a saying that has helped me: "if you know your worth, you won't need to protect it"
@AHeartForHomeEducation2 жыл бұрын
“Defensiveness is pushing back; assertiveness is holding your ground”. Love it!!
@Bat_Boy Жыл бұрын
Um, it’s more about being understood. And the frustration that comes in, when someone gets you wrong. It’s not defensive to clarify.
@jmfs349711 ай бұрын
I feel better seeing this. I realize I'm a good person, but I get angry when I feel someone is projecting the worst onto me. Today I recommended teaching interns how to do a task that would be simple, but complicated enough to challenge them. In front of our director, my manager said "You are always trying to get out of doing work". I felt defensive but convicted and replied "It would be a good entry level project for interns, and we could move on to more advanced work." I felt horrible, and kind of still do. Like I said something bad to my manager...but now I realize HE said something bad to me in front of our director, by being sarcastically devaluing about my work ethic. I was honest, and perhaps noticeably upset, but I didn't say anything sarcastic or negative to my manager.
@shweetiepetina156310 ай бұрын
👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
@hatweigle22689 ай бұрын
Yes
@terrijamison91542 жыл бұрын
Selective non engagement is my favorite! Don't give away your energy to everyone! Great video!
@jmfs349711 ай бұрын
I have an OCPD manager at work, and he makes everything terrible and slow. Today I mentioned taking an entry level project and assigning it to an intern, and I said it in front of him and our director. The OCPD guy said "He is always trying to not to work." with a smirk. I don't want to be defensive, but this guy is a career killer. I responded, "No, it would make a good entry level project for interns, and free us up to do more advanced level work." I'm upset, and I don't want to be. The good thing is that the new director told us a year ago that we should be freeing ourselves of entry level work to move onto advanced work. So I didn't invent the expectation. But dang, I just want to let go of the frustration and rumination. I get home some days and I just can't stop telling him off in my head, and I just don't want to care at all. I want to save my energy and health. I want to focus my energy on all the COOL STUFF in the world, rather than this guy who is as tedious and about as useful as poorly-translated stereo instructions. I am telling myself to at least get up and away from staring at a screen. Exercise, clean the kitchen, make some hummus, make art, journal, do the advanced work I enjoy. and I don't want to be angry at myself for being angry at toxic behavior. I want it all to just drift away from me.
@chrishorbatt35042 жыл бұрын
"Get curious about it" and "what are you making that mean to you" seem to be universal coping skills!
@roxanneelsey62662 жыл бұрын
"Consider the source"was a huge eye opener for me. Thank you for one of the best videos yet!!
@sabrinaa48722 жыл бұрын
Me too!! It's a great reminder to not get defensive when I feel attacked by people who genuinely want what's best for me
@J33SS2 жыл бұрын
i love those ”agreeing” examples 😅 it’s kind of a great comeback to throw the judger off guard and be condescending right back
@Rob9mm2 жыл бұрын
These are great with folks that engage "auto-disagree". Messes them up big time!!
@poison_plays2 жыл бұрын
@@Rob9mm I think that might work well with a difficult childhood friend, whom I've been trying to decide if I want to reach out to again lately. Haven't decided if I want to try yet, but if I do, she's very much of the "auto-disagree" style, so an unexpected agreement just might win me a respite from her knee-jerk criticism now and then!
@smyrnasstory2 жыл бұрын
“Return evil for evil to no one. Take into consideration what is fine from the viewpoint of all men. If possible, as far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men”
@hatweigle22689 ай бұрын
I need to remind myself of this. Great wording!❤
@captaindan10002 жыл бұрын
One of the four agreements is "Don't take anything personally." I couldn't help but think of this during this video.
@JaysonT12 жыл бұрын
Terrible book. Nothing but new age LOA Pseudo science. Written to be a money grab and take advantage of people.
