I rather be a divorce lady than anyone’s second wife. Ladies, you guys need to learn how to play the same game if you aren’t going to leave the marriage. If he got a second wife, go and get a second husband. If not, leave and stop crying and complaining.

Hai tau tu2 siab li os yom yu yg ib leeg ntxhai ma nim peem2 lo tseem g tau zoo thb os ,

Tus me Niam tsev zoo, Koj txoj kev hlub, Kev zoo thiab Kev Txhawb Nws twb dhau lawm nawb mog. Tu siab nrho, Ua ib siab hlo, tso pluav Tseg. Xob quav, Xob nyuaj2 siab lawm. Vim Nws Siv Koj Ua Nws tus qheb xwb es Vajtswv Ntuj thiaj muab Nws tshem tawm ntawm Koj mus lawm Kom Koj thiaj tsi tau Ua Nws tus qhe lawm xwb mas. Cia li zoo siab xwb os mog

You have a BACHELOR why are you still with him, your kids are SMART so listen to your kids. 🤦‍♀️dont live in a life where your significant other does not love you. Your kids will be fine there adults already. Love yourself. Txhob tus siab mi niam tsev. Good luck.

pab koj tu siab kawg tus me muam aw...tseem tshuav cov txiv zoo zoo os mog, peb cov no kab tshoob kev kos los paub kev nruam sim los txawj, zaub mov los txawj ua, vaj tsev los paub tu, me nyuam los paub zov, peb tsis tau ua phem rau tus niam tsev thiab cov tub nyab li ov, peb tseem ntshai thiab tseem chib faj kawg li ov mog,

I'm so glad I'm a lazy wife from the start...my husband helps me cook and clean lol

Hais yog tshaj li os Sister niam ntsuab teev aw.thaum yus tseem neej khov kho es lub neej loj loj muaj noj muaj haus ces txhua tus thiaj li pom yus txoj kev zoo.thaum yus lub neej plam plaws lawm ces neej tsa ntsia yus tsis muaj nuj nqes li Lawm.zoo li yus tsis yog neeg lawm tiag.peb haiv neeg Hmoob mas lub siab txia ntshav lim hiam tshaj plaws hauv qab ntuj no.

Tus txiv zoo li ko kav tsij nrauj tau lawm nawb

Txhob rawm tu siab os viv ncaus, kev npam tseem yuav los raws nkawv sai sai os

Tus mi niamtsev aw kuv nim mus nyeem tagnrho cov lus hauv no es tus hais li cas los muaj os tabsis txhob tusiab nawb mog yog leejtwg tsis tau rau peb sab khau ces lawv yeej tsis pom peb txojkev xav thiab peb tej kev nyuajsuab li os. Kuv lub neej raws nraim koj lub tabsis kuv cov neejtsa mas ho supportive heev. Muaj ib hnub teg yog lwmtus pojniam los txeem tau lub neej no lawm ces hnub ntawd yog hnub xaus laujb. Kuv xam hais tias koj zaj lus no yog lus txhawb zog kom peb cov mi vicncaus uas tabtom taug txojkev no txhob ntshai2 tias peb ib leeg thiaj taug txojkev no xwb es peb thiaj paub hlub peb tua kheej xwb os. You’re not alone.

I got talked to by my husband's family because I didn't treat their son like a King. But, dude, I work full time job like him we split the house job and he finds what he wants to wear. After he eats he can pick up his own plate. If he's tired and fills up the sink, I'll wash the dishes, but I'm not going to tend to his every single needs. He needs to learn to do the small things to himself too. Hmong women needs to know when to do things for their husband and when to let them do it themselves.

Learn to love yourself and accept the lost love. Don't rush into another relationship when you are not ready. Don't regret anything you have done for your ex. You did what you had to for your relationship at the time. Best luck!!

Yog koj twb ua zoo txaus rau koj tus txiv lawm, txob tu siab. Tso mus, txiv neej zoo tseem muaj nawb mog me muam aw!!!!!

She’s 100% right. I use to tell my mom all the time to divorce my dad but she choose not to. They’re afraid to leave and use the children as excuse to stay.

this is a whole culture that needs to shift our thinking and doing

I can feel your anger, your pain and regret, of time wasted by helping someone and have him/her betrayed your love and kindness at the end because I too experienced it.

