Jamie this was unexpectedly wholesome in the weirdest of ways thank you

Agame 1573 you’re welcome my little sunbeam ☺️

Jackson Smith haha cute

Did she kill it?! "Nasty sponge always in way, I kill you!"

This just made me chuckle about your cat . great distraction :p

Wish I could heart react this .

10/10 yes

I was legit in the bathroom a few minute ago and got so angry at my eyebrows just because they were to clean to be boy's.

Yeah there's a HUGE mirror in my corridor and when I'm felling bad I don't even raise my head.

I'm totally pre-med transition and I literally work in a restaurant covered in mirrors. It's fucking torture lol

...circle hair??

my family literally told me my hair is getting too long and that i 'look like a girl' when i was starting to feel comfortable with how i looked too :sob:

Thats so freaking relatable- omfg that makes sense but doesnt at the same time

CIRCLE HAIR AHAHFHEHFH SAME

Me a mesmerized cis girl: circle hair...

YES

YES 😭 I HATE IT

YES I GET THAT ALL THE TIME

BRUH ME HOLY CRAP I THOUGHT I WAS JUST DUMBBBB

OMGOG YES

Ryan Knuckles Literally me

Nobody: Dysphoria: Lmao your neck though

Me: Dysphoria: lmao ur elbows doe

nobody: dysphoria: lmao wheres your acne

Nobody: Dysphoria: the way you breathe is weird try to not breathe

it takes and it takes and it takes

But we keep dying anyway

And if there’s a reason why I’m non-bin, and all the pain thrives

Then I’m willing to wait for T

@@alessand_ro Wait for it, wait for it, wait for it, wait for it!

^^^ this

Cis guys walk with their shoulders swinging instead of their hips. When walking, try to practice keeping your hips pointed forward and your shoulders will automatically swing to compensate :) Hope this helps

I wonder if gay cis males also walk “stronger”. XD

Yep same whenever I walk around at school this happens

THIS

Thanks same here- xD i cant breath im laughing so hard

@Zodore also y e s

oh my god yes This made my day

ain't no one peeing at my Jungwoo

I even *heard* it like that and was confused for a sec xD

It's so ridiculous I'm more dysphoric about my ass and eyebrows than my (lack of a) dick

Alphabetical Order i thought i was the only one with eyebrow and ass dysphoria... i’m probably the only one with eyelash dysphoria though lol

@@alphabeticalorder168 I thought it was only me

My disphoria is a bit like that

Chelsey Davidson see I’m ftm but like if I like something and if something turns out to be branded for girls I’m just turned off of the item

Like Amanda when Connor breathes

abso-fucking-lutely. I always kinda die inside as I scream inside about how lucky they were to be born in the right body and to be happy in life as well.

@@vraccraccoon2543 Same thought... As much as I hate female puberty, I seem to think that male puberty is a blessing 😂😂

Same! And I have a twin brother that's going through puberty and I'm so fricken jealous

@@idiomatic444 hearing his voice deepen, watching him suddenly grow so much taller, seeing his shoulders broaden, hairs sprout, I understand you mate

Ugh I hate that. Just casually being connected to a gender group you don't belong to. The worst thing is that you can't really even correct it, because it would feel like I'm interupting a conversation that was totally not about me just to point it out.

Can you talk to them about it? If they're truly your friends the should understand.

I’m bigender and it’s weird I don’t feel too much dysphoria towards being male but I feel a lot of dysphoria towards not being female, if that makes sense. So I feel weird about gender groups as well, just in a slightly different way in that I feel like I belong to both but don’t belong as well and it’s super awkward

call it a mate date /hj

Tbh, I remember having a sleepover with my cousins and my best friend, they did makeup but i did not want too but of course, when you have a mom who tells you that your friends want to have fun with you and it is just one time, you have no choice but, I stayed playing games on the computer while everyone else was doing the sleepover. I never liked sleepovers or tea parties tbh.

I'm a total crybaby lol

I'm 5....'1

@@leviathanspirit3185 I'm 5'2

Hey I'm a cis gender female who's 5'6 and found out I like guys my height! I specifically dislike dating tall guys - I didn't realize till I tried both. Also loved being able to try on clothes for my cis male ex to find out if they'd fit him :p

Alsooo there's a comedian who specifically hates small guys with tall girls but now she's dating a very short guy :p and loves him just the same. Just saying, even born as a guy you could easily be short and this wouldn't be a dysphoric issue but a being issue. I'm not invalidating okay :) just trying to tell your brain that it's a cis thing too so it doesn't make you different than cis people. Sorry if this rant is annoying instead :p

Same, at least I think so. I remember in 3rd grade just thinking something like, "wouldn't it be much nicer if I could just slit my throat and release my soul from my body." That makes me sound depressed as heck, and some of the other things I thought about in third grade would also make you think I was depressed, but I don't think I actually started being depressed until sixth grade.

