5 Things You Should NEVER Tell Coworkers

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The last thing you want to do is deal with coworkers gossiping about you, or find yourself in the middle of shady office politics. But you’re probably making one of these mistakes at work, putting yourself in a spot where your boss and coworkers won’t take you seriously and hurting your career. In this video, I’m breaking down what you should never talk about at work, and what you can say instead to avoid office drama and position yourself for career success.
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Timestamps
0:00 Avoid being the center of office gossip
0:17 Keep your ambition to yourself
2:11 Keep your boss’ trust, NEVER do this
3:56 You don’t want to be this person
5:29 Planning your escape?
7:12 Coworkers are NOT your friends
Important: names and identifying info has been changed. Some stories are from former clients, people I encountered in my career, and some are from the Career Bestie Community.
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@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

We need to talk more about work relationships (and oversharing at work). Go watch this video next: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jtCYeZaptquVnIE.html

@1La2La3La4La Жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer, May I suggest to not put the background music on . Many of your viewers are from other countries too, whose mother tongue is not english. Thany you for the videos, Greets from Germany.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

@@1La2La3La4La I appreciate the feedback! I've gotten feedback to include music, and so I'm testing it out. The hard part of about making content at scale is I can't keep everyone happy (FWIW I'm sound sensitive and gravitate to no music but I'm trying to find a bit of a balance because I do think it helps integrate and amplify the important stuff when it's used well - I just don't know how to use it well yet!)

@1La2La3La4La Жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick Hello Jennifer, Thanks for your reply. I expressed my wish/concern from the point of a non native English speaker but german :) . Yes, you must decide what kinda audience you have more weight to . Thanks and Best wishes, Saurabh

@JennyGaston Жыл бұрын

The last one is necessary. Especially over sharing personal relationship issues. New subbie. This video was one point ❤️

@Stephanie-hn3yn Жыл бұрын

🙋🏼‍♀️ Jennifer! I love your videos but I think one important video is missing from your channel… how do I recover from already making all of the mistakes you say not to make? I don’t have the option of leaving my job. I’ve already over shared and reacted poorly to my coworkers when they gossip… I feel like everyone has already established dominance over me… is there a way to recover and bounce back!?!? I feel like my current work environment has turned me into the weakest version of myself and I dread going to work now.

@shebri00 Жыл бұрын

Silence is a friend who never betrays you

@jamesinman7364 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@ladyindaroom Жыл бұрын

I’m loving this❤

@roncall6065 Жыл бұрын

Love this

@mercedeswilkins9085 11 ай бұрын

Yes

@radwawagih2425 11 ай бұрын

Trueeeeeee

@Menix135 Жыл бұрын

1. Career ambitions 2. Don't tell coworkers what your boss tells you 3. Don't complain to your coworkers 4. Don't tell them when you're looking for another job 5. Don't share personal info with coworkers

@kyawzayarwin8027 3 ай бұрын

Thx

@LittleRayofSunshine69750 Ай бұрын

Thank you, you saved me 10 mins 🙂

@Revolver_Ocelot16 Жыл бұрын

As the saying goes, "At work don't talk about your money, your honey or your next move."

@Hello-rl6lp Жыл бұрын

I love that!

@101runaways Жыл бұрын

I learned the hard way to keep my personal life closed off from co-workers. I became a target of bullying for that mistake.

@MrSloika Жыл бұрын

Co-workers are NOT YOUR FRIENDS. I'm a social person by nature and I've made this mistake numerous times. Yup, co-workers are not your friends. BTW, there are a lot of other things you should never tell your co-workers. Never tell your co-workers you have a side-hustle of any kind. Never tell your co-workers your house or car is paid off. Never tell your co-workers that you are handy and save money by doing your own house or car repairs. If you boss gets wind that you're getting ahead on the money he pays you he will find a way to pay you LESS. Bosses want to hear that you're struggling and barely able to get by.

@imthebest7290 Жыл бұрын

Thanks. Valuable comment.

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

Isn't it pathetic the way our society operates? I've made the mistake of opening up to coworkers also, not realizing I was dealing with amoral shells who would step on their mother's corpse to gain a nickel.

@saritamoorebansa4485 Жыл бұрын

I totally agreed with everything you typed…😊😊😊

@cbrown9294 Жыл бұрын

When I was running a business in Kansas City, I fired anyone who WASN’T finding a way to get ahead. Those who were struggling were seen as not innovative and unmotivated to succeed. My boss was the same way.

@ktryushi4744 Жыл бұрын

I never saw my co workers as a ‘’friend’’ lol. I don’t share my personal details about myself. This is why most people find me very mysterious because I don’t share nothing. They do share their personal life with me because people these days love to talk about themselves. It’s always me me me me. Society becoming narcissistic as fk….I am just a guy who analyze the situation and manipulate 😂 People are just stupid these days…

@christy7698 Жыл бұрын

No matter what you are going through, NEVER share it with any of your coworkers!

@Chill-mm4pn Жыл бұрын

Exactly, some people tell everything lol.

