Kevin Smith Details His Personal Trauma, Bullying & Improving Mental Health

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One morning in January 2023, 'Clerks' director Kevin Smith awoke in terror, convinced he was losing his mind. The next day, he checked into Arizona's Sierra Tucson Treatment Center, where he spent a month in intensive therapy and learned how childhood sexual abuse and bodyshaming over his weight by his 4th grade teacher led him to create and hide behind a larger-than-life public persona he calls "the other guy."
Now Kevin has stopped smoking weed, cut back on social media, is slowing down his work schedule after churning out movies, comic books, TV shows and podcasts, and learning about the healing power of self-acceptance. Most importantly, he is determined to get the word out to others who could benefit from hearing his story and the tools he's acquired to help find peace.
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@elliottchrist Жыл бұрын

My therapist once told me, "Doesn't matter if you're drowning in a bathtub or you're drowning in the middle of the Pacific Ocean - you're still drowning!" That thought comes to mind when Kevin talks about that thinking pattern of "oh, what happened to me is not as bad as sexual abuse survivors, or combat veterans..." and realizing, "no. Trauma is trauma."

@dannymayday7106 Жыл бұрын

Correct. Having someone put their mouth on your genitals is not as bad as having people shoot at you (combat veterans).

@Bubba_Grimm Жыл бұрын

easier to get out of the tub tho... Yes, drowning is drowning, but I reckon the rescue processes can be very different between examples. I hope that clears up what I meant.

@yeskev Жыл бұрын

@@Bubba_Grimm Of course that's true, but I think the greater point is recognizing that drowning is drowning/trauma is trauma. Sometimes there are people who are drowning in a bathtub and they think "Well it's just a bathtub. At least I'm not drowning in the ocean" and then they just let themselves keep drowning rather than just getting up out of the tub. I feel like the point isn't to compare types of drowning, but to just recognize the drowning or trauma in and of itself.

@brendanlally1851 Жыл бұрын

@@yeskev your cant compare war trauma to other trauma.

@yeskev Жыл бұрын

@@brendanlally1851 Yes, you’re correct. Of course you can’t. However that isn’t the point that’s being made here. The point is not to compare or minimize the trauma. The point is to recognize the trauma. If you’re constantly comparing it or minimizing it, you run the risk of not recognizing it for whatever it is and potentially making it worse than it needs to be.

@stpatty3310 Жыл бұрын

"I don't hate you. I care about you. I just don't need your validation anymore. And that's good--'cause now we can just be friends." Anyone else hear that and realize how much seeking external validation has stifled their genuine relationships with others?

@Fireprincess161 Жыл бұрын

This whole 'downplaying trauma' is so true. A dude in high school wouldn't leave my breasts alone even after I explicitly told him to stop, when I told the principal they just said 'oh well'. That taught me it 'wasn't that bad'. It's taken a lot of people speaking out about their experiences to realise that WAS sexual assault and I'm not stupid for trying to report it.

@patrickmanway290 7 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that happened to you!

@rileybowman5988 4 ай бұрын

That’s so scary to go through that! I’m sorry that happened

@into.the.wood.chipper. 2 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that happened to you.

@krewgarr Жыл бұрын

This is incredibly brave and selfless. I've never had more respect for Kevin. His transformation, disclosure, and healing process will help untold numbers of trauma survivors.

@debbielawson4198 Жыл бұрын

I love all of you. I'm a disabled veteran with PTSD from sexual assault. Thank you for sharing this. I hope others find the courage to address their trauma in a healthy way.

@__-qq8rx Жыл бұрын

Got u, usaf 22 years i was fucked up by the time i was 8.

@crabfists Жыл бұрын

I love you too 🙂Sorry to hear of your struggles.

@lisacranmer8005 Жыл бұрын

Pray for all peace to help you, JEH God bless you..

@fountgarde Жыл бұрын

Love you, Debbie! :3

@danieldowsett7808 Жыл бұрын

Do we all feel for the trauma we’ve caused each other or is this a me thing.

@andjulia9292 Жыл бұрын

This is a public service announcement I didn’t know I needed. This has made me realize that some of the events in my life that have happened aren’t just “stuff that happens”. Those events are actually trauma. Kudos to Mr. Smith for sharing his discoveries so we can discover ourselves.

@doreenew3117 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for putting into words what I was about to type.

@DirtyLifeLove Жыл бұрын

Don't know if that will help people by saying, "you had it worse than you think, you are messed up and need help to get normal again.". How do we make sure that this undertone doesn't pop up in people's head or possibly causing a fixation on an event that they never would have focused on, even subconsciously?

@silvermainecoons3269 Жыл бұрын

@@DirtyLifeLove That’s not the problem for most. It’s better for people with trauma to actually get help, your attitude is more likely to perpetuate the shame that prevents many others from seeking help.

@silvermainecoons3269 Жыл бұрын

Same here. I accidentally clicked on this but I’m so glad I did. I have always felt like my trauma was petty compared to others. But it’s true that the CNS reacts to stress the same way whether you’re a kid being bullied or veteran with PTSD. Thanks Kevin!

@reneeadams9673 Жыл бұрын

Agreed! This was unbelievably brave of Kevin and it opened my eyes.

@NicolaSelenu Жыл бұрын

Kevin will never read this comment, but I really want to hug him now. THANK YOU... your journey is a true inspiration.

@aqualust5016 Жыл бұрын

I shamefully retold my story of being sexually assaulted in the Navy to a friend who had also been sexually assaulted in the Navy years prior. Though in my opinion his situation is far worse than mine even he told me "trauma is trauma". My wife who was sexually assaulted told me the same thing. It's not a badge to wear to get brownie points in life. It's facing a fucked up truth in order to get past the hardest things so the good can flourish and be there for me when I need it to be. When you admit whow real your trauma is remember how real the good can be and has been for you. In the end that matters so much more than the trauma.