Me niam hluas aw, txhob nrhaw lub neej niam hlob niam yaus os. Muab nrauj kiag yus mus yus es thiaj tsi mob yus siab os 😂😂😂

Niam ntsuab, xws li mloog tej suab ncauj lus thiab cov neej neeg kev plees yi saum txaj chaw. Yeej yog tim tus poj niam thiab tus txiv neej sib nrawg nroos thaum pib. Koj hais zaj puav rau poj niam sab thiab seb. Zaj no yeej hais zoo kawg lawm thiab.

No one is in your shoes and know how u feel…men move on easily, willing to give up everything…it’s sad because you have built a life with them and believed in their love for u!! It’s the most hurtful thing in the world and that is why matters of the heart episode can kill for. Although they seem happy who really knows behind closed so doors!! Let karma take care of them!! Please love your self and take time to heal. Everyone heals at their own time…take all the time you need! It’s not you, it’s the txiv dev in him that made him do what he did!!

😢yog kawg os tu tu siab li😢

The lady in this story, you have an education, you have your career, and you’re capable of taking care of yourself. I don’t get how your niam yau made it pass your front door in this country. To all the ladies, love yourself, when your husband cheats, he’s no longer in love with you and you can’t force him to love you. Let him go, no regrets. Life will not stay the same forever, times change, people change, everything can change.

Txhob sib nrauj os hmoob aw..koj lub neej tsim nyog lawm..vim luag twb yuav dua ib tug los hlub lawm..kuv qhia nej tias ceeb laj nrhiav tau ib tug neeg zoo yuav los hlub yus tiag tiag lawm nawb

It's not "cwj pwm sib haum". It's "tus yus nyiam ces yus ua zoo rau, tus yus tsis nyiam lawm ces yus ua phem rau". It's as simple as that. There's no need to lecture that it's because of this or that. No person is all bad or all good. We all have both. The person you love no longer loves you is not because s/he is a bad person. S/he is mean to you but is nice to the other person, whom s/he likes. I learned this lesson from my ex-girlfriend.

tug phauj kV yog hmoob nyab laj nyob rau ntawm kv lub neej kv txom nyem heev nyob li tam sim no kv xav tau kev pab rau ntawm ib tsoom hmoob muaj kev sib hlub sib pab os tug phauj a

Why do you care what the “neej tsaa” feels about you? They ain’t paying your bills! They ain’t cooking for you! Make it make sense🤦🏻‍♀️

Peb hmoob cov coj noj coj ua cov zoo txiv tsev yeej muaj ib leeg ib tug maum dev nawb lawv aw...

Txiv neej ib yam tab sis muaj ib feem peb nyiam niam tsev xwb niam dev noj tsis tsau os niam tsev yus tshaib los tau noj niam dev thaum koj tsis nce ces koj yuav noj koj muaj koj tes koj taw nce zoo siab lawm mam muab koj los tes taw pov tseg ces mam tau noj

Niag Txiv tub nkeeg thiab useless npaum ntawv xum tsis yuav. Koj muab hlub dhau nws thiaj saib koj tsis muaj nqis. Yus nyob yus thiaj kaj siab. Luag twb muaj tus tshiab ces luag yeej tsis hlub koj lawm.

Before your husband became a leader, you need to see if your husband is worthy of that job. If he is not you should not let him take that job. This job does not benefit your life if you don’t know how to use it.

Yeej meem hlub nws kom tag siab nhro tab sis ntsuas yog nws tsi hlub yus ces tseg ib qho los hlub los tu yus tus kheej thiab os cov mi Viv ncaus

Cas koj lub neej nim zoo li kuv thiab o tus me viv ncaus aw puam txhawj o mog tsuav yus dim lub neej no xwb mam li nrhiav dua o mog 😭

Nam Ntsuab aw…..hauj lwm ntau dhau tsi khoom lug koom koj Los lub sab tseem xaav ntsoov koj le nawb mog🙏😁❤️

Mee koj ma zoo nkauj loj los loj ntxim hlub tiag li yog koj tseem hnav kom sexy thiab yuav ntxim hlub ntshaj thiab li. Koj ma. Xav kom tau ib tug zoo li koj xwb zoo siab lawm koj ma

Cag hais tss nkag siab li na

Me ntxhai yus yog tus zoo ce lub ntuj yuav pub qhov zoo rau yus mog tus neeg siab phem yeej yuav muaj tus neeg phem los tsim txom nws ib hnub twg xwb mog.

