When your Proff is teaching you game

I can very much relate to what Peterson is saying. My first love was manifisted in my mind kind of as the judge of my worthwhileness, I became almost obsessed over her and not because I liked her THAT much, but because deep inside, losing her would absolutely kill my sense of self worth. I think when we eventually ended our relationship, it wasn't her I was crying about, it was my bruised ego.

this nigga's on point

Man this dude is rewireing my fucking brain. Thank god

Moral of the story "don't put women on pedestal"

One of my teachers once told me, "It only has to work once." I think once you understand that concept, you start to realize that you don't have to hope beyond hope for it to work. You just have to be your best self and eventually, it will work.

When you start valuing and respecting yourself enough, you simply don't care about rejection anymore. Rejection is a big part of life and you will always be rejected for lots of things, probably more so than you are getting accepted. But you have to go through all the "no's" in order to get the "yes". Worst thing you can do is to give up or not try anymore. Then you simply fail life.

Just made a huge achievement in regards to fearing rejection. I’ve always had a deep pathological fear of being romantically rejected that I wouldn’t even acknowledge. Would date women who were obsessed with me that I had little interest in to avoid this. When you finally show someone who you really are or what your feelings are and accept that they might reject you for it you feel a great sense of pride and relief regardless of the outcome

2:18 Kermit Mode activated.

Just like some are encouraging men to quit porn, I (as a female) encourage women to quit facebook, instagram, and any other cognitively-depreciating poisons which sabotage our climb to self-actualization. Learn how beautiful it is to take care of your body and your soul and nurture your femininity in constructive hobbies that do not involve gossip or revolve around others.

35 hours of classes and this is the most interesting thing I've learned all week. In 4 minutes

"You miss 100 percent of the shots you dont take -Wayne Gretzky" -Michael Scott

I think the oversexualization of our society is a big part of the problem. Men have been fed a line that sex should be pretty much all we want and that beauty is the most prized thing we could ever go after. Meanwhile women have been fed the idea that sexual liberation is both physically and emotionally satisfying while also being politically meaningful and good and "empowering" or whatever. So men have been put under extreme pressure to live up to some macho stereotype of being "Alpha Males" i.e. getting as much sex from as many attractive women as possible; and women have been socially pressured to play along with this by so called "Sex positive" feminism and a culture of rampant promiscuity and open sexuality which we clearly see all around us. Unsurprisingly this is all very disorienting for men who are being simultaneously told to not objectify or sexualize women, but at the same time are being told to "Slay as much pussy" as possible, otherwise, in some basic sense, you are "Not a real man". Just think about the film The 40 Year Old Virgin. The entire premise of that film is that the protagonist is some sort of a freak, a laughingstock or whatever, just because he has not had sex yet at the age of 40. This is an entertainment industry that utterly epitomizes shallowness, degeneracy, immaturity and a sort of mindless self-indulgent attitude that I believe is totally toxic, in addition to being utterly contemptible. This is roughly the message that the media, Hollywood and popular culture on the whole sends to men. Unsurprisingly this has resulted in millions of males becoming weirdo shut-ins who are addicted to porn and terrified of real women. We need to take a step back and re-assess this whole thing. Men and women should be able to communicate with each other and become friends and build relationships in a very gradual, natural manner without all this pressure to "seal the deal". After all, should women be reduced to sex objects ultimately by men in their lives? I don't think so! At the same time, a man should feel that it is the RIGHT thing to do to get to know someone very closely before even considering any type of physical intimacy. Our society used to believe in chastity and abstinence, now we have taken things to the opposite extreme and, surprise surprise, people are out of their minds and thoroughly dysfunctional over this chaotic and disorienting sexual revolution which has happened over the past century. It's time that we TALK to each other and build genuine trust and mutual respect instead of just looking for the next bang on Tinder, because sooner or later people need to recognize that when you cheapen sex to the level we have done, it actually makes people less happy and less emotionally stable, not more happy or stable.

