You and Dr. Ramani are Saving Lives and Sanity ! Bless you both ! Thank you !

Wow...I'm still learning new terms and phrases for the horrible abuse I endured. No matter what I did I always found myself on the losing end.

Within the first 10mins my jaw hit the floor. It was almost like he had been listening to my partner and the way she talks to me in our relationship. Thankyou for the enlightenment.......let the learning begin.

One sign to spot a narcissist very early on is to put a boundary on your time, they will disrespect it because they are looking to destroy your healthy boundaries.

It’s kind of contradictory to say that a narcissist ex admitted that to gaslighting. One of the behavior patterns of a narcissist is that they won’t admit fault on their own, and that they use gaslighting to convince you that they were never at fault. I can tell you what behavior of my narcissist ex led me to believe that I was being gaslighted though. Gaslighting is a real insidious way of manipulation- to make you believe that there is something wrong with you, that the actions/words of your narcissist weren’t really what they seemed to be. It makes you question your judgement, leading to you ignoring your instincts and senses. I swallowed all of her gaslighting for years, mostly because I wanted the relationship to work- like most people who have been the partner of a narcissist. I started realizing that something was wrong 6 months before I was discarded. It was actually this revelation that I had that led to the discard- once I started seeing through the illusion that she presented, I started to see all of her actions for what they really were, and I started to question her on everything and stood my ground on issues that I previously gave in on. We had gotten into a really bad argument. Tensions between us had been building for a few months. We had to move from our rental and find a new place to live within 2 months, in a town that was going through a surge in prices for rental properties. It was difficult finding a place to live that was within our budget, and still live in the town that had come to be our community. Between that and all of the normal logistics in moving cause a lot of minor arguments and stress between us- more than what was normal with her narcissistic and selfish behavior. We found a place, moved in and was in the process of bringing the final things over from the old place to the new place and cleaning the old place when we had gotten into an argument about something minor. All of the pent up tensions and resentment came out. During the argument, she was dismissive to me and told me that everything was my fault and if I didn’t like it then I could pack my shit and leave. I was so frustrated that I knocked her external computer monitor down (so she would face me and not continue to argue with her back turned to me). She got up and in my face and told me that I probably wanted to hit her. I said that I didn’t, I just wanted to discuss the issues. She said that if I wasn’t man enough to hit her she would give herself a black eye and call the police on me. I turned and left the room, because I knew the argument was escalating to a place that I didn’t;t want it to go. As I turned to leave the room, she jumped on me and started punching me. I told her if she was going to hit me, I would call the police. She started punching me again, so I left the room, went to the master bathroom and called the police. They came, interviewed both of us and arrested her for spousal battery. Afterwards she only blamed me for the incident and never, never acknowledged that she hit me. A week or so later, she asked me to write a letter to the DA requesting that the charges be dropped. I said that I would write a letter but that she would have to acknowledge her actions and to apologize to me first. She said that she was sorry that I felt that way. I told her that I wouldn’t write anything to the DA, and she stormed off, giving me the silent treatment for a couple of days. I knew what happened, and have a very clear recollection of the events. I’ve been punched before with closed fists, and I know what it feels like- and it doesn’t feel like a “shove”, what she insisted was what she did (her story was that she shoved me only after I shoved her, which was nonsense). I got a copy of the police report, and one of several reasons that they arrested her is because they found her knuckles red and swollen. I tried to move through this, but she kept trying to change the narrative of what happened when I was very clear on what happened. I felt crazy, but knew that I wasn’t. This led me to question everything else that she told me. Once I started realizing that most things she told me (when it came to disagreements or things that I had an issue with) were lies, and I believed the illusion that she created to trick me. That’s what the narcissist does- they present an illusion to you. Just like looking at an optical illusion, once you see that it is a trick of the eyes, you can’t look at it again without seeing the trick. Once I started seeing through her illusions, the house of cards that she built started to fall down and I slowly started to realize the type of person that she was, even though I didn’t want to believe it. I started enforcing my boundaries and that drove her crazy and caused more fights and gaslighting, which is what I believe led to her finally discarding me 6 months after her arrest. She never admitted to gaslighting me though. Even after confronting her with things from years previous that I realized she changed to make me the one at fault, she stays with her story. Even with indisputable proof, she stays with her version of events and says everyone else is wrong. Don’t expect any type of satisfaction or closure from a narcissist, because you won’t get any. You have to believe your judgment and instinct, and not tie your self-worth and self-esteem to anything that they say to you. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

