I made a terrible mistake when I was 14 and I take full responsibility for it. I am disgusted by my actions. I'm 20 and have felt guilt since I made my mistake. I've been trying to repair it, fix it and work on myself. Sometimes the guilt gets overwhelming when I think about what I did in detail but I will always rise above it, with the reminder of what went wrong so I do not make those same mistakes again. They are a lesson that put me back in my place. When I start feeling smart and intelligent life finds away to remind me of what I did to show me I am able to make those mistakes. I'm fully capable of it. (not that I want to be) but we all are. I have faced the evil I could become if I don't stay on the right track. I look back on my former self with intense anger and frustration because I hate the kind of people who do what I did with a passion and so does the rest of society - that means I hate myself. But its been 6 years of development.. am I even the same person? My answer is no, I'm not the same person. I am better. I was an uneducated, dimwitted, un-socialised, porn addicted loner of a kid. I am not that anymore. Since then I've been through an intense break up, in and out of mental hospital, seen my parents divorce, my sister nearly kill herself, I reconnected with my mother.. I'm not the same person. I was reminded of my actions again tonight. I am an adult, not a stupid kid anymore. I've grown up and learned my lesson. I'm sorry for what I did, I wish I could take it all back but I cannot. My guilt is immeasurable. The only thing I can do now is continue developing and move on.

"If we all had to pay the ultimate price for our sins, every single one of us would be dead."

I got angry in an argument with my girlfriend and out of pure rage I broke up with her, never have I regretted something so much as letting my anger take control. I found this video because I cant sleep with so much regret. Weve agreed to stay friends and see what happens in a few years but I still miss her immensely. This video gives me hope that I can change. Honestly dude, thank you

In moments like these, realise that it's an opportunity to practise compassion towards yourself. Be kind to yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, big and small. So long as you learnt something useful from your mistake, then there is no need to feel guilty. Guilt is not a productive emotion. Be kind to yourself.

It's been nearly four years since I last watched this and I promised myself i'd never comeback here in any sort of guilt or regret towards myself but here I am

YOU are not your MISTAKES, you are infinite AWARENESS. The evidence for that is the fact that you can observe the mistake, so the QUESTION arises: WHO observes the mistake? Your TRUE self (your awareness) observes the mistake, and that MISTAKE is nothing more than the conditioning of your mind at that certain given time when you did it. Everytime you feel the guilt just try to EXIT your mind and watch it as unbiased OBSERVER. This is the first and most important step to dissolve the past pain for the past mistakes. Do not forget that YOU are not your past mistakes , your true self is ENDLESS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND AWARENESS. That is true YOU. I hope this will help at least one person.

I fucked up one to many times. I have made some terrible mistakes that I have now realized, at 17, are so fucked up. I don’t want to be seen as an evil person which I’m not. I swear on my own life that I will not make this mistake again. Today I have overcome the devil inside me. Thanks, and I’m sorry to anyone I’ve ever hurt.

I made a mistake, it's been almost a year now, this mistake will follow me till the end of time, in my head and on the Internet, I'm worried about my future, what lies ahead, and if I can ever overcome what I did. I feel as If Ive been cancelled before my life even started. ITs closed a lot of doors. But I try to live everyday by the saying that we are not judged by our worst days, but by our best. Thx pce and love to all

I am fucked up , I wish I can time travel and stop myself that day

Man, I didn't realize all these people in the comments feel the same feelings that I do 😥 I'm so sorry about my wrong doings and I will do much better!

I’ve made mistakes in my life. The ones that really get me are job related. I’m a physician. And I’ve made mistakes that have hurt patients. There is a always a process I go through after the mistake. What happened, why did it happen? I search for answers. Finally after some time has passed I realize that there is nothing more I can do with it. Time heals , but the scars are there.

I've made so many mistakes throughout my life and I'm barely an adult. So many things that completely screw up my insides when I think about and it's terrible, recently though I think I've hit an all-time low and I'm unsure what to do about. I've lost so many friends and respect from people and I understand more than anyone that it's my fault but it was a just a handful of bad decisions and I wasn't thinking straight. There have been times when I've wanted to just end it just to show that I am remorseful in some way. I don't even know when I'm thinking straight anymore and it's just so hard to forgive myself when other people will always see me the same way. I've still got my entire life ahead of me and yet after a handful of mistakes people will forever hold me to that and so long as they do, so will I.