@TheRealDSword Жыл бұрын

This feels like a much clearer, authentic Kevin Smith. He isn’t scattered like I’ve heard him before. Want to see what direction this takes him, and glad he’s still with us.

@Bikewithlove Жыл бұрын

The tradeoff of wisdom is self-exposure and the sense that the world is falling apart - hence denial & self-medication. Kevin’s doing a fine job of it and it’s to all our benefit to see him survive it and share it.

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

Ya, Now That He KNOWS He's a Soulless Whore and Has FULLY Adopted The Mind Of a Woman, He Can FAIL At Life. LOL!

@iitylernallen Жыл бұрын

It's nothing more than another marketing scheme. He now wants to appear relatable, while for the past 15yrs He's been nothing but a complete asshat and people resented him for it. All he wants to do is stay relevant. That's all he cares about, and He's admitted to that fact.

@yangor8260 Жыл бұрын

I love Kevin Smith. At one point, he was a champion of nerd things and the people who liked those things. Way before it was popular. Then he told us exactly how his heart attack went. And now he tells us about his trauma, how it affected him, and his healing. In some ways, he's one of the most fearless celebs there has ever been.

@Be_Bop Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more

@onlyhappywhenitrains92 Жыл бұрын

Hard facts. I love his work and I love how he speaks about things without giving a fuck what the rest of the world has to say.

@purefoldnz3070 Жыл бұрын

he'll still be talking about it ten years from now.

@christofthedead Жыл бұрын

if he was fearless he wouldn't be able to demonstrate courage, which he has in spades

@jwbphotography Жыл бұрын

@@christofthedead That's actually a good point and honestly I had to read that multiple times to get what you meant, but I understand now. If you're fearless, you don't fear anything. If you're courageous, you take action in the face of fear, therefore, you need fear in order to be courageous. (sorry. just working it out in my head and decided to type it too) I've always used those words interchangeable but you've made me realize they are actually quite different.

@hansoulo6187 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for NOT being silent....Bob

@hkandm4s23 Жыл бұрын

As a therapist, i often say that everyone has a suitcase they carry around. Trauma goes in there..... you shut it away and drag it around your whole life. You have to unpack or it gets so heavy you can't move forward. It's never too late to get up and move forward. Change scary but it's not as scary as being stuck there forever. I'm so happy he is finally finding himself and how beautiful it is that he's able to share this and help so many people.

@lennard5393 Жыл бұрын

We're all in this together.

@1badombre82 Жыл бұрын

I've heard that same thing in the AA rooms. It has been a huge change in my life learning how to deal with things as the arise instead of thinking I'm making it go away with alcohol but I spent enough years taking what I thought was the easy way out but it turns out that the easier softer way doesn't always feel easy or soft. Living sober is not about feeling happy it's about feeling.

@reapthewhirlwind6915 Жыл бұрын

Bet you get paid a lot of money. And I bet you love it. That’s absolutely disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself.

@marcellemccalla6325 Жыл бұрын

This hurt on so many levels. Everything Kevin spoke about his thoughts, his feelings, how he views himself, his experiences, it's me. I've been crying since he spoke of his experience at six. I see you Kevin, I see YOU and you are beautiful.

@rsolsjo Жыл бұрын

Endless respect for this level of transparency. I think this has the potential to help an exceptional amount of people.

@mattconley2815 Жыл бұрын

"I can solve your problems, but I can't solve mine"....never knewi had so much in common with Kevin Smith. You opening up to these thoughts and feelings helps provide safety to others who've experienced trauma.

@BigS3xyThumbs Жыл бұрын

I have been a Kevin Smith fan since the beginning. From film to comic books. He is a genuine human being. He's always been a stark contrast to the typical celebrity persona. I don't know, it's hard to put into words. His words are always very comforting. I think I could listen to him talk about the evolution of dryer lint, and be happy.

@tyemaddog Жыл бұрын

But that's his whole point. He wasn't "genuine" and was just playing a character. I'm the total opposite, I never was a big fan of his. Probably because to me anyways, he came across as fake. This kinda changes my mind on him. Although I dont agree with everything he's saying here, and sounds like he's giving these therapists way to much to the book , but total respect for talking about this.

@BigS3xyThumbs Жыл бұрын

In his own words, he wasn't genuine. He typically doesn't give himself enough credit. He's a good dude.

@Stamatos Жыл бұрын

Guy is a d-bag, if he was lying the whole time, why believe him now?

@deannadevaney2968 11 ай бұрын

SAME HERE!!!!

@helenomstreken7577 Жыл бұрын

In all my years of therapy i have never had anyone explain trauma and the way the brain deals with negativity as concise as kev does here. I'm truly impressed. And couldnt be happier for kevin.

@Murphnuge Жыл бұрын

This man has done nothing but wear his heart on his sleeve for years and yet, he still somehow finds a way to let us in deeper. I have nothing but respect for Mr. Smith.

@Pipercatt1 Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@TOPA808 Жыл бұрын

Amazing he keeps wearing it out there after someone tried to attack it about five years ago!

@011silbermond Жыл бұрын

@@TOPA808 Uhh, I didn´t know that. Can easily be the moment where you close yourself up. People who work in certain fields are more easily targeted. Although only some of them have bodyguards. XD

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

Fake LOVES Fake. LOL!

@sgtredrhino2009 Жыл бұрын

As someone who has been hospitalized for mental health reasons, I find some comfort in the fact that a guy like this can be strong enough to admit he had a problem and sought help. Good for u man. Seriously

@g0stn0te Жыл бұрын

It must be nice to have the privilege to go to a facility, and deal with trauma. The rest of us don't have time or the money, or the ability to take the money loss from not working. Recognize your privilege

@TheRandomGuyTheFarNoGameCat 11 ай бұрын

@@g0stn0te what a horrible response.