@niaselah33482 жыл бұрын
It is hard when you have spent your life in abusive enviroments. By what you say I realized I was being assertive but became defensive when that didn't work. What do you do when doing the healthy thing is not enough? How do we reconcile this teaching with creating awareness of abusive behavior? A good example can be seen in the movie Moxie. A guy is harassing the new girl. Another girl tells her not to get mad, that he is like that, that he does it to others and all she has to do is keep her head down until he moves to someone else. The new girl replies: But why should I ? In 13 reasons why, a character who was abused is told she is very resilient, to which she answers: isn't resilience another way of tolerating abuse?. I mention movies because people can see it for themselves instead of personal situations that don't allow that but in my experience society still has a very similar narrative to the abuser or an abuse serving / enabling narrative. When someone speaks up they are shamed for being a victim and told to grow a thicker skin. Other times you are invalidated by being told that you are triggered. You could be in a safe situation and something triggers you but you could be in the same sort of situations and though there are triggers , the source is not in the past but the current experience
@niaselah33482 жыл бұрын
@@joshjamesgibson Absolutely, if you can the best you can do is get out but there are situations where that is not an option. I get that even in those scenarios you can reduce engaging to the minimum but continuing exposure would not be good. That is why responsability is not only individual but collective as well
@poison_plays2 жыл бұрын
Nia, I very much identify with everything you've said here. Thank you for bringing up the scene from Moxie, I haven't heard of that movie before, and I think I'll check it out. I very much share the attitude of the girl who doesn't like the idea of putting her head down and keeping quiet until the bully finds another target. I couldn't live with myself if I did that. Like you, I've spent much of my life in abusive environments. I struggle often with what to do when assertiveness and the other healthy coping mechanisms I've learned in therapy don't help me de-escalate a difficult situation. I particularly struggle with my ex, who has recently admitted to me that she not infrequently becomes upset about something that has nothing whatsoever to do with me, then projects her bad mood onto me and lashes out with criticisms and accusations over things I haven't said or done. No matter how calm or reasonable I try to stay, she is relentlessly mean to me until her mood changes. It's frightening and she invariably hurts my feelings very badly. I'm sorry you struggle with difficult and abusive people too. It's so hard to know whether to speak up or stay quiet when you're being harmed by someone you love and who claims to love you. I think it might be one of the most difficult things in the world to try to deal with.
@niaselah33482 жыл бұрын
@@poison_plays Thank you for your kindness and understanding and also for opening up and sharing your story with me and others who I am sure going to feel less alone knowing someone else understands and that these situations happen, that it is not because of them. Without acknowledgement of all the factors involved we tend to internalize the message that is being forced on to us: that it is all our fault. We also receive the same message when the only approach is tools you can use without any other change in the environment. On the surface they seem empowering, who doesn't like the idea that everything is in their control ? That if they only do the right thing or use the healthy tool they can fix everything? It seems empowering but it actually gives you the idea that if you are unable to change it, it is your failure, your fault. After receiving the same message by the abusers, this definitely doesn't help. How we treat ourselves and how we relate to others is our responsibility in the sense that nobody can do it for us. But we are not responsible for how others treat us or the systems that enable abuse. We are responsible for stop believing the abusive narrative and using the new tools , for doing our part. But you can't fix something that is not of your making, not yours to fix. You can't fix someone else's bad behavior. The reality of the environment must be addressed. With loved ones is so hard. Just like you said. Love should not harm. Pain is inevitable but abuse should not be. I am so sorry you understand you well. You never deserved any of it. I deeply appreciate the person you have built despite cruelty. I sincerely hope life brings to you everything that you always deserved. You are going to love the movie 😘
@lttlod12 жыл бұрын
I watched this video twice this morning before I went to work. I can't tell you how much this helped me today. It's interesting when I just chill out and don't take things personally, I get the help I need. I could tell my principal saw me as more approachable and was willing to help me. It's like I know the right things to say and do but I have to hear it and reflect on it to be able to put it into practice. I can't thank you enough for making this content. I'm saving it to my fave list for sure : )
@LoriBothwell Жыл бұрын
Being a teacher is a daily trigger chamber. Hats off to you!❤
@anbathanga46602 жыл бұрын
This video is so good that I listened to it again today. The pointer that struck me most: One must consider the source of the trigger. That will help one decide on a proper course of action (e.g. walk away, just agree without resisting, level up etc.) instead of becoming defensive. Facinating! 😊
@laurenb.59502 жыл бұрын
Gonna try out the "selective non-engagement". Sometimes this is the best option! 🙏
@valeriegubitosi22782 жыл бұрын
Hiiiiiiiii! My name is Valerie and I'm fairly new to your channel but certainly not self growth. I have to say that I absolutely LOVE, LOVE , LOVE your teachings and your approach! Wow! You are AMAZING. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in the manner that you do. I'm reminded and enlightened everytime I tune in! So happy I found your channel. Looking forward to becoming a member of The Shift Society. 👍
@sherleadony53982 жыл бұрын
Great video for someone with bipolar disorder II. I struggle with fight or flight response during manic periods (choosing fight). Two takeaways for me are non engagement, which requires me to think before I act (the breath). Sounds simple and is in good times, and I like the phrase “non engagement”. When I’m feeling well, it’s easy for me to agree with a sarcastic or negative comment because I can turn it back to the person who said it. I appreciate you more than words can say!