The insight I had recently about the narcissistic abuse I've experienced is that you can condense a lot of the abuse you experience down to three things 1) a lack of empathy/inconsistent empathy 2) when there is an argument or disagreement, they will turn away from you and pin blame rather than trying to understand your pain 3) their pattern of behaviour is fixed because they have what you might call is an emotional disability: they can't accept themselves and so they can never accept you. They will never change and you have to accept and grieve that loss. You have to then either eliminate them from your life/grey rock them or become so authentic and own your flaws and weaknesses so that they cannot trigger you to feed from you.

I love this guy. He is spot on. He is to the point. He is thorough, clear, yet soft-spoken. This is the Best Narc Awareness channel on KZfaq.

Changing the subject, is a red hot technique of the narcissist. All to do with control.

"If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice." - Rush

I take responsibility for not trusting my intuition and ignoring the red flags mine only lasted 3 months. But I grew up with a narcissistic family. Never knew what a narcissist was till 3 years ago. I'm so glad or I would would go to my grave not knowing and having an explanation for my child hood

You’re brilliant and I love the way you explain how narcissists function.

Wow!! I completely remember #10, and how sad it made me to have to explain EVERYTHING in advance in detail so it wouldn't trigger him! That was the main thing that gave me pause, and made me realize how unhappy I was. You are the only one that has ever talked about it!

That was some great Soul Food. I'm at that point where I pity those that were narcissistic towards me. I no longer allow them around me, it was and is the best for me. Some people will NEVER be allowed in my sandbox, and, there are now rules for entry. No longer will people be allowed to use it as their litter box. I've had enough of their $hit. What's been interesting is the role we play in this, that's been something I've been evaluating myself for awhile. It's been explained very articulate here. It's gives one the tools and thoughts to fix the issues one may be facing and coping with. It is a journey too. Thanks.

Kenny I had developed heart palpitations due to this stress, mental fog, body pain all over, recovering is still ongoing.

Toxic abusers is their true name. I am so relieved that I cut that out of my life.

The silver tongued paper cuts…. That’s the weird thing I couldn’t put my finger on about why dealing with my mother was always so stressful, it’s like getting compliments and attacked at the same time! And the “blame shifting” was always “it was all your Dad’s fault”, never took responsibility for her own part. She’d offer to “help” me but if I ever got upset about her in any way, then she’d recite a list of every single time she’d helped me in my whole life. Result: total self-sufficiency, I will not accept any offers of help from her or anyone ever again because the price is always way too high! No contact brings me way more peace ☮️

Wow! #10...I've never heard it put that way, but I definitely engaged in that type of 'preemptive planning' in my last relationship....planning schedules, activities, etc, so that everything went smoothly. Planning how I would soothe him when things upset him. Carefully navigating through the daily maze of eggshells I had to walk on. I got really adept at these tasks, but suffered more and more from cognitive dissonance each day. When I finally reached my breaking point and ended up in therapy, day one - I stated I wanted to be a better person so he would be happy with me. My therapist sent me home to make a list of all the goals I wanted to accomplish - not just personal improvement, but general life goals. While making that list, the light came on...I was never going to accomplish these positive personal goals while still in the quagmire of a relationship with this covert narcissist. It wasn't all me. It wasn't all my fault. I started another list - of things he had said and done that made me feel at fault or not worthy. A little 'Googling' led me to a book that I read in one sitting and took to my next appointment - 30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics, by Adelyn Birch. He had successfully used 29 of the 30 on me. There was work to be done - on me - but not the kind he made me believe. And, if you've ever dealt with a covert narcissist, you'll know how easy it is to get ensnared in the spider's web. I left the relationshit within a few weeks, and began my journey of recovery, figuring out how I 'let' that happen, forgiving myself for my imperfections. I've focused a lot on recognizing and avoiding that type of person, which has really been empowering. Now, I'm ready to address root causes of my insecurities and codependence. I'm looking forward to checking out the resources offered here. Thank you, Kenny!

