HOW Is My Relationship Affected by Lack of Sleep? w Shane Dawson & Ryland Adams / Kati Morton
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5 жыл бұрынThis series is an educational project sponsored by Google.
Sleep is the only time our brain gets a chance to clean itself and file away any memories made that day. The amount of fluid in our brain increases by over 60% and helps our brain clean any waste that may be sitting in it and it even uses this time to support learning and memory as well as regulate mood. Not to mention that because sleep is so calm with its slow deep breaths, and relaxed muscles, taking the time to let our body rest for many hours a night is beneficial.
I chatted with Shane & Ryland about their sleep habits and how they manage them within their relationship. Hopefully some of the tips I offer them are helpful to you as well. xox
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@domesticated_kat 5 жыл бұрын
This is such a great video. Honest, relatable, and inspiring growth. Thank you all!
@catrandle9439 5 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed watching the respectful way everyone talked together. Great video with fab ideas
@lukalove44 5 жыл бұрын
I relate to both Ryland and Shane in this situation, I want to go to sleep as late as possible, then wake up as early as possible. So I can do as much as I can.
@user-hw5ys6ng1l 5 жыл бұрын
That sounds exhausting 😕
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!! I do have some older videos about sleep.. so if you feel like you aren't getting enough of it those could help :) xoxo
@hectorandem2944 5 жыл бұрын
#TeamDoAllTheThingsYesterday 💪😴
@hannahsandnes8609 4 жыл бұрын
Aniah Gill i want to sleep as much as possible so i dont have to be awake😘😊so i cant relate
@lizl1407 5 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to Shane and the trauma he is dealing with. You are not crazy, and you are not alone. ❤️
@cynthiaharris9635 5 жыл бұрын
same I can't sleep well either, I too have serious insomnia!, I go to bed about 4 or 5 am & get up about 11am or 11:30am I have tried ASMR (Olivia Kissper / Jellybean Green) they both have good ASMR channels some days it does work others day my mind does not want to have anything to do w/ it, like refuse it & that is were I get frustrated too, I do however have 2 fans that run at night(box fan/ceiling fan) (white noise) some times that helps as well my dr suggest sleeping pills I told her NO cause they can get addicting & I don't want to rely on them so much!! guess I am like Shane, afraid to miss out on stuff too idk I get depressed alot as well I don't have alot of friends, I kind of keep to my self most times meanwhile my high blood pressure doesn't help either cause when it does get high I start to get headaches & I hear ringing in my ears wish I never had this kind of life :-( I don't like being depressed or frustrated so sorry (FML)
@dancerx411 5 жыл бұрын
Yea. Trauma is the worst :/
@TobyMarie_MamaDuck 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@caw524x 5 жыл бұрын
i know this is serious but im cracking up at shane. kati: have you ever... shane: slept?
@BA-fu7it 5 жыл бұрын
I have to say, Ryland is such a cute and caring boyfriend awww💛
@deadname440 5 жыл бұрын
Hes a caring fiance😉😜😆
@mordecai_2774 5 жыл бұрын
Omg you like Zayn and a sinner your dope ❤!
@BA-fu7it 5 жыл бұрын
@@mordecai_2774 thanksss I also love WDW and 1D ofc😍
@BA-fu7it 5 жыл бұрын
@@mordecai_2774 & I love your name haha
@BA-fu7it 5 жыл бұрын
@@deadname440 yesss omg it's too good to be real, I still forget it sometimes😍🤣
@sarahtrivett4429 5 жыл бұрын
I see Shane I click
@emmaleff137 5 жыл бұрын
same
@ciara2262 5 жыл бұрын
same!!
@karo7988 5 жыл бұрын
Same .
@itsmolly0074 4 жыл бұрын
I see respectable therapist spreading awareness for mental health, i cLiCk
@annasxgotabigwilly 4 жыл бұрын
Me
@isjitaradalhard7472 5 жыл бұрын
Shane: "aggressively early" Ryland: "11 pm" Me: At my house, we go to bed at 10 pm...11pm would be considered late. It's all a matter of perspective, I guess.