Yog tias twb yog tiam no lawm es koj cov neej tsa tseem xav li ko ces koj cov neej tsa tseem poob qab heev thiab yeej tsis yog ib cov uas muaj kev hlub.

My dearest sister, it is your life. REMEMBER, YOU MADE THE DECISION TO MARRIED AND TO STAY AND SUPPORT HIM. YOU COULD'VE DIVORCE HIM. STAYING FOR YOUR CHILDREN ISN'T GOING TO DO ANYTHING GOOD FOR YOU OR THEM. YOUR CHILDREN WILL GROW UP AND MOVE ON WITH THEIR LIFE. if we all listen to what our parents said, we'll never have experience life.

You live for yourself...love your self.

I don't know why you ladies make a for your neej tsa and other people to care and love you. No don't do that, only love your self, live by yourself, care yourself. People don't call you to eat or support your self that's ok .don't worry we can eat by ourselves live by ourselves ok. You have a job you can stay your side. Don't wait for people care you ok our ladies!!!!!!.

You have an education and a career. Why would you disable your husband? By doing every little things, you only made him depends on you. I watched so many Hmong women doing as much or even more than you and at the end of their marriage, no one cares. Like his side of the family, no one will stop him from leaving you. Don’t overdo everything.

Vidncaus, koj hais li tseem khuvxim nws heev. Tus txiv dev ntxeev siab rov taw tuam ntuj ntawd nws rab yob yuav muaj zog kav ntev licas. Nws yuav muaj mob, yob yuav tuag sai2 rau niamyau tsim, tseem yuav txomnyem mob siab tshaj koj. Tswj koj tus kheej kom zoo thiaj tau saib nws suffer rau yav laus.

May aw….cas koj Yuav hais tau yog kiag kuv lub neej os😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Kuv tug txiv yog Hmoob es ua cas ho pab kuv txhua yam hauv lub vaj lub tsev. Puas yog tim koj xwb? Niam hlob niam yau sib txeeb yob!

Kaum leej nkauj nyab ghia tsis tau ib tug nkauj xwb , tab sis sib yuav kiag cais pib ua rog , zoo nkaus li lab xias thiab yus khees sib Tua ntag ! Uas poj niam thiab txiv neej Mas tsov rog ua tsis muaj tus yeej tsis muaj tus swb li os puab yawm aw !

Cas koj hlub nws ua luaj ua rau kuv ntshaw thiab laiv

Hmong cov pob thas ces kawg tau niam yaus xwb.

Peb los ua neej nyob hauv lub qab ntuj no ces ntshe tsis muaj 1 tus txiv neej hmoob es yuav tsis tau tham hluas nkauj li os thaum muaj poj niam tag lawm na.

luag twb tsis hlub yus lawm los tseem muab hus ua me koj txiv thiab naj !

Thaum pib, ua caag yuav txawj thaam ua luaj, xaav tas lub neej yuav tsi muaj kev nyuaj sab nua os.

Lawv .... Sim neej no koj lub los nim yog kuv lub kuv lub los yog nej sawv daws lub vim peb tau ib txoj Kev taug tau ib tug kab mob siab os. Tu siab kawg nej ces yog Kev txij nkawm os kuv ces nim yog txoj me sia os kuv tug txiv tsev neeg nim ua dab tua ua khawv koob tua muab kuv tej me nyuam ntsis hlwb ruam tag tsi paub ua neeg tu siab tshàj hu ntuj Los ntuj siab ua luaj hu teb Los teb taws ua luaj kuv nim quaj qaws rau saum ntuj xwb tu siab kawg 😂😂😂😂😂

As hmong women, we've been programmed to be dependent on a man. With this 21st century thinking, we must reprogram ourselves and our daughters that no man is worth fighting over with another woman. Love yourself first. Love your kids. Who cares what others think! They dont walk in your shoes. They don't feed you or pay your bills! It's not the end of the world. Love you, depend on yourself! Keep your head up and everything will fall into place afterwards.

Qhov uas ua rau nej cov ntxhais tsis mloog niam thiab txiv tej lus ntuas ces twb yog tim nej tus niam hluas yim nram hav pheej taij2 yuav haus kua ntxhai xwb.

