My dad grew up in an abusive home and he said he prayed every night that his dad would die. People who break cycles of generational trauma are my heroes.

The title is far from harsh. Proud of her for realizing she’s worth far more than what she was told about herself. Narcissistic abuse is horrific to live through.

I'm so happy for her that instead of drowning herself in alcohol and anger she faced it head-on and got through it and mastered it and now she is helping others.

1. Parent education should be a requirement for all parents to be. There is too much child abuse going on. Kudos to her for being able to emotionally detach from her abusive mother.

This is one strong, secure, self-respecting woman. She turned down money which tried to silence her. She turned down more money to appear in the new icarly reboot. She turned down roles which would have advanced her career because she didn’t want to be unprofessional and mess around with her Sam and Cat commitments. She is so self aware of her feelings and reactions and I’m just in AWE. I hope she has a long and happy career ahead of her surrounded by people SHE chooses.

I haven't read this book yet. My mother was unbelievably emotionally and physically abusive to me. At 43, I decided to cut her out of my life when she made a comment to my 12 year old son about his weight. I lived the first half of my life making every decision based on her expectations. The next half of my life is for me.

Anyone who thinks the title is harsh has probably not experienced abuse

Jennette would make a WONDERFUL guest co-host. I could listen to her talk for hours.

Please have Jennette as a guest co-host. She would bring so much healing to those who were abused.

She is so intelligent, articulate, and eloquent when she speaks! She is the generational curse-breaker in her family. And while it was a challenging road, I'm gad she broke free! Can't wait to read the book! #CongratsJeannette!

1:43 when she mentions the title was harsh and her response! 🔥

I know she wrote a book, but I feel like they didn’t have sensitivity training for the hosts before she was brought on, some of the questions…

You can tell who read the book and who didn’t. These women, I swear.

I didn't realize I was abused until I was 25. My father had to do something so horrific that it finally opened my eyes.

I was raised in a very similar household. I have the utmost respect for her. Being able to open up about such a thing takes a ton of strength, self awareness, and courage. Finally, some truth behind what it's like to grow up with an abusive mother.

I quit therapists who suggested that I was experiencing CPTSD from childhood trauma also. It must be a common experience to have that kind of reaction to the initial idea that your toxic mother was toxic when you grew up with so much gaslighting, especially when she demanded so much constant fawning. Thank you to Jenette McCurdy for saying out loud what many of us don’t have the guts to say out loud about how one can be grieving, and yet at the same time realize that you’re finally free.

the “Im nothing without my mom” feeling hits hard when ur mom manipulates u and emotionally abuses u cus same and it’s hard learning to be okay without them even tho I know they’re in the wrong

Why is there such resistance against the idea that a mother can be abusive, nobody is saying her mum didn't have something wrong but a lot of mums we beg to seek help bcos we want a relationship but they refuse & continue to abuse & damage their kids. I used to think these thoughts & feel immense guilt but the feeling was valid regardless...

I'm a little more than halfway through the audio book and my heart just hurts for the childhood she had. Seeing her in the shows and hearing her music you would never have known the horror she was going through. So glad she's processing and getting help. The book is absolutely amazing and she does a wonderful job reading it

Her mother really hurt her. You can see the pain in her eyes.🙏♥️

You go girl! I’m in my early 20s and i also have an abusive family. I’m getting ready to go no-contact and jennette’s story has been such an inspiration to me.

She has so much love and strength behind her eyes, so much stronger for what she suffered and has made it into an amazing book. Love her so much!

It honestly scares me, both how EASY it is to have children AND how encouraged childrearing is in society.....SCARY when you pair it with the fact that (1) some people are so naturally cruel and (2) most people are dumb. And yet here we are......

I've started my Jennette McCurdy marathon for days now. Wow. I really am glad that Jennette is able to get her life back together again. And I love the way that she answers the second lady saying that the title was too harsh.

I am glad that she tactfully dodged the negative “…where would you be if your mom was still alive?” question…. What the heck was that mess?

She truly has showed the world with strength and courage you can do anything ♥️ She is so fearless and shines so bright !!

She is a few years younger than me but I really look up to her and her story is similar to mine. It took me till I was 30 and after an abusive marriage to realize from my therapist that I was abused by my mom once I told her about my ex husband and my mom she looked at me and said listen connect the dots use your experiences and I ended up realizing why I end up with abusive partners is bc my mom would verbally mentally emotionally and physically abuse me and I was an only child and my dad never would protect me from her he would make me apologize to my mom for her abusing me. I stopped talking to them and it’s the best decision I’ve ever done.

