Gave Him Lobola Money To Marry Me

Gave Him Lobola Money To Marry Me - Ntando

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Ай бұрын

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@vanessazwane5660 Ай бұрын

This lady deserved an interviewer with sympathy because this guy seems like he just wanted izindaba but showed no emotion at all. My heart goes to you beautiful woman of God ❤❤❤I’m happy to see you being a living testimony , may the Lord continue to pour His love on you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@faithing88 Ай бұрын

He allowed her to vent. When they ask questions others complain You are please people so relax

@BK-lf1nw Ай бұрын

I hated it, how do you laugh and say “people are crazy hey” when someone speaks of how they were kidnapped and raped as a child

@bongisbongile332 Ай бұрын

@@BK-lf1nwdts my feeling too😪

@sindisiwenodada5424 Ай бұрын

I think he did a good job. Sometimes, it's good to be listened to without questions, and it makes one feel better

@ratimabuse547 Ай бұрын

his laugh after she told him of her rape ordeal gave me the creeps

@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 Ай бұрын

Thank You Justify and Thank y'all for watching. Thank you for your kindness and beautiful words 🫂❤️😭

@RoseTsupa Ай бұрын

❤❤

@emmanuelshangase6790 Ай бұрын

Ay sisi I literally cried while watching this story 😢 . I have four girls and your story just triggered the very fear I have everyday about my daughters. I pray that you find healing 🙏

@pamelamanjezi9932 Ай бұрын

God loves you mama and I love you too ❤ sending you hugs and kisses mommy.

@zandilemhlongo6854 Ай бұрын

You are beautiful my love . Never doubt yourself.

@CbosEasyRecipes7 Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@ZinjaZegame-iy2nj Ай бұрын

This lady’s story is so important for parents to hear! It was tough growing up with ignorant parents. The interviewer must sharpen his skills. Why would you lough, and giggle like that? I am sending this lady so much love and healing! ❤️❤️

@dnm123203 Ай бұрын

I just want to hug Ntando. She did not deserve any of this. What a beautiful, actual exquisite, and is clearly despite her pain, is so internally beautiful. I am so glad you are alive to tell the tale. You got this.

@katlego5077 Ай бұрын

To every black person who has undergone trauma as a child, baby work hard & take yourself to therapy. Relieve your childhood and heal yourselves. Take yourself to every place you wished as a child. Because we make the mistake of looking for healing in other broken people , and re-traumatize the child & adult in us. All the best to this beautiful lady

@faithsdollsville2662 Ай бұрын

You absolutely explained why she made the decisions she made. Coming from a video that criticised her actions as an adult only to hear what happened to her at 16 shows how as society we are quick to judge people on their decisions and actions. I somehow feel the host was insensitive when he chuckled and asked her to repeat about the knife. I wish she was interviewed by The CentTwinz for that part or another show hosted by a woman. It’s hard to listen further. May she find healing.

@olgamohatle9219 Ай бұрын

You're so right!

@katlego5077 Ай бұрын

@faithsdollsville2662 yeah I couldn't believe the interviewer thought that was funny. I think he just wanted the scoop & missed an opportunity to be more sensitive. But the lady will heal the more she talks about her experience. I have never tried Cent Twin, will look up the channel. I hope she really truly forgives herself and kinder to herself. I just wanted to hug her !

@faithsdollsville2662 Ай бұрын

@@katlego5077indeed she will heal. You should also check when they started it as the guests relating their experiences without an interviewer. You get to hear mostly what you typed above. It’s called “I’ve Been Through The Most” those testimonies gives us the viewers/listeners a sensitivity and understanding of how differently the world has hurt others. So we should not judge nje.

@SamukelisiweMsomi-xy5fj Ай бұрын

I am struggling everyday mtanasekhaya they is a lot going on never had a chance of being a child, don't know what a siblings and the parents relationship is. Never had a chance to meet my father not even sure if that's woman who left me with her mother was my biological mother because of hatred she had towards me😭😭😭😭😭. I worked so hard to build my future l studied and graduated without parents..... And here l am today relocated from KZN to Western Cape trying to get help ,breathing through oxygen concentration support machine, 😭😭😭😭. I am so touched and l just realised now that most of my wounds are old but they are still bleeding.

@Wenzy_Royal Ай бұрын

Childhood trauma is actually dangerous because it changes how you perceive yourself. It allowed other people to warp her perception of herself and make her feel ugly. She's a beautiful woman who didn't have a place to belong and from what I hear never felt at home with anyone. I can't blame her because as humans we all desire companionship and human company.

