Tell me your sweat romantic experience😚

Imagine giving a cute boy a love letter and not only does he reject you, but years later he reads it on his KZfaq channel for thousands to see. lol

Alternate title: In which Hitoki flexes how much girls liked him in middle school. 女性にモテるねー 😂

"Japanese KOKUHAKU culture " Did you mean : *hitoki showing how much he was popular among girls in school* ?

"There was no one and it was quiet...After I came out of the toilet the girl suddenly showed up..." that sounds like a horror movie plot😂

Meanwhile in my country: "I Love you!" "I need time to think" *Never answers even after graduation

In france confessing to someone is seen as something a little childish and we never really ask "tsukiattekudaisai". After 3 dates a couple kind of automatically becomes official. But because we never clearly ask someone to become our girlfriend/boyfriend and sometimes it can lead to HUGE misunderstandings lol

I have a funny (creepy?) story of when I was in high school... One day, I was with my friends at school when a guy I had never seen before approached me and asked me in a very quiet voice if I could go with him for a moment. He was like 2 years younger than me. Then, he gave me a paper that looked like a letter and run away. But it was NOT a letter, it was a drawing of me! The drawing was very good with a lot of detail. I was kind of flattered because the resemblance was astonishing and you could see the effort, but it gave me a weird feeling because he draw me wearing something like a very sexy warrior armor. Like what you would see on a videogame. I was sooo ashamed! hahaha Naturally, since they were with me, all my friends saw the drawing and I was laughed at all day. I tried to look for him, but I honestly couldn't remember his face. Everything happened so fast. A few weeks later, I received another one on my locker and kept receiving them every now and then... All of them good but weird. hahah I don't know if he had pictures of me or what. I still have them 10+ years later... but I never knew who he was. I wonder if he is an artist now... or a serial killer. :P I'm from Mexico btw. Sorry for the long comment. :)

I worked at the bank as the drive-through window teller. I would send my love interest a lollypop and put a smiley face on his receipt. Eventually, he sent in a note with his phone number so I called him that evening. Soon, we were dating. Now we are married. I sent my kokuhaku (sort of) in 1993. We married in 1998 :-)

4:49 But We shouldn't laugh at that right?... We all laughed

I was in 小学校, 4th grade when I wrote love letter to boy I had crush on. He read it out loud in class. It was so embarrassing. I was rejected :,D

you are honestly one of the hardest working youtubers by putting all those subtitles on your videos!

lol I was asked out by accident over facebook and we been dating nearly 10 years now

In Brazil, we usually make out before confessing our love lol. But even if you make out with someone, that doesn't mean that you love them. And also, usually we'd spend some time knowing each other (doing all the stuff you'd do with your lover lol) but still, no commitments were made, and then if you fall in love with the other person, you can say "let's date" or something like that. Japan's love confession culture is so cute, here its kinda hard to find this "pure love" concept. Love from Brasil 🇧🇷 あなたの言い方はめっちゃわかりやすいよ〜

I’ve made it a habit to turn off captions when watching the videos and my Japanese understanding has improved so much!!

Those letters are so cute! I can’t imagine how nerve wracking it is to confess if you don’t know how the other person feels... In the US you usually go through a phase called “talking” where you go on dates, spend a lot of time texting or hanging out in person while you decide if you really like each other. It’s super common to hear girls say “oh, that’s guy I’m talking to” or “We’re just talking” if someone asks if they are a couple. It can get confusing the longer it goes on though! I once had a boyfriend that never asked me to officially be his girlfriend, so although we spent every day together, I never realized we were actually dating! I eventually got angry with him and yelled “Why won’t you just ask me to be your girlfriend!?” He was super puzzled and said “You sleep at my apartment almost every night, what did you think was going on here?” 😂 He never officially asked, but after that I realized we had been a couple the entire time.

American girl here. Learning about Japanese love confession in this video made me think that while it's not typical, it's possible an American man would "confess," but only if he knew the girl well, probably for years as close friends, and neither had brought up the subject of love over that whole time period. It might have almost happened to me once. A close friend really looked like he was starting to confess, he had that look in his eye, but it was so screaming-awkward that I just kissed him to make him stop talking. It all worked out ok.