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
I know right?!?! haha! I thought that too. Everyone has their norm I guess :) xoxo
@Night-Shade. 5 жыл бұрын
He said he gets ready to sleep at 9:30. That maybe normal for you, but I won't be able to finish all my responsibilities at even 11:00
@lightsong13 5 жыл бұрын
Osoro Shidesu right? I finish work at 9:30 aha by the time I get home and eat food it’s 11pm
@wolfferoni 5 жыл бұрын
@@lightsong13 You're in a different situation though because the average person finishes work by 6pm and they have the rest of the evening to relax.
@heartendesignstudio 5 жыл бұрын
I set my goal bedtime for 10:30 PM but sometimes realistically I don't get to bed till 11-12. I feel tired when I go to bed 12+ though. I try to allow a full 8 hours, but sometimes it doesn't happen. I'm very much like Ryland in the fact I like to get up and get my day started and my husband doesn't. He's very much a night owl and I'm not necessarily an Early bird but I feel panicked if I don't wake up no later than 8 AM because I feel more productive during the hour of 7-8. I'm also 27 and a student on top of trying to start my own creative business lol
@shannonkelly4773 5 жыл бұрын
Oh no Shane! I've also found that it is difficult to relax and not be at the flight/ flight/ freeze response at night just because you don't know what's going to happen to you while in that sleepy, vulnerable state. I hope Shane and Ryland find a happy medium! Thank you, Kati for talking it out with them!
@Ranaluv77 5 жыл бұрын
I sleep better during daylight hours than I do at night. Like at night I want to be awake and in the daylight I want to be asleep.
@starshine311 5 жыл бұрын
Same
@kukkajukkanen 5 жыл бұрын
Same!
@throughrose-colouredeyes6284 5 жыл бұрын
me too. x
@hannahhailwood 5 жыл бұрын
I have the exact same problem. I feel so much safer taking a nap during the day than going to bed at night
@solala1312 5 жыл бұрын
recently I quit my job which I worked hard for to get and started doing night shifts at a event location. fml I guess
@SassyRoX_ 5 жыл бұрын
I noticed that once I removed the tv from my bedroom a few years ago, that I’m sleeping a lot better and falling asleep a lot faster. Training your body to sleep when you get into bed is one of the best things you can do for your overall health. Also, working out before bed helps me drain my energy and meditation helps me clear my mind.
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more!! It's all about training ourselves the way we would train a toddler to sleep.. we have to get into a routine so we feel calm and ready to sleep :) xoxo
@neotasci8860 5 жыл бұрын
Bianca Osorio I don’t think working out before bed is a good idea. Finishing your workout at least 3 hours before bed is better than working out right before bed. I read about this somewhere, I think you should as well; because apparently exercising right before bed is actually pretty bad for you
@sophiadavenport3959 5 жыл бұрын
I haven't slept in a room with a television since I was in grade school.
@petramccafferty5902 5 жыл бұрын
Bianca Osorio some people need that noise. I love a radio on low, or a fan, or a movie.....
@SassyRoX_ 5 жыл бұрын
Mitch's Cheekbones I didn’t mean literally right before bed. Workout, shower and read. It takes time to get back to your resting heart rate.
@sometimesaranda2779 5 жыл бұрын
I love that Shane and Ryland have each other - their support for each other is so honest and inspiring to see even as they talk and work out their issues
@victoriastrange9937 5 жыл бұрын
A combination of emdr, Emotion-focused therapy and neurofeedback could be helpful for trauma based sleep issues - even hypnosis could be helpful -
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!! Great ideas :) xxo
@theveganflower5135 5 жыл бұрын
Hypnosis would not help if he has any psychosis. Or manía... Atleast that's what my therapist said
@emmal5371 5 жыл бұрын
Love to see Kati Ryland and Shane together after I just ran out of their new vids to watch!
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Awe yay!!! xoxo
@ameliabarnish9135 5 жыл бұрын
Shane. It is SUPER relatable.... not that you'll see this.. but I feel you 10000% I know it is super weird but me and my fiance sleep on the couch together.... because I can't sleep in the bedroom....
@Tsunade_5thHokage 5 жыл бұрын
I hope he realizes how relatable this is. I’m the same way. It’s so scary at night time, idk what trauma this is but I hate night time
@latrolettteeeeeee 5 жыл бұрын
OH SHUT UP. HE'S NOT YOUR FRIEND.