I love Jordan B Peterson. I'm cleaning my room right now as a tribute to him. He really is the philosopher for lost young men like me. And yes, I've been motivated by women a lot, basically the whole reason I started exercising regularly was because of women and I also started taking more social action and risks and found RSD.

My friends and I would play a game like this. We'd go to some far away city (where we'd know nobody and we'd never have to return) to go out to bars and clubs and would actively try to get rejected and would keep score (most rejections wins and loser would need to be designated driver next time). Like, use the corniest pick-up lines we could think of, thinking "this is bound to get me rejected, because I look like a complete idiot". Using the pick-up lines that are joked about but nobody seriously uses (like stamping on some ice from a drink and saying "so, now the ice is broken"). What we learned very quickly is that girls don't give a fuck what you do, as long as you show clear interest. They'll laugh at the stupidest things imaginable, as long as you bring it without fear. And being somewhere where we'd never be again, and having the shared knowledge with your friends that rejection was what you're going for took away all fear. We'd rack up more phone numbers than rejections every single time, often making out with tens of girls a night. And what was particularly surprising is that what seemed to be a winning strategy, namely going up to girls that are obviously there with another boy already, or even boyfriend, was actually not a sure-fire way to get rejected at all. Often they'd even propose to ditch the other guy and go elsewhere, would slip you her phone number or have a friend bring it to you. And we definitely weren't pretty guys by any stretch of the imagination. I can really recommend doing this to any boy or man.

I got over my fear of rejection once, by getting drunk enough to approach a girl who I assumed would say no because she looked out of my league. To my astonishment she engaged me, and suddenly I had nothing to say, since I didn't figure getting past "hi, how are you?" or whatever it was I said. I eventually had to just walk away crippled because I didn't know what to say or do next.

I remember watching this at the beginning of the year. I realize that even in my late 20s I still suffer from “this”. This was medicine.

watching this *after* being rejected is quite the experience lol. I’m still kinda going through it but it’s less because of the rejection and more because of the blowback afterwards. oh well. life goes on

Peterson's saying can be related to many situations. Fear always conceals itself as the most terrified image that frightened you from trying to do it again. But we have to continually do it, face it and overcome it! Thank you Professor!

For the best relationship advice, watch Jordan B. Peterson and Patrice O'Neal videos. You'll get sorted out straight away.

This man is a blessing

The difference between being a creep and being persistent: Persistent people are 7 or above

thanks again Jordan, whenever i am troubled, i searched KZfaq for guidance and you're always there.

I Love how it makes the hitmarker sound every time he hits his mic

Embrace your inner beast, go to the Himalayas for 2 years. Learn to crawl, hunt and eat like a bear. Once you've shed your outer shell of pussification. Rejection will be the least of your worries.

All life is rejection not just relationships but everything.

Such an accurate abstract formulation of real-life phenomenon... Awesome!

Thanks for putting the original source in there

Jordan Peterson demonstrating brilliance as usual!

This is all why its so important to get started ASAP on figuring out women, as a straight male. From your baseline instincts & with little experience, youll have to trudge through so much rejection and discomfort that youll likely feel overwhelmingly inadequate as a person (speaking from my experience), but you have no other option than to face it head on. Not only will you surely fail with the first women you try to be with, youll also have to sift through many of them to find out which traits you value, and which you are willing to sacrifice, in comparing the real girl to the ideal vision of the female Peterson talks about. If you dont go through this initial struggle, youll likely end up in shallow/fake relationships, or settling for someone else desperate. All this of course is based on the assumption that you seek a stable, loving relationship like i did. Good luck, and remember, it wont come naturally, youll have to abandon your comfort zone in ways you never have before

Your videos have given so much meaning in my life respects for your work

Thank you so so much for posting these videos. I watch them often but not often enough and practice what Jordan says even less. But thank you. These videos make me look at my shit instead of having my head in a safe hole.

I *NEED* this cardigan in my life. I see this thing in my sleep. What JC Penney is Peterson shopping at?