Perfectly describes the behavior of my mother, grandmother and other toxic family members , and especially the toxic, Golden Child sibling.

Ever notice how the person who did you dirty is the one who wants to “forget the past”, and uses statements like “I didn’t start this you did (when they absolutely brought it up)”. Or blame you for their bad choices and poor decisions?!?!

20 years of therapy and I’m still working on myself.

The other I have received when I was being verbally abused by a narcissist “yes he did it, but you have to move past it.”

So spot on! It took me years to straighten out after a hideous upbringing. The hardest part was forgiveness and learning boundaries. Recently, I reconnected with one of my sisters. At first, it was nice! Then one by one, she exhibited ALL of what you say to a tee. I at least realized this within 3 months, and I have ended the relationship. I hold no anger towards her, and I hope she is doing well, but I have no interest in any more abuse. When you start feeling dread and obligation when interacting with the person, there is a real problem. And by the way, they have to have the last word. Let them have it and move on. Thanks for doing these!

I can attest to the value of giving yourself a year and working on yourself. I’ve not been single more than a month since I was 13 until now. It’s hard and it hurts like hell but you do have to love yourself enough to find you. I’ve been blessed with Gods grace to hold me through and so will you.

When I realised that _'a grandiose sense of self importance'_ includes: "no one has suffered as much as I have" it was an epiphany (vulnerable Narcissist)

So hard when it’s your parent! My dad has been a narcissist since childhood my mom and I have suffered his wrath for the span of the marriage and my entire life my mother just “passed” unexpectedly a week ago I believe mainly due to the stress my dad has put on her. Now I’m forced as an only adult child going through a divorce of my own narcissist spouse with no children of my own to help I’m having to deal with my dad ALONE! I made my escape by moving out 24 years ago leaving my mom there found refuge in my spouse in our own home only for that spouse to be another narcissist luckily I’m still under my own roof I have a safe place but I am looking after my dad ALONE! Set some boundaries which I couldn’t do growing up under his roof but it scary and stressful nonetheless! The number 10 I’ve been doing it for YEARS! KNOWING my dads reactions to things and worrying they’re gonna come before the do doing all I can to keep them from happening before they do! Funny how it’s always OK however if HE does these same things! GUESS I SHOULD be making videos like you said because I’ve lived this way at least 3/4 of my life! 💔

I feel like an important one was left out. "I did that because you did/said something mean/crazy." Or also, "That's not the order in which it happened". I'm recalling a specific instance with my very abusive ex where he was throwing my things out of my car into the street and after a few minutes of trying to put my stuff back in my car to no avail, I yelled for help. The next day he insisted that the reason he started throwing my things was BECAUSE I started yelling for help. It's been like 4 years and my blood is boiling right now telling this story. Another important thing to take note of is that they will often not address what you are complaining about at all, and instead immediately begin talking about something you did or said in the past. Example: "It really hurt me when you were throwing my things into the street." Response: "Last week you ignored my messages for 3 hours."

In Alanon and ACOA they encourage you to focus on yourself and to heal instead of focusing on the one who is abusing you..

One thing I recognized in myself, I doubted things I really know. Keeps me not speaking. I literally have double checked time and again, whether by Google, pics or checking my journaling, even tho I KNOW what I know. Learning to accept that I do know things. I'm allowed to know things.

My ex’s favourite is: ‘If that’s what you want to think....’

You are exactly right about "getting ahead" of the possible narcissistic rage. I've not heard it before, but I definitely see it. Thank you.