大学の時、私の男の友人に告白しました。私はギターと歌うことが好きで、気持ちを込めて、あの人に曲を書いてました。そしてあの人に演奏しました。 演奏の後に震える声で、どう思う？っと聞いたら彼が "うん、いい曲だね！SoundCloudにアップつもりか？"といった。彼に告白つもり書いたが、彼が全然気づかなかった😅😂 We're engaged now and just celebrated our 4th anniversary together! All's well that ends well 😂🥰

I never got and i never confess...what a life

I'm an American female. There's one confession from high school I remember quite fondly. Early one morning before practice, I left the restroom and this girl walked up to me. I considered her a friend even though we didn't talk much. She told me she liked me and I said I liked her too, she was so happy and asked "do you want to go out?". But I said no really quickly, because I didn't even realized she was confessing. At the time I felt really confused because it seemed out of nowhere to me. Months later towards the end of the school year, she came up to me again and asked if I wanted to go out with her. I smiled and said thank you but no, then she leaned in and kissed me by surprised and ran away.

You asked me to tell my sweat romatic story. Meanwhile I'm a boring 20 years old boy who haven't even had a crush on anyone.

I just realized that the traditional way in the Philippines is soo hard for the boys. First: they have to confess their feelings for you either through letters that they have to give secretly or through someone who personally knows the girl. Girls don't really do the confessing, but they usually give hints if they like you. Second: After confessing, the boy will have to do a series of courting or "panliligaw". They have to woo her with words, poems, and more letters! And then when there is a positive chance about it, at one point, the boy will sing a serenade in front of the house of the girl. We call this "harana". He would stand outside, probably with his mates who knows how to play and the boy will sing (regardless if he actually knows how to sing). The girl watches from inside, possibly along with the her family. After harana, boy will recite a poem or do another confession or any message to the girl in front of the family who are eavesdropping. At this point, he might be expecting an answer this time or if he thinks he has to do more panliligaw, he might just run away and continue on about the long process. Sometimes tho, the father of the girl will ask the boy inside. His mates will leave him and wish him goodluck 😂. The dad will talk one-on-one with the boy. The girl won't even be allowed to see the boy. So man things that could happen after this. The dad may even discourage the boy. But the boy may prove his feelings for the girl despite it. Third: After the long process of panliligaw and the girl says yes, then you're FINALLY dating. The boy is still lowkey expected to show signs of affection as he did in the stage of panliligaw. Marriage is expected, btw 🤣. Anyways. There are some who still practices that BUT very rare. Now, it's soo casual 🤣 my bf didn't even court me in the traditional way. What he did was he regularly sends food he cooked at my house for all my family to eat. When we started dating, he does the harana through phone call. And still regularly sends us food (gifting is most probably his love language).

When I was in middle school I jokingly asked my best friend to go out with me. At that time I never knew she was gay and that she actually liked me so she cried and said yes. We graduated high school last year, found a job and moved in together in January of this year

During middle school, I was like Cupid for my friends. Every time they told me about a boy they liked, it would take me like two weeks to make them start dating. I was chubby, so boys didn’t find me attractive, I got along pretty well with them, but I wasn’t the type of girl they would fall for, that’s why it was actually easy for me to match make them, my friends were pretty and I wasn’t. There was only one time I failed in my Cupid job. My best friend was the one who asked me for help. I took like a whole year to try to make them end up together. And it was actually that the boy fell in love with me, not my best friend lmao.