@bonsai_chaos 11 ай бұрын

@@g0stn0te What is your point here? And what exactly do you mean by "Recognize your privilege"? What is the definition, meaning, cause and purpose of this message?

@srldwg 11 ай бұрын

@@bonsai_chaosThe purpose is hostility about their own situation (they are definitely talking about themselves), insecurity, and resentment that some people can do what the cannot. It is a horrible, aggressive response and it is rude and uncalled for.

@FuzzyFoot58 7 ай бұрын

@@g0stn0teMaybe you could do something useful with your time instead if shitting on people. Like working on making your country create laws that make mental health facilities free to go to, along with all other medical care. The way we have had it in Europe for the better part of a century, but you, 'the greatest nation on Earth' still cant manage such an easy task. So instead of being a salty bitch to strangers online, do something about what you think is wrong.

@perpetualchild Жыл бұрын

Every time anyone in the public eye comes forward and talks about mental health and recovering from trauma, my feelings come out my eyeballs. SO SO many people needed to hear this, and some of them were able to hear it more clearly this time just because it came from you. Thank you

@mrnelsonius5631 Жыл бұрын

I didn’t expect to cry listening to this. I’ve done the same things. A rape that wasn’t a rape, it was a misunderstanding that went too far. A latter trauma that sent me to the psych ward that I refused to acknowledge. Told the doctors I was there because my cat died… it wasn’t that. Fortunately they got through to the truth and I could begin to heal. Sending my love to everyone out there who’ve been haunted by something that wasn’t their fault

@kr6m Жыл бұрын

When you said, "I'm gonna become a director so that nobody can tell me what to do again" I started crying. Thank you for all of this

@RickyWatter32 Жыл бұрын

No one can tell him what to do! Except the producers, studios, and investors

@captinundies6049 Жыл бұрын

@@RickyWatter32 lmfao. Yep he still does what the MPAA tells him to do also.

@RickyWatter32 Жыл бұрын

@@captinundies6049 lolololol! I forgot bout MPAA!

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA! What a Loser. LOL!

@AnthonyCharles-bw1tm Жыл бұрын

Loneliness is painful and can lead to mental and physical health conditions.

@melissacampbell9915 Жыл бұрын

Research has shown that psilocybin could be beneficial as a treatment for psychiatric and behavioral conditions

@jefferyscott8148 Жыл бұрын

@Sofia Lopez Plz how do I get in touch with him?

@ronthorn3 2 ай бұрын

@@jefferyscott8148look a cop

@miss.informed.8232 Жыл бұрын

As an EMDR therapist who is also on a life-long journey of trauma recovery, I am so thankful you shared your story and are using your position to spread the word. I will be sharing this with patients and heeding the reminder to remain present and grounded myself. Love you, brother.

@themachine5647 Жыл бұрын

And as a man just dealing with a long childhood through adolescence in an abusive home, I really appreciate this kind of open conversation. A lot of this connected deeply with me, and I feel like Smith has shown in a very real way that you can change who you are, in many ways. Sadly I have a sibling who couldn't find a way forward and completely lost connection with reality as a result of this childhood pain, and they are lost to me and the world. Everyone out there needs to take this stuff DEAD seriously. My brother was an accomplished and educated professional who eventually just let the "other person" take over their world. Nobody is invulnerable to the brain's desperate methods of survival.

@PMCook Жыл бұрын

EMDR therapy is amazing - it helped me grapple with some trauma from my past. Thank you for your good work.

@miram3939 Жыл бұрын

88th

@rmcdonald17 Жыл бұрын

EMDR saved my life

@nancymueller6206 Жыл бұрын

@@rmcdonald17 , I just started EMDR. Then a tow truck ran into my SUV. This, the fresh trauma, may help me. Combined with the EMDR, learning about who I am is my lifetime project. I hope I get to the point where I remember what happened, why there was all that blood and pain. I need to 5-4-3-2-1 and get this.

@FizzyMcPhysics Жыл бұрын

I just had a full on crying meltdown on the floor, in the corner of my kitchen. At 27 minutes in I had to pause the video, take off my washing up gloves and let it out. Hell of a Monday morning. My trauma is different, but the effects have been very similar. People pleasing, co-dependence, seeking external validation, lack of self-worth and self-knowledge. Thank you Kevin for talking about this so well. You've always been a great story teller.

@TheArtConsortiumYtube Жыл бұрын

That would be due to your lack of testosterone and infantilisation.

@sokatcanwatch Жыл бұрын

Same

@totallyrufus Жыл бұрын

Seriois question? Are you gay?

@exquis_ Жыл бұрын

@011silbermond Жыл бұрын

🤗🤗💝💝As someone who had a small pic of Amy next to her mirror for years and always wondered what the silent one wanted to tell us, my reaction 2 days ago was very similar. Coming back now to see how others react to it. I guess to some degree that is what makes a good director to put parts of his soul into his work in a way others will feel it, too. But that this happened without his own knowledge is impressive.

@dancorrea93 Жыл бұрын

This goes beyond bravery. This is lifesaving. Props to Kevin for this.

@AdoniaTT Жыл бұрын

It really is life saving

@BeverlyHighland Жыл бұрын

My sister called me crying because her bf cheated on her and at one point she said, “I feel bad for being so upset because there are people who are going through worse things right now.” and I told her, “There is no scale on pain. Yeah, someone might be going through worse pain than you, their friend might have died, but should they not be upset because someone else’s mom might have died? Your pain is valid.” My sister said that although she was still sad, that realization made her feel better for her grief in that she could properly grieve without feeling bad about it. And Kevin made an excellent point I had never thought of, that pain doesn’t compare itself.

@gnoxycat Жыл бұрын

The world is a better place with Kevin Smith.

@jeffbudd7678 Жыл бұрын

There's parts in there where I just want to hug Kevin. You can just tell he's on the cusp of breaking down emotionally and that the weight of his traumas still haunt him. You aren't alone Kevin. Love ya man.

