I wish I had a professor like him when I was young.

My younger brother had some emotional distress as a pre school aged child. The psychologist put him on medication and told my mom that she shouldn't discipline him because he had anxiety. Now he's 55 years old...and never made anything of himself. He's been on welfare for the past 25 years. He has a victim mentality. When he moans and groans about his life's situation to me, there's nothing I can really say because he won't listen and he will just become angry.

Over 70 years old, and still getting wisdom from this dude. What a treasure.

Words worthy of time, reflection, and dedication. Thank you Mr. Peterson

You speak words of wisdom , Unfortunately those who need to learn from your teachings will be the ones who reject them .

Do justly. Love mercy. Walk humbly. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏

"The more responsiblity you take on, the more meaning your life will have."

Dr. Peterson is the BEST TEACHER 💯

They told me I’ve had Crohn’s disease when I was 14. Life has been hard and every failure has been a blessing in disguise, at 45 I still make myself work full-time even with 26 months of long COVID. Team Jesus winning 🥇

4:32 he's saying "Oedipal" in both instances, but he corrects his own pronunciation for the second one. He's not saying "eatable" or "edible."

Sooooo stinkin’ GREAT!! Such wisdom! How blessed are we that we have the opportunity (the choice?) to learn from THAT brilliant mind, right??! Excellent. Thank you, Dr. Peterson 🇺🇸❣️🇺🇸

…. Wow… on so many levels… in so many relationships and situations…..💕

Dr Peterson, Sir. I watch your lectures over and over again. Listening to you articulate your points is always a refreshing learning experience. Never in my life, until one year ago, did I know you even existed. Or anyone like you! Today's technology allows so many to know you. I'm always astonished and perplexed when you receive negative responses from anyone. You've been exposed to the world that needs you, and other like minded persons, for clear understandings. Not only of the world we live in. But of our own minds. As always. Thank you, and your Family, for the hard work and dedication to educating, all before us, all of us presently, and those ahead. All, despite the difficulties that may lie ahead, thanks to your invaluable efforts your entire life. You are, and will always be, one of the top lecturers of our time. If not the top!? Admired. Loved. Always astonished and grateful for your work. jb

Like one of the commentators stated, this isn’t one size fits all. Family dynamics are complex and often fractured. Wisdom and insight are imperative for a positive outcome, especially in situations of family dysfunction.

The sense of meaning life can provide to you is proportionate to the amount of responsibility you decide to take on.

Im 28 year old neurodivergent man with ADHD and this video makes me feel ashamed. I was using it like excuse to don't have perfect life or even trying to achieve better one. I was hiding before my resposibility because Im also over sensitive and hate stress. But this is true, everything there makes sense. I can't hide from responcibility, I must do maximum I can. Proffesor Peterson is one very inspiritional and wise man. Great video.

This talk is so true when I was a kid I might have told my mum I felt sick but when I did give it half an hour and I actually felt sick! If I actually felt sick and mum made a doctor appointment by the time I went to the doctors I felt fine!

this lecture reminds me of The Lion King. how Simba was taken into a life of lazy indulgence with no worries and no responsibilities by Timon and Pumba but deep down he felt that something was missing. something was off. it all felt empty and pointless until he met again with Nala, remembered his father's words and chose to take his place as the king and be responsible for his kingdom. at that point he finally put the puzzle pieces of his life together and found meaning and happiness.

ohh yes, i often refer to the current state of affairs as a competition of who is most opressed or disadvantaged to gain the most social benefits.

There is no contradictions between being a victim and taking responsibility. I have experienced domestic violence and abuse, so I am a victim of that - while simultaneously thinking of what I can do to avoid similar situations in the future and how I can work with my self so I am less likely to be a victim again. But no matter how much responsibility I take, my past will always be a part of me and influence me. People have a very destructive understanding of responsibility because we want absolute control. It's either 100 percent you or 100 percent me. We have a problem saying "I can take responsibility for this, because this is what I have reasonable influence over, the rest is just the randomness of life". We don't accept being vulnerable and insufficient, but all us are in some way.

Makes sense and gives insight into the true meaning if the belief that the life you save is your own... in that a life saved is then the heroes ... some see this as owed to them as payment for saving though its responsibility that birthed it... People would save people from punishment risking the duck always being a duck but also having to own that if the duck caused damage they otherwise would not have been able to do then the fault/responsibility belongs to the one who broke them out

2:12 definitely applies to me. Great way of summing it up.

I think I have felt the most fulfilment in my life when I was "burdened" with great responsibility and challenges to be overcome. I have never once really felt "why me?" except possibly the first time I was diagnosed with cancer, but that lasted no more than a couple of hours before I took the view, well it is what it is, I have to get on with it and what will be, will be.

