He Literally stayed up just so that he could be upset with her and passive aggressive when she came home. 🙄

@@Taylor-km2ym she didnt tell him that she was going to miss it so how was he supposed to know?

Lol....good luck with that attitude.

@@MrAussieJules nothing's wrong with that attitude. At that time double standard was a thing and people didnt even realized it. Her bf was toxic.

@@ancalin7076 lol what? At the time? When do you think this movie came out? It’s also a contrived plot designed to show conflict. Written by a woman mind you. He should be more understanding but the point is this was becoming a pattern and his feelings were hurt how is that toxic? He didn’t respect her job, but to that point neither did she. Doesn’t mean he didn’t respect her.

Plus, it's freaking NYC. Being late, caught up with....??? Whatever is part of the gig. 8 million people and he's moping he didn't get her to sing Happy Birthday to him. Go to freaking Kansas you want a goddamn birthday party already. Does he have any idea the stratosphere she in at that moment??

…and if we’re being totally honest, he would’ve been more than happy to have some “me time” without his chick. I know you aren’t supposed to say those things but whatever. It’s those little, unspoken realities that can make or break a movie’s believability.

Amen to this

Totally agree. My husband came with me for an interview that I needed so bad on his birthday. We couldn't celebrate his bday at all. He was just happy that I have got the job at the end of the day.

Not really true, tho

yes happy birthday

I never understood that about this film either. Chefs notoriously work long and unsociable hours.

2021 Quarantine. New York restaurants are shut down

@@olgaanisimova6916 What was Nate’s excuse in 2006?

Christ, that's so true but it never occurred to me. I worked in New York restos, too, and that never occurred to me. That's funny.

Right? This movie is not 100% realistic.

That aint Nate, that's Vinnie Chase

@@brettlarch8050 I mean there are actually men and women like Nate out there, aswell as the shitty friends Andy had. But in reality a women like Andy, would have left him or them at the end.... instead of going back to old patterns.

@@soleil7259 Everyone is different. Money and fame can really corrupt people.

Yeah! Whenever I watched this movie I couldn't help but think Nate was a selfish jerk, and I'm so glad to see everyone here agrees.

Omg you just gave me a new perspective! OF COURSE THEY DON'T LIKE IT WHEN SHE'S SERIOUS ABOUT HER JOB! They don't even think it's a job yo begin with! Or it's a "meh" job at best! Just like Andy herself at the beginning of the movie!

@BloodLab I'm not sure what point you're trying to make against me here

@BloodLab I don't check this account much 😂 Ok, no problem here then!

@BloodLab theyre adults....

I hated her friends & boyfriend.

I always hate the boyfriend, he was so needy ... she should stay with the "mentalist" guy

@@enelmartodoesfelicidad Right?

*Well, I wouldn't say that Emily is very supportive of Andy. Since Emily always saw her as a "no fit". Although Emily is also a great character (if I were to rank: Miranda first, Emily second and Andy third). Since Andy even tries to be her friend, but for Emily, Andy will just be the "colleague who works together". Only towards the end of the film, does Emily, as well as Miranda, see Andy as the best assistant who went through 'Runaway'.*

@@enelmartodoesfelicidad Nah, he was an even bigger jerk. Andy's better off with neither of 'em.

But I still love him TT.

SAME. Especially after you'd read a book. Her friends is so annoying and immature in this Disney-sized movie.

its his birthday

@@yanzionly, uh, what is he, 12?

@@maunster3414 How does that matter? I dont see how difficult it is to get a dayoff on birthday when you only work five or six days a week.

@@yanzionly, when you get enough life experience let me know, ok?

Me too

Literally. At 21 i didn’t even care about my upcoming birthdays anymore. Just do what you love on your special day. Cakes don’t matter

@Personal Jesus happy belated birthday, tho!

I'm 20 and I never celebrated my birthday before, simple wishes from family and friends on social media or in-person if we meet and a homemade cake made by my mom never threw a party or received gifts or anything

Yesss

Yeah, that “Thank you” was sincere

So you would be ok with a coworker treating you this way? She lays into her for doing her job and going to Paris, and then when Andy gives her the clothes she gets from Paris, she insults her.