Interesting. I'd imagine I'd maybe get the same but idk anyone with my deadname

Ah yes that's horrible. But I'm slowly starting to forget it I think.

yeh im lucky in the sense my deadname is quite rare and ive not met someone with it but if i did i wouldnt be able to talk to them at all

i’m the same and the worst thing is she’s also my friend :/

Same. At my class there is a girl with my second name and it makes me dysphoric

same :-(

Is there like a male and female way to breathe?

Same, it just sounds feminine. I cant really explain it but yeah

@@idiomatic444 omg I feel you, but it's literally impossible to understand if you're not trans lmao

@@kerokeroppii yeah

luna wolf I always love when people ask that bc it means I’m not passing either way

Bathrooms are always 💀 when you're n-b lmao

B-atiful! It’s not hard go to the bathroom with your biological gender (your only gender) on it

@@Sea-zu4bj no not rly... It can actually cause dysphoria

Nino Lomidze deal with it if you go the wrong bathroom u make others uncomfortable

Bluestem oh, that sounds so hard! Good luck with that conversation!

How did it go?

I'm so sorry I'm quite late but I hope that that went well for you ^_^

Good luck! I hope he sees you for you, not just your gender ❤️

How has it gone so far?

I thought that was just me

Me too! I have really big thighs and thick calves despite being an average weight. It makes me feel disgusting and weird.

Yea me to

same :'(

As a trans girl, same. I really should hit the gym if I want thighs

Me freaking too!

Oh what a big, big mood. My handwriting is super looped and swirled and I hate it so much. I desperately want to change it but ahhhh I just can't, it's etched into my brain to write like this. Typing too, apparently my typing comes across as really "girly" which just doesn't sit great with me

@@goatking2983 I'm sorry to hear that buddy. Hopefully, we can learn to cope with our dysphoria one day

@@Alex-blue-bianchi hopefully man, hopefully

My handwriting was really curly and fell into that "girly handwriting". What it helped me a lot was trying to change just one letter at a time, it took me almost 6 months to change all the letters that made me feel wrong but it was much more effective that trying to change everything at once. What I did was to pick a letter, write it in a lot of different ways until I found one that didn't make me feel bad and started using it and maybe in a week or two my brain was almost used to write it the new and nicer way. I hope this can help you guys c:

My (cis) boyfriend has a fancy handwriting that you usually don't expect from a guy. It's is curly and straight at the same time. I think it's cool when guys can write like that. I just wanted to share this because it might make you guys feel a bit better :)

Ooooh I feel you, we don't have a gender neutral pronouns in ucranian as well

I feel you on so many levels..

I feel this too. Especially the nose!The nose dysphoria is real. Mine is small and when I was a kid I used to hold it down with a spoon in the hopes that it would grow down more lmao. Needless to say that didnt work. But our noses keep growing as we age, that's the good thing!

shit dude I see so many things like this that just sorta make me realize like "Shit, i kinda have dysphoria over that too and i just ignored it" like my eyes are very feminine, i only wear white socks (because colored ones are too feminine), posture, walking, sitting, lip balm and/or rather the felling that I shouldn't use it because yknow, feminine I guess, etc. dont like apologize or anything!! Most of these things bothered me before and like its almost sorta validating that someone else gets dysphoria over these things (but i'm sorry you have dysphoria!!! it fucking sucks kjsfhal!! Im not wishing dysphoria on you or anyone it just like oh someone else gets that too!!)

@@gavinpotter9286 bassoons are so cool! I feel like all woodwinds (except saxophones and very occasionally clarinets) are female dominated. But I play the manliest instrument of all: the flute.

@@gavinpotter9286 I guess brass is seen as being more masculine because it's louder and more blaring, while woodwinds can be quieter and more mellow sounding

Urgh i hate my hips

*-sighs...-*

Omg I fucking hate those fat pieces of meat!

Yeah my hips and my chest is the worst neck would be a close second

Same I constantly wish mine were wider but no I’ll always have the shoulders of an NFL linebacker

Thank you so much. I experience more euphoria than dysphoria, so I often question. I feel euphoric about binding my chest, my hair, presenting more masculine, but I only experience slight dysphoria. I could wear bras instead of binders, but Id rather not, bc i like how flat my chest feels and looks.

I feel like this is more an nb thing tho

The ONLY criteria for being trans is GENDER DYSPHORIA. If you don’t have this, you are not trans. There is no gender euphoria criteria.