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

Ok. Calm Down Gay Boy. LOL!

@cadavison Жыл бұрын

That is called compassion, and it is beautiful. And I hope you have it for yourself too.

@heatheraugust9306 Жыл бұрын

If you ever get a chance to meet him, you should. He gives the best hugs.

@blacktionjackson7133 Жыл бұрын

He doesn't have traumas. He's just old, spoiled, and over-emotional.

@cadavison Жыл бұрын

@@blacktionjackson7133 Its not a competition my friend. His trauma does not threaten your own. We can all be damaged.

@TheLaurynPetrie Жыл бұрын

Rapes, mental and physical abuse by my Mom, bullying, manipulation, physical abuse by partners, childhood molestation…it’s incredible I’m alive. Thank you for talking about this.

@tinyturnip7676 7 ай бұрын

“The most dangerous addiction is thinking, because we can’t stop it”. THANK YOU for that Kevin ! Thinking has got to be the hardest part of our lives sometimes.

@biggybro4124 Жыл бұрын

Thought I was gunna laugh my way through the last 30 min of my shift. Turns out it was crying. Thanks bud, I needed this more than jokes.

@marygrangroth2452 Жыл бұрын

1. Trauma is Trauma. Period. 2. Kindness Starts with Me. Choose to Be Kind (aka 'choose to be the change you wish to see in the world'). 3. If compassion doesn't include yourself, it's incomplete. Thank you so much for choosing to be vulnerable, and for not only recognizing the importance of this message on a personal level, but then taking the time to. share this with the world. Many prayers and upmost respect to you (and the undertaking of what you've started). May you continue to find compassion and be blessed on your journey.

@jjdillon1207 Жыл бұрын

There are levels, some things are worse than others

@LittleRedMoon16 Жыл бұрын

The amount of times Kevin Smith has made me feel like I am not alone. This man is a treasure.

@oneproudpappa Жыл бұрын

His Joe Rogan visit speaking about his dad's passing was heavy.

@skyofthelivingdead Жыл бұрын

He really is. The way he talks like he’s just speaking to an old friend or something is very comforting.

@SamaelMoneyStein Жыл бұрын

Parasocial relatioships are not healthy.

@traceyroyer993 Жыл бұрын

A phenomenal speaker. You remind me of my daughter's dad, who very much resembles Robert Downey, Jr. So, that other guy in treatment was not just " blowin' smoke." Peace 🕉

@LittleRedMoon16 Жыл бұрын

@@SamaelMoneyStein Relax buddy.

@karyinthewonderland9760 Жыл бұрын

"I don't need your validation anymore" tears finally running down. As some nobody also in the creative industry, this is the most relatable & authentic sharing of how childhood trauma has shaped my life. I am in the middle of of realising "that was not me" and I have never had a dream or anything I like, coz I felt like I was not entitled to it. All I did in the past years were chasing external validation trying to fill the void like a kid trying to fill the ocean with a tiny bucket of sand, until I was burnout completely. But I think I have gone through the lowest point of & started looking for who I really am & what I really want, as I am lucky enough to watch this video. Thank you Kevin.

@MissSorceress Жыл бұрын

He learned all of this in just the last few months and is so mentally stable now that he can put out a video about himself talking about his biggest insecurities with only a few voice cracks of emotion, for a-million-and-counting people to see. This shows just how important it is to help yourself. If you never talk about things that bother you, you are so susceptible to being a slave to your negative thoughts. It's impossible for you to fix something if you don't even know it's broken. Every single one of us is worthy

@011silbermond Жыл бұрын

"It's impossible for you to fix something if you don't even know it's broken." This.

@michaelorlev9925 Жыл бұрын

I love you.

@frankie3718 Жыл бұрын

I don't believe it was all in the past few months. It was probably a slow evolution over years, but the awareness and psychological support speeded things up dramatically and gave him the space to properly process things. It's likely he's still going to have to maintain and continue to heal for years to come, but triggers will get less and less severe with time, until they completely ease. Well done to him though. Just hope people realise counselling and therapy can change your life, but the real work often takes years, depending on the severity and amount of your traumas.

@broodingelm2216 Жыл бұрын

38 year old man sitting on a train literally crying. Having been dealing with my own childhood trauma and minimising it for years nearly cost me everything. Every day is still a struggle, but I’m slowly moving forward

@angelaholmes8888 Жыл бұрын

I'm glad that you are moving forward for some people they just don't are can't find a way to deal with there trauma

@chandralenapereira8208 Жыл бұрын

Finding yourself is one of the hardest paths a person can take.

@PeteSanctions 11 ай бұрын

"You're worthy. You're good. There's nothing wrong with you." hits deep I like coming back to this every now and then when I need it

@chrismorris1357 Жыл бұрын

As a sociologist who researches trauma, I just want to amplify how common trauma is, how important it is to talk about it, and how crucial it is to get help to heal with a trauma-trained therapist. I also want to thank Mr. Smith for having the courage to share his experiences. This is the way.

@jstephenscomics Жыл бұрын

Dude. My favourite thing you've ever done. From one 52-year-old formerly institutionalized 'crazy' comic book fan to another, I'm proud of you. Thank you for this.

@wendykrahn6345 Жыл бұрын

So happy we got to meet the "real" Kevin. Thanks for your honesty! What you're doing here can, and will, help a lot of people. Sending love and gratitude! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

@BridFlood Жыл бұрын

He reminds me so much of my youngest son, his self that he has found.

@alindsey1013 Жыл бұрын

EMDR therapy saved me. What an absolute gem of a man. Thank you for being so authentic. Its nice to not feel so alone.

@brocksdaddy081910 Жыл бұрын

I've just started my sessions and I hope it goes as well as people say

@sensaumer57 Жыл бұрын

Licensed psychologist with almost 40 years of experience and I think Kevin made a fantastic, down to earth presentation, that I've already started encouraging my clients to watch.