I needed to hear this today, thank you JP

I remember when I didn't feel like going to school, telling my mom I didn't feel well....she would tell me: well I guess you'll have to spend your day in bed....I was never that sick

“Blank Check / Kid In A Candy Store” mentality. Abandonment of responsibilities is the most common childhood fantasy, because responsibility is seen almost as a newly-acquired burden to a kid. It’s attractive to dangle that. It’s running away to join the circus, yes, or joining a gang.

Now that everyone has the victimhood mentality, it will be very difficult to convince people to move beyond it. It's very easy to play the victim because that means pointing fingers at others. Denying victimhood is far more difficult.

The allure of victimhood is so appealing that it’s almost irresistible for some, because it’s a win/win - if you’re a victim then every success in your life warrants extra credit because as a victim you had to overcome even greater challenges to obtain it. At the same time every failure is not your fault or responsibility because, after all, you’re just a victim of your circumstances. Add to this the fact that we have a culture that loves the “underdog”, and it’s extremely tempting to cast yourself as that underdog when you write the story of your life in your mind. The only way to overcome this temptation is with wisdom. I believe that wisdom is only found thru Jesus Christ.

I love him so much

Shine a light with yer glorious hands, Doc. When I was a tyke, pointing at people was redeemable for one ass-whipping, free of charge. Also, use of the present tense shows that you have contempt for the message.

If you're a victim you can never achieve. You'll constantly be relying on other to be as easily manipulated as you so they can give you what you think you're owed, but that'll never happen. Victim mentality = loser mentality

Spot on!

This should be shown in every inner city and every reserve.

Amen brother

The United States Marine Corps taught leadership principles; one of which was to "seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions."

I would like to see Dr. Peterson talk about the book Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand.

at 5:00 it's not edible, it's actually Oedipal

I’ve always gone back to Pinocchio….it’s all the info you ever need to figure out how to live or how your life will end up.

I was brought up in a strict household and had a very hard time as both parents were also alcoholics, i was actually scared of my father but also deeply respected him, now as a adult i feel even though i went through all this as a child its made me a better adult, but im not saying it was ok to be treated as i was it was a little extreme theres a fine line of control between a child trying to rule you and you keeping it at a balance that doesnt cause distress.

Perfect.

This lecture topic of responsibility providing meaning reminds me of the short speech that Charles Bronson's character gives to the village boys in the original Magnificent 7. The boys come to Bernardo and ask to go with him as he's leaving because they say their fathers are cowards and they're ashamed. Bernardo spanks one of the boys and says: Don't ever say that again about your fathers. They are not cowards! You think I am brave because I carry a gun. Your fathers are much braver because they carry responsibility. For you, your brothers, your sisters and your mothers. This responsibility is like a big rock that weighs a ton. It bends and it twists them until finally it buries them under the ground. And nobody says they have to do this. They do it because they love you and because they want to. I have never had this kind of courage. Running a farm. Working like a mule everyday with no guarantee what will become of it - this is bravery. That is why I never even started anything like that. That's why I never will. I tear up every time I see that scene.

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Just one little detail.. Pinocchio IS NOT a movie.. it's a novel by Collodi and gives a very extensive picture of Italy in the 19th century. The main message is about going around life without a conscience (the cricket, who is a metaphor of Pinocchio's conscience, gets killed at the beginning of the book.. unlike in the cartoon) as "young people do", being selfish, cause pain to the ones who love you and be taken advantage and get in trouble for the pursuit of pleasure. But then fininding and growing your own conscience (and awareness of yourself) with experience and becoming mature and responsible.

Song: Believer by IamDayLight

Lmao, “Oedipal” not “edible” lol

4:40 onwards - my ex-daughter-in-law to a tee. A victim of everything including her own body due to a whole range of imaginary ailments. All borne out of her mother giving her a gift and a day off, every time she had a snivel as a child. Such a child, once grown up, is impossible to please and impossible to live with. She just moves from enabler to enabler getting them to do her bidding because she's such a victim. It is very sad and I wonder what the end of it all will be for her ...

What a great analysis of the Pinocchio story. Now imagine if people thought Pinocchio was actually real just because the story contains fundamental/archetypal truths.

Equity is Victimhood Victimhood is "Mein Kompf"

from a little kid to today I was given the feeling of not belonging of being abnormal as a left handed arab (homosexual) migrant, living in Germany, enduring both mental and physical abuse my whole life never getting the feeling of belonging always treated like a foreigner and a potential dangerous person because I looked dark, because people associated me with criminals just because we happened to have the same skin color or name, yet I never played the victim card or whined about my tough life, I accepted it and made the bst of it.