Late comment, not just me who feels high amounts of dysphoria and a small amount of euphoria right?.. Right..?

@@ilikeice450 There is no right way to be trans! There's no correct percentage of dysphoria to euphoria that you need in order to be valid. Whatever you are feeling is real and if you identify as transgender then you are, simple as that.

Calen Winn this is such a good idea!!

I don't even think thats a thing, it's just relief of not feeling dysphoric in certain moment

@@himei4004 Not discounting your experience, but I have been told directly by trans people that gender euphoria is a distinct thing and a result of certain confirmations and affirmations of a persons gender.

@@thegaythespian It's definitely a thing, and as a trans person I experience it.

It’s definitely a thing! I experience it, but it goes hand in hand with dysphoria

Really, the biggest answer to this is dOn'T fUcKiNg pOiNt iT oUt! Yes, my nose is small and my jaw is weak. Yes, my thighs are huge and my feet are tiny. Yes, my skin is soft and my hands are half-sized. If you know someone is trans, don't point out anything that could cause them dysphoria. Chances are they already know about it, and if they didn't, GREAT! Now they do.

@@Someone-gn4st but as Jamie stated, some people experience dysphoria over strange things, and others do not experience dysphoria over stereotypical things.

Skylar, your best bet is to lead the conversation away from what is causing dysphoria. E.g. if your friend brings up how his hands are too small or her body hair is too thick, a hug (or other show of friendly support, my guy friends would rather punch each other in the arm), affirmation of their gender (doesn't make them any less of a man/woman), and then talk about an upcoming event or a shared hobby.

@@socialdeviant13 I know. I have bad dysphoria over my lips and fingernails. But just as a general rule, don't draw attention to the stereotypical things because a lot of people (including me) are dysphoric about them.

@@Someone-gn4st personally, sometimes I struggle to know exactly what could cause dysphoria. obviously i know to avoid all the big ones, but I would never have thought to avoid talking about someone's hands before this video,.

I think that's dysphoria. When I have my shirt off in the mirror I like to adjust the mirror and stand so the angle is above the chest and it's just my shoulders. It looks like a male shirtless body and makes me feel slightly better before my shower.

I feel the same way!! I’m 13 and people say it’s just puberty and my sexuality is just a phase or I haven’t met the right person. (I’m ace/aro and maybe non bianary)

For me I'm confused about my gender because when I see my body, it DOES feel like my body, but the thing is... I feel like I interpret my body differently than others. They call certain body parts things I don't interpret them as. I know objectively what I'm looking at in the mirror, but it doesn't feel like it's truly what I'm looking at. But.. I also don't really care if I'm referred to as she or not. I hate being called a woman, lady, ma'am, or miss.. love being called 'sir..' I think I'm neutral, if not just ever so slightly uncomfortable, with being called 'girl.' Neutral toward being called he/him. And if someone calls me a man or a boy, it doesn't gross me out like with woman or lady, but it feels like I'd be... lying to them? By letting them think that? Well, more like if I told them I was a boy, I feel like I'D be lying to them. And if they tell someone else I am, I'd be lying to the person they're telling it to by letting them say that. I can't tell if I just hate my body and being called a woman reminds me of it, or if I'm trans and my mind just won't let me view myself as male (or nb) due to I guess internalized transphobia and that's why I don't get gender euphoria. The ONLY gender euphoria I get is being called sir. That feels great.

TeA👏🏻👏🏻

YES PLEASE SCHOOL DO THIS FOR OUR SAKE!!! (Is now thinking of mentioning this in my presentation to the teachers at my school) {The presentation is about gender and pronouns, it’s supposed to help the teachers understand us better. And give them some more gender accepting language to address their classes with. So they stop say “Ladies and gentlemen” because I know plenty of kid in the school who are NEITHER, me included. Few examples for any teachers out there: General: Students, people, humans, children, folks, ext. Science: scientists (all I have for now...) Language arts: Writers, readers, (all I have for now) Math: Mathmatitions (sorry can’t spell, also all I have for now) Art: Artists, painters, sculptors, ext. PE: gymnasts, runners, athletes, ext. And there are more classes but, this is a lot... (I write books but this is a lot?) My presentation is March 8th so maybe next year I’ll do this for other schools as my high school community project. And slowly we will get better at accepting people. Although my family might be the last I work with on this, I’m not looking forward to their reactions........

