this is the 'nice version' of what the conversation was actually like. Way more F bombs, I should have hung up, but atleast I get closure. I've talked to other people that confirm these statements are mostly true. Shoutout to HR Lady's dad though, MR. Big D. He is a real one.

Do NOT speak to them ever again. He reached out to you because he misses his free money. That's it.

This young man is remarkable. He grew up under those parents. How he did not become like them is heartwarming.

You weren't dumb, you were hopeful and caring. It's so hard when your family actively hurts you.

It's sad when you realize being a good man makes you the black sheep in the family.

What scares me the most is how MANY parents actually use the "This is life" or "Its the past now its present" excuses to justify their literal abuse, including mine. My heart goes to you Joshua, not many of us can relate to your specific situation but we're here for you.

My dad's family was narcissistic too. This is very familiar. They never change. A counselor gave me this nugget of wisdom. "Being related doesn't give anyone a free pass to treat you however they want."

I am a 70 year old grandmother and heartbroken to hear your story. Please don't let your family put you through anymore of their toxic dis function. No matter how hard you try to get them to understand your point of view they never will. Let them go with love. Love yourself and move on with your life. Talking about will definitely help. Maybe go to therapy so your feelings can be validated and you can learn the traits of addiction. You cannot heal them as you will learn. You are a sweet young man and will be ok. Pay attention to your gut feelings and that will guide you through. Lots of love and support dear from this grandma.❤

Honestly man I’ve seen people turn out horribly with parents who aren’t even that bad. So seeing you being sentient & aware & level headed after living your life with parents like this is impressive. So glad to see you turned out alright

This man pulled the reverse card and disowned his family back. Pretty badass.

why do people say josh should keep this a secret? 100% this is helping someone who is going through a similar thing

As someone who's experienced their own father stealing their identity, I feel for you immensely. Ive never seen your videos before. You were on my suggested today. Just know someone else knows how you feel. I never had the ability to pay for all my fathers needs, and he still took me for everything. Keep your head up. Eventually you'll realize no matter how much it hurts, you no longer need him or them.

Josh, I've skipped over your videos for a very long time, because I'm in the same situation. I didn't want to relive the s**t through your story. Today I listened, I hear your grief, I feel the betrayal. Josh, family is suppose to be supportive, kind, unconditional in every way. You are very intelligent, handsome young man. You are stuck in that mess, and can't get out. Your dad is playing on your emotions. You deserve happiness, you deserve to be loved. Don't get involved, your dad is lying, there's more and he's not telling. He's a con artist, please don't get involved. Change your number, or ignore them. Even now you're being manipulated. I decided that if my family didn't love me, I must love myself. I'm not concerned about them anymore, I think about them periodically, but I don't see them. Your dad could very well be an addict too. I hope he's not, but that's on him. Please don't get involved. You'll be a happier person. Please take your time to fine love, you want it to be genuine, someone who will stick by you always. I know it hurt, but you will develop health issues if you don't close the book on them. Our stories parallel. We have so much in common, take care of your mental health, this crap will drive you crazy. Their confessions that have placed you in debt can be reversed. I hope the day will come when you stop reliving your pain, stop writing about it. Right now it's therapeutic, the day will come when you will stop. Very please you've confronted your dad. He's stressed alright, don't let them use you.

You sharing this is going to help a lot of people.

Our society has romanticized “unconditional love” from relatives, especially parents. Don’t ever feel bad for what you did. You were completely right in getting away from them. Extremely toxic people.

It takes people way too long to realize you don’t HAVE to support your family if they’re toxic to you. Start grinding, make more money than you did before, and spend it all on yourself! I hope you find happiness brother ❤

Sorry kid. I was disowned by my toxic family too. Did the whole mental funeral and mourning thing just like you. And just like you, it's really for the best. Stay strong and keep working on your emotional well being.

My mother chose alcohol over me for 43 years. She recently had to dry out and go sober bc of a serious health issue that wouldve killed her if she kept drinking. And now I'M expected to forget everything that happened and support her! F**k that! She chose alcohol over her kids. She made her decision, now she can live with it. We're better off without those people in our lives. Keep moving forward.

