to have the wax done probably saved the girl from cutting up her face trying to fix it herself. Also, for a preteen to be comfortable enough to go to her mom and ask for help with an insecurity like that is great! The mom gave an age appropriate solution and reinforced her daughter's trust with her.

As a 12 year old myself I had extremely bushy eyebrows and would get teased and called “wooly” or “wooly worm” in middle school. I will forever be grateful that both my mother and grandmother immediately asked me if I wanted thinner eyebrows and booked me my first eyebrow wax appointment. I grew into my thicker brows, but even though some of the teasing wasn’t necessarily malicious (though some definitely was, girls are MEAN to each other and a lot of parent forget that when they’ve been out of school for so long) it really got under my skin and made me self conscious. Having that option to wax gave me the chance to open up and build my confidence to a point that, even when they grew back in after a while, I didn’t care anymore and I learned to groom and love my natural brows.

Los Ángeles Mexican American local here, aloe vera is def a local/cultural thing! My grandma has been growing aloe vera in her backyard for decades and will cut a slice once a week and create a mask from the natural slime from the plant and it’s soooo refreshing on the skin and makes your face so soft after! It’s best during the summer if you put it in the fridge for a little bit then on your face. 🖤

As a parent and as someone who has been bullied my while life for what I now know is hirsutism in addition to PCOS. Hirsutism is male pattern or excessive hair growth in women. I WISH my mom would have helped me with it. Instead I shaved for years and was bullied relentlessly for it, dropped out of school, went back later. Dropped out of college, now at 37 I'm going through laser and electrolosis to remove it and looking to go back to college. If my daughter ends up sharing my misfortune I will for sure be helping her remove it if she chooses to, these things can really throw your life off track because how people treat us matters to most of us. Education on beauty standards is important but so is self esteem. I never felt beautiful until I started laser despite being told constantly I am.

I was teased for being hairy and my mom wouldn't let me shave until i was a certain age. When my daughter started having the same struggles i immediately allowed her to shave and wax her eyebrows. The mom definitely did the right thing!😊

I had a prominent monobrow as a kid (still have to pluck it regularly at 26...) and after a nasty comment from another kid, I asked my mum if I could get it waxed. She said she'd take me on my 11th birthday which she did. I'm grateful she did this and it didn't do any damage to my body image

James can we please have more of these types of blogs, loved it and love you 🧡

I messaged your brother on Twitter about the glitter ban and he said oh no biggie it won’t affect our makeup, just craft glitter ✨ which ya know is sad for the children…so I’m so curious to see what you have to say 😘 Edit: I do agree with getting rid of micro plastic glitters, I was curious if it was going to effect the pretty sparkles in my eyeshadow even though I am in the US lol 😂

Love through jumper ! Fun stories in sensible knits...a theme is born !

Speaking from personal experience, I was an extremely hairy girl from the age of 11 and I did get everything waxed, face and body when I was 12. I 100% understand how that little girl was feeling and since she asked for it and was not pushed to do it it was the best decision for her. I remember the day of my first appointment I was super scared and nervous and even though it hurt like hell and I cried when I saw the result I was the happiest I could be. If my mom wasn't supportive of that I would have started shaving and I can tell you the few times I have in my life I regreted it so much because it makes everything worse especially for people with PCOS like me. It's not tramatizing and its not perminent and the mom saved that girl from a lot of negative feelings and attention. The rest of the world can mind their own business.

I have been in this same situation with my daughter and she absolutely said I could share this so ...she broke her leg at 10 and wow when we got out of the cast and the bone started healing... the hair on that leg was very very very thick and it started a situation with how she felt about herself ... so I am a cosmologists and I got a safe hard wax and waxed it that was my parenting choice because it was bothering her ...when it came back in it was soft as the other she felt great .....she loved it and later on in life she decided to not shave all the time... like my 90s self lol... but she wax's in the summer or when she feels like it ❤Dolly is my hero 😊but my jaw droooppped when she said that lol that's her decision....DOLLY GETS TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS I LOVE IT 😊

The thing about people stockpiling glitter reminds me of the episode of Barbie life in the dreamhouse where there's a national glitter shortage and everyone's freaking out 😆

Found your content through Robert's ofc and I'm loving your take on skincare already- progress focused and pro-science and entertainingly presented The glitter story is so silly as a glimmer and shimmer addict myself, because there absolutely are non-micro plastic alternatives that are inert or bioactive and look just as good if not better than traditional plastic

The United States' list definitely reflects immigrants and their cultural ingredients. Secondly, they focus on moisture, which makes sense because a lot of areas in the US have very low humidity and are essentially deserts. And I think it comes down to more of a wave of people moving towards skincare and haircare from their family's culture, not specifically about "clean beauty".

I'm not a parent, but I was also a very hairy kid who got bullied for having a unibrow, and my mom took me to get eyebrow waxing at 13. It did wonders for my self-confidence, and I'm glad she did it.

I went thru the same thing as that little girl. Mine was more over my legs and arms. I went home and cried alot. My mom bought me an electric razor for ladies...called; lady remington. It changed my life. I'm glad my mom cared enough to see how miserable I was and helped me out.

The mother absolutely did the right thing! She couldn't possibly put it on her daughter to fly the flag for facial hair being within "beauty standards".. and be bullied in the meantime. Many 12 year olds would probably have got rid of it before even asking their mother😅 they both went about it in a safe and responsible way.