I’m 15 and I’ve made so many terrible mistakes this year. Lying to people, acting out, losing my temper and hurting people, and myself, and accidentally offended others. The truth is I hate myself a lot, and I don’t feel like I deserve good things. How do I forgive myself for these mistakes? I lie awake every night crying and thinking about what I’ve done.

Needed to hear this. Thank you

I made a "mistake" 5 years ago and the consequences still effect my life. No matter how much I change nothing gets better and it's literally impossible for me to make amends to he victim. Because of my criminal record I"m basically not allowed to do anything meaningful with my life. Making myself into a better person doesn't make anything better.

It hits different when JP gives advice. Just his voice gives me comfort. Thanks for upload.

I’ve been watching this video for over 2 years now. I’ve often had to listen to it every single day, to remind myself that I made a bad decisions, but I’m not (necessarily) a bad person Jordan Peterson has literally saved my life

It’s amazing to see how people come together and support one another and show mercy when we realize we made bad actions and want to be forgiven for them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️we are horrible human beings but God is good and that is the reason to keep moving forward ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I made a disgusting mistake out of curiosity and it about ruined my life, I wish I can go back and change it, I know I’m a teenager still but it’s disgusting and I don’t want anything to do with my mistake anymore, it’s negatively effecting my life and it’s sad of what I seen

I am trying to be better. Cheers Peterson.

I suffer and cause suffering for others because I beat myself up without moving on.

Aside from all the media BS & scandles which in my opinion were ironically the catalyst to his "getting his message out, this man is pursuing the good for ALL people. Jordan Peterson's books/lectures have done more for me than ANY method I've tried throughout my search for meaning in life. The data is in! His support base is massive & has grown like this in a very short time....the people have spoken! Thank you Dr. Peterson! My life have improved in ways that I never would have imagined.

I made a mistake by not focusing and being serious about the present. I learned from it and now I am able to right it,

Love JBP & love the message he gave here & love that you wanted to get this out to people....at the same time this is very difficult to listen to...is there a way to use some software to fix the audio & then repost?

I’ve been a critic of JP but this is a really useful piece of advice and compassionate to boot. Thank you 🙏

I recently made a very big mistake towards someone I care about and has cost me dearly. Your advice is of value to me. Thank you!

Thank you !!!

I really need this...

God help me. Still can't get over something I did two years ago. I'm climbing out of the pit stronger but I'm saddled with regrets, and I might be stuck with them forever.

I did something despicable 6 months ago. Nobody knows about it but me, and there have been zero direct consequences on the outside world other than whatever general malaise I've inflicted on it as a result of this burden on my conscience. It's killing me. I often feel the urge to confess, but telling anyone who knows me would be nuclear, and I feel I that filling up some poor stranger's head with my messed up existence would just be another crime. That said, I've been changing for the better and will continue to do so. My now increased sanity only emphasizes my past insanity, making the reality of what I did all the more painful, but that's fine. What matters isn't my pain, but making things better.

How do you allow yourself to be "happy' again ? Like accept love and not sabotage yourself ?

How do you think about my case? I did a horrible thing, apologized with them, they forgive me, but then... why I can't forgive myself? When I'm feeling relaxed or happy, that memory always come back. That gave my depression and suicidal thoughts, I'm not depressed anymore or suicidal, but I'm not great, just Okay. They say, the fact that after all that time you came to apologize shows that you are not that person anymore and you wanna change for the better. But... I don't know man, I think the mistake I did is going to haunt me forever. Whenever this came back to my mind I watch this video to feel relief, because I can relate to the people here. When I see my past, I see myself with disgust and anger. Maybe I think I hate myself. I'm not that person anymore. And after that mistake I remembered every single BAD thing a did in my life when I was a kid to today. I'm 22 Years old now and I just hope that I can overcome this by the time.

