I love your message about toxic behavior in general. Political or non-political, it’s something to really consider these days. Keep up the great content!!

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Been following you for a few months. Inspired by your bravery, impressed by your intelligence and awed by your empathy. I wish you good fortune in the battles to come. And I'm sharing the fuck out of this.

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Thank you for this amazing content!!!! You're the only one in your lane lady keep it up!!!!

I dismissed the whole thing, like a lot of people I know, because we figured it was a passing fad. It wasn't until I was sitting across from a girl in a college class who was a true believer. Over the course of the semester she systematically creeped me out on so many levels. I'm an older guy who worked half a lifetime in construction, I don't scare easy. But picturing this person in a position of power was terrifying.

@@rustyspigot1876 I have a couple family members I love and trusted who have changed dramatically since the 2016 election when progressive extremism started to show its ugly side. It's disturbing to think of them in this context, but I also see some things Arielle was talking about in them. It hurts. It scares me. And it makes me so very sad.

@@daetshadowbright3262 You're having a sane reaction to an insane dynamic. Do not let anyone bully you into self-doubt or despair. Arm yourself with knowledge, eat right, exercise and foster new relationships wherever possible. The people you love are still there, going through their own existential crisis, it is not your job to talk them into or out of anything. Your job is to stay strong for yourself, to weather the storm and work for the better tomorrow that is YOUR vision. I know that's easy to say, but even if it feels like it you are not alone. I may never see my niece again because her mother heard me say that a real feminist might have issues inviting biological males into girl's bathrooms and battered women's shelters. Her intellectual retort was that I'm a toxic white male. I barely caught myself from letting it go any further. Their arguments are built on sand and they know it, that's why they're so reactionary and paranoid. Do not indulge their lunacy. If you've got no one else to talk to feel free to bug me whenever. Otherwise, there is still joy to be found in this world, so go find it!

I know,right?

@Carry Peach I don't think I can agree with your assessment. Like anything and everything in our world, the internet has good things and bad things about it. But saying that it is solely responsible for misogyny feels wildly inaccurate to me. Misogyny existed long before the internet did and I feel that awareness of that has vastly improved in the internet era. I'm not entirely sure what you mean by pornsickness, or the me/me interaction, and would love it if you can clarify. As to the void of intimacy, as someone who essentially grew up online, I can say beyond shadow of a doubt that I have had a lot of meaningful relationships that have been exclusively online, and some led me to travel to places that I never thought that I would, specifically to meet the incredible people I met online, and was how my husband and I connected. It's true that there are toxic environments online, and that the internet has its part to play, but it is a resource with no more fault than a library. The issue, as I see it, is that people have surrendered the ability to exercise critical thinking and have taken things that should be questioned as absolute and unquestionable. It's easier to take things at face value instead of asking why, and asking why can be uncomfortable when you're treated like an idiot by a person who believes they know better. This is all, of course, from my perspective and experience, and I mean no offence in my disagreement, so I hope that you'll clarify those two points to me so we can continue the discussion!

@None ofyobizness and then people accuse you of being as bad as they are lol. Last time I checked you didn't scream and yell at people for wrongthink.

@None ofyobizness I feel that, I may not understand a lot about things that I'm not but I don't mind learning differences of others I never would say someone was wrong for just being themselves I'm not sure what I am but I'm a registered republican only because the left is nuts and I'd vote independent if I knew one could win as president.

OMG SAME! Wow, you are a good person and an even better friend. Those ppl are so lucky and probably don't even realize it. Hope you and yours had a Happy Easter (if you celebrate).

@None ofyobizness I would say fascism is honest socialism

@@darrenayles5905 I'm a part of the problem. I need to change...this Easter is a good start. How we "fight" needs to change. I hope its a good one where you are too (I celebrate.)

Yeah it’s definitely not true that LGBT people are completely liberal. I’m a conservative Christian lesbian and my wife didn’t care much for politics but thought conservatives were racist, homophobic etc just because that’s what she’s always heard. Until she married one lol.

@@boozoochamp Agreed! A lot of us lgbt are not liberals and never have been. It cracks me up when I bump into other lesbians that act completely shocked when they find out I'm not a democrat like they automatically assumed. And they learn to avoid talking politics around me because I let them know how I disagree with their ignorant logic. I've had a few of them de-friend me, but that's okay, I don't need to associate with people like that.

"Conservative lesbian".... I'll play a hunch that you're conventionally attractive. Not sure why. It just seems the way to bet.

@@deniveave4612 right! Fortunately because of my location I’m surrounded mostly by conservatives. However, I do get judged or assumptions made about me that I am anti- God and liberal just because I married a woman. Or they think I’m going to be flamingly flamboyantly gay and it’s solely because of the representation of gay people we have in the media and they all fit that stereotype of liberal, flamboyant, Christian bashing gay. Once people know my beliefs they never have a problem and are shocked and tell me how nice it was to meet someone “normal” who is gay. It’s sad really.