@cpruns45012 жыл бұрын
My absolute FAVORITE thing to do in this world is to not get defensive but more than that.....pretend that you don't understand that the person is being condescending. When someone talks down to me I just take it 100% and pretend I don't notice. Then they double down and then again and I have actually drove people to mental breakdowns (for real) because I never give them the satisfaction. When you go into a situation and a person comes after you and you just let it slide off it DRIVES THEM CRAZY. If you play your cards right, you can actually drive them over the edge. It can take months or years but it's super fun. It becomes a game and once you tear someone down the first time it becomes addicting. The best part, you can never get called out. What are they going to say "He is always too nice". LOL. The moment you feel yourself getting defensive you now have an opponent. Turn it into a game and break them down piece by piece, comment by comment:)
@Nate-pt4rr Жыл бұрын
Boy do I appreciate this comment. I'll try it out.
@NotWhoYouThinkThisBe Жыл бұрын
😂 Love this. A lot.
@lifescalling80802 ай бұрын
It almost sounds like you could write a great handbook for how to be a narcissistic abuser, and totally get away with it… You must be smarter than everyone else! I’ll bet you have a lot of really deep, meaningful relationships too… 😂
@NFSMAN502 жыл бұрын
Hello my friend😊 thank you for this video, I am guilty of getting defensive when criticized. I'm learning how to handle my emotions better. Happy Holidays!!
@jeffreypollan3082 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Julia. Your videos are like a ray of sunshine.
@waqazi4702 жыл бұрын
Love your videos Julia. They really help ease my frustration with people from my past.
@hatweigle22689 ай бұрын
Yes she is awesome!!!😊
@carolanneg38192 жыл бұрын
This is a great video! 👍 this is something I want to work on because I can get defensive with members of my family and I don't want to keep getting triggered. Thanks Julia 😊
@douglasmcgregor5511Ай бұрын
These are things I wish I'd known 20 years ago. I get defensive when people call me an alcoholic. They wouldn't like it if I said that about them. I'm a human being with feelings and I matter in a healthy way. Thanks for your counselling!
@joemerenda3389 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Ironic as I am an MS in counseling pysch and have struggled with defensiveness for years. decades even. This was helpful
@izawaniek25682 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Julia for your help and support. I have noticed that gaining self-trust has helped me a lot in gaining more confidence. Have a Happy and Prosperous New Year!
@craigmerkey85182 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I am enjoying your content on vacation in S Brazil. After growing up in a family with shockingly painfully insecure members, I observe many juvenile reactions! The validation seeking makes it impossible to have a discussion. When a warm summer breeze is interpreted as an inconvenient there is no credibility. I decided in early elementary school to put my energy into positive environments,
@romeodog2011 Жыл бұрын
Hi, my name is Morgan and watched several of Julia's KZfaq shows. Here are my reflections from what I heard. Assertiveness is holding your ground. Consider the source and not engage and or roll with it and simply agree. Love that. I will be checking myself and listening to what I think. Thanks! Will be watching more!!
@kalpa_medarametla Жыл бұрын
Accept that others have choice of how they wanted to be, this puts us in ground. Understand the emotional triggers and learn what it is trying to tell us and how to heal them.
@chanpoteat303711 ай бұрын
I’ve been working on myself to just overall improve my body mindset and my marriage
@laurimitchell2548 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for just telling us that we are not bad. I feel horrible for alienating people in my life with my defensiveness.
@jeremywebster54322 жыл бұрын
That's brilliant! Roll with it. Gonna try it. I can see me doing this one.