The middle schoolers sound so cute

I think in taiwan, young boys and girl in the period of junior high school or high school try to get great chemistry between each other first. After making sure that he or she has same feeling to me, make sure the 告白 success rate is high ☺️

Here in Poland, everyone makes sure that friends to dating transition goes as smooth as possible, but of course sometimes you need to do something to stand out and become noticed by this special someone. Looking at myself and my friends we would stay sinngle all of our lives if it took so much courage to even start dating 🥺 so that's incredibly impressive in my opinion 😄

The only time I ever got confessed to was through a text and I really don't like that because it seems so impersonal ;-; Anyway great video as usual ! And is that your school uniform 👀👀

Loved this video a lot! Extremely interesting and insightful as to how dating culture works in Japan. I really love the culture of communicating one's feelings through letters, and the fact that we can save those letters is really beautiful...it's like we can permanently hold and keep safely a bit of the feeling that a person shows you. It's quite different here in Sri Lanka...there isn't any specific culture of exchanging letters. Dating usually happens when a person you've known for a while confesses and this is usually from your circle of friends or classmates or other classmates. In university or work places too it's the same. The main thing here is that it always starts out as friendship in the beginning. The guy or girl will directly confess or a friend will help them get together. Personally, I've had few people who confessed after being friends for a while but I had to reject them and although I had no issues staying friends with them, they kind of moved away from me after confessing. So it's really sad for me when someone I think is a good friend confesses suddenly because it affects our relationship. However, there are a lot of exceptions too. People whom you meet on buses will ask for your number, sometimes even in the streets saying they want to be friends but usually the intention is to confess, and it's guys who normally do this. And there are people who sit next to you and recite their own phone numbers. This is hilarious when it happens. Anyway, it's uncomfortable when these scenarios happen. Normally girls ignore or turn them down politely or outright get mad at them. Other than this, back in grade 3, I and my best friend always exchanged letters saying we loved each other and would be best friends forever. We lost contact after grade 6 as I had to move countries and I've never exchanged letters as such with anyone after that. I kinda miss those days, because I love writing and a letter is like a gift, especially those that has the writer's feelings poured into it. Thank you for sharing with us your wonderful experiences!

In elementary school I remember kids used to write love letters to each other here too, but it was much more uh... Obvious ig? I remember when one of my classmates at the time confessed to me, what she did was literally ask another classmate of ours to tell me something like "do you wanna be her boyfriend?" and I went like "yeah sure". It's pretty funny to think about that now pffff

My love life is non-existent but for some of my own reasons. Still, I feel like the kokuhaku culture of Japan is very interesting. And also, it's easier than trying to figure out whether someone likes you

Imagine the person who give you the letter watching this be like: “Ohh,my letter...”

The video starting suddenly with gakuran Hitoki saying "Yo" immediately got me laughing lol, truly the Japanese middle school experience By the way, I feel like people don't think about it much but there is kind of a confession culture in the US. It definitely doesn't happen if you go from "stranger" straight to "dating", which happens fairly often. Those are usually relationships that are, uh, more "passionate". But in cases when you're already friends with the person you like, particularly good friends, confessions absolutely happen. They're kind of necessary. I have even confessed myself (when I was 19 too, it's not just a middle/high school thing). Some people also celebrate anniversaries, it's not uncommon. But many people also think that's weird, including me.

Hmm I tend to throw away old love letters. I feel like I want to move on, and give myself completely to the next woman without looking back. There is a Japanese woman I like. But she hardly speaks English. I know only a little Japanese. But before I left her in Japan I gave her my hoodie for her birthday. She has been wearing it when it started getting cold. So I guess that is a good sign! She must know I really like her, but confessing is a bit frightening! I must seem like a stupid foreigner without a good future plan :P

It's really sweet of you to keep these letters after so long! and your uniform still fits! That's amazing~

Hitoki せんぱい!! Where’s the part where you prank call 📞 your friend and confess Kokuhaku?? 😳💕😅

I once have been so popular too and when I received a love letter I just gave it to my mother to read for fun. Seriously back then I was so focus on studying that I realize I have no experience such thing as blushing, yearning to see the other and etc. But now that I actually start to like someone..😳😳😳 tsk tsk this love that makes people life so tough!!!!