I love your ending about Dr. Sturm products!!! Efing hilarious and so true 😂

As a parent and former child who was bullied incessantly throughout middle & high school for a cosmetic reason, I only wish someone would have taken me in for a "torturous procedure" to "fix the issue". When I was an adult and could finally afford it I paid someone myself to attach metal brackets and wires to my teeth - which also sometimes felt like torture - but was it worth it? Yes. lol People need to understand the impact that bullying has on their children and if it's a relatively simple fix, what's wrong with that? I'd do the same for my daughter. Edit: Saying things like "you're beautiful as you are, those kids are just mean.." trust me it doesn't help - the child grows up continuing to have a low self esteem, feeling insecure, skipping school to avoid bullies, and eventually worse. There's nothing wrong with helping someone fix something about themselves that they dislike or that makes them feel self conscious.

Really enjoyed this one, James!! I appreciate your straightforward, honest approach to these videos. 💜🖤 Thank you for another great one!

I think if it’s truly affecting the little girl’s confidence then she absolutely made the right decision to help her daughter. Obviously she should push being happy with yourself to her daughter but that doesn’t stop being bullied. And bullying is extremely detrimental to mental health. So good for that mama

I believe the problem with taking your bullied child to the salon is that it’s sending the message that ”you’re the problem, and it’s your fault that this is happening to you” which is simply not true. Bullies will always find a new ”reason” to bully someone, and adapting to them is never right and sends the wrong message. I was bullied throughout all my years in school and my parents never let me change myself to suit the bullies. If you’re getting bullied, it’s NEVER your fault! 💖

European ingredient list is what I use in my skincare. They really work!

I am a mom to 2 girls. My youngest has darker facial hair. We started occasionally using those little electric facial hair trimmers to trim her "mustache" when she was 9 because it bothered her. I also taught her to shave her legs at the age of 10 because of the darkness of her hair and how it bothered her. My oldest has lighter hair and isn't bothered by facial hair, and she didn't ask about shaving her legs until she was almost 12. You have to do what you feel is best for your individual child. I didn't tell them it needed done but I absolutely supported them when they felt they needed to address it.

I have done a similar thing to that parent. My daughter has a unibrow and pronounced upper lip hair. She started asking "for two eyebrows" in preschool and her mustache to be gone in first grade. That's really young for waxing, so I use a small electric razor. I think telling her she can't do anything about her hair when she sees both my husband and I take care of ours sends a worse message. Allowing her this control over her appearance is teaching her that there isn't an issue with her hair. If she doesn't want to do anything, that's perfectly fine and acceptable. If she wants to remove it, that's also a valid and fine option. She's confident and independent and is getting less and less self conscious about her hair.

What a lovely video, again! Thank you!

I completely agree with the Mum. I will tell you why. I was 9 years old when I begged my mum to help me to stop the bullying about my facial hair. My family heritage meant that my facial hair was dark brown and was very obvious. My mum also didn’t hesitate to help me. Yes I was 9, but the bullying destroyed my self image as I moved into puberty. I used a facial bleach and it did the trick. When I was a teenager I waxed and plucked to keep it at bay. The sister in law can have her opinions but the impact on a child and when they are going through puberty, self image can be destroyed and affect you. I still am hyper focussed on keeping my facial hair at bay. Im still super anxious of my facial hair. I think that what you personally decide in life is fine for you, but this is so easily helped. It stopped the cause of this young girls upset. It’s on an individual basis of course.

I think she did the right thing, hair will grow back but the trauma of being bullied stays with you forever

Love this format 👍🏻

This has been one of my faves so far, so much to think about yet hilarious ✨

my life is near non-existent because of how crazy my depression and anxiety got after years and years of bullying. her mom absolutely did the right thing. no matter what you do or how hard you try to bash into other kids' heads that bullying is not okay - they will still do it

I was introduced to waxing at a young age because bullying and in the end, it has made me more confident. The mother had every right to do so in order to not see her daughter miserable.

How many of us don’t do something to change our appearance? I think the mom was fine it’s not like she altered her body or something. She’s just helping her daughter feel better about herself

As a former victim of bullying, I'm glad the mom listened to her daughter and and helped her to end that situation. Do I wish we lived in a world where people didn't have to alter their bodies to not get abused by their peers? Heck yeah. But that is not the reality we live in or will ever live in and while I think it is awesome when someone can rock non-conventionally attractive features without being bothered by how their peers treat them, I don't think anyone should be forced to endure bullying because their aunt thinks it was wrong to allow them the easy option out.

Not a parent, but I remember being a kid. I remember one horrible day where my dad was making fun of me for having hairy armpits, even got my brother involved, and he tried to hold me down while my brother took a photo. That same day my mom showed me how to shave. Of course you should love your child as they are, but all your love isn’t going to protect them from the world. And one heart to heart with your kid isn’t going to change the world. The mom made the right choice by giving her daughter the tools to learn to protect herself from the world.

That mother did the right thing. My mom took me to get waxed at age 10 because of a similar issue. I'm Cuban so I have _hella_ hair everywhere. My mom knew that I was really struggling in school with kids making fun of me for having thick, dark hair so she brought me to get waxed. Have been waxing ever since and it made such a difference to me as a child