@mikelisteral7863 Жыл бұрын

careers are stupid and anyone that has one is a stupid slave. womem make better slaves than men

@gotinogaden Жыл бұрын

I'd add mental health and family issues. Unfortunately, scapegoats tend to overshare as they seek support and understanding from others, but at the workplace, judgement runs rampant.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Mental health issues are sadly stigmatized, and while there are considerations as to what you disclose at work and who you disclose it to, when you need accommodations, it's not avoidable. Personally I've been open about my mental health at work, not that I'm shared inner details or debriefed my colleagues about the experience of having a panic attack, but I don't hide or feel embarrassed by having seasonal allergies either.

@inconnu4961 Жыл бұрын

This is a very good point! I experienced this up close & personal with my last employer. Not for me personally (although i have my personal struggles not unlike Jennifer's and a few others) but with co-workers who couldnt keep pace with the higher achievers! The problem with mental health is, unless you experience it personally, in your life or those you care about, the tendency to not understand what is going on with others and assume they are JUST like yourself ie just as potentially capable, had continuous negative affect on work flow & morale! Especially problematic was when a person through out a name of a condition. People thought it was an excuse or just didnt know what one was talking about. BUT if I mentioned a persons symptoms or struggles, people would be more sympathetic. mentioning names of ailments did more harm than good.

@jeffrybrickley870 Жыл бұрын

At my prior job, yes. I am actually on the faces of disability awareness with my story of PTSD with my new job, though. Even my best friend didn't know how badly I suffered at my prior job. My bosses and peers did know if they yelled at me they could always get me to stop arguing, even if it was because they were shifting the blame to me for something they did. However, although I have opened up about my story, I have spared the details. I leave it at "I have endured the unendurable" and leave it at that. Honestly, no one truly wants the details.

@rebecca_stone Жыл бұрын

Re mental health - it really depends on your company's culture and also what level of seriousness of mental health you're talking about. And probably how senior you are too. My previous company was amazing on this issue and it never hurt my progression upwards. Plus in order to do my job as effectively as possible, it was in my interests to have my co-managers know about mine so that we could use practical workarounds. I'm talking about severe ADHD here - that said, I also had (now in remission from) BPD, that one I would only tell my direct manager though, it's far too stigmatised and misunderstood on the internet especially.

@SuperKarineka Жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick that's a good point, thanks for sharing.

@mariojane8188 Жыл бұрын

Let’s be realistic. That environment where you can’t be yourself it is a toxic environment .

@psyclotronxx3083 Жыл бұрын

You know, you're right. We are all human and if you're on your guard all the time I don't think you can truly perform at your optimum

@rubinixcube8866 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely disagree. You’re going to be a different person around friends, family, coworkers, and strangers. While I agree toxic people exist, “being yourself” is going to get you in trouble.

@psyclotronxx3083 Жыл бұрын

@@rubinixcube8866 your core self will be there. What you need is discernment

@johnpulaski6725 Жыл бұрын

1.) Don't ever gossip! 2.) Don't talk about politics, etc.. 3.) Don't ever trust anybody! They'll rat on you for a nickel! 4.) Tune it all out! 5.) My Father told me: Do your job, keep your mouth shut, do only what you're paid to do, no more, no less, go home, don't think about the place until you have to go back the next day! 6.) If you really hate your job, always keep your mouth shut, keep looking for another job, don't ever tell anyone, then get out of that place, don't look back! 7.) Your " Co,-workers" will always stab you in the back! 8.) Don't ever give them anything to say! 9.) If you thought your teachers s______, then wait until you get a boss! 10.) Always keep your Resume updated, as well as your other employment contacts! 11.) You're always expendable! 12.) Stay out of Office Politics! 13.) CYA! 14.) Don't ever be a door mat! 15.) Got a problem with your boss, etc.... Go way over their heads, if you have to report them! 16.) Start your own business! 17.) Start a Union! 👍🙏

@MartineH1 11 ай бұрын

Number 5 is so true. I am right now having a very bitter time by discovering that among 12 co workers, I was the most educated one, most hard worker, the one that shew incredible good results, and the one that started plenty activities that were important to the organization. No coworker did it and I started 16 new different ones in 13 years employment. Now I got another job, where they offered better money, better opportunities and enviroment. I am happy with it but discovered that in the organisation I am leaving now I am one of the 3 ones with lower salary. It made me enraged and very sad. It is a lesson.

@willn8664 Жыл бұрын

All this makes me glad I work remotely from my home office. Don't have to deal with toxic coworkers.

@fluffytail6355 Жыл бұрын

Me too but they still run behind my back and make up fake complaints to report to my boss. Even working at home can’t insulate me from aholes!!

@cartoonist1975 Жыл бұрын

ugh... when did it EVER become trendy to be unprofessional at the workplace ? can't we all just make it paycheck to paycheck without anything in between ? ? Sheesh

@Spladoinkal Жыл бұрын

You can still have toxic workers to deal with from home

@elvenatheart982 Жыл бұрын

Luvky

@mikelisteral7863 Жыл бұрын

careers are stupid and anyone that has one is a stupid slave. womem make better slaves than men

@aliaalnuaimi528 Жыл бұрын

“Co-workers are not your friends” I wish if I had realised this sooner! I got in terrible because I thought they were nice and supportive. However, their real motive was to gather content for gossiping… Thanks Jennifer! You are AMAZING!

@sarayuna9627 Жыл бұрын

same here

@entertainmentjunkie 11 ай бұрын

How did you find out they had other intentions?