Thank you

Thankyou 🙏

JP's voice = Saul Goodman's voice

I'm about to leave treatment and be homeless, because I want to figure out my life, my own way, work and get a job, or maybe some other way, I don't know for sure if it's the wrong desition, but its what I want to do, I just got off probation today and for once I can choose how to live my life, my way, and I pray even if this is a huge mistake on my part, that my higher power will pull me through

I was arrested this month because I let my anger bubble up for months and got in a fight with my ex-roommate. I allowed his toxicity to infect me, and in my dumb rage I allowed it to validate my expression of violence. This arrest cost me thousands of dollars, I got robbed, lost my job, my car was sabotaged, had to get a new place and sustained a bad injury to my dominant arm. It took me weeks to stabilize after I got out of holding and that was only because of how hard I worked and through the goodwill of my friends. I could have easily come out of this much worse but my position in life at the time saved me. I had good credit, trustworthy friends and savings. This will serve as a blemish on my life forever but I am stronger for having overcome it.

I've made so many terrible mistakes and beat myself over it. It is so hard for me to forgive myself. Just recently I realize that I need to forgive myself to move on in a more positive direction. Because in the past when I would torcher myself after something utterly stupid I did, I found forgiving myself so difficult, I would adopt a neurotic nihilistic attitude towards my life and nothing would get better. I had to realize for myself that change, changing myself, realizing I'm a different person than the one doing those past atrocities. That is a different person and I forgive myself.

My mistakes are huge. 3 of them. All of them were 35 years ago, yet feature im my mind daily

I made the worst mistake for myself for someone I thought loved me, almost 15 years later and I still can forgive myself :( If I could go back I would undo all my negative thoughts and love myself more instead of a stupid man.

despite the years of pain i went through, despite the lessons i've learned and given, despite the countless painful experiences - i still went against my better judgement and did something without out truly thinking, i always told myself this was all i had left. Now i have immeasurable guilt and sorrow. How can i move past this knowing i will fuck up again and screw myself over ? how ? letting go won't do anything because that was it. I'm 24 - i have no time left, i wasted so many years, let things build up to the point where i could no longer control myself. Why ???? The pain is unbearable.

I'm not a Christian but I've been going through a lot of stuff recently due to my mental health. And this really made me realize my mistakes in some regards.

I almost did a terrible mistake, but I stopped myself in time but I still felt guilty and that's affecting my physical health

Unbelievably helpful!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!

Ever the voice of reason and common sense. Thanks Dr Peterson. x

I made many huge mistakes and ended up losing my girlfriend after I told her how bad of a liar I was. It hurts so bad that she and I won't be together anymore.

I made horrible mistakes as a 10 year old, I deeply regret my actions of saying things and doing thing I knew were wrong but due to the loss of 2 family members one being a parent and another being a grandparent, and my friend pressured me to say and do bad things.

A few days ago my anger and jealousy got the better of me and I made catastrophic mistake that almost cost me my life. I was at a house party with a girl I’ve had a crush on for a while and few friends, the night was going well but one friend was making the moves on her and I lost it, I got into my car and drove off in a fit of rage absolutely drunk, I wrecked my car and have ruined my relationship with her

When I hold a standard of the world with a sense of morality that it should be lived by, then to fall under that bar I hold myself to the accountability of anyone else in my position, and worse so for the hypocrisy of my character. Its strange in hindsight to struggle to even understand how one can be in such ignorance of living a life in a manner so juxtaposed to what they believe is right. Guilt is a heavy weight to bear.

I caused the argument that lead to me and my ex gf breaking up we broke up numerous times and each time she took me back ...during are hiatus I was messaging women and talking to women when I allowed her to look through my phone and see all the messages she got really upset and broke up with me later that night I could've kept my emotions in check better and gave her space but instead I kept pressing the issue to try and fix it the way she was feeling ...she completely cut me off and I have all the regret and shame from what I caused but I have to learn to be better for the next but I do need to heal I miss her dearly and feel so guilty

When I was a kid my brother was abused by my half brother. I was abused by my half brother as well but my full brother got the worst between the two of us. Around the age of 10 years old my older brother began killing animals. One day when we got out of school he found a box with two cats inside (by this time I was 8 years old) quickly he took them and I followed him back home. He brought me to the basement and we killed them. I still feel horrible about it.