@tsholofelojmodise6728 Ай бұрын

And we watch our peers parent the same way yet again...

@seniiisastunner1149 Ай бұрын

It really is dangerous😭

@alettaphalatsi477 Ай бұрын

everyone in that family and many followers are missing that part, i was never raped but i can understand how violated, destroyed emotionally this girl is, and i believe she always see that family member, and no one cares

@Wenzy_Royal Ай бұрын

@@tsholofelojmodise6728 unfortunate but true

@Wenzy_Royal Ай бұрын

@@alettaphalatsi477 so true

@modjadjimakutu915 Ай бұрын

I said this on TikTok already but I’ll say it again here. To all spiritual women, whether you’re a prophetess or just are in tune with God and yourself in that regard please be aware that we get targeted in areas that are blind spots especially if there is a yearning. I’m a prophetess myself and have experienced this spiritual blinding many times due to the wrong relationships (not just romantic, it’s friendships and family too) When she said she usually sees everything before it happens but failed to see this, it’s really because her trauma left a void that created a blind spot because she placed the wrong person in that void. My sisters please please please ask for discernment when it comes to any relationship and don’t fight when the answer is a no just because you like the person or you think you can change them. A spiritual blockage is no joke, you will be done the worst things to so that you lose your faith and never find your way back or use your gift ever again.

@dineomalatji2165 Ай бұрын

It's not spiritual blockade. Joseph never saw his brothers plot to get rid of him, Jeremiah never knew his friends and relatives were plotting against his life etc. The main thing is for God to get the glory in the end; our paths have many mistakes; no one is perfect...we are not special or exempted from life struggles just because God trusts us with hidden information. The aim is to learn and grow...and glorify God in our commitment to him no matter what...he uses our foolish mistakes too, and that's ok cos he loves us enough to let us see the consequences of our actions. She has grown from this and it was probably necessary for her journey and service to God esp in the future...which would not have happened if she didn't go through this.

@zandiledunge7679 Ай бұрын

@@dineomalatji2165profound I couldn't have said it better

@sivuyilefutshane173 Ай бұрын

To anyone who can come across this message who is near this lady please tell her God loves her.her story is so touching the world is praying for your restoration darling ❤❤

@DawnNqobaMoyo Ай бұрын

Now I understand how Ntando got here, childhood trauma affects your self esteem in unimaginable ways. This broke my heart💔

@khululiwemazibuko Ай бұрын

Me too I now understand where she come from eish,life is not easy hey

@user-wl8nj3nl8f Ай бұрын

This is so sad honestly.

@tabithakekana3363 Ай бұрын

Ntando I understand ur story, but I want to tell u one thing that u can do. Where is ur brother? Where is ur Uncle, ur aunt? I don't understand why do u go through all this alone? Why don't u divorce this man? U r young, beautiful n smart, working what do u need him for? Just the tittle n a piece of paper that u r married? Now u r vulnerable n u r out there on social media n all the vultures see u n can't wait to catch u like a fish so that they can do the same thing to u. If u ever able to divorce that man u must be careful. Where is ur church n ur pastor when going through all this? U r not the only person without family, some ppl. don't have au to, uncles or brothers. They have nothing. The worse, they r not educated nor working. At least u r much much better than most ppl. I know. U need to love urself girl, otherwise u r going to have it hard. Stop loving ppl. that u don't know just because u want a man. U have ur children n urself to love.

@afrikakashe8552 Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for what you went through. Ladies never pay for your own lobola.

@gomolemomuchngwa4413 Ай бұрын

Splitting lobala and wedding bill isn’t such a bad idea

@ninahmbatha1890 Ай бұрын

True

@noloyisomooi8876 Ай бұрын

Uuhmmm😔😭😭😭💔💔💔💔 MNTASE YOU WENT THRU THE MOST,,, Your story has touched me so deeply... But now you're so strong uThixo akazange wakushiya usemhle ingapakathi lakho nangaphandle mntase womelele for abantwana bakho uThixo uyakuthanda ..❤

@vuyisekaluphuzi8249 Ай бұрын

@@gomolemomuchngwa4413 It defeats the tradition of ilobolo. It's not like umakoti does not give back kwa mkhwenyana. people who arent ready to get married because of financial reasons should face that fact. do not pursue things you can't afford. we are too ruled by emotions. and that is where people get hurt and things get ruined. let men who can afford wives have wives. and men who cannot, work towards that. If he couldnt afford you. he will never feel deserving of you. and that will play at his masculinity. Do things properly for peace and integrity of them

@sunflawa Ай бұрын

Yho couldn't finish the SA part when she was young... Yho sorry sisi💔

@nwamuchini5892 Ай бұрын

I love how this interviewer gives this lady a chance to talk, very rare these days

@thabisonyawose9364 Ай бұрын

I admire it too - i think it is all about the state of mind.

