For a different perspective on life lessons, check out my recent video on Things to Not Take for Granted in Your 20s → bit.ly/2uFFqy6 I'm nearing the end of my 20s, so I wanted to share some big insights and advice from the past decade. If you're in your 20s, what life lessons have you learned recently? 💡

1. Live the life you're proud of 2. Close the gap between knowing and doing 3. Seek first to understand 4. Treat people the way they want to be treated 5. Power of team work 6. Resilience

"If you are still alive and breathing you have another day, another day to try" Thanks for that.

*#1 - be always truthful with yourself* Self-deception is the biggest barrier to happiness in life

Treat other people the way they want to be treated and not the way you think you should! So important! But also remember that other people probably treat you the way they want to be treated and if this is not what you want, you should tell them loud and clear. What is obvious to us is not necessary obvious to other people 😊

Confidence derives from having already done something and gaining the confidence to do it again! Confidence doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time. Wether it’s confidence in yourself or your craft. From a self love content creator to another, you always know just what to say and how to say it Aileen. Loved it! 💜

Life is beautiful and we all came here to enjoy every minute of our existence, to be happy, to be free ♡ let go of what no longer serves you and start living your best life

I’m really bad for wanting to know everything before attempting to do anything. Probably too much so. Quite often learning comes from doing. I then immediately become confident!

The first lesson was the most valuable for me right now. (The last lesson was a close second.) I am very content and at peace in my life currently, so sometimes I think "Hey, I'm happy so why not just live like this forever? Isn't the whole point of life to be happy?" But I am not doing anything. I haven't been being productive. I only do things that bring me pleasure. So I am really just comfortable because I haven't been doing anything difficult or challenging. I may be happy now, but if I look back on my life, I wouldn't be proud. I really needed to hear that there's a difference between living to be happy and living a life you're proud of. Thank you, Aileen ❤ The video wasn't too long for me. I was listening while putting on makeup 😊 Also, would like to hear about lessons and mistakes made in business. Maybe lessons first? Since it would go along with this video kinda. "Lessons I learned in Life" followed by "Lessons I learned in Business".

The vibes , the editing , the voice , the content she makes Everything is magical , THANK YOU.🌻

Anyone else find this so motivating!?💗🙌 Living a positive and healthy lifestyle is my passion🌻💗 Have a gorgeous day😘

I love how immaculate your videos look all the time 💙

I honestly gain so so much from watching your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻 💫

I love the first lesson which is to live a life you are proud of. I am striving for that as of late because I feel like I'm not doing enough to earn self-respect. Therefore, I'm trying to do hard things in my daily life even by doing simple tasks such as washing and folding my own clothes. Thank you for this video, Aileen! 💖

My favorite was the one about being resilient. OMG, that just completely changed my way of thinking, and my future. In school theyve always told me that you can learn from your mistakes but I had never realized that I shouldnt be afraid of failure, I should be afriad of stopping myself from not trying. Thank you so much for opening my eyes and making me realize that failure is proof that I tried, and that as long as Im still breathing I still have more chances of succeding.

I swear that all what you're talking about I'm going through it . And eventually I found someone who understands me really truly. Thank you so much Lavendaire you are my role model and my life's teacher. I hope for you all the best and beautiful life

Pls share the journaling series here on youtube too!! U have a wider audience here on yt

the best part u said was when u said that some ppl get motivated with positive affirmations , others not> they just want u t be harder with them. and that's truly true!

Can you do both business videos? I think the business mistakes first. That’d help me so much!

OMG i could listen to you forever!! It's so therapeutic, thank you so much for sharing this lessons actually helps me to stop and think and reorganize aspects of my life. Its like talking to a friend!! Thank you so much for you amazing work (sorry for the bad english)

Usually I would never write a comment but this video just gave me so much energy(back). Lately I`ve been stuck in this discomfort-situation, questioning myself if the next step is the right one and if I could manage. But your video told me to try, to worry less because there is always another day to come,to try again. So thank you. Know that there are people around the world who feel hugged by your words.