Hey all. Just checking in; 29 years old now. I would've thought that by now, I'd be making great decisions, and learning from my mistakes. Overall, i feel like I have, but like the rest of you I've searched this video for a reason. I feel as though I must own my mistake, and to not expect or even want forgiveness. I did it, its done, and i accept the consequence.

Amen❤‼

Anybody know where I can find the original video? Link doesn't work

I try to forgive myself for my mistakes but other people come down on me for it sometimes Then I can’t forgive myself I tell myself to be better, but someday I feel like I’m still the same

Man.. I'm still regretting a mistake from 2012 ffs. That's almost 10 years. I wish I knew man, God.

I regret betraying my ex it took me almost 10 years to forgive my self..

Learn from mistake. Repent from it, what exactly you did wrong, figure how not to do it again, learn from your lesson. Write down to the detailed level.Make amends. You're a bad person,so is everyone. Try to be better.

A year and a half ago I made the worst mistake in my life, and now my parents pay the price for it, literally. I've just now come to realize of how such a terrible decision I made due to my undiscipline, selfishness and laziness. Ever since the beginning I knew of what I was doing, and I knew it was wrong. I never liked studying for too long, and in my country Chile college systems are broken, so you have to study for 5-6 years to get a bachelor's degree, I didn't want to study for too long so I didn't submit an application to any good University. I wanted to study abroad, but that was not posible since the fees are too high for foreigners. I had a good high school background I received plenty of emails and calls from universities here in my homeland, offering me scholarships if I selected them in my application, but I didn't all because I was too stubborn to listen to my family. I ended up going to a terrible college who takes anybody who completed school as a student, I lost every change of receiving a scholarship and now my parents have to pay over 3k a year for my studies, which are not good. Whenever I look at what others are seeing in the same bachelor (computer science) in other unis it is way more advance than what I have. And now I come to realize of what I did, I just had to study one more year in some universities and my parents wouldn't have to be paying anything, but I didn't. I can now only finish course and hope to do things right in the future. I would put a remainder to come back here in a year from today and give any updates, to see if I learnt anything from this.

i made a mistake this week I worked on a painting for a week had a month to submit it, sent it last day and it was 2 hours late because I thought UTC time but it was UTC+8 time. It didn't count and im sure I would of won it was quite a good painting and other stuff was sketches. Prize was a creative laptop i really needed at moment to help my artwork goals :( feels so sad and depressed im stupid. I want to go back in time submit it 3 weeks early.

I want to say to all the people putting there job and energy towards me because of my regretful mistakes I really want to truly,sincerely apologize from the bottom of my heart of what made it to become like this...i know it will never change how u guys look at me and I accept that because my wrong doing

I made an impulsive mistake during an argument and it cost me my relationship 😢 but I now acknowledge that I was triggered and my mental health was deteriorating. I accept responsibility but I know it wasn't me, it was my mental illness. I'm working on forgiving myself, I'm on better meds, and I've started therapy so I don't keep making the same mistakes in the future. I'm using my mistake to improve my life.

2:00 literally the situation I went through recently. I lost a friend because of it. Should've just been grateful we were friends instead of trying to advance into something more. At the same time I wonder if we were even friends at all.

Hey guys, today i signed the dumbest contract with the lowest payment possible and i felt super bad ab it. I hope ive learnt my lesson. Keep goin guys, messing up is part of the way❤

I made a stupid mistake today. Blew up a very important date. Like I was totally not ready and out of place. I was not interested initially and then had to travel 6 hours to go meet this date but once I went there my perception changed and I thought it could be the perfect fit. Had a chance to talk to her for 10 mins and just blurted out non-sense as I was tired of the traveling and lack of sleep last night and made her feel like I was something which I am not. So annoyed with myself. First time got rejected due to my mistakes and very annoyed and guilty because of it.

I was unfaithful to my gf of over 1 yr. I am 20 years old. It just happened, and I haven’t even processed everything, yet my mind continues to wander into dark places. Im not sure how I will ever recover from this. If I don’t do it myself, the remorse might kill me.