@xoSiNgInGiNtHeRaInox 5 жыл бұрын
Omg that's so beautiful that's real love tbh
@HowDiidIGetHere 5 жыл бұрын
@@latrolettteeeeeee who hurt you?
@emilybrucia1291 5 жыл бұрын
La_Trolette woah chill
@ellahopkinson 5 жыл бұрын
I think it's funny that I'm watching this instead of sleeping now 😂
@ttalgiipssul 5 жыл бұрын
Well.... me too!🤣
@brittanymercer9609 5 жыл бұрын
I’m just going to throw out my sleep tip that I’ve been using since I was a kid. I’ve always struggled with “turning off” my brain and having intrusive negative thoughts. To combat these thoughts I will make up a story. The story doesn’t have to make sense or be plausible. It does normally have a “main character” and a sequence of events. This occupies my brain and prevents negative thoughts until I end up asleep. If you’d like to try, here’s a prompt I once gave my daughter: an octopus is best friends with a butterfly, what does a day together look like?
@RedirectMyDay 5 жыл бұрын
i do this too!!!
@hbhtcr5707 4 жыл бұрын
This is late. But that’s a good idea. I might try this next time I have problems
@Amada__ 5 жыл бұрын
"night time wasn't safe" really hit the spot lol. This opened the door for so many questions regarding how I am at night lol.
@CelinaMaria26 5 жыл бұрын
I have never understood a story about having trouble to sleep more than Shane's. Ever in my life. I completely understand what he was saying. I dont feel so alone.
@jblock321 5 жыл бұрын
One small thing that has helped me some is putting a clock in my room so that I don't have to pick up my phone to see what time it is. Prior to having the clock, I'd pick up my phone to see the time and then end up clicking notifications and staying up for a bit.
@lauraaguilar5550 5 жыл бұрын
Night time trauma is something i relate to sadly. I get not looking forward to sleep time that I've cried because i didnt want to sleep before lol... I get it shane... I sleep better now with Downton Abbey blasting in the background!
@katbland9149 5 жыл бұрын
Sleep is one of the biggest contributor to my mental health. I can say this from experience. When I get 7 hours durring normal sleeping hours versus 5 hours from 3am to 8am, it helps tremendously with being able to cope with the every day stresses. P.S. I love you Kati!
@jamieh186 5 жыл бұрын
#katifaq I think a video on extroverts with social anxiety would be really great We socialize different and or social anxiety is different
@bellapullman10002 5 жыл бұрын
Yes that would be good
@pepajimenez4314 5 жыл бұрын
This!
@Corkinee 5 жыл бұрын
Love that I'm watching this at 5am unable to sleep
@shellcshells2902 5 жыл бұрын
What's helped me is listening to asmr sounds like rain, wind chimes, storms, etc when I'm in bed.... or soft spoken stories. They relax me and soon I'm fighting sleep.
@oliviamurphy5542 5 жыл бұрын
It's wild how much our childhood affects us, and it makes me feel grateful for having a stable one.
@RossKroft96 5 жыл бұрын
The animation is adorable 😊😊😊💖💖💖
@anime-rx 5 жыл бұрын
I love this Kati + Shane collab Both of my favs together :)
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Awe yay!!! xoxo
@L28369 5 жыл бұрын
Can I just say Shane looks so good 😍
@sstovettop5221 5 жыл бұрын
Cbd has helped me Tremendously for falling And staying asleep. My Anxiety/ocd has always been heightened when the sun goes down and it really helps me slow down so I can actually relax.
@katiemurphy4115 5 жыл бұрын
Sstove Ttop I have been wanting to try CBD for this same reason.
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
I wondered about that!! Thanks for sharing :) I will let Shane know. xoxo
@nikkipieronek271 5 жыл бұрын
I take full spectrum every night. It helped at first and after about 1 month my body seemed to be used to the sedating effects of it.