By the time the our machine behavior has reached what would otherwise have been responsible age, responsible in the real sense of the word, we have developed very strong habits of sleep, and very intense efforts are necessary to awaken the machine…that is, if, for us, it is still possible.

I wish Dr JP was one of my uncles

What about for those of us that were abused? For those of us that came from a family where both parents were mentally ill and where being vulnerable was treated like something that had to be tortured out of you?

My friend likes to play the victim, even though he has a really nice life. I've told him to listen to Jordan Peterson, it will help him.

Responsible adults don't do this to kids but at age 5 they do

I liked the video, but I would've liked it more without the creepy background music. Dr JBP is the "no bullshit guy", he doesn't need creepy motivational music in the background. Would be great if this feedback is taken into account next time!

1:40 i reckon this is why math is absolutly boring unless you are somewhat of a person that sees math as its own world where every new bit of theory adds to the universe of math, it is so universal that you can not see any relation to your own life

There is always a risk of becoming a victim, staying one is a choice.

My grandma had a daughter who was a breech birth therefore her shoulders were effected but grandma made her daily job to hangout the laundry my aunt is now 80 years old and she does everything thing she ever tried to do and is the mother of 6 kids

Add for puberty blockers on jp video?

Dat thumbnail doe

Amenpeacebewithyou future present past in All dimensions for all eternity in the name of Jesus H Christ.............

It’s absolutely disgusting to me. My brother is like this. Has a very aggressive tone to you when talking but if you get angry or raise your voice as a reaction to him he just leaves rambling it’s his fault and so on.

Everyone can be a victim dont be cruel, not not everyone think world owe them something either.

Poor little old me !

I'm pretty sure the word is "Oedipal" in the context of his lecture and not "edible"? 🙂

i feel like most of nowadays media idiolise not taking responsibility

I wish people would actually listen to what the guy has to say and thought about it for a moment, might agree upon a few things

4:31: eat able. Edible. Do you mean oedipal, Mr. Subtitle?

At most victims should be given help and compassion not power and rolls of leadership.

He's not saying eatable or edible... he's saying Oedipal, like the Oedipus complex

Closed Captioning is wrong from time to time. Peterson says Oedipal. CC says edible. You need a CC editor.

Logic dont always work spirit dont work like that.

The unfortunate fact is we are all victims of a system which perpetuates and denies the concept of human dignity, the right to be valued, respected, and to receive ethical treatment and protection of our inherent rights. Human beings are not the means to others' ends. The conditioned response to competition is the pursuit of own advantage and self-interest to take advantage of others as means of achieving this goal. Treating others with dignity imposes on humans the moral requirement not only to avoid harming but to actively assist one another in achieving and maintaining a state of well-being. Perhaps if we taught this the "victim mentality" would not be such a prevalent cause for concern.

in a nutshell its classical conditioning and negative reinforcement.

In fact, they are not victim. Their weakness, they just want to be on top position without any effort. They dont get any award, they never write some journals or appear on radio talk. They just do things with assumption. If they want to be on top, they open the network to anyone, do not only certain people that they like. This is not about like or dislike. This is about to achieve the purpose to be on top.

Typically material intelligence will begin at least two degrees of separation from a foundation stable for understanding. the fact that anyone sees the world made up of victims and tyrants is a distraction from the need to continually balance the victim/tyrant self. Even this realization needs belief in a greater intelligence than our own to be understood. That Greater intelligence is not material.