Lol confirms moms are the same everywhere

Aw I truly wish we did love letters/confessions more often! It’s such a nice and effective way to properly convey one’s feelings! The only one I’ve ever gotten was from a boy I was “dating” in middle school. Still one of the sweetest things I’ve ever received :’)

Jajajajajaja que tierno el final!! Im from Argentina, here when we are young if you like someone usually you invited them to going out with friends but you try to talk mostly to that person. Then if you feel like the other person is also only talking to you, maybe you invite them to a date alone. Then we go out some times more alone and then if we feel like we have good chemistry, one will ask the other to go out (we celebrate an anniversary that day) That’s a way but I feel like there is not only one way to ask someone out Saludos desde argentina!! 🇦🇷 Me encanta tu canal, gracias por subir siempre videos útiles y entretenidos 😊😊

Filipinos be like : "HAPPY MINUTE-SARRY BAE *insert long sweet message here*

ひときさん、一日間であなたの動画約９８％ぐらい見ていました。僕は外国人ので 一所懸命勉強し続きます 。いつかペラペラになります。今まで本当に有難うございました。

For the first time. I watch Japanese video without subtitle/captions. I'M PROUD.

In Brazil it's very difficult to receive a love letter 💌, usually people make confessions talking directly to the loved person and then they'll start kissing in the same day 🤣.

内容が面白くて、日本語の勉強もできました。 ありがとうございます！

Thank you my great teacher for all your hard work here! Well done!

Thank you for your videos. Studying japanese through them and really enjoying them. This was another good one!

Mi experiencia fue esta: Me enamoré de uno de los amigos de mis amigos, que había cambiado de insti pero volví a ver en una reunión. Me llamó mucho la atención, más en ese momento estaba enganchada con otro chico. Cayó la pandemia y me dí cuenta que me atraía, así que entablamos una amistad que se hizo muy estrecha. Tardé aproximadamente 6-8 meses en enamorarme de él, y llegó el momento. Él era muy reservado aún, así que sentía que había un 95% de probabilidad que no le gustara, pero me arriesgué. Le escribí una carta en japonés, muy parecida a las de ustedes, y se la mandé, y luego corrí y me escondí hasta el día siguiente. Él se asustó e intentó contactarme frenéticamente. Luego, a la mañana siguiente, me envió un mensaje de disculpas y puso al final "Yo te quiero". Pensé que lo decía de manera platónica, así que no respondí. Mas tarde, publiqué una foto y el la comentó, así que hice de tripas corazón y me dije que no perdería esa hermosa amistad. Entonces se confesó, dijo que se enamoró desde el momento en que me vió, un año antes. Vamos a cumplir 9 meses juntos

I am really happy that this cute culture actually exists!! I only ever heard of it in anime … so I was wondering if bullying happens in Japan as well, I mean it’s quite rare here where I grew up so I don’t really know much 😅

Very interesting video regarding the confession and dating culture in Japan. Thanks a lot for making this video!

I love your channel already and this is my 3rd video for tonight. So funny and smart. Thank you for sharing that.

I am enjoying your videos because they help me with listening to Japanese and I am happy to find one of a few Japanese channels like yours with easy to understand Japanese. I feel excited too when listening to your and your friends' stories haha. Subscribed! :)

In Indonesia (which based on my friends experience :) ) before ask someone to going out, the girl and the boy will be a friend and often together (ofc with some other friends too). This is called PDKT. At least, PDKT will take a week, a month even a year (or even longer in some cases). Then, (usually) the boy will do the love confession. In my experience, my friends (which is girl) tell me that the boy i liked was want to do a love confession. Unfortunately, I'm rejected that boy because I don't like his way when he asked me to going out with him. I mean, how can you proof your love when you asked your friends to say that you like me? I'm sorry if my english is not good enough to make you guys (who read my comment) understand about what I've wrote :)

インドネシアで全国的に、今の時代は普段皆はそのLINEとか他のアップリをつかって告白していますが昔は日本の文化と同じく手紙かラブレターを書けて、好きな人に渡す

despite taking only a few years of japanese you are so animated that even without the captions I can sort of understand the gist of what you are saying, which is great!!