@sstovettop5221 5 жыл бұрын
Nikki Pieronek interesting! I wonder why? I’ve been taking non thx 15mgs for the past 4 months and it definitely felt strong in the beginning but it evened itself out for me
@jademaskell322 5 жыл бұрын
i love thet fact that you dont talk fast or frantically so people can hear you properly and so your voice has a calming effect. I didn't realise how fast other youtubers talk untill i clicked this video. Thank you so much
@pedaldownpetalsup 5 жыл бұрын
Also I'm a trauma survivor by the way but hey the problem is still there for something for basic like "liking my bed." I love love love you said that. Thought I was the only person in the world like this!
@rebeccawoods6261 5 жыл бұрын
Your Merch is perfect. Thank you😊 for this channel. I have naturally always been a nightowl. I find that one reason I frequently stay up late at night to have time to myself. After my girls have gone to bed.
@BeaAnimals 5 жыл бұрын
The irony of me laying in bed watching this at 2am
@naomistein6621 5 жыл бұрын
Everything Shane said about sleep... same, same, same. Me and my boyfriend are the same in that sense. 😶 Plus, Going to sleep and generally turning off the light and just lying in bed in the dark, it just makes me uneasy and I'm having a hard time relaxing and falling asleep. Hearing that I'm not the only one helps, it makes me feel a little less guilty for being this way, which is the hardest thing about not being able to sleep properly... the guilt of not functioning like a "normal" human being.
@amandaburger6560 5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been going through a really tough time with sleep having multiple nightmares each night and waking up absolutely exhausted. I literally have to force myself to sleep but end up with 3 hours if I’m lucky. This meant so much to me knowing Shane has this struggle too and I’m not alone in it
@taylorrentz9297 5 жыл бұрын
the way Ryland looked at him throughout this...❤️
@noddycool2703 5 жыл бұрын
Just a thought: Even though Shane is very successful at his work, his work behavior doesn't seem particularly healthy to me. There are a lot of people working for hours and hours without taking a break that have underlying emotional issues. Because society rewards people who have a strong work ethic, I think, ultimately, those people who don't rest when they need to but overwork are often overlooked, because they are seen as successful and "well-functioning" people.
@willnotshutup 5 жыл бұрын
My parents both have a burnout and their behaviour is very similair to Shane's. I'm seriously concerned.
@xc1971pp 5 жыл бұрын
Attention Disorder and anxiety could be some of them...
@marq6929 5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, burnout is a real threat, but also, you don't wanna break that flow. Having a deadline/cutoff can work with that though.
@LulitaInPita 5 жыл бұрын
Sounds like an escape from their anxiety/trauma to me
@iiravishinqqq 5 жыл бұрын
If you ever watch Shane's videos, you'll see that he does have anxiety & depression. He's had a really rough life that causes most of the issues he has today. 💔
@LindaG1016 5 жыл бұрын
Kati, thanks for taking the time out to help Shane and Ryland 💜
@sign.language.l5765 5 жыл бұрын
This was very relatable and make me really think about my bedtime and my bedtime rituals as well. I really hope this begins to work for Shane and for others who try to change up their schedules!
@farrahxlewis 5 жыл бұрын
Sleep is so weird, but it feels good to know that there are so many other people out there that you can relate to. Thanks for the helpful tips Kati!
@Canistayinbed 5 жыл бұрын
I relate so much to Shane. I thrive at night. I feel like I’m missing something when I go to bed early. I love this video!!
@jessicasimpson7778 5 жыл бұрын
I feel like he was holding back tears 😭 I want to give him a big squeeze hug 🧡
@siennawarnecke5827 5 жыл бұрын
Kati! Thank you for this video! I have lived through traumatic childhood experiences, and have struggled with sleep my WHOLE life! To hear Shane talk briefly about how home wasn't a safe place at night really rang true for me. It was very validating to hear. I never thought about training myself to do a new ritual slowly, and to do it with someone else to help feel safe. I might have to try this. Thank you to you both!