@Buhlebendalo_Mavika Ай бұрын

Definitely! He doesn't disturb her. I like it

@emilympiti5131 Ай бұрын

I like it too, she is taking time to talk

@phiwen844 Ай бұрын

True most interviewers push their own agendas

@cloutinemathekgana4315 Ай бұрын

Facebook brought me here.... This is so sad😢😢😢😢💔💔💔

@user-pe9qx5ut6y Ай бұрын

She's strong after everything that happened to her she's still beautiful n u cab see she's a very kind n polite person ❤❤❤❤❤

@SibongileKoli-xg9uz Ай бұрын

Thank you for this positively propelling comment.

@dineomalatji2165 Ай бұрын

Strong indeed. Lenna ke a Mo rata.

@LuyandaMzomba Ай бұрын

And her beautiful smile❤❤❤

@primrosehlongwa7462 Ай бұрын

never tell a man your past .just focus on the present..coz uzohlekisa ngawe

@Nonina-bq6er Ай бұрын

That is true🤞🤞

@lebogangbodiba6065 Ай бұрын

Truth!!! ☝🏿

@ongezwaxelo3466 Ай бұрын

Not true a real man would never do that. That is why the Bible says “Seek first the Kingdom of the Lord and his righteousness and everything else will be awarded unto you”

@dikeledimothiba65 Ай бұрын

I also don't think it's good keeping things from your partner. It means he's not the right one.

@lelethumasiko1265 Ай бұрын

If its real person it would help him to know you better and better the relationship

@anelentshweza800 Ай бұрын

Her story must be a TV drama or some sort of a movie for an awareness to other people out there not to fall in such traps.Both genders must not ignore red flags 🚩 in the relationships.This is the most painful story 🥺She’s an Angel..she deserves more Love ❤️

@pmtq2566 Ай бұрын

Very painful

@dsmatlou Ай бұрын

'God loves you' This is very powerful. This guy may not show any sense of emotions to Ntando but what I learned is he showed them spiritually. those words don't just come out of any person's words. Ntando my sister you are very brave and one thing I can say those tears you gave on this podcast showed that you did not lose anything but gained a lot out of your experience. I will repeat in bold that *GOD LOVE YOU*

@akwandedhladhla Ай бұрын

TikTok brought me here ke sana😭

@jenephuti1564 Ай бұрын

Same😂

@zinhletshabalala1578 Ай бұрын

Same who is the guy 🙈

@Sibonelo83 Ай бұрын

Me too😊

@zamandlangamandla-fz5tj Ай бұрын

me too🤣🤣

@mmapulaledimo678 Ай бұрын

Me too i just rushed here 😮

@miltonntozini9982 Ай бұрын

The only thing I can say after watching this is, fathers lets love our daughters, they will never feel alone and they will never experience what sis Ntando experienced. I am so sorry sis Ntando, you are so beautiful.

@fundiletungata1611 Ай бұрын

So true my guy

@masakonaful Ай бұрын

Sometimes the fathers are not present in our lives.This is too much

@sdlaminimathebula Ай бұрын

She appears to have had a good relationship with her father, she does not mention being abused by her father, her trauma is from the rape and created by her mother who beat her up after she had been raped, let us agree mothers can also cause wounds which can lead to daughters to search for love in wrong relationships. The parental wounds cause lasting damage unless a person goes for therapy and is connected to God as a source of healing and restoration. In this case, the spousal wound and trauma are another layer that needs to be addressed. Much healing my sister, ngikhala nawe, however our redeemer lives to take away all that you have gone through. You are loved by God Ntando despite what you went through. Hold on to God's unchanging hand of grace and mercy.

@buhlebethudlame3258 Ай бұрын

Very true. Uthando luka Baba is crucial to the girl child.

@rosegold6209 Ай бұрын

Wow what a sad story... Ntando doesnt realise how beautiful she is. This woman is so beautiful so melow, soft and sweet. If I was a man and I saw her for the first time, Id make her my wife. So sorry for her that man took advantage of her😢 She just wanted someone to love her and to fill that void.