I may not be a lesbian, but I definitely shared this sentiment when looking at the gay community. There are people out there that share our values out there. I hope you find a lovely woman that'll cherish you for the wonderful person you are.

"Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing." - Robert E. Howard

It emboldens them every time they say something mean, offensive, and twisted without any consequences, on top of how many thump-ups they could get with those twisted comments.

To be fair, I've had these people say some nasty shit to my face, wanting me to punch them. They'll do anything to make you look bad. Luckily I was sober when they did this. If I had been drinking, it'd be over. For them.

But if you let words hurt you, they win Sticks and stones

Yep. Luxury = comfort + convenience.

STOP PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD, GOD!!!

@@dewilew2137 I'm not making excuses or justifying any actions on my behalf. All I've done is state that I've been abused myself. That's not playing the victim card.

@@dewilew2137 that was rude and uncalled for, he was not playing the victim, he lead with a life experience and stated an opinion that’s allowed!!!

@@dewilew2137 is it cuz he’s a guy? Ok, b. Stop playing the “only women get abused” card. Pathetic.

@@dewilew2137 Hi, my skull was almost cracked open by a leftist and I had to get 27 stitches. Stop gaslighting everyone.

Exactly! The way intersectional types avoid accountability personally reflects intersectional feminism's beliefs that feminism is responsible for tackling every injustice from racism to classism effectively spreading feminism so thin it can't be effective at anything.

Yep

I work with a narcissist , believe me it's no picnic.

No association with any nouns whatsoever

Welcome to sanity friend... it's always so good to see people leaving that craziness.

Yeah... I think it's an issue as well. The really f*cked up thing is the vast majority of people (I think) who espouse the notion that White, Hetero, Cis men are 'evil' are LITERALLY primarily White, Hetero, Did Men. The issue is that they are racked with 'White Guilt'. They desperately need someone (ideally a Black dude) to grab them by the shoulders, shake them and tell them 'You're not responsible for the transgressions of a distant relative that you never knew'! I remember seeing footage (presumably in Times Square). There were these Black Woman in chairs, and they were literally getting their feet washed by these White Men. If I was there, I would have confronted them all and try to convince them to stop. They don't realize the damage that they're doing. Young White kids see this and they start feeling that Society Views them as 'the enemy' and they are liable to either commit suicide or become radicalized. This is all a huge mess.

And... Here's the thing. There ARE lots of Black Entertainers that feel the exact same way as myself, but none of them will talk, for fear of being cancelled. Like I said... A giant mess.

Cancel culture is the standard discard and slander that cluster bs = abusers do after a break up with their victim.

Giving a shit about them.

@None ofyobizness Yeah, I think its because they see him as a gateway out of their orthodoxy, like the way they are with Arielle, the ones they demonize the most are the moderate ones that shine a bright light on just how insane they've become.

Yesssss!!!!

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He was at Evergreen when the college melted down a few years back

Benjamin is absolutely one of the best people on the platform.

Same. I remember reading a thing that said "if you want to know the measure of a group, see how they treat those who leave it" and (iirc) while it was talking about cults and religion, it very much applies here. I lost friends when I was bodily thrown out for questioning things, and, worse, when I pointed out what they were peddling was child abuse and "they didn't think so" so they were right (even though I was one of those children being abused and had been told it was a "good" thing because it lead to my "awakening" and I was "lucky" to experience it "so young" and… wow is it disturbing.)

@@Crisjola Very culty stuff

No, history will not show us because the insane left is winning and the winners write history. Future children will learn about what awful, racist, fascist, Nazis we are and how the Thought Police had to fix us or destroy us.

They'll all be unpersoned and all of their content sent down a memory hole.

@@sarsarsvintagejewelry I've recently been rereading 1984 and it's remarkable how analogous it is to our current cultural moment.

We are quite literally the French Resistance during WWII. We should start a network and get the word out.

@@sarsarsvintagejewelry Dear future historians, please note that we are the French Resistance and tried and passively resisted the Nazi’s destruction of society.

This is so true, and while the Sunk Cost Fallacy really never should apply to interpersonal relationships, for some reason, the way we humans do it, we make it apply to interpersonal relationships. I try very hard (it's helped that my mum and I have been stumbling toward figuring out who is and isn't toxic in our lives and going from extremes to less extreme as we weed through them) to give people time to either "give them enough rope to hang themselves" (turn of phrase, KZfaq) so I know that it's fully malicious, that they have no desire to change, or that they're so messed up that even trying to help will only drag me down with them. It's been one hell of a journey to go through but being booted bodily out of the RadicalKweer (yes I misspelled it on purpose ^_^) community for not conforming to their (very warped) thought policing of what was and wasn't good and what was and wasn't abuse (hint: only hets could commit abuse if you were anything other than natal-sex and het, you were scot-free) I found out really quickly what happens when a group with too much power over impressionable people can do and how those in charge can have it go to their heads.