@VanLuc7 4 жыл бұрын
I can relate so much to Shane on this! I’ve always found a kind of beauty in working at night. I always feel like I have the world to myself in a weird way. I don’t really go out and like being around a lot of people so the best feeling was to be able to go to a place that’s open 24 hours and be all alone. I always thought I was weird but I’m glad to see someone I can relate to ☺️🙌🏼
@kendallwhite4492 5 жыл бұрын
Shane, my sleep patterns are very similar. I grew up in a traumatic household and night time was my time to be away from it. There were no expectations or interaction with others so I used that time for me and to just get away from the world. The weight of tomorrow was too much sometimes so I stayed up super late because those hours of the night felt safe and a time for creative things like writing because I’m similar and more creative at night. I also have partially diagnosed adhd so that doesn’t help lol (in the dx process now)
@luziealyssa5677 5 жыл бұрын
I had a bed which I used as a couch a lot, I would read, be on my laptop or phone and even paint or make things on my bed during the day. I also did homework on my bed because it was the comfiest way (at least it felt like it but I was actually ruining my back so yeah...) an then I got the oportunity to take my brothers bed because he was getting a new one. His bed is a bunk bed with originaly two beds but we took the lower one out. I also got a smaller desk for doing my homework which noch stands under my bed and I have like a small room for studying there and I still have my old desk which is bigger to do my paintings/crafts /being on my computer and whatnot. Seperating the areas for sleeping/resting, studying and leisure activities really helped me in sleeping better but also in studying more effectively as my phone is always staying out of my "study room" Btw. I don't have a huge room, but the bunk bed added a lot of space which made this possible and I can really recommend it even though it might sound weird to have a bunk bed when you are already an adult.
@sniptheelftiktok 5 жыл бұрын
Love when you do videos with Shane & Ryland. You all have great cheme for videos I feel. I was having an issue with too much sleep. Sleeping 10-12 hours and still not feeling rested. Turns out after some tests I has extreme apena. Now with a CPAP machine I'm sleeping 7-8 hrs and the clarity and and ability to be refreshed is amazing!
@odettecolato 5 жыл бұрын
having a night light beside my bed helps me fall asleep, complete darkness sometimes makes me anxious but finding the right night light that changes colors relaxes me and soothes my mind. :)
@katiemurphy4115 5 жыл бұрын
I relate to Shane so much on this. It has definitely taken a toll on my relationship. It’s hard being in totally different schedules
@louvillarino 5 жыл бұрын
Yaay! I always love every video you release. It’s worth watching. I also tell stories about you to my psych doctor. ♥️
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Awe yay! I am so glad :) xoxo
@random_birb_qween 5 жыл бұрын
Such a helpful video! Thank you Kati! 🙏 I took lots of notes and will be trying a new bedtime ritual! 🌙
@snails4160 5 жыл бұрын
i totally agree with the positivity before bed. i always watch one of shane’s videos before bed because he makes me laugh and happy. i love him and i hope he gets better.
@Jessica-sn3qi 5 жыл бұрын
I wonder if the sleep issues are also tied into having ADHD. I have extreme anxiety when "the time to sleep" arrives. I know I find excuses not to sleep. I believe Shane also has ADHD. Meds can also be an issue. He jokes about adderall on his chanel that will keep you up depending on if you're on extended release or the regular 4 hour pill. A consistent medication schedule will help. Taking the meds at the same time everyday. So hard for someone with ADHD. A book helps me, a none electronical book, interesting enough to read but not so much to keep me up to read and hyper focus all night.
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
That's a great point! I will ask him to see if the meds could be causing his sleep issues too. xoxo
@kateposts 5 жыл бұрын
Same! I didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until adulthood, so most of my life I have been like Shane and get my energy at night. Since being diagnosed and taking my extended release Adderall in the morning, my sleep routines have become much healthier and I actually love getting my day started in the morning.
@misteranthropy7082 4 жыл бұрын
also his habit of doing work late until he's exhausted and then falling asleep is very common of ADHD
@user-kq2vw5hh1t 5 жыл бұрын
this is my schedule: 11 pm shut dows the pc 11 pm-12 am kind of a night rutine 12 am-3 am literally just stays on twitter or instagram 3 am i realize i have school at 8 am and die internally for half an hour 3:30 am go to sleep 3:30 am-4 am thinks about all the awkward stuff ive done and how dumb i am 4 am fall asleep
@hiholabonjour9637 4 жыл бұрын
1 Subscriber Without Any Videos Ayy SAME
@hannahdennis1009 5 жыл бұрын
ASMR helps me a lot. Doing my skin care routine right before bed. Stoping eating a few hours before I want to go to bed. And even exercising at night have helped me sleep better.