I wish her nothing but the best. I hope she will find the healing that she neess and the love that has eluded her for so long.

I love Jennette. It takes so much strength to go through such horrors and come out such a wonderful person.

I find it rude how the initial interviewer went about this. She was very blunt about an extremely sensitive subject. You can see the tears in Jeanette’s eyes as she spoke to her like this.

Everyone who says the title of the book is "harsh" don't know what abuse is or have great relationship with their birth giver.

While I did not grow up in an abusive home, I was abused by a family member. My parents knew, they witnessed it and I told them. They did their best to stop the abuse but I put an end to it. My abuser said did not realize what they were doing, they were in a "bad" place grieving after their spouse died. Long story short, my retaliation woke them up. The abuse stopped, but admitting it in therapy is hard. I felt like the therapist was judging me. I learned and realized pretty quickly that they were not, it was a natural reaction and feeling to feel judged. It didn't make sense to me that I would feel judged. I was the victim and yet I felt judged? While the memories of the abuse resurface from time to time (normal), I just do my best to shove the memory aside. I am so sorry to those who have been the victim of abuse.

I’m so sorry she went through what she did.

I prayed for my father to die fervently throughout my childhood. I left home as soon as I was able. When my father finally died of cancer at the age of 70, I felt nothing but relief.

This book is excellent. A must read. I got it as a parenting book. It’s valuable to learn lessons in what not to do and to be reminded how children internalize so much from their parents. I hope Jennette continues therapy and healing from her trauma.

Yep. When a doctor told me that what I was trying to explain was describing PTSD, I backed off. It took me a long time to realise the truth of what I experienced.

First counsellor I saw, i was telling him about my mum and her own abuse as a child by her parents, and how I would cry in private so she didn't see and prepare myself to be strong for her because she needed someone there for her, i told this very protective of my fragile mother as though this was a beautiful bond we shared. He simply said 'that must've been hard for you'. I broke. Tears absolutely burst and sobbing out of nowhere. It was the first time someone had considered my emotional journey in being essentially a private therapist and confidante to my mum through childhood. I couldn't accept or tolerate that. 1 week later I was convinced I was trans and that solved my problems don't need any help thank you and goodbye... few weeks later i realised that didn't explain my absolutely lostness in the world and myself. That phrase 'that must've been hard for you' replayed in my mind for years before it finally clicked. I thank that therapist everyday, he doesn't know, but he did help me, he gave me the key and years later I stumbled into the lock. To acknowledge and accept a parent was abusive, especially when it's a complex relationship and covert as opposed to overt physical abuse, is monumental and as Jennette said requires the entire dismantling of that relationship your view of them and who you yourself are. Thank you Jennette for your book and your honesty

She’s been everywhere lately and I love it

Can't say I am a fan of the view but I did read Jennette's book and all I can say is it is more than worth the time to read it. She has a gift with the way she portrays her story and I cannot recommend it enough. Well done.

I love this young lady to know what she suffered and what she gave to us everyday on tv. heartbreaking but wow she survived

I love how she can tell who read the book

I love how she says mmm after every question its so cute ❤

Telling her to her face that the title was harsh has to be the most arrogantly insensitive sht I've seen on The View in a long time.

i could sit and listen to Jennette talk like FOREVER and never be tired of it, i want to hear everything she wants to say always

Jeanette is incredible. What she has overcome is incomprehensible, and she is brave for being so candid.

It's okay to be honest. Like I can honestly say the world is a better place now that my Father is dead. Does it suck to say? Sure. Is it the truth? Yes. He was a bad man. Period.

I'm really really happy for jennette and for this book it's a history that NEEDS to be told and I'm sure that's helping alot

I experienced this and my sister as a child.. I understand what it is.. and I realized it's something that can take many years to recover.. it's hard to break free from a mother who is supposed to protect you and love you.. it's sad but I'm glad that she is healing

The way her eyes lit up at the end🥺 I love her sm

This book is one best books I've read in a long time. It's really stuck with me I grew up in an abusive home. I'm so proud Jennette it's hard to admit when your abused by a parent . She has a lovely reading voice

Jeannette is very brave to share this!! It reminds me of Joyce Meyer’s story. They actually have similar personalities. I hope that they can meet one day!!