33:38 "Talking to my dad was the literal definition of the narcissist prayer which goes like this: 'That didn't happen, and if it did it wasn't that bad, and if it was that's not a big deal, and if it is that's not my fault, and if it was I didn't mean it, and if I did you deserved it.'" That really resonated with me, thank you.

I'm not even two minutes in and don't know your story yet I recognize where you're at. I realized I didn't have to do this anymore and walked away twenty-seven years ago. It was hard for a long time and then it became the best decision I've ever made. When there's hope, it hurts. That changed when I accepted that the person couldn't give me what they didn't have and that I was not only good and enough already but also on my way to being so much more, to fulfilling my potential. Saying no to them allowed me to say yes to myself. You will not just survive; you will thrive.

I hate how your story reminds me of my childhood, and I know this means nothing coming from a stranger, but I am proud of you for the way you turned out, and how you stood up for yourself. I wanna give you a hug. Keep being you, and doing what you need to do to make your life better. You deserve it. Not them. They don't deserve you either

Speaking from experience, an apology won't give you closure, and you'll go nuts waiting for one. It sucks but you're better off that they disowned you. They don't deserve you.

I can relate. I was disowned by entire mother’s side of the family, really for entertainment. I was renting a room at my grandma’s place to help her pay for bills. Didn’t realise prior how verbally abusive she was, and likes to start drama for fun. I went for a walk one day, and I guess she looked at my laptop and found I was looking for apartments to rent, so I wouldn’t have to pay her rent anymore, and fabricated a story that I threatened her with a knife and threatened that I was going to set her house on fire. I got kicked out, and for 2 weeks until I blocked everyone, basically got death threats and harassed by members of my family. About 9 months later of not speaking to them and getting close to Christmas, I got a call from one of my aunts. Asking if I was coming over for Christmas, and said “We forgive you. All you have to do is apologise and we’ll welcome you back” I ignored her. I questioned for a long time if I made the right decision. But that answer came to me last year when I ran into my cousin. He said grandma targeted him, and everyone in the family are either fighting eachother, talking bad about eachother behind their backs, or everyone is depressed.

Jesus, the financial abuse is more than enough to permanently alienate a child, I can’t imagine how bad the other forms of abuse might be… solidarity, man - as a child of narcissistic abuse I feel you on the whole tone of this video. I hope you’re doing ok and will continue to do better and feel better as time goes on without them

Your call in sharing this is your choice, no one else's. As Anne Lamott wrote: "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better." Your business content is so spot on. I wish you the best.

He is just buttering you up to get back in your life and start using you again. I am so sorry he opened this wound back up for you.

"fAmIlY iS fOrEVeR" yeah well but so is a felony

Bro this one is rough. You’ve done amazing for yourself. You should be proud of what you’ve accomplished, and holding yourself to a higher standard.

I came across this and I really feel you. I got manipulated by narcissistic family many times. Getting stabbed made me cut ties. I had to cut friends too cause they got manipulated themselves to tell where I live and other stuff. I had to cut everything just to escape. How people supposed to be family would just do this is unfathomable.

I know you made this a while ago and I haven’t finished it yet, but I was 100% sure drugs were involved when I heard your story months ago. The behavior is all too familiar. Sorry man, it’s hard dealing with family members that are using. I have been on both ends. Sharing your personal stuff will help a lot of people. Not many creators do it. I hope things get better if they haven’t already

Hun, take it from a Grandmother....your Dad is a narcissist. He has the classic signs. You can't control that fact, but you CAN control who you allow into your life. Surround yourself with people who will uplift you and do good for you. Your Dad is a toxic person and needs help. Not help from you; HE has to find it himself.

I've been alone from the age of 17 and I'm very poorly. I have nobody to help me. You'll be stronger alone though. Even though I struggle, everyday I do it alone and I'm proud of it.

That hurts, man. I'm sorry for what you endured. Stay strong, brother.

Sometimes strangers will love you more than your parents will.

