LEARNING TO SAY NO: The Importance of Setting Boundaries In Relationships

LEARNING TO SAY NO: The Importance of Setting Boundaries In Relationships | Wu Wei Wisdom

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Learn how to say no and set healthy boundaries in your relationships. 👉 WORK WITH DAVID: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies...
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Learn why being OK with saying ‘no’ and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships is important.
You’ll discover the deep-rooted reason you may struggle with setting boundaries and how your inner child is involved in this.
We also offer practical advice on how to get comfortable with saying no, and speaking your truth in your relationship.
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@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

VIDEOS TO WATCH NEXT! 👉👉 ▶ How to Stand Up for Yourself and Speak Your Truth kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hLt-aMRlu7OVaKc.html ▶ How to Create Healthy Boundaries kzfaq.info/get/bejne/qNd5idV80KeVdGg.html ▶ Are You a People Peaser? Here’s the Solution kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mdB0jLOqubG1ops.html ▶ Our LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS PLAYLIST kzfaq.info/sun/PL9NQ_PWX4zID3yxrdCbbZFuKHCwgV6qhX ~~~ ❓ Did you enjoy this video? Post your comments and questions below - we'd LOVE to hear from you! 🌱 Want to work one-to-one with David? ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ 🌱 Join our private Facebook Community Support Group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ 🌱 Sign up to receive a RELAXING GUIDED MEDITATION GIFT, plus our weekly newsletter + offers via email ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/signup/

@amberm5626 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly the video I needed to see! Thank you so much! My therapist told me I needed to start thinking for myself after telling her of my emeshed family. I nearly got physically sick after setting a boundary with my mother just this year. I am 52 years old. I have had a lifetime of failed relationships being a fixer involved with nothing but addicts and abusers. I am so grateful for your videos. They are bringing me so much relief and I no longer feel like I'm crazy! THANK YOU!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Amber, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@petersantospago1966 Жыл бұрын

I was just led you your inner child smile meditation...I was having a very anxious self-defeating and self-fighting morning..I had no peace...I was overwhelmed with thinking about everything. I was getting angry and frustrated! Then you popped up...I decided to give it a go... Usually I wouldn't but something attracted me to you... Your voice and pleasantness I think... So I just finished and in so relaxed... Not anxious... Not overwhelmed... It's awesome! A few times during the meditation I was really free mentally and emotionally and so deeply relaxed that I was unaware of where I was... What an amazing thing our minds are when we're able to get some control over them. Anyway... Many thanks and I think I'll make a daily practice of it. I feel so energized and empowered👍

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Peter, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@mapleleaf902 Жыл бұрын

This is encouraging. I have learned by saying no and setting boundaries that I do not have to carry the guilt and obligation when it doesn't feel right for me. Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Maple, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@madamcjwalker67 Жыл бұрын

I've been listening to this conversation for 5 minutes and so far I agree with the woman. The man reminds me of my Dad who is a man who believes he's always right and everyone else is lost. lol.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Madam, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. I'm pleased you agree with part of the video. Kind regards, David.

@nickiharris1331 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately some people dont accept no, and then it leads to abuse! It's hard when you've made a very clear boundary and people push against it. I really hope you make a video about this soon. I have found all I can do to defend my boundary after repeating and repeatedly saying no, is to go within, leaving me shut off from the world. Hiding and going underground does not even stop some people. They still keep trying for a yes. I wish people respected a clear no. Xx 🙏 xX

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Nicki, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support and your future video suggestion. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@nickiharris1331 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your reply David, I am a member of your fb group. I would often join in conversations and you and Alex are amazing teachers. Unfortunately I can't comment on there anymore, as I am being stalked. Hence why I made the suggestion. Not sure I am safe writing on here, but I've become so isolated. Xx 🙏 xX

@NickBurgess Жыл бұрын

Maybe you should stop listening to the wrong people........and be honest with those that you have left behind.......and using the word stalker is so wrong......

@aaronglide Жыл бұрын

Greetings to you, David, Alex, & all. I hope all is well. I could have mistaken your comment for mine! Considering the sheer accuracy, of what you have described, being a very familiar struggle, that I have experienced. I also have been socially withdrawn, however, significantly due to mental health difficulties, over the past few years, also. I truly empathise. Blessings & Love 🙌🏽 💫

@nickiharris1331 Жыл бұрын

@@aaronglide sorry you're going through it too. I don't think they see the damage they cause with their persistence. Stay strong. 🙏

@fingerprint5511 3 ай бұрын

Thanks to your FB group, someone kind shared this video, I'm here to hear this lesson that I really, really need! The timing! Thank you :)

@WuWeiWisdom 3 ай бұрын

Hi @fingerprint5511, It's wonderful to hear that our Facebook group connected you with the guidance you needed right when you needed it! We're so glad the timing was perfect :-) Thank you for being part of our community and for embracing the lessons that support your journey. Remember, we're all here to support each other in navigating life's paths and resolving issues together. :) Kind Regards, David

@user-co5dy6hl4d 10 ай бұрын

You are so inspirational. Your constant reiteration of one’s value in this world. That you are unique. Be sensitive in saying your truth, in refusing to be a victim to others definition you. This is your life, your journey. You own it. Don’t allow others to take that away from you. And when and Alex have a conversation. She expresses our beliefs, fears of rejection. She speaks out and asks the questions we are struggling to understand. As always, thank you. 😊

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

@deeagirdici-maher2483 Жыл бұрын

At last it makes sense!!! I was totally missing the fact that I was creating the fear around making the change, so when I felt the fear my default was subconsciously saying don't do that. Now I get it. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Dee, Thanks for your comments and support. Kind regards, David.