@psylentknight Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your work.

@juju1896 Жыл бұрын

I just emailed it to my wonderful therapist hoping it may help others. It was very validating for me. I love therapy. Thank you for your work!

@CP-pt1ot Жыл бұрын

I don't buy that trauma is trauma. He does not have the equivalent PST level of someone who witnessed the horrors of war. Sure, he like all of us has suffered humiliation and life-lasting emotional scars, and that is damaging enough.

@blacktionjackson7133 Жыл бұрын

So basically you're a grifter who makes money off of pathologizing normal behavior. "Oh hey... yeah... you're totally sick... good thing is that you can pay me on a regular basis to make you well."

@Hawkknight88 Жыл бұрын

@@CP-pt1ot It's not a competition. Stop comparing trauma. Maybe we shouldn't be sending our children to die in completely useless wars?

@6racassady9 Жыл бұрын

Dude that took balls, & I know, because I experienced similar issues & dealt with them my own way. I theory has always been, doesn't matter how you heal, it matters that you do. On a side note, if I was ever able to meet Kevin, we would be great friends! Well, after he gives me $20 bucks for watching Tusk! That was a joke, you are my favorite director & a hell of a human. Stay strong!

@stephaniethehoopdancer Жыл бұрын

Brilliantly said! Myself, daughter, and husband suffer from anxiety and depression. Thank you for your words, Kevin. They will definitely help others struggling.

@Chinballz Жыл бұрын

One thing Kevin has in common with The Other Guy is that he's a phenomenal storyteller.

@ericchute1227 Жыл бұрын

This just changed my life. As a 39 year old man that has been battling my whole life with EVERYTHING he just spoke about.... and to hear about it honestly from someone that I have a lot of respect for.... especially where I've been at mentally for the last 96 hrs... thank you Kevin. And thank you People for letting him do this. I think I can make it now

@og3dkooz381 Жыл бұрын

So get up and move. Start with a simple walk, then jog then running. Lift weights. Choose your hard. Work hard or die hard (dying slowly and horribly from being fat😑).

@andjulia9292 Жыл бұрын

Hope you’re having a good day Eric 😊

@bekahanneful Жыл бұрын

I know you can make it. And I’m gonna make it, too.

@og3dkooz381 Жыл бұрын

@Kyley Rumohr but it's a start, a scientifically proven start to help with all those underlying issues. I wrote that comment as a trauma survivor, not from a place of hate or shaming. You may feel like your comment was more heartfelt, but that's because you're soft and more than likely haven't had to actually fight out of a deep hole. Your sadness isn't the same as other's and your advice of "ignoring lifting weights" and "infantile fat shaming" is actually worse for OP. Shame on you for trying to spread your weakness.

@og3dkooz381 Жыл бұрын

@Kyley Rumohr yet I'm not a psychologist, and this isn't therapy, it's the KZfaq comment section. I'm not asking all that as this person should get that from a professional if they deem it necessary. I never said what I wrote "worked for me", in fact what I did for myself was much more difficult than just walking and then lifting weights. I gave basic advice so OP can try something easy and absolutely efficient. Nice try though. Yes I did assume because you come off as soft, not compassionate, to me. Don't care much anymore if you are or not tbh though. I have been in therapy and was as a kid, teenager, and married adult. I never indicated anyone could "tough themselves out of everything" I told OP to start by walking and then progressing to lifting weights and jogging. If that's too much... you're soft. I never indicated I am "hard" I told OP to "choose your hard" as a therapist, with compassion, once told me. You did nothing close to "humbling" me at all. You are a weak person, giving weak advice and masking it as "compassion." Write me another page or 2, but it changes nothing. I wasn't rude at all to OP and your white knight parade is over, dude. Work hard or die hard. You choose.

@gabriellek33 Жыл бұрын

I met him he was staying at the same hotel I was and he was the absolute nicest person in the whole entire world

@liamlynch2115 5 ай бұрын

This hit home! Up until recently, I’m 42, I was afraid/embarrassed to get help because I wasn’t in war, I didn’t get molested, grew up in a good place etc., and also I thought most traumas were basically my own fault. Lots of shame, guilt, fear. Feelings of weakness, inadequacy, and insecurity. Regular, every day life feels like a struggle. Lots of resistance.

@JezelJordan Жыл бұрын

Sometimes you can't even understand how you're feeling until you hear someone else say it and everything just clicks. Thank you Kevin, this speech just changed things for me.

@JohnnyDoesStuff Жыл бұрын

This 100000%

@bearclaus2676 Жыл бұрын

Yup

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

Says a Moron. LOL!

@itmeurdad Жыл бұрын

Firstly, a tremendous amount of respect is due to PEOPLE for publishing something like this. Thank you so much Kevin. Incredible message. Your vulnerability is admirable and will likely save lives. You are an inspiration in so many ways.

@loveisallinside Жыл бұрын

Hear hear!

@warrenellis1023 Жыл бұрын

As a teen, I considered Kevin smith intelligent and entertaining. As a young adult I became hyper aware and critical of Smith’s self deprecation and weakness, as an indicator of a lack of necessary masculinity. As a middle aged man, I respect aspects his “weakness.” His perceived weakness, or sensitivity, is a causality for his self-reflection on a very clear journey to understand and optimize himself. Pursuing the best version of yourself is a trait which is admirable, and can be equally masculine and feminine. And his sensitivity is the reason he broadcasts the highlights on his journey, possibly partially for vanity and attention, but clearly for the benefit for those who can make use of it. Rocky didn’t optimize himself for vanity. He did it for those who depend on him. I suspect Kevin’s motivation here is similar. Wishes for the happiest of trails on your journey, and thank you for sharing this very insightful, wise, and helpful experience on a very under-acknowledged topic.