The biggest lie that society tells you is that you HAVE to forgive your family, that you actually need them, that you owe them anything. Sometimes you're way better off without them. Keep strong. You are much better off without them.

im sorry josh, im really glad you can be open about this and tell us. I hope people learn from your wounds

It's a terrible thing when faceless strangers on the internet are more understanding than the Family you know the face of too well.

"take it or leave it Josh..." Leave it... Sorry to say it, but that's the only way you heal, grow, and move on to bigger and better things.

You will backslide into a toxic relationship if you let them in again.

I had a similar father. He never apologized once in 50 years about abusing my mother, siblings and me. It's not your fault and do your best to move on. I wrote a letter to my father before his death and even though he never acknowledged it, felt alot better just to get it off my chest.

"Once an addict always an addict." Thank goodness that is 100% wrong.

Your 👏ex-dad 👏was 👏100% 👏doing 👏drugs

I promise his dads an addict ... I’ve lived with one ... nothing is ever their fault and they always play the victim. Master manipulator.

Dang dude I'm sorry to hear this. Much respect for being to open and vulnerable and honest. You're way braver and more mature than your dad and grandparents imo

First time I’ve seen one of your videos. This makes me cry. The pain you’re displaying is heartbreaking. Please find a way to heal. You seem to be a loving, caring son. You should know that most parents would feel proud and fortunate to call you their son. ❤️

Venting online isn’t easy for a man. It’s strength for some of us. Take it easy Josh.

I left when I was 15 years old and I never looked back. Best decision of my life that I ever made. There's no reason to subject yourself to the whims of a malignant narcissist.

I am so sorry. No one should have to go through this. I wish and pray you find the strength to get through this and have a wonderful life.

It's kind of normal for parents to be embarrassed by their kids once in a while, but kids being embarrassed of their parents is... wow. I wish you good things in life, friend, you deserve it.

Do you know what the best part of this story is? The fact that this people raised you, and you still ended up such a great person considering their toxicity. You deserve happiness and everything good that comes your way.

Don’t call him ‘dad’ anymore. He’s not your dad, he never was to begin with.

Dude... I have watched your other videos, but never knew anything about your personal life. I'm sorry this kind of stupid stuff happened to you. I've been so down on myself and while I don't have the greatest situation, I do have loving family and I'm just now starting to get my life together at 25 with kids, doubting myself. You inspired me very much tonight Joshua. I start a job at a local firm soon an it's an entirely new environment to me. You made me realize I need to just stop being a B about it and pick my head, do it the best I can!!! Keep moving forward brother! Your family is MAD JEALOUS. YOU are successful, they aren't.

I am MORE than happy to hear you out boss. It is amazing to have a platform you can express your grievances on man. Hoping on things getting better for you dude

Who the hell did parents like that raise someone like you?! Well done for coming out of that mess a decent person.

"I can't do that to my wife. I can't do that to my daughter." But he can lie, manipulate, and give zero craps for his son. Okay

Yes, your family is seriously messed up 😮 I just discovered your channel, and I'm impressed. I lived with a mother who chose my brother over everyone, she would leave me on the elementary school steps, and then send a neighbor to get me! Her abuse was mental and emotional. It was AWFUL! it is very painful and all I can say is this takes a whole lot of strength and perseverance to endure. I applaude you!! You are a very good young man❤ Keep up the good work❤❤

I’m so sorry. This is heartbreaking. Don’t feel guilty about cutting them off.

I dunno how this video got on my feed, but I'm glad it did. This is the most intense family drama I've ever heard! I can't wrap my head around how your family members treat each other!? How did you come out so normal and able to adult properly?!? You're a miracle!!

I got my inlaws out after a year, now they have disowned us and said we are cut off, I said "awesome "! I'm cut off from what again? Paying their way, taking all their shit? Hell I'm good with that!

You're not dumb. We're all still learning. Listening to your viewers shows true humanity and I'm glad you see the wisdom in that. It's okay man, we've got your back, always.