@GG-bw3uz 8 ай бұрын

Real motive was to gather content for gossipping... so true which I realized later.

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

Coworkers are very similar to neighbors. There are a lot of comparisons between neighbors and coworkers.

@polster2 Жыл бұрын

Most important thing to remember is your co-workers/boss are not your friends/family no matter how friendly someone seems. A lot people especially a middle mgr. who is your boss is trained to have a friendly face to the lower level employees they are supervising but their loyalty lies to their mgr. and people above them. You should never say negative things in your 1-1s to your mgr. like I am tired, overworked, too many projects, you don't like some co-worker, etc.. The mgr. uses your words against you behind your back!

@fanvo9831 Жыл бұрын

This is very true. They'll twist your words and make it look like you're the bad guy

@lockonstratos7787 Жыл бұрын

1 career ambitions 2 dont tell others things you boss tells you. 3 grievances with co-workers 4 never say you're looking for a new job 5 dont over share personal information with co-workers.

@dijonvolner6024 Жыл бұрын

Don't tell them anything at all & keep your personal life & work life separate! ❤️

@willowingwhispers2612 Жыл бұрын

As someone who works with a person who likes to gossip and badmouths literally almost everyone else in the office -- especially on days when she's stressed -- I've learned not to trust coworkers.

@josephj6521 Жыл бұрын

I don’t tell my workers of my financial status. I’m debt free and own our own home plus plus plus. I tell them I’m in debt and my expenses are huge if they must know. There are many jealous people.

@saritamoorebansa4485 Жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!!!

@ChaitanyaMarx Жыл бұрын

Best formula

@genxx2724 Жыл бұрын

My 10 year old car got totaled. I paid cash for a new car, but told my co-worker I had a big car payment. She used to be my friend, but I no longer trusted her. Truth was I was debt free and financially independent.

@Bunny11344 Жыл бұрын

That’s true. They treated me terribly at work because I was on vacation when the snow storm hit and the scanner broke and they had to rebook everyone so petty

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

Nobody wants to see you do well in life, especially coworkers. They want to see you crash and burn.

@samyuktaashokkrishnan Жыл бұрын

I love your content. It's a great reminder to just go to work, clock in, do your job and clock out. No need to talk too much with anybody. These days, you never know who's truly a friend and who's not, unfortunately.

@andersnielsen6044 Жыл бұрын

It is not something new. It has been like that since forever. One thing is the same as always - A coworker is, and will never be, your friend.

@renishalockhart2704 Жыл бұрын

You are so correct. I had to learn that the hard way.

@NightinGal89 Жыл бұрын

So depressing, tho

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

@@NightinGal89 It is quite depressing, especially when you have no one left in this world. You figure you can make friends with people you see a lot (i.e. - coworkers). Alas, it's not to be.

@Bunny11344 Жыл бұрын

I’m being shunned and treated poorly because I decided to cut myself out of the office drama and gossip. It’s pretty pathetic seeing one middle aged old hag needs so much validation. I just ignore her and it makes her angrier

@PhantomMagician1846 Жыл бұрын

never complain or say anything negative about your job or a coworker in writing !! this includes texts, email, Facebook, KZfaq, ect. if you have to vent say it to somebody's face or at least over the phone (your personal phone). I have seen to many examples of people sending a text that comes back to haunt them..... and in some cases years latter.

@swiftkarma4436 Жыл бұрын

I always complain up. If I have an issue I say it to a manager/supervisor who can do something about it and never to someone on my level.

@MsMinoula Жыл бұрын

Not sharing anything you wouldn't want your boss to know is the number one rule. Backstabbing can be found anywhere and it better be with a weak knife.

@lias8006 Жыл бұрын

I have coworker who constantly complains , about everything... she's overall a nice person and is friendly but it makes me think if it's soo easy to complain about everything from her life, the managers , coworkers, to the cafeteria food - it's no breeze for her to talk negatively behind my back either

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

True enough. People are hard to trust. I guess I'm a different breed. If someone tells me things in confidence, I don't blab. The only way I'd do that is if they betray me first. Then the bond is broken.

@bcetinstitute3016 Жыл бұрын

There has been an increase of meetings at work which encourage employees to share their emotions and personal challenges. I have been set against such meetings as they encourage persons to share ackward details. For example one colleague shared that felt responsible for her son's suicide due to giving priority to work rather than family. Another shared that she liked to destress after work by having a glass of wine. In both instances there was rampant office gossip with the latter being branded an 'alcoholic'. I tend to have a high level of participation and contribution at meetings but in these meetings I avoid saying a word like my life depended on it. Even if I have personal struggles there is nothing to be gained by sharing this with a room of over 100 colleagues. Plus they are not mental health professionals or friends so they are not in a position to advise or support me effectively.

@siesies000 Жыл бұрын

This type of meeting seems wrong....

@bcetinstitute3016 Жыл бұрын

@@siesies000 I think so too. The culture is that we are a 'family' and it is pitched as a 'safe space' where we can support each other and I get that people need a space to feel supported socially and emotionally but work is not the best place for that. I know how backstabbing my colleagues can be all too well to trust them with my innermost thoughts and feelings. I was tasked with working on a special project with the same colleague they branded as an 'alcoholic' and I was warned to 'be careful of the witch'. All because she had high standards and was demanding of her subordinates. We had an awesome time working together and to this day if she has high visibility projects she includes me on her team because she knows I am reliable.