ちなみに, 制服 すごく似合ってる~~~ ひとき先輩はカッコいい😂😍🤩

In Mexico, at least in my experience, confessions through letters were common from elementary through middle school, and (I think) mostly by the girls. Yeah men would try to confess directly. In highschool and later I think in most cases it they would ask directly or by a text message. But it's more common to approach the group of friends the girl hangs out with and check the chemistry before a confession. Friends groups in Mexico can be quite large and diverse, so you might ask a friend in common to organize some activity or at least become acquaintances first. Also, I think it's not that common in other countries outside of latinamerica, but is quite common your girlfriend meeting or and hanging out with your family on some events! After University weddings become common and is better if you have a partner to keep you company, since they tend to become big and might take a few hours of your time. So is not rare to even bring some trusty girl-friend (or your actual girlfriend). The thing is, shit happens and we all know it and we don't take it so seriously if the family meets your "friend".

Want this custom in my country too!すごく詳しく説明してくれてありがとおおおおう

in america, married couples celebrate the day they get married as their anniversary. people who aren’t married usually celebrate the day that they started dating as their anniversary. i really enjoy your videos! thank you for making them! ❤️

It's been a long time since I laughed so much about a youtube video + its comments 😂 By the way, very informative, now I can understand why it happens so much in anime

Thank you so much. I love your videos AND I get to learn Japanese. Can the next topic be friendship between girls and boys in Japan? Is it a common thing or not? Many thanks from Romania!

I mined so many anki cards from this haha your videos are great for that. And just great immersion in general! Great to have a youtube channel with accurate JP subs, too. Thank you!

教えてくれて、ありがとうございました

I’m from the U.S. and from my experience, I’ve had guys mostly send me letters while I was in elementary and middle school. Of course, I’ve sent letters to guys as well. Sometimes they’ll write back to your letter or they’ll just talk to you directly the next time they see you. In high school I didn’t really date, but I’ve seen people flirt with each other until someone confesses. Also, sometimes they had their friends ask their crushes if they liked them before deciding to confess or not. In university, I’ve had guys tell me directly that they like me. Being a young adult, I prefer to say it directly or the guy because I think it’s more meaningful to say it in person and it’s straightforward. Guys can give mixes signals sometimes and being direct is best for me so that I can know clearly if they’re interested or not. I used to be scared of rejection as a kid, but now I think I handle rejection well if it happens, lol

I feel like in Europe it's the other way around - first you date, then eventually it's time for the serious love confessions (ofc it also depends on the person) As to ラブレター I remember that at my primary&middle school we had this 'secret valentine mail' and you could send a letter to anyone, ah man it was all easier when you were a kid edit: ちなみに、3万人の登録者おめでとうございます🎉 I love seeing your sub count go up, you SO deserve it♥️

I enjoy learning Japanese words by watching your videos! ☺️

You’re the first Japanese channel I subscribe to. I wish I could know this channel earlier :”) I love Japanese school stories (friendship, love relationship, love confessing, etc) I love watching anime or movies with romance and school in its genre💙💙 thank you for the contents!!

When I was in high school, I think I got a confession on my myspace page. Is that how kids are still doing it these days?

at my school there was a way for the person to declare that it was by letter but usually the letter came with a question and underneath a field written yes or no example : I like you do you like me Yes ( )No ( )

チャンネルすごいね、ヒトキさん。色んな人に役立ちそうと思う。是非これからも頑張り続けてください

I didn't turn on captions but I still understood everything I thank anime for this

En México en lo general se hace un gran show en donde te apoyan tus amigos y los chicos hacen carteles o dan regalos a la persona que les gusta viceversa con las chicas, igual las chicas escriben cartas pero se acostumbran más a darlas en el día de San Valentín 💖💓. In Mexico, in general, there is a great show where your friends support you and the boys make posters or give gifts to the person they like, vice versa with the girls, even the girls write letters but they get more used to giving them on the day of Valentine 💖💓

So basically you're flexing your popularity back in middle school 😂 nah I'm kidding! This is a good video. I thought the animes and mangas are exaggerating. But no, it's real! Thank you for this video!

Ooo like that, thanks 😊👍🏻

Thank you for teaching us the Japanese culture. You are very handsome and very smart and you deserve all the attention. 😍 i’m learning a lot from your videos.

好きだと思います…

I never experience this so I can't relate :"D

ちょっと恥ずかしいと言ったらすごく可愛く見えました 🤣🤣😂😂🤩😍😍

Gracias por hacer los subtirutlos en español!! Estuvo interesante, demaisdso diría yo 😅

Plot twist: the letter was written by himself 😂✌️

I'm from Brazil and I can say that is totally the opposite here XD Normally it's work like: friends -> kiss -> romantic relationship. Sooo,it's basically about the physical touch.

