Kerry Washington on Finding Out Her Parents Used A Sperm Donor | OWN Spotlight

Kerry Washington on Finding Out Her Parents Used A Sperm Donor | OWN Spotlight | OWN

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8 ай бұрын

Kerry Washington shares the story of when she learned her parents used a sperm donor and how it strengthened her love for her parents. For more on OWN Spotlight visit www.oprah.com/app/own-spotlig...
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@moodyjudy707 8 ай бұрын

My cousins father has so many children by different women, that one day a man at the corner store tried to hook up with her and she said “no, I’m good, you look just like my daddy and laughed. His response was “what’s his name” she said his full name and at that moment they realized they are siblings. It’s crazy to think that they could’ve hooked up and wouldn’t have known they were related. It’s important to know your biological history for reasons like that. Also for medical/health reasons.

@Msladyrae92 8 ай бұрын

The waters are muddy when you’re a descendant of chattel slavery. We were sold off many times so in present day we are probably distantly related to many ppl we don’t even know.

@Connie-sx7nz 8 ай бұрын

My father was the same way, doing his best to repopulate the entire country all on his own. My younger brother and I (3 years younger) were introduced to one of our half brothers by his mother when we were both teenagers. At the time we lived on a small Caribbean island and his mother said she wanted him to meet all of his half sisters that she was aware of to avoid any potential mishaps. Apparently he was a year younger than me but a year older than my brother 🤦🏽‍♀️

@amberjohnson 8 ай бұрын

🤢

@JesusLovesEVERYTHING 8 ай бұрын

One time a guy tried to talk to me, he seemed okay until i gotta whiff of his cologne.. same stuff my dad been wearing since the 90s, no thank you. The thought of it made me gag honestly

@faebalina7786 8 ай бұрын

This is really disturbing 🤢🤮 Those men should do jail time

@haute03 8 ай бұрын

Kerry is very emotionally intelligent. Bless her and her family.

@zcam7939 8 ай бұрын

What the hell does that mean?

@AlkalineInsides 8 ай бұрын

@@zcam7939it means they understand others emotions around them. And know how to be tactful in responding to how others feel. Understanding a situation beyond themselves.

@zcam7939 8 ай бұрын

@@AlkalineInsides that's not this so-called emotion intelligence garbage y'all made up. It's called empathy. No such thing as emotional intelligence.

@kiasha5273 8 ай бұрын

Google: Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

@zcam7939 8 ай бұрын

@@kiasha5273 Everything you typed still falls under empathy. 😆😆😆 nice try though

@beautybeads7285 8 ай бұрын

That last line though; "My loved for my parents is so much deeper in truth than it ever was before this revelation."

@achatwithgoitse 8 ай бұрын

It’s amazing. I think it’s her realizing they intentionally chose to have her.

@shirlsshirls8594 8 ай бұрын

Her parents never planned on telling her smh God bless her for being so loving and understanding.

@ssbell2011jcsu 8 ай бұрын

She seemed to handle this situation with such grace. Kudos to her!

@mbailey1026 8 ай бұрын

"You can love someone deeper in truth than in a lie." Wow what a statement.

@lindandaba525 8 ай бұрын

Oh what a story. The timing couldn’t have been better, she’s more emotionally mature & understanding & more appreciating now than if they had to tell her earlier . God bless her & her family 🙏🏽❤️

@juicysmith38235 8 ай бұрын

I have a family member who found out their father wasn't biological in his late 80's. His parents are gone, so we do not know who is father was or why this occurred. Heartbreaking 💔 so glad she got her answers

@gwendolynbrown1355 8 ай бұрын

Learning the truth actually released freedom for her Dad. I bet the weight of the world is off his shoulder now. 😊

@phyllispierce9453 8 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@jones2277 7 ай бұрын

Not necessarily

@nattybumpkins1 8 ай бұрын

I love Kerry she is beautiful inside and out. So strong. God bless her and her family. 😊

@firouz256 8 ай бұрын

By loving him, she made herself so much more at ease! Love is a choice!

@rebels42wynn83 8 ай бұрын

I can relate to her. My grandparents (adoptive) had told me about my biological father. But my mother didn't have the guts to tell me who he was.

@stevi6236 8 ай бұрын

She’s a tribute to her wonderful parents….. blessings❣️

@godmadesam 8 ай бұрын

Lies and secrets hurt worse, the longer you keep them from the people who should know. I appreciate her transparency, and her beautiful response; but it is not ok to do things like this and not reveal so there can be a chance to heal. I’m glad this happened while they were still living. I know of a situation where the mental fragility of the individuals will deepen and worsen, if they find out after the death of the parents. I pray they do the right thing like her parents.