@MissPrincess02 Жыл бұрын
This is really helpful. Could you do one from a relationship stand point to help me understand better. And do one on stand point in relationships when you take criticism as rejection and feel like you're all bad, a bad person and you don't feel like they love or like you anymore. Thank you so much.
@bestimpersonations2 жыл бұрын
You describe being triggered so well. I also love your lifting and distinguishing between defensiveness and assertiveness.
@Crazydoglady.2 жыл бұрын
"ROLL WITH IT" BRILLIANT 👏🏻
@lovingfailure6 ай бұрын
The story I'm telling myself is... Is a great tool for reframing my perspective. Also, having a shortlist of people who actually earn the right to speak into my life.
@roneeclark1329 Жыл бұрын
This advice is so easy to understand!! I relate to everything your saying. I didn’t realize it comes down to my self esteem being low. Very eye opening!!
@anbathanga46602 жыл бұрын
A good talk about how one can manage his or her thoughts when being triggered. Defensiveness is pushing back ( e.g. lashing out) but assertiveness is holding your ground (e.g. I don't speak to you like that so why are speaking to me in thus manner). Great!
@natalielinks3700 Жыл бұрын
Good morning I am new here. But I have become obsessed with her KZfaq page & videos I have found myself listening and learning & applying her advice to my life nonstop this week
@mymentorjane67052 жыл бұрын
I really like your advice about getting curious about your own defensive reactions and what you're making up about what someone said or did. Another part of my curiosity is asking questions about the other person, "What nerve did I hit in her/him? What's upsetting about what I said? What might they be afraid of? What must it be like to be so angry at me?" That part of curiosity keeps my thinking brain engaged and gives me time to calm myself down. It also helps reveal questions I might actually ask to help the conversation. Thank you.
@roberttruman844421 күн бұрын
So often it's the language we use that does half the damage. Getting curious is always the best approach. If you're someone who gets triggered easily and becomes defensive, then look at those who brought you up and you'll notice that they rarely or never approached with curiosity. They approached situations with an attitude that would judge and label people and situations before they've even investigated and discussed the event, and they always always always jump to conclusions. It makes you wonder why they just launched their third degree interrogation at you suddenly and insisted on asking you every difficult and triggering question like an election journalist grilling a politician, if all they were gonna conclude with was "oh yeah, you're just lazy etc!".
@albket18922 жыл бұрын
I misunderstand something... When is it someone hurts me and i have to Protect myself and when it is me who is defensive
@user-kj1nf2ki6p3 ай бұрын
Thank you this video has helped me to understand why I react and helped me to learn what I need to do about it ❤
@marinavor2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your videos, Julia!
@joanryan22422 жыл бұрын
Hi Im Joan from Ireland..thank you for your inspirational videos. They are sooo good!💕
@Tohfool2 жыл бұрын
I will get defensive if someone is actually threatening
@janicetelfer621128 күн бұрын
Especially if they're lying and trying to attack your character
@debbiebrisson9442 жыл бұрын
I’m A proud shifter.
@jslicky2541 Жыл бұрын
Hello, My name is Jason and I really enjoy & appreciate this discussion on this topic.
@francesbeth2077 Жыл бұрын
Excellent! Selective engagement and be assertive and not defensive. Ego being hit. I need to toughen up. No one's perfect or always right.
@Fer-De-Lance2 жыл бұрын
I was out doing something that I enjoy earlier today. I got upset about the past. Realized I had not had water in a bit. Drank some, focused on my breathing and got back to what I was doing.
@kathygarcia1833 Жыл бұрын
Hi my name is kathy , am excited to hear your teachings. I find myself in these situations alot
@kmart53179Ай бұрын
This is my 2nd video of yours that I'm watching 😊
@Random_Art822 Жыл бұрын
Hey Julia when you talked about how we take things to mean for example how someone talks to us....this reminded of a stoic quote by Marcus Aurelius.. which says everything depends on how we Interpret it. I know it's not literally true but to a certain degree it is....stoic philosophy has really helped me too to get over these things
@Fahim_Lalani Жыл бұрын
❤that is ultra helpful to believe in yourself more in fact it’s now my favorite mantra after watching your video to “believe in yourself more “ . I love these positive videos so please keep them coming friend
@Klay_Dubya4 ай бұрын
It's taken me a long time to recognize that i am jaded and defensive even when people don't have anything against me. I am my own biggest bully and more often than not i project my insecurites on the people i care about. I'm so worried about what everyone else is doing that i dont know how to be myself by myself without resorting to being terrible to myself.