@wesmoran5215 5 жыл бұрын
things that have helped me get more regular sleep/overcome insomnia: regular work schedule, taking meds at night (routine), taking a shower at night (routine), practicing good self talk to ward off anxiety (keeps anxiety dreams away), and making sure i have good pillows, etc. often actually setting a hard deadline to get offline helps as well.
@lydia6035 5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, I get so anxious thinking about what I'm going to have to do the next day, that I can't sleep. I don't like sleeping the day away, I like to wakeup (on weekends/breaks) at 8 or 9 o'clock, I don't like to stay up at night because of past experiences. I have a bedtime of 9 to 10 o'clock, because of school. I really enjoyed this video, it was very informational as well as entertaining. You're great!! 😁
@JustMe-td6dl 5 жыл бұрын
Love the animations!
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Yay!! Me too! Our friend Jordan does them and he's the best!! xoxo
@foxybrown3857 5 жыл бұрын
This is an amazing vid!!!! I absolutely love the animation in it too! It was so well put together! 👏🏽❤
@mikaylabriggs7053 5 жыл бұрын
Wow. I don't have issues with sleep but I have trauma and it's so refreshing to witness conversation around it. Good luck to you guys 👏🏽 Katie you are a rare gem 💕
@ionalane 5 жыл бұрын
shane and ryland are such a good couple
@LindaG1016 5 жыл бұрын
Not being able to sleep due to trauma is my issue. I was sexually assaulted while unconscious and woke up during the attack. Going to sleep terrifies me. I get up about 3 or 4 times to check the locks on the doors. I have panic attacks. I have nightmares. I feel like I'm never going to be able to sleep normally again. I am always so exhausted 😞
@loyael 5 жыл бұрын
Hi, I'm sorry to hear that ! You're not alone, a girl I knew had the exact same situation. She had 2 solutions, she made a playlist of music that would calm her down and falls asleep listening to it. Altho she bought a very comfy bed, with soft silk blanket and pillow. This way your skin will feel good and safe. Altho something I have ridden about Trauma is to close your eyes, think about all the bad feelings you felt and move your eyes quickly from right to left. This is what the body does to clean your mind when he's asleep, it's like a way to manually do it ! It's alright to be exhausted after a trauma, even tho you feel like you'll never sleep, I promise you can get better and happy again !
@gothmedli 5 жыл бұрын
very reason i cant sleep in a bed i have to sleep against a wall or not in a bedroom to actually SLEEP
@LindaG1016 5 жыл бұрын
@@gothmedli I do the same exact thing! I am so sorry ❤
@loyael 5 жыл бұрын
@@LindaG1016 Hey I hope you can both go thro it! I think about your comment a lot and I wish you can find peace. I bet I'm not the only one Have you tried to talk to a therapist about it? Let us know of your progress
@ashyh6202 4 жыл бұрын
You are safe now, don't let those monsters rob your peace. Self soothing can be helpful, change the narrative in your mind and you will feel more settled. I wish you all the best for your journey.
@jennalee2134 5 жыл бұрын
I love how REAL this is. I love how Shane and Ryland talk things out. They seem like they are very understanding of each other and their circumstances and they just want to help each other.
@ashleyzych5366 5 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy Shane found make up it seems to have been a super positive outlet in his life! He has made good solid friends and it’s so nice to hear!
@LauraSmith279 5 жыл бұрын
I see Shane in the Title , I click. Really interesting video!! Loved it! It’s great hearing Shane talk about that stuff. Also he is looking really really handsome!! I just love him ♥️
@majooleonmagnani5246 5 жыл бұрын
My trick is play wave sounds, there are lists on spotify with relaxing music and sounds like rain, that helps me a lot.
@camillegonzalez6133 5 жыл бұрын
Love the connections you were able to make throughout the conversation. Very interesting.
@christinep5524 5 жыл бұрын
Was really interesting to see the thought process through this and the discovery!