I’m in the love with this. I’ve never heard these lessons before and they are genius💖. Love you 😘

I started homeschooling my son this year after seeing no progress in the public school system. I can't tell you the boost of confidence it has given us both! He's learning! I'm learning! It's amazing!!! Doing new things every day! If we fall---we get back up again!! :)

I've been having a hard time with a little bit of your advice lately (all of which has been well-intentioned for sure, just stuff I don't personally agree with), but I've gotta say... I'm really glad I watched this video. It's very well thought-out and you're really taking your time to explain each one. You really got me when you said "Treat people the way THEY want to be treated." This is SUCH thoughtful, empathetic advice that I really appreciated hearing. I suppose it's natural I wouldn't agree with absolutely everything someone says, so I'm really happy I stuck around for this one. I think I'm probably here to stay.

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. - African Proverb ... this lesson spoke to me! Love your videos, as always xx

I like the series very much, wish more, it gives me much energy

Aileen..as I watched this I had a full blown insight into my life struggle at the moment..Thank you for this. As you spoke about comfort zone I reflected on a work scenario..Iv been sent to participate in an event for staff ..I'm quite new and honestly it's been really unsteady with staff leaving etc..a lot of unpredictability. I realized just now that the reason I'm really sad and anxious about going..is becos of so many painful experiences from my childhood..teen..young adult..of moving so much without proper notice or goodbyes..I remember just experiencing that there was no room for me to feel 'sad' or for my emotions..so I'm bawling now..maybe I can release this and be able to decide whether I want to go or not rather than 'run away' from these situations without knowing why!!. You are spot on about getting the information..which then gives you the confidence to make your final action to the desired 'thing'. For me I feel it gives me a grip on the climb..until I am finally able to take bigger actions..so breaking it all down. Wow..Thank you for this profound and simple reminder. Much love and peace..LIA

Thank you for made this video and share your knowledge ✨ 💕

These tips are exactly needed in my life right now especially the resilience one. I recently just failed a test- not a very big thing in many people's eyes. However, I was so unmotivated & unhappy with it, and it almost pushed me to burnout of my emotion. I want to go to my dream graduate school, and this test held me back mentally. Thank you for encourage me to refresh my mood and keep working on. Also, definitely the business advice!! As a business major, I am dying to know the tips before I go to the workplace.

You really love Willson, always mentioning him like he is the only person in your life. Thats nice

No, I dont think your videos are long. Resilience is my fav. Still breathing still have the opportunity to try again. I need to remember this more often instead of getting sad about "failures". Thank yooouu!! 😀

Aileen is my favourite motivator. Whenever I'm down and need motivation, lavendaire is my go-to channel. Thank you❤️

I love these lessons! And would love to hear more about lessons in life. My favorite is, seek first to understand. We all go through different difficulties and troubles in life that no one knows we face. Thank you for this. 💕

I totally agree with lots of what you said especially "Confidence comes from knowing" and the African proverb. I love this kind of videos. Looking forward to watching these more! I don't think the video is too long. For this kind of videos, it is the right length, not too long and not too short. By the way, I love your look in this video very much. The necklace matches the top very much!

"Pursue a life you're proud of" and "As long as I'm still breathing, there's time to make things better", two lessons I will be especially carrying with me. I think either a video on mistakes you've made in business or lessons you've learned about business sounds great.

Loved this video, please share us more about what u learned from having a business❤️❤️🌸

This was so beautifully explained thank u today I learned something ❤

Turkish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributor listed in the description 💕

I love it to listen to you I’m walking and just put my AirPods on and listen to your voice it’s so chilling and I’m learning new things because I’m listening to you! I found u on tik tok and I loved your tiktoks already so much the positivity u spread out to the world is so amazing! I really appreciate you like for real I love the long videos and thank you so much for your efforts! Thank you so much for teaching me things like a older sister I will never have !!💕💕

Live the life you are proud of, was right on point for me because I often get lost in doing things that makes me feel happy which usually are lazy stuff like watching Tv and surfing web and social media but I discovered that they have me fake happy feelings and afterwards I feel stressed and sad. So doing things that are outside of comfort zone are harder but gives u a good feeling that lasts longer

Closing the gap btwn knowing and doing... Your explanation of that is literally the best way I've ever heard someone explain how I deal with my anxiety that comes from having PTSD!! When I get cornered by ppl who don't understand why I do things how I do, I am so playing that part of this video for them. Thank you!!!