@Appollochan Жыл бұрын

I've not heard of Kevin Smith before, but I have a tonne of respect for him being this courageous. Thank you for the message 🙏🏾

@ImDrunk99 Жыл бұрын

He has directed quite a few movies. He is friends with Ben Affleck. Ben has been in a number of his movies such as Dogma, Chasing Amy, Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back. He is SUPER down to Earth all around cool guy! Hollywood needs more people like him! Hell the world could really use more people like him!

@ravenfields8968 Жыл бұрын

Bollox

@karinwolf3645 Жыл бұрын

I love Kevin Smith!!

@listentothenightfilms 10 ай бұрын

@@ImDrunk99 * He is SUPER down to Earth all around cool guy!* lmfao.

@b-money5133 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, brother. You’ll never know how many-particularly men-you’ve helped through sharing your experiences openly and honestly.

@dcscreenworks Жыл бұрын

Never expected to hear such an honest a vulnerable account from Kevin. This is amazing! The world needs more of this in so many ways!

@JamJells Жыл бұрын

I want to thank him, but I have to fix what ever is going on with me. Still love what he shared.

@4thdemension537 Жыл бұрын

@@JamJells kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aNeketOC07qReKs.html

@Bad_Wolf_Media Жыл бұрын

I didn't know about these things in his life, but I would absolutely have expected this sort of open, vulnerable conversation from him. Smith has never shied away from telling his stories as he sees them. He acknowledges that they're HIS perspectives and may be viewed differently, but he has, in the last decade or so (doing pods), become a voice for himself.

@JamJells Жыл бұрын

@@Bad_Wolf_Media As Kevin heals up and shares only to help others understand I find your comment very kind. To share without asking for anything in return was given with heart and aplomb and I hope many find this video as a path to journey out of the darkness of living in a complex and sometimes horrible condition.

@Kosmic_Aes Жыл бұрын

Growing up I liked "the other guy's" work in films. Now, I love Kevin Smith as a human being.

@nquiztor Жыл бұрын

I have been a Kevin Smith fan since Mallrats came out. Hearing him talk so openly is exactly what I needed today. Thanks for sharing with me. I needed this, and I need Kevin Smith in my life. I'm so grateful that he's finding healing. He deserves to love the Other Guy.

@ranieridamasceno Жыл бұрын

Seriously? This video alone was worthy my 30+ years in therapy. I"m beyond overwhelmed by your words, Kevin. Thanks from a 46 years old fan from Brazil.

@tprime2702 Жыл бұрын

It's amazing how vividly the brain details out the memories of trauma, but how non-specific it is about things we'd PREFER to remember.

@Brandon-td2ng Жыл бұрын

Yeah not even balanced, like it's so rigged against us, like a life can be destroyed in a moment, but nothing so good can happen that will guarantee a life of bliss afterwards! It's a bit one sided!

@LEXICON-DEVIL Жыл бұрын

The things i prefer to remember cause me trauma.

@jennjohnson3098 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Kevin Smith. I have A LOT of trauma and have spent my 41 years minimizing it in my head and trying to make myself move forward and listening to you, I realize I need to HEAL. I have talked about it before, but that did not help me to heal, I still carry all the shame, guilt, embarrassment, and blame and I need help with it. I have had a breakdown, I don't want to again. You, Kevin, are brave and worthy, always. Thank you, again. ❤

@joesgoodlife 11 ай бұрын

Thank you. I’m a 67 year old man who always thought he was fat since my teens. I just found pictures of myself two months ago and I couldn’t believe how thin I was. But since my earliest memories I was considered fat, big because I was big. I was a foot taller than my friends. 6’2” by twelve!! Eventually I grew into being fat and ended up at 300 pounds. I think I have broken that cycle because I know where that came from now and I will break that cycle.

@catherinehayes8912 Жыл бұрын

"Trauma is trauma" is what resonates with me. I always try to downplay my trauma because other people have it worse. This let me know it is okay to allow myself to acknowledge my trauma for what it is.

@coreyhutton478 Жыл бұрын

WOW! Stupid, Useless Shit "Resonates" With a Woman. What Is This, An Average Day? LOL!

@MINDSew Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, Kevin. I can't stop thinking about what you said, especially "Trauma is Trauma." I programmed myself to minimize any trauma because I could always think of someone else who has it worse.

@DonnyDealer Жыл бұрын

There's nothing wrong with feeling empathy but don't forget to put yourself first. Your mental health is just as important. You are equally valid.

@mackenziemoore7503 Жыл бұрын

Yes I do the exact same thing, so wonderful to hear him address this, he is my hero ❤.

@brokenfoxproductions Жыл бұрын

As someone else who's been through a lot of similar stuff, thank you for talking about this openly. You're an awesome person and I appreciate your work and your existence so much.

@ElizaWorner 4 ай бұрын

Kevin Smith doing more in a free online video than my psychologists that I've spent literally thousands on

@choff14 Жыл бұрын

Holy hell did I need to hear this. Same thing here: childhood trauma, hide behind the "clown" mask, needing other people's validation, never finding it for myself. It's so important for people to share their stories to let everyone know they're NOT broken, they're NOT alone, other people have been through what you have and have healed. Peace and Love to everyone.

@Mitth.Raw.Nurudo Жыл бұрын

As a person who has struggled my whole life with my weight , I always minimized the bullying and verbal abuse I constantly suffered both at home and from my peers at school . I think I’ll see it differently now.

@harveysengers1379 3 күн бұрын

This is what Hollywood should be about. We should make famous and look up to people who have the ability to be as real as he manages to be. Thanks Kevin, i'm always lookung for tools and i found plenty cool and new stuff in this talk.

@oneleglong Жыл бұрын

dam, Kevin is a mother f**king hero. speaks nothing but truth. so glad he's dealing with his demons, life is better understanding them

@monkat3759 Жыл бұрын

Kevin don't ever minimize the impact that you have on the essence of humanity. Sharing your truth with dignity, compassion, intellect and love. One can only do this if there is true love for others in their heart.