But at this point it doesn't matter what I do. To my family I will always be those mistakes.

I made it to 40 without getting into trouble and my shame and guilt is eating me alive I take accountability and responsibilities of my act 😢 I just doubt I can overcome it but I'ma try

“I’ve made two mistakes” in my freshmen year and now I make the girls at my school feel “uncomfortable” and now I’ve lost all respect from my peers and people want to fight me and i don’t know what to do (I’m still a freshmen)

I missed going to clinicals in my medical program and tried to hide it and got caught.. probably going to get kicked out of school.. was only few weeks away from graduation 🎓.. been so depressed and ignoring everyone in my life.. what I did was wrong and I feel sooo much guilt, self hatred...

My huge mistake was turning down a life changing career opportunity, I had such a pit of worry in my stomach that misinterpreted as intuition or something else I guess, personally I think I’m just stuck in such a bizarre comfort zone that I was scared to move on. As soon As I turned it down I knew it was wrong and have been regretful ever since. It’s time for me to pick myself up and try get another opportunity.

I lost my dream job a year ago as a bus driver. I won the job lottery but 6 months in I slid on some ice and lightly hit a pole on the way to start my shift. No damage & no one was on board but I failed my drug test for marijuana. Even though it is legal in MA I was fired & it haunts me every single day.

Minimal force and minimal shaming.

You also have to forgive the temptress, for dangling the carrot. If you don't forgive her, (frankly, for having successfully & somewhat, initially, unwillingly titillated you) you will pursue & partake, in the meaningless new path she's invited you down. Which flips your conscience from normalized & rationalized cheating, to sober regret. Engagement with a disloyal person will leave you distrusting others & your own trustworthiness, which you can't fake, but earn. Also, why has she seen you as a willing participant in the first place? She's either taking advantage of your good will, or she sees your "down to get down" side. You _forgive_ (or refuse) people who stimulate the wrong emotions in you. Like how you _forgive_ the verbal & physical aggressor challenging you to a fight & walk away...

I made a huge mistake when i was 14 but I'm 18 it's been four years but I regret it until now because I haven't apologize to the person. I don't have any guts to even eye contact with them and talk to them, I'm really really sorry.

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Sound quality is very poor in this video

Does anybody know the title of the original video?

i made such a mistake with my girlfriend & now i have to live with that guilt, she doesn’t think i’m sincere with my feelings when i really am. i feel so bad cause i betrayed her & i feel like i’ll never get past this

I touched the car infront of me with my car yesterday and i was devastated, and the driver made it such a big deal when i could literally not see a single scratch in her car. She proceeded to insult me and yell at me, when even her husband could not see anything wrong with the car. I have been driving for 9 months, she has been driving for a year. Today is one day before my last exam of the semester, and i am just so sad and can't focus and my revision. It's 11:15am and i haven't started revising yet and think i should skip my workout today. Someone pls motivate me to get over this, cause i want to get a good grade and go gym (endorphins = best mood booster)

I've made a terrible mistake toward someone I care about... I just wish I didn't ruin anything

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I just ran away a potential mate because I moved to quickly....I was to forward. Bummed out about my conduct and bummed that I added to her cumulative experience of pushy guys. 😔. She might have been a bot though or a catfish. I will never know. Big sigh....lol

This is great, but the audio is traaaaash

I’ve been unfaithful to my girlfriend of 6 years. What it’s done to her is beyond comprehension I genuinely believe she’d feel better if I was gone but i know thats silly. It’s finished for us. I have no idea why I was so damn stupid, but I’m seriously scared guys I don’t know if I can live with this

what about when your mistake cause the death of someone you love?

How to forgive myself

I’m down pretty bad guys

Ive been lying about me and a boy for months. I would tell my friends that I did something with him, when nothing would ever happen between us. Yesterday, the guy found out about everything. He considered me a good friend, but not anymore. And my friends now all think that I am a disgusting liar. I dont know how to get over this, i know that what I did was extremely wrong and childish, theres no excuse for my actions. I feel physically sick, and I genuinely dont know what to do

Why do we call them mistakes if we did them on purpose?