Oh boy here we go again 😂

Cov neeg siab phem npaum li ko tsis txog twg li os

Cas zoo li koj tseem khuvxim koj niag txiv na tsis tau txaus ces rov mus thawj mas es mus ua nkawv qhev e qi muag mloog nkawv ua neej

Century 21 mam girl. Don't feel sorry child support help you 100%

Cov mi niam tsev aw nej tsis paub tias cov poj nrauj nov txawj khawv koob me Kas no los nej yuav tau kawm Kom txawj li lawd es nej thiaj tsis tau ua poj nrauj nawb

STOP being a victim!!! The first time you found out about his cheating, you were a victim of his unfaithfulness. After that, you can no longer use that excuse to mope and complain. If you don't like the situation you are in, then CHANGE IT! You live in the U.S., you have many options and the power to choose how you want your life to be like. If you stay, then you need to stop complaining and moaning because that's the choice you chose! It's very simple, really; it's like a band-aid---just rip it off fast and suffer a little pain briefly OR slooooowly peel it and suffer lots of pain for a longer time. YOUR happiness is up to your own making! Don't wait or depend on a man for that!

Thaum nej lub tsheb nej niaj hnub tsav tseem zoo2 tab sis nej yuavvlub tshiab es nej xav tias tseg lub qub nyob rau ntawd es thiaj tau sib hloo tsav no tab sis nej yeej tsis tsav lub qub li lawm ov nej ces yeej liag nraim lub tshiab lawm xwb

You shouldn’t regret marrying him. If you didn’t marry him, you would have regretted it too. Can’t turn back time so keep moving forward. No use of regretting.

Vim nej neeg nyob sab xeev khuam cov txiv neej khav2 lub npe nom muaj nqes tab sis ruam2 rau qhov uas ua mov noj ua mov ces tau mov kub hnyiab xwb. Nej cov hmoob xeev khuam mas 50 perent ua mov kub hnyiab kuv twb pom dua lawm. Hos peb cov ruam mas 100percent ua mov qab kawg ua laj los qab ua nqaij nas los qab tsis tos poj niam poj ua.

Nej tsis need zais² Cov txiv dev patha lub qe qais neeg na. Expose kom nws tsis muaj ntsej muag kiag na!

Time changed, and people changed!

Sister, don’t regret all the goods you have done. Your ex-husband and his new wife are not as happy as they make it to be. Your children will always be your children regardless. Continue to be a good mother to support them. There are a lot of good men worthy of your love out there. You don’t need a husband to be happy. Take care of yourself and love yourself. It is what it is, you can’t control your ex husband to love you. Have hope and move on.

vim koj mus yuav tau txiv dev xwb koj mus yuav tsis tau tus zoo txiv tsev es koj thiaj li mus ciaj tag nws ib tug maum dev ces koj tus me txiv tsev thiaj li mus ua pojnrauj tus me txiv dev.

Txiv tsi sawm zoo li txhob tiam2

We GoodmanWISH we have a house wife like that But some how we don't get😢😢😢why is that

Never served your spouse like a slave. They'll take you for granted!

No Matter The people don’t like u no matter u have husband or not

Cas kv e xav nrog koj tham heev li o tab kv message tsis tau koj li os viv ncau aw 😅

niag pas tha quav dev pib muaj nyiaj caig muaj2 plug

Poj niam hmoob es, cas nim ntshaw lub niag npe niam pab than, niam thawj coj, niam nov, niam tiv? Cas ho tsis ua yus tus kheej kom xav tau npe pab than los yus yog pab than, xav tau npe coj los yus yog tus coj ma?

This is what happens when you live for other people instead of yourself. To be happy in life, you need to know when to be selfish and not be bothered by what others think. Unfortunately, you gave your all to others. I hope you learned and change.

Poj niam Hmoob tiam nos es tseem muaj cov ruam npaum lis nos. Stop giving out advice to women if you can't even move on yourself.

Stop living ur life for other people. Time to put urself first. Ur relatives aren’t gonna take care of u when u’re sick or have a stroke. Mourn ur marriage & learn to love urself. U’re a good person. Don’t let ur POS ex-husband make u into a bitter person. He doesn’t deserve u, ur love, ur time or ur energy anymore. Take ur power back.