@camilabonfadini3332 5 жыл бұрын
When shane posted that he had been trying new things and had been feeling better, I was curious to know what it was, now it is clearer, I’m happy for him and hope he gets better and better
@sofiaherrera6956 5 жыл бұрын
Kati: "How long do you sleep?" Shane: "nightmares?"
@empressivy6539 5 жыл бұрын
Sofia Herrera this made me laugh so hard bc it's so relatable😂❤️
@libbylilley4880 5 жыл бұрын
I really relate to Shane on this. I really can't sleep until I feel like I've done something productive, and I don't really like going to bed either. This video made me realise a lot :)
@tessamayfield2732 5 жыл бұрын
This was SO good and eye opening. I totally understand where Shane is coming from. I don’t like bedtime either and find myself putting it off. I like the idea of creating new rituals around bedtime. Thank you Katie!
@LilyRoseR 5 жыл бұрын
Relating so hard right now! It is 8:30AM at the moment and I still haven't been to bed yet. I've been this way for most of my life.
@ashleyf7555 5 жыл бұрын
Awesome video kati 😀😀 this video helped md out alot thanks.
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
@caw524x 5 жыл бұрын
ever since i discovered your channel, i wished i had a therapist such as yourself. thanks for the consistent informative uploads :)
@marissaclifford4882 5 жыл бұрын
I'm going to definitely be doing the homework, especially because finals week is next week! I think finding something happy and relaxing, preferably a KZfaq video is best! I'm busy with school work all day, then tend to feel like helping everyone struggling at night as an empath because I don't have a lot of time to do that during the day! I think I'll start having a time limit like between 9-10 help others feel better, then relax watching/doing something happy, shut off my phone and sleep! Thanks so much for this video, and Best of luck to Shane and Ryland! Also, Shane you got this, I believe in you! Figuring out the reason or reasons why you're not sleeping is the first important step! I'm sooooo proud of you for working so hard on figuring out ways to solve the problem. Also it will be rewarding for you in so many ways to be able to sleep better, and even if it's a really strange, having a bedtime is a great step in the right direction too! 😊😊😊😀😀 💜💜💜❤❤❤💓💓💓💓
@madisyncarter4479 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for another great video. Notification team ayye
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
YAY!! SO glad you liked it :) xoxox
@lovebythemoon 5 жыл бұрын
I could relate so much. My sleep is insane. Also i love Shanes faces he makes 😂💕
@nataliavaloroso9406 5 жыл бұрын
This video shows how much of a good therapist you are
@HollieAndApollo 5 жыл бұрын
LOVED the animation part!!! :) would love more of that in your vids!
@SimplyTina53 5 жыл бұрын
This was so interesting 😯 I live with occasional insomnia. What I STOPPED doing was getting out of bed. I lay there and do deep breathing. I've learned to relax. Most times I will go back to sleep. 👍
@Katimorton 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing what has helped you!! xoxo
@xAlbinopiratex 5 жыл бұрын
I completely relate to this. My fiancé thinks I don't sleep at night because I don't want to, but it's because I just can't. I don't have sleep related trauma, I just have always been in physical pain and sleep causes more pain for me, so sleeping is not something I look forward to doing. It's a real struggle and it's caused quite a few arguments for us, but we do deal with it. I try to regulate my sleep pattern, and it can work for a few days, but I always end up going back to sleep at like 5am and falling back into the same old patterns because regulating my sleep habits doesn't stop the pain
@cathrenriddler45 5 жыл бұрын
I’m the same way. My pain keeps it so hard to sleep. But all you want to do is rest and make this pain go away, it also doesn’t help my boyfriend works for the railroad and is on call 24 hours a day. His phone can ring anytime. And it is normally right after I have finally fallen asleep.
@crystalcroft2041 5 жыл бұрын
I have exactly the same issue. Th pain is worse st night and I dread sleeping because of pain and anxiety......
@ashleyartsco 5 жыл бұрын
This is such a good video! I have actually been dealing with sleep issues and The timing is perfect!
@whatkindofblue17 5 жыл бұрын
This is such an interesting series! Learning so much. Excited for more!!