@pablogarcesdiaz1151 Жыл бұрын

Listening to another man talking about overcoming trauma and addiction is very helpful in this moment of my life. Thank you, sir. You are very much appreciated.

@mickeyconnor830 Жыл бұрын

You're far less alone than you might think, brother. There's an abundance of expert help available, if you ask for it.

@susiew2521 Жыл бұрын

Look after yourself. I'm in the same state myself. You have my best wishes.

@knowingdawn Жыл бұрын

Good for you, Kevin. I don't know you, and i doubt you'll ever see this, but I'm thrilled for you anyway. Much love, my brother. ❤

@andrewlowe2962 Жыл бұрын

Dude, I really needed to hear this. I’m doing the same thing, and exhausted. Running dry. Your words are very helpful, and know what you were needing and getting your perspective. Super appreciate you.

@QueenAqua Жыл бұрын

Parents are the number one imparters of trauma to their children. School is a damn close second. I can still remember things from 30 years ago as if they'd been said to me right now. I hate it. I don't want to carry it anymore. This was wonderful to hear. Thank you for this.

@Kryptdegen Жыл бұрын

Completely agree

@coldworld5 Жыл бұрын

In the western world where life is insanely easy. Imagine growing up in the Middle East or parts of Africa or China where you can be murdered, jailed, persecuted at the drop of a hat. Imagine how much those people would wish for the upbringing and schooling you had. Weak spoiled westerners humans who don’t even have the slightest clue how lucky they are.

@aqua6613 Жыл бұрын

Somehow I feel the need to pay you homage 😆. I'm just the regular Aqua, your highness ❤️

@QueenAqua Жыл бұрын

@@aqua6613 You're no regular anything! You're beautiful and awesome!

@adamplentl5588 Жыл бұрын

True. I still hear stuff my dad said to me when I was 8 every single day. And I'm 33 now.

@HolaMindy Жыл бұрын

I love Kevin Smith so much. Period. And it's so kind of him that his first instinct is always "I learned this important thing; I've got to tell everyone!"

@DanieVargas Жыл бұрын

GOD! Thank you Kevin Smith…. You’ve made me cry today because it seems I need to deal my MY OWN PAST TRAUMAS! Never realized those past moments effected me as badly as yours effected you. You were talking and I was quietly crying because you were talking about ME!! I’m gonna go find me a CODA meeting and see if that helps me… I KNOW you’ll never see this msg, but just in case… Thank you Kev.

@darla8623 Жыл бұрын

I’m a sexual assault survivor by several assailants, I never told anyone until about 6 years ago, thank you Mr Smith you’re bravery in talking about this, will be helpful to so many people

@eben4reel934 Жыл бұрын

I have worked in mental health support for more than twenty years and I teach Mental Health First Aid classes. BRAVO, MR. SMITH! You concisely and acccurately explained some complex psychological research and phenomena related to childhood trauma and adult behaviour. I am going to share this video far and wide - people need this info and to remember they are not alone. 💙 Thank you, Kevin Smith! (I love Jay & Silent Bob)

@ladydeerheart1 Жыл бұрын

Oh, but we are alone. Even if we're in a stadium with fifty thousand other people, we're still alone.

@blacktionjackson7133 Жыл бұрын

So basically you're financially incentivized to lie to to people and pretend that they're not just spoiled whiners.

@Hawkknight88 Жыл бұрын

@@blacktionjackson7133 I'm amazed how YOUR experience and wisdom is the objective truth, and the centuries of study of the human mind were all a complete waste. Instead of whining in these youtube comments, please share your peer-reviewed research instead.

@mariahconklin4150 Жыл бұрын

That's a great idea.

@Belec86 Жыл бұрын

Jesus, It's impossible to not like Kevin Smith, man. He's always so transparent with his fans. He's part of a small group of celebrities that you can really relate to.

@JG8910 Жыл бұрын

This is honestly a really, REALLY good explanation of trauma and its effects on a person. Covers self esteem, mindfulness, parts work, codependency, it's amazing how thorough it is while also still being relatively brief and digestible. Experiential, thought provoking, and relatable, while still being informed and scientific. Seriously... Bravo, Kevin Smith.

@nmcgaheyful Жыл бұрын

❤exactly

@TakenTook Жыл бұрын

Smith has always been an excellent public speaker, on top of the rest of his talents. I'm so glad he made this video on this topic.

@user-wm1nn2mu2b Жыл бұрын

jerZ is no joke, smartest folks in union! if I do say so myself....:-)

@elizabethp2395 Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯 Such an amazing job, and something so needed. thank you, Kevin.

@msbeecee1 Жыл бұрын

His balanced & coherent presentation is a reflection of the incredible work that is done at Sierra Tucson ✨

@raevankeith2234 Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate Kevin bringing up that trauma is trauma. I used to minimize my abuse. I'd say well my Dad only ever hit me with an open hand, or well my Dad just emotionally abused me, and both my parents were extremely neglectful. But at least my Dad dad never broke my arm or never left a bruise. That was my dad's voice in my head. He would tell me he wasn't abusive because he didn't leave a bruise. It's only abuse if there is a bruise. It took me a long time to understand to not compare my trauma to other peoples. To understand that trauma is trauma and what I went through was extremely difficult for me and even at 37 years old and having therapy. I'm better than I was but still not fully okay. One of the many reasons I don't ever want to have kids.

@raidengl Жыл бұрын

This world needs more Kevin Smiths. You are a national treasure sir.

@yookaloco Жыл бұрын

I have literally said this out loud, word for word, several times in the last couple of years. Including the first time I watched this video. 👍

@JoeCorneli Жыл бұрын

But it needs less of "the other guy".