Dang truth hurts… I’m definitely a loser. At least I can admit it 🤷‍♀️

I have no background music but I too can be long winded in a word salad kind of way if I want to be. I wonder if the existing system (Western Society's : "get educated, get a job and make money etc.") is not working for the masses? The careers one could hope to survive from have narrowed over time. The educational system is a racket. It is funny to go to a Gov. "Unemployment Office" and / or computer job search via their system and you'll find many job offers of the people that never go to or need to go to such a system to find work (many Engineer and nurse jobs to be had - and it has been this way all my life). So in order not to "betray" oneself many may have; in a way, checked-out of society and exist on the fringes of it only because it is still there. So, is turning your back on as much of the system; set up prior to one's birth, a betrayal to self or is it honoring thy true self. In other words; instead of staying with a system (as if to "fake it, until you make") because you can't make it or you believe it is rigged against you; is moving on to some other way of living really a betrayal of one self. Does a job a robot can and should do really meaningful to a human being? Is unrealistically low wages below the cost of living worth staying at if you can't; for whatever reason, move "upwards?" Living in a society (Western) with an abundance; yet, we never had an abundance of meaningful employment equal to the cost of living as if this is a motivator to keep people working jobs they find little meaning in. As of late; many illegal aliens flock to America seemingly because living standards and opportunity is better? Yet, many Americans remain underemployed or unemployed. Some say that the illegal alien is to displace the American worker because they are cheap laborers? Is this in a system of laws? If Americans can't exist with a minimum wage in some states not raised since 2009; yet, the cost of living went through the roof; how is it that illegal aliens will survive once the gravy train comes to an end? Will they all line themselves up and demand a free flight home? We (America) have a system in place to accept immigrants and not illegal aliens for a reason. Does our preexisting "system" give way to all that are born to it. Does it give the best chance to equally succeed with a meaningful life the individual is meant to have as a human being? Are we as a society keeping some people down (or not allowing their individuals "Maslow's hierarchy of needs to occur?" Are we keeping some people down in order to make our personal existence better? Is it the individuals responsibility to somehow recognize in a self awareness way to seek what is meaningful to them or is it the parents of children such as your own to be provided the wisdom to recognize this on their own in a system that can fail many people. If fewer and fewer people can't fit-in or are unwilling to comply to a ever narrowing set of rules or cultural ways to a preexisting system that works great for a few but not the masses: Is it then wrong for so many to turn away as much as they can from such a system and seek meaning in another way? It is as if they exist in a system within a system because they themselves can't instantly change what existed for a very long time before them overnight and /or may not be able. (JF)

Anyone who is really worth as an individual, is not allowed to have that type of mentality. God is absolutely that way. I've never been allowed that. It's a prohibition to expect to be seen as a victim. I'm sick and tired of premeditated wickedness intentions claiming to be victims, in blame shifting virtue bluffing emotional manipulation about it ALL, instead of whom premeditatedly harm. I do have that right to claim, but I don't use it. If that was the case, I'd have been suing my parents and so many other people since then. Then again I always wonder who does God want to redeem or not, take vengeance upon or not. I'm so done with it all, but I don't see any way out or other way around it all. Don't expect me to be a bad person to be anything else in the world.

That thumbnail tho

It's almost unimaginable that the company who produced Pinocchio and so many other life lessons for multiple generations... is the same company we see today... Unbelievable.... and sad.

what gives you the right to monetize this? You ruined the video with the ads and stock footage

Many victims I've met actually take on far too much responsibility, because it's very difficult to accept how little control a human being has over their life. So they are often overwhelmed with guilt, which makes them anxious and they often underperform. Healing requires first of all recognising the fact of being a victim and accepting that fact. After that one can proceed to elaborate the feelings that come with that, usually they'll experience anger. That anger is important, because it gives them the strength to do things for themselves and improve their situation. They then can proceed to rewatch what happened to them from different points of view and get a broader idea of what happened and why it happened and if they are lucky they can forgive. I'm really not fond of promoting the idea that you can just move on without elaborating what happened and how that affects you. Denial doesn't work well on a long term, it often leads to compulsive behaviour. So I'd be careful with the advice in this video. If you've experienced trauma, before you follow any advice in this video, please check if you tend to feel a lot of shame and guilt. If you do, you most likely never really accepted that you're a victim. It's not a failure to be a victim by the way. We all can be victims, coincidence doesn't care if you're a good person or how hard you try.

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A meaningless life without responsibility or a meaningful life with it, both are worthless if you do not have the freedom to live them as you see fit. For the former having no responsibility sure hurts when you’re never able to take up responsibility to help those you care about, And as for the latter responsibility sure sucks when you’re forced to raise your children with morals and ideals that you vehemently despise

too many ads on here

I am sorry, the correction did not come from my heart but from my mouth.

What if you are a victim?

Now some might hate me for this but I see a LOT of victim mentality with locals when in Africa

There are no pointless pursuits, I don't follow him on that. Some of us wants short term pleasure badly and often can't find it

He seems a tad kooky.

im the person who he is talking about in this video ;/ its really hard

Why do you have obscenities in the thumbnail ? Is it sensationalist advertising?

Please don't use thumbnails that have that kind of language in it. Click bait titles are not becoming of anything presenting Dr. Peterson.

I didn't like this video, i didn't belive its message. But then, like a light from God, the piano music came on, alongside inspirational people like the indian doctor and the girl on tiktok. But the music.....made me FEEL.

The only people who criticise this man are the people who don't actually listen to him

its not edible or eatable... its Oedipal

I AM MAKING LIFE HAPPEN FOR ME, RATHER THAN TO ME !

What is with the psychological bastardisation of the story of Pinocchio? Taking on more responsibility then necessary does not provide any meaning.

If you don't believe me, ask Pinocchio. Whut? (Just a joke people)