@nobuhlebuhle778 Ай бұрын

I just hate men that makes women cry😢 such a wonderful,humble soul you have my lady...never lose hope God loves you. His time is also coming You will always be in my prayers

@mpumid1995 Ай бұрын

Ntando stop beating yourself up my sister, forgive yourself we all made mistakes. I pray that God shows up for you in a big with healing and prosperity. You are here today because God loves you beautiful woman.

@pearll.7876 Ай бұрын

Praise God! He is faithful to redeem and restore us.

@artemis885 Ай бұрын

I am 48 never been married ndi grand bafethu I know God loves.

@Blessed_for_life_2023 Ай бұрын

And I'm 52,never married and happy. Marriage is becoming a scam.

@inomusanyati7017 Ай бұрын

@@Blessed_for_life_2023. Love is key. Marriage is no longer an institution of love and bonding

@faithing88 Ай бұрын

48 too single never been married ❤ hello my mate 😊

@lebofox Ай бұрын

Lesson dont be too desperate to get married otherwise you will get married to a wrong person

@lebonemahlake833 Ай бұрын

I'm 29 single, aaai I'm joining you 😊I think I'm more happy ❤❤❤

@nicoliam_7 Ай бұрын

If you from TikTok let’s gather here

@samkelosaho Ай бұрын

Women are brave👏.... My comment is based on the part where she decided to just go to North West out of nowhere 😅......I'm sorry for what she went through nonetheless.

@asivetheblackbreed2547 Ай бұрын

I have never been so charmed by an older person like this.... She's really beautiful 🥺

@Bongiduma-qc4zm Ай бұрын

You too you wanna go eat her money ne

@gratitudeskwambane5203 Ай бұрын

Right she is beautiful, well spoken, smart. She mush just love and protect herself

@nomcebokubheka954 Ай бұрын

Ai usufuna imali yakhe. Cut, cut, cut

@asivetheblackbreed2547 Ай бұрын

@@nomcebokubheka954 🤣🤣😂ndiyazisebenzela mna... Plus I wouldn't make it... Am staying at Vereeneging

@xolilemlangeni2871 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂uyambona koda@@nomcebokubheka954

@Wenzy_Royal Ай бұрын

Sad part is, the other women think they are winning a prize but they are all being played by that man.

@thusigladys6697 Ай бұрын

Ntando Almighty God is watching you and those tears God open his hands you are healed in the name of Jesus be blessed 🙏🙏🙏

@marvelmaweni1451 Ай бұрын

Ntando, what an amazing woman you are. I cried the entire interview; God truly loves you don't let life's experiences tell you otherwise. There's a reason you survived. Wishing you love, healing, and all your desires in abundance.

@lindagwe1680 Ай бұрын

Wanting to belong is a very dangerous thing... Ntando had a childhood wond 😭😭

@mabathomosekeli Ай бұрын

Very dangerous!

@vusumzimakani6098 Ай бұрын

1000000%

@sinedladla1955 Ай бұрын

Wound

@DanielNtisa-yi1nh Ай бұрын

I just don't understand, why would someone treat another person like this. Someone who loves him dearly, someone who has given him nothing but love and had gone all out for him. This guy is so unfair. Using the word unfair to him is such an understatement, he has done so much to hurt this woman. That guy knows in his heart that this woman did not deserve all the treatment he gave her. This is such a wonderful woman with a wonderful character. Decent men would love to have a woman of such character as their lifetime partner. All that this guy did is spit in the face of such goodness. Life at times is really wicked and unfair. All that I can say to Ntando is that life was also unfair to Job. Job never understood the unfair difficulties he went through. In all of that, difficult as it was, Job kept his hope in God, to see him through. I pray that despite the difficulties you are going through, I plead with you not to remove God as your hope. In the same manner that God eventually came through for Job, may He come through for you in Jesus name. May God return double fold all that the enemy, the devil has taken away from you.

@terrifikass Ай бұрын

This made me cry. Thank you for 😂encouraging her 🙏❤️

@LazolaKayise-vm8cs Ай бұрын

Well said @Daniel. Thank you. The trauma of People sometimes is exploited by others. This gesture would have been one of love between the couple but unfortunately the man did not have his heart in it instead he viewed it as a jackpot...which is sad. And now if forces women to vow never to do this. I just wonder in this volatile economy is a man that doesn't have money not pursue love? Since there are also vultures among them and there is no way to know. The only think I would love in this kind of arrangement is that both the woman and man do not use this to undermine or disrespect each other...ever. I pray God continues to comfort and heal my sister.

