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I don’t think 27 is late, especially in her field in the industry. At 27 she understands boundaries, which is essential, while being beautiful and young

Bruh, the person who recruits guests/ speakers for this channel needs a huge pay bump. The range is diabolical. From spys , to gangsters, to soldiers to a dominatrix. Epic

I really hope she will write a book one day. She is sharp yet cautious, highly sensitive to detail and every sentence she speaks is so eloquently put.

Her response to the AGE thing is so important for people to understand. For every industry and every aspect of life. We should be able to choose our path in every single stage of life.

40 minutes in when she’s talking about her ex partners responses…”how could you choose to do that when you are so old” and she laughs and laughs 🤣 totally disregarding the archaic male response of targeting a women’s age, assuming it will have a devastating effect on her (us)….Absolute legend ❤

I get the impression that she could literally do anything or be anything she wanted and just be at the absolute zenith of that field.

She is well educated, especially in speaking. I hear no ‘um’s’, or ‘er’s’, no ‘like’ every other word. Soft spoken. And thoughtful concerning her business. An interesting guest.

Ava is a queen. Articulate, empathic, poised and the clarity in her voice is incredibly alluring and soothing.

I like how respectful the interviewer is and all the good questions

What a beautiful, respectful conversation. Very telling that the interviewer led with curiosity and not a need to be an "alpha" and '"destroy" her "masculine energy." So different from many conversations around sex that we see on social media.

I officially LOVE her! The transparency, her demeanor her intelligence

One of the best interviews I've ever listened to. And yes, she does know a lot. And yes I'm sitting here thinking, "I want to be like her!". The strength and ease is very attractive.

Eva is so intelligent and comes across as so comfortable in her own body and mind ..wonderful voice too .I think her humour helps her too .

She is incredibly articulate. I loved listening to her.

This was a very respectful and highly educational interview. I feel like you gave her grace, autonomy and didn't make her feel like she should be ashamed or uncomfortable and it also gave me as the viewer a chance to address some of the questions I have had about this, actually with the way you were asking , it gave me an inside of what I really wanted to know. I wanted to know about the psychological and physical takeaway of the profession. Do I feel like in the states we can get to a point where we have interviews like this? I'm not sure 😂 but it definitely shows response of keeping it respectful, and empathetic for the person who is giving this information, this was a good and productive respectful interview , I definitely learned a lot.

As someone who worked for many years as a dominatrix in NYC; she is a wonderful representative of the better side of it. The image in many people's minds is one of cartoonish, unclean environments; and while that does exist, it's absolutely the contrary if one does it on their own terms.

She is a fascinating story teller I could listen to her all day! She is so classy and refined.

I know Eva and honestly she is one of the kindest, most humble,smartest, weirdest people I know. She has a great laugh that tells you that she enjoys life. She is so confident , emotionally intelligent and laid back. But also disciplined and has a great structure in chaos. I am so happy for her that she is getting the attention she deserves. ❤

I knew about foot fetishes, but it was surprising to me to find out that broken/injured feet and ankles is popular. I discovered this by accident when I posted pictures of my broken foot and chipped ankle online in 2021! OMG...there was a frenzy. What bothered me was the whole idea of men liking a wounded, injured woman.

"Gently exist and yet be entertained" really resonates with me. Exceptional Interview, thanks

It's interesting, how many people think that confidence is about ignoring reality and believe you are always some sort of superior perfect being. While in reality what you percieve as a confidence is basically accepting that anything might go sideways anytime, doing what is in your control to prevent it and not stressing out about things that are out of your control.

This is fantastic and fascinating! I myself am a mental health specialist and a previous dominatrix. I find this combination to be extremely helpful in being able to understand someone on a deeper level. My favorite thing was to understand WHY someone liked what they liked, or where is started. Human behavior is remarkable and it's odd how so few people actually take the time to understand themselves. If you ask 100 people, "what do you enjoy sensually and sexually" many people have no idea how to answer. Being a Dom and in the mental health field was a profoundly helpful combination to help people dive deeper, get their real needs met and learn about their own mind more. Such a unique experience in life! Thank you for making this video ❤

A lot of BDSM practitioners see 50 shades as an abusive relationship. Not a realistic portrayal of a mutually beneficial relationship. All the DV counsellors and support workers that I know, and that's many, agree. Abuse and BDSM are not the same thing.

Ben you did an fantastic job as the interviewer. Your active listening skills are top tier!!! A quoteable by Eve "live quietly but be entertained in my every day"

She's spot on about Fifty Shades - it's written like a script for a movie. No more real than Pretty Woman is about prostitution.