@@mo58487 You wouldn't want a coworker thinking your job that you'd die for, boss you adore's job, and her own job were ultimately pointless in the grand scheme of things of things either. Emily might not of been that great, but she waiting for Andy to fail or give up as opposed to sabotaging her, herself. It's pretentious, but not malicious. Yeah, I'd rather have a coworker like Emily, than beginning Andy. Emily and Nigel covered her so many times.

​@@mo58487 Yes, actually. Emily might be snide and rude to Andy, but she never gets in the way of Andy's job. In fact, she does what she can to make sure Andy does her job right by giving her clear instructions and guiding her when needed, because even though she doesn't like Andy, she understands how important it is that Andy does her job right, because she's Miranda's assistant, and Miranda is a really important person who makes really important decisions on a daily basis. That's professionalism, which frankly, Andy lacked. From the get go, Andy went into an interview at a magazine without having done any form of research on the magazine, the fashion field and her potential boss, not even having heard of the boss's name even though Miranda is so famous. Even when she does get the job, she makes no effort to change herself to adapt to the job better, telling herself that she's only going to stay there for a year so she doesn't need to make any real effort to commit to her role. She doesn't try to take an interest in the fashion world and try to understand the true mechanics of it and how it can affect so many people, because she can't get over her own prejudices - she constantly thinks anything and everything related to fashion is trivial and nothing worth thinking so deeply about. Even just looking at the way she was dressed. You think it was mean that everyone was constantly criticising her clothes? Well the fact is that she's working as the assistant to probably one of the most important figures in the fashion industry, and yet just by looking at her you can tell she doesn't know, and doesn't care about fashion. Anyone would doubt her professionalism. And to be honest, I think that's one of the biggest reasons why Emily was so hostile towards Andy - she saw from the very beginning how completely unqualified Andy was for the job, a job she knows a million other girls who are far more qualified would kill for, and also a job she previous had, and must have worked so hard for. I mean seriously, Miranda herself admitted it was a risk hiring Andy, because you're getting someone who has absolutely no knowledge of the fashion industry, to the point she's never even heard of the biggest magazine in the industry, to work for the editor-in-chief of said magazine. And when they began working, it was clear how uncommitted Andy was to the job, not even bothering to dress for the part. Frankly, I'd rather have Emily as a coworker than Andy, because even though Emily's hard to get along with, she's reliable. I can count on her to do what needs to be done so that no one gets into trouble and everything runs as smoothly as possible at the end of the day. I cannot say the same for Andy; I'd constantly be worried she'd make a mistake, and also be irritated by her lack of effort to improve herself. Even though it was subtle, Emily was definitely nicer to Andy after her makeover, because it wasn't just that Andy was dressed nicer, Andy also just all round became better at her job. And yes, it was kind of unfair for her to be so harsh to Andy when she got the Paris job, but understand that Paris was always a lifelong dream for Emily, something she worked really hard for. I mean, hate her if you want, but no one can deny Emily worked HARD. Fashion is her life, Miranda is her idol, working for Miranda was her dream job and going to Paris fashion week was the pinnacle. And all that was taken away from her. Of course she'd be bitter, and to make things worse, it was all taken away by someone who, even though she was getting good at her job, was there for less than a year, and has even, on multiple occasions in the past said she doesn't care about fashion. She knows Paris means nothing to Andy, yet Andy gets the job, and she doesn't. Even if Andy had no choice, can you honestly expect her to just accept things with grace? Also at the end, she didn't really insult Andy, she was just being shy, because she couldn't admit she was genuinely happy. It was clear in that exchange, even surely to Andy, there was absolutely no hostility. She even complimented Andy, saying to Andy's replacement she has some big shoes to fill, meaning she has to live up to a really high standard set by her predecessor, Andy.

Emily's annoyance with andy is something we can relate to in the corporate world when one was hired for something they have no interest about while someone out there works hard to be in that business.

What if that happens for months on end

@@shukhada6664 I am not the right person to answer that, because it does actually happens to me constantly, and I don't do shit because I don't know how to stand by myself. But I get your point. I suppose the best thing that could happen to these two is breaking up and staying friends. Andy changed too much, is natural for his bf to think 'this is not the person I fell in love with'.