What an interesting person and listen to her speak is a joy. She speaks so clearly and articulate that it captivates my attention.

Wise and well spoken. What a fantastic young lady.

What a wonderful energy she has. ❤❤

I loved the title of the book! I grew up with a mother similar to hers so when I found out about the book, I immediately knew what it was about.

How can anyone say the title of the book is harsh, they did not experience what Jennette did . Her mother tried to emotionally and physically destroy her. I didn't know anyone else could feel the way I do. Thank you Jennette.

Wow, so impressed by her admission about why she initially left therapy

I’ve been seeing her everywhere, I’m glad she’s getting her story out there.

My mother is a narcissistic and I’m 45. I am fairly sure she will die soon (she is 76) and that will be very sad, but I was abused by her, and the lifelong effects will always be with me. I’m having therapy though, and working on it….

I totally get the not grasping you were being abused. It wasn’t until I got old enough to see how my friends Mom’s treated them and that’s when it hit me.

Wow. She is so brave for this. She will hopefully help a lot of other people.

I’m 41 and my mother was very abusive. I’m glad people are coming out and talking about parental abuse. Its pretty much the biggest stigma as far as abuse.

"Jennette, where do you think you'd be today if your mom didn't die?" Jennette: "puppies are cute" I cracked up🤣 she is amazing and I'm over the moon she's finding her strength and self freedom. cheers to her writing her book!

I love when people like her talented smart and who actually have a real story that we can learn from

I read the book, it's great. I have so much trouble focusing on reading due to chronic pain and mental illness. I flew through this book in one day. I havent been able to read a full book in years. I recommend it

I absolutely loved her book! Highly recommend. It was so insightful and interesting

Thank you! ❤

I didn’t realize my mom was toxic to me until after my son’s funeral. My life wasn’t like Jennette’s but I completely understand the gaslighting she lived under and defending her mom being something that was ingrained. The first time I sought therapy, after I was attacked (22 years before my son’s death), my PTSD therapist mentioned something about me possibly being from a home of abuse. I completely bristled at that and shut it down. After I could no longer worry about my mom’s feelings first (cuz I was grieving my son’s death), I realized she was toxic because she said “obviously you don’t want me as your mom anymore” when I just wanted to be alone in my grief for a while. I hope Jennette’s book helps people get out of such relationships and realize their own self worth.

My mum was psychologically abusive to me growing up. I figured she wasn’t treating me right but to have someone validate and explain the abuse was liberating. My mum and I have a better relationship now but it’s still hard sometimes having that past hanging over us. This book was mind blowing loved it so much

I love her honesty ❤

I have not cantacted my mom in decades. I don't want her to die, but I never want to see her again. I'm going to read this book as difficult as it will be for me to read it and relive the horror and abuse. God Bless her for writing it.

When people say the book title is harsh, I just think can you just for one second not think about your own mother - and actually realise that this woman’s mother must have treated her so terribly that she’s glad she is dead, like why isn’t that easy to understand?!

Fabulous book, much needed read

For 20 years, I had lived in a village that had no child protection services, and no bother in helping teenagers from abuse. The only way I was saved was when the school picked up on mental health symptoms and realized that my father was not mentally safe at all. I was at age 20 when I was finally away from my father's abuse. I had been hit, I had been touched, and all I could do was save myself at age 20 and go to therapy. I then later on realized all the wrong things my parents taught me, had learning curves to go through, and ended up having to make boundaries for myself as well.