Thank you for saying “We’ve all been abusive”. The words “They are a narcissistic person” is thrown around like candy anymore. Every week you hear someone labeled a narcissistic person. It’s like society has forgotten that there’s just shi**y people in the world. That’s it just terrible people who don’t need a “label”.

As always, I appreciate your message, Kenny. I am a little over 2 years removed from my narc ex. Every time I listen to you it makes me realize how mentally and emotionally debilitating it was to engage with this man on a daily basis. You really do start to feel like you're going crazy, yet you are not fully aware of why it is happening to you, much like the frog being cooked, slowly, in hot water. The only true solution to get away from narcissistic personality types is to develop a loving relationship with the self and your own divinity. I am still healing the relationship with myself as it is not an overnight process.One thing or sure, I am a hell of a lot better off than I was when I left him in the fall of 2020. It is professionals like you that assist us to heal, grow, and evolve. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and wisdom!

My personal two favorites “ You Always…” And, “ I never said that “ I’ve been luckily separated for two years and I haven’t missed those words yet 😂😂

I always wondered if there’s a narc meter you can buy somewhere? I still feel after all the experience, information, and insight, I still get fooled by narcs! 😅

You are describing my husband. He is exactly what you're saying. He does those things to me, Day in and day out constantly. That's crazy. He's vicious and he lies He's abusive but he tries to make himself look like the good guy to everyone else. The thing is he has no reason to be that way to me. It's awful. It's making me ill. Thanks for clarifying and describing to the t what I already knew.

This is so interesting. After I left that abusive relationship, I was reading a book on abuse and I recall thinking, " Who the heck's been living in my house." How could so many of those statements been exactly what I'd heard, sometimes word for word. Three of the gaslighting statements you missed: "if you had only ....", If only you hadn't..." and one of the ones he used later in our marriage, "do you think maybe you're menopausal?"

He would always say I was always twisting things. My gut instinct told me to run the other way when I met him. I didn't listen. I spent 4 years in a relationship with him. He ended the relationship 6 months ago and I quietly walked away. I'm now moving on with my life.

#8 he would write notes on his phone distorting the whole story on an argument we had saying all the bad things I said to him but he would omit what he said to me to have such reaction…. crazy

Your #10 was explained so very well. My brain actually was crowded planning my offense, so I wouldn’t have to play the defense roll. I would think through the N’s predictable strategies that would likely play out, all in advance, so that I could avoid the traps! No C. became necessary for my mental liberty.

Thank you for this insight, I have just come through the toughest time of my life, been to places so low I didn’t realise existed. I was an empty shell and I cried for days on end. I wanted her to take my hand and pull me back up but realised that wasn’t the answer. I got help from a therapist, a dr and two friends that still had time for me. I took strength from a friend who committed suicide, he couldn’t or didn’t shout for help.. I didn’t know that someone I loved and shared my life with for 19 years could systematically destroy me and I had no idea I was letting it happen. I’m not fixed, not by a long shot, but I can stand up straight, smile, sing and feel like a real person again. Not always but I will heal, I will not give up, I will find my way. I will educate myself more on this despicable disease and I need to understand and recover from my own trauma. My heart is with every single one of you who are dealing with narcissistic and toxic relationships . Please look after yourselves, you are important. Be strong. We can do this.🙏

Thank you 1- DON'T BRAND SOMEBODY THAT THEIR NARCO ABUSER BECAUSE THEY SAID THAT ONCE , YOU ARE LOOKING FOR REPETITION . 2- IT'S ALL ABOUT CONTROL YET THEY DON'T SEE IT THEY SEE IT AS A SELF PROTECTION MECHANISM .

28 years with mine. I've started to change things here and he can't stand it. my memory is different, so the gaslight doesn't work just stresses me out. for a long time i just thought he was that dumb to do the things he did or trying to make me go crazy but how could someone try that long to make someone go nuts.

OMG! I have been witnessing this with a friend and her son and daughter in law.