@@FreaktifulWhispers I understand. It's a very thin line. All the comments are blaming Ned for being jealous of her success. But that's the kind of success she didn't even want in the first place and was jeopardizing her relationships for that. Plus all she ever did was complain about the job and yet was investing all her time in that. I'm glad he was so supportive about her leaving a job which was so demanding. My ex changed for success and grew so toxic even though I supported him soo. All his needs were met while I always lacked something. I learnt something. People shouldn't expect the other person to change just because they changed

@@shukhada6664 you must be really old if you celebrate your birthday every month

@@potocatepetl I don't even know why would you say that

Me too!!

Yep....now you're talking!

Bad career move. What was she thinking? She’s immature. She should’ve stayed.

I agree the guy is just a spoilt brat, dump him would be the easiest option

The thing is she didn’t leave the gala early. Almost everyone was gone and it was dead. He also didn’t know about her turning down that opportunity when she got home or before to our knowledge. I see him really wrestling with his feelings in this scene and trying his best to let it go. He even compliments her, saying she looks really pretty. I think people are being too hard on him.

how true! nate is a flashback of all ex-boyfriends who sulked when they didn't get their way, and gave empty hope and promises. those guys who think that girl's career is less important, and other loser red flags.

Originally, they were supposed to go to a concert, with Andy showing up late. However, that was scrapped, as the movie’s screenwriter said it was too expensive to shoot. However, didn’t Andy’s friend have an exhibition at a gallery or something? That could’ve been the event Andy missed if the writers wanted the public to have sympathy for her friends and boyfriend.

@@EAY2211 I could see the friend being mad, but I don't see how that would gain Andy sympathy. Since it wasn't his art exhibit. And he still doesn't sacrifice or need support for that scenario. But, you did touch on the reason why I said his birthday should have been something like opening his first restaurant. Like an art exibition, it's a big enough event that it cannot be moved. And it would make us more sympathetic to a partner who was let down at an event like that. A birthday is a birthday.

did andy strip in this movie?

@@babayaga9102 No. But she was accused of being worth less than a stripper by the boyfriend. Because she agreed to go to Paris instead of Emily.

She wasn't supposed to go initially. Miranda sprung it on her last minute.

@@orirune3079 Doesn't matter... it's a work emergency. Would it really be so horrible to reschedule plans for the next day?

@@jdpatrick1106 If the guy really loves you he would understand what an important work emergency means. Hell with the birthday celebration go do fckin best at work

I think it seems from the part that this was a job she was supposed to hate. Also the fact that she herself was slowly beginning to change into something she's not.

It seems women (mostly the beautiful ones) tend to choose these dopes each and every time.

Exactly, what a bunch of crybabies.

TRUER WORDS HAVE NEVER BEEN SAID! Super agree

THANK YOU exactly. I watched it recently and that scene always bothered me how they played keep away with her phone, and she’s so happy and making it big and he is shaming her for it.

I really think that it was done on purpose, i mean them being do nasty. Unfortunately, it's so very true-to-life. It's a common algorithm that if you suddenly become successful, others don't see your hard work, they only see the 'benefits', and if they are not very nice people, they may start hating you. That's real story

Also, I guess they wanted to be true to the book

Rightt??? She had a great opportunity and she left it for her stupid ass boyfriend. Like how old are you? 5. He even waited for her just to be petty.

What a dumb boyfriend. One would wish for a boyfriend who’d say “That was a a dumb decision. You should have met the publisher!”

Seriously they made him a chef, that career has long hours as well

A lot of people also forget to mention that Andy literally promised him she’d leave work early to spend the evening with him, only to be caught up at that event without notice. Plus this comes on the heels of several other promises Andy had to break because of Miranda.

guys let’s all take a deep breath 😂 it’s just fiction. I have high hopes that irl a chef in NYC wouldn’t go all crybaby mode bc his partner missed his birthday celebration. like bro just schedule a different day

True

never saw that before! interesting. miranda is at the top for a reason

Ooh yeah and recognizing 1 person is more important than 2

Like in Legally Blonde Andy should’ve said. “If I want a successful career in journalism, I need a boyfriend who isn’t a complete man-child crybaby” thusly Andy walks out the diner in the sunlight only for to turn around to Nate before leaving “you’re cooking sucks, a Micky D’s can cook better than you”

No doubt!