@maxwellluthando8580 Ай бұрын

She is beautiful Natural beauty and she's so humble.....i love her❤❤❤

@xichavoveronicatheka7047 Ай бұрын

The decision to go to a random place and deciding at the taxi rank was wild😂😂😂.

@hanjyngwenya5650 Ай бұрын

I love that part.

@nthabisengmodise1895 Ай бұрын

i have done that once

@zandiledunge7679 Ай бұрын

Yooo that was wild...it shows how brave she is and it paid off at the end cos she started from scratch

@samkelosaho Ай бұрын

Women are brave🤣

@ayandangobeni9359 Ай бұрын

I did that this year january😂😂 my friends call me a weido

@terrifikass Ай бұрын

I’ve never wanted to hug and love on stranger like I do with lo sisi. This story hurts wow! sending her love, strength, courage and best wishes for her future.

@jmp4660 Ай бұрын

Please spouses/partners never talk about all your traumas and mistakes- bad people use it against you

@nthabelengkubeka5073 Ай бұрын

This shows men are not real ppl

@akwandedhladhla Ай бұрын

so true

@user-om7gs8hg2o 19 күн бұрын

I was married and lost my husband in 2012 I've decided to stay single Grow my kids and grandkids I do lots of work in my church spend time with family and very happy

@thandekasrlovejwaha3318 24 күн бұрын

Ntando is so beautiful to listen to yazi. Such a beautiful storyteller. As much as she shared heartbreaking stories, she did it in such a graceful manner. I am in awe of her. Wishing her only the best in her life.

@user-xs1cu6qc4x Ай бұрын

I'm 39 no kids and not married. God knows I'm not married he will ordain the man and the time I will get married. And I will never lobola myself, thank you. Women do this out of desperation

@joicegaredondo9385 Ай бұрын

I totally agree with you .I got married last year i was 36 no kids .God's time is the best .Dont do things out of peer pressure or desperation .

@randomlady Ай бұрын

You might also never get married too hey

@user-xs1cu6qc4x Ай бұрын

Gods words never returns to Him void. It goes out to fulfill what He said it should do

@ntsako_nxu Ай бұрын

@@randomladyand there’s nothing wrong with that honestly, because people are getting married for the wrong reasons nowadays,others don’t even respect or honour their marriage. Not getting married is not a sin and society needs to stop making women feel inferior or less of a woman because they are not married,

@TheyenaSihlangu Ай бұрын

She is wounded, love one another and it is always the grace of God that carries us. Not by might or strength. Do not judge, no one is worthy except Jesus, be thankful and treat one another with love and compassion.

@ndilekamomoza4538 Ай бұрын

Now am understanding uNtando much more as she opens up about her past....God she deserves loves and happiness

@nontobekobiyela2548 Ай бұрын

Ngulo Ntando kaTikitoki lona? Omg upholile kanti

@ntandojuqu192 Ай бұрын

Karma never misses the address mtase. You never build your life with someone’s tears and get away with it. God loves you and is not a fool. you are very pretty and hearing about your past you have built your self. You’re very strong, I admire you. ❤

@pushingpixels98 20 күн бұрын

I hope this woman finds peace and a man will truly love her, and treat her like a queen she is.❤

@iam_mdumtshali Ай бұрын

Ngaze ngamuthanda lo sisi, Everything she has been through. She doesn’t deserve. She has such a beautiful smile and her soul is sooo refreshing to witness even for a person that doesn’t know her personally. The fact that she could move away from everything and pick herself up, is a true reflection that her life story is a testimony of good faith and her situations aren’t gonna be her downfall, not before she serves her God given assessments… She’s such an amazing individual

@zamabhelentangana Ай бұрын

Yho Ntando 😞😭💔 As beautiful as you are cc. You really don't deserve this.

@THAgreatThols 9 күн бұрын

I like the comforting words of strength the intervierwer gave Ntando at the end of this eye opening podcast.

@user-cj5sw1eo8f 16 күн бұрын

Oh Thixo such a beautiful lady to endure so much pain yhoooooo, but God will come and heal your heart,you deserve better and that better is approaching...❤❤

@user-mo9ty3ok3l Ай бұрын

Ntando your story is similar to mine. I have been through more or less the same. I went through the worst. But believe me Jesus saved my soul. Defeat and failure are things of the past. I like it because your best source is Jesus Christ. I wish I can know you in person. I'm a woman living in Joburg. I'm a professional and a Christian. May God locate you in his mercy

@masakonaful Ай бұрын

I wish you can locate my dear.above all she needs to deal and heal with her rape trauma.Indeed Jesus heals.