@D.Lee.W2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia.
@janghardy Жыл бұрын
I have to set my boundaries. I do my best to doing it with self respect and respecting others. It is when the boundaries get pushed with the same person. Then for me I done with out lashing out.. . It is self preservation
@eugenew36162 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@minggi_5 ай бұрын
If someone is showing favouritism and blantly ignore you and doesn't invite you to eat is a reflection of them. Something bitter on them that manifested but I'm not gonna let that offend me. Just a current feeling I'm processing with and learning that I will not let it get to me. I was very hurt and was watching your video and thinking what is the right way to think and so i just typed what I thought was right to do
@felishawyatt2849 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much I really needed this, so happy I watch this video because I been getting defensive for a long time
@Tjsamborski3 ай бұрын
Great stuff. Thanks ❤
@christopherrosado60535 ай бұрын
"Being present" Shoulders back, chin up and smile, upon entering any situation. Speak to the mountain [ problem ?], make it a mole hill. I did, and am doing this....in my environment. I find Peace but the pause and direct one- one with individuals [ mountains of stress], I communicate problem solve, and thus try find center. If, wrong, I yield, but, if correct just " stare", and observe, await communication from other, " what's the problem " thus they " stumble ", and large issues are resolved amicably, My presence makes these narcissistic " flying monkeys " , run....like being pick on...." lunchroom [ ..as a kid] Standing up to bullies, and not being loud, but, direct, and clear... I did this...[recently], and will continue....in this upside down society. My voice matters....my voice...makes the mountains into a mole hill. Peace
@gloriazarate99832 жыл бұрын
Gloria, Phoenix, AZ!
@hezroncalucag28662 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing
@shusain72332 жыл бұрын
Thank you and happy new year 2022 to you and all the survivors here.
@christinapadron75492 жыл бұрын
Being in an abusive mentally and emotionally and physically to isolation from family for yrs has took a toll on me due to these circumstances being defensiveness has been one of my traits but I look like what has been done or said was as if I was the problem by that
@marybartasis68542 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for that teaching!!! Oh so helpful.. grateful FOR you ❤❤❤
@pamelabarrell31532 жыл бұрын
Makes so much sense thank you again as always ♥️
@roberttruman844421 күн бұрын
I grew up with several very toxic people who did not have my best interests at heart and subtly talked down to me, made fun of, didn't take seriously, devalued me, and actively chipped away at my sense of reality and worth. This created defensiveness in me which spread out to the other areas in life. Since I became fully self aware and started working on growth this problem has reduced a lot. The only occasions where I find myself acting defensively is when talking with these toxic fuckers. They don't make a civilised debate or polite dispute, oh no. They like to take you by surprise and they always jump out at me and throw accusations and opinions at me that they know will trigger me, but the talk at speed and they shout loud and create a frantic sense of panic in me. It's a tactic, they want me to become defensive so they can get an easy win. I know this because I when I am able to spot the trap ahead of time and stop myself from reacting, I will slow down my pace and I will call out their attempt to manipulate the situation or provoke me into a toxic reaction, and they get noticably angry when I pull back and regain my composure. The other day one relative was criticising me and kept trying to assume something about me that was not correct, and put words in my mouth to back up their opinions. I stopped and calmly said "That's unfair, please don't put words into my mouth". The relative couldn't go any further, plus they knew that they could no longer rely on one of their favourite manipulation techniques and they quickly went into silent mode. It seems insane that there are people out in the world who are aware of unhealthy behaviours such as defensiveness, and they will actually try to provoke and encourage it.
@melliecrann-gaoth47893 ай бұрын
Helpful thank you
@HisLotusFlower29 ай бұрын
I'm new here, but this is amazing info! So glad I found your channel! Thank you!