Yesss she should have done it 🤦‍♀️

Agree she was late already just miss the night

It was so we wouldn’t hate Emily for how she acted…

If we're being honest, they're all pretty unlikable in different ways. I'm not sure if it was a conscious decision to highlight their worse traits, but I didn't mind it. The story was nice and enjoyable. Characters being likable didn't matter much if everything else checks out.

Later on she says to him "I sorry I missed your birthday and he says "Come on, what am I? Four?" Meanwhile he's obviously acting like a four year old here because she missed his birthday.

OMG like totally

Not really… I mean who would like to see their loved one being treated like trash and loosing all her dignity

Agree even if she left Runway she didn’t have to move for him

​@@Skyebright1She didn't; she got a job in NYC. They're both just thinking that as they're just starting out in their careers, they may end up in the same city again eventually.

true. all first jobs tend to be really difficult and gotta put the hours in

Right? The birthday party won't pay the bills

This made me laugh so hard! 😹

imagine being pouty bc someone with a really busy life missed ur birthday party 😭 I mean no offence but like what the actual fuck lmao

The birthday party would just add to the bills.@@ae0ther

Well, maybe what this scene says is that Andy regularly arrived late at home so BF thought "I'm tired about her absences, but at least I hope in my birthday she'll be different"....and guess what?

@@ooviedoc seriously he knew she was at the Met gala working, she’s working that day. Find a day when she’s not working and talk about your relationship

@@Skyebright1 yes, you're right, but the thing is that when you let work to take regularly the mosts important moments of your life there's a day when there's no tomorrow for other important things and persons.

​@@Skyebright1Did you even watch the whole movie? Andy was NOT supposed to work the gala, only Emily. Miranda asked at the last minute, and Andy could have refused. It is illegal to force your employees to work overtime they have not contracted to do. Andy did not have to do it; she was swept up in all the glamour of her job and couldn't be bothered to make time for others anymore, which is selfish. Your job is not and should not be your entire life; that is extremely unhealthy and her friends were right to worry about her.

@@cmm5542 seriously they were terrible friends who sneered at her. Your job shouldn't be your whole life, but she was right that a year in the job would get her a good reference, she worked less than a year but Miranda still got her the reference.

Nah, Miranda was definitely a villain too. She demanded almost impossible tasks and she did not care about Nigel's promotion, in fact, she was the reason he did not get ahead. She literally says in the end of the movie that you have to be this way to get ahead. I think everyone in the movie was a villain except for Andrea, Nigel, and Emily,

​@@gumzy3000plus Andi was her own worst enemy and Nate was weak.

Try the book. They ended up breaking up and barely friends as he kept resenting how she kept choosing the job over her friends.

Agree.....I watch some scenes just for her.

Yep. It was a really sweet little thought. If it had been me id have been tickled, and kissed her and said thanks so much sweetie. Him? Fat chance.

I'm gonna come back to this. That was a cupcake from what was probably a fancy ass bakery because he is a chef so its gotta be good. So she DEFINATELY went to some fancy ass bakery that while delicious, is overpriced AF cause its NYC

It was very clear in the movie that Andy is doing this regularly. She is prioritising her job over PEOPLE, and that is the problem, not missing the party. And material things do not make up for lack of a relationship. A kid might not care if you don't spend time with them as long as you give them cake, but they will realise your emotional neglect of them when they grow up. The people on here who think Andy should have been able to buy Nate off with a cupcake, after sending him the rude and disrespectful messages that her job is more important than he is, are being extremely immature.

She even brought him a cupcake and he went off to sulk

@@ZoeM-zk6hk LITERALLY RUDE how dare he

Total narcissist

​@@FK-mx8hyWhat is rude is not turning up to an event you have promised to attend and not even calling to explain, just expect everyone to accept that your stupid job is more important than they are. Andy's entitled attitude was what was rude here. Fine - move out and sleep at your job then. There is more to life than making money.