@segametsiditlhale1947 Ай бұрын

Hey, did you ever get counseling? Would you like to?

@mashumumasemola5177 8 күн бұрын

Story of my life, its been 4 years now but one step at a time. Lets pray

@nondumisosibiya7755 Ай бұрын

Oh Shem Ntando I could feel the pain in your voice from this childhood story. You are a very strong woman

@millicentmotheogane7842 Ай бұрын

This interview is a reminder to all the parents to be sensitive to our children, sometimes we do more harm than to nature them

@mtizora Ай бұрын

Although l have never suffered such upbringing- this lady deserves our respect and the interviewer equally conformed to the the emotional rollercoaster and experiences of this lady that provoked his past upbringing. Hats off to her and the young man eventually got it

@thabomathikge400 Ай бұрын

this woman is so soft spoken but she is something special inside.u are strong as granite. God heal your emotional scars sisi.

@Godswindow13 Ай бұрын

This presenter...haai, he is not good to handle emotional and sensitive interviews like this. The was a point where he laughed when the lady explained how the rapist took her forcefully with a knife. Sis! She was seeking to be loved that's why she ended up paying lobalo for herself. I don't blame her. I'm sorry for all that u went through girl and forward u go! Stay blessed ❤

@Zipho_Zondo_ Ай бұрын

🤧🚮 He is very insensitive 🤧.

@ThandekaTanzNkosi Ай бұрын

I also am not happy with him.. he doesn’t even sound interested

@tholakelemaguma9038 Ай бұрын

I am also not happy with that

@sisinyanamojatau3176 Ай бұрын

Let's show him grace and allow him time to improve. He will grow into this and do better in future.

@noxolomahaye5612 Ай бұрын

I agree he did not handle that part well.

@ntandonkosi6486 Ай бұрын

What a heart breaking story…. Thanks for opening up, your story has so many lessons. Child hood trauma, GBV, Scammers. May you heal Ntando. You will get your happy ending sana….

@tshiamo_motheomanyaka7088 Ай бұрын

There's something about childhood trauma that changes how you perceive life. If you don't go through counselling you will destroy your life. I pray that God heal you and that you forgive yourself and focus on the future.

@nelisiwesurrender4517 Ай бұрын

The society is putting so much pressure to us that we end up doing such thing because we want to belong .I'm so sorry cc that you went through so much in your life. may you heal and find happiness . never forget that you come first, never ever compromise urself no matter the situation.

@JustDiane. Ай бұрын

As ladies we tend to be bob the builders and it rarely never ends well 😢

@BatsiraiMusuka Ай бұрын

Build on the right foundation. The right guy can be built upon (or rather, with). Problem (with both sexes), we like the baddies (/bad boys). We overlook the “boring” ones.

@ThandiweChoche-sf7my 16 күн бұрын

Rarely is an understatement...IT NEVER...EVER...GETS WELL

@BatsiraiMusuka 16 күн бұрын

@@ThandiweChoche-sf7my you rarely like the boring options😉

@siphokazisibisi3474 Ай бұрын

Her voice is so mesmerising,she really should be a TV or radio host😍😘🥰😍Love & Light to you sis

@NtsikiMazwai 27 күн бұрын

This episode shows how people should CHOOSE wisely the platforms they use on KZfaq to tell their personal stories….

@QhawekaziMlungu 21 күн бұрын

nomona nange bali eli lomntu? tjoooe

@tehee3631 Ай бұрын

The interviewer kodwa could’ve had the conversation about the kidnapping and r*pe more sensitively. Saying things like “that’s crazy” is insensitive - there needs to be better journalistic skills

@hlengiee Ай бұрын

He even laughed before that I was So shocked

@sninimoyo5320 Ай бұрын

I agree with you

@phumlilekhoza2885 Ай бұрын

I cringed when he laughed

@mildredntshembo6725 Ай бұрын

I've been looking for this comment, thought I'm the only one who noticed the lack of empathy from the interviewer

@jennyconstantine146 Ай бұрын

So was she raped and kidnapped

@thembilenkabinde2907 Ай бұрын

Some men don't know what they want. They get a power woman, they can't handle her warmth. They dont know what they want.