Great interview. She is grace and class all wrapped up in one. Her voice is intriguing, very diffrent, and sophisticated. Eva is a beautiful lady and it would be great if she considered about being a talk radio host on NPR, National Public Radio. Her voice is very relaxing and calm and she has a talent in communicating with others easily in an open manner without appearing threatening. She is very professional in her demeanor and the way she presents herself.

Thank you for sharing her story. And thank you for being very respectful and honest with your questions you had for her.

Fascinating. Thank you for an articulate and insightful series of reflections on life.

From the interviews I’ve seen, many women (especially) that work within the sex industry are incredibly smart, aware, intellectual, open, strong, etc and very business minded. Also with a sense of honesty and compassion for sex and the human relationship with it. Great interviewee that certainly understands her responsibility in her role as a dominatrix. I think our general notion of Domination can be very base and I don’t think it is really that at all.

Wow, did I enjoy this interview. I enjoyed how respectful the interviewer was and still asked very personal questions in a kind of not intrusive way? When Eva Oh muses about why women write to her asking about the career and what reasons people might have for going this path - she mentions the strength. That's spot on. To feel this powerful. This in control. To be trusted that much. I used to be in clubs as a 19-22 y/o know-nothing person 'playing' a dominatrix. But it DID give me true pleasure and I enjoyed every second of it, even if I was pretty naive and did not know a lot about what I was doing. I didn't do anything that would potentially be dangerous. But I did have a problem with separating myself from this. I lived a fantasy. I was a different person outside of the club. I could not take this strength with me. I probably had it in me, but was so used to my everyday much more introverted role, that I shyed away from it. I sometimes cringe when I think back about how little i did know. But I know that my feelings were real. This interview brought back all these memories. What I also find fascinating: Like many people from that scene, I am deeply pacifistic. I dislike all kinds of violence - even loud voices. But it's entirely different if its about the dynamic and everything happens with consent.

fascinating talk. I love that her takeaway is 'I know nothing so i might as well have fun' so humble, but she has such a strong presence at the same time.

It was adorable how he was so surprised and interested in so many things, and how carefully tried questions like when you're amazed discovering something so new and different!! Beautiful interaction and outstanding interview!

the more i find out about being a great dominatrix the more i realise intuition and intimacy /empathy play a huge role and intelligence

What an incredible woman and a very respectful interviewer. Few and far between in these spaces. Really appreciates this interview! I hope she achieves everything she wants to and more.

I've never seen this channel. I am blown away by the man. His dignity. And Eva is fascinating. I love how she talks. So elegant. A totally unique and intriguing yet "accessible" person. This was so unique. What a great interview. I honestly can't praise it enough. None of that male silliness and trying to bring things to sexual. Just a truly depthful human exchange. Wow. Her legs and arches are so balletic and muscularly beautiful. To the very last second of the video it was chocked with information and so interesting. I'm amazed. He never stops the questions and ends up getting new layers of answers. Amazing.

One of the MOST interesting person i have listened to. I was glued to the screen. I would love to hear her longer.

These interviews are always extremely fascinating. Loved this one❤

She is the embodiment of a healthy Scorpio: Honesty, psychology, emotion, power, Intelligence.

Fantastic Woman. She might just be one of the most self aware & fullfiled interviews ive come across.

Excellent interview- this lady has an incredible mind and is very self aware Interviewer is also excellent Very interesting

The way she went “say fetishes” just summed up the whole interview 🤣

What a Fantastic, REAL dialogue! Thank you both for opening up the conversation. I’ve been on a similar timeline - Catholic, university, non-profit, corporate background, got into the lifestyle 12 years ago and then the industry 8 years ago. I’ve had a lot to reconcile, still not out to everybody. But what can I say, you can’t shake what is in you, and, like you, Eva, the curiosity, and the satisfaction derived from these relationship dynamics continues to fuel and energize my life. Thank you!❤️🥰🙏🏼

This was such an interesting interview. Professionally done and Eva is an incredible woman who knows herself so well and able to articulate this world to us. So well done!

She’s wonderful, beautiful, educated, soft spoken and thoughtful plus kind well done to her and to you for bringing her ❤️

If she is this good as a dominatrix, I hate to think what she would be like as a lawyer!! I think the whole room shuttered....lol. I have so much respect for her integrity not letting her research be used in a way she felt was inappropriate just for money. I see her more as a counselor, therapist. The last questions she posed where really helpful for self reflection in anything we undertake. I wish he would have asked more about her experiences when she is asked to sub.

I love the beautiful honesty of this woman's story. Thank you for sharing

She’s an inspiration. The way she carries herself. She speaks with so much grace. I think you can learn so much from her beyond what she does for a living.