@@cmm5542 that literally did not happen in the movie. She was on the phone explaining she couldn’t make it and would get there as fast as she could. Nate’s 100th birthday was not more important than her career

k. but what if, like in this movie, she is committing all of herself to work, wanting support, but she cannot support her man? as a women, i’d say the best way is balance. u can’t expect a man to just sit back and get no support from you bc your “so busy with work”, but at the same time want him to give u his full support while he’s working a job too? hypocritical. if you asking for support, then you need to be giving it to your partner as well. he’s not just existing to support you lol 😂he has emotional needs too. if you switched the statment “if you can’t support her, you don’t deserve her” to “if you can’t support him, you don’t deserve him” people would say it’s sexist and borderline abusive 😂

​@@user-ss4ek3zo4dyou think these femcel women in the comment section would be that understanding? Nah, they are gonna judge the man no matter what. Also, seeing so many men being obnoxious in this comment section is literally making me lose hope. Like okay if you got late, but late EVERYTIME..?? Don't expect him to stick around then, if you don't have the time to be with him AT ALL...🤷

​@@PureRythmYes, it's concerning to see all the people in the comments who think jobs are more important than people. I mean . . . the whole POINT of a job is just to earn enough money to survive and do fun things with other people, right? If you have no time to go out and spend the money you earn at your job enjoying life, what's the point of earning it in the first place? 🤷‍♀️

@@cmm5542 exactly!!!

At my job, I can switch my day off with one of my work days so if my husband's birthday falls on a weekday, I try to make him a nice dinner and get ice cream or make a cake then try to figure out what to do for him (like a mani/Pedi, a massage, touch his hair)

It's called acting because he's an actor

@James Smith the girls weren't really any better or did you miss the rest of the movie? Lol

A lot of women act like this...

@@leogonzales4634 did we attack the actor? No

@@jzwalz51robin45 Obviously but that doesn't change how the BF acted

Exactly atleast i won't. Birthday isn't anything special for me.

But he said he isn't 4 years old

@@Aiibh It's not for you but It is for him

Honestly think my bf would be proud of me if I took my career to the next level the way Andi did

@@kartosenlitminey not everything can be about him or you

If someone says they'll be there they should be. Otherwise what is their word worth?

@@_Colie Accidents happen! I would be upset, but I personally wouldn’t demonize the person if they couldn’t leave work.

@@_Colie it was an accident and she literally has such a High-maintenance career. Plus he’s honestly a hypocrite because he’s a chef, with typically unsociable hours.

How old is he again? I can understand if youre in your early 20s but after that you come to realize that everyone is living their own lives with their own sets of responsibilities. It's an exception, not the rule, if someone CAN come celebrate your b-day.

@@to_ru_kw Not sure how I "demonized" him. Sentence was pretty matter-of-fact

She didn’t forget. She can’t figure out work/life balance

@@Angelaaa1015 its not work life balance if you love your work. 🤣

Yep! One side is fine with screwing over relationships for your career and the other is actually committed to the people in their lives and have time for others like healthy people. Interesting isn't it?

@@9rbloomer836 Life update, I wrote this comment a year before I entered the workforce. This is harder than it seems. Now, I understand this clearly.

So how do you explain the disrespect she was showing him by flirting with christian? Not sure about you but id be pretty upset if my SO allowed that to go on. One of her friends says she was madly in love with nate when she caught her flirting with him, thats not bad?

Great comment

There IS more complexity to the relationship! Has anyone even watched the whole movie? Andy gradually withdraws more and more while complaining about how awful her job is, and Nate is nothing but encouraging in telling her she doesn't have to keep working this soul-sucking job. He isn't pressuring her with 'but we need you to be earning money, so suck it up!' He'd rather she were happy and healthy (she's so stressed she loses weight to an unhealthy level). And then she simply keeps ignoring his reassurances and focuses on her job like it's the only one in New York City 🙄 She could have worked as a waitress while interning unpaid at a newspaper she ACTUALLY wanted to work at, like most sensible people would. And then she has no work-life balance at all - OF COURSE Nate is upset and worried! It's not about his birthday, it's about how this job is destroying Andy and she won't let him help her by taking his simple advice to QUIT. Her dad had to loan them money anyway - Nate was really kind to never ONCE bring up how little she contributed financially despite working all the time. He would have supported her taking the time to look for a better job, as would her parents. She didn't NEED to work that specific draining job, and Nate never once tried to make her feel like she did!