It's hard to accept that you wasted time and effort but I also like to be grateful for these relationships because now I can see the problems whereas before I was blind to it. (If that makes sense)

@@Crisjola everythibg is subjected to the law of deminishing returns and eventually the law of negative returns, that's what happens when we humans have an excuse not to change and obtain some form of absolute power. A good book on this is the Vision of the Annointed by Thomas Sowell.

That gets easier with practice, and the more you know what it is

Dee you can't fix them. They chose their path. Maybe they need to do this for a while before they come back. A lot of people go toxic because they have issues with self hate and anger that they need to work through. The fact you did not go with them shows you don't need that lesson, which shows you are more emotionally advanced.

@Kristopher Chavez girl...it’s just a saying 😂

@Juicy Smooyay PERIODT

@Kristopher Chavez Maybe if you cry and whine harder about it on KZfaq, people will do what you want and stop using words. :)

@@islamisrightaboutwomen3440 yikes...you’re name...🤢

@@islamisrightaboutwomen3440 "some people deserve being abused" my man do you hear yourself?

LOL.... doing things right!!! I used to get pissed off about being in fb jail... Now I’m like bring it on bitches! 😂

Only two kinds of people are in Fakebook jail. I just got out. Ill put money on your books. Lol

Is one of those people a patriot because GUILTY 😎❤️🤍💙

I was ban-hammered on FB for sharing a funny meme mocking the current Vice President. Not kidding. Leaving FB and not getting on my army of Alts was the best thing I've ever done.

I lost two of my facebook accounts no fucking reason

I'm a heteroromantic asexual woman that is discussing having a child with my boyfriend once we get married and I'm terrified of what might happen to said child if they're ANYTHING like the two of us. Looking back at my childhood I was always non gender conforming and was a MASSIVE sci-fi nerd that that liked playing rough and tumble with the boys but luckily my mother was a techie that worked on computers and cars and my father's family runs towards artists despite his being a trucker so when people said "You shouldn't let her have the Thundercats big-wheel you should make her have the Barbie pink one" my parents told them ALL to leave me alone and let me like what I like because it's none of their business. Had I been born in the 2000's exactly as I was in the 80's I'm convinced some do-gooder teacher would have convinced me I was trans and not just a male minded female. I can see myself waking up as a teen and realizing that I LIKE being a female despite my hobbies and mindset and being deeply traumatized by the time spent being talked into identifying as trans. My BF isn't 100% straight and he's a very intelligent and artistic man that loves me for my mind more than anything else and he was bullied by family for not conforming strictly to their expectations despite not really doing anything straying that far from gender norms. His Latino side of the family was very intolerant of his creativity and intelligence. If our daughter is like me and loves computers, tools, nerd stuff, etc. or our son is an artist/writer like his father I can 100% see these delusional asshats calling us bigots for not forcing a child to make life altering decisions while they still believe in Santa and the Ester Bunny despite both of us going through the same things and coming out happy and whole despite people trying to get us to change to fit their ideals. This is why we are planning on home schooling as much as possible.

@@ShojoBakunyu Interesting. I too was a more "tomboy" type of girl. Artistic, always trying to achieve being different, taking shop class rather than cooking classes in highschool, getting along with boys more than girls cause girls were so dramatic! But never did I think I was anything but female. I'm now married with two kids and still know that I'm 100% straight but prefer stereotypical male dominated conversations about construction, building codes, and architecture, rather than more stereotypical female conversations like scrapbooking, other people's kids and fashion. But you're right, if I were to be raised today, I think the far left would confuse me into thinking I'm something I'm not.

@@ShojoBakunyu I know this is a rather old post for the interwebs. I was a kid in the 70s and a teen in the 80s. I'm ever so grateful that my mother let me be the tomboy I was. She was one too, but didn't get to express it like me. I'd be terrified to be a kid now and be confused into thinking I was trans. I often said I wanted to be a boy or even let people think so. It wasn't that I wanted to be a boy or felt like I was one somehow. I just like boys activities more and got tired of being told girls dont do that. I'm glad I am not a young person now.

@@ShojoBakunyu forgive me for being naive but you are an asexual who has sex ?

Serious Stockholm syndrome over there. They love their abusers.