This man is completely enamored and fascinated with her, and the answers to her questions! I love her extensive vocabulary, she uses a lot of words that are not common in day to day conversation.. I love her femme fatale energy. She's very feminine, yet strong, and powerful. I love that combo. I can tell that she kept things she shared as it pertains to what she does in her sessions very tame, but that she has probably tested all sorts of limits that would be full hard stops for most. I would have liked more details about the psychological aspect, as far as are her skills innate, or developed over time as she experienced more on the job. She's sophisticated, and edgy at the same time. She would be 2-3 handfuls for the interviewer...he def seemed like he wanted to have a session with her, but realized that $1,000 an hour is out of his price range! LOL Very good interview.

”I just want to gently exist and yet be entertained in my day to day interactions. That's who i gravitate towards these days”

Her perspective is so fantastic. Thank you for the interview

People always talk about the quality of the guests on this channel, and I agree that they're great, but I want to take a moment to say how great the interviewer is. Always has good questions and shows a high level of understanding and empathy for the people he's conversing with.

mad props to the interviewer , he asked all the right questions

This woman has to be the most intelligent person I've ever seen or heard. And the best part is that she clearly isn't trying to sound intelligent, she just IS.

love her pov... the world needs more of this.. awareness, reflective, comfortable in not knowing but always open for a dialogue

I adore how she's so unbothered with mainstream shit happening all over. And because she wasn't on social media before, she's pretty 'pure' in her though process so to say.

Her vocabulary and use of an elegant language is sensational. She is not rude or crass, she very sophisticated.

What an amazing, fascinating, informative interview!! Wow!! I was totally blown away by the entire interview

Great interview. But also great interviewer, I liked that he was open to admitting he didn't know these things, but also interested and non judgmental. Too many interviewers on KZfaq make the interviews about themselves, it's good to see someone interviewing in the old school style of letting the person being interviewed lead the conversation. Also the last few minutes when she flustered Ben just a little but seem genuinely interested in him and what he had to say made me understand why people are happy to pay for her services.

ive been a dominatrix for about 20yrs and i can see why she is top tier. fascinating woman!

she's got such a calming voice this was super interesting! my favourite kind of "podcast"

I've known a few professional doms. Cis and trans women. I've found a sense of humour and a noticeable kind streak in all of them. I tried it, but I just couldn't do it. It's too removed from my personality. But I know for many it's very cathartic. I was ok at it, when I did phone sex, but to be honest, I found it humourous, and that's soley because I'm so uncomfortable power playing. So I am just not right for the job of dominatrix, where you deal with people who deliberately put themselves in very vulnerable positions, physically and emotionally. I was happier doing pretty vanilla stuff in sex work. Occasionally, especially doing phone sex work, it ended up in a counselling session. I stopped one guy from literally crushing his balls so he could have them removed. That was memorable. People don't know how much emotional comfort you can end up giving as a sex worker. Sometimes it's from the heart, especially with widowers etc... sometimes just because you're getting paid. The client usually knows on a deeper level if there is any sincerity there. Some people just want a connection with another person with no judgement, and a happy ending. Whether that's a physical or emotional happy ending, because some people are not capable of physical happy ending. . It's "more fun" than seeing a counsellor, but it's usually not an appropriate substitute for a professional counsellor or psychologist. Why not see both? I think the best sex worker is a "people person". There's a lady in our building who is not good looking and very badly groomed, but she's nice. She's very pleasant to talk to and she has A LOT of clients. I couldn't go back to it, but I don't regret doing it.

this interview gave me clarity about what i want in my next career. i'm working on connecting with my True self and creating a life that supports it, but i have not considered how authentic i want people to be with me at work (ie: social worker, therapist etc.). i need to journal about this.

I love his interview style. Keep solidifying your skillset brother

I wonder if it’s the fact she didn’t have much control in her earlier life (being moved around a lot as a kid) that meant that she was more drawn to being a dominatrix and having control over someone else. If that’s the case I wonder if the inverse is true, maybe it’s a trope but I’d imagine the people who seek her services are rich people who have control as managers etc in high paying jobs who want to submit to someone else .

This interview was well done and informative, she is well spoken and was insightful. enjoyed.

Not only her articulate way of explaining and her introspective were interesting. The way you led the interview and the questions you made...this was super interesting! Thank you! Greetings from Argentina

I think if she ever decided to get out of this industry she’d be an amazing sex therapist. Yes, it takes time to get the degree but man she’d be awesome at it!

Eva has an amazing voice. I could listen to her forever.

"I enjoy feeling- sick! I enjoy feeling... I enjoy feeling alive!" I enjoy having listened to you.

Everything about this interview is incredibly good; from the guest to the questions to her answers. Love such insights into the human nature.