Hmoob txoj kev xav tseem poob qis very low class people thiaj saib cov poj niam tsis muaj txiv qis xwb . Luag cov neeg vam meej txawm muaj txiv thiab tsis muaj txiv los luag yeej saib taus ,yog li tsis muaj txiv los txhob tu siab

Kuv tseem hais mov rau kuv tus huamnab os xom as, ua cas koj tseem tau hais mov rau koj tus txiv na.

I hate people like this lady. She got everything she wanted for many years. She got education, husband, children, house and love . Now life changes and she complains that she should listen to her parents and not marrying this husband. Lady, as a college graduate you should know that time changes, people changes, everything changes, even you changes. So why complaining that your husband changed from loving you to cheating on you. Your body changes, your attitude changes and your feelings changes. So please don't talk about regretting. Be smart, understanding that everything and everyone changes, even love changes. You should also regret for getting your college degree if you want the old life back to the early youth.

Where are all the women who treats their man like that? Wish I had one!

Nej hmoob Amelika más Xav tau los ua tus cob los yog pab tha neej ruam 1..2..3 los yog txoj caij nyob rau nej lub teb chawm na hmoob es hmoob ruam tíag tíag lis os 😅😅😅😅

You are of value… live in it. Don’t put so much value on him.

Ntuj Aw Cas yuav ruam tshaj ruam os, leej twg hais rau koj tías thaum koj tus txiv mus yuav tham hluas nkauj thiab yuav niam yau es nws tseem hlub koj na ruam tiag2 li os koj niam Aw

Mmm mmm

If he’s that bad, forget him. Move on. You won’t be missing anything important.

I don't and will never understand why there could be a niam yau in this country especially someone with an education like you. Should have end the pain when he decides to marry niam yau. Men nowadays yog mag poj nraug zaum lawm ces rov nyuaj lawm. I know you love him alot and life will never be the same but there's nothing you can do when he doesn't love you anymore. I feel your pain and anger but do your best and move on sister.

Zaum no koj khuv xim koj txoj kev tau ua zoo rau koj tus txiv yav dhau los lawm vim koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj. Nov twb vim yog txhua yam koj tau ua zoo rau nws ces koj twb muab lwv tawm tag rov tom qab lawm. Tib neeg hlub tib neeg muaj conditions li no yeej tsis nyob ntev rau tus txais kev hlub thiab tus muab kev hlub rau.

Lady, we all know that when a man cheat on his wife it means he dont love his wife anymore. Shouldn't use the kids as an excuse to stay in a loveless marriage.

Sister, stop complaining and whining and bitching! Regretting what has come and gone. Life change, people change, we all fall in love and out of love. When you're young, it's sweet and strong and fun and loving, but after time and age, people change. Sister, you're so busy catering to him and building him up that you forgot to take care of yourself. You forgot to love and respect yourself. YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IS YOU CHOOSE TO IGNORE AND REMAIN SUPPORTING HIM. YOU COULD'VE LEFT AND DIVORCED HIM. YOU BUILT THAT LIFE NOT HIM.

I think 99/100 of men cheat after life r better

If you had done what your kids said, you wouldn't be in this predicament... your ex-husband has a new wife, you would had gotten a new husband too. But you chose to be niam loj so now you're old so your pool of eligible Hmong men lessens. But worry not, White and Black men love Asian women so if you don't mind, I'm sure you'll get another man... if not as a husband, as a partner.

Seems everybody is a PT! Every PT is a cheater. Move on sister! How he will regret losing you is if you live your best life! He won't care now until she treats him like trash. If she doesn't, you have expired. Find another battery for your life.

I’m sorry but you aloud him to do that. A grown man like your husband don’t know how to do things around the house. I don’t know that!

Everything in life was meant to make us stronger and is a lesson. You were of regret not marrying him. Love yourself and accept that life isn’t fair. Find your peace and enjoy life as we can’t turn back time.

You are exactly right sister all the man are the same thing

Sorry your way of thinking that needs a man to have face is wrong. That’s an old way of thinking. Listen to your kids, move on and love yourself.

Omg, stop using "yus" and just say "kuv." It would have made the story so much better. Way toooo much seev seev. Can't finish it.

Lady, you talk a lot. Skip

Boring bye

👉 2 tug poj niam kaws ib tug pob ntxa. That's terrible! I think it's time for you to pack your bags and move on with a new life.

Stupid HaMong…… LoL