I think this is actually really nice. There’s no back and forth between the relationship status, they both know where it stands and avoids unnecessary discussions.

学ランめっちゃ似合う！ ひときさん高校の時絶対モテたよねｗｗｗ

Japanese: embarrassed, shy, "p...please going out with me, i like you" Me: I just say once, going out with me or not, just answer yes or no. P/s: it's always work, you should try ( maybe do it with kabedon is better )

イケメンですね、告白したいですけど、僕は男です笑

応援してます！がんば！

I mean… I would write you a kokuhaku because I love you and your videos so much 😙

In Philippines, when 1 confesses and the other feels the same way they go through the 'mutual understanding' stage where there is no commitment but they exclusively flirt or it may be courtship when a guy tries to win a girls love before it becomes official.

I'm a Chinese girl who immigrated to the U.S. when I was young. I grew up watching anime, so I definitely think I was heavily influenced by Japanese culture when it comes to romantic relationships, although I think Asian countries in general are very similar in idealizing the "aimai"/ambiguous phase of the relationship a lot. In high school, my close friend and I were in an ambiguous relationship, and before we graduated I decided to actually confess. Since I was too shy to confess in person and also felt like I couldn't possibly convey all my thoughts eloquently, I wrote it in a letter and emailed it to him. As a nerdy kid I also wrote it in essay format so that in case he opens it in the library, no one will think it's a love letter! He turned me down though since we were going to college soon and he didn't want a long-distance relationship. Afterwards, in college, I met my current boyfriend. At our school, we have a quirky tradition in which you can send letter to friends and classmates on Valentine's Day, and hire a person dressed as a ninja to deliver it dramatically to them in class! So I sent him one of these letters in which I wrote about how much I appreciated him and liked hanging out with him, without actually outright saying I liked him. I also sent letters to all of my other friends partly to cover up the fact that this was explicitly romantic, since I wanted to leave it open to interpretation. I think he got the message though and eventually confessed to me while we were hanging out! Nonetheless, the beginning of our relationship was a bit rocky since we had different expectations of what dating meant - I wanted a kind of anime-esque relationship where we develop feelings slowly over time, but he was a lot more American haha. Nonetheless, after my experience in high school, I had also learned to be more straightforward with my feelings too, so I think we met at a good time and was able to compromise.

They are so brave to confess face to face

Here in Spain is common to start a relationship without any kind of "kokuhaku", you can be dating someone for months and saying nothing about it and one day is like "oh we are really dating right?"

Thnx this is helping me improve my Japanese! ヒトキはありがとうごじあます。！！ *hopefully that means thankyou Hitoki!

かわいい😍 I am so much in love with Japanese language now!!!

Very fresh to see that in some cultures the girls make the first move

Woah! I seem to have found a fun channel. Honestly I just like chit chat themes and host is so genuinely cute. Keep up your good work it must have been a lot of hardwork to manage and maintain such a good channel.

I am watching your videos for learning Japanese, especially listening. I've found that your spoken Japanese is very clear and easy to understand. I wonder if you have slowed down your speech for learners like us or you're speaking as if you are talking to another native speaker? By the way, I appreciate your efforts in making these videos. Thanks so much Hitoki san!

4:48 I DIED WHEN HE SNEAKILY LAUGHED AND THE SCENE JUST CUT ITSELF you have golden humour!!!

When I was in middle school, there was this Senpai I always admired. Senpai was very cheerful, creative and the first time my heart felt like it was beating - it was when I saw Senpai did a dance on stage. I tried to get close and so we got along very well. Sometimes we fought like any other juniors and seniors. I forgot when it all began but before Senpai left, she left me a letter and a key chain. Senpai had inspired me to be a graphic design since I love to draw a lot. Sadly we kinda lost contact 😅 but I still kept the letter anyway...

Your speaking voice is SO NICE 聞きやすいですね😌

面白い🤩