Amazing interview with awesome honesty. Deliciously beautiful lady with no filter and a straight no nonsense answer to every question. worth every minute

Eva is incredibly likable and interesting. I loved this interview.

Thank you both for this great interview.

I was a psychotherapist for almost 30 years and Eva’s job is very similar to what I did. I so understand what she is saying. The experience is so deep and complex it is difficult to put into words. Does Eva have female clients?

Extremly interesting personality. Captivating life story, and a pleasure to witness her analysis, which is psychologically quite meticulate. A pleasure to be surprised with this level of discourse in the nowadays world ( u know….) Admirable self respect, seldom achieved by people with “ normalised, respectable, socially apprised careers “. Bravo… and thank you^^

I would pay this woman just to talk to me , she's so well spoken and intelligent.

Great interview. I feel like the questions came across from a genuine curiosity and non-judgemental perspective which was nice to experience from the viewers perspective. -I also think it teaches awareness about non-judgement in general, she basically said thats what the main focus of her job is... Lol unless you want that 😂.

What's an eloquent interview, I didn't want it to end. I just can't describe how I feel after watching that, honestly I've never felt this way after watching anything! The only word I can come up with is "enriched" I feel enriched!

I find it so fascinating that sex workers can be amongst our most honest people. I loved how Eva was able to describe her experiences and her motivations so eloquently and be so thoughtful about her reasoning behind her approach to everything. When she described seeing it as an honour sharing such an intimate part of someone's psyche it showed that although there is a clear interest in the power dynamic it in no way comes across as a loathing or dysfunctional attitude towards men or sex. The whole interview was very respectful and Eva comes across as articulate, fun and interesting as a person outside of the role she adopts without feeling the need to somehow represent that role for an image. Very enjoyable insight.

A voluntary sex worker who specialises in fetish work at a psychological level is more of a counsellor and an intuitive healer. Many are hugely empathetic and gain satisfaction from experiencing life in its rawest form. There is a dopamine rush in turning what is often felt by the client as negative about their life into something positive and where they leave the interaction satisfied and validated. The client finds a place where they feel safe to explore their needs , that is non-judgemental and where they can relax. If it wasn’t so difficult to become qualified as sexual counsellors and have that particular industry be so judgemental and opinionated about accepting fetishes as normal instead of demonising them and trying to ‘fix them ‘ you would find more of them doing that type of work

I like how flabbergasted this interviewer always seems. Makes the episodes engaging.

Great interview!

Watching this made me want to be celibate forever.

This woman is the real deal. She lives the lifestyle and her work pleasures her and her subs.

What a truly exceptional mind. Eva is something else. Thank you for this insightful, wonderful interview.

This has been my fav so far!

She is sooooooo good in the power dynamic. I can understand why she is so successful as a dominatrix. She does that to the interviewer, he asks "what lesson you've learned in life" and she goes, dead serious, looking at his soul "I don't know, what is YOUR lesson?". Wooooooow, it broke him. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

What a beautiful attitude, enjoy life, enjoy all that you can. Thank you to the both of you for sharing.

Interviewer did a great job as always - this felt like a harder interview than usual to get through because she didn't seem to be that willing to be open. Maybe she'd be in a better position to interview later in her career when she is retired and therefore not willing to potentially jeapodise her image by revealing too much while still having clients. Her work is completely dependent upon how people view her, of course, if she said "sometimes I'm not really into it" it would ruin her job I imagine.

Woooow!! Thank you so very much!!!! I would slow down the speed of the interview just to make it longer to enjoy! Thank you for inspiration for follow ones joy!!!❤❤❤❤

Amazing woman! There is so much to learn from her. Very good conversation. Loved it.

There’s nothing like a bit of fantasy and it takes all sorts to make a world. Eva plays such an important role in making her clients feel fulfilled…what a beautifully dignified woman

I admire her mother for being able to deal with it all. I can imagine my daughter telling me something like this. You love your child, you want the best for her. You need to love her and respect her. This woman is very intelligent and sane. She knows where she is and what she wants.

excellent deep dive, she’s so resilient and creative, definitely an inspiration

Thanks for sharing Eva Oh. I love how she shows that it is possible to work in the sex industry and love it! The general perceptions usually only emphasise the dark part of the industry. Not often do you see the other side, where embracing your femininety can be empowering. It is the essence of womanhood and can be a beautiful thing.

She doesn’t really go into detail. She knows how to skirt the issues like the professional that she is. I would rather work in a franchise store, then do what she does.

Do you think you have a vast work experience? She travelled through fashion design, UNHCR, white collar and sex industry. She literally can handle ANYTHING! :0 Absolute powerhouse.

Thanks for this most informative interview 😊❤Cheers

amazing ! great interview