@Barbatos , I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I can relate. Honestly, I would reeeally urge you to “move away from the left perspective” because that is a move away from lunacy and dishonesty; it has truly become a mind control cult. I’d also encourage you to tell your “friend” that you need some space, at the least. I had her twin as a “friend” a few years ago and I ended up writing her a letter thanking her for good stuff in the past but I told her that she and I had too little in common in the way we looked at things to be well suited to be friends. One of the best moves I ever made, and she and I stopped hanging out. What a relief! And zero regrets.

@@Featherfinder thanks for sharing your experience :) I would like to try and break it off and yeah I agree at this point the whole left view is like mind control. I have already moved away from that point of view since honestly because of her I couldn’t stand it. I hope you’re having a great day

Exactly that’s toxic behavior

😂 yes

I know i love her

Amy, I feel the exact same way. I watched Arielle as a teenager while I was coming into my sexuality, and now I’ve re-discovered her right as I was having my political revolution. It’s nice to have Arielle there for the confusing times. Keep up the good fight 👍🏻

@@emilee3151 right back at you!!

I have a question…..as an older cis female: When you say you are a conservative lesbian…..Are you a libertarian? Small government? Fiscally conservative? A lover of the status quo? Or do you label yourself “conservative” because you don’t embrace “WOKE” dogma? If that’s the case, then over 90% of Americans would be “conservative”, including myself. And yet, I’m politically and socially a liberal. I believe government can be a force for good in a society. I believe in acceptance of difference, but I’m against “offensesensitivity” and culture of victimhood. I’m sure most WOKE people would label me a bigot. So, am I now a “conservative” by default?

Liberals have homophobia too. They just hide it. I live in. Nyc. I have heard bigotry and homophobia from the left. Also let's face it this whole lgbtq is bs. Gay men and gay woman don't really like each other. Gay doesn't like bi and the Trans no one wants to date. It might be sad but this is the reality and it stands true today.

it is sad and ironic that the very people who claim are fighting for justice achived the opposite - already very acceptive majority is now fed up with LGBT community. I have to remind myself that there must be people from this community that are not crazy bullies who think they are the victims

We support you on the right. You get those surgeries, or whatever you are in need of, and I pray that it all goes perfectly for you!

Omg , I also have an Aunt who is gay but she’s very religious and would never say or do any of these things to me.

Life at the moment is not separated by politics or race anymore, even though these are an excuse to hate, but by good and evil. Good try to fix themselves, take responsibility and look after others. Evil is self hating and wants to destroy everything and everyone. I sometimes wonder if the world will split in two down the track as we move further apart.

@None ofyobizness totally agree the sentiment and idea of black lives matter is a great idea, but the organization is not promoting the message of what their name conveys. but thank you for the response. it's just crazy that how toxic people have become and have become more and more tribal in their beliefs; they're becoming indoctrinated and turned radicalized. i should know for one i was indoctrinated when i did ranger, so as a civilian now i'm just looking at these people like. yo, you're being radicalized to justify an anger state of mind to justify violence towards another by dehumanizing them.

@@fluffybunny3178 you should listen to Michael malice he talks about what you're conveying; a peaceful divorce. because clearly what's happening now seems like the beginning of a civil war and i know as a Serb, so when i hear stories from my relatives about the fall of Yugoslavia and the Baltic wars; this moment in US history just echos the same mechanics.

@@malaciczahkhav2480 I think the earth keeps repeating history because those that truly run the world profit off these wars. Whether it is selling and using guns or human trafficking of the displaced. America has more guns than people. Biden is just now ripping down the constitution and trying to get rid of guns. It wont work. The democrats will fall. The question is how bloody will it be considering the military are not on Bidens side.

Of course you can be racist and have a black partner. Sounds like you're very stupid. Your family is spot on

She knows zip about Stonewall .

Do the video. The more voices the better.

In 2014, I was considered the most liberal student in my politics class according to a political ideology scale. A few of my views have changed, but I mostly hold the same beliefs as I did then, and I'd definitely be considered moderate now. They have moved the bar to such an extreme that I just can't support it.

hardly .

Funny enough i used to be considered liberal to but despite none of my views changing i have somehow become a far right conservative 😂

Oh no treating minorities with respect must be hard for you to understand.

@@willcail How do you figure? Or are you being facetious?

Send a message to trade pics of girls in uniforms

@@travisnolan9068 just Google it

yeah right.

@@dewilew2137 ahem, funny enough sweetie, I am a nominally retiered skip tracer, the best man at my wedding is a retiered Green Beenie, one of the groomsmen is retiered EOD, and at one time the R5 director is a retiered red leg Viet Nam vet. You would be amazed at the number of retiered or active duty milatary and/or LEO that are happily part of fandom in general and Dragon Con in specific. Never make assumptions kiddo. It rarely ends well

Got called a crazy bitch by one yesterday and said “you too” 😂

@@milkandblue good job!