@HealwNonaBlacktv 8 ай бұрын

I am glad she found out & able to love them unconditionally

@kinnarda4technology 8 ай бұрын

Kerry response to her father was priceless. Her comment came from a heart of excellence.

@ejnichols05 8 ай бұрын

He's the ONLY father she's known, and they raised an amazing daughter. No one should ever feel ashamed about bring life, they wanted, into this world. Sometimes we have to get out of our own personal perceptions, and think about what's best for others, especially when it comes to children. I know who my bio father is, BUT my dad (stepfather) was the one who raised me...❤❤❤

@MM-qo4to 3 ай бұрын

Made me cry. Had my daughter via egg donation and we plan to tell her very young. I believe telling children early is the key.

@montraedavis2201 8 ай бұрын

What a story. Definitely on my book list. Thank you for telling a real story. Imagine how many people have gone thru this and can now heal. Very emotional 🙏

@dragonzodiac78 8 ай бұрын

🙏🏽❤

@g.pearson4726 8 ай бұрын

Please tell children while they’re young This isn’t everyone’s experience Tell them asap and put them in therapy and then family therapy For them to have the opportunity to work it out I’m happy KW story turned out beautifully for her and her family This was a tear jerker 😭😭😭

@bintimkitosi6187 8 ай бұрын

Therapy is not cheap

@psychedelic.dreamer 8 ай бұрын

@@bintimkitosi6187 if you have money to adopt ir get sperm donation, you can afford therapy. It may not be cheap but your child completely distancing themselves from you later in life isn't a small price to pay either.

@msmiami212 7 ай бұрын

It’s the exact opposite. Pre-18, they grow up resenting you and will hunt desperately for your replacement with the “greener grass” of the bio parent they imagine. If not from birth, I’d only advise to tell someone grown who now has their own insight on parenthood.

@jones2277 7 ай бұрын

Therapy is such a joke

@phyllispierce9453 8 ай бұрын

I had to finish crying before I write anything! What a beautiful story! I can’t imagine how scared her father was! And the peace that came when he found out that nothing had changed!! Wonderful!

@musiclover4587 8 ай бұрын

I'm reading her new book now, it is a good read - she is authentic about her family and the dysfunction that many of us experience and keep quiet about.

@ronald8071 8 ай бұрын

What's dysfunctional about her parents using a sperm donor?

@musiclover4587 8 ай бұрын

@@ronald8071 I wasn’t referring to sperm donation as dysfunctional at all, I was referring to a number of of issues that she shares about her family dynamic such as alcoholism.

@marlenesaundersshow 8 ай бұрын

Wow . What a conversation. That took guts and maturity

@dorothyedwards7225 8 ай бұрын

After watching her tell this story several times on talk shows, this is still so griping and emotional and passionate!!! I've been a follower and watcher of Find your Roots, its great. I thinks its relevatory and pertinent to "find your roots" of your family tree!

@Heartcoachtalk 8 ай бұрын

Great point❣️ I too love that show, and find so much joy and fulfillment in journeying with others as they find their roots❤

@dorothyedwards7225 8 ай бұрын

❣❤💕🤗@@Heartcoachtalk

@GyrlBlaque 8 ай бұрын

I'm going to predict a movie in the future

@toniarivers7259 8 ай бұрын

Little fires everywhere in reverse

@blackcherry6877 8 ай бұрын

Everything isn't meant to be a movie. She's just telling her truth.

@opulence_prime 8 ай бұрын

Perhaps. I’m actually embarrassed for her bcus I do believe her mom lied.

@sweetrose_5 8 ай бұрын

@@opulence_primemy thoughts Also 😢. Donor almost 50 years ago is odd. Hopefully not

@aprilm4423 8 ай бұрын

Um, yeah. A movie.

@talented1602 8 ай бұрын

I take my hat off to Kerry! Loving someone unconditionally after it was a lie the whole time is truly inspiring. I don't know how I would react. Some many questions, so many answers?????

@emeralddream4428 8 ай бұрын

Ugh 😫😫 this hurt me to my core! I was raised thinking one man was my dad, but he wasn't around ( professional criminal/inmate) then when I was 15 my uncle's ex wife was drunk and told me who my dad was, I had my mom take me around the town we were in looking for him but we found his best friend and he had my sister come get me and I looked just like her!!! I just remember crying and hugging her and my family on his side I looked like them my body type and all, it was crazy because I didn't think I looked like anyone on my mom's side. It's important to know where you come from!