@PhantomMagician1846 Жыл бұрын

also what you do outside of work and "off the clock" is none of their business

@swiftkarma4436 Жыл бұрын

Smart move. I would NEVER share any of my struggles with my coworkers.

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

@@bcetinstitute3016 It was my need of a space to feel emotionally and socially supported that I brought up my struggles with coworkers and management. I didn't get into details about it, but let them know I am afflicted with PTSD. They didn't see me as a human, but instead chose to malign me. Like your colleague, I'm demanding of my coworkers when it comes to doing the job right and I have high standards. I've been astounded to discover how lazy and self-entitled most people are.

@lunaleia952 Жыл бұрын

few weeks a go i was so overwhelmed by all the negativity and broke down in tears in front of a coworker. he then asked what is wrong and i just told him it's all too much and told him about a situation which was hurtful but not talking bad about anyone, only talking about me and how it's too much and that i want a good relationship with coworkers and boss. he ended up going to my boss telling him i was complaining about the boss. u can imagine how that ended. only one month left there fortunately since it's only a internship. all about confidence and not making toxic environment a personal thing i guess...

@ElizabethAmanna Жыл бұрын

I'm really curious and am struggling with the don't say too much part. Did you ever clarify with your boss that it wasn't about him? How did you know he told the boss? Only answer if you want to

@sarinhighwind Жыл бұрын

creating drama in the workplace to slander your co workers or keep them from doing their job should be a fireable offense. But noooo. Management literally puts them on a pedestal and pushes them up in the ranks. Cause... that makes sense.

@lollipoptrollop2350 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been working in an office job for 10 days after taking seven years off. I mistakenly said that I want to work hard so I can get my next pay raise the next day. The boss comes up to me and tells me I’m trying to hard to fit in… That’s when I found your channel work Bestie

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

The transition back to the office is a thing. I'm glad you found me lots of info for you here!

@nocturnalsage4029 Жыл бұрын

Not admitting that I had wanted to be promoted actually got me the job. The first tip is tried and tested.

@tacothursdays6546 Жыл бұрын

If you don't mind me asking, did that get you in the door to the job itself or did you wind up scoring a promotion?

@nocturnalsage4029 Жыл бұрын

@@tacothursdays6546 It helped me get to the door first. Since nobody knew about my intent to apply for the admin position, it became easy to hide especially from another colleague who had initially interviewed with our HR. That way, I did not have anyone blocking my advancement.

@sebasterlopez1836 Жыл бұрын

So true Jen! I wish I knew these advices starting my career, when I was young, naive and trusted the good will of my coworkers. I learned these lessons by the hard way

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Too many of us do, Sebaster! I know not everyone who watches my videos will take every tip I offer, and they might deeply disagree with some, but that's the point. We need to be clear and intentional on how we show up, what we share, and the impact we make.

@Wahinies Жыл бұрын

Same, however this sounds like regret and rather than feeling the regret, learn from it. There is a wonderful article speaking about this and termed it 'optimizing' regret. An important part of life in career and otherwise is forgiving your former self as they did the best they could at the time.

@mbank3832 Жыл бұрын

it is kinda funny , even till this day, people at work think I am a shy, quiet and soft spoken person...but they never knew I am someone actually someone that can't shut up. it is just an alter ego i put on at work because I will never establish a close connection with or I will share myself, because I just can't bring myself to make friends with them. those idiots haha

@lilagood1963 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been called “unapproachable” because I won’t participate in office drama and gossip

@mbank3832 Жыл бұрын

@@lilagood1963 well, they can all go f each other in a hole or something lmao

@avril.227 Жыл бұрын

I’ve found you can be friendly and “keep it light”, without opening up much about your personal life. Coworkers respond well to that.

@emanuelespinoza9325 Жыл бұрын

Some people are lucky enough that they have met some close friends through their jobs. For example, one of my mom's best friends is someone from work. However, not everyone is that lucky. I know I was thrown under the bus by someone who I thought I was cool with. Before that, people wondered why I was so quiet and reserved. I was even criticized about that by a supervisor I had in the past.

@genxx2724 Жыл бұрын

@@lilagood1963 Yes! Someone said I was “judging everyone” because I keep my mouth shut.

@Chris-tg3qy Жыл бұрын

I agree about the promotion topic very strongly and it’s something people easily forget about. Keep in mind that there are coworkers that might admire you and be jealous of you at the same time. They may see your ambition and dreams in such a positive light that they develop the same same dreams and ambitions based on what you want. Now, you have caused a competitive situation where there might not have been one. These people don’t or can’t think for themselves so they copy you and then you may become the resentful one. All of the other stuff is true too, but career aspirations are directly related to money and ego. Those are two things that cause people to do weird things.

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

Money and ego. Yes, indeed.

@sonicmoore6196 Жыл бұрын

Co workers are the fakest people you would ever encounter. Don’t gossip or get too comfortable with these clowns. They’re not your friends or family period.

@CombatMedic1O 3 ай бұрын

Are they not just like the people on the internet. Co-workers are just random people like you that are trying to survive in this cog of a souless greed machine.