Man, everything she said at the beginning hit me really hard. I cut my narcissistic parents out of my life almost 6 years ago and I had also just gotten out of a toxic marriage to a narcissist during that time. I flew from Texas to Florida to revaluate my life and go back to a job I had done during the holidays and long weekends and it took opening up to a few of my coworkers and managers after they noticed my workaholic behavior and seeing that I was not the same person that they knew and I confided in a few of them about what both parties had put me through. They all said the same thing, "what you described to me, that isn't 'normal,' that's abuse." Especially the things that my parents did to me as a child...especially grinding my self esteem and confidence down to nothing while implying that I am nothing without them and I would never make it alone. The minute I maybe had some belief in myself or confidence that I could be independent, they'd immediately go back to the verbal abuse to bring me back down to the lowest feeling ever. Also, they showered/bathed naked with me until I was 12, too. It wasn't until I cut all this toxicity out of my life that forced me to revaluate and reflect on my life, which meant that I needed to quit blaming myself for everything bad that happened in my life...I was the scapegoat/punching bag not just for my parents, but for my entire family. Again, their narcissism and emotional abuse/manipulation always made me feel like I was the problem and I was to blame for every bad thing within the family. It's taken a lot of reflecting, journaling, as well as a lot of time to learn and accept that I was "just a kid" and that none of that was deserved nor was it my fault. The resolution and silver lining for me on a daily basis is that, ever since I remarried and started this reflective/healing journey, my motivation now is definitely to break the cycle. If my wife and I are ever fortunate to have children, I'm more motivated than ever to give them everything I was not given and be a way better parent to them than mine ever were. So in a way, I guess maybe I should be thanking my parents for showing me WHAT NOT TO DO & HOW NOT TO ACT/HOW NOT TO RAISE THEM

She is so wise and well spoken and I'm very happy she is self conscious now and on a healthy journey Wishing her all the best moving forward 🙏🏻

She’s always seemed like the coolest person. I kinda wanna read this book

So much love for her!

DANG i wish i was in that audience, i bought my book and am so excited for it to come

I've never watched The View before and when Whoopi popped up I was so surprised 😂

I hope she writes more in the future, perhaps fiction if she is interested in it. She mentions in the book that she always liked writing more than acting and she’s really talented!

I'm so glad more of these toxic mother stories are being exposed e.g. Brooke Sheilds. It's time for the mommy martyrdom syndrome to end and start seeing mothers as just human. A lot of people are kept in silence because no one wants to believe how dysfunctional their parents are. Then there is the disassociation that has helped to cope with the abuse that also blocks you from seeing how truly abusive they are. People will sooner believe that YOU are the problem rather than the victim. Having children doesn't give you a pass at being evil and the culture of labelling childfree people as selfish because they refuse to continue generational patters of abuse and trauma etc just shows how narrow minded people could be.

People really are mad that the façade or veil of mothers being nice and gentle is being peeled back.... RELAX, it's HER truth.

I've got the same thing happening in my family

I disagree with the lady in the brown jacket, I don't think the title or picture was harsh. The mother was not a good person, that's like saying if you're happy that a convicted pedophile is not in your life anymore, then it's harsh feeling so because you're related. Jennette is speaking up and finding herself and the cover is very appropriate for who her mother is and the abuse she endured for TOO long.

My heart goes out to all the young adults out there now that are still living through it or have lived with not only parents being abusive but also having two parents being dysfunctional where there is one parent completely codependent while the other one is emotional unavailable…

It was really brave to admit that she couldn’t accept the idea of her mom was abusive at first: it must be so heartbreaking to have your entire life’s view just shattered and thrown upside down, but in the end I’m glad she managed to confront it instead of running away

I love this book. I would be either in the middle of a page or at the end of a chapter and have to put the book down and talk to the nearest person to me about whatever it was that I just read. My teenage daughter bought it for me for mothers day this past weekend and I finished the book last night. I knew nothing about Jennette McCurdy, except for the fact that she was an actress. I love the title and the book itself.

I like how she says "Hmmmm" after the questions😅

God bless her. 🙏

So happy someone was brave enough to say it, I'm glad my abusive mom is gone, too!

There obviously was something wrong with her Mother My mother was abusive also Touching someone inappropriately is totally unacceptable She could have bought her Mom up on charges

I absolutely love her

Good for her keep shining your light in this dark world ...stay strong 💪

I can't be the only person that saw she was writing a tell all and think she was finally going to expose Nickelodeon( if the abuse happened) but I was actually surprised that it was about her mom/upbringing.

i didn't realise that i was mentally abused until i had my own children, i knew that i was physically but i didnt see that as abuse i thought it was my own fault because after they did what they would do, they would always appologise or say 'its your fault' 'you made me do this' so i kind of accepted it

She is so articulate!

Loving her book, absolutely highly recommend. Well done Jenette, I feel alot of what you said, thank you

Bless her heart 🥹

Reading her book right now and it's excellent. I grew up with two toxic parents who were abusive. My dad has gotten help and is better but my mother remains mentally and verbally abusive towards me and my brother.