@brendakluttz2557 8 ай бұрын

Love the unconditional love that you have for your parents. I was taken from my father a few days after I was born. My grandparents were my parents and I loved them as mom and dad. My father and I found each other when I turned 50.

@thedopemom7697 8 ай бұрын

She’s better than me because this would take some time to digest. My priorty as a parent is to always tell my son the truth with love Her parents were trying to protect themselves and not her. Kerry is a lovely woman and Im happy this worked out for them.

@ukan.536 8 ай бұрын

This made me cry. Darn you, Oprah!!

@user-qe6xt4yg2f 8 ай бұрын

. What a lovely reaction to her discovery.

@kisha4040 8 ай бұрын

Do you even know her?

@user-qe6xt4yg2f 8 ай бұрын

@@kisha4040 Do you sit on your device and ask bizarre questions. Of course i don't know her. You know her??? Stop reading in to everything. Its not that serious.

@measchueax 8 ай бұрын

Stuff like this always hits me in the feels 😢

@candecollection4730 8 ай бұрын

HE LOVED HER FROM HIS HEART, and it's BEYOND BEAUTIFUL that Kerry sees that. THIS IS SO BREATHTAKINGLY BEAUTIFUL ❤❤❤❤❤ SO POWERFUL 🦋💫✨👑 THANK YOU KERRY, for sharing your beautiful story with us.

@Kristrea 8 ай бұрын

Wow! I’m tearing up😢.

@authorliannejames 8 ай бұрын

Kerry is so well-spoken, beautiful, and just plain mesmerizing.

@TheDiaryofDestaney 3 ай бұрын

Yes, she is. 😍😍😍😍😍😍

@bernardsplayground9237 8 ай бұрын

Amazing... this unconditional love you exhibited to your parents ❤

@BradsTrashIsTyronesTreasure91 8 ай бұрын

Her parents were wrong for not telling her the truth.

@tinkmitch8292 8 ай бұрын

@@sparkle3000When parents or a parent decide to use a donor they have to mindful of possibly having to disclose that for many reasons including medical. Kerry is fine with it but how many wouldn't be okay with having that information concealed.

@rmmoss3800 8 ай бұрын

If she didn’t go through with finding your roots show, they would have took that to their grave. Like many older parents out here keeping secrets and not disclosing. On top of that Kerry could have been dating her brother, cousin and never would have known, so it’s not ok. It’s quick to be ok and get passed it but it is also ok to process it and have feelings about it, like you should have come forward a long time ago parents.

@manushaqueen4687 8 ай бұрын

Really difficult. I imagine as life progressed it would have become harder to tell her. That show came at the right time and she gave a beautiful response to her father, imo.

@Inunity2020 8 ай бұрын

Black people need to break these kinds of habits smh happens too much… it’s dishonest and children have every right and so does the rest of the family

@manushaqueen4687 8 ай бұрын

@@Inunity2020 it is sad that people feel ashamed, protective or guilty, believing it will change relationships for the worst if the facts are revealed. This is common in all ethnicities. Not just with black people. As one size does not fit all people can only do what they think is best and live with the consequences.

@KyeyuneBatuma 8 ай бұрын

Whooo chile !! This had me at the edge of my seat 😮

@daniellejohnson8910 8 ай бұрын

My prayer is that this revelation will encourage other parents to TELL THE WHOLE TRUTH!!!

@vernessatucker8647 8 ай бұрын

Awesome interview! Thanks for sharing.

@aliahspirituality 7 ай бұрын

I’m sorry but celebrities are hilarious. They find out they have a story that sounds deeply troubling and then they go on a nationwide tour talking about it with such solemness like the world must know I am “traumatized” I feel like her agent was like yesss finally she has something to talk about and booked her on Oprah immediately

@jones2277 7 ай бұрын

Exactly. Her eating disorder isn’t big enough to bring in readers

@amberhoward1840 8 ай бұрын

Wow…so beautiful what she said to him 😢❤

@Sjmm21 8 ай бұрын

I just love Kerry Washington! I could listen to her voice all day!!! I’d love if she got the opportunity to narrate something

@Joan1able 8 ай бұрын

Her nails are gorgeous Kerry is a great person and her wisdom and emotional intelligence and love for her father is admirable such a beautiful lady inner and outer😊

@pinkfridaygirIs 7 ай бұрын

Kerry is so strong and amazing for sharing her story ❤she’s an amazing actress and I love her so so much❤❤

@teesvlifestyle8182 8 ай бұрын

Very profound! Blessings to them🙏🏾💕

@KCNwokoye 8 ай бұрын

Love Kerry. What an amazing story of love and healing ❤️

@naturallybecoming831 8 ай бұрын

True love is unconditional it’s wonderful to have that strength even in a situation where some ppl would find it difficult. There’s always an opportunity to allow love ❤❤

@Ateyaaa 8 ай бұрын

WOW.....I love this

@Coco-zu9ob 7 ай бұрын

Kerry that must've been hard to find out, but good for you for handling that information the way you did. Obviously your mother and father are great parents and raised you to be strong and insightful and considerate.