Every time you're scared to hit on a girl, think of it this way - do you think you're a good person? special? cool in your own way? I bet you are. If she's sad, will you be there for her? If she's happy, will you want to help her be even happier? If so then all I'm hearing is you being an amazing benefit in her life. If that's the case, she should be thankful that she's so lucky, having a guy/girl like you wanting to be part of her life! Worst case scenario - she rejects you? Her loss. It only means you're 1 girl closer to the one who will appreciate you.

Amen!! Keep up the good work brother...✊✊✊

I've known this for a long time and still find a task like asking 50 girls for their phone numbers one of the personally most challenging things to overcome in the world. There is probably no other thing where my rational knowledge translates so poorly to my actions. It's a process and I'm always trying to get better, because beating yourself up as you did not manage to do something again is not helpful at all and just seems to enlarge the mental barrier. It's tough, but overcoming this is specific anxiety of approach and rejection is what I need to break through on the road to mental freedom. As Jordan Peterson said it in different context: Speaking up is dangerous and not safe. Doing nothing is even more dangerous as you don't get anything out of it. Everything we do and don't do has an impact. Wish me strength people, not giving up on this!

Just came here to say that this video has an exceptionally great thumbnail.

I’ve watched videos like this I don’t know how many times already, and I’m terrified of asking women out from a bad history of rejection. I may have let this fear root deep into my self-esteem for so long that it’s already too late to change it.

Subbed thanks for this

i feel this in the deepest depths of my soul.

RSD Jordan

Conclusion:Rejected * many times = getting rid of the fear of rejection.

He did it to me again. Again, it's something that we all know intuitively but when he puts it in such a well articulated format it just starts to make so much sense. Even if you know something, you need someone like Dr. Peterson to keep telling you that thing in a convincing manner repeatedly, because the brain is horrible at being rational and objective concerning itself, and very very good at being self-deprecating.

Unlike many many others in the same field. this man really know what he’s talking about.

Master class

I tried this, If I saw a random girl on the street, bus or on campus i'd go up to them and politely ask for their number. Complete strangers. It was terrifying at first, but after a few times it became more natural and not as jarring.

KZfaq recommend, you never fail to amuse me

this was so incresdible helpful

I don't think that's so easy, like "stop being an asshole and ask her". My problem is that the girls I really liked rejected me, and that...killed me inside. I think people miss the point, it's not the fear of rejection coming from unknown girls, it's from girls you really like that's paralyzing. For me, the line that destroyed me was a girl I loved, I mean, REALLY LOVED HER. We were friends and enjoyed each other's company. Unfortunately she had a boyfriend that in the end turned husband.....that was the end of me brothers...almost 8 years after and I still can't shake the pain of the negative, like Hegel once said....

You can also be terrified of commitment as well as rejection

Best advice sir...salute to you👌👌

Thank you. Makes total sense even as I near 40.

Not just young men. I'm 34 and just now getting over my fear of women. If our families fail to show us how to deal with women society takes over and we all know the nerd stalking the woman never works out in real life.

Jordan Peterson is the most red pill professor ever.

Thank you God for Jordan Peterson. I can finally start living again. Thank you sir. Thank you for turning around my life.

Thank you Dr. Jordan Peterson! I will face it.

Could you add in the description, next to the link to the original source, the time where he talks about this in the original video? I love these short videos but sometimes I want to keep listening to what he has to say, I would greatly appreciate it and I'm sure others would too.

I think women also really love to fill the role of the ideal woman. As a young person who has dated a few people seriously, usually in long-term, committed relationships, I agree 100% that, to be very close relationally with a girl, guys have to "sacrifice the ideal woman." But women LOVE to be praised for their beauty and charm, and personally I think it's no small joy to feel like I've been appreciated for my femininity, even somewhat superficially. I also think it's a beautiful interaction, fueled by biology--and it's true that a lot of women don't fully grasp the power and potential damage that we can have! For example, accepting a compliment sweetly, appreciating when someone holds the door, and responding to a romantic invitation with graciousness. Of course there are plenty of entitled jerks out there, but I have found that kindness breeds more kindness and there are only a few times that I've had to put my foot down with guys being too forward; it seems a larger amount of guys have relative shyness towards women and I won't let a handful of entitled assholes ruin all men's reputation.