@lelomm1668 Ай бұрын

They know exactly what they want. They want to be a traditional man role...they just don't have the resources- like this man they are talking about. I think women should just spend money on themselves and self-improvement and on their own families ( mother, father, grandparents, nieces, nephews, etc).

@VuyokazitracyNokwabuzamaqashu Ай бұрын

He failed to learn to love her, he lost a diamond, ye could have change his behavior

@mduvine Ай бұрын

Those power woman they like to control too much my friend, talking from experience

@Leboko80 Ай бұрын

When you do not know love and kindness...

@beingmzansi2419 Ай бұрын

powerful women should date powerful men , and leave weak losers alone, it's that simple

@user-me6mj5ur5b Ай бұрын

The interviewer is in the wrong career path. She literally spoke alone, he did not engage her as he should have, no sympathy and not even tissues in the studio and yet this was a very emotional interview. Big up to the lady for being a good storyteller, God has something bigger for you cc.

@faithvezi8199 Ай бұрын

He keeps laughing at some of the serious parts of her story

@sanelehopewell7612 Ай бұрын

You are pure in and out such a spiritual person by heart I like how humble you are walk tall and connect with the most high❤❤❤

@johnmohale9676 Ай бұрын

It's amazing and shocking to hear such a beautiful lady thinking that she is not beautiful. It's important to have people around you who treat you with decency and respect, but sometime these are not always easy to find just like in her case. God bless you sis Ntando, and continue to love fully. God loves you indeed, wether you believe it or not but it is true.

@lelethumasiko1265 Ай бұрын

Becouse she was told she is not . Her family inlaw said it

@thapeloking Ай бұрын

😢this woman don’t deserve such may Allah bless her with a genuine love. Sometimes what us men do to women is not fair. 😢

@gloriaJwalane Ай бұрын

Allahu aman my

@samkelisiwesithole7419 Ай бұрын

Aameen YaRabbil Alameen

@nmbana Ай бұрын

so proud of Ntando.... sending her all of God's love, grace and many more blessings

@zandileloliwe4242 Ай бұрын

You are destined for greatness sis wam, God is doing a new thing, you can only go upward from here,,,,,I love you ❤

@valentinemaluleke4836 Ай бұрын

Its so soothing to listen to someone shares their story without fear of judgment. So open, so honest, so detailed and owning their story. Sis Ntando you might not pick it up now but youve come far with your healing. May God show you mercy

@sakhejr7174 Ай бұрын

"what kind of women who pays lobolo 4 her self" the way u ask ur question brother

@palesamhlambi8478 Ай бұрын

Very desperate and wants people to feel pity😢, she was never asked or forced to do all these, blame it on childhood traumas

@wilheminavete2420 Ай бұрын

He's insensitive

@mendedandwholebymsknp2019 Ай бұрын

Very insensitive,that disturbed me too.

@user-hf2wd7sj2b Ай бұрын

Aiii this interviewer is insensitive, even the way he moved from sisNtando narrating her childhood trauma story It's like his saying enough about that awuzelanga lokho😢

@JabuMaseko-zt8ob 27 күн бұрын

Don't cry ntandoo your story touch me

@dumirose9174 Ай бұрын

Ntando please have your own show, you are a good narrator,I enjoy this show, you make trauma disappear ❤

@disciple8531 Ай бұрын

Oh mntase, your story is so touching and very sad. You have been through a lot. You are not responsible for anyone's actions towards you, but your own actions. Am glad you are speaking out, it's the beginning of your healing journey. I'm glad you're looking back in hindsight and acknowledging your mistakes. Please, never doubt God's love for you. There is nothing that can ever separate you from God's love. Remain planted in Christ. Sending you hugs and love...❤💖💞

@vusidlomo5039 Ай бұрын

Ntando u are a perfect human being, you were just unlucky to meet the DEVIL himself, let YOUR ANGELS FIGHT FOR YOUR SADNESS. YOUR STORY PAINS ME, PLEASE BE STRONG YOU WILL BE ANSWERED,

@sivudyobiso7930 Ай бұрын

U are soo beautiful Ntando.May God Heal ur inner child and restore u with a Husband that loves u more than u love him. Never let go of God's hand.He loves u❤

@mwelasendabula8598 6 күн бұрын

Oh sana lwam nditsho ngenene nenyaniso ndingumzali ndinomntwana oyintombazana UXOLO UXOLO UZIXOLELE NAWE YENA UNKULUNKULU WAKHO ANGEKE AKUSHIYE. You are a BEAUTIFUL SOUL PERIOD! umohlulile usathana olixoki ongcolileyo. I pray you find HEALING!!!!! I love you NTOMBI

@AndeMbali Ай бұрын

We were 14 on that time I know untando very well actually she is my sister fro another mothe❤❤❤❤

@zamangubane1019 Ай бұрын

My ladies we need to start loving and treating ourselves better. Before we love and treat other people better. No one will love, respect or treat us better if we don't value ourselves. Give Love to yourself my beautiful darling.