Just had someone attempt this gaslighting technique on me yesterday. In attempt to get what he wanted, he gaslit then cited his titles . I told him I didn't care if he was JC who came down from the heavens, disrespect would never be tolerated. Titles mean nothing to me. I treat everyone the same. Lol! He had nowhere to go. I told him to seek services elsewhere, as I could offer him nothing that would work in concert with the values he holds.

Your rare number 10 is one I've recently become more aware of with my own actions. I'm undiagnosed BPD W/ NPD traits. (Oddly enough, with all the years of therapy I've tried, neither has ever even been mentioned yet they're both extremely prevalent in my life.) It is a bitch to deal with on both ends. It's honestly one of the things I hate most about my toxic issues. Hopefully, as a tip from my perspective, one thing I ask I people in my life. Hold me accountable for my actions. Don't let them do it without at least talking about it and don't let them get away with it by sweeping it under the rug. I am not aware of everything that I do in how it affects others. If the person doing this to you does actually care about you. They will, eventually, take responsibility and work on it. If they don't, won't even acknowledge they do it. I'd suggest running as far as fast as you can.

Hello Kenny My good heavens spot on in everything have said. It's like a sniper shooting at you , you don't know when the next shot is to be fired or from which direction but you know it's coming. They may have had some trauma in their past, but dear Lord the cruelty is something else. I forgive as that's what I believe is correct but you start to shut down and it's a constant weathering the storm. I pity them ultimately. A sense of humour help's to survive but no accountability whatsoever from them and never will be. I am brought up a Catholic and believe what God puts together, man shall not take apart. I think this life / world is a training ground and our lives here is only one small part of the big picture. Thanks for your insight and knowledge and keep up the great work. Keep well and safe.

"Are you questioning me?"/"don't question me?" "Worthless" "You know nothing" "what have you ever done in your life" "you think you're smarter than anybody else/ You just think you're better than everyone else"

He’s my son, who just moved his life across 1400 miles. To share my oasis 😢, I only just realized what I’ve invited into it.

I finally caught on to what double bind means Your clarity in your work is so helpful in unmeshing those cob webs Thank you Kenny

I recognize everything you said. I left my abusive & narcissist family. I will read your book. I have work to do on me. Thank you!

This lis might as well have ~Mom after each phrase. My mom has said every single one of those at some point. The "Why can't you be more like..." was probably the most common. My sister was her perfect little angel, and so I was never goodenough. A direct quote from my mother..."You have a funny way of looking at your childhood. You survived, didn't you?" I alread knew she is a communal narcisist though. This just helps me feel better about labelling her in that way.

Wish you could post the list so we could print it out. It sure would come in handy..

In terms of changing the subject, I agree. However, a useful tool to break the rant is to make a physical gesture to break the 100 per cent concentration on the narcissist. Adjust your glasses. Blow your nose. Scratch your nose. Adjust your watch or piece of jewellery.

Thanks you so much for this info...not until I was a life threatening event in my life( aortic dissection) Lucky to survive . Until my cardiologist told me this your second chance at life i decided to not put up being in a disfunctional state.

The worst for me was « I’m sorry you feel that way » « It is what it is » and « I’m not looking to cheat »…every time he said those to me, and it was often, I would tell him « that’s an empty sentence, you are not being real ». He never got it, so I left.

I think I have fallen in love with you !! - you have opened my eyes and managed it with kindness, humour, deep insight and care - and so much truth. Also, you realise that not everyone can afford therapy or get it in any way - in many countries it just is not available - so thank you thank you thank you for ever and ever. This knowledge could heal and prevent so many social problems and my one true wish would be that all of us - young and old - could understand ourselves, forgive ourselves and become positive instead of negative and learn how to grow and love properly. The lack of guidance that was provided by our elders is not apparent anymore and we need younger people to recognise and learn how to deal with relationshops that are damaging to mental health, and how to forgive but set bounderies and keep themselves safe. I would hope that someday schools and colleges could benefit from all the insight and wisdom that is slowly filtering into our brains via the internet and amazing people like you. Bless you.