@classicalperformances8777 3 ай бұрын

Psychiatrists have traumatized and harmed many people, so it s not a panacea

@grahamdoudy526 Жыл бұрын

Actually taking a mental health day from working in the hospital today and saw this in my recommended. I didn't realize I needed to hear this, but it's made me realize I'm a people pleaser in my own life and I've always felt guilty when putting myself first. Thank you for all you've said Kevin, means a lot to all of us and I hope life just keeps getting better for you and everyone else scrolling through the comments right now.

@aprilhassell1747 Жыл бұрын

Enjoy your day off Graham. Go get a massage 💆‍♀️

@gvinar6537 Жыл бұрын

Bless you and thank you 🙏 for the kindness you hoped for others!! I am struggling so it meant very much!!

@llandriell Жыл бұрын

Levelling the playing field on trauma is a revelation for me. Downplaying my own trauma while justifying others behaviour based on theirs has been a fixture throughout my life. I realise I can empathise with others in their feelings while being confident in my own boundaries.

@loveisallinside Жыл бұрын

Rings so true

@raveythirteen5660 Жыл бұрын

I can't thank you enough, Kevin, for your candor and honesty in sharing this. I am going through something similar, and I really, REALLY needed to hear this! Mad respect for you, man! Sending all the love. ♥

@nooodles939 Жыл бұрын

Man, i love how real Kevin is and has been his entire career. When he talks about real shit he is giving some of us the courage to talk about the things that we have been afraid to discuss

@spacemaneric Жыл бұрын

Kevin, I was a grip on goldbergs when you directed a episode. I’m transitioning to a mental health field, graduating this month as an MFT. Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. Destigmatizing trauma therapy is so essential, especially for nerd/film culture. You just became way more real in my book. I’m a total fan, now. Right on my dude.

@DrAnderson1 Жыл бұрын

I’m SO proud of you! We desperately need people like you in the field of mental healthcare. It is emotionally taxing, at times unbearably difficult, and sometimes it changes how you connect with others. But it’s also the most emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and physically rewarding path to choose. You’ll be helping people navigate the hardest thing they’ve ever experienced…and their successes become your successes. You’ll be saving lives, then giving those people a second chance at life. And they’ll reward you by living it. Good luck on your journey….you’re headed in the right direction! Welcome to the family ❤

@Lucalito Жыл бұрын

That is really cool, Eric!! All the best on your journey.

@ayoungtricknamedjim5498 Жыл бұрын

Seek joy, not happiness. A joyful state is transcendent.

@KevFrost Жыл бұрын

Never has silent Bob said something I and everyone needed to hear. Keep on, true believer!

@glenngibson9201 Жыл бұрын

Kevin Smith has performed a great public service by talking about his personal traumas and how it affected him. I will rewatch this several times. There is so much wonderful information to glean from this. Thank you, Kevin and people, for making this.

@cassiopeia1931 Жыл бұрын

I grew up through some intense abuse, physical, sexual, and emotional, and I am very familiar with trauma and how it effects a person. Coming onto the idea of "trauma is trauma" in my 20s is easily one of the most important revelations I ever had. It has helped inform how I relate to other people, not just people who are admitted trauma survivors, but everyone. I've often used the phrase "the worst thing that has happened to you is still the worst thing that has ever happened to you" when trying to explain to people that minimizing their own trauma. This is an incredibly important message that literally every single person can benefit from and I am extremely grateful for Kevin Smith being willing to open himself up in this way to share the revelation he's found in such detailed context. Endless respect. ;

@alexnorth3393 4 ай бұрын

This is a really good talk tbh. Trauma is indeed trauma.

@GlassGhost428 Жыл бұрын

This man is gifted with the ability to speak in such an engaging manner. You'll notice "umm"s but he instantly follows through with such descriptive dialogue at such a rapid pace.

@davidpalmer9014 Жыл бұрын

I was bullied a lot as a kid. I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much. Love you, man.

@toddheywood8837 Жыл бұрын

David, from a 52 year old father of 3 boys. I just want to let you know, that the fact that you can talk about your issues, and face them head on, will make you a much a better quality human being. I to was bullied as I believe a lot of kids are. I make a point with my kids to keep a open line of communication, and let them know(even though I’m sure it doesn’t seem like it helps) that they are not alone in their struggles. That the majority of people go through their own battles. When u realize this, you start to realize that bully was doing it because he most likely was covering up one of his own insecurities. Be strong, and know that your loved

@davidpalmer9014 Жыл бұрын

@@toddheywood8837 Thanks for the kind post, Todd.

@toddheywood8837 Жыл бұрын

@@davidpalmer9014 no problem David, I don’t know how old u are now, but if your still a teen, just know that those bullies, will not be apart of your life much longer. And that they are not worth your time. Wish you all the future success

@lilivonshtup3808 Жыл бұрын

I cried through the last about 30 minutes of this. It wasn't a downer cry. It was cathartic. Thanks, Kev. And thanks for the tools you gave me to help myself.

@blairwilliams136 Жыл бұрын

I'm crying right now and letting you know I agree

@MileHighScharfenberg Жыл бұрын

I learned more from Kevin than I learned from Matthew durring the art of livin’ …. Thank you Kevin

@VijaySharmaAttorney Жыл бұрын

I met you briefly in Atlanta when you gave a group of college newspapers a sneak preview of dogma. I asked you a question and you answered. Don’t remember either anymore but it made me root for you always. You’ve always had a naked honesty with your fans. Thank you. That’s all man. Thank you for being you. Go silent and do what you need to do. We love you and we’ll be here if you want us. Thank you Kevin.

@michellelynn1844 Жыл бұрын

I never realized how soothing his voice is. So much transparency and vulnerability in this video. Better than any movie or entertainment project created by anyone. Too many people (myself included) have minimized our trauma and replaced it with self-loathing. Trying so hard to come out the other side at 46. I could re-watch this over and over. 💙✌️