@UnathiMakholosa-dc3jf 25 күн бұрын

You know when you didn't get love from your child hood it becomes very hard for you look for love everywhere

@princemoloko8296 Ай бұрын

This is so touching! This manifest significantly in churches nowadays. It seems like most ladies in church are desperate for marriage. This serves as strong lessons to all of us.

@favour664 Ай бұрын

You are such a powerhouse Ntando, God has a big plan to prosper you , oh my God - your purpose here on earth is greater and bigger than you can comprehend. Let grace and be yours in abundance my sister. Thank you my brother for allowing Ntando to express herself

@zuzekamatiwane4 Ай бұрын

You are a strong women indeed and this will be a stepping stone cc You will look back and laugh Shine girl❤

@fundiletungata1611 Ай бұрын

Yho! this video will always uplift me when I'm down. This girl has seen it all shame.

@sakhejr7174 Ай бұрын

"lets get down why u are here actually " after being told such painful story... is something...

@Nakedi_Ruth Ай бұрын

Dude... I felt like he was rather insensitive.

@pinkyntuli3025 Ай бұрын

Very insensitive

@sakhejr7174 Ай бұрын

@@Nakedi_Ruth Indeed he did not even marinate the question...

@Missjustbe Ай бұрын

Dude that was sooooo cringe, I gagged!

@boikarabelophakwago5474 Ай бұрын

He's only interest was on the lobola issue

@noxolomalembe-ex4bk Ай бұрын

I like the smile cc on ur face....be strong cc..we learn ngamamistake

@cathrinemnguni3895 Ай бұрын

This is very painful to whole situation you look so happy and very strong. Life is complicated you are the child of God. I wish all the best 🙏🙏🙏

@nomynoms1969 Ай бұрын

Weeeee Hai Sana Amadoda have Outdone themselves ke Apha! Yho.. & to think she was being kind & loving all along… his Karma is still being prepared I’m telling you… uxolo Ntando. You beautiful & deserving of all the good things in Life.. I Pray God Heals & restores😘

@wendynkalitshana6795 Ай бұрын

That is a lessons to all ladies outside there don’t worry you will get a man will love you

@nelisamakanda1337 Ай бұрын

Yhu my soul left me listening to this yhin mkhaya. I saw want to see this man.

@luciamohale7309 Ай бұрын

Thank you 4 sharing 😘 n enlightening us out for future decision making m shattered and educated 👏

@user-ei6wc2fe2u Ай бұрын

What a lovely lady, very lovable...hope she heals from all wounds of her past

@pinkyndlovu6621 Ай бұрын

Ncese, you went through a lot, sisi ukulunkulu uyoku khumbula ngelinye ilanga. Just thank God that he gave you the strength during that difficult time. Ngoba inhliziyo ibuye isi lahlekise. Time heals Ntando, you will be fine. I'm very proud of you that you're not ashamed of the past. Love you ❤🤗🫂

@peaceworthgirl Ай бұрын

Oh Lord!, Ntando, we thank God for your life, sisi sibuya lapho sthandwa sikaThixo be healed sisi emotionally in Jesus Christ name

@Pabalelo_Seroka 13 күн бұрын

What an emotional story we love you Ntando above all God loves you ❤

@puritycourtois1724 Ай бұрын

This is what happens when fathers don't love their daughters,this woman through a lot all she needed was love, I hope she heals. And that man karma will get him

@Gogoconny1994 Ай бұрын

😢😢😢 I'm crying while watching this bcz we are many of us who went through lobuhlungu obakuvelela....😢😢😢😢 stay strong mama you are loved n umuhle

@nosiphiwonkowanethu2657 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your Ntando. You are so brave for standing tall. For taking accountability of your part in the journey but more so for taking your power back. God loves you and this was Him protecting you and setting you apart. And yes, you are a very beautiful woman, never let anyone tell you anything else!! Stay blessed!! ❤