Finding someone who understands like this in the UK is very hard. My mum was and is a narcissist, getting progressively worse as she grows older. No contact only option for me. Everything I do is fuel for her.

I was so “ stupid” about 10 years ago that my narcissist swindled about a quarter million dollars out of me I would say it was a romance scam operation. And I feel like I’m a very intelligent person but when someone controls your mind and is that toxic? It is scary how much they can take over another person I’m so glad I’m gone and divorced from that situation, my mother passed away not long ago. fortunately I am financially set now for a great retirement. God bless frugal parents that work hard all their life. 😊 The thing that my narc hated was that I’m just a positive happy person I’m very active. I worked with children for years as a preschool teacher I’ll live in faith not fear, and that just bugging the hell out of him. He never put my light out. God bless all of us that are healing from these abusive relationships in our past .

Yes, a carcass it the right way to put it. And what does a carcass do? Make a stink!! All this resonated in me so much. It is so hard to heal.

It's as if you have been recording our conversations - - - I hear these comments on the regular. This is very helpful, I'm thankful for this valuable information.

if i have things not go well in my life I have people telling me- you must be doing something wrong if you always have conflicts with people, I was disowned by family, I was homeless- or i get told stop being a victim- no one can believe that I can be a good person and have bad things happen, Nowadays I don't want to share information about my past because people assume i'm bad

So spot on in every level. Thanks so much for sharing this information!

Thank you for all the free content you put out ! Your commitment to help us heal is truly extraordinary !!!

Thank you for helping me to see the tools that toxic people use to manipulate and control. It is important to know who we are dealing with and how to avoid being roped into their snares. I have experienced some of these before but have not always known how to handle myself in the right way.

New sub,thank you,very informative,wow,no.10,relatable,I'm glad you're healing now and passing on your knowledge to us 🤍🙏🤍

About the 21 phrases: if you turn the table, isn't it possible they can be used standing up to a narcissist. It might not be the most productive way if you want to mend a relationship , but it might be the beginning of a way out. I feel like some occasions call for these responses from anyone, to stand up for themself. Maybe the abusive part probably won't listen, but it might help to boost self-esteem enough to start on the path away.

Thank you Kenny! Yes, point nr. 10 was a great one!

Thank you for sharing this & all your videos help me so much thanks again! keep em up! 💜

Your information is life changing! Always learn something from you! Thank you for introducing me to my dysfunctional ways of dealing with life I didn't even realize! So glad I listened to the books you recommended especially the one you wrote!

Ken out of everyone I've heard tackle this issue, you have the most no-nonsense perspective. Clear and direct! Thank you!

I just found you yesterday,I'm SO thankful how you point out issues on both sides,especially the Angel narcissistic raising themselves above the other.I love your straight to the point ways!! Thank you ❣️

I love how you just lay it all out there. It’s hard to hear some of it, but I went away feeling better. Thank you for that

1. "You're being paranoid." 2. "That never happened." 3. "You're making that up." 4. "You have always been crazy." 5. "You're overreacting." 6. "I dont know what you want me to say." 7. "It's your fault." 8. "Everyone agrees with me." 9. "It was a joke. Cant you take a joke?" 10. "How dare you accuse me if doing that." 11. "Why cant you be more like (--)?" 12. "I cant have any negative emotions around you." 13. "There is something seriously wrong with you " 14. " Well, you're not perfect either." 15. "Stop exaggerating." 16. "Dont blame me, i never meant to hurt you." 17. "Lets just forgive and forget." 18. "Why are you always bringing up the past?" 19. "This is how you treat me, after everything I've done for you?" 20. "We already talked about this- dont you remember?" 21. "I think YOU need professional help."

Very interesting!!!! Haven’t heard this side and view of this subject before!! Thank you!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

They never apologize no matter what they did. It's always my fault, not theirs. The starting over as long as I behave we can get through this. He isolated me away from people. Now I have social anxiety. I was a extrovert now I am a introvert. I never want to leave the house even for work. I'm not with him, but remember what he said ...you know what you are ...go do what you do best Just a few

Unfortunately I have played by the narcs rules! You get what you give!