@slac25 8 ай бұрын

The grandfather that raised me is not my biological grandfather but I will never see him as anything other than my blood. He raised me from birth. Loved my mother as his own child and we grandkids were no different. I only spoke to my biological grandfather ONCE and that’s when he messaged to tell us he had stomach cancer and he was dying to try and make amends. My grandfather knew me better than anyone in my family and I miss him every single day of my life. Blood doesn’t make you family. LOVE DOES ❤❤❤

@roderickstockdale1678 8 ай бұрын

Did your mom die at birth?

@swimmingturtle00 8 ай бұрын

Couldn’t imagine she could get more beautiful but WoW what a beautiful response and perspective.

@lyndalightburn6988 8 ай бұрын

What a lovely story ❤

@yonathanseleshi 8 ай бұрын

I know I'm not the only one thinking this.. Kerry Washington would be a great Talk Show Host. She has this very clear aura of warmth, intelligence, depth, and understanding. A unique person.

@PSAChick 8 ай бұрын

The truth set that whole family free.

@megger11 8 ай бұрын

This is incredible ❤

@stefaniadellarovere6488 8 ай бұрын

They wouldn't have told her hadn't she decided to do that show. So shameful :(

@chrispine4003 8 ай бұрын

Wow, what an amazing clip

@mwelb5251 8 ай бұрын

I think she's a beautiful human, but I always got that feeling from Kerry that she was incredibly private. For her to be sharing something so personal....wow!

@NormaYoung 8 ай бұрын

I’ve thought about this too. And for me a small measure of sadness is that her parents begged her not to go public. Her Dad said it will kill him. It’s been five years and they’ve all come out on the other side stronger for this but I do feel for her parents now that their business is publicly known. Kerry is now a NYTimes bestselling author, doing all the talk-shows and appearances and speaking gigs off of a really sad traumatic family experience. Always so fiercely private, I hadn’t ever imagined this was a path she would take. It seems to have worked out for and her parents but yikes what a risk!

@willawentertainment 8 ай бұрын

@@NormaYoung Kerry’s been purposefully private for much of her career. But in regards to this, after she found out the circumstances surrounding her birth and the when and how she found out, the ball was then in her court. The how, when, what, where and why she wanted to share her story no longer belonged to her parents. She was around 40 when she found out. They were never going to tell her.

@oliviaclaudenguema4628 8 ай бұрын

Remain blessed Kerry Washington.❤❤❤

@thulim1773 8 ай бұрын

Kerry, this is so beautiful

@Lola-anointed 8 ай бұрын

The truth always finds it's way to come out.

@NC-qc7wd 8 ай бұрын

That was beautiful

@Mimi-gj1fq 8 ай бұрын

😢so sweet..

@therezwilson6442 8 ай бұрын

Beautiful!

@Iammiyajay 8 ай бұрын

Kerry God bless you and your family. 🙏🏾 I’m so happy you know the truth and so happy you and your parents have a deeper bond and a deeper love. ❤

@msjewellsjade 8 ай бұрын

Why couldn't I have had that. I'm so happy that she has THIS! My step dad turned into a monster when I found out the truth

@Riley42-03 8 ай бұрын

I just F’in cried 😢

@greyos6034 8 ай бұрын

It's devastating news. It's a betrayal, unforgivable really. Her parents should have told her when she was old enough to comprehend what they were saying, or at the very least right after she graduated from high school.

@NormaYoung 8 ай бұрын

I read her book. And it seems that Kerry struggled in her late teens. By college she had an eating disorder and was using substances. Perhaps her parents were waiting for when the time was right and the news wouldn’t tip over the edge. And then there just never seemed to be the right time because she’s so happy and has built such a beautiful life after all the dark days she went through, so the news might be too heartbreaking. Or she just had a breakup or lost a role she really wanted or she’s recovered from bronchitis we can’t tell her just yet. And so on and so on and so on time passed.

@tatijoie 7 ай бұрын

@NormaYoung I agree but I also agree with what the other commenter said. I wouldn't day unforgivable but it seems the parents would have not said anything whether her life was easy or difficult or maybe they were too scared. I don't know what I would do to be honest bc it'd sort of a betrayal but I would hope to respond well bc how Kerry did it is really incredible

@artgroupie 8 ай бұрын

Ok I’m buying her book!! I hope it’s on audible.