@Lichfeldian--Suttonian Жыл бұрын

Thanks again, David and Alex. Own my truth and don't be afraid to sensitively speak my truth. I don't meet with the best of reception, but I still speak it calmy. Everything is as I believed it. ❤ Never mind me, it those others that sometimes go round and round the Wrekin! 😂

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lichfeldian, Kind regards, David.

@nilminiliyanaarachchige901 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for Both of you. That is Greatest teaching for me. 🙏💜🙏

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Nilmoni, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@user-ix4qg8ul9r Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this videos David & Alex. You are both Gold. ❤

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@simadehvari3464 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the reminding us our true being❤🙏💫

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@song4mozart Жыл бұрын

When I say no and/or speak my truth, the people who aren't meant to be in my life get upset. They try to turn it on me. I walk away from anybody who has repeatedly demonstrated toxic behavior and refuses to admit to it or refuses to stop the behavior. I can't change anybody, but I can walk away from it. That doesn't mean I don't love them or care about them, but I value my truth more because God first loved me.

@bugsea54 Жыл бұрын

I do the same thing, but last month it was my campsite, so I kicked my friend off by telling her to pack her shit. I thought about leaving when she started twisting things around, then I said no, it's my campsite. Pack it up. I purposely got my own campsite so I wouldn't have to deal with her, and she manipulated the whole 2 days. I had been trying to talk to her about things for a year, and every time we hang out with friends, she manipulates the whole event, no talking to her, she just denies it everything. So I resorted to just putting up boundaries, I won't go here with her, no, no, constantly telling her no, which is exhausting , a 60 year old acting like a child. I decided that the weekend was enough, kicked her off my campsite, and blocked her phone number and Facebook. Some people have no respect for you and do not care how you feel. It's hard to accept, but I've accepted it.

@ewalichorowicz4614 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this conversation. David, I really like how you explain about setting boundaries. 😊

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Many thanks Ewa, Kind regards, David.

@bookwarmtee7750 Жыл бұрын

This is so good! I had to learn to say no for the sake of my own well-being. There are still moments where I don't say no when I should. I am learning each day that I owe myself loyalty. I should be my first concern. I can not give when I am depleted. Thank you for this message!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@catherinefriederich Жыл бұрын

Love this David! Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@nicolelouiselucas3996 Жыл бұрын

Thank you I got alot from this ❤

@gartenbaum8609 Жыл бұрын

Thank you !!❤

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@floricadunca6909 Жыл бұрын

Thank you ,excellent explanation 🙏✌️🌹❤️🌈

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@345quebec Жыл бұрын

I so love your videos full of wonderful wisdom - thank you 🙏

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Tamara, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@katetarran9767 Жыл бұрын

Many thanks 🙏

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@trudesquires1089 Жыл бұрын

Wow! ❤

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@theauthorityonzero Жыл бұрын

Hi David and Alex, I was wondering if you can elaborate on people that have aggressive thoughts?

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello TAOZ, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. It could be their Inner Child trying to control. I would need more and detailed information. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@theauthorityonzero Жыл бұрын

@Wu Wei Wisdom it was no trouble. I owe you a debt of gratitude. I came across your videos, and they have done wonders for me. You have taught me so much, and a big part of my anxiety disappearing is due to your help. Thank you. As my channel grows, I would love to have you 2 on as guests and ask some questions for personalities like myself.

@a.ii.6107 Жыл бұрын

This is my worst character defect ever! I’m a ppl pleaser and just can’t say No to ppl.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello A.II., Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@emeraldlotusbylori4988 Жыл бұрын

Your insights are on point, however, I am a bit concerned about new gurus popping up who lack empathy for those dealing with mental and emotional health issues. It’s not as simple as do this and you are better. There are times when one may need to seek professional help. Spiritual narcissism is on the rise.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@NickBurgess Жыл бұрын

Saying no is fine, and should be respected.......but surely a no needs explanation? Accusations against the person who has been told no, can lead to confusion and the feeling of great loss when again, the person saying no does not have the heart to explain why. This leads to unfair, and sometimes slanderous words being used against those who have been told no. For the example of love......if the person who has been told no is completely in love with the one whos saying it, and is only trying to show what the other person means to them.......can that be classed as a stalker........no, its just some people can be colder with their feelings than others.

@nickiharris1331 Жыл бұрын

More records for the police! Leave me alone. No means No.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

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@NickBurgess Жыл бұрын

@@nickiharris1331 I miss you to this day xxx