@@wolfkid4297 are you not out yet?

lightningmcgee queen, well kind of... a teacher emailed my parents (I didn’t even tell this teacher) I wasn’t ready to tell the yet, but I was forced to anyway, they yelled at me, a lot. But I didn’t really expect anything else from them, honestly the whole family is only ever yelling... then they ignored it, and pretend nothing ever happened. So I brought it up again, well I wrote a letter kind of this and left it at my parents door before I went to school. Then when I got home I was told that my mom’s sister died, so... I was ignored again... Although this time she said she’d try, but not right then because her sister had died. I haven’t brought it up with my parents again after that, but I did talk to my siblings, my sister is really the only one who is actually trying, and I’m glad she is. So yeah I guess I’m out, but some people in my family don’t care, and others are very unhappy about it, and then theirs my sister. I’m glad I have her, but she and I never really got along, just like the rest of my family... It’s just a huge mess, but I mean I’m physically save at least, although from an emotional point of view I honestly don’t know, then again that has nothing to do with being out, now does it? Well have a nice night/day!

@@wolfkid4297 oh man thats crazy. Im sorry. I never did have the courage to come out so im still waiting, but I know my Christian grandma will not be happy about it :/ Im hoping your family comes around soon once they understand have a good night/day

Oh god now I’m going to have that nightmare

Ah, dude, no that’s horrifying. I have nightmares where I am repeatedly misgendered by my friends.

I had a nightmare where I was finally on testosterone my voice was dropping but then my voice went back to how it is now and it’s terrible

I once had a dream about having a p*n1s and when I woke up from that dream I felt dysphoric for the whole day lol

omg same wtf

I can literally have a break down about that sometimes

Shit, this just reminded me oof

@Josephine Montalvo yeah but I'm gay and a bottom so the trade-off really isn't worth it

SAME WTF

I agree. also my collarbone gives me dysphoria.

Your English is perfectly normal, don't worry

@@valkeakirahvi OwO Thank you UwU

Same, it's confusing :/

i like strangers/people online using she/her pronouns, but i don't like my family using any pronouns

@@abandonedchannel1290 i feel the same way, i thought i was the only one! i love when strangers use he/him or they/them pronouns but i feel really uncomfortable when my family uses any pronouns.

I kinda relate to this. Also I am kinda comfortable with seeing my chest as long as I don't think about it, but if I stand in front of the mirror, looking at those two things just hanging there on my body it weirdly feels like they are just glued on or something and I could easily take them off. Then I hate that they aren't even a bit smaller because it is nearly impossible to hide your breast if they are bigger than size d which makes it very difficult for me to experiment with a more masculine presentation because everyone will just see me as a girl.

I have something similar to this. I want to be called by he/they and I feel like I’m too feminine for that. I’m in the closet though so I can’t really do anything like bind or cut my hair. Online whenever I get called by he I get a ton of euphoria and I’m really happy. But in real life it just doesn’t seem as I pass as male/masculine / you have to look masculine to use he/him

Same

my sister said there was no way i liked men and that i must be a harcore lesbian or something. like, ,,no???

same this person my friend is friends with always calls me a lesbian because of how "masc" i am (lol weird stereotype that lesbians are masculine) and im just- i dont have anything against wlws im just not a lesbian and i dont like being looked at as a girl

wow. i tought i'm the only one who experienced and felt like this. :')

mum tried to force me to come out saying she knew i was a lesbian i’m trans masc and i like guys

Me too

oh yeah man for sure, my hands are the daintiest things, i always feel like theyre a beacon that im trans ldkfj

My feet kill me >:| they’re a men’s size 5 my hands are pretty rough though so I can ignore em sometimes even though they’re small

I like my height (5'3" and a half) but it's like I get social dysphoria iver this physical thing. I wouldn't want to be taller, but I hate that, it makes me so easily clocked as AFAB. What helps me with it and might help you guys is just looking up some short cis male celebrities.

@lee the Asian yo same XD but hey it’s small enough to be kids sometimes so I can get expensive men’s shoes cheaper 😂

I personally don't mind nicknames like that but I understand how that'd be dysphoric. I'm Scottish and my Mum calls everyone "hen" so ig I'm just used to it.

Oh dang, I'm southern in the US and use hon, love, buddy/bud, and stranger, as well as the classic "sweetie" all as gender neutral, I had never considered someone being upset by that as an afab guy myself. Something for me to keep in mind, ty!

nahh i get it

No. It isn’t. Words have meaning, in this case, medical meaning.