What I've learned when it comes to family and still loving them is having boundaries is a MUST! I've had to do this with my parents and 2 of my children. If it's to hard to keep them out of your life then learning good boundaries will help you so much. It's hard in the beginning bc they don't like it but once they realize you don't budge of what you expect a person to treat you, it does get better. BUT being addicts is a different ball game. I do hope you are seeing a therapist too. You've lived a life that has trained you to accept this behavior towards you so its hard to change, on your own, what has been instilled in you. I wish you the best bud...

This man needs a huge hug. Sorry that you’re going through this manipulative situation, please be encouraged. ❤️

The KZfaq family you’ve built has got you. ❤️

I have had a lot of therapy in my life. One thing I learned is we pick our friends, not our family. Just because they are family doesn’t mean you have to be around for the toxic times. I walked away and it’s alright to do that. I would rather live by myself than to be around them. Do what you have to. Don’t feel guilty, it’s a wasted emotion!!

I feel you man. It’s rough, a lot of us have been there. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s family, it’s hard to walk away, even when you know what the deal is.

Hard to believe this is real life. Never taking my parents for granted

As a mother i just want to hug you, you are an amazing young man and have built up your career, all the while having those people try to drown you...dont feel guilty for saving yourself!!!

I feel really sorry for you, my mother is an alcoholic and she threw me out the house when I was 18 and still studying high school. Don't ever talk to them!

'Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child'. Let this video be a perfect symbol of such a quote.

All three were doing drugs. An addict will lie about everything, everything. The only reason he's calling you now is he hopes to patch up your situation, then hit you up for more money.

The hardest thing I ever heard was my therapist telling me, "Yeah, sometimes it's hard to accept when our parents aren't interested in our lives." The guilt trips are huge. Draw your lines and don't look back. You'll never find the love you're seeking from them, they aren't capable. I'm so sorry. I understand and empathize :(

I came across this heartbreaking video randomly. It's a happy miracle that you're doing as well as you are with all you've been through. You are to be admired for holding yourself together all this time. If you ever feel the need, don't hesitate to seek counseling. I've done it for lesser reasons, and it really can be of benefit. Be well my friend.

Wow, I really feel like just giving you a big hug - like just as a man and a stranger, for dealing with such insanity and absurdity of your grandparents and mother. Addiction is tough, and enabling is never the solution unfortunately.

The problem with doing nice things to people is that the moment you stop doing them they you turn into the bad guy

Instead of feeling sorry for you, I'm just gonna say YOU'RE FUCKING AMAZING. I couldn't imagine being in your shoes and being as successful as you are ever, you pulled through each and every adversity in your life. Much respect dude

I've lived through a sick narcissistic family system. Ugh. This brings back some not so pleasant memories.

My heart goes out to you. This the first video of yours that I have watched. I'm glad that you have a support system that appreciates you.

"The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents" - C.Jung

I watched this video and realized that I'm grateful that my parents, my brother, and my little sister would literally give their life for me. I think I took that for granted until I watched this video.

I just want to give this guy a big long hug

I feel for you, your story sounds rough, but sometimes we just have to see things for what it is and just cut ties with people that take advantage of us even if its family. Hope things worked out better for you in the end.

It always amazes me to see people with HORRIBLE parents grow into more pleasant and well adjusted people. You have more redeeming qualities than all of them put together. I'm sorry for your stress and thank you for sharing your story.

As someone who grew up with two extremely loving parents this makes me angry beyond words. This might not mean much but I hope you've found your peace or will find it eventually.