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

They are not your friends or family, but you spend more time with your coworkers than you do with your friends or family.

@drewlorens1686 Жыл бұрын

I used to share and be involved with my coworkers, but learned long time ago that comes with gossip/getting taken advantage of/blackmail/etc.....so now, im older and wiser...I keep work at work, and home at home. when your mouth runs, someone close or distant is taking notes.

@andreang13 Жыл бұрын

Personally I also wouldn’t share about my relationship, family, mental health, health overall and where I live. I would try to keep the relationship pretty surface as needed.

@jpadicecoffee9812 Жыл бұрын

Rule # 1, there are no friends at work. Rule # 2, don't complain and get sucked into along with complainers... Keep mum and focus on doing your job... Rule # 3, HR is never your friend... Learned it here. I overlooked # 2, and someone big mouth\"jump the gun" yelled out where the whole company heard it. The damage has been done to my reputation implicitly and I address the incident privately to my direct supervisor about it that I was having a bad day at work and it's a one time failure. That's weeks ago, anything else I should have done or differently after the event ?

@NightinGal89 Жыл бұрын

I would also say don't tell your boss what your career goals are..had a prick boss once who made up shit about me to his superior because he saw me as a threat..I eventually put it together because he was doing yearly reports on everyones career goals

@nelsonvienneau7348 Жыл бұрын

i also learned that the people who gossip usually dont last, im an open book in life and yes admitedly its had its downfalls, but i also made it to a senior position and have respect from the inteligent field of people at work, its all about moderation in life.

@user-zr6pl6nb6z Жыл бұрын

The place where I work is a breeding nest of gossipers.

@Uksoapfan Жыл бұрын

As usual, great advice Jennifer. As for wanting promotion, I knew colleagues like this and it drove everyone else crazy. Also it makes others think "Well what makes you so special and deserving of a promotion?". Often they are true brown nosers and will grass on colleagues to get to the top.

@Sezfluffy Жыл бұрын

This is coming from someone who usee to be so nice and caring. Co workers Nd bosses are not your friends, they don't care about you, just themselves and how they look.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for what you've been through, Sarah.

@Sezfluffy Жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick i know but im on the right path. I do my PhD next year x

@TR-nh7xf Жыл бұрын

You nailed this one. So true! Its sad, but I work for a toxic company and have experienced all of these or know someone who has.

@VideoGameRoom32 Жыл бұрын

Never talk trash on other employees you never know they might be friends.

@user-wp4co3mu1g 3 ай бұрын

They could be related as well

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

What I discovered is that some people can talk and talk and talk and nothing gets back to them. Then, there are some people who say one little thing and it gets back to them.

@ladyindaroom Жыл бұрын

In my younger days, I would tell so much of my personal business. I’m a single mom with two children, two different baby daddies. Ladies, don’t talk about these types of things at work. Seriously, that’s just not things people at work needed to know. I used to talk way too much about my personal business at work in my younger days. I’ve learned better and do better. Ladies, zip your mouths❤

@bevanbuckwheatshea5520 8 ай бұрын

Darn good advice.

@naveenjoshi4030 Жыл бұрын

Your advice is very real and practical. These small mistakes add up over time. Keep up the good work Jennifer!

@timzeringue2649 Жыл бұрын

Yes, learning some hard facts,I guess.

@abc2662 11 ай бұрын

I was a member of the board of a global company for 3 years, and I was at the top of the succession line. What people were not completely aware is that I had had lots of success on my previous positions and had a privileged financial situation. As it was my 50th anniversary I decided to open my house and have a big gathering. I cannot express how much I regret this decision. My colleagues were all wealthy, but they got envious, specially the CEO. My financial situation became a constant subject of discussion, and jokes, in the office and the dynamics of my work relationships changed dramatically. Two years later I left the company as my career got "frozen", and all the good opportunities were given to other people. Don't share your financial situation, good or bad, with anyone in the office, 'cose it will impact in the way your performance is perceived.

@shehzadiaziz6950 Жыл бұрын

I think if you're too closed off and unwilling to socialise with or be friends with coworkers it can come across as standoffish and unlikeable. in some companies it's the oversharing and being yourself that does get you a promotion just because your seniors like talking to you

@vanillacreem816 Жыл бұрын

People you “think” are your friends in the workplace will be the first ones to disparage , gossip and turn on you behind your back. I’ve seen it happen over and over . Best thing to do is keep to yourself in the workplace , Maintain a polite ,professional relationship with co workers while keeping a professional “distance” from them but do NOT make friends in the workplace. And do not ever discuss your personal life with co workers. Keep your work life and private life completely separate ( and this includes romantic relationships, don’t get romantically involved with co workers, it will affect your job and be disastrous). Make and keep friends and romance outside the workplace. You’ll have a lot less issues to deal with and you will be much happier & less stressful at work

@valentinajerenec3511 Жыл бұрын

These things should be taught at school! Your videos are amazing and have helped me organise my thoughts when trying to figure out what to do about my toxic job situation. Thank you!

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad my videos are helping you 💜

@claudioklaus2642 Жыл бұрын

TLDW. It's a wild jungle out there. Everyone's out there to use you or hurt you. Nobody is your friend so don't spit out your true thoughts to anyone. Always pretend you're happy until you get the hell out of there.