Omg! I just used one of your lines and my daughters father literally started freaking out asking me what should he do... An whats going 2 happen. Never has he asked me anything these past 2 years. Omgoodness.

One gaslighting message to me , was a constant and I do mean constant, " You DON"T trust me!!!" Meanwhile he was draining all our money, lying , having decade long affairs, going on secret cruises etc. Well, it worked and I had to accept that if I was to stay married, over 40 years, I had better TRUST. When I discovered the horrible deceptions, he again said, well you did not trust me ANYWAY!!!! So, that position he took was absolutely central to his whole operation. Talk about a game of corner!!!!

You making these videos are extremely validating to me thank you so much for making them and let me know that I'm not completely crazy and I feel like every one of these I am a shell of the woman I used to be

To a narcissist, you will never be enough. To a narcissist, you will never have enough of what they believe they deserve. And you, in a relationship with a narcissist, will keep giving till you eventually become empty…you then become a shell, a husk, of what you once were… and then they will desert you, because you, have nothing left to give them. Narcissists leave a trail of abandoned relationships, and those relationships are dovetailed with no time between them…not quite monkey branching, but the fact remains, a narcissist can’t live with themselves. To themselves, they are valueless without the adoration of whoever is their “one” at that moment.

We seek what is familiar

I am non stop getting ahead of things when it comes to everything and u did not ever see that anywhere so thank you so much.

Omg! My mother!!! And...my last 2! partners 😢 I finally woke up when my psychologist pointed it out. I've chosen to continue online research & seeing my therapist as my recovery method. Knowledge is very much a powerful tool to have. Thank you for your teachings 🙏

18:34 thank you. I needed to hear this. Your station is a breathe of fresh air. Going to buy your book !! The equation is real !

The way you explaining-like your talking about my x I Ben there for over 30 years !

I appreciate how when your video's point the finger, they also acknowledge there are three pointing back, so to speak.

Excellent stuff to be aware of, thanks for sharing

I knew all this ive said this all along with folk what they like,thank you you saved me,im actually want to put this on my page so people see EXSACTLY what i mean. My mother especially the malignant narcissist. All my life ive put up with this kind of thing. Thank you again.

I just love you and thank you so much for sharing with humility and trusting us with your truth this has blown my mind and I am absolutely on the road to healing like never before now since finding your channel

Thank You Kenny Weiss. I'm Happy I Subscribed to You. Your Unique Gentle Approach Is Really Helpful. Happy New Year 2023 to You.

Thanks for the beauty you bring .

Thank you. Very helpful. I was with a narcissist after my wife passed away and did not know this.

I was ready to hear this and learn from it. Perhaps the most concise explanation of abuse. Very good.

Priceless information from one who has been there, done that......I can totally relate and am really owning my childhood issues....at 63 yrs old, Yes, decades of repetitive behavior and same results.....Many thanks for painting an honest, raw picture with a gentle brush, so glad to have come across your channel Kenny! You are helping me and so many others!❤️

I love the sweet man you recover for all the abuse, I hope become a sweet better version of me soon too. Thank you for your videos. I was watching a lot of youtubers about this topic, but I feel comfortable with your energy, how do you present the facts, very clear, even my head is not, ...yet. thanks!

Learning sooo much more! Gratitude always. 💚✨✨✨🕯

Thank you so much. I am seeing a psychologist who also does EMDR which has made a very big difference.

I love your teaching style. Very engaging and your stories legit take me back to certain things I heard from my parents. Seems like I just recently left a cult-like dynamic.

I came across your videos, and they have been such a blessing to me. I love it when you mentioned, " When you are less than perfect and you have issues, it is the best I can do with who I was at that time!!! We are constantly growing and learning, and it's so important for us to gibe ourselves grace when we end up in these situations that we never intended to end up in. ❤

I love that you give us an idea of how much time to spend on recovering etc.