​@cmm5542 thank god for your comment. I thought I was going insane for while, not being able to find anything but a surface level insight.

So material gifts make up for being emotionally unavailable, discourteous and making morally unsound decisions with you? Scary.

Why did they break up in the book?

I'm not sure why they chose to make him a chef in the movie...in the book he's a school teacher so has tons of time off work.

@@bun04y school teachers arent attractive for males in 'Hollywood' I guess

@@marykay8587 lol!

She was becoming someone great and he couldn't grow with her.

@@sokrachanachan3937 Great? She was selling her soul. In the end she walked away from it all and saved herself.

@@kurtsloop2462 Nah she was just good at her job, and was becoming a person with responsibility and priorities. He just wasn't ready to make room for those priorities as well.

@@sokrachanachan3937 When she started doing sexual favors for job promotions, he knew he couldn't stay with her.

@@kurtsloop2462 What? That was completely unrelated and AFTER his little tantrum. The dude was a publisher or something, he wasn't even in fashion.

Then he should get a woman who appreciates his birthday right

The thing with the presents annoys me most.. Generally speaking Andy and her friends are given a harder time than they deserve, he job was bad, and she should have quit instead of getting exploited and mistreated like that. And they were right when they asked her, you wanted to be a journalist, but now you are an assistant (that brings coffee). Anyway, but that scene where they take the presents but mock her about picking up the phone is beyond awful.

That's the point. That life wasn't the best for her.

How can you say no to your boss

She never said no because she wanted to keep the job duh It was a huge opportunity for Andy and she knew that so she worked her ass off to succeed and Nate couldnt be supportive. She should have just dropped him too at the end of the movie, but instead he gets his job and she will have to move if she wants to be with him. Always women sacrificing their personal lives for their men. So wrong and unfair.

@@aliyuyusuf7936 "how can you say no to your boss" easily. if you're not being paid for overtime or weekends, you say no to excessive requests for work. Lack of boundaries is a serious issue in the workplace and I've had too many bosses try to steamroll me for being too compliant. I had to learn to be assertive and ask for either paid weekends or tell them I was unavailable to work.

@@kaylarose1081 Working for Miranda was different - Miranda made it clear that if Andy said no to anything, Miranda would not only fire her immediately, but also ruin Andy's chances with pretty much every other company. Miranda has so many connections and has ruined other girl's careers before (eg. one of the previous assistants ended up stuck at TV guides after she angered Miranda). Basically if Andy said no, and genuinely offended Miranda she would not be able to get any good job at all

Thank you! Somebody gets it!

A lot of Americans don't seem to understand that. Career trumps everything in those people's book and you're seen as childish if you don't have your priorities set in that way. 🙄

Yep, it's like they missed the entire point of the movie is that people are more important than things?

Me too😂

and what makes him so? im sorry but i havent seen this movie in a while

I don't think he's a jerk just because he knew about Miranda being replaced....he didn't even know Miranda, much less owe Andy explanation over knowing company politics. He also helps Andy repeatedly.

Yeah, at least talk about it. She even said "Can we talk about this?"

He was just jealous of her!

You agree with the reverse too right? If my wife complains I'm spending too much time working I should tell her my career matters more than she does?

That's going to end in a very sad and lonely life for you. Now, if you were prioritising family and friends over romance, that's just fine. But making money is not more important than relationships with people. You can't take it with you. That is literally what the entire movie is about?

Keep in mind that even the actor said his character was based around masculinity faults. He felt like he wasn’t man enough because she was beginning to excel past his level and earn enough to be able to afford more pricey things and the fact that she just sort of fell into a career so fast while he would always talk about working so hard.