@JJ-ml7wo Жыл бұрын

Why is management not looking poorly on the office tattle tales? And maybe cultivating a better work environment. That’s even worse in my opinion on both of them.

@regularity2556 Жыл бұрын

Because they want to know what's going on, ironically, it they had a true open door policy, they wouldnt need these news carriers.

@swiftkarma4436 Жыл бұрын

Many people in management are just as toxic as the folks they supervise.

@Debrody1 Жыл бұрын

Also, when a boss knows looking may impact evaluation.

@oscardahmer8533 Жыл бұрын

Im learning alot n seeing my past mistakes 😔

@mindsstalker Жыл бұрын

congrats on your 100k subscribers

@julijakeit Жыл бұрын

I am so happy I discovered your channel. All information is priceless and will help me find the best job.

@getoffthisrocktravel2054 Жыл бұрын

My workplace is a big minesite next to a mining town. I call it a family affair and a daycare centre for adults 🤣💀

@Noodleloveeeer Жыл бұрын

Jennifer, I am REALLY GRATEFUL for your channel. As I grow older, I need to learn how to be more professional at work. Your videos are so therapeutic when I’m feeling so annoyed and impatient with my coworkers.

@TaylorJohnson1 Жыл бұрын

I’ve made a couple mistakes so far. Reeling it back today.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

If it makes you feel better, I made ALL of the mistakes myself.

@inconnu4961 Жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick You are a high achiever, arent you! LOL

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Haha I don't wanna brag or anything...

@76Betsyross Жыл бұрын

Me too!

@andrewgarfield9898 Жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrickI’m making these same mistakes as we speak. I feel so horrible and feel like I’m such a fool for making these mistakes.

@jeffrybrickley870 Жыл бұрын

Good morning. Long time since I posted. I would add on the job search that I stood out positively with most interviews in mentioning that I had to step away from my office if they called (went to my car). And zoom was from my phone, which was occasionally choppy on video, but I said I would never use company equipment. On the final interview we scheduled it on my day off so it was from my computer and my equipment and the difference was obvious too. The fact that I would not misuse company equipment stood out as a positive on job interviews. I didn't wave it around, it was just if you call me at work it's a 45 min drive home, so you are talking to me in the car instead. If you want to zoom on my home network we need to schedule a day away from work, or use one of my days off.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Lovely to see you name pop up, Jeffry!

@Satsui_No_Hado Жыл бұрын

Always fantastic content always. Very helpful, appreciate you and your content ; to further success and happy thanksgiving!

@Supremmo Жыл бұрын

Don’t tell them your password, locker combination or what you’re going to get for lunch or supper lol

@garyrobinson8665 Жыл бұрын

I worked in a school. I never had lunch in the staff room. I had a couple of people I shared stuff with it was difficult not too i spent most of my day with them. I didn't bother with most of the staff. I kept my head down and worked that was it. There were a few times when I definitely overshared and I wish i hadn't. My colleague who I worked with for a couple of years was thrown under the bus when I first started so I was wary of certain individuals.

@ZulcanPrime Жыл бұрын

You should never tell your coworkers they are assholes or dimwits. Toxic people are the worse coworkers whose ambition is to play silly games to get ahead and bring others down to their level.

@chriskamaras5005 Жыл бұрын

I've been subbed since the beginning of your channel, congrats on 100k!

@nickgagliano7392 Жыл бұрын

Congrats on 100k! I have found your content to be very helpful on navigating the workplace. Thank you 😄

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Thank you Nick!

@EvanMaxVelardi Жыл бұрын

Great video Jennifer, saving my job as always, JOB? the whole career LOL

@swiftkarma4436 Жыл бұрын

My best friend of 20 yrs started out as a co worker but I understand that is the exception and not the rule. I will never allow another co worker to get that close to me. But then again we didn't get close until after I left the job.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

My best friend of 20 years is also a former coworker. Like you, we also got closer when we didn't work together anymore

@MissCleo Жыл бұрын

I made the mistake of telling my boss where I'm from. He publicly humiliated me until I quit and never went back. I never want to work with people ever again and I'm still bitter as hell about it.

@lakaperse6995 Жыл бұрын

What do you mean he humiliated you for telling where are you from ??

@MissCleo Жыл бұрын

@@lakaperse6995 he would make fun of my nationality in front of other people

@Katiemadonna3 Жыл бұрын

I don’t want to work with people either

@AmineSamus Жыл бұрын

That shouldn't be a thing and you can definitely sue for that. That's just basic discrimination.

@MissCleo Жыл бұрын

@@AmineSamus too late for that now unfortunately

@Pangito Жыл бұрын

I don’t give a F about anybody other than those in my close circle. We live in a world of shitty people that want to see others fail and a lot of the time sabotage is the MO Of their life.

@ForgottenKnight1 Жыл бұрын

So, first thing's first. Your coworkers are not your friends and HR is even less of that. Be professional, go in, do the work, get paid, fuck off. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't "party" with them, don't hang out with them, don't "befriend" them. You never know what type of boot licker you will be "friends" with and you'll get stabbed in the back with the first chance. I learned this the hard way and if it happened to me, you're not special either.