@bellasampson7398 5 жыл бұрын
I feel like outside of Shanes trauma a large part of these issues both with hyper focus and sleep are from ADHD. There's some academic research that resulted in saying that the ADHD brain tends to benefit better from a 2am-10am sleeping pattern rather than the neurotypical something pm to 6-8am wake-up. I completely understand where he's coming from RE getting in the zone to that extent, I have it sometimes with University papers I enjoy or on the bi-yearly time I play Sims I can achieve that focus for a day or two continuously which is insane. Definitely a good idea to try and shift or cut the focus or 'release' as you were calling it if it interferes that much with his life, but it's hard for someone with ADHD to cut that as we know it truly is really productive time and can feel like the same standard won't be met if we come back to it later. Notes are definitely helpful though. Great video!
@sierras6604 5 жыл бұрын
Why is Ryland my husband and Shane is me 🤯 this helped me out allot with perspective thank you for the video guys ❤️ love you all
@tiffanycox2339 5 жыл бұрын
I totally relate to this. I’ve always had issues sleeping at night but sleep well during the day. After this information I really see the childhood trauma connection. Great info!
@dylangrace6213 5 жыл бұрын
I am loving this new editing!!! It’s very enjoyable :)
@XpetraXpazlX 5 жыл бұрын
Shane said the bedroom was dark & scary. Maybe he could sleep with a dim lamp on or something. Or have different things in the bedroom, or maybe less stuff to help relax. Also you guys need alarms to start/stop working. & get andrew to agree to the time to stop working also.
@claudiajade624 5 жыл бұрын
I feel like if u work from home it would be important to get changed into some sort of different outfit, and then get into ur pjs again to go to sleep. Cause is important for ur brain to know that they are different states. So I kinda see Shane living in a robe all the time being a barrier to a proper sleep schedule... Also I find the no phone in bed thing v important. I recently started snoozing my alarm and checking socials in the morning in bed and it made things lots harder that it used to be to get up
@doulikepenisnadvodka 5 жыл бұрын
This is what I'm literally going through right now. I don't want to sleep either, nightmares, abusive household..ect Thank you for this taking time to explore this topic Kati, Shane and Ryland.
@emilyjameson5593 5 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful!! I saved this video after I finished watching it because this is actually something I've been talking about in counseling. I really identified with a lot of what Shane was saying. I'm going to try some of the tips
@avabaumann3250 5 жыл бұрын
Don’t worry Shane I relate to you
@TiffanyRMoore32123 5 жыл бұрын
I relate to Shane so much.
@jaamesfn 4 жыл бұрын
I have always find sleep anxiety inducing so I’m on so many medication for sleep so I can be on a ‘normal’ schedule but I have always slept better during the day, when I can have a nap, I find it so much more comforting for me. I have never found something so damn relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with everyone, Shane. It’s hard for people to understand the triggers surrounding sleep. Sending so much love. You’re incredible. 💜
@ranchsanch 5 жыл бұрын
this is like parallel to my boyfriend and my situation with sleep and constantly missing each other’s paths because our sleep, school and work schedules are the exact opposite. this video makes me wanna change my sleep habits ! thank you kati, shane and ryland! :)
@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper 4 жыл бұрын
Rachel Sanchez but you’re not gay
@cassidyrose1911 5 жыл бұрын
im wearing your merch as I watch this video
@Clunkbot81 5 жыл бұрын
Melatonin can give you wild dreams, like fully epic adventures.
@Psychogoddess 5 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree with this 😂😂 I only have wacky dreams when I take melatonin.
@ll_extremelystressed_ll3804 5 жыл бұрын
Also ibuprofen has made me have sleep paralysis does anyone else or is it just me?
@kittysrock16 5 жыл бұрын
I’m like Shane too so this is super comforting to see. I’m creative during the night and sleep has been such an issue to me. Sorry that you’re going through that Shane
@dark3rh3art24 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this his video. Before watching, I never realized that my past traumas might be what's keeping me awake (I have been diagnosed with complex ptsd by my therapist). I have a lot of anxiety at night and tend to wake up in the middle of the night. I would like to tell Shane that his sleep patterns are not that strange and what he said was helpful. :) I've also never been excited to go to sleep or happy to go to sleep... I also appreciate the noises when you had a pop up with words cause I'm listening at work, and the pops help me know to look
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