“Whoever is without sin throw the first stone”. Whenever I make a stupid mistake it makes me not be judgemental because it reminds me that we are all equally undeserving and sinful. Thankful for Jesus and his grace, that we can be free from guilt and shame if we repent and let God change us

I kicked my girlfriend in my last fight out of the bed and lost my frame. Before She started to talk ruder and passive aggressive to me. She is stubborn. Every time I approached other situation she would never admit doing anything wrong and it was always only me. I was hurt by her becoming distant and self focused. Her reason was that I caused her pain in the past because I judged her clothes and appearance too many times. But she also wasn’t willing to change or do any of my wishes. But I started giving more and more. She took it from the beginning of the relationship without a thanks. I feel guilty and remorse. She doesn’t want to speak anymore. This is the worst you do a terrible mistake. I am doing anything in my hand to change and transform. But she can probably never forgive me. Even though I loved her to the point being obsessed. Now I focus on never loosing myself in discussions and step away. But it’s hard to let her go, and I want to deeply apologise for the kick to her personally, but she doesn’t allow it. She fears me. Any advice?

The outcome determines whether the decision was wrong or right. Sometimes you were smart but things turned out bad anyway.

My life went catastrophically wrong as a young boy. It rendered me unable to love anyone least of all myself. I've had a life of low self-esteem punctuated by a few good things here and there. At seventy-three, lonely and depressed, I am struggling with a life that is little more than a self-indulgent damage limitation exercise.

Made foolish mistake with ex-girlfriend after she broke up with me. I called her twice and she didn’t appreciate that at all. Have been in total no contact ever since (55 days) and have no intention of initiating ANY contact with her. Felt absolutely terrible about myself and what I did for a couple of months. 😖 I don’t know what she might be thinking about me, but refuse to play the villain in someone else’s dark drama of me harassing her. I just do the right thing - no contact . I don’t feel comfortable apologizing to her because I don’t think it’s appropriate for me to initiate any further contact with her. What a mess I created!

Oh, yeah? Well, try me. Apparently I can't redeem myself, not even after nearly losing my life. I was once taken to my boss's office--with her and her chef colleague--for touching my coworkers too much (CASUALLY on arms or shoulders). I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. The chef told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything *_horrible._* I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She liked that I was outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. And then when I nearly died in a car accident, the chef refused to change her mind about her speech. I overheard her tell my boss (who felt remorse for how they handled me) that while she was very happy I survived and regretted my severe injury, it didn't change how she felt about my mistakes. That no matter what would've or could've happened to me, what I did *would always* be wrong and what they did *would always* be right. _"A person's faults are not reduced by their near-passing. He did what he did, and we had to talk to him about it. That truth can't be belittled by his tragic moment. Right is right, wrong is wrong"_ I was hurt at first, but you know what? I think she's right. I think my moment of redemption is over. I'm always gonna be that guy. I have to live with the consequences. I'm fine now from the car accident, totally recovered, but my pride and self-forgiveness is gone. Sometimes you can't redeem yourself.

I made a mistake at work. I overpaid two staff $2500 and my boss took it very seriously.

How about a split , relationship....huge mistake!

...life has a way singling out those who KNOW they arent perfect, the ones who know theyve done wrong things in their past, and actually feel badly for those mistakes, what the Bible called for those who've been "saved" as "..grieving the Holy Ghost within..". The reason life singles them out: because they have a knowledge, and a FEELING attached, they are the ones most likely to find redemption. How do they find it? The 1st step is the one theyve already taken: accountability. The funny thing is that the wrong you do isnt something you knew was wrong, but later learn what you did was wrong, then take steps to amend it 2nd step might be the hardest for some, but the easiest for those who are good people who have done bad things: they choose, when given the opportunity to do better, they do better. They make a more conscious choice to do the right thing, the thing that brings them closer to being what it was always inside them to be.

I was really drunk and I told my brother in law a big lie just because he pissed me off. I managed to do damage control. I don’t know if he forgives me but my god I regret it so fuckin much.