Karma Kitty me too 😭💓

Robin Hosking I wish you the best of luck!🏳️‍🌈💕 I hope you start soon so you can look like the gender you really are

@karmakitty Same here :/

Madison Jones I’m sorry to hear that I wish you all the best! Your gonna be a beautiful girl!💕

Thank you. I hope you get your HRT soon too. Xx

Oh,so now we're gendering LINES?

in the same boat here but from the other side. while i can't say I've figured myself out i'm making progress for the longest time it felt like there were two of me one who was okay with being male with some one else sharing my body who wanted to be female she only came out when i was lonely when i had my thoughts to myself. a few years ago the distinction between my "2 selves" broke-apart and now i find it harder and harder to cope but i've re-examined myself and i think that i never actually liked being male i just put up with it and finally after all these years i can't fight the feelings i shoved to the back of my mind any more. think about if you actually like being a girl or if your simply okay with it it's entirely possible that you don't hate being a girl simply because you feel like you shouldn't and are holding back your real feelings.

@@rayshiotile9487 i'm super happy that you're figuring it out!!:) and yeah i do think it's more of a "well it's not the worse" situation than me actually liking being this gender, but i'm so terrified of letting myself explore something else.. thanks for your answer

Like Iva said, it's possible you could be genderfluid, I'm genderfluid and the pronouns thing sounds a lot like my thoughts on pronouns, but you might not be. I hope you figure it out, and good luck!

You might be genderfluid. I'm not genderfluid but I did experiment with being genderfluid before realising I was a trans guy.

Dysphoria doesn't necessarily come all at once, for me especially it was very slowly manifesting itself. Although, I realized I was trans when I was like 11, so before I really got dysphoria from anything except clothes. I'd leave it for a while and see how you think of yourself in a year or so, then decide who you are when you feel ready.

i thought i was the only one! i get that too. i feel like my personality is stereotypically feminine ):

I understand. I've been out for a little over a year now, but my parents still don't want me talking about my pronouns in public. I also have depression, and I agree that dysphoria can feel like a downward spiral. As hard as it seems, your best bet might be to talk it out with your mom. By the way I read the situation, your mom really does have your best interests at heart.

Anna Homophobia Slayer the depression could be why want people to say something your not

That's my exact situation, but with my dad instead of my mom.

Exact same situation, pal.

Exactly the same with me, I hope you’re doing better now!!!

Ironic though XD

Dxylesia is weird. Ps. I purposefully turned off autocorrect.

She knows better! She knows that her body is normal! You must learn this too!

almost everyone here knows how it be like. you’re not alone in this struggle. we’re with you -an enby

All i want is bottom surgery, top surgery and still have my original curves, and testerstone for deep voice (if i have a deep voice i can have the ability to troll ppl w a high girly voice) I'm a transgender femboy

Hi, so I'm not trying to be rude, and I realise it may be autocorrect , but generally transgender is written as one word. Thanks for taking the time to understand though, I'm in no way trying to attack you for a simple mistake. Have a good day:)

Ur a lively person

I'm gay plus transgender

OH and people like... holding doors open and pulling chairs out for me makes my feel like shapoopy

@@mangosalsa3146 Both are perfectly legitimate. Kind regards!

Same my nose is so tiny it looks so feminine

There is nothing odd about that. It’s perfectly valid. I’m sorry you’re experiencing dysphoria. X

He said in another video that testosterone made his nose wider! There's hope

... Actually they are the same thing! And they are wrong! What is wrong with being seen as what you physically are?

I know that feeling....😢

My name is yoshikage kira hahahaha

Relatable, lol

Well about that little bit of stomach chub: testosterone doesn't help.

I love the words "warm fuzzies"!!

About hand dysphoria, I find that stretching my fingers and like, tensing them so I can see the tendons is pretty good. Idk how you experiance hand dysphoria tho so it may help, but it may not..

I'm getting my first binder tomorrow!

My ex boyfriend (cis) had very 'feminine' hands, so it makes me feel better and you should all too. Guys don't all have the same set of hands!

Maybe wearing male accessories like those chunky biker rings could help? Or dunking them in a bowl of warm/hot water to make the veins pop out... Filling down your nails to make them really short... This one might be weird but cracking your thumb? Cause you have to stretch it out and for some reason it might help. Any sort of manual work could make your hands a bit rougher too... Or you could try gently filing the sides of your fingers' joints and your palms from time to time to make the skin feel rougher.

Kayl Ball same! I’m only 5’2 and it bothers me a lot

Kayl Ball I felt this

Im 5'4

Kayl Ball I’m 4”11 it’s okay

5 and 1/4

the most wholesome comment aw

Mikah Kilgore what do u mean “fluctuate”

C M I mean that it changes in intensity a lot. My dysphoria is never the same from day to day.

Me and my schools senior leadership team it seems

When they talk about the unwritten rules of using a urinal.. like try keep space from eachother and keeping your eyes forward haha