14:25 - "Possible to start mitigating attachment within marriage/how" - I think that the concept of PD's can be a useful tool here for better understanding general, non-clinical attachment problems. After studying PD's enough to know that I actually don't really know anything about PD's, I'd like to state that what I think I know is that, while the vast majority of PD presentations are subclinical and not full-blown PD's, identifying the flavor so to speak of attachment wound may be a good step. Each PD category seems to be a response to a certain type of early attachment wound (I was abandoned - BPD, I was ignored - HPD, I was insulted - NPD), or "flavor". Even though we're most likely not talking about about clinically relevant maladaptive behaviors (certainly not in the general population), it's potentially possible that identifying that baseline archetype may be helpful in getting more information on that core wound. So for example, each "flavor" has different attachment triggers, so identifying what behaviors trigger that wound could maybe reduce negative incidents. If the perfectly healthy person happens to have attachment trauma where they were abandoned early in childhood, you might notice that hey, they lash out and get angry when they feel like they're being abandoned, but as long as that particular, specific trigger isn't there, everything is fine. So in that case we would be talking about the BPD flavor, but we certainly wouldn't necessarily be entertaining clinical diagnosis of any kind. If I remember right, this way of thinking about it-in scales not diagnoses-was part of the reason they wanted to supposedly take PD's out of the DSM V. Not because you can't make a clear delineation between full-blown pd and not-pd, but because the existence of that label as a severe disorder sort of muddies the water such that to even utter the word BPD or NPD or HPD is essentially a crime unless you have a really, really good reason to say that word. With the scales conceptualization, the labels can be thought of as a color wheel basically. Everyone most likely falls into at least one of these categories and we use these categories to understand flavor in a qualitative sense. Then the clinical process is used to determine the quantitative information to identify need for therapy/medication and so on.

I really love this topic please I am interested to talk about it more.

Really great! I love what you did at about mid-video. Very unexpected but educational.