He's the only speaker I give a like even before hearing the speech. He never disappointed me

Well this guy just articulated my thoughts I've been having for the past couple years after reflecting upon my past failures with women.

you must sacrifice your waifu.......

50 numbers in a single day? that sounds really painful.

Really good stuff here....well thought

Thank You.

A lot easier said than done, most people with a fear of rejection cant even ask ask 1 girl. I bottle it every time.

If u wanna get over rejection, apply to graduate schemes... u'll get damn used to rejection D:

This really spoke to me.

A must watch for Entrepreneurs and people in Sales.

Is the juice worth the squeeze?

I don’t have time for relationships and if a woman hits on me she better make it obvious otherwise I miss it by miles.

This was brilliant.

Perfectly said

I don't have a fear of rejection, or a need for acceptance. The only thing I want in life is to be the best I can be.

Asking a girl out in Toronto: Guy - "Hi." Girl - "ARE YOU SEXUALLY HARASSING ME? You creep!"

Thank you Dr. Peterson

same with applying for jobs... nothing more scary than putting yourself out there, and receiving the opinion that you're not good enough to get the job... it's tough but it's just the process of life sometimes asking out 30 different girls is worth it if it means finding that one person that appreciates you for you

"Get over your fear of rejection" Me: *No, I don't think I will*

God bless this man. He has helped me lots during times of deep sorrow and troubles.

This is pure brilliance.

ahh great learning..wish i knew this before

I tried this but got rejected and now I'm gay.

Tried this in BC. Someone knows an affordable lawyer?

I wish I could attend to his classes

I feel like it is the same thing with playing (instrument, acting etc pp) in front of an audience. You get good and feel "comfortable" after doing it a thousand times (in a row).

You know what’s strange? I started telling myself ok next time I see a pretty girl I’ll ask her for her Instagram or something and not to worry if they reject you cause you’ll never see them again mentality. Which was incredibly hard not gonna lie the first girl I ask I was saying to myself what am I doing? She was very jolly about it and she told me her IG! After building up to it, now we talk occasionally and I haven’t had the balls to do it again. Even though I didn’t get rejected It feels weird to walk up to someone in public and be so direct. Always feel if I were to approach a girl I would be disturbance... I don’t mind dying a virgin idk why I try sometimes.

ah, the old 'get rejected until you learn to handle it' aproach.

OMG this guy continues to blow my mind

The ideas he describing touches something deep within my core perspective. It makes me feel like people should start understandimg this. And if they do understand this then ask yourself why

what a MAN!

I think to get over rejection you have to get comfortable with the fact that she’s not as awesome and perfect as she looks. She’s human and has irritating flaws. Then get more self confidence by realizing your value hasn’t changed or lowered just because someone isn’t in love with you. You should only be concerned if God himself says he doesn’t love you. But that will never happen so you’re good

don't be afraid of rejection, just 'Stand out and shout' and never forget this' those that are willing, they are the ones that ultimately gain' everything'

Nailed it.

Y'all, I'm a girl and honestly, just be yourself when you like someone. Don't be heartbroken if they reject you because there's so many other people out there that are better.

this guy robbed mr. rogers closet

This is precisely what I did like 9-10 years ago ( when I was 20-21 )... It worked .

They're just as imperfect as us. That helps me. If anything, sometimes just as clueless. That gave me confidence

Ask 50 women. Get rejected by 49. Settle for the one that resembles where bacon comes from and cauliflower.

stop watching porn. stop mausterbuating. lift heavy weights. eat good food. get​ plenty of sleep.

An interesting behaviour I notice is that men, both old and young, get insanely angry when I ask them to leave me alone - which I do extremely politely (arguably too politely).. On another note, this video is incredibly motivating for confidence in public speaking. I am scared and nauseous about it, but genuinely excited to do it continually and go through all sorts of embarrassment. Thanks JP, best moral support I could wish for!

This teacher dude has all the babes. Knowledge is key!!!!