@eXtremeFX2010 Жыл бұрын

Really Love Your Shows! Such great tips all-round Keep up the great work! Remember to take care of yourself as well.😊

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the vibes, friend!

@joekelley5121 Жыл бұрын

Plus side, I've maxed out my career advancement so no need to divulge. Negative side, I've maxed out my career advancement.

@DavidSmith-ok2pv Жыл бұрын

Love these videos 😊

@tonyh3645 Жыл бұрын

I hear the word "boss" a lot. I'm a very high ranking Airman in the Sir Force and ive never used that term or let people call me that and ive supervised many guys. I have violated most of these and it has killed my career 😪 i guess there's no turning it around

@novadhd Жыл бұрын

Very happy I am remote and dont have to deal with all this drama lol. Also one key thing you forgot never tell co-workers how much you make!

@dilsiam Жыл бұрын

I told my boss myself, I also have tried to make a lateral move at the company before but the upper management would not budge, stalling my progress. As soon I find a better opportunity I'll be gone.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Go where the growth is 💜

@mauriciogutman2644 Жыл бұрын

Great information. But sometimes you have no one else to talk to except your workers

@WhiteMouse77 Жыл бұрын

101: do work at work and nothing else & don't trust anyone!

@VideoGameRoom32 Жыл бұрын

You should just go to work and talk about worked related things like if you need to get a project done. Keep everything else keep it to yourself.

@eneshalilovic5487 8 ай бұрын

I loved the company and especially cherished my colleagues, treated them like my second family...and shared with them everything...learned the hard way that this can come around and bite you very badly...

@lkd06 Жыл бұрын

No matter how little you tell them, they're more than happy to run along in their minds and make shit up about you. Sole proprietorship is best

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

That's like saying, if you don't like the service you're getting at the airport, then buy your own personal jet airplane. But most people are not in a position to run their own business.

@fsdx416 Жыл бұрын

Man.. I agree with all that you say. So what CAN we talk about? I feel I would do all the no-nos in my default state.

@jivrouss Жыл бұрын

Very helpful!❤

@CountrySingerWannabe Жыл бұрын

For instance. I recently started a new job. Some new, and I emphasize the word "new", co-workers have already shared tidbits of personal things with me. I take it in but I don't further the topic. I am not interested in trying to turn any of the encounters into anything more than professional, at work, relationships.

@brahmabkitty03 Жыл бұрын

This is nothing but true. I unfortunately did a few of those at the job I loved that turned on me. I’m luckily with a better company and ain’t doing that mess no more

@LonjeMarie7 Жыл бұрын

EVERY job has at least ONE SNAKE 🐍! Please take care of yourselves that’s what led me to a video like this I am kind loving giving a compassionate unfortunately everybody I meet at the workplace isn’t the same way. I am using this as an opportunity to grow in like the young lady says to make sure that how I’m saying and acting at work is what I’m supposed to be doing and take the focus off of someone else. I can learn to at least be neutral. The fact that some women hate on me is a compliment they’re jealous and envious that means I must really have my shit together even at the age of 61! Because I DO!

@adasanti7312 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Would you also talk more about strategies to get around nosy questions? I’m every workplace a few women group up on me to ask why I am not married, if I have a boyfriend, who is my boyfriend, can they see a picture 😂 It really gets on my nerves and I don’t like to talk about anything personal at work. Not sure how to get out of it. Thank you so much!

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

I have a video about nosy coworkers and resetting boundaries. Search those terms with my name and they should come right up!

@adasanti7312 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@PhantomMagician1846 Жыл бұрын

I had to deal with this at my old job and what I found out is if I gave any info they would use it against me. it was high school level gossip. my advice would be to not give them any info at all.

@DEAH-01 Жыл бұрын

Started a new job myself. Same situation, all the other people were complaining about their lives, children blah blah blah. The biggest gossiper who kissed management rear end . She asked me if I had an ex husband . I answered like this " who Me ? My ex? ....very nosey ....then I said ' oh he's still in my freezer and laughed . I said I was joking , and changed the subject . She never asked me personal questions again .

@omphilemoerane2569 Жыл бұрын

I have the same issue. I answer "no" to everything to avoid follow up questions. But when there is that agent of Satan who dare asks, I just say a dismissive joke. Basically try to answer in a way that stops it from dragging/becoming a conversation.

@mariojane8188 Жыл бұрын

You should say the REALITY: most of the coworker’s environment is toxic for certain personalities😅. I’m so free spirit that I can’t stand a job. That is why I don’t work for a Company. It is toxicc cc PLEASE READ any book by GABOR MATE and you will see what I mean. Thank you for your videos!!!

@michele5695 Жыл бұрын

Mario Jane may I ask what you do?

@mariojane8188 Жыл бұрын

@@michele5695 hustling here and there ! 💰

@bojannovkovic8818 Жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer, I discovered your channel recently, and I love it. I am literally taking notes from videos as I watch them, and I saw you have a book coming out soon? Is the book going to contain tips and ideas from the videos, or is it something else? it would save me so much time :) Thanks

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

The book is focused on creating your career success plan. It's all about action and implementation. If you look on Amazon my publisher shared a few preview pages!