@jonsalmon235210 ай бұрын
This was so valuable, I'm grateful
@chas4x42 жыл бұрын
This is a big thing I need to learn I get defensive all the time this isa big help
@panda59043 Жыл бұрын
Hi, I'm tom. Your tone of voice is soothing 😊
@zhangs4667 Жыл бұрын
Love your lesson❤
@melissasue33282 жыл бұрын
Girl you nailed this video! I love your content
@tamarafox4292 жыл бұрын
You helped me so much 100% when I trailered my 🐎 🐴 🐎 🐴 cross country so much and we love you 😍
@hatweigle22689 ай бұрын
May we remain assertive in these situations. I struggle I guess because of an insecurity
@melissagraham45697 ай бұрын
Great stuff! Thank you! So helpful.
@MariaSantos-gm7ps2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@dalecrosby4479 Жыл бұрын
I'm 6'5" and weigh 325 pounds. I get defensive when people call me "big guy" "big dog" or "big fella". When I put thought into why that's so triggering for me it's because I was a fat kid. I was bullied, made fun of and ostracized for being fat. Because of all of this I developed an insecurity about my size. So I'm guessing when people call me "big guy" it takes me back to my childhood when I was bullied.
@joeythebushkangaroo111 ай бұрын
I was the smallest girl in a school of 800 kids at high school,only 4ft,4 Stone. I'm 5'.3" now & shortest in family. I've been called a midget & realised it's all relative.... but when I'm around tall people I feel like a midget,lol. I often say they are giants,no offence ever meant.I was always scared of taller people. I totally understand that "big boy" may trigger u but unless people know your history it is not meant to be insulting. I would gladly take some of your height.
@TX.Cat.Whisperer2 жыл бұрын
8:24 that's where it "starts"
@SuperCarottesRapees2 жыл бұрын
Great video; thank you!
@tamarafox4292 жыл бұрын
Julia wolves are pack animals and look out for the pack . Xoxo Your awesome ! ❤ 💙 💜 💖 💗
@101hamilton2 жыл бұрын
I just discovered your channel and great content! This is a very helpful video. Thank you for posting.
@mohamedsalimkassim5240 Жыл бұрын
Salàams Julia Kristina thank you shukran ❤️
@mansourhassen1555 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, your video is eye opening god bless
@tadiwanashemkruswa665410 ай бұрын
Just found your face to be friendly and I think I can get something out and stop being sooo defensive
@jcunningham230818 сағат бұрын
I wish you had a helpful hint sheet for me to leave on my coworkers desk. She's highly defensive and perceives everything said to her as an attack.
@user-yy4pb4mu2y7 ай бұрын
Great video 😊
@shirleyhunt52752 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Very helpful , Thank you
@Checkyourselfatthedoor Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. ❤
@tswaana Жыл бұрын
Great insights. Please pause more so the listener can absorb and reflect on your words
@keriburwell1111 Жыл бұрын
I like this video when dealing with people who may be coworkers or just making rude comments. But I'm also worrying that if someone is so defensive that when a significant other brings up real issues to discuss that they use some of these tactics to avoid addressing or being accountable to relationship issues. Really defensive people seem to have a hard time hearing others hurts and can be minimizing, dismissive, and shift blame as a way to cope. So I wish there was a distinction between the types of causes of defensiveness because I worry that someone could conclude that it's ok to ignore or walk away when it's a legitimate relationship issue and cause further damage to their partner.
@terriwhalen79882 жыл бұрын
Excellent
@tamarafox4292 жыл бұрын
Dumps cortisol, in system too . Your wise
@cindyjohnson4378 Жыл бұрын
Very informative! Thank you
@adriangibson31532 жыл бұрын
May you have a happy New Year Julia! 😊
@nadiaseelbach18542 жыл бұрын
I have a very same issue with my partner who talks to me with a belittling and aggressive voice (when he actually acts defensive himself, lol) and I told him many times that I’m not ok with that, I don’t like it, and instead he says that he does not do anything wrong (and acts even more defensive because considering to be judged). And this is the way how we start arguments and ruminate. Any ideas how to act? I tried to ignore, but it makes it even worse. It makes me think of breaking up, because I feel ignored and disrespected.
@josephzanders6202 жыл бұрын
Thanks Julia you saved me....
@dwaynedouglas42982 жыл бұрын
I am so Happy I found you tonight
@MS-ns4ki Жыл бұрын
I openly admitted to others something I have been struggling with, and I feel they used it against me.