@nanlev613 7 ай бұрын

I love her response! I mean I get it…I get that it can be a whirlwind of emotions for a person, but the people who love and care for a child and the bond and connection are most important.

@marymontgomery3489 8 ай бұрын

Beautiful

@PhD4me 7 ай бұрын

Praying for Oprah❤

@daniel-gh6bj 8 ай бұрын

GOD BLESS YOU KERRY--MY SWEET SISTER! THANK YOU OPRAH! WHAT AN INCREDIBLE PEOPLE WE ARE! BLESSINGS! Y-E-A-H!

8 ай бұрын

Aaaand I'm crying😭😭❤️

@gibbsthomas3201 8 ай бұрын

Her parents lied to her all these years - wow.

@tasibho 8 ай бұрын

They both look amazing . Her and Oprah

@tonimt1712 8 ай бұрын

She is clearly Ethiopian. And beautiful. In the end, raising a child you acquired, no matter how, is a labor of love, and she was raised in a positive, 2 parent household, which has a world of impact on any child.

@v0calbeatzlaughs 8 ай бұрын

I was thinking Somali, but I bet her dad is some type of East African for sure!

@tonimt1712 8 ай бұрын

@@v0calbeatzlaughs I see that, too

@nikkimalcolm8889 8 ай бұрын

Well her mother is Jamaican, I guess it's someone off the island...hiding something like this is big in our culture...

@kisha4040 8 ай бұрын

@@tonimt1712Some Black Americans look East African.

@kisha4040 8 ай бұрын

@@nikkimalcolm8889I don't believe that's her mother either.

@Marteen40 8 ай бұрын

Deeper in Truth

@IrenaDubrovna314 8 ай бұрын

im crying

@jslack8973 8 ай бұрын

Loving someone on purpose 🥰

@lavenderkisses9461 8 ай бұрын

What a beautiful story and her beauty just grows in this moment as well.

@pedromendesrbd 8 ай бұрын

why did they hide this? it's not a crime to be steryle... they should've told her as she was growing up and able to understand about reproduction... as adopted children are told they were adopted.

@goldenlifelove7251 8 ай бұрын

EXACTLY

@2chatmyhair 7 ай бұрын

True Love is Amazing!!!!!

@Melissahealtsci 7 ай бұрын

Why am I crying 😢

@nspirationaltreasure 8 ай бұрын

That's so beautiful ❤

@spacetimecontinuum 8 ай бұрын

Wow!

@lisaray101 8 ай бұрын

She doesn’t look like her mother either🤔 the dishonesty all these years makes me wonder about the mother too.

@OYah137 8 ай бұрын

Riiight..Sperm donor my foot.

@cicidelossantos 8 ай бұрын

I think she looks like her mother and she favors dad too

@pamelajackson6730 7 ай бұрын

I love Kerry.

@aishariel9924 8 ай бұрын

Every time I see her I only see Olivia Pope 😊

@DesiLu4Life 8 ай бұрын

My twin!! Love her! ♥️

@diemmarley1217 8 ай бұрын

Something’s off 🧐🧐🧐

@turquoisepurple7sky151 8 ай бұрын

You all are so nutty! This generation of folks are the weakest generation I have ever witness. What could possibly be OFF?

@ashleyrogers1930 8 ай бұрын

It really is, the first child born of artificial insemination in the United States was in the 80s, so it really makes no sense.

@ThashaPN12 8 ай бұрын

@@ashleyrogers1930exactly. I’m just waiting for one journalist to finally call her out on that because even if that’s what her mum supposedly told her- she surely did her own research and found out it’s not true.

@ashleyrogers1930 8 ай бұрын

@@ThashaPN12 I don’t think she questioned them though. She seems like she comes from the type of family where you don’t question your elders, so I don’t think she’s lying , I just think her parents lied to her yet again.

@sewblue187 8 ай бұрын

Yes mama was gettin some 🍆 elsewhere and they don’t want the mama to look bad or the mama was pregnant by another man before she met the dad 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Unknown-bp9gq 8 ай бұрын

Shoot I’m crying💙❤️🥰

@cherylbrantley4736 8 ай бұрын

Her story keeps changing.

@cicidelossantos 8 ай бұрын

The whole thing is a lie

@sharonsolana 8 ай бұрын

Wow.

@wilieshamccrorey8896 8 ай бұрын

Her parents are lying. I don’t believe that story.

@ladieessence 8 ай бұрын

I think that there may be more to this story. I wonder if her Mom got pregnant from a situation and they just decided to raise her together as if he is her biological father.