@AliG-qp4fy Жыл бұрын

I would add anything political or controversial In the media. Personally I don’t befriend many of my coworkers on social media.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯 agree with you on that!

@MeltingRubberZ28 Жыл бұрын

Better yet, get rid of your social media

@mercedeswilkins9085 11 ай бұрын

I know the feeling to have your trust betrayed

@wil_L Жыл бұрын

Regarding the point about keeping the job search private, my company specifically mentions in their job postings that internal applicants need to let their current boss know when they apply, so that might be more applicable to applying externally.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Yes, it applies to external searches, not internal!

@pinkfuture8275 7 ай бұрын

I did everything you said keeping my life private yet they let me go 😅 people gonna do everything to ruin you if they want to. I'm glad I left that job. I have a much better life now.

@bernsfindsandmore7636 Жыл бұрын

Thanks... In my case, the way I handle myself and the ideas and improvements I come up that make profit for the company has made me a threat to the older generation management.... I am not going to let down as I will be gunning for their positions. If they cannot adapt to today's world, that is their problem.

@davidellis5141 Жыл бұрын

Good Morning Jennifer ☀️ ! Yes , I've always silently went about attempting to fulfill my ambitions with generally positive results. Good Luck to Canada 🇨🇦 in the World Cup ( ⚽️) .. Stay Awesome 👌

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

Good morning David! You bring the best vibes around here, your comments always brighten my day.

@ladyindaroom Жыл бұрын

Be mindful of words spoken and the words received in your ear. Don’t allow yourself to be all emotional about something said negative. That is just not good.

@jamespalmer7247 Жыл бұрын

It's not show friends. It's showbusiness.

@amysalazar2179 Жыл бұрын

So we have a situation at my work that if you apply to another internal position it notifies your manager. Which makes for some really awkward conversations. The new thing at my workplace is team building activities off site doing “fun activities”. Not interested in hanging out with my coworkers. Especially not in a bar during “happy hour”.

@AverageNiceGuy Жыл бұрын

Thank you 👍

@BlueFlameVampire Жыл бұрын

Number 3 has definitely happened to me and I've done so before too. Number 5 I keep accidentally doing. I try not to because I've ended up in traps and gotten backstabbed several times but it unfortunately still happens and I regret it everytime.

@candaceyoung3468 Жыл бұрын

Yes coworkers complain about spouses, their life, their aggressions, their regrets, about other coworkers.

@jeffrienunez4557 Жыл бұрын

This is why working remote or working less days in the office is awesome

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 2 ай бұрын

It sounds like you don't like people.

@theploddingparadox840 Жыл бұрын

I think some of this (and some things commenters are saying) really depends on the field. I work at a theatre where many of us are basically just artistic/creative people with mental health issues trying to get by in an industrial world and put our efforts together to keep an old building running lol. Because of this there’s a particular sense of comradery where coworker empathy is encouraged. If someone in my life dies I’ll tell them, if I’ve been having a tough week or am feeling tired and emotional I’ll tell them, if I’m working on a project or have a second job I’ll tell them, if I’ve had some past struggles I’ll them (when appropriate). If I like someone I’ll try to make friends with them even if it’s temporary/work-based because all friendships are contextual/situational (that’s how relationships work), otherwise I’d be extremely lonely. This has become my workplace standard, so as much as there are still things I curb at work (tactility, language, gossip etc), an environment where I can’t at least be a human being in the ways above would be toxic, depressing and lonely for me.

@Mike-01234 Жыл бұрын

Funny story working at a company where someone got a new job, he told some people was fired the same day manager was mad about it he was a key employee. About 4 years later the company landed a big contract with a new company worth millions when they sent this same manager to meet with that company manager who was sitting across the table that very employee he fired. He tried to apologize to him he knew this would be a problem didn't work. They lost the contract in less than a month and fired that manager the moral of the story is treat everyone with respect and dignity no matter the situation. You never know how things can turn out there even been workplace shootings over the treatment of an employee.

@michaelh7527 Жыл бұрын

I guess it's because I am laid back and easy going. But I seem to be like the unofficial office therapist 🤣. People just come around and open up to me about how they feel about so and so, office politics, etc. I have even had managers open up and say things that honestly, should not be let out. I am happy and content in my position, so I don't care to start anything. But my advice in the workplace? SHUT UP! SHUT UP!! SHUT UP!!! Most people in a workplace can professionally get along just enough to get things done. But most people have nothing in common and personally don't like each other. They will gossip about the most trivial subjects you can imagine. I have had people complaining about how bad the receptionist glasses look for her face. I had one lady talking to me about how dirty a guys truck was on the outside and it makes her wonder how dirty his home and children must be 😱.... Again people, SHUT UP in the workplace! Stop gossiping about people. You don't have to personally like your coworkers, but if they are professional and courteous, that is all that matters. You also don't know what a person might be going through in life, your negative comments and gossip might be doing some real damage to that person. The most disgusting gossip I have seen happened about 8 years ago. In the break room was a lady who was just wide open talking about another lady. OMG, did you see what so and so did to her hair!?! She shaved her head! I can't believe she did that! She is so ugly now and looks like one of those department store mannequins.... Me and another worker asked if she knew why she did it. Before she answered, my coworker said her daughter has cancer and is losing her hair due to treatment. So she shaved her head to make her daughter feel better.