I had a father like that.. I really never knew my dad except for a few messed up memories that I have. People like this are all the same wether it be your parents or anyone else. It's all about them and all it has nothing to do with your feelings. Some parents are delusional and you just need to detach because it will be worse if you are around that.. Trust me!! If I told you the whole story of my life it would blow your mind. You need to take care of you right now.. Evaluate your feeling later when you are past this and you finally understand that you are right about all of this. Good luck bro! You will be OK. You are a good person and very compassionate.. Don't let people mistake your kindness for weakness. Peace out ✌

I can see the anguish and despair in this lads eyes,you gotta get on with your life mate,leave them behind,you will find someone and have your own family.Goodluck mate🤟🇦🇺

The guy that committed fraud, stole and failed to get a job yet kept asking for money: "wELcOmE tO LiFE, sOn"

Oh you will never hear an apology from narcissistic people,they do not see a problem in their behavior and this to be family is awful I have similar experience

Today I happened to be watching KZfaq and came across this video and I felt my heart break for you. The raw emotion and the pain as you're telling your story I can see the hurt and hear the anguish in your voice. As a mother myself I wanted to reach out to you to let you know that you're not alone and it's okay to let go. Don't let this tragedy define who you are and your future. You're hurt, disgusted, and feel betrayed. Rightly so! I'm a big believer in Karma and Karma doesn't have an expiration date for those who continue to live their life under a false narrative and keep up the lie for the sake of the lie. Using people and worst of all their Son is selfish. Their sense of entitlement will bite them in the ass one day and when they crash and burn you won't be there to lift them up. Their loss. On the flip side they're sick and need help but that doesn't have to come from you. You tried to help them but your job is done. You can only do so much. It's time for you to take care of yourself and find peace. It will be slow at first because you're angry but it will happen. I've been there so I can relate. My wish for you is health, happiness, love and joy. Take care

Hang in there man! I hope you have a supportive group of friends, and can find some distance from all of this.

A lot of people never been through this think its easy to just forget about your family. It's not. But by venting you are working on processing it

I just began watching your videos, and I love them. I just found this one, and I’m surprised. Your situation is near exactly like mine, man. It’s only my mother and my sister, and my grandfather is their enabler, and they all more or less said the same exact crap as your family. I haven’t spoken to all of them in about three years now. I’m sorry you went through all that. I know full well how rough it is. I hope you’re doing better now. I choose to just focus spending my time with my wife; life’s much better now.

Man, I am so sorry that this happened. I had a pretty rough time with my bio family too. I stopped talking with them. Toxic is toxic. You're so strong. Thank you for being amazing 💙💜

Narcissistic offenders always feel entitled & feel the world revolves around them.

A person being unable to say sorry is usually a very clear sign they're a narcissist

As a mother, this breaks my heart! I have toxic family members and although hard, it is better to go thru life without them. You will have your own family & will never repeat the nightmare you've lived.

I can definitely relate to your story Josh. I have gone through a similar situation with my parents and when you said "My mom chose drugs over me" I almost cried cause at the end of my situation that's what my conclusion was. I haven't talkedto my parents in about 4-5 years now and just focused on improving my life and doing well for myself. I hope anyone who is reading this that can relate to having drug addicted parents or family members remembers they are not alone and alls we can do is pray for them and hope they can do better for themselves.

when they said "boredom" that's user language for addiction. he is 100% a user as well. It is either that or he's a psychopath to let his wife and daughter do this off you and your familys money. your story helps so many people tho and you are a good person please don't beat urself up you only had good intentions.

As a mom, I can't imagine how any parent can treat their children like anything except their child! I hope you know that family can be who you want. You don't have to surround yourself with toxic people because they're related to you! I may be an internet stranger, but I'm sending you a hug and love from a Mom!

Hey Josh, please stay strong man. I can't say I've gone through similar struggles but the fact that you have your head on your shoulders after all of this shows your strength and preserverance. You are a strong man. Keep doing your best and do not bend to the bullshit.

I was "disowned" over 12 years ago. Every year my mom shoots me a happy birthday text that I never respond to. There is something inside of me that knows I should never respond or reach out to them and I am much better off without them. BUT... there will always be that sadness of what could/should have been in that romanticized fantasy version, in my head, where family loves unconditionally and always has your best interest at heart. The blood is thicker than water saying is horse shit, people are people regardless of if you met them yesterday or if they gave birth to you. What they do with the relationship is what is important and everyone has the potential to do good or do bad, regardless of "family bond". Spend your time focusing on the good relationships in your life that deserve your attention, fuck all the rest.