Thank you for the inspiration. Encouraging. Helpful. Make me feel like going for it! ありがとう、アイリーン🎵

The last one! I would love if you could share with us about the biggest fears you overcame when you just started your business.

It’s incredible how everything you mentioned is related to me and is important for me to hear and accept. I love your videos and I feel happy and in peace watching them 😇😇

When ever i see u ...i feel so calm ..and motivated by ur videos....thank u for ur videos

thank you so much for sharing your recent life lessons! I love your long self-reflection/life talks, so please keep it up.

be unapologetically yourself. what makes others happy won't make you happy as well. you need to experiment, put yourself out there and figure out yourself. the human personality is so complex and you can spend an entire lifetime trying to understand it. wear whatever you think is cool, not what others set as trendy. speak what's on your mind, do what you've been holding back. be authentic, that's what will truly attract people to you and that's what will make you gain confidence later.

To anyone watching, please, watch until the end. I really opened this video like "oh, ok". But I was so down today, wanting to give up everything in my work field and exercising,... But now I feel like "I can try again in another way, I can keep going foward if I don't give up! I can win this!". Thank you so much, Aileen 💜.

Still trying to be better at teamwork. It really is true that if you build a good team you can go far! I'll find mine someday🌟

My favorite was the first one because we usually try to pursue a life we are happy with but you are totally right, we can get comfy and lazy. Adding the proud aspect kind of forces me to get out of my comfort zone.

This is really helps me :) lately i'm being so down and stressed out about my college and organization teamwork. People always get me wrong whatever I'm doing somethings. But now I finally realize that every people is different and I just can change my action to take care of them. Thank u so much 😊

I needed this video desperately , all this while i thought i was happy n well contended in life but all in vain i wasnt. What i found out was my friend. why i wasnt happy was because she kept telling n saying things i dont want to hear n whenever she spoke her voice angered me idk why. Im not being mean. I'm just trying to understand people better n communicate with people better. Your videos are a bliss to watch n now i understand how i have been behaving with her , how her behaviour is reflecting toward me. The same way i treated her. Also words hurt sometimes , we should choose what we speak correctly. Mindset is quiet important. What we think reflects. Great video aileen. Love ya

Thank you for uploading this video. What are you talking, it's the same what i feel. Because your video, you convinced me, that what i did was wrong and i know how to fix it. Being grateful, i watched your video. Its very motivated.

This is a great video. You are providing what a lot of young students are seeking from their philosophy and psychology classes and teachers, but their teachers are not providing. Your lessons come from experience, and they have to be thought about, discussed, and tried out to make them true to life. I respect you very much.

The videos I like the most are the ones that focus on one big lesson, rather than a bunch of lessons. I think it's because I can focus better if the topic is one clear thing :)

I love this! Not too long I would love if you showed these. I would love to hear business lessons too

I love how this video comes out the day I learn about the Csíkszentmihályi's flow theory in my Play Developmental Processes class, and my Community Youth Development class. The points you mentioned in your video are some that we discussed in class

Thanks great video!! I’m a doctoral student in Japanese I will have a big presentation about my research next January. I already feel scarily... because I have a panic disorder. It’s really serious disease. But I want to challenge because I’m scared! The only way to get out of comfort zone to go to next stage of my life. I support you!

Aileen, you always leave me awestruck!!! More power to you girl! I am loving the series so much!❤️🌺

Everyone needs to hear this!

Yay! Can’t wait honestly Your confidence and how you embrace your love to yourself and others is very contagious, thank you💜

Thank you so much for this video, just from the very beginning you inspired me. Am proud to see you grow, and to share it whit us.

hi dear, you have actually helped me a lot through your videos in past 5 months and i am extremely grateful for it

Love this video! Your videos inspired me ❤️ I left my job 2 months ago, I want to go outside my comfort zone, I want to work in other field, but it seems so hard because I was an engineer and my knowledge does not allow me to enter other field easy. Still in the journey on discovering myself, thank you Aileen, you're my motivation!

Cant wait for the journaling series!! And the video was long but worth watching😘😘👏👏👍👍😊

Confidence comes from knowing! Love this ❤

Absolutely helpful. Thanks for sharing.

Like your lessons you've learned rather than failures. And especially n. 4 was really useful. I know 5 languages but this was something level up. Thank you really spot on

The opinions you shared on being resilient is really inspirational . I should really absorb it into my whole being and it should become the part of me . Thanks Lavendaire sister for this :))

Honestly😍,I really like the vocab that she uses in her speeches.💜

It’s so crazy how your videos always come at the PERFECT time when i need the advice you give the MOST❤️ Almost as if the universe is sending help through your wisdom! Thank you SO much for this video🌸

I thing it's better to continue with the lessons you've learn for business, and then talk about the mistakes! The part where you compare you and your boyfriend and the examples you gave was very helpful for me. We all are different, but sometimes it's difficult to accept it to your closer ones. Thank you for this video! 🌹

I don’t know how old you are, but you look a lot younger than me (!😀). I am amazed that someone so young can be so incredibly wise. I love your videos and your insights. Please keep posting!! ❤️

These tips are gold!✨ I love how much you invest in yourself and others around you. Thanks Aileen!❤️

This video came at the right time for me. It is so easy to be happy in one's comfort zone that we automatically shut ourselves down from many life experiences that can help us grow and evolve. Love you Aileen.

A good life lesson is worth the time for me.

I prefer to hear about lessons instead of mistakes. It is more encouraging :)

OMG I’m so early!! Just got back from work so perfect timing❤️ I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS and I was watching them even before work lol. And I’m a small KZfaqr. You inspire me. :)

Wondeful video! Really needed this in life right now. Don't know if you already have a video about relationship but that would be nice. I struggle to keep friendships true and genuine. I think it's my fear of being rejected that's the problem.

I love seeing you grow personally!

You explained the concept of knowledge gap so well and you are able to put the thoughts related to each of the topics so clearly. It is a rare and unique quality. I needed help in that area and glad that I saw your video. I also liked the topic of happiness and I was unclear on whether one should move outside comfort zone and still be happy or keep doings things within the comfort zone. You nailed it. It brought a lot of clarity and I am sure many other users also would agree. Thanks so much. Please keep sharing your life lessons. They are very helpful.

Thank you for sharing!! You’re such an inspiration. I’ve been going through a quarter life bump now that I’ve achieved my 6 year plan and feeling kind of lost. Your video gave me more perspective and courage to pursue a new job opportunity in a new country!

Thank you so much Aileen. I love listening to you❤ love how you articulate your content so well. Keep up :)

I'm just at min. 4:40 and I can confidently say that you really are making the big changes in my mindset to pursue my dream life. I'm serious after all this time that I follow you you're still giving me such an inspo I'll never ever thank you enough!! ☺️💙💕🌱

I don't speak english very well so I am not able to write a large esay yet. I only want to tell that I started watching your videos because I like your content and this is useful to learn English too. This video is perfect, it isn't too long, nor confusing. I like to watch more videos like this =D

Love this at all!!! Thank you for sharing experiences. I like the video so much!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry but the aesthetics in the beginning especially how they match the dress is beautiful! You're so inspirational, excited for your launch girl! Inspiring me to do youtube :)

I love your persona and videos and would honestly love to see both, mistakes that you've learned and business tips as well. The more knowledge the better :)

Loved this ♥️ please share more about your lessons in business

Understanding OTHERS love language and not your own was really profound to me. Thank you. 💜💕

I discovered your channel recently and am happy to be here, love from Africa sis

❤❤ I love your advise. please do a vid on how to cultivate boundaries. Would ya do a plant tour vid? Much love xo

Thank you so much for sharing. Your videos mean a lot to me. I would love to hear from you how to take life lightly, how to be lighthearted, how to take life less seriously.

I have said it before and I'll say it again I love your videos they have really helped me a lot, thankyou😊

Video came at just the right moment. The upcoming project is truly something important to me,so that it scares me 😢

Resilience is the best lesson...Make more videos like this Aileen! I loved it!! 😊

You are an inspiration, Aileen. Love you!

Thank you for this video Aileen, sometimes in life we need this reminder to remind us everything is going to be okay. Don't give up..love your video as always.

I think that both mistakes and lessons learned are good, so you could make videos with "Learning through mistakes that I've made", so you combine the two things ^^

Everything you've been posting is so timely. The universe is speaking to me